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This is the GREATEST MOMENT in the HISTORY of AFRICA to be ALIVE

BEYONDISM — Africa of Today & Tomorrow

AFRICA OF TODAY AND TOMORROW does not require a REVOLUTION in the traditional (political) sense of the term, but simply AWAKENING. Towards this end, where do we source our raw materials? Does our African academic Arsenal have enough intellectual Weapons to come to our aid?

It becomes evident that our ancient dependence on European or American thought is lessening, that we are beginning to do our own work in philosophy, psychology, literature and science, and in our own way. Merely beginning, of course: for we are still young, and we have not yet learned to walk entirely without the assistance of our colonial masters, or other foreign powers. We may find it hard to surpass ourselves, and are sometimes discouraged with our own superficiality, our provincialism, our narrowness and our bigotry, our immature intolerance and our timid violence against innovation and experiment.

However, let us remember that England needed eight hundred years between her foundation and her Shakespeare (1564–1616). Let us also comprehend that France needed eight hundred years between her foundation and her Montaigne (1533–92). We take the late fifties and early sixties as the factual foundation for most of African countries. With BEYONDISM taking the bull of RETROGRESSION by its horns, what was achieved in Europe in more than eight centuries, we intend to astronomically accomplish in a short span of less than one DECADE!

Wherever you find us quoting non-AFRICAN writers, thinkers and personality examples (in business and in real LIFE), this is not being unpatriotic, or assuming that nothing good can be reaped from African academic fields. This is first borne of the most insightful comment by political scientists: Development is Teleological (follows a certain progressive path). This means that the more developed countries gives us the image of our future.

Concerned as we are about intellectual aridness ailing some of our purported scholars, the second reason is a result of the meager information and research data in our African Universities — an apparently difficult, but very possible task (of reversing this situation) which BEYONDISM seeks to undertake in the near future.

BEYONDISM attempts to mitigate the malady of our TIMES in the name of abstract academism; the solemn reduplication of accepted masters. We must abandon that sweet sense of accomplishment which comes from parading habitual skills. We should address ourselves to problems sufficiently unclarified, as to make discovery possible. Our formidable focus is not simply to unravel the paradox of human nature, but also to match — or even surpass — the efforts and achievements of the former intellectual Titans.

Seeking the companion of Sages and Geniuses

No soon than later, BEYONDISM will have done its assignment of exposing you to important writers, poets, philosophers, psychologists, historians, researchers and other scholars. If you wish to be a Blessed Beyondist (BB) — The Anointed One (TAO) — worth the salt, go further and look for their complete, original works.

In the aridness, narrowness and parochialism which LIFE may tend to constrict you, a sincere strive to affirmatively achieve SELF-ACTUALIZATION should drive you in the direction of making friends of these past and present geniuses. For a few coins you can buy their counsel and listen familiarly to their speech and by learning from them, mould yourself in the clear air which runs about them. Opening yourself to the slow influence of books, is what American historian and philosopher Will Durant (1885–1981) likened to “a flowing water curving out a canyon”.

In the companion of these sages and heroes, watching a sunrise with Epicurus, sitting at the breakfast table with Byron, walking barefooted in your garden with Tennyson, being accompanied on a journey by Adler, lying on a coach together with Sartre, enjoying a sunset with Emmerson or serenely waiting for your supper with Toynbee, you will not escape being lifted up a notch or two by their refreshing enrichment, to a higher level of ‘REALIZATION’.

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Sorrowful Soaps

R#52. On feeling LACKING in something if you miss your favourite Soap Opera.

BQ#3. What density of DISCERN is necessary for LOATHING LACK, as a function of apparently avoiding SORROWFUL SOAPS?--->

“Movies are an inherently stupid art form that often relies on scams, tricks, stunts, gambits, ploys, ruses, or gags that are logically or physically impossible, and often both.”
- U.S. journalist and writer, Joe Queenan

“The cinema, like the detective story, makes it possible to experience without danger all the excitement, passion and desirousness which must be suppressed in a humanitarian ordering of society.”
- Attributed to Carl Gustav Jung (1875 - 1961)

“Laughter is nothing else but sudden glory arising from some sudden conception of some eminency in ourselves, by comparison with the infirmity of others, or with our own formerly.”
- English philosopher and political thinker Thomas Hobbes (1588 - 1679)

“Each day a few more lies eat into the seed with which we are born, little institutional lies from the print of newspapers, the shock waves of television, and the sentimental cheats of the movie screen.”
- U.S. novelist and journalist, Norman Mailer (1923 - 2007)

“Television is an invention that permits you to be entertained in your living room by people you wouldn’t have in your home.”
- British television personality David Frost (1939 - )

“The goal of all art is...to explain to people the reason for their appearance on this planet; or, if not to explain, at least to pose the question.”
- Russian filmmaker, Andrey Tarkovsky (1932 - 1986)
--->

A SOAP OPERA IS A SERIALISED DRAMA which runs for 52 weeks of the year with continuous storylines dealing with domestic themes, personal or family relationships and a limited running characters. Soap operas or serials are open-ended. They are one of the few genres where weddings, for instance, are not a happy ending but the beginning of a marriage that may be troubled or even doomed to failure. Television soap operas are long-running serials concerned with everyday life. The serial is not to be confused with the series, in which the main characters and format remain the same from program to program but each episode is a self-contained plot. In a serial at least one storyline is carried over from one episode to the next. A series is advertised as having a specific number of episodes, but serials are potentially endless. The term “soap opera” was first used in the 1930s to describe radio serials which were sponsored by the soap powder industry such as Procter and Gamble. These 15-minute commercials were about women and concentrated on emotional situations. By sponsoring radio programmes about women, their families and their everyday life, the sponsors hoped that they would reach a big audience of housewives who then would add their certain soap powder to their shopping lists. These `never-ending´ stories became very popular and so these programmes switched to television programmes in the 1950s. Their length expanded from 15-minute productions to 25 minute long ones and later they even lasted 60 minutes.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of SORROWFUL SOAPS thus:

Soaps are spreading of the ‘nude culture’ as the infamous fashion among women.
Only by mobilising all PYCHIC resources will we slow down the peril we are facing.
Resist the invasion which is facing us which could erode all our deep held convictions.
Realise that an acquired addiction to serials shows the sickness of the person’s heart.
Occupation of our minds with serials, shows how we have become reckless as a society.
Wild and unrealistic expectations are what our minds get filled with, which is unhealthy.
Find out whether your favourite Soup is guilt of portraying LOVE as a fantastic illusion.
Unrealistic LOVE that is unattainable as a goal may lead to worst instances of delusions.
Losing in any sex gains, the Soap characters move on, no consequences of any action.

Seriously speaking, the tragedy in Soaps characters is that nothing in their lives is tragic.
Occasionally viewers are inclined to perceive an “inner need” for emotional satisfaction.
All long-term Soap viewers are exposed to the possibility of being “emotionally” harmed.
Promotion of casual sex is damaging to youths who are forming opinions about the world.
Soaps falsely encourage youths to find partners before they are emotionally mature to do so.

“I am my own sanctuary and I can be reborn as many times as I choose throughout my life.”— American singer, songwriter, and actress Lady Gaga (b. 1986). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: PROPAGATING the DISCERNMENT for LOATHING LACK upon failure to watch a favourite Soap.--->

Soap Operas create a world inside your head filled with stress. There is never a peaceful, tranquil moment in a Soap Opera. And by getting caught up in it, it is as if you are having the stress of everyone’s character in the show. Meaning, you could have on your mind the stress of going through a break up, having an affair, lusting for a forbidden love, hiding a secret and so much more, all in a single week. “I don’t think there is any difference between fantasy and reality in the way these should be approached in a film. Of course if you live that way you are clinically insane”, so said U.S. filmmaker Martin Scorsese (1942 - ). All movies or soaps featuring a great starling with a ‘Superman’ qualities are a fable, not of strength, but of disintegration. They appeal to your mind not because they reiterate grandiose delusions, but because they reiterate a very deep cry for help.

Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to LOATH LACK.
SOAP OPERAS have the same HYPNOTIC POWER, as witnessing clothes turning in a washing machine.
UNDERSTANDING this is vital: If you do not LOOK away quickly, you will be WATCHING until the end.
MADE to deceive, soap operas have REAL people pretending to be FAKE people with MADE-UP problems.
MORE disheartening is that these guys are being watched by REAL people to forget their REAL problems.
ACUTELY, the only way to stave off boredom, in a primate like human, is to increase one’s intelligence.
RARELY is this appealing to the average primate, who instead invents EMOTIONAL games (soap operas).
YOU must apparently avoid SOAPS, as you are being indoctrinated that forgetting to be human is good.

PREPARE yourself to diligently PROPAGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for LOATHING LACK.

Pleasure derived from watching Soap Operas may be detrimental to your psychological health.
Radical aim of all Soap Operas is, besides trying to entertain you, they seek to keep you hooked.
Every scriptwriter uses all means at their disposal to entice viewers into watching their shows.
Portrayal of a sense of a warped or distorted reality is what most Soap operas generally err on.
Almost all things that purport to happen in Soap operas rarely occur in everyday normal LIFE.
Reality having been distorted, this leads to youngsters getting a wrong picture of outside world.
Even though we understand that the dramas are not real, they leave a negative impression.

REALISE that PROPAGATING your innate ‘quest’ for LOATHING LACK is in your ‘power.’

Real die-hard fans will not do anything else after sitting through for 3-4 hours long Soaps daily.
Equally devastating and especially hard, is on those students who then have a heavy workload.
All Soaps take youngsters to a fantasy world making it hard for them to connect with real world.
Let us agree here that people often consider Soap viewing to be more dangerous in hindsight.
Inherent influence of Soap story lines is not recognised by youths or is less willing to do so.
Soaps err on the side of presenting an unrealistic portrayal of family LIFE and key relationships.
Erotic consciousness is utterly perverted upon constant (or addictive) viewing of Soap Opera.

EMPOWER yourself to PROPAGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for LOATHING LACK.

Empathetic response in the mind of the viewer is what Soaps are designed to subtly provoke.
Most Soaps offer contrasting experiences – sometimes alienating or shocking to the viewer.
Probability of offering emotional support and guidance concerning difficult issues is absent.
Outrightly, it is this ‘mixed bag’ effect of Soap viewing which shape experience which is notable.
Wonderful as it is, it entails not being sure what content will shape one’s viewing experience.
Essentially, this relationship forms the basis of what is potentially harmful and brainwashing.
Real viewers interpret programming in ways that suit their practical and short-term interests.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to PROPAGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of LOATHING LACK.

Most youths, being in the stage of forming an identity, their beliefs are highly shaped by Soaps.
Every facet of their sexual relationship cannot escape being explicitly influenced by Soaps.
Distinct models or ideal body types offer the yardstick against which to measure imperfections.
Inferiority feelings are what haunts many viewers as they cannot meet the Soap set-standards.
Always evaluating one’s appearance in relation to some valuation that must be Other is lethal.
Through mental labour one is able to transform images and experiences to meet one’s needs.
Everything is mediated through a construction by the subjective and socially oriented mind.

INDULGE yourself in PROPAGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards LOATHING LACK.

In most Soaps the ‘Girl Power’ and themes which identify the strength of women is overblown.
New images are what women use to turn around situations and take control of their lives.
Daring to achieve more – refusing to settle for less, is the overly sought ideal of transformation.
Understand: the world of the Soap Opera is fluid and dynamic than the crude reality off-screen.
Learning how it moves along at a much faster rate consisting change on many levels, is vital.
General idea by Soaps is: those who are unmarried engage in strings of successful relationships.
Eventually this propagation set an unreal precedent to viewers, especially the younger ones.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for PROPAGATING the ‘compulsion’ of LOATHING LACK.

Usually, Soaps propagate the most illusory myth that there is such a thing as “love at first sight”.
Temptation to practice abortion is high in Soaps, which then motivates girls to commit adultery.
In Soaps your perfect partner is cosmically predestine, so nothing or nobody can separate you.
Looking like a model or a centerfold is what a woman should do to attract a man – a profuse lie.
If your partner is truly meant for you, sex is easy and wonderful – this is a lie to be cast asunder.
Showing different kinds of physical contacts could incite girls to test what these fake figures do.
Exploration and experimentation in matters designated as taboo is what Soaps really promotes.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to PROPAGATE LOATHING LACK.

Many Soaps assumes that your soul-mate knows your thoughts and feeling without you telling.
Only in Soaps where a man should NOT be shorter, weaker, younger, poorer than the woman.
Now Soaps emphasize how the love of a woman changes a man from a ‘beast’ into a ‘prince’.
In Soaps, bickering and fighting a lot mean that a man and a woman really LOVE each other.
Today Soaps encourage relationships out of wedlock and make this permissible to entire family.
Only LOVE is needed in Soaps, so it does not matter if you and your lover have different values.
Right mate “completes you” – in Soaps - filling your needs and making your dreams come true.

“O what a rogue and peasant slave am I!
Is it not monstrous that this player here,
But in a fiction, in a dream of passion,
Could force his soul so to his own conceit
Tears in his eyes, distraction in his aspect,
A broken voice, and his whole function suiting
With forms to his conceit? And all for nothing.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet (1601), Act 2, Scene 2

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on apparently avoiding SORROWFUL SOAPS:
Apparently you are PROPAGATING your solid struggle to LOATH LACK.
You have gone a long way in CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
As well as IRRIGATING your dauntless determination.
No sooner than later, will you NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.
--->

1. General talk of all and sundry.--->

When a popular Soap Opera streams in the Television, it is in the lips of everyone. Women at the market place are trapped in discussing about it. Teenage boys and girls during school holidays are not excluded from its entrapment.

No wonder then, anyone who cannot join the debate about the last night episode suffer ostracism, and social isolation. To avoid being a laughing stock, one has to be in the sitting room at a specific time to keep informed. But essentially this means to have an “adrenal rush”.

Before we indulge in exposing the hidden danger of watching Soaps, it would be “emotionally correct” to focus on other forms of TV and movies, which are detrimental to the general well being of an individal.

2. Health benefit to TV watching.--->

“Good movies make you care, make you believe in possibilities again”, so noted U.S. film critic, Pauline Kael (1919 - 2001). Okay, you have seen hundreds of movies and you are fine, so it cannot all be bad, right? Of course not, there are also health benefits to watching films. Comedies, for example, help lower your blood pressure; when you laugh for extended periods of time your blood vessels dilate. Intense laughter for 15 minutes during a film has the same effect on your cardiovascular system as exercising.

When you watch a sad film (assuming you do not have a history of depression) you are more likely to come away from it thinking about loved ones and feeling happy about what you have. In one study where students watch an abridged version of ‘Atonement’, they rated themselves much happier with their lives right after viewing the tragic tale than they had just before.

A study showed that young children who watched short clips from the ‘Harry Potter’ films, specifically ones that involved the use of magic, scored significantly higher on a creative thinking test than children who had watched something else. So if you have the mentality of a child and want to make something or tackle a hard problem, pop in a film with a bit of magic in it and you might find yourself being more creative than normal.

3. Too much TV watching is dangerous.--->

Watching television is an experience shared by most adults and children. It is cheap, appealing, and within the reach of the general public. In this way, TV has become an important mass media around the world. Sadly, this resource is not used in a way that people could get the best possible benefits from it. The purpose of this Monologue is to persuade the reader that people should not watch too much television because the content of many TV programs is not educational; it makes people waste time that could be used in more beneficial activities; and it negatively affects people’s mental development.

The first reason why people should not watch too much television is because the content of many TV programs is not educational. Nowadays, we can see movies, series, and shows that present scenes of violence, sex, and drugs. This has established wrong concepts among the audience that influence them into having a negative behaviour. Moreover, the impact this tendency has on children is worse because they grow up with the idea of a world where women must be slender and blonde to stand out, where problems can only be solved with money and violence, and where wars are inevitable.

The second reason why people should not watch too much television is because it makes people waste time that could be used in more beneficial activities. The time we spend watching TV could be applied to useful activities like exercise, reading, interacting with friends and family, activities that are a crucial for a healthy lifestyle.

The third reason why people should not watch too much television is because it negatively affects people’s mental development. According to several scientific studies, watching TV for prolonged periods of time has a negative effect over the intellectual development of children and leads to deterioration of the mental capacity in older people by causing both attention and memory problems in the long term.

4. TV watching wastes a lot of time.--->

As indicated, people should not watch too much television because the content of many TV programs is not educational; it makes people waste time that could be used in more beneficial activities; and it affects people’s mental development. However, this does not mean that we should ban TV, but if we are going to watch it, we should do it with moderation. Television is a resource that we should learn to use through the right selection of programs by taking an active and critical attitude towards it.

Watching too much television can make you feel a bit brain-dead. According to a new study, it might also take years off your LIFE. The more time you spend watching TV, the greater your risk of dying at an earlier age - especially from heart disease, researchers found. Each additional hour spent in front of the TV increased the risk of dying from heart disease by 18 percent and the overall risk of death by 11 percent, according to the study.

Television is not lethal in and of itself; the real problem appears to be that sitting is the “default position for TV viewing. Prolonged watching of television equals a lot of sitting, which invariably means there is an absence of muscle movement. If your muscles stay inactive for too long, it can disrupt your metabolism.

The amount of television a person watches is a good index of the overall time they spend sitting. There is also some evidence that watching TV may be unhealthier than other sedentary activities. it is the other things you are doing during television viewing, like snacking.

Studies show that television leads to an increase in the consumption of energy-dense, snack-type foods. It is a stimulus for poor dietary behaviour, whereas some of the other types of sedentary behaviour are less likely to stimulate poor snacking behaviours. And because it burns so few calories - about the same as sleeping, hour for hour - watching TV tends to reduce a person’s overall energy output.

5. Violent-scenes movies by a great star.--->

“I don’t think there is any difference between fantasy and reality in the way these should be approached in a film. Of course if you live that way you are clinically insane”, so said U.S. filmmaker Martin Scorsese (1942 - ). All movies expressing violent scenes and featuring great starling with a ‘Superman’ qualities are a fable, not of strength, but of disintegration. They appeal to your mind not because they reiterate grandiose delusions, but because they reiterate a very deep cry for help.

Looking deeply into the impetus of the predisposition towards ‘Violence’, Canadian psychologist Albert Bandura (1925 - ) argued that, both children and adults can develop complex patterns of behaviour, emotional responses and attitudes through frequent exposure to live or filmed model. He demonstrated that, observation of live and filmed aggression leads to the development of aggressive behaviours.

