P — PREPARE
Politeness and etiquette shape identity and dignity.
PREPARE yourself to diligently PROPAGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for CONQUERING CONFUSION.
- Polite, acceptable behaviour in the general society is governed by rules and conventions: Etiquette.
- Real origin of the word ‘Etiquette’ is from Mid-18th century French, which literally means “ticket”.
- Every time you fall, pick up something, or kiss the ground; this turns a shameful action into positive.
- Perfect behaviour is born of complete sensitivity to those around; their customs and belief systems.
- Anyone can be heroic from time to time, but you have to be elegant all the time; which is not easy.
- Robust humour, concise clarity, alloyed to the brevity of wit, are the attributes of a well bred person.
- Empathy, sympathy, and courtesy are not dead in our African society; have merely been subdued.
R — REALISE
Respect customs; they are unwritten laws.
REALISE that PROPAGATING your innate ‘quest’ for CONQUERING CONFUSION is in your ‘power.’
- Respect customs, they are basically the unwritten laws, by which people keep even Rulers in awe.
- Enjoying good food, with good table manners, is to elevate yourself to the level of Kings or Queens.
- A well mannered person, worth all respect, even if he or she is alone, forms an orderly queue of one.
- Lovely friends and good manners will carry you where money and material possesions will never go.
- It is better to drop all your friends, than to drop all your MANNERS, the dishonour is hard to reverse.
- Seek to combine the manners of your traditional community with the morals of your religious group.
- Excuse yourself anytime you have a disturbance with: “And now excuse me while I interrupt myself.”
E — EMPOWER
Manners elevate your social power.
EMPOWER yourself to PROPAGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for CONQUERING CONFUSION.
- Exaggerations, are the reserves of the weakling; simply say what ought to, and do what you should.
- Manners are the need of all; even if you think you are so pretty, you cannot get away with anything.
- People are rarely assertive and sometimes nervous; do not wait to speak out until you are spoken to.
- Only uneducated people show off their knowledge; in the course of conversation quote authors less.
- When decorating your table for the purposes of a luncheon or a party, never have high flower vases.
- Essentially avoid other things or objects that obstruct the view of the beautiful lady across the table.
- Reduce them so as not to prevent the witticism of the man, who is your opposite, reaching you.
M — MEDIATE
Balance behavior with wisdom.
MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to PROPAGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of CONQUERING CONFUSION.
- Men must avoid offering a lady their gloved hand, although women are always allowed to do so.
- Every time a lady approaches, whom one wishes to shake hands, simply remove right-hand glove.
- Do not keep her waiting as you remove the glove, shake hands, offer a simple word of apology.
- If asked by your host or hostess (at a party) whether you are enjoying, just reply: “Certainly I am.”
- At a dinner party one should essentially eat wisely but not too well, and talk well but not too wisely.
- Teeth must be cleaned frequently, especially after meals, and it must never be done at the table.
- Even if your slogan is: “My dress my choice,” do not wear in a way that provokes others emotions.
I — INDULGE
Express identity consciously.
INDULGE yourself in PROPAGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards CONQUERING CONFUSION.
- It is WRONG to do what everyone else does; being well bled does not mean being an empty shell.
- Never water down your identity; your body shape should dictate what you wear; be your own self.
- Do not allow yourself to be on the “judgement parlour” of others as you wear in an undoing manner.
- Usual ‘dress code’ of your society, should compel you to ask yourself “what am I communicating?”
- Let not the eyes of people be always on you as you walk on the streets; it is uncomfortable to you.
- Good breeding lies in concealing how much we think of ourselves and how little we think of others.
- Environmental considerations should dictate how you wear, what you eat, how you express yourself.
U — UTILISE
Leverage culture wisely.
UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for PROPAGATING the ‘compulsion’ of CONQUERING CONFUSION.
- Understanding that culture is dynamic, means knowing what to socially emulate and what to discard.
- Treatment in an office or any other social setting is a function of how you will have treated yourself.
- Intent on forcing others to believe things, is not a nice way to behave, even if you are a philosopher.
- Lord of Lords has set you two great objects, the suppression of folly and the reformation of manners.
- It is always a good idea to be on the polite and amiable side; politeness and amiability breed wealth.
- Stop getting tied up in the procedure and thinking up reasons why you should be kind and lovely.
- Entirely, we are born charming and fresh, but we must be civilised before we are fit to be in society.
M — MONITOR
Refine behavior continuously.
MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to PROPAGATE CONQUERING CONFUSION.
- Must walk as you glitter, be human when you talk, and flutter pulses when you say: ‘Good-Morning.’
- On no occasion should a man wear much jewellery; perhaps one ring, a slender watch, and a tie pin.
- Never learn by being hypocritical; you do not need to pretend to be polite so as to eventually be.
- In all phases of historical evolution, outworn MORALS are as malignant as worn-out IDEOLOGIES.
- To correct your wayward ways of behaving, is not to imply that you not quite a lady or a gentleman.
- Of Courtesy, it is much more than Courage of Heart or Holiness; the Grace of God lies in Courtesy.
- Responsive morals are valuable only as they help to change society; to make the system work well.