However, according to U.S. psychologist Rollo May (1909-1994), the argument against violence on television would be stronger if it were made against the passive character of television viewing rather than the emulation of aggressive models. As televised entertainment cultivates the spectator role rather than active participation, its greatest danger may lie on the cultivation of feelings of impotence that contribute to violent behaviour. This violent behaviour may be passive or impassive. Whereas some people exhibits passive violent behaviours, many people repress this violent behaviour, due to the fear of the law or moral values. However, this repressed behaviour finds its expression as when dealing ruthlessly (mob justice) with suspected criminals.

This repressed violent behaviour may be express itself as in viewing your parents or other authority figures as being too bad. It may also express itself as in viewing your rival as an indispensable enemy. “The most dangerous creation of any society is that man who has nothing to lose, for his purity, by definition, is unassailable”, so noted American writer James Baldwin (1924 - 1987).

Having been reduced by society into utter helplessness (either thriving in economic prosperity or with poverty intricately weaved in the very fabric of your LIFE), when there is nothing to smolder or nourish your appetite for LIFE, the psychological resultant is an unquenchable appetite for destruction.

6. Danger in watching horror movies.--->

Scientists, politicians, and parents have debated for decades if being exposed to violence through entertainment leads to actual real life violence. Overall the answer to that is probably still up in the air, but a new study seems to prove that watching aggression on screen can contribute to being a bully in real life, even if it is just in the short term.

A study of 250 women found that when they watched clips of violence, bullying, or even just malicious gossiping, when tested afterwards the women were more likely to place importance, subconsciously, on words describing violence or aggression. The people on both sides of the argument (those who hate this type of game and movie vs. those who love them) both seem to overstate the findings of studies like these, one side saying all violence makes you a killer, the other saying it has no effect at all. As more evidence comes in, the real answer seems to be somewhere in the middle.

Les Brown said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” The subconscious mind is like a fertile garden, and it cultivates the seeds that you choose to plant during your conscious moments. That is why you should avoid watching horror movies or television shows that depict murder or other crimes.

Why would you want to program your mind to constantly be on edge - thinking fearful thoughts? If you believe the theory that “we become what we think about,” then it seems logical to assume that you will end up creating negative life-experiences, based on the fearful thoughts you hold in your subconscious realm. So the key is to become conscious of what you are planting into your subconscious.

BEYONDISM makes you conscious of the importance of only planting positive seeds into your subconscious. Your subconscious realm is incredibly important. It is what feeds your conscious mind. The subconscious mind is the seed. The conscious mind is the fruit; it becomes an extension of the seed.

Think about a peach; the seed even looks like a brain! The delicious fruit is merely an extension of the “brain.” The deliciousness (or bitterness) of your LIFE-experience will simply be a reflection of the seeds you choose to plant.

The suggestion here is for you to stop watching shows on television that program your mind with fearful thoughts. Watching images of murder, rape, violence, gossip, rage, material-obsession and other emotional-instability ... will plant those types of seeds into the fertile soil of your subconscious. Have you ever wondered why they call it a “television program?” It is because your mind is being programmed.

Studies have shown that adrenalin junkies get real pleasure out of being scared by horror movies, but in a variety of ways they may be risking their physical and mental health without even knowing it. When we watch an intense scene in a film our heart rate and blood pressure increase. This can and does lead to heart attacks, in people who have cardiovascular weaknesses. Those links are just two examples of people who keeled over dead during ‘The Passion of the Christ’.

Even if you are young and healthy, watching horror movies can mess with you in ways you did not expect. When you get scared your adrenaline and cortisone levels spike. This in turn can dredge up repressed traumatic memories. The change in your brain chemistry reminds you of times when it was in a similar state, even if you had no idea you even had those memories. So if you have some really horrible event in your past that terrified you, being scared again by a movie can inadvertently make you relive it.

If your past is trauma-free but you have been depressed before, even tearjerkers should be avoided. A study found that people who had been depressed in the past were more likely to ruminate over the tragic parts of movies. This in turn may have been a contributing factor if and when they returned to a depressive state.

7. Viewing very emotional soap operas.--->

“I’ve finally figured out why soap operas are, and logically should be, so popular with generations of housebound women. They are the only place in our culture where grown-up men take seriously all the things that grown-up women have to deal with all day long”, so said U.S. writer and feminist, Gloria Steinem (1934 - ). Do you watch Soap Operas? Enjoy them? Get caught up in the drama? If you answered yes to those questions, then BEYONDISM bet you are either overweight, probably have high blood pressure, or you are having problem with your self-esteem or have family issues.

Soap Operas taste so good! Where is the harm? A more fundamental question is, why do people get sucked up into Soap Operas?

It is possible to become sucked into Soap Operas or addicted to them. This happens when an unsuspecting viewer may, by chance catch a Soap Opera on TV completely by accident. Places like laundromats, dorms or other public places where televisions are set to one channel (usually a Soap Opera) where the show is not chosen by the viewers. The viewer gets a taste of the Soap Opera by being forced to watch it. Then every time the viewer goes to that public place they watch the show again. This time they remember the characters and storyline from the last time they watched the show. The outcome of this terrible tragedy is addiction.

Soap Operas become addicting because they continue their stories from day to day. There is no ending in Soap Operas as there are during a regular TV series. There are no single episodes and there are rarely even two shows that are consecutive which are part of a single story or episode.

It is unfortunate that TV viewers who become addicted to Soap Operas are often sucked in after watching only two shows. TV viewers are lured back by the need to satisfy their innate curiousity, desire to “root” for their favourite character and a strong sense of loyalty. The story itself with its ability to continue from day to day can connect to the viewing audience because as in real life, our stories do not end after one single day, but continue on and on.

The continuing story of the Soap Opera creates an addictive and obsessive emotional reaction in the viewing audience. These addictions can destroy marriages and relationships, interfere with work performance and interfere with the living of a normal life. Soap Opera addicts will do anything to get their daily “fix” of Soap Opera viewing.

Soap Opera addicted audiences become obsessed with them after being constantly exposed to divorce, unplanned pregnancies, affairs, weird nuns and rich playboys on a daily basis. This is worse than any known narcotic. These people are getting high by watching Soap Operas.

Much more? The health hazard when it comes to Soap Operas is stress. Stress is a terribly dangerous thing. It can wreak havoc on your health, and it also strains your mind.

People watching Soap Operas can easily become addicted. They feel like they need something interesting going on in their life, and they get it from TV. This could easily lead to TV addiction, which could keep you from doing much physical activities. Sitting around watching TV every chance you get will make it hard to lose weight. Of course, if you are fat, you are going to stress about it. Especially since it is the fat girl on the TV that never gets someone to love her. Listen to Indian novelist and poet Vikram Seth (1952 - ):

Time sidles by: on television
The soaps dissolve, the jingles change.
Defeat or pity or derision
Constricts our hearts. Our looks grow strange
Even to us.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #3
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#3 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Do not be among those people who swallows opinion or takes suggestion indiscriminately as a cat laps milk.

“Broadcasting is really too important to be left to the broadcasters and somehow we must find some new way of using radio and television to allow us to talk to each other.” - British politician and author Tony Benn (1925 - ). Similar remarks were made by Georges Clemenceau and Charles de Gaulle.
“Facing the press is more difficult than bathing a leper.”
-Albanian-born Roman Catholic nun Mother Teresa of Calcutta (1910 - 1997)
“Television? No good will come of this device. The word is half Greek and half Latin.”
- Attributed to British journalist C. P. Scott (1846 - 1932)
“In the United States today we have more than our share of the nattering nabobs of negativism. They have formed their own 4-H Club—the ‘hopeless, hysterical hypochondriacs of history.’” - U.S. vice-president Spiro T. Agnew (1918 - 1996)
“Everybody gets so much information all day long that they lose their common sense.”
-U.S. writer Gertrude Stein (1874 - 1946)
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Agenda Setting Theory exposes the power of mass media to influence audience.
Distinguished Developers: Formally developed by Dr. Max McCombs and Dr. Donald Shaw,
in a study on the 1968 presidential election.

UNCENSORED, the mass media have the ability to determine which issues are important to the public.
PURPOSIVELY, the mass media uses GATEKEEPING and Agenda Setting to control access to news.
GATEKEEPING is a series of checkpoints that the news has to go through before it gets to the public.
REALLY, the press and the mass media do not basically reflect reality; they simply filter it and shape it.
ACTUALLY, media concentration on a few issues, leads to public to perceive them as more important.
DONE soundly well, the audience will regard a news item as more important if it is covered frequently.
ESSENTIALLY, the mass media only shows audience what it comprehends as an IMPORTANT issue.
Timely Therapy: - Just because something is not a LIE, does not simply mean that it is not DECEPTIVE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Any Media which glorifies women (especially young ones) awfully trembles on the brink of pure obscenity.

“One searches the magazines in vain for women past their first youth. The middleaged face apparently sells neither perfume nor floor wax. The role of the mature woman in the media is almost entirely negative.”
- U.S. writer and civil rights activist Janet Harris (1915 - )
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Male Gaze Theory sees male viewer as the target audience; their needs are met first.
Distinguished Developer: British feminist film theorist Laura Mulvey.

USUALLY, according to the social coditions of spectatorship, men act and women are acted-opon.
PASSIVE objects of male desire, is what these women in films or advertisement are represented.
GUIDED so, audiences are forced to view women from the point of view of a heterosexual male.
READILY, this happens even if they (the audience) are heterosexual women or homosexual men.
ANY role which they can take full control of a SCENE, is where women (actors) are not placed in.
DEGRADED thus, they are simply put there to be observed from an OBJECTIFIED point of view.
ENFORCED thereof, is the outdated idea of “men do the watching and women are to be looked at.”
Timely Therapy: - Ladies, stop being pieces of sentient prettiness; passing diversions to men’s mind.

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Laudable Learning

R#53. On struggling to acquire suitable LEARNING style to no avail.

BQ#4. What intensity of REFLECTION is persuasive in LEARNING LAUDABLY, as a function of amorously assimilating GAINFUL GROWTH?--->

“To seem to know is prepared on all.”
- Greek philosopher Xenophanes of Colophon (570 - 475 BC)

“There are, then, two kinds of memory: one natural, and the other the product of art. The natural memory is that memory which is embedded in our minds…the artificial memory is that memory which is strengthened by a kind of training and system of discipline.”
- Roman statesman and orator Cicero (106 - 43 BC)

“I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.”
- Irish poet, playwright, and wit Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900)

“There’s a new tribunal now
Higher than God’s - the educated man’s!”
- British poet Robert Browning (1812 - 1889)

“The intellectuals’ chief cause of anguish are one another’s works.”
- French-born U.S. writer, cultural critic, and educator Jacques Barzun (1907 - )

“The trouble with me is, I belong to a vanishing race. I’m one of the intellectuals.”
- U.S. playwright Robert E. Sherwood (1896 - 1955)

“The ink of the scholar is more sacred than the blood of the martyr.”
- Attributed to Arab religious leader and prophet Muhammad (570? - 632?)

“To be a well-favoured man is the gift of fortune; but to write and read comes by nature.”
- William Shakespeare in Much Ado About Nothing, Act 3, Scene 3

“A widely-read man never quotes accurately...Misquotation is the pride and privilege of the learned.”
- British biographer Hesketh Pearson (1887 - 1964)

“The real problem is not whether machines think but whether men do.”
- B. F. Skinner

“Whence is thy learning? Hath thy toil
O’er books consum’d the midnight oil?”
- English poet and playwright John Gay (1685 - 1732)

“Education is that which remains, if one has forgotten everything one learned in school.”
- German-born American physicist Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

“Education is what survives when what has been learned has been forgotten.”
- U.S. psychologist B. F. Skinner (1904 - 1990)

“Indeed one of the ultimate advantages of an education is simply coming to the end of it.”
- B. F. Skinner

“Whoso neglects learning in his youth,
Loses the past and is dead for the future.”
- Greek playwright Euripides (480? - 406 BC)

“A learned man who is not cleansed is more dangerous than an ignorant man.”
- Iranian religious and political leader Ruhollah Khomeini (1900? - 1989)

“He has only half learned the art of reading who has not added to it the even more refined accomplishments of skipping and skimming.”
- British prime minister Arthur Balfour (1848 - 1930)

“The learn’d is happy nature to explore,
The fool is happy that he knows no more.”
- English poet Alexander Pope (1688 - 1744)

“Not art, not books, but life itself is the true basis of teaching and education.”
- Swiss educational reformer Johann Heinrich Pestalozzi (1746 - 1827)

“The chief wonder of education is that it does not ruin everybody concerned in it, teachers and taught.”
- U.S. historian Henry Adams (1838 - 1918)

“He was sent, as usual, to a public school, where a little learning was painfully beaten into him, and from thence to the university where it was carefully taken out of him.”
- British novelist and poet Thomas Love Peacock (1785 - 1866)

“I‘m not an educator...I’m a learner.”
- U.S. business executive Bill Gates (1955 - )
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NEVER QUENCH YOUR THIRST FOR KNOWLEDGE, for the reason given by Algerian-born French novelist, essayist, and dramatist Albert Camus (1913 - 1960): “A world that can be explained even with bad reasons is a familiar world. But in a universe suddenly divested of illusions and lights, man feels an alien, a stranger.” Endeavour at always expanding your mental horizons, as Canadian sociologist, Marshall McLuhan (1911 - 1980), informs us: “Explore the situation. Statements are expendable. Do not keep on looking in the rearview mirror and defending the status quo which is outmoded the moment it happened.” In his monumental work Insight: A Study of Human Understanding (1957), one of the greatest minds of the 20^th century, Canadian Jesuit philosopher-theologian and economist Bernard Lonergan (1904 - 1984), addresses the question What am I doing when I am knowing? He asked this question for two reasons: (1) To provide what he called a “common ground” on which people could meet one another, that is, the common ground of the operations through which they pursue meaning and truth. (2) To provide what is probably a solution to the fragmentation of knowledge — not by attempting to integrate the content of knowledge, but by acknowledging the same operations of EXPERIENCING, UNDERSTANDING, and JUDGING in all fields. This acknowledgment, brings a startling unity to knowledge and to the pursuit of understanding in every field. It helps us relate such “hard sciences” as mathematics, physics, and chemistry to the sciences of life, and to relate all of these to psychology, philosophy, the arts, and theology. The key is the act of seeking an INSIGHT INTO INSIGHT ITSELF. He writes: “…to grasp it in its conditions, its working, and its results is to confer a basic yet startling unity on the whole field of human inquiry and human opinion.” For Lonergan, intellectual conversion is correlated with the person recognising oneself as a “knower,” that is, not merely a person that experiences reality but, one who discovers the meaning of reality.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of LAUDABLE LEARNING thus:

Lofty self-discovered learning basically has a tremendous influence on one’s PSYCHE.
Actually, the tempo and temperature of diligent learning must be made and felt by you.
Understanding is personalised by ardently appropriating all the learned FACTS in you.
Distrust to one’s experience, is triggered by inductive instruction which stifles learning.
Acutely, you must state your uncertainties and classify your puzzlements to learn well.
Boldly striving to drop your defensiveness, in order to fit learning into your experience.
Lovely keeping your natural motivation at its apex; the tendency to ACTUALIZATION.
Esteem in individually making what is learned to be real and relevant to your daily LIFE.

Learn as if you were not reaching your goal and as though you were scared of missing it.
Entrenched learning occurs in response to a situation perceived by you as a problem.
Anyone who stops learning is old, at any age; anyone who keeps learning stays young.
Realistic and beautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take it away from you.
Neatly perceiving education as full of issues that your existence must robustly resolve.
Involvement leads to learning; if you are taught, you may forget, or vaguely remember.
Nurture learning as if you were to live forever, and live as if you were to die tomorrow.
Gainfully say like Winston Churcill: “I like knowledge, but I do not like to be taught.”

“I think a lot of people are afraid of being happy because of what others might think.”- Barbadian singer, actress, and businesswoman Robyn Rihanna Fenty (b. 1988). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: REAPING the REFLECTION for LEARNING LOFTILY, to improve academic performance and social value.--->

For many students in particular and most people in general, learning has not always been a joyous experience. But an inescapable TRUTH of human ‘existence’ is that, in the essential nature of things, learning is meant to be enriching; for it is growth, and growth is LIFE. A one persuasive skill every student should cultivate and nurture is the ability to perceive education as a nourishing part of one’s developmental process. “All education is bad which is not self-education”, so commented Canadian novelist and critic, Robertson Davies (1913 - 1995). The purpose of any progressive education is to facilitate the holistic development of an individual, as Irish poet, playwright, and wit, Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900) taught: “Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught”. “To me, education is a leading out of what is already there in the pupil’s soul. To Miss Mackay it is putting in of something that is not there, and that is not what I call education, I call intrusion,” so quipped British writer of novels, short stories, poetry, and criticism Muriel Spark (1918 - 2006).

Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to CONTROL CONFLICT.
SOCIETY has inevitably two kinds of SLAVES: the prisoners of ADDICTION and the prisoners of ENVY.
UNDERSTAND: There is only one reason why people become addicted to drugs, they are bare weaklings.
MOST psychiatrists concurs that only strong individuals are cured of addictions, and they cure themselves.
MAKE sure you always remember this very simple Tamil proverb: “Alcohol drowns more people than water.”
AMBROSE Bierce defined drug as: “An unlocked door in the prison of Identity. It leads into the jail yard.”
REALLY, all SIN tends to be addictive, and the terminal point of addiction is what is called DAMNATION.
YE shall count yourself the most WILLED creature, if you are able to quit from any sort of ADDICTION.

PREPARE yourself to diligently REAP the creative ‘capacity’ for LEARNING LOFTILY.

Preparing individuals and groups to live in a world of accelerating change is the purpose of education.
Real education breaks out of the shakles of conformity pressure, to solve problems of modern LIFE.
Education feed business with innovation, responsiveness and augments the motive of profit-making.
Purely educated person learns how to learn, to adapt and change; realises that knowledge is secure.
A reliance on process rather than static knowledge, is what makes any sense as a goal of education.
Radical goal of education includes, but goes BEYOND, intellectualism, to include the whole person.
Education’s goal is the same as that of psychotherapy; personal growth, towards full functionality.

REALISE that REAPING your innate ‘quest’ for LEARNING LOFTILY is in your ‘power.’

Rote learning, as exemplified by the memorisation of nonsense syllables is utterly MEANINGLESS.
Eschew learning which does not involve feelings or the whole person; occuring “from the neck up.”
Affluent learning is ‘experiential’; it has MEANING and relevance; it is basically quick and retained.
Learning in a real sense is self-initiated, personally involving, and includes attitude and behaviour.
It is (education) evaluated by the learner in terms of personal needs - the locus is purely internal.
Significant - personal, experiential - learning is one which makes a PSYCHIC difference to the person.
Education MUST relate to Human Nature, by directly impacting on one’s personality predisposition.

EMPOWER yourself to REAP your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for LEARNING LOFTILY.

Exploratory, curious, natural propensity for knowing, desirous of discovering, characterises humans.
Most people, however, have an ambivalence towards learning, for it involves some difficulties or pain.
Pain involved in learning is either connected with learning itself or in relinguishig earlier learnings.
Overall, the satisfaction of boosting one’s potential overides the pain, and so the learning continues.
When a subject is seen by the student as having relevance for one’s purposes, learning proceeds.
Enhancement and maintenance of Self-Concept, are what makes a student to learn significantly.
Reduction by as much as two-thirds or four-fifths of time, is made by learning a purposeful material.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to REAP the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of LEARNING LOFTILY.

Materials which involves a change in Self-Organisation, seems threatening and so tend be resisted.
Esteemed values, basic beliefs and affirmed attitudes, when questioned leads to a defensive attitude.
Defensiveness may also arise upon realisation that one is behind in things, or is inferior in some way.
Increase in resistance to learning may be facilitated by pressure, criticism, ridicule, or shaming.
An accepting, understanding and supportive environment removes or decreases any threat and fear.
This astutely allows the learner to take a few steps, or to try something and experience success.
Experience is perceived in a differentiated fashion, and learning ensues when threat to the Self is low.

INDULGE yourself in REAPING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards LEARNING LOFTILY.

Inhibition to learning is faclitated, or triggered by threat to the Self-Concept, and assisted by its lack.
Negativity and threat disorganises thinking; leads to distortion of perception (a kind of tunnel vision).
Due freedom from threat to one’s PSYCHIC security enables one to see the total and to examine it.
Unthreatened, the serious student is able to “take it apart,” manipulate it, put it together and learn.
Life or death threats can be responded to, with one’s powers, but threats to Self disturbs learning.
Generally, threats leads to all-out effort to maintain the Self as it exists, but not to growth itself.
Experiential involvement with practical (learning through doing) or real problems, promotes learning.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for REAPING the ‘compulsion’ of LEARNING LOFTILY.

Under all circumstances, learning is facilitated as the student participates responsibly in the process.
Truly choosing objectives and directions, one formulates problems and discovers one’s resources.
In such a situation, one decides on and follows a course of action as a function of one’s experience.
Living with consequences, maximises significant learning, which is self-directed and MEANINGFUL.
Initiating oneself in learning involves the whole person of the learner; feelings as well as intellect.
Such learning is the learner’s OWN, and becomes incorporated in oneself; it is the most persuasive.
External or accepted authority - which are vulnerable to questioning - should not imprison you.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to REAP LEARNING LOFTILY.

MEANINGFUL and socially useful learning in the world, is the “learning of the process of learning.”
Openness to experience as well as incorporation into oneself of the “process of change” is continual.
Nourishing “change” is a central fact of modern LIFE, and therefore, learning MUST be continuous.
Involving the whole person, significant learning creatively combines cognitive and affective elements.
This is a unified learning, yet with awareness of different aspects; it separates not mind from heart.
Obviously, knowledge without feeling is not knowledge; leads to indifference, and conceivably to ruin.
Robust personal MEANING, relevance, and significance precisely involve feeling, attitudes and beliefs.

“No profit grows where is no pleasure ta’en;
In brief, sir, study what you most affect.”
- Shakespeare in The Taming of the Shrew (1593?), Act 1, Scene 1

“For where is any author in the world
Teaches such beauty as a woman’s eye?
Learning is but an adjunct to oneself.”
- Shakespeare in Love’s Labour’s Lost (1594), Act 4, Scene 3

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on assimilating amorously GAINFUL GROWTH:
It is manifest that you are IRRIGATING your dauntless determination to LEARN LOFTILY.
Having CULTIVATED your affluent attempts,
You are now armoured to PROPAGATE the solid struggle.
Soon you will NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.
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BEYONDISM BACKUP #4
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#4 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Essentially, failure and success have no fixed abodes; one person then another alternately share them.

Take the instance where a friendship is coming to an end.
One person might feel sadness, guilt, anger,
While the other person could possibly feel relief and apathy.
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Appraisal Theory entails thinking then feeling.
Distinguished Developer: Austrian-Canadian psychologist Magda Blondiau Arnold (1903 – 2002)

UPON evaluation of events that cause specific reactions in different people, our emotions are extracted.
PURPOSIVE appraisal of a situation causes an emotional, or affective response based on that appraisal.
GOING on a first date, one might feel joy, upon appraising this event as one that forms the basis of love.
REASONING and understanding of one’s emotional reaction becomes important for all future appraisals.
ALL emotions result from interpretations of circumstances even in the absence of physiological arousal.
DECIDING how to feel about a situation after interpreting the phenomena, is what individuals usually do.
EVENTS basically follow this sequence: event, thinking, and simultaneous events of arousal and emotion.
Timely Therapy: - Be honest in evaluating what you want – because what gets measured, gets produced.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
What we must verily decide is perhaps how we are valuable, rather than basically how valuable we are.

“A sense sublime
Of something far more deeply interfused,
Whose dwelling is the light of setting suns,
And the round ocean and the living air,
And the blue sky, and in the mind of man:
A motion and a spirit, that impels
All thinking things, all objects of all thought,
And rolls through all things.”
- British poet William Wordsworth (1770 - 1850)
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Lake Wobegon Effect: We over-estimate our abilities, especially compared with others.
Distinguished Developer: Lake Wobegon is a fictional town created by American author, singer, humorist, voice actor, and radio personality Gary Edward Garrison Keillor (b. 1942), as the setting of the recurring segment “News from Lake Wobegon” for the radio program A Prairie Home Companion broadcast from St Paul, Minnesota.

USED to describe a natural tendency to overrate one’s competencies, is the Lake Wobegon Effect.
PERVASIVELY and potently, one overestimate one’s achievements and capabilities in relation to others.
GENERAL human NEED to believe that one is fair, virtuous, lucky, intelligent or skilled is paramount.
REALLY, a majority of people claim to be highly endowed, as seen in the residents of Lake Wobegon:
ALL “the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above AVERAGE.”
DEFTLY, this phenomenon has been observed among drivers, CEOs, university students, and others.
EXPERIMENTS shows that most people believe they do possess attributes that are better than average.
Timely Therapy: - Seek not to take thyself as better, greater, or more important than you ACTUALLY are.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
Human beings only sees the world edited by a definite set of customs, institutions and ways of thinking.

“It can be said that each civilization has a pattern of disease peculiar to it. The pattern of disease is an expression of the response of man to his total environment (physical, biological, and social); this response is, therefore, determined by anything that affects man himself or his environment.” - French-born U.S. bacteriologist René Dubos (1901 - 1982).
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Clustering Illusion or Illusion of Validity: Seeing patterns where there are none.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Thomas Dashiff Gilovich (b. 1954)

UNDERSTAND: Clustering Illusion is a flaw of finding non-existing patterns in random information.
PATTERNS identification or “streaks” is how our brain has been designed, so as to make deft decisions.
GIVEN a small amount of data our brain has a hard TIME ACCEPTING that the information is random.
REAL lack of data prompts us to think we have the ability of a clairvoyant, who can predict the future.
ASK questions and do not convince yourself unless you have compelling proof or enough data points.
DECISION making in the absence of adequate information heightens the chances of making a mistake.
EITHER you find more data before making a decision or do not make predictions without enough data.
Timely Therapy: - Do not try to find patterns in every damn thing. Because chances are, there are none.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
It is the epitome of optimism to believe that if you have sound facts, you can put a sound policy into effect.

“A digital nervous system enables a company to do information work with far more efficiency, depth, and creativity.” - U.S. business executive Bill Gates (1955 - ).
“A firm’s IQ is determined by the degree to which its IT infrastructure connects, shares and structures information. Isolated applications and data, no matter how impressive, can produce idiots savants but not a highly functional corporate behavior.” - U.S. author Steve H. Haeckel.
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Perceptual Salience / Salience Bias: We over-estimate importance of available information.
Distinguished Developers: Taylor and Fiske (1975).

USUALLY, we tend to over-estimate the CASUAL role (SALIENCE) of information available to us.
PREDISPOSING us to focus on items that are more prominent or emotionally striking is this bias.
GHASTLY, we ignore the unremarkable ones, even if this difference is irrelevant by all standards.
REALLY experiencing an earthquake prepares you to believe in its likeliness than reading about it.
AWFUL, vivid and easily imagined causes of death often receive inflated estimates of probability.
DULY less-vivid causes RECEIVE low estimates, even if they OCCUR with a far greater frequency.
EVENTS (recent ones) have a greater impact on our behaviour, and on our fears, than earlier ones.
Timely Therapy: - When making key decisions, look beyond the available data; dig into other sources.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
We most likely know a subject by ourselves, or we know where we can find relevant information about it.

“The end of our foundation is the knowledge of causes, and secret motions of things;
and the enlarging of the bounds of human Empire, to the effecting of all things possible.”
- English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626).
“Knowledge advances by steps, and not by leaps.”
- British politician, historian, and writer Thomas Babington Macaulay (1800 - 1859).
“Knowledge is proportionate to being....You know in virtue of what you are.”
- British novelist and essayist Aldous Huxley (1894 - 1963)
“Science is built up of facts, as a house is built of stones;
but an accumulation of facts is no more a science than a heap of stones is a house.”
- French mathematician and scientist Jules Henri Poincaré (1854 - 1912)
“Today, it is not only that our kings do not know mathematics,
but our philosophers do not know mathematics and
—to go a step further—
our mathematicians do not know mathematics.”
- U.S. nuclear physicist J. Robert Oppenheimer (1904 - 1967).
“Mathematics is thought moving in the sphere of complete abstraction
from any particular instance of what it is talking about.”
- British philosopher and mathematician A. N. Whitehead (1861 - 1947).
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Epistemological Weighting Hypothesis: We learn by ourselves and through others.
Distinguished Developers: Gass and Seiter (1999).

UNDERLYING the Epistemological Weighting Hypothesis is how we GAIN knowledge in two ways.
PRECISELY and most importantly by ourselves; by both active trial and error and passive observation.
GRANTED, the second other important factor is through OTHERS, by communication and observation.
REALISTICALLY, when our personal views differ from the group’s view, these conflict with one another.
ACTUAL degree of conformity depends on the weighting placed between personal and social knowledge.
DETERMINED to subtly persuade others? Seek to UNEARTH the weighting that they use and play to it.
EXAMPLE: if they are BIASED towards social knowledge, then talk about what other people have done.
Timely Therapy: - Know and appreciate your own preferences. Beware of people who play too much to it.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
As conscious human beings, we are greatly influenced by the consequences produced by our own behavior.

“When a given act is followed closely by a reinforcer, the organism tends to increase the frequency of that act under the same or similar conditions.” - B. F. Skinner.
“To observations which ourselves we make.
We grow more partial for th’ observer’s sake.”
- English poet Alexander Pope (1688 - 1744).
“Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.”
- German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer (1788 - 1860).
“Reason, Observation, and Experience—the Holy Trinity of Science.”
- U.S. lawyer Robert G. Ingersoll (1833 - 1899).
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Social Learning Theory: We learn much by watching others, thinking, then trying it out.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist, behaviorist, author, inventor,
and social philosopher Burrhus Frederic Skinner (1904 – 1990).

UNDERSTOOD well, Social Learning theory FOCUSES on the learning process and social behaviour.
PROPOSED here is the fact that new behaviours can be ACQUIRED by observing and imitating others.
GAINFUL LEARNING, takes place in a SOCIAL context and can occur PURELY through observation.
REWARDS and PUNISHMENTS (vicarious reinforcement) when observed can also facilitate learning.
AFFIRMED here is that when a particular behaviour is rewarded regularly, it will most likely PERSIST.
DECISIVELY but conversely, if a specific behaviour is constantly punished, it will most likely DESIST.
EMPHASIS is placed on the important roles of various COGNTIVE processes in the learning individual.
Timely Therapy: - You not only gain wisdom through reflection, you also evaluate and alter your thinking.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
If you apparently want to know where the apathy, lethargy, or laziness is, you are probably sitting on it.

“Come away, you who are obsessed with your own importance in the scheme of things...come away by the brown valleys and full-bosomed hills to the even-breathing days, to the kindliness, earthiness, ease of El Pueblo de Las Uva.” - U.S. novelist Mary Austin (1868 - 1934).
“If you reward the good and ignore or forgive the bad, the good will occur more frequently and the bad will gradually disappear.” - Irish-born British management educator and writer Charles Handy (1932 - )
“Surely as the divine powers take note of the dutiful,
surely as there is any justice anywhere
and a mind recognizing in itself what is right,
may the gods bring you your earned rewards.”
- Roman poet Virgil (70 - 19 BC).
“The salary of the chief executive of the large corporation is not a market award for achievement.
It is frequently in the nature of a warm personal gesture by the individual to himself.”
- Canadian-born U.S. economist J. K. Galbraith (1908 - 2006).
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Justification of Effort: We find things we have worked on attractive.
Distinguished Developers: American psychologists Elliot Aronson (b. 1932) and Judson Mills (d. 2008).

UNDERSTAND: Effort Justification is a dissonance between the amount of effort exerted towards a goal,
PURPOSIVELLY, and the subjective reward for that effort (lower than was expected for such an effort).
GEARING to adjust and increase one’s attitude or subjective value of the goal, resolves the dissonance.
RITES of passage, hazing rituals and their effect on group cohesion are clearly implicated by this theory.
ARDENT hazing rituals, found in military units, sports teams and fraternities include humiliating tasks.
DEMANDING as they are, this INSPIRES the new member to increase the subjective value of the group.
ENTRENCHED well, this categorically contributes to their loyalty and to the solidarity of the entire group.
Timely Therapy: - Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and so without it nothing great was ever achieved.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #8:
It would follow that ‘significant form’ is the manifestation behind which we catch a sense of ultimate reality.

“The great temptation in these difficult days of racial polarization and economic injustice is to make political arguments black and white and miss the moral imperative of wrong and right. Vanity asks, ‘Is it popular?’ Politics asks ‘Will it win?’ Morality and conscience ask, ‘Is it right?’”
- U.S. clergyman, civil rights leader, and politician Jesse Jackson (1941 - ).
“One doesn’t recognize in one’s life the really important moments—not until it’s too late.”
- English novelist and playwright Agatha Christie (1890 - 1976).
“Things are entirely what they appear to be and behind them...there is nothing.”
- French philosopher, playwright, and novelist Jean-Paul Sartre (1905 - 1980).
“If this young man expresses himself in terms too deep for me,
Why, what a very singularly deep young man this deep young man must be!”
- British librettist and playwright W. S. Gilbert (1836 - 1911).
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Mere Thought Effect: Thinking creates polarisation.
Distinguished Developer: Tesser, A. (1978).

UNDER no duress, just THINKING about something makes it seem more significant and IMPORTANT.
PRECISELY, the item, fresh in the mind, seems BIGGER and, in contrast, other things seem SMALLER.
GAINFULLY, self-generated THOUGHT has an important and substantial impact on ATTITUDE change.
REPEATED or increased opportunity for thought about an attitude object increases attitude extremity.
ALLOWING us to produce more attitude-consistent thoughts is time to think which polarises attitudes.
DULY having enough time to muse about another thing, the Mere Thought Effect may be reversed.
EFFECTIVE consideration of alternatives acts to balance out the effect, reduces the polarisation effect.
Timely Therapy: - Always take your time to consider multiple viewpoints when making a major decision.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #9:
To vibrate all strings in your HEART, is to arouse your PSYCHIC antenae, so as to craft a sound strategy.

Assume you had recently bought a new pair of earphones.
How did you to compare and trade off differences?
Between all the earphones available in the shop?
No wonder you used a compensatory strategy.
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Multi-Attribute Choice focuses on how we use various strategies for different types of choice.
Distinguished Developers: Einhorn and Hogarth (1981), Payne (1982), Hogarth (1987).

USING Multi-Attribute Choice simplifies decision-making and eliminates “gut feeling” in concluding.
PUT as multicriteria analysis, it is a tool to structure decision and assist in selecting optimal choices.
GIVEN a simple choice, individuals will use compensatory strategies, of trading off different attributes.
REALISTICALLY, traded attributes are often of similar priority, such as simple conditions against colour.
AN alternative strategy processes one alternative (like a job applicant) before analysing the next one.
DULY processing by attribute is analysing every choice for a single category before moving to the next.
EACH exhaustive strategy processes and analyses all attributes and alternatives prior to choice-making.
Timely Therapy: - Awaken to the strategies you use; watch out for people leading you up the garden path.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #10:
It is good practice to verify the circumstance of utility, in all subjects, as a source of either praise or disdain.

[Herod the Great (74 - 73 bc? - 4 bc), Roman-backed king of Judea (37 - 4 bc), supported Mark Antony in his power struggle with Octavian for leadership of Rome. After Antony’s defeat in the naval battle of Actium in 31 bc, Herod openly admitted his support of the loser and asked the victorious Octavian to remember “not whose friend, but what a good friend” he had been. Octavian—who later became the Roman emperor Augustus—confirmed Herod as king and later enlarged Herod’s territory. Thereafter Herod’s political enemies were suppressed.]
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Perceptual Contrast Effect outline how we decide by comparing things.
Distinguished Developer: Sherif, Taub and Hovland (1958), Cialdini (1993).

UNDELYING decision-making, is the tendency to Contrast between the decision and reference items.
PAIRED together, we tend to evaluate things against one another more than against a fixed standard.
GIVEN here is an example whereby in a social gathering you happen to meet two very new individuals.
REALLY, you are likely to compare each against the other on key dimensions to decide your preference.
AFFIRMATIVELY, this may include physical beauty, similarity of interests and various personality factors.
DULY focused on using this effect? To make an item look good, first show something of inferior quality.
EVENTUALLY, to get people to buy an expensive thing, first show them something even more expensive.
Timely Therapy: - When you make a solid decision, think about the comparison standards you are using.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #11:
If ever there was the ultimate evidence of cultural anemia, it is increase in cultism, prostitution and drug abuse.

“Factual evidence can never ‘prove’ a hypothesis; it can only fail to disprove it, which is what we generally mean when we say, somewhat inexactly, that the hypothesis is ‘confirmed' by experience.”
- U.S. economist Milton Friedman (1912 - 2006)
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Augmenting Principle explains how evidence for a decision is accumulative.
Distinguished Developers: Baron and Byrne (1997), Kelley (1972).

USUALLY, in decision-making, each piece of evidence gleaned ADDS in a way towards our decision.
PURPOSIVELY, when does the augmentimg evidence supplied tend to have a disproportionate effect?
GIST evidence has a disproportionate incremental effect when it is unexpected; goes against normal.
REALLY, a person who gets a high grade in a university history examination may be considered clever.
ASSUME you are told that the boy is only 16 years old, you may well consider him extremely clever.
DECADENTLY, if you realise the person was already a professor, you would be singularly unimpressed.
EVERY surprising argument should make you wonder why. Is it just a deliberate attempt to shock you?
Timely Therapy: - When giving a solid evidence to support an argument, always seek to include surprises.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #12:
“Rationalization may be defined as self-deception by reasoning.” - U.S. psychoanalyst Horney K. (1885 - 1952)

Have you ever heard of a prominent figure who was in a very hot scandal?
Did his or her arguments and denials not lead to his or her eventual demise?
Have you ever seen an individual of high reputation fall down the slippery slope?
But managed to shallowly survive only through some embarrassing public confessions?
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Rationalization Trap affirms that justifications can lead to silly or immoral acts.
Distinguished Developer: Festinger (1957).

UNDERTAKING a particular TASK entails having consistency between our actions and our beliefs.
PROFUSE inconsistency implies either changing our actions or our beliefs; so as to restore consistency.
GIVEN that we have already started doing something, then we cannot CHANGE what has been done.
REALLY, when in this situation we must CHANGE what we believe, particularly ‘Why I am doing this’.
ACTING to reduce dissonance can end up as a whole set of justifications and RATIONALIZATIONS.
DESPERATELY, this may lead to ridiculousness, one DEFENSE after another until we are out of shape.
ESCHEW unthinking reaction, by tolerating dissonance for long enough so as to decide appropriately.
Timely Therapy: - A strong need to explain our actions is internal, as we tell ourselves the solid reasons.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #13:
The illusory happy state (lineaments of Gratified Desire) is getting the victor’s palm without the dust of racing.

Perhaps you had money to spare?
Was it not wise for you to invest some of it?
Did you overvalue the short term gratification or the pleasure?
Which you got from buying food or clothes, and which led you not to invest?
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Hyperbolic Discounting is falling for small instant benefits against big delayed ones.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Richard Julius Herrnstein (1930 – 1994).

UNDILUTED Hyperbolic Discounting is our inclination to choose immediate rewards over future ones.
POOR decision-making is the end result because it incentivizes impulsivity and immediate gratification.
GENERAL decisions that prioritise short-term gratification often detract from our long-term well-being.
REALLY, Hyperbolic Discounting is an occurrence of a larger phenomenon called “delay discounting.”
AS delays in receiving rewards increase, the value of rewards is discounted in accordance with the delay.
DULY, we humans are bad long-term planners, and therefore subject to what is called “temporal myopia.”
EVALUATING and seeing the future effectively is our basic undoing, as there is always some uncertainty.
Timely Therapy: - Short-term thinking has negative implications for individuals and all sorts of professions.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #14:
Come, let us reason together; synergy takes place best where there is Trust; the foundation for coordination.

Differences of perspectives lead to arguments.
{Argument = Perspective A - Perspective B}
Differences of expectations lead to conflicts.
{Conflict = Expectation A - Expectation B}
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Identity Negotiation looks at agreement regarding the roles assumed in an interaction.
Distinguished Developer: American social and personality psychologist William B. Swann (b. 1952).

UNTAINTED Identity Negotiation is how we reach agreements regarding “who is who” in relationships.
PEOPLE are consequently expected to remain faithful to the IDENTITIES they have agreed to assume.
GAINFULLY, the process of Identity Negotiation thus establishes what people expects of one another.
ROBUSTLY, Identity Negotiation provides the interpersonal “GLUE” that holds relationships together.
AFFIRMATIVELY, the first order of business in social interaction is establishing a “working consensus”.
DULY, one (perceiver) encourages the other (target) to behave in ways that confirm one’s expectancies.
EXPECTANCIES of perceivers clashing with the Self-Views of targets, may result in a “battle of wills”.
Timely Therapy: - Identity negotiation is the means through which conflicting tendencies are reconciled.

Essential Etiquettes

R#54. On being the kind who is CONFUSED as on how to behave in certain situations.

BQ#5. What density of AMIABILITY is vital in CONQUERING CONFUSION, as a function of efficaciously employing ESSENTIAL ETIQUETTES?--->

“Things fall apart; the center cannot hold;
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere
The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity.”
- Irish poet and playwright W.B Yeats (1865 - 1939)

“In business we cut each other’s throats, but now and then we sit around the same table and behave—for the sake of the ladies.”
- Turkish-born Greek shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis (1900? - 1975), referring to his rivalry with shipping tycoon Stavros Niarchos.

“Love of honour and honour of love.”
- English poet, courtier, and soldier Philip Sidney (1554 - 1586), referring to the ideal of chivalry.

“Clarity is the politeness of the man of letters.”
- French writer Jules Renard (1864 - 1910)

“In England only uneducated people show off their knowledge; nobody quotes Latin or Greek authors in the course of conversation, unless he has never read them.”
- Hungarian-born British writer and humorist George Mikes (1912 - 1987)

“At a dinner party one should eat wisely but not too well, and talk well but not too wisely.”
- British writer Somerset Maugham (1874 - 1965)

“It is the unbroken testimony of all history that alcoholic liquors have been used by the strongest, wisest, handsomest, and in every way best races of all times.”
- British writer, critic, and educator George Edward Bateman Saintsbury (1845 - 1933)

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind”.
- American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910)

“I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure — which is: Try to please everybody.”
- U.S. journalist Herbert Bayard Swope (1882 - 1958)

“Gentlemen do not take soup at luncheon.”
- Attributed to British statesman George Nathaniel Curzon (1859 - 1925)

“He is the only man since my dear husband died, to have the effrontery to kiss me on the lips.”
- Attributed to the Queen Mother Elizabeth (1900 - 2002), referring to President Jimmy Carter.

“It is unbecoming for a cardinal to ski badly.”
- Attributed to Polish pope John Paul II (1920 - 2005), replying to the suggestion that it was inappropriate for him, a cardinal, to ski.

“‘It is very pleasant dining with a bachelor,’ said Miss Matty, softly, as we settled ourselves in the counting-house. ‘I only hope it is not improper; so many pleasant things are!’”
- British novelist Elizabeth Gaskell (1810 - 1865)

“Thou canst not serve both cod and salmon.”
- British writer and journalist Ada Leverson (1862 - 1933), in a reply when offered a choice of fish at dinner.

“Discretion is the better part of reading people...If you let them know what you know, you will blow any chance of using your own insight effectively.”
- U.S. sports agent, promoter, and lawyer Mark McCormack (1930 - )
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AS A SOCIAL ANIMAL, your ability to interact well with other people will give you an upperhand in the society. By behaving in a manner that shows your good breeding and respect to others, they will reciprocate and treat you in high esteem. However, be wary of conforming so much to the social norms and to the expectations of others, at the expense of diluting or losing your authentic individuality. Each one of us is assigned the role by our society, as a wife, mother and doctor, for instance. However, we should strike a compromise between our true self and the requirements of society, for to neglect the development of our social selves is to run the risk of becoming asocial, whereas complete identification with one’s social image may be detrimental to ones emotional and even intellectual development. ‘Sociability’ entails systematic image control. Unfortunately, most of us are not masters of our own image and are victim of how others define us, getting trapped on the role that society foists on us. Consequently our power becomes limited to the tiny amount allotted to us, the role we have selected or have been forced to assume. As such, we are called upon to continue sharpening our Socialisation Quotient, by forging a new identity, one of our own making, one that has no boundaries assigned to it by an envious and resentful world. In the broadness of social milieu, our ‘Sociability’ should invoke in us the ability to play many roles to be whatever the moment requires, adapting ourselves to various situations, knowing to be all things to the many people we interact with on a daily basis. By taking note of their temperaments, reflecting their cherished images on our own, changing our mood discreetly in accordance to their tastes – without actually betraying our images and our tastes - we master the art of winning over everyone, for like attracts like.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of ESSENTIAL ETIQUETTE thus:

Entrenching the intensive love of honour and also unleashing the extensive honour of love.
Social tact is making your company feel at home, even though you really wish they were.
Seeking to do as you would be done by, is the surest method that is known of pleasing all.
Everyone should work for another out of own WILL, and on terms of a regular covenant.
Nurture positive feeling of altruism and yours will be the Earth and everything that is in it.
The power of morals is a call to recognise one’s heritage, to build a sense of community.
If you are gracious and courteous to strangers, it shows you are a real citizen of the world.
Audacity in LIFE is important, but being tactful in it, is knowing how far one can go too far.
Lonely, alone, or extremely busy, you have no excuse to drop manners, be crude or impolite.

Even when you have to kill an animal for its meat or skin, it costs you nothing to be polite.
Think seriously before you utter any word; a human being’s word is God in human being.
In all situations, no action is in itself good or bad, but only such according to convention.
Quench the thirst for success by being punctual; it is the politeness of princes and princess.
Unconditionally be true to your SELF, and consequently you will never be false to anyone.
Etiquette without knowledge is useless, and knowledge without etiquette is very dangerous.
There is nothing like being polite by telling lies; you can only be polite by telling the truth.
The reciprocal civility of a human being is one of the most lovely scenes in the farce of LIFE.
Endeavor to remain plain to the last; always answer for the integrity of your conscience.

“I’m going to always rise above the doubt that may exist about me.”- American rapper and actor Clifford Joseph Harris Jr. a.k.a. T.I (b. 1980). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: PROPAGATING the AMIABILITY for CONQUERING CONFUSION as on how to conduct yourself.--->

Learning basic rules of good etiquette, or protocols (general rules of behaviour), would be very helpful, not only in your personal LIFE, but also in your social, academic and future professional LIFE. They will help to refine your social graces, and improve the impression that others have of you. You should acquint yourself, with the minimum behaviour expected of you, if you are to distinguish yourself as someone worthy of respect. Simply put, good manners are a sign that you have consideration for others, and extending these common courtesies shows that you have ‘class’ and ‘good breeding’. Having bad manners, can be associated with having poor character. However, you should keep in mind that, there is such a thing as being too polite. You should be kind, but not be uptight with all the “polite” rules. As with everything else in this world, there is a happy medium between the two extremes. Try your level best to remain composed during irritating or embarrassing situations, by handling every occurence with grace and poise. Instead of reacting negatively, choose to remain calm, collected, and positive. This conscious choice will allow you to remain in control of your emotions, actions, and words. Strive to develop composure by overlooking minor annoyances, brushing off embarrassing situations, and staying positive through stressful situations.

Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to CONQUER CONFUSION.
SOLID conduct is moral, according as it makes the individual or the group more integrated and coherent.
UPWARD, ‘Existence’ dips its colours in honour of you, who marches boldly into the progress of society.
MEDITATE about this philosophy: A thousand sword blows on the head is honourable than death in bed.
MONUMENT to the honour, is what you must hold up to, rather than endure the infamy of our species.
ART in real LIFE is whereby, the degree of brilliance in action is left to you as a warrior in your honour.
ROBUSTLY, go forward into battle of LIFE and do not shrink away since there is no escape from death.
YE shall count it the greatest sin to prefer mere existence to honour. This is losing the reasons for living.

PREPARE yourself to diligently PROPAGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for CONQUERING CONFUSION.

Polite, acceptable behaviour in the general society is governed by rules and conventions: Etiquette.
Real origin of the word ‘Etiquette’ is from Mid-18^th century French, which literally means “ticket”.
Every time you fall, pick up something, or kiss the ground; this turns a shameful action into positive.
Perfect behaviour is born of complete sensitivity to those around; their customs and belief systems.
Anyone can be heroic from time to time, but you have to be elegant all the time; which is not easy.
Robust humour, concise clarity, alloyed to the brevity of wit, are the attributes of a well bred person.
Empathy, sympathy, and courtesy are not dead in our African society; have merely been subdued.

REALISE that PROPAGATING your innate ‘quest’ for CONQUERING CONFUSION is in your ‘power.’

Respect customs, they are basically the unwritten laws, by which people keep even Rulers in awe.
Enjoying good food, with good table manners, is to elevate yourself to the level of Kings or Queens.
A well mannered person, worth all respect, even if he or she is alone, forms an orderly queue of one.
Lovely friends and good manners will carry you where money and material possesions will never go.
It is better to drop all your friends, than to drop all your MANNERS, the dishonour is hard to reverse.
Seek to combine the manners of your traditional community with the morals of your religious group.
Excuse yourself anytime you have a disturbance with: “And now excuse me while I interrupt myself.”

EMPOWER yourself to PROPAGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for CONQUERING CONFUSION.

Exaggerations, are the reserves of the weakling; simply say what ought to, and do what you should.
Manners are the need of all; even if you think you are so pretty, you cannot get away with anything.
People are rarely assertive and sometimes nervous; do not wait to speak out until you are spoken to.
Only uneducated people show off their knowledge; in the course of conversation quote authors less.
When decorating your table for the purposes of a luncheon or a party, never have high flower vases.
Essentially avoid other things or objects that obstruct the view of the beautiful lady across the table.
Reduce them so as not to prevent the witticism of the man, who is your opposite, reaching you.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to PROPAGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of CONQUERING CONFUSION.

Men must avoid offering a lady their gloved hand, although women are always allowed to do so.
Every time a lady approaches, whom one wishes to shake hands, simply remove right-hand glove.
Do not keep her waiting as you remove the glove, shake hands, offer a simple word of apology.
If asked by your host or hostess (at a party) whether you are enjoying, just reply: “Certainly I am.”
At a dinner party one should essentially eat wisely but not too well, and talk well but not too wisely.
Teeth must be cleaned frequently, especially after meals, and it must never be done at the table.
Even if your slogan is: “My dress my choice,” do not wear in a way that provokes others emotions.

INDULGE yourself in PROPAGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards CONQUERING CONFUSION.

It is WRONG to do what everyone else does; being well bled does not mean being an empty shell.
Never water down your identity; your body shape should dictate what you wear; be your own self.
Do not allow yourself to be on the “judgement parlour” of others as you wear in an undoing manner.
Usual ‘dress code’ of your society, should compel you to ask yourself “what am I communicating?”
Let not the eyes of people be always on you as you walk on the streets; it is uncomfortable to you.
Good breeding lies in concealing how much we think of ourselves and how little we think of others.
Environmental considerations should dictate how you wear, what you eat, how you express yourself.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for PROPAGATING the ‘compulsion’ of CONQUERING CONFUSION.

Understanding that culture is dynamic, means knowing what to socially emulate and what to discard.
Treatment in an office or any other social setting is a function of how you will have treated yourself.
Intent on forcing others to believe things, is not a nice way to behave, even if you are a philosopher.
Lord of Lords has set you two great objects, the suppression of folly and the reformation of manners.
It is always a good idea to be on the polite and amiable side; politeness and amiability breed wealth.
Stop getting tied up in the procedure and thinking up reasons why you should be kind and lovely.
Entirely, we are born charming and fresh, but we must be civilised before we are fit to be in society.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to PROPAGATE CONQUERING CONFUSION.

Must walk as you glitter, be human when you talk, and flutter pulses when you say: ‘Good-Morning.’
On no occasion should a man wear much jewellery; perhaps one ring, a slender watch, and a tie pin.
Never learn by being hypocritical; you do not need to pretend to be polite so as to eventually be.
In all phases of historical evolution, outworn MORALS are as malignant as worn-out IDEOLOGIES.
To correct your wayward ways of behaving, is not to imply that you not quite a lady or a gentleman.
Of Courtesy, it is much more than Courage of Heart or Holiness; the Grace of God lies in Courtesy.
Responsive morals are valuable only as they help to change society; to make the system work well.

“Through tatter’d clothes small vices do appear;
Robes and furr’d gowns hide all.”
- Shakespeare in King Lear (1605), Act 4, Scene 6

“They brought one Pinch, a hungry lean-fac’d villain,
A mere anatomy, a mountebank,
A threadbare juggler, and a fortune- teller,
A needy, hollow-ey’d, sharp-looking wretch,
A living-dead man.”
- Shakespeare in The Comedy of Errors (1594), Act 5, Scene 1

“Thou hast a grim appearance, and thy face
Bears a command in’t; though thy tackle’s torn,
Thou show’st a noble vessel. What’s thy name?
- Aufidius on seeing Coriolanus “in mean apparel, disguis’d and muffled,” in Shakespeare’s Coriolanus (1607), Act 4, Scene 5

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on efficaciously employing ESSENTIAL ETIQUETTES:
Apparently you are PROPAGATING your solid struggle to CONQUER CONFUSION.
You have gone a long way in CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
As well as IRRIGATING your dauntless determination.
No sooner than later, will you NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour

“....in the very torrent, tempest, and — as I may say — whirlwind of passion, you must acquire and beget a temperance, that may give it smoothness.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 2

“Come, come; good wine is a good familiar creature if it be well used; exclaim no more against it.”
- Shakespeare in Othello, Act 2, Scene 3
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#I. VITAL MODERN MANNERS, PROTOCALS, and SOCIAL GRACES--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GENERALLY be upbeat, optimistic and confident. Start your day with positivity and enthusiasm about your day’s agenda. Be courteous. Treat everyone you come across as you wish to be treated. Smiles are contagious. Greet your friends or when you arrive. Say goodbye when you leave. Turn the ringer off. When entering any public establishment the first thing you should do is set your cell phone to vibrate. Remember you do not have to answer every call, that is what voice mail is for. If you know that it is a call of importance, excuse yourself and move to the lobby or another room to take the call. Keep the call time short and let your caller know that you will return their call at your earliest convenience.

ii. ALWAYS be polite by acting in a demure and professional manner. Be sure to say, ‘please,’ ‘thank you,’ ‘excuse me,’ and ‘you are welcome,’ as appropriate. These phrases show that you are considerate of others. Even if someone is rude, it is better to be polite to them rather than sinking to their level. Some people will take offense to the phrase, ‘no problem,’ since it belittles your own effort, and thus it renders a person’s thanks as meaningless. Some people actually do make a big deal out of this. Keep gum chewing to a minimum. If you must chew gum for a legitimate reason such as having bad breath or dry mouth, try to do it in your car between stops. If it is absolutely necessary to chew gum in a public place, please do not smack it, chomp it, or blow bubbles with it.

iii. TRY to groom yourself appropriately. Whether you are going to your school, or just to the grocery store, your pristine manners will go unnoticed if you are not well-groomed. Take a shower every day, and keep your hair, skin, nails and clothing as clean as possible. Wear freshly laundered clothes that are appropriate for the setting you are in (whether it is a school uniform or a business-casual look for work). Do not groom yourself in public. If you have something that needs picking, scratching, combing, or any other form of grooming, please do not do it in mixed company. Take your personal needs to the restroom or wait until you get home. Ladies, it is okay to quickly and discretely apply a little lipstick without using a mirror. It is not, however, okay to pull out a compact, and a suitcase full of cosmetics and start redoing your face. Also, please refrain from clipping and filing your nails in public. This is unbelievably crude.

iv. ESSENTIALLY, do not prick anything. This includes nose, ears, bellybutton, teeth, toes, etc. Do not scratch yourself either. Of utmost important always refrain from spitting, and do not smoke in mixed company (although smoking is utterly despised here). Be punctual. It is basic courtesy to keep one’s appointments in a timely manner. There is nothing worse than to be kept waiting and if you are the offending party who is late, it is just rude. Do not swear, shout, or lose your temper. Keeping your anger in check is the action of all civilised individuals and shows your grace and composure.

v. WHEN you are indoors, remove your hat. Upon entering any household or establishment, you should immediately remove your hat. It is considered rude to wear a hat (mostly ball caps these days) indoors. Do not check your watch. Unless you absolutely must be somewhere, it is rude to check your watch constantly. Refrain from this action when at a party or dinner or any function. It is just suicidal when in an interview.

vi. AVOID any discourse or worse, argument about the dreaded three. Never discuss religion, politics, or finances with company. Also, you should avoid any conversation about work. If something is not directly work-related, then it may be suitable. These subjects are a powder keg waiting to explode, and while you are on the subject of exploding, please refrain from speaking loudly, yelling, or using profanity. Elevator patience. When the door finally opens after you have been waiting for an elevator, let the people trying to leave the elevator go through the door first. Trying to enter an elevator before allowing people to exit exhibits poor manners and slows the entire process.

vii. YOU do not have to point or stare. It is just rude. Hold the door. Whether male or female, hold open a door you have just passed through for the person behind you. Keep to the right. On the sidewalk, in stairwells. Say please and thank you. To waiters, flight attendants, store clerks, cab drivers and all the little things that go a long way. Circulate at a party or social gathering. Whether you are a hostess or guest, the people, not the food or drink, should be your main focus. Keep food or drink, briefcases or files in your left hand. keep your right hand free for handshakes. Be perceptive. Survey a situation without stereotypes and prejudices, and allow the best objective judgment to prevail.

#II. VERILY ELEMENTAL and CRUCIAL DINING or TABLE MANNERS--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GROOM yourself to NEVER speak with food in your mouth. This is socially outrageous and medically dangerous (you may choke). Swallow the food first, then proceed to put accross your point.

ii. AFFIRMATIVELY learn to NEVER chew with your mouth open. It is an obvious rule, but one that is easy to forget when you are enjoying a delicious meal.

iii. TRUE gentleness is endowing yourself to say ‘excuse me’ whenever you need to leave the table. This is irrepective of the company you are in. It works wonders among your juniors, nourishing to your equals and is respectful to your superiors.

iv. ENNOBLING as it is, ask for someone to pass you a dish or a seasoning; whether sharing the same table or or not. Never reach across a dish or someone else’s plate to reach something; instead, politely ask the person sitting next to you to ‘please pass the _____.’

v. With all due respect, elbows must NEVER be put on the table when you are eating. It is an old standby to admonish people for putting elbows on the table during a meal. If the meal has yet to begin or is over, however, putting your elbows on the table is acceptable.

vi. APPROPRIATELY holding your utensils probably depends on the style you gravitate towards. According to American style, if you are cutting food, you will transfer the fork to your non-dominant hand and put the knife in your dominant hand. After the food is cut, you will lay down the blade of the knife on the edge of the plate, and switch the fork back to your dominant hand to move the food to your mouth. In regard to Continental style, the fork remains in the left hand, while you use the right hand to hold the knife and cut your food. Once you are done cutting, you might lay the blade of the knife on the edge of the plate, or just keep the knife in your hand.

vii. YEARN to know how to rest your utensils. How you put your utensils on your plate communicates to the service staff whether you are finished eating or you still plan to continue. For the purpose of these instructions, imagine the dinner plate is like the face of a clock. If you have finished eating, lay your fork and knife side-by side so that the prongs and blade are slightly above the center of the plate, and so that the handles are pointing between 3 and 4 O’clock. If you plan to continue eating, lay down your fork and knife so that the prongs and blade are near the center, with the handle of one utensil pointing at 8 O’clock and the handle of the other pointing at 4 O’clock.

#III. BASIC CONVERSATIONAL and COMMUNICATIONAL COURTESY--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GENERATE within youself the necessity of taming your tongue. One of the easiest ways to be good mannered and substantial is to be silent and only talk when you have something important to say. This adds weight to your words. In any discussion, keep the volume of your voice as low as possible while still allowing people to hear you, and do not use slang or filler words (such as ‘like,’ ‘uh,’ ‘so...’ and so on). Use prudent response. In conducting a phone interview for instance, start by asking the other person ‘What can I do to make today as easy as possible?’ Or ‘How can I make your LIFE easier today?’ This sets a nice tone for the interview, gives you an indication of the other person’s personality, and will give you some good information to start with.

ii. AFFIRM sensitivity. Do not discuss rude topics, such as bodily functions, gossip, dirty jokes, swear words, or anything you would not want your Mom (or someone you have a crush on) hearing you say. Have a serious tone. When asking someone about a touchy subject, keep your voice the same that you would if you were asking about the weather. This shows that you are taking them seriously and will allow them to be more comfortable about answering.

iii. TRUTHFULLY listen. Do not interrupt or override another person when he or she is speaking. Practice being a good listener, and talk when it is your turn. Compliment the othere person. Offer your congratulations to someone who has just made a big accomplishment (such as graduating or being promoted), has added something to his or her family (such as scoring good marks, getting married or having a child), or has otherwise done something worthy of praise. Congratulate anyone who beats you in a race, sporting event, election or other competition.

iv. EFFECTIVELY acknowledging the presence of another person, whether you are in an informal or formal situation, is a fundamental point of having good manners. (Failing to do so can be seen as an insult in most settings.) If you are greeting someone you know as a family member or close friend, an informal prudent greeting is enough. It can be as simple as ‘Hey, how is it going?’ If you are greeting someone who’s an elder, business associate, church leader, or other formal acquaintance, stick to a formal greeting unless you are instructed to do otherwise. Greet the other person using his or her title (such as ‘Mrs. Otieno’ or ‘Pastor Mwangi’), or use ‘Sir’ or ‘Madam.’ Avoid slang such as ‘hey’ or ‘hi,’ and try to speak in full sentences. Something like, ‘Hello, Mrs. Kilonzo. How are you today?’ could be appropriate. Make any necessary greeting gestures. For informal greetings, how you physically interact with that person is your choice - you could do nothing at all, or offer a hug, handshake, or other greeting based on your relationship with that person. For formal greetings, though, it is appropriate to offer a handshake or bow your head forward slightly. If the person you are greeting formally goes in for a hug or an air kiss, accept it graciously.

v. WHEN a service person is helping you, in church, or (sometimes) on public transportation, in the bathroom, or in the middle of a meeting, it is simply impolite to use a phone. . When talking on the phone in a public space, keep in mind that everything you say is no longer just your news. Keep your voice at ‘indoor voice’ level, or lower. Generally, people with good manners do not talk about potentially embarrassing private issues in public. Timing is also very critical. Do not phone before 7:00 am and after 9:00 pm unless in an emergency or an important overseas call. Also avoid calling people during meals, work, and school. People do not expect you to drop in and visit at these times, unless it is arranged. This includes texting, though you would obviously not text for emergencies.

vi. ANY time you do disturb someone and it is the wrong number, then ‘please’ have the decency to say, “I am so sorry! I have the wrong number!” Do not just hang up. Likewise, if a person with a wrong number phoned you, politely point out that they have called the wrong number. Your tone, carries much more than just a tone, and reflects your character and personality even on the phone! Remember: your listener cannot see you, so your phone-voice becomes your facial expressions, gestures, personality, and character. Always check your voice when speaking; speak in a pleasant tone and very clearly. Smile through your voice! What they hear will make a positive or negative impression.

vii. YOU should be able to manage conversations amicably. If you must carry on two conversations at once you should always excuse yourself from one and resume it later. Say, “I am sorry, can you hold on a minute; my boss is telling me something,” and wait for the person’s answer. If the personal conversation will last more than a minute, it would be better to ask, “Can I call you back? My mother needs to talk to me and it may take a few minutes”. Pardon bodily functions. Say “excuse me” if you belch or cough (or make any other unavoidable noise with your body). Laughing at a belch is poor manners and makes a person seem crude. It may be funny to your friends but others around you see it as poor character. Remember, though, that just because you say “excuse me” that does not mean you can belch at any time you like. Avoid doing it in front of anyone. In case of needing a washroom or restroom break, say something to get off the phone, without sharing too much information. All you really need to say is “Can you hold on for a few minutes? I will be right back.”

#IV. REQUISITES of USING SOCIAL MEDIA POSITIVELY/HEALTHILY--->

Everyday YOUTH social behaviour may seem appalling. There is the online chat, the texting, the surfing, and the emergence of a new youthful sphere that is conducted digitally. That trend is real. Is it, as most adults fear, turning kids into emoticon-addled zombies, unable to connect, unable to think, form a coherent thought or even make eye contact? Could this be true? Could the parents be raising hedonistic kids who live only in the thrill of the computer-generated moment and who are in distinct danger of detaching themselves from what the older members of society would consider the real world?

New technologies always provoke generational panic, which usually has more to do with adult fears than with the lives of YOUTHS. In the 1930s, parents fretted that radio was gaining “an invincible hold of their children”. In the 80s, the great danger was the Sony Walkman – producing the YOUTH who “throbs with orgasmic rhythms”, as philosopher Allan Bloom claimed. When you look at today’s digital activity, the facts are much more positive than you might expect.

Indeed, social scientists who study young people have found that their digital use can be inventive and even beneficial. This is true not just in terms of their social lives, but their education too. So if you use a ton of social media, do you become unable, or unwilling, to engage in face-to-face contact? The evidence suggests not. Research has found that the most avid texters are also the kids most likely to spend time with friends in person. One form of socialising does not replace the other. It augments it.

If used positively, social media can offer many benefits personally, socially and even professionally. It may allow you to participate in conversations with a wide variety of leaders that you would not have access to otherwise. The online world may offer you remarkable opportunities to become literate and creative because you can now publish ideas not just to your friends, but to the world. And it turns out that when you write for strangers, your sense of “authentic audience” should make you work harder, push yourself further, and create powerful new communicative forms. You will eventually develop skills in cooperating with far-flung strangers and keeping a cool head while mediating arguments.

Our social networks can tell a story about us. So make sure that the story your X or Facebook tells about you is a good story. Your online reputation is very important. For example, the first thing a hiring manager is going to do when they receive your application is Google your name. With a few clicks, your Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr and an array of other information about you is at their fingertips. To help avoid confusion and hurt feelings, Internet users have developed a loose set of rules known as ‘netiquette’ (network etiquette).

Follow these few simple rules and you are well on your way to building, or restoring, an online reputation. Using social media positively does not mean you can not have fun and use it to express yourself; however, you want to ensure that everything you post you are OK with anyone seeing. Once you click post, there is no looking back! Like it or not, your social networks reflect you. Make sure you look like the shining star that you truly are.

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GIVE it a clean look. Be entirely sure about what you are posting. Party photos with alcohol are an absolute no-no. In future, would you want to have your boss see these photos? Make sure to post content that you feel positively reflects you, your creativity and your skills.

ii. AVOID trusting privacy settings. You have a private X account so you can post anything you want? This is decidedly not the case. Privacy settings make it harder to see your full account, but it is not impossible. Under no circumstances should you rely on privacy settings as a way to protect inappropriate content.

iii. TANGIBLY make sure you are well-polished. Keep it classy! Discover your brand, or what you want people to think of you. Proper spelling and grammar is always a plus, but it may not be your brand. Think about what you want people to think of you and go with it.

iv. ESTABLISH a courteous tone. E-mail is a speedy medium. You can dash out a note in a minute, and, with the help of a ‘reply’ button, respond to another person’s e-mail message in perhaps a matter of seconds. The fast pace of e-mail makes it easy to send a message without fully considering the nuances of its tone. If you do not take the time to think about your words and how they may be perceived, your e-mail messages may seem overly blunt or even insulting. A simple rule can keep you from writing inadvertently offensive e-mail messages: Always ask yourself how you would feel if you received the message you are sending. If you would bristle at its terseness, you can assume the reader will as well. If you are unsure how the message might be taken, ask for someone else’s opinion, or let it sit overnight and read it again the next morning with a fresh eye. If someone sends you a rude message (or ‘flame’, in e-mail slang), take a moment to calm down before responding. The best way to douse a flame is to write back using the most neutral and measured tone you can muster. In some cases it is best not to respond to a flame.

v. WHEN deciding who should receive an E-mail message. Your E-mail system may allow you to send a message to many or even all of your family members, friends, colleagues or co-workers with the click of a button. On rare occasions, this feature can be enormously useful. Few messages, however, are actually relevant to all your family members, colleagues, friends, or everyone in a place of work. Before sending an e-mail message, always take a moment to ask yourself who really needs to see it. In determining who should receive it, err on the side of caution. Once in a great while, you may omit an important person from your mailing list. Remember, though, that an occasional oversight is a far more forgivable offense than continually cluttering your colleagues’ inboxes with messages that have nothing to do with them.

vi. AMICABLY responding to E-mail Messages. If you receive a request for information that may take a few days to compile, respond immediately with an e-mail message that explains the situation and gives an estimate of when you will be able to reply in full. When responding to an E-mail message using a reply button, do not type in a new subject line. Instead allow the reply function to post automatically the same subject line that appeared in the message you are answering with ‘Re’ (for ‘in reference to’) before it. On some E-mail systems, the ‘Reply’ function can be set to copy the message you are answering under your response. If the message to which you are responding is lengthy, delete all of the original message except the information that is directly pertinent to your response. Often the clearest way to respond to an e-mail message is to create a question-and-answer structure, using quotes from your correspondent’s message as the questions.

vii. YOU may at times need to forward messages. Most E-mail systems allow you to send a message you have received to a third party by clicking a ‘Forward’ button. Before forwarding any message, always ask the permission of the writer. There may be a good reason that the original message was sent only to you. Keep the ease of forwarding in mind when you write your own e-mail messages. If you send a message to one person that insults another, you run the risk that someone may accidentally (or not so accidentally) forward your note to the subject of your remarks. As a rule, you should never make an unflattering comment about anyone in an e-mail message that you would not be willing to say to that person’s face.

#V. WAYS to UNDERSTAND the PSYCHOLOGY of HUMOUR and JOKES--->

Why can the same joke have a different effect on people? Why can a person find a joke very funny while another person finds the same joke offensive? Why do some people laugh much more than others when they hear certain jokes? Is there another factor apart from humour that makes people laugh? Yes there is. Listen to Irish-born British novelist C. S. Lewis (1898 - 1963): “The coarse joke proclaims that we have here an animal which finds its own animality either objectionable or funny.” “Humor is laughing at what you haven't got when you ought to have it,” thus informed U.S. novelist, playwright, and short-story writer Langston Hughes (1902 - 1967). English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Love’s Labour’s Lost, Act 5, Scene 2 adds his insight here:

A jest’s prosperity lies in the ear
Of him that hears it, never in the tongue
Of him that makes it.

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GOALS which are psychological may be discerned in one’s jokes. Each single action that a person takes even if it was as simple as telling a joke reflects his or her unconscious desires and psychological makeup. Contrary to common beliefs, jokes are not only told to make people laugh but they are told to help people satisfy some of their important psychological needs.

ii. AGE regression is another factor in jokes. Early memories (the childhood memories a person can recall or even those embedded in the unconscious) reflects one’s psychological goals to a great extent and jokes are no different! You can know a lot about the psychology of a person by just knowing about the types of jokes he or she prefers or by listening to some of his or her jokes.

iii. TELLING jokes may be used as an indication or a show of superiority. Many people utilize jokes as an expression medium to demean others or simply to feel at a higher pedestal than others. But here be warned by Italian writer and humanist Giovanni Boccaccio (1313 - 1375): “It often happens, that he who endeavors to ridicule other people, especially in things of a serious nature, becomes himself a jest, and frequently to his great cost.”

iv. EXISTENTIALLY, human beings love appraissal and approval, and seek it through all possible ways. A Sad person might feel better on the short term when he or she listens to a sad song just because it resonates with his or her emotions. People like it when external sources acknowledge their emotions and repeat their beliefs. The same thing exactly happens when a person listens to a joke. Before a person laughs at a joke his or her mind quickly assesses the beliefs in the joke and compares them to his or her belief system. If the joke supported a person’s belief by repeating a statement that he or she believes in, then most probably he or she will find the joke funnier provided that all other factors are constant. Jokes, whether you say them or listen to them, are considered a great way for understanding a person’s beliefs. If a person liked a joke so much (you can easily know this if he or she shared it online or laughed out loud at it) then most probably it matched his belief system. If a person said a joke then know for sure that it appealed to his or her belief system earlier and that is why he or she is repeating it.

v. WISHES, desires and dreams are what most people joke about. Ever passed by a Ferrari or an expensive car then a friend of yours said something like “Oh I forgot my keys”? While this might seem like a simple joke it actually tells a lot about that person’s desire for money, status and luxury.

vi. AN indirect way of putting enemies or rivals down is what some jokes entails. People always use jokes to make fun of their enemies especially in politics where they feel better after insulting a person or a group indirectly using a joke. “Children, having decided that a joke is funny, go on repeating it, laughing more loudly each time, until they collapse in hysteria. The mental age of a man might be gauged by observing how often he can laugh at the same joke,” so said Canadian novelist and critic Robertson Davies (1913 - 1995)

vii. YOUR belief systems, are supported by your jokes The jokes people say do reflect their beliefs but in more subtle ways. Just learn how to analyse every word of the jokes you listen to and shortly you will become able to find a lot of information about a person right after listening to few of his jokes. You can also make a test to find out whether a person believes in a certain thing by telling a related joke and watching for his response. As a general rule the louder the laughter the more the joke appealed to the person.

#VI. ROBUST RULES for INERRANT INTRODUCTIONS and PARTINGS--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GREETINGS should be as simple as they are cheerful. In as much as they are a cordial and often friendly conventional gesture or expression, they are used when welcoming, meeting, or addressing somebody. It is a positive affirmation of the warmth of one’s own heart. Whenever you meet anyone, new or familiar, you should offer an appropriate salutation, welcoming, or reception (Good morning, good afternoon, etc.). When indoors, you should offer a handshake as suitable or fitting and if outside, a nod of the head or tip of the hat to a lady. Men should always stand when greeting someone (women, actually, may remain seated).

ii. ALWAYS introduce people that are unfamiliar. This is usually the duty of a host or hostess, but if you should realise that two people have not been introduced, the onus is upon you to introduce the two. Typically, it is the rule that people that have not been introduced should not talk to each other, but this rule has since fallen by the wayside. An important point: when introducing mixed company, you should remember that:
==>The person who is of higher social rank should have the second person introduced to him or her. That is, the person of lower rank is the one who should be presented to the person of higher rank. This is relatively easy in some situations, but here are some guidelines for when it is less clear-cut: younger people should be presented to elders, men should be presented to women, and laypeople should be presented to clergy, public servants, members of the military, or other people of higher rank. If you are still confused, just go with your best judgment.
==>Start out an introduction by naming the person of higher rank, then say “I would like to introduce you to..” or “this is...”, and name the person of lower rank.
==>After the two people have greeted each other, offer some information about each person. For instance, you might say, “I have known Auma since primary school” or “Mrs. Njoroge is my mother’s dear friend.” Whatever you say, you should be able to start or sustain a short conversation, which you are responsible for carrying.
==>When you are being introduced to someone else, look that person in the eyes and remember his or her name. After the introduction, greet the other person and say something like “How do you do?”, and offer a handshake. Never ever say “Pleased to meet you.” It is very LOW class manners to say that. If someone does not hold out their hand to shake, simply nod your head and proceed as if nothing has happened.

iii. TENDERLY refer to everyone by title. This means that everyone should be called mister, missis, reverend, doctor, general, miss, etc. Until a person grants you permission to call him or her by first name, you should not use his or her first name. If you do not know a person’s name, or if they are of significantly higher social standing, you should use Sir or Madam.

iv. EFFORTLESSLY welcome someone inside. If you are hosting, you must invite all your guests inside. If you are visiting, it is rude to enter unless you are invited in. When you do enter, be sure to wipe your feet. If you invite someone into your home, you must take his jacket, gloves, umbrella, etc. Even if all you are going to do is throw them on a table in a spare room.

v. WILLFULLY deliver a good handshake. You should stand still with feet set. Do not walk and shake hands. Make eye contact. Your handshake should occur during your introduction. Always offer your right, even if you are left-handed, unless you cannot offer your right for one reason or another. Squeeze with a firm grip, but not crushing. Shake once or twice, then let go. You may opt for a two-handed shake, which involves cupping the other person’s hand with your left hand, or putting your left hand on the other person’s forearm, elbow, or shoulder. This is usually a more intimate maneuver, and should be reserved for more intimate occasions. Some women will offer you their hand, but not for a handshake. They will offer it to you to hold. You take a lady’s hand, and you hold it. You should NEVER kiss a woman’s hand, unless you are in the presence of royalty. But it is permissible to hold a woman’s hand. Shaking is unnecessary. You should let go after a slight squeeze and a slight bow of the head. Of course, shaking hands in the regular fashion is more common and as acceptable.

vi. AFTER everything else a parting sentiment is imperative. When departing, you should again offer a handshake as appropriate, and offer a parting sentiment (Good day, good evening, good night, etc.)

vii. YOU have to behave very HONOURABLY when being HONOURED. If you are receiving an award, a prize, or a recogntion certificate, get it with your left hand while you shake the bestower’s hand with your right hand.

#VII. BODY LANGUAGE TRICKS that make you INSTANTLY LIKEABLE--->

You send people signals all day, without paying attention to them. The way you move your eyes, the way you shake a hand and so on. There are things you can do to send subconscious signals using body language that make people like you better, or at least give you the benefit of the doubt. Whenever we discuss techniques like these there are always one or two people who feel uncomfortable with ‘influencing’ someone with psychological tricks.

Manipulation is not negative.

Influencing is changing someone’s behaviour or mind.
Manipulation is intentionally influencing.
When you hear the word manipulation, you may immediately think of negative things. Please do not.
Manipulation is not bad. People with bad intentions are bad.

Example 1: Manipulative sneaky person

Bad people are bad. Bad people who manipulate are problematic. An example of this:
Mean Girl wants to reduce the social standing of Sweet Classmate
She tells the other classmate this person did something horrible
The class likes Sweet Classmate less
Sweet Classmate feels sad now

Example 2: Friendly manipulation

Manipulation can make everyone in a situation better off.

Party Person is an experienced manipulator
Party Person bumps into another person
Party Person smiles disarmingly and APOLOGIZES, even though the other person was wrong
Party Person does not get into a fight and has a great night

The problem with the Mean Girl example is not the manipulation, the problem is bad intentions and lying.
Our request: Have good intentions

We are assuming you will use these tricks with good intentions. Please do so.

Refresh to Reload!!!
- Timeless Truth Told Tangibly or Terribly Tattered Thrillingly(?) [7T’s] -

KW: APOLOGIZE, verb.
ED: To say that you are sorry for something that has upset or inconvenienced somebody else.
DD: To lay the foundation for a future ffence.

SECTION 1: ASSERTIVE ATTITUDE--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GEAR yourself towards being assertive in attitude. The human mind is judgmental, it is what it does. It is what kept us alive during evolution. We make judgments in split seconds: Is this person a threat? Is this person attractive? Is this person useful to my (social) survival? Pay attention to this instinct, but never act on it without knowing the person better. The tricks below will trigger you to behave in ways that are perceived well. This section is not strictly about body language, but these attitudes will subconsciously influence your body language.

ii. AMICABLY feel secure and project confidence. This one is so important, and you can never do this 100% of the time. Plus, there are certainly cases where not seeming confident can gain you likability points, but on average, the above holds true. There are two things to consider with this point: Try to remove things that make you uncomfortable. For instance a bad skin. Train yourself to help you feel secure, by for instance staying in shape.

iii. TRUST, take and treat everyone as a friend, unless proven otherwise. Why burn bridges before you have made them in the first place? It makes no sense: You have everything to gain. You have nothing to lose. You will notice soon enough if this person would/wants to be a good friend.

iv. EACH and every individual deserves respect, unless proven otherwise. Again, you have everything to gain and nothing to lose by treating people with esteem, admiration and deference. That does not mean you should kiss boots all day; it means you should not dismiss anyone or make them feel unimportant.

v. WONDROUSLY like everybody, until they do not deserve it. Strangers deserve to have the benefit of the doubt. In our world anyone can be anything, without looking like it. You may have met douchebags who looked kind and billionaires that behaved like excited children. Look at the cover of the book, but read a few pages before judging. Neither the douchebag or billionaire are ‘better’ than each other. But being around one may make you feel unhappy, and the other may make you feel gusto and enthusiasm.

vi. ASPIRE to think about what you can do for others. When you meet someone, do not think ‘what can they do for me?’ but rather ‘what can I do for them?’ Helping people is the best way to make them want to help you, and everybody wins. Note that we are not saying you should give unsolicited advice to make yourself seem smart. Help people if you genuinely and truly believe this person’s life would be better with the knowledge/help/contact that you can offer. Offer help, but do not insist. Keep it short and let them decide.

vii. YES speaking and emoting. Talk with confidence and use the body beat in time with assertions. Beat with a finger, a palm or even a fist (which is rather aggressive). Emphasise and exaggerate your points. Use silences too. Pause in the middle of speaking and look around at everyone. If you are not interrupted they are probably respecting your power. Stand confidently without speaking. Look around, gazing into people’s eyes for slightly longer than usual. It is powerful to show that you have emotion, but in the right place only. It shows you are human. At other times it emphasises how you are in control. A neat trick is to bite the lower lip, as it shows both emotion and control (Bill Clinton did it 15 times in 2 minutes during the Monica Lewinsky ‘confession’). NEVER panic when you make a mistake. Mistakes is a normal part of the human nature.

SECTION 2: PROACTIVE POSTURE--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GOOD posture is vital. Your body is constantly signalling the people you meet. Posture influences the snap second judgement people make about you, but also what you think about yourself. In addition, proper posture is good for your back, what is not to like? Stand up straight, but relaxed. To find positive posture: Stand with your feet as wide as your hips. Make yourself as tall as possible, imagine being pulled up by the top of your head. Now keep that feeling of being tall but relax your shoulders. Relax your neck and angle your head so you do not have to look up or down to look an average person in the eyes.

ii. AS much as possible while maintaining your posture, relax. Do not puff your chest, it should be flat as if you are lying on a floor. Pull your shoulders back very slightly. Sit up straight, but not rigid.When you start sitting up straight, you will notice how small most people make themselves. You will instantly feel quite tall when sitting at a table. Keep your back straight, but relax as much as possible.

iii. TRAIN yourself to always have some tension in your core. Your abs, back and general core should never be flaccid/floppy when you stand or sit. Keep your abs and core in general under some tension. Not only does it reflect well upon your posture, but it also makes it easier to move with grace.

iv. ENDEAR yourself in the manner of positioning your feet at about hip width apart. The stance of your feet says a lot about you. It is not an exact science, but putting your feet closer together generally signifies insecurity, whereas a wider stance indicates confidence. Both holding your feet too close together and too far apart can reflect badly upon you. Try to aim for a position where your feet are at hip width or slightly wider apart, but not much.

v. WORK out on your body Language to express a state of confidence. Your confident body language postures can make you appear more attractive and powerful. Almost 93% of the impression people form of you is based on your body language. If you managed to use proper body language then you will alter the impression people form of you to a great extent. The state of confidence is one of the easiest states to recognise in body language. The following body language gestures shows that the person feels self confident and a sense of power.

vi. ASTUTE hands behind the back. When you see someone standing with his or her hands behind his or her back, then know that he or she is probably feeling confident. He or she may be feeling confident because he or she is a confident person or because he or she believes he or she is on top of matters in a current situation. Maybe the people he or she is talking with are talking about a topic he or she is well-familiar with. For example if people started talking about unemployment then someone took that body language gesture then make sure that he or she has a good job. Clasping hands in front of stomach, is another gesture that you can use to identity a confident person. This one is more popular and is usually seen on television when a president, a minister or a government official is standing. (You will rarely see a president or a minister crossing his arms on television).

vii. YOU exudes or shows confidence when you have your finger tips touching each other. A person will make this gesture when one feels confident about the topic one is talking about or when one believes one knows much about the topic one is listening to. The superiority position manifest itself in the right ankle, being on the left knee, with hands supporting the back of the head. The person takes this posture when he or she feels superior or overconfident. That is why it is called the state of over confidence or superiority. For example, when someone finishes a hard task or completes an exam quickly you may find him or her taking the superiority posture.

SECTION 3: ENTERING a ROOM--->

BEYONDIST keys to unlock the GOLDEN GATEWAY of notable nobleness:

i. GLARINGLY walking into a room. The moment you enter a room is the moment you expose yourself to the judgement of the people in that room. Make sure to make use of that. Some would recommend more extreme techniques like peacocking, but that does not apply to all situations.

ii. AMICABLY smile like you are happy to be there. Regardless of whether you are, smile when you enter a room. Smile like you really like what you are seeing. Do not overdo it, do not laugh out loud. Smile like you stepped outside and noticed the sun was shining.

iii. THRILLINGLY greet the crowd. Not explicitly. Do not shout “HEY!” or draw explicit attention unless these are people who appreciate such behaviour. Otherwise take a moment to stand still or walk slowly while looking at the people in the room.

iv. EENDLESSLY make eye contact. Do not glance over the crowd like it is an object. Look people in the eye and if anyone holds your gaze smile at them. Make people feel like a positive influence just entered this room.

v. WORK on yourself. Learn diligently. In other words take your time. This shows confidence, but also signifies an open attitude.

vi. ALWAYS wave to (imaginary) friends. Humans are hard-wired to like and/or respect people with friends. When you walk into a room and do your usual ‘greet the crowd’ routine, follow it up by waving to your friends and mouthing something along the lines of “I will be right there”. Here is the thing, feel free to do this to imaginary friends. Keep in mind that people do not see 360 degrees. If you wave to a non-existent person behind them they do not know you are just waving to empty air.

vii. YOU will vicariously make people assume you know people. You have more time to calmly look around. You will feel more confident. The trick here is to do this in full confidence, do not timidly wave. Wave like your best friend is across the room and you are trying to communicate to them that you will be there soon.

SECTION 4: THE HANDSHAKE--->

Handshake

As the other person approaches, move to left side, extend your arm horizontally, palm down (be first to do this). Grab their palm firmly, pull them in and hold their elbow with your left hand. The horizontal arm is an unmissable signal. Palm on top is being dominant, putting yourself on top. Holding the elbow further controls them. The royal handshake is outstretched arm to keep the other at their distance. A limp hand, palm down, stops them doing a power shake. Touching is power symbol. Touching people can be threatening, and is used by leaders to demonstrate power. The handshake is, of course, a touch, and can lead to further touching, such as the elbow grip and patting shoulders and back. Guide people with a palm in the small of the back. Greet them with a hand on the back. Touch them on the elbow or other ‘safe’ areas.

Use a firm but gentle handshake. Men, especially, are sensitive to the way you shake a hand. A weak or ‘dead fish’ handshake will instantly lose you likability points.
- Do not just ‘offer’ your hand, a handshake is teamwork.
- Use the pressure you would use to grab the stick of a heavy pan.
- If a person is offering you a ‘dead fish’ handshake, do not squeeze too hard.

Make eye contact as you shake hands.

Looking away automatically signifies negative things:
- You do not have attention/respect for the other person
- You have something to hide.

Look into someone’s eyes long enough to memorise their eye colour. Do not stare, just observe for a moment.

Smile like they made your day.

When looking into someone’s eyes during the shake, smile as if you saw something in their eyes that makes you happy.

Do not laugh out loud, just smile.

SECTION 5: POSITIONING--->

Feet positioning.

How and where you position yourself makes a difference in how you are perceived. Positioning combined with posture is very powerful.

Open your stance.

When you are talking to someone, position your body in such a way that you are open to them. Preferably position yourself in a ‘vulnerable’ way. Do not cover your chest with your arms, do not slouch etc. This signifies trust and comfort.

Angle yourself towards the person you are speaking to.

It is a subtle change, but making sure that your body is ‘pointing’ to your conversational partner makes a difference. Angling away can signify fearfulness, insecurity and mistrust.

Do not lean on or against objects.

Leaning on/against an object (e.g. a wall) signifies passivity and possibly insecurity. Whenever you can stand up with good posture. Using the tips from the posture section, try to develop a comfortable ‘neutral stance’.

When you do lean, use posture.

If you do have to lean against something for whatever reason, keep good posture. Do not slouch (to stand, sit, or walk in a careless drooping way, or make a part of the body droop carelessly)

SECTION 6: YOUR FACE--->

Facial expression.

Your face is an area with a lot of signalling. In fact there is a lot of research into micro expressions people make subconsciously. People project a lot of information without knowing it. You can use your face to signal information about yourself to people.

Make your neutral face a happy face.

Ever heard of ‘resting bitch face syndrome’? Some people claim their face at rest looks annoyed/angry, which makes people perceive them as a social danger. You preferably would not talk to a person with that kind of an expression on their face.

It says nothing about the actual person though. But it does disadvantage them. Make sure that your face at rest (e.g. when you are working on a laptop) looks relaxed, if not happy. An easy trick is to have a look on your face like something is mildly amusing to you.

Do not break eye contact instantly.

People have a habit of looking away if they meet a person’s eyes. Try not to do this. Keep eye contact, and smile. Often people will look away, though some people will hold your gaze.

Doing this has multiple effects:
- People perceive you as more open
- You will feel more confident

Please note that when you hold someone’s gaze, be sure to smile. Looking impassively can be very creepy…

How to smile.

There is a very simple trick to smiling: imagine you are seeing something you really like. Smiling is not about moving your face in a certain way, it is about feeling a happy feeling and letting your face express it.

SECTION 7: TECHNIQUES and HABITS--->

Here we cover some things you can do that often involve some measure of interaction with your conversational/communication data.

Standing and Walking.

Stand upright. Stand with both legs firmly planted on the ground and rarely cross them. Walk with wide steps because you are not afraid to encounter new situations. This may sound far from logic but it is how the subconscious mind thinks. Walk with exaggerated swinging of arms, palm down and out. Kink elbows outwards, making the body seem wider. Add a slight swagger. When walking with others, be in front of them. When going through doors, if you are going to an audience, go first. If you are going from an audience, go last (guiding others through shows dominance).

Mirror your posture.

A powerful technique that has been researched a lot is mirroring. This means people feel more comfortable around you and like you better if you stand the way they do. For example:
- They have their arms crossed? Cross your arms
- They are leaning on their right leg? Lean on your right leg
- Are they holding a drink? Hold a drink

The key here is not to be obvious. The moment they notice consciously what you are doing, the technique loses power.

Mirror movements.

As with the above point, you should not be obvious. But little things can go a long way:
- You are having a coffee, they pick up their cup to drink? Do the same
- If they smile, smile back (that is an easy one)
- Are they stepping a bit closer to you? Do the same

Again, do not be obvious and do not be a creep. This technique should be used in an unobtrusive manner, but frequently.

Set a goal for yourself.

“Life is hard at times. But when I overcome more challenges, I become much stronger then. So I’m going to embrace them.”

BEYONDISM BACKUP #5
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#5 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
If you think you can or think you cannot you are probably right; it all depends on disposition and situation.

“If all the earth were paper white
And all the sea were ink
‘Twere not enough for me to write
As my poor heart doth think.”
- English writer John Lyly (1554? - 1606)
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Overjustification Effect:We attribute too externally for some events.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Edward L. Deci (b. 1942)

UNDERSTAND: Overjustification explains the phenomenon known as motivational “crowding out”.
PROVIDING extrinsic incentives for certain kinds of behaviour can then undermine intrinsic motivation.
GENERAL result is lowered motivation, which then leads to overall decrease in the total performance.
REWARDS may trigger a shift to extrinsic motivation and the undermining of pre-existing intrinsic one.
ACTUALLY, once rewards stops, interest in the activity is lost, and the prior intrinsic motivation fades.
DECADENTLY, extrinsic rewards must then be continuously offered as motivation to sustain the activity.
EXPECTED external incentive such as money, may lower ones’s intrinsic motivation to perform a TASK.
Timely Therapy: - Pretends to do great things? The only great thing that you have done greatly is to pretend.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
What is an individual’s diligent duty? The answer is brief: To be a human who is not ashamed of blundering.

“O wad some Pow’r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as others see us!
It wad frae mony a blunder free us,
And foolish notion.”
- Scottish poet and songwriter Robert Burns (1759 - 1796)
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The Pratfall Effect: Being clumsy makes you likeable.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Elliot Aronson (b. 1932)

UNINTENTIONAL blunders like spilling tea on yourself, or falling down in public may be beneficial.
PUERILE, clumsy mistakes like these can give people an advantage more often than we might think.
GOING by the name of the Pratfall Effect, this remains a highly intriguing theory in social science.
REALLY, the Pratfall Effect precisely focuses on people who are considered to be highly competent.
ARE they found to be more likeable when they perform an everyday blunder than those who do not?
DESIGNATED “superior” by others makes them to be more attractive upon committing a small pratfall.
ESTEEMED as “superhuman,” a small mistake allows others to better humanise them, liking them more.
Timely Therapy: - If you want to be liked, make non injurious mistakes sometimes (or just admit to error).

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
A foreign swearword is simply inoffensive except one who has learned it early in life and knows its social limits.

“I have laboured to refine our language to grammatical purity, and to clear it from colloquial barbarisms, licentious idioms, and irregular combinations.” - British lexicographer and writer S. Johnson (1709 - 1784)
“It was a common saying of Myson that men ought not to investigate things from words, but words from things; for that things are not made for the sake of words, but words for things.”
- Greek historian and biographer Diogenes Laërtius (lived 3rd century?)
“The great enemy of clear language is insincerity. When there is a gap between one’s real and one’s declared aims, one turns as it were instinctively to long words and exhausted idioms, like a cuttlefish squirting out ink.”
- British writer George Orwell (1903 - 1950)
They spell it Vinci and pronounce it Vinchy;
foreigners always spell better than they pronounce.”
- U.S. writer and humorist Mark Twain (1835 - 1910)
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Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis: We language reality into existence.
Distinguished Developers: American Jewish anthropologist-linguist Edward Sapir (1884 – 1939)
and his student American linguist and fire prevention engineer Benjamin Lee Whorf (1897 – 1941)

UNDERSTAND: The Sapir–Whorf Hypothesis, is known as the Hypothesis of Linguistic Relativity.
PRINCIPLE suggestion is that, the structure of a language affects its speakers’ worldview or cognition.
GAINFUL people’s perceptions and categorisation of experience, are relative to their spoken language.
REALLY, humans do not live in the matter-of-fact world alone, nor solitary in the world of social action.
ACTUALLY, we are at the pardon of a certain language which is the medium of societal communication.
DECISIVELY, the real world is unconsciously built on the habits in regards to the language of the group.
EXPERIENCING broadly, is because the language of our society predisposes CHOICES of interpretation.
Timely Therapy: - Know the etymological meaning of the words you use, so as to effectively communicate.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
It is a general mistake to think those we like are good for everything, and those we do not, good for nothing.

“It is the wishes and likings of the mass which largely dictate what the rest of us shall see and hear.”
- British-born Canadian writer and economist Stephen Leacock (1869 - 1944)
“If we justify war, it is because all peoples always justify the traits of which they find themselves possessed, not because war will bear an objective examination of its merits.” - U.S. anthropologist Ruth Benedict (1887 - 1948)
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art....It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.” - Irish-born British novelist C. S. Lewis (1898 - 1963)
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” - French writer Anaïs Nin (1903 - 1977)
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Normative Social Influence (NSI) explains why we conform to be liked and to avoid rejection.
Distinguished Developers: American social psychologists Morton Deutsch (1920 – 2017) and Harold B. Gerard (1923 – 2003)

UNWAVERING Normative Social Influence is a type of social influence that leads to CONFORMITY.
PEOPLE’S influence on others leads them to conform in order to be LIKED and ACCEPTED by them.
GAINFULLY, this stems from our human identity as SOCIAL beings, with a NEED for companionship.
REAL exhibition is public compliance, but not necessarily private acceptance, of the group’s NORMS.
APPARENT unwritten rules are customary standards that are widely shared by members of a culture.
DUE stability translates into social cohesion, leading to working together toward a common “GOOD.”
EFFETLY, this also has the unintended impact of making the group members less INDIVIDUALISTIC.
Timely Therapy: - We exist in a fish bowl where the aquatic pool of collective experiences influences us.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Catch-22 is an absurd situation or its cause, or predicament from which it is impossible to extricate oneself.

[Catch-22, is a novel (1961) by Joseph Heller. The title of this dark satire relates to the skewed military logic that entraps the protagonist, Yossarian, a pilot serving in Italy during World War II. He tries to get himself grounded by being pronounced insane, but is told that only an insane person would want to fly, and his desire not to fly proves that he is, in fact, sane, and so must continue to fly. The term Catch-22 eventually came to have a more general meaning of a situation in which somebody is trapped by built-in illogical rules, regulations, conditions and restrictions.]
“There was only one catch and that was Catch-22, which specified that a concern for one's own safety in the face of dangers that were real and immediate was the process of a rational mind...He had decided to live for ever or die in the attempt...He knew everything about literature except how to enjoy it...Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them. With Major Major it had been all three.” - U.S. novelist Joseph Heller (1923 - 1999), in Catch-22
“Observing the doctrine of Particular Election, and those who preached it up to make the Bible clash and contradict itself, by preaching somewhat like this: You can and you can’t—You shall and you shan’t—You will and you won’t—And you will be damned if you do—And you will be damned if you don’t.” - U.S. churchman Lorenzo Dow (1777 - 1834)
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Ironic Reversal is how cannot avoid thinking about things we want to avoid thinking about.
Distinguished Developer: Wegner (1994).

UPON trying to avoid doing, saying or thinking about something, we often find that this is impossible.
PRECISELY, this is because of the ‘Catch 22’ situation that in order to avoid thinking about something,
GENERALLY, we need to know what we are trying to avoid and hence we have to be thinking about it.
REALLY, the situation then gets worse as our failure to succeed causes us to work harder at the task.
ACTUAL searching for a word for a situation, makes the more available words pop into our minds first.
DULY it become more available and therefore, keeps coming back when we try to think of other words.
EVENTUALLY, as we get worn out by this fruitless task, our ability to control the situation also weakens.
Timely Therapy: -The way out of the trap is not to try; the true trick is to not be bothered about the issue.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Rapport is an emotional bond or friendly relationship between people duly based on mutual liking and trust.

Can you recall having a lukewarm attitude towards a person or idea?
Then after a protracted encounter you start warming up to it?
And then you end up having a robust rapport with it?
And develop a sense that you understand and share each other’s concerns.
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Mere Exposure Theory explains how constant contacts, leads to liking a product.
Distinguished Developers: Brehm (1956), Knox and Inkster (1968)

UNLIMITED exposure to a stimulus, leads to liking it; ‘familiarity breeds liking more than contempt.’
PURPOSIVELY, things grow on us and we acquire tastes for things over time and repeated exposure.
GENERALLY, this stimulus can be individuals, commercial products, places, ideas, beliefs or opinions.
REALISTICALLY, we can get to like most things, given time; we can even get to like unpleasant things.
ARDENT choice making: The familiar is often chosen over the unfamiliar - ‘better the devil you know.’
DUE exposure can be overdone; after a certain number of exposures we tend to ignore the message.
EXPOSURE overdose, is irritating - we ‘take revenge’ by assuming negative responses to the message.
Timely Therapy: - To duly convince people to buy a product, let them use it or even borrow it for a while.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
There is a Hebrew proverb which says: “In the hour of distress, a vow; in the hour of release, forgetfulness.”

How often have you bought something?
Then worried about whether you have got a bargain or otherwise.
Seeing the item for more money in another shop,
Is always comforting (and the reverse, of course, is also true).
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Post-Decision Dissonance asserts that, after a decision we think it was a good one.
Distinguished Developers: Brehm (1956), Knox and Inkster (1968)

USUALLY, the Post-Decision Dissonance, refers to the distress that occurs after one makes a decision.
POTENTLY after we have made a decision, we will feel dissonance on the possibility of it being WRONG.
GAINFULLY, we will change our beliefs to reduce this dissonance and make the decision more attractive.
RELATED to this is the foot-in-the-door technique where one is asked to make a small COMMITMENT.
ALIGNING one with the action is what an individual will later do, upon changing one’s basic perceptions.
DUE consequence is being more amenable to a more significant request; also the basis of brainwashing.
ESSENTIALLY, beware of people asking you for small favours in areas where you do not honestly agree.
Timely Therapy: - When you want people to do something of which they do not approve, start subtly small.

Ennobling Ethics

R#55. On finding yourself groping in the DARK, lacking conviction for self-improvement.

BQ#6. What intensity of ATTENTION is needed to DEFY DARKNESS, as a function of essentially emulating ENNOBLING ETHICS?--->

“A man, indeed, is not genteel when he gets drunk; but most vices may be committed very genteelly: a man may debauch his friend’s wife genteelly: he may cheat at cards genteelly.”
- Scottish lawyer and biographer James Boswell (1740 - 1795)

“It is the restrictions placed on vice by our social code which makes its pursuit so peculiarly agreeable.”
- British banker and children's writer Kenneth Grahame (1859 - 1932)

“No one can shed light on vices he does not have or afflictions he has never experienced.”
- Spanish poet and playwright Antonio Machado (1875 - 1939)

“Obscenity is such a tiny kingdom that a single tour covers it completely.”
- U.S. journalist Heywood Broun (1888 - 1939)

“We make ourselves a ladder out of our vices if we trample the vices themselves underfoot.”
- Numidian Christian theologian and Doctor of the Church Saint Augustine of Hippo (354 - 430)

“Virtue is power”.
- Kikuyu (Kenyan) proverb

“Welcome, thou kind deceiver!
Thou best of thieves; who, with an easy key,
Dost open life, and, unperceived by us
Even steal us from ourselves.”
- English poet, playwright, and literary critic John Dryden (1631 - 1700)

“Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile.
Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.”
- King James Bible, Psalms 34:13-14

“Birth counts for nothing where virtue is absent.”
- French playwright Molière (1622 - 1673)

“Man is one: greatness and animal fused together. None of his acts is pure charity. None is pure bestiality.”
- Senegalese novelist and campaigner for women’s rights Mariama Bâ (1929 - 1981)

“We might as well make up our minds that chastity is no more a virtue than malnutrition.”
- English poet Edmund Waller (1606 - 1687)

“Oh the gladness of her gladness when she’s glad,
And the sadness of her sadness when she’s sad,
But the gladness of her gladness
And the sadness of her sadness
Are as nothing, Charles,
To the badness of her badness when she’s bad.”
- British playwright and novelist J. M. Barrie (1860 - 1937)

“So for a good old gentlemanly vice,
I think I must take up with avarice.”
- British poet Lord Byron (1788 - 1824)

“Three things ruin a man—power, money, and women. I never wanted power, I never had any money, and the only woman in my life is up at the house right now.”
- U.S. president Harry S. Truman (1884 - 1972), in a statement to reporters on his 75th birthday.

“Vice is waste of life. Poverty, obedience and celibacy are the canonical vices.”
- Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950)

“It is by piety and goodness that humans reaches perfect happiness...virtue is its own reward.”
- Dutch philosopher and theologian Benedict de Spinoza (1632 - 1677)

“The three grades of character are superior, medium and inferior: the superior is just good, the medium is capable of development either in an upward or a downward direction, and the inferior is just evil.”
- Chinese writer and poet Han Yu (768 - 824)

“I am a lioness
and will never allow my body
to be anyone’s resting place.”
- Spanish poet ‘Aisha bint Ahmad al- Qurtubiyya (lived 10th century)

“The righteous shall flourish like the palm tree: he shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon.”
- King James Bible, Psalms 92:12

“In the culture that secretly subscribes to the piratical ethic of ‘every man for himself’...the logical culmination of this ethic, on a person-to-person level, is that the weak are seen as the natural and just prey of the strong.”
- U.S. writer and civil rights activist Eldridge Cleaver (1935 - 1998)
--->

A PERSON WHO AIMS TO SCALE the heights of success and glory must cultivate the right qualities in this regard. Roman writer, statesman, and orator Cicero (106 - 43 BC) declared that, if we act from a thirst for virtus (physical and moral courage) without any thought of winning glory as a result, this will give us the best chance of winning glory as well; for glory is virtus rewarded. As an individual focused on ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD, in voyaging through this vast sea of LIFE, you may not literally posses the navigational skills of a submarine coxswain, but the hypothetical extent of your enjoying the nourishing natural nectar of your ‘existence’, shall be the measure of your success in ‘Abhorring Bedeviling Critical Derailments’ which is at the same time, the degree of ‘Assimilating Beneficent Cardinal Determinants’. As far as any sowed seed is concerned, a pest or a weed is any organism or plant that is destructive or interferes with its developmental process, either directly by damaging it, or indirectly through the introduction of disease-producing organisms such as viruses. Likewise, in our context here, ‘Derailments’ are in one way or the other, VICES that send you off-course from your essential evolutional entitlement or waters down your interpersonal relations. ‘Determinants’ on the other hand, are in one way or the other, VIRTUES that entrench you on your essential evolutional entitlement or solidifies your interpersonal relations. An ethical LIFE does not imply proclaiming at the roof-top your righteousness and displaying a holier-than-thou attitude. It is nurturing and propagating oneself from the inside to the outside. In other words, being ethical is not to deny yourself the ‘goodies’ of this world, by living an ascetic LIFE of self-denial. It is to amass the necessary ego-strengths and discipline, in order to succeed in the lovely business of this LIFE. According to ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle (384 - 322 BC), the conditions requisite for the attainment of happiness is VIRTUE, which refers to the excellence of a thing (for example, a ‘virtuous’ knife cuts well) and hence to the disposition to perform effectively its proper function.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of ENNOBLING ETHICS thus:

Epitome of emotional weakness is trebling with surprise in the face of an insult or danger.
Never keep tune with artificial social norms, or dogmatic benefactors, but with ‘existence’.
Negate the sycophancy, which is borne of fear of ostracism, of standing out, or of ridicule.
Only by avoiding free things, will you have room to maneuver, free of feelings of obligation.
Buoyancy of PSYCHE may be changed from its disposition by keeping company with infidels.
Life is marked by key points in which you cannot avoid a decisive turn one way or the other.
If you love one person, you see everybody else differently; the vital trick is to love somebody.
Never avoid tackling vital tasks, however challenging or impossible they might seem to be.
Gain control of your LIFE; never be powerless to do anything BEYOND what you actually do.

Extreme toiling or busyness, whether at college or market, is a symptom of deficient vitality.
To be gratified with the basest things, or being content with moderation, is a wretched taste.
Hate thinking you are the center of universe where everything should be done for your sake.
Intimate realisation that all good things that exist are the fruits of originality, is true genius.
Confidently move along your individual LIFE and perform your unique duties, wholeheartedly.
Seek wisdom by accepting your ignorance; learning what is known, finding out the unknown.

“Everyday is a new opportunity to reach that goal.”- American rapper William Leonard Roberts II, alias Rick Ross (b. 1976). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: NURTURING your ATTENTION for DEFYING DARKNESS so as to propel advancement.--->

We do not say it in a boastful spirit, although we are proud to exhort you fellow continental young man or woman that, to assert yourself as a human being worth of dignity, and to cultivate a new civilisation in our African society, is the prima facie duty of this generation. But before you would partake in planting the seed of an African Renaissance, you will have to first clear the bush of poor self-efficacy, and then proceed to plough or rather loosen the soil, by making your mind as open and as receptive as possible, so that the rainfall of progressive ideas may easily infiltrate into your PSYCHE, as well as improve the soil aeration of responsiveness to new opportunities.

Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to DEFY DARKNESS.
SOUND ethics is practical thought and action justified by its fruits in personal integrity and social cohesion.
UNISION of reason and instinct; it is Nature become conscious in us, illuminating its own path and goal.
MORAL principles lose their distinctiveness when absolute right and wrong are matter of majority actions.
MOUNT on your absolute value. Recognise in you alone the power of laying the BASIS of your existence.
ACUTE ethics is the marriage of impulse and ideation; if divorced, it reduces one to a brute or a maniac.
REAL personality is generated by the union of these two monsters. Ethics is human’s imitation of divinity.
YE shall be inspired by ideas which have ceased to be visionary and actions which have ceased to be vain.

PREPARE yourself to diligently NURTURE the creative ‘capacity’ for DEFYING DARKNESS.

Purge anger before it impairs your relationships and throw you into a pathetic state of hell-on-earth.
Resisting all ‘Bondages’, frees your PSYCHE to become clear, spontaneous, receptive and sensible.
Examine critically what you usually hear, and never side with what appears expedient on the surface.
Protect your independence by paying the full price; you keep off all entanglements and worries.
Always look for finer souls, better furnished minds, firmer characters, to mould your percepts upon.
Refusal to grow is simply working against yourself; break all dependency, so as to gain authenticity.
Everyone should obey the precepts of Jesus Christ; ‘Love God’, and ‘Love thy neighbour as thyself.’

REALISE that NURTURING your innate ‘quest’ for DEFYING DARKNESS is in your ‘power.’

Resist visualising any lack, limitation or discord; this nibbles the flowering of ‘Inhibitive’ conditions.
Even if your destiny may be foreordained by God, it lies within your willpower to chart your course.
Actualise your ideals, before your beauty goes to waste, or the fragrance of your LIFE oozes away.
LIFE’s worst peril is to partake your existence in common with others; it waters down all greatness.
Inaccurate and unrealistic knowledge of oneself, leads to lack of desirable inhibitions in goal pursuits.
Succeeding at all cost requires an unflinching impulse; fully responding to a different inner vibration.
Eat the ugliest frog, if you have to eat two frogs; if you have two tasks start with the most important.

EMPOWER yourself to NURTURE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for DEFYING DARKNESS.

Emotive tactlessness is engaging in ‘verbal warfare’ which ends up in jeorpadising your relationships.
Modern ever evolving world, has no place for those who adopts worn out ideas and obsolete views.
Puerile improvisation on the theme of ‘existence’, result from enchantment by trauma of a lost glory.
Often regarded as a mental monster, ‘shyness’ gives one few chances to practice social behaviours.
What others does or says or believes is no affair of yours; always learn to let them absolutely alone.
Effectively counter ‘uncertainty’ by self-confidence; without which you are like a baby in the cradle.
Real joy is unattained merely by amassing greatest wealth or honour and respect in eyes of the mob.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to NURTURE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of DEFYING DARKNESS.

Maddening pride is an admission of weakness; for it secretly fears all competition and dreads rivals.
Egoistic desire to be the REASON for everything has the reverse effect of being CAUSE for nothing.
Desist washing in the stinking sewage of mere complain; always ready for tittle-tattle than for action.
It is by ‘wailing’ that, we institutionalise problems, thereby watering down our quest for solutions.
Always plough your own furrows and work out your own survival strategies directly from ‘existence.’
Techniques and methods which are tinged on other’s thought patterns, must not be emulated blindly.
Every time LIFE pushes you and you give up, you will be crushed before you realise all your dreams.

INDULGE yourself in NURTURING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards DEFYING DARKNESS.

Involve yourself, or rather pick battles big enough to matter, and small enough to WIN without loss.
Nurturing deep feelings of belonging to fellow humans is the flourishing ground for any civilisation.
Devoid of ‘Good-will’ all action leading to contentment, that is towards happiness, only inspire pride.
Unraveling and unleashing of your genius, requires both technical knowledge as well as ‘boldness’.
Loath fear: An energy drawing siphon that weakens you and makes most of your actions impotent.
Gaining knowledge is accepting that, what you know is not much; what you do not know is immense.
Every coin you save is a worker for you; every penny it earns is its child that can also earn for you.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for NURTURING the ‘compulsion’ of DEFYING DARKNESS.

Ugly self-promotion and bragging, is arrogance; you should radiate confidence, calm self-assurance.
Think royally, and all your actions, although they are not those of a king/queen, must be worthy one.
Initiate yourself in a process of self-investment by recognising opportunities, and alternative actions.
Lack of ‘flexibility’ closes you to new ventures, as your mind eventually becomes absolutely frozen.
Identifying with, and empathetically understanding others feelings, is a magical interpersonal skill.
Straightforwardness without civility is like surgeon’s knife, effective and efficient, but so unpleasant.
Everyone wishing to remain faithful to ‘truth’ must be continuously unfaithful to all renascent errors.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to NURTURE DEFYING DARKNESS.

Morality loses the foundation on which it is built, by basing it on myths or fear of divine retribution.
Only good humour is the best seasoning of TRUTH; it is playful judgment, and sense in nonsense.
None of our moments should pass by unnoticed; take a calm survey of LIFE, make achieving certain.
It is itself a fortune, to have a reputation for good judgement, fair dealings for truth, and rectitude.
Time is a good friend and ally to those who uses intelligence, to choose the right moment for action.
Optimism is that which sets budding rose above the rose full blown; that virgin, vital, fine day: today.
Reason must be your last judge and guide in all actions; with it the mind will not float directionless.

“She speaks poniards, and every word stabs: if her breath were as terrible as her terminations, there were no living near her; she would infect to the north star.”
- Shakespeare in Much Ado About Nothing (1599), Act 2, Scene 1

“For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright,
Who art as black as hell, as dark as night.”
- Shakespeare Sonnet 147 (1599)

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on duly distilling ENNOBLING ETHICS:
Unmistakably you are NURTURING your ennobling exertion to DEFY DARKNESS.
The accumulated energy of CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
And PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
Will ultimately propel you to REAP your lively labour.
--->

A. = The ABCD...of VOLATILE VICES
(As concretely composed FOR YOU .......)
Abhorring
Bedeviling
Critical
Derailments

A. ANGER: - Strong feeling of displeasure, disgust or hostility.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF the infinitely negative implications of anger.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION on any encounter that could embitter you.
Candidly AVOID ever allowing anger to seize you for a long time.
Daringly KEEP OFF all temptations at seeking any kind of revenge.
Essentially WALK AWAY from people who might make you angry.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to never ever arouse anger in others.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘ANGER’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm------May the spirit of forgiveness be infused in me.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm-----Let it continue cleansing the walls of my heart.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm-----May the spirit of forgiveness be infused in me.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let it continue cleansing the walls of my heart.
Repeat 4 times

B. BONDAGE: - Being a captive of false attitudes, habits or desires.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being a captive of any sort of addiction.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION on falling into enslaving commitments.
Candidly AVOID any belief system that may make you fanatical.
Daringly KEEP OFF all friends who would make you powerless.
Essentially WALK AWAY from all that dilutes your thirst for study.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to make your mind ever voyaging.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘BONDAGE’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm------May I continue fishing in rich the stream of LIFE.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my appetites continue flowering unhindered.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm------May I continue fishing in the rich stream of LIFE.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my appetites continue flowering unhindered.
Repeat 4 times

C. CONFORMITY: - Tendency to behave, act and think like others.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF succumbing to the pressure of acting like others.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against behaving without any intrinsic ideal.
Candidly AVOID all tendencies to accept opinions without questioning.
Daringly KEEP OFF all friends who would make you lose self-control.
Essentially WALK AWAY from anything that works against your visions.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to be clear to your goals and dreams.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘CONFORMITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my nobler feelings never get suffocated;
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my uniqueness not be swallowed by crowd.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my nobler feelings never get suffocated.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my uniqueness not be swallowed by crowd.
Repeat 4 times

D. DEPENDENCE: - Helplessly relying or banking trust on others.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF the ill-fated wholesome reliance on somebody.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against relegating your power to anyone.
Candidly AVOID all that blocks you from being open to your needs.
Daringly KEEP OFF everything that stands on the way of your urges.
Essentially WALK AWAY from clinging to others for your self-esteem.
Fondly CULTIVATE the seeing yourself as an active problem-solver.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘DEPENDENCE’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue confronting life in its extensity;
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me triumph against any clinging unto others.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue confronting life in its extensity.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me triumph against any clinging unto others.
Repeat 4 times

E. ENCROACHMENT: - Allowing others to intrude into personal affairs.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF allowing others to intrude into your inner life.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against anyone demanding all your time.
Candidly AVOID all those who find ways to continually fault you.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all companions with questionable habits.
Essentially WALK AWAY from anyone who can kill your aspirations.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to circulate within creative circles.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘ENCROACHMENT’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be insulated against hostile influences.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let dangerous entanglements never threaten me.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----May I be insulated against hostile influences.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let dangerous entanglements never threaten me.
Repeat 4 times

F. FIXATION: - Failure to tune in and utilise current developmental stage.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF reverting to a former developmental stage.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION to fulfill all present psychosocial needs.
Candidly AVOID hankering so much on your parent’s protection.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all growth militating entanglements.
Essentially WALK AWAY from idolising the comforts of your past.
Fondly CULTIVATE the reinvigoration of a fertile future view.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘FIXATION’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue pushing forward to the future.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let chaotic currents of LIFE never hold me back.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue pushing forward to the future.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let chaotic currents of LIFE never hold me back.
Repeat 4 times

G. GLOATING: - Malicious delight at somebody else’s failure.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF delighting in another person’s misfortune.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against sickening your heart or mind.
Candidly AVOID conspiring against another person’s downfall.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all gossipers on other’s nightmares.
Essentially WALK AWAY from all perpetual haters and loathers.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to love all, even sworn enemies.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘GLOATING’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I never celebrate at others’ misfortunes.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let anyone be of value to me even my enemies.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I never celebrate at others’ misfortunes.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let anyone be of value to me even my enemies.
Repeat 4 times

H. HASTY-GENERALISATION: - Concluding without deep reflection.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF overlooking some environmental variables.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against making mindless conclusions.
Candidly AVOID selecting certain facts at the expense of others.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all stereotypes which leads to prejudice.
Essentially WALK AWAY from praising, thus not seeing the evil part.
Fondly CULTIVATE the appreciating of difficulties and failures.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘HASTY-GENERALISATION’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue nurturing holistic approaches.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me appreciate all ideas, events and people.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue nurturing holistic approaches.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me appreciate all ideas, events and people.
Repeat 4 times

I. INHIBITIONS: - Bending to forces that put barrier to aspirations.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF any strangling factor to your future dreams.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against visualising any lack or discord.
Candidly AVOID the defeatist tendency of refusing to ever-press on.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all those potential-negating suggestions.
Essentially WALK AWAY from doomsayers and prophets of failure.
Fondly CULTIVATE the shielding off from all negative thoughts.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘INHIBITIONS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue shedding off all dogmas.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me discard all idle conceptualizations.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue shedding off all dogmas.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me discard all idle conceptualizations.
Repeat 4 times

J. JUDASISM: - Being seized by jealousy, envy and/or hypocrisy.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF disloyalty to your noble ideals in LIFE.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION never to be paralyzed by indecision.
Candidly AVOID being gnawed by jealousy, envy or hypocrisy.
Daringly KEEP OFF all those who are victimized by stagnation.
Essentially WALK AWAY from all those who pretend to be good.
Fondly CULTIVATE doing of the right deed for the right reason.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘JUDASISM’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all my violence of passions wane off.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all false stormings of my heart cease.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all my violence of passions wane off.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all false stormings of my heart cease.
Repeat 4 times

K. KISMET: - Belief in blind chance and not questioning the status quo.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF dilution of the urge to chart your course.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against watering down your assertion.
Candidly AVOID any lofty suggestion on the futility of your freewill.
Daringly KEEP OFF all belief in the foreordination of your destiny.
Essentially WALK AWAY from all debilitating and fatalistic notions.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to steer the wheel of your LIFE.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘KISMET’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I become my own Queen or King.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me take total charge of my destiny.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I become my own Queen or King.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me take total charge of my destiny.
Repeat 4 times

L. LETHARGY: - Being haunted by physical slowness and mental dullness.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being incapacitated by lack of enthusiasm.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against mental dullness and slowness.
Candidly AVOID playing games with yourself, and what you can.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all that derails you from what you fancy.
Essentially WALK AWAY from what militates against your aliveness.
Fondly CULTIVATE the thirst of studying everything profoundly.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘LETHARGY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all self-negating nullifications crumble.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all the broth of abominations be cleansed.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all self-negating nullifications crumble.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all the broth of abominations be cleansed.
Repeat 4 times

M. MEDIOCRITY: - Accepting being not very good or simply second-rate.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF self-delusion that you cannot be the best.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against being lost in fake satisfaction.
Candidly AVOID those who engage in the pursuit of the trivial.
Daringly KEEP OFF from anyone who tolerates the third-rate.
Essentially WALK AWAY from indulging in sub-standard pursuits.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to keep your mind ever-expanding.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘MEDIOCRITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all my imaginations’ wings spread out.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them crop out and thrust me ever forward.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all my imaginations’ wings spread out.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let them crop out and thrust me ever forward.
Repeat 4 times

N. NARCISSISM: - Exaggerated sense of self-admiration or self-worth.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF self-delusion that you cannot be the best.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against being lost in fake satisfaction.
Candidly AVOID those who engage in the pursuit of the trivial.
Daringly KEEP OFF from anyone who tolerates the third-rate.
Essentially WALK AWAY from indulging in sub-standard pursuits.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to keep your mind ever-expanding.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

O. OBSESSIVENESS: - Being overwhelmed by one idea; ignoring others.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being dissolved by a one degenerating impulse.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against any idea animating you exclusively.
Candidly AVOID rigidifying your valuations about yourself and society.
Daringly KEEP OFF from seeing anything as distinct from the whole.
Essentially WALK AWAY from any endeavour that does not expand you.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to deliver yourself from fixed notions.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘OBSESSIVENESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I stop this degeneration to self-extinction.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me reconcile various aspect of knowledge.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I stop this degeneration to self-extinction.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me reconcile various aspect of knowledge.
Repeat 4 times

P. PROCRASTINATION: - Not doing things NOW, postponing actions.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF pushing to next time, the present burden.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION to underestimate or overestimate anything.
Candidly AVOID filling your LIFE with so many unnecessary activities.
Daringly KEEP OFF from all energy diverting and delaying habits.
Essentially WALK AWAY from the tendency of deferring your actions.
Fondly CULTIVATE the being, real-on-time, missing no occasion.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘PROCRASTINATION’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I boldly resist all down-dragging forces.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all frustrating currents recede from me.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I boldly resist all down-dragging forces.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all frustrating currents recede from me.
Repeat 4 times

Q. QUARRELSOMENESS: - Resolving an argument in an emotive manner.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF soiling yourself with unnecessary arguments.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION never to take offensive or get offended.
Candidly AVOID all confrontations and be ready to change opinion.
Daringly KEEP OFF from explaining away complaints; do the required.
Essentially WALK AWAY from those unsatisfied and bitter grumblers.
Fondly CULTIVATE the persisting quietly and politely to your goals.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘QUARRELSOMENESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I possess enough power of self-deterrence.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let it restrain me from all unnecessary tussles.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I possess enough power of self-deterrence.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let it restrain me from all unnecessary tussles.
Repeat 4 times

R. REACTIVITY: - Failure to initiate events and only responding to them.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being in the negative of any progressive ideal.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against rigidifying your present status.
Candidly AVOID blind ceremonial following of procedural patterns.
Daringly KEEP OFF any emphasizing of tradition against modernity.
Essentially WALK AWAY from zealous supporters of rigid principles.
Fondly CULTIVATE the embracing of the current progressive trends.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘REACTIVITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I assimilate all present manifestations.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me also boldly face future orientations.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I assimilate all present manifestations.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me also boldly face future orientations.
Repeat 4 times

S. SHYNESS: - Feeling of nervousness, insecurity or lack of comfort--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being held back by the fear of speaking up.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION on bashfulness when in proximity of others.
Candidly AVOID the mental monster against acting social behaviour.
Daringly KEEP OFF situations which dilutes your self-expression.
Essentially WALK AWAY from situations where you are always tense.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to screw up in front of other people.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘SHYNESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the timidity of expression wither away.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let the operative fear of speaking up wane off.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the timidity of expression wither away.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let the operative fear of speaking up wane off.
Repeat 4 times

T. TONGUE-TRESPASS: - Poking the nose into others business.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF that desire to meddle in others businesses.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against leaving others to their beliefs.
Candidly AVOID putting mouth into motion upon a gearless mind.
Daringly KEEP OFF all tendencies to impose your ideals to others.
Essentially WALK AWAY from temptations of uninvited feedbacks.
Fondly CULTIVATE the wise timing for any sort of intervention.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘TONGUE-TRESPASS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be ever-cautious to stir bad emotions.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me never trample upon others’ privacy.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be ever-cautious to stir bad emotions.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me never trample upon others’ privacy.
Repeat 4 times

U. UNCERTAINTY: - Being prone to frequent change of mind.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being prone to thoughtless changes of beliefs.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against blindly dashing through existence.
Candidly AVOID the tendency to be unsure of your action’s outcome.
Daringly KEEP OFF competing against yourself due to hesitations.
Essentially WALK AWAY from seeing only the dark side of your LIFE.
Fondly CULTIVATE the art of believing in your unique potentials.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘UNCERTAINTY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my personal irresolution be healed.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let self-doubt be washed away from me.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- May my personal irresolution be healed.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let self-doubt be washed away from me.
Repeat 4 times

V. VANITY: - Covering worthlessness with bloated sense of pride.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF covering your inner futility with excessive pride.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against falling victim of unlimited desires.
Candidly AVOID pegging happiness primarily on material possessions.
Daringly KEEP OFF the overriding desire for approval and recognition.
Essentially WALK AWAY from all self-imposed delusions and illusions.
Fondly CULTIVATE your ego-strength from within not from without.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘VANITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the pit of insatiable desires acquire bottom.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let this pit of never getting satisfied be filled.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the pit of insatiable desires acquire bottom.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let this pit of never getting satisfied be filled.
Repeat 4 times

W. WAILING: - Being gripped by feelings of being defeated.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being gripped by inner sense of impotence.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against always whining and complaining.
Candidly AVOID the deception of finding emotional relief in slander.
Daringly KEEP OFF from the defeated; who are only good at crying.
Essentially WALK AWAY from situations which makes you powerless.
Fondly CULTIVATE the inner-drive to throw off blanket of self-pity.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘WAILING’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all painful sorrows fade from my life.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all crippling humiliations vanish away.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all painful sorrows fade from my life.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let all crippling humiliations vanish away.
Repeat 4 times

X. XEROX: - Tendency to blindly emulate others in style or taste.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF becoming anyone’s replica or photocopy.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against emulating others at your expense.
Candidly AVOID following blindly other people’s thought orientations.
Daringly KEEP OFF from being carried away by overt traits of others.
Essentially WALK AWAY from playing second fiddle to anyone else.
Fondly CULTIVATE the working and reliance upon your faculties.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘XEROX’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all subjugation of notself be rested.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all scepter of ‘life lie’ be antiquated.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all subjugation of notself be rested.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let all scepter of ‘life lie’ be antiquated.
Repeat 4 times

Y. YIELDING: - Being overcomed by societal negative forces.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF being overcomed by any negative pressure.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION against succumbing to a sense of failure.
Candidly AVOID being seized by any sort of weakness of character.
Daringly KEEP OFF from admitting defeat anytime when cornered.
Essentially WALK AWAY from playing life safe, giving up always.
Fondly CULTIVATE the ability to transform failure into success.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘YIELDING’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my ego-strength continue to build-up.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me inscribe my creativity upon Creation.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my ego-strength continue to build-up.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let me inscribe my creativity upon Creation.
Repeat 4 times

Z. ZERO-SUM: - Entering an action with a win or lose mentality.--->

Acutely BEWARE OF indulging in conflicts without possible exit.
Boldly TAKE CAUTION on toying with irreconcilable differences.
Candidly AVOID immersing in tensions without foreseeable solutions.
Daringly KEEP OFF wasting your energies in emotional antagonisms.
Essentially WALK AWAY from encounters that affect your tranquility.
Fondly CULTIVATE the seeing a win-win potential in any conflict.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically abhor and banish ‘ZERO-SUM’ Orientation, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue clearing up my temperaments.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me take an inventory of my social relations.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue clearing up my temperaments.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me take an inventory of my social relations.
Repeat 4 times

B. = The ABCD...of VITAL VIRTUES
(As duly distilled FOR YOU .......)

Assimilating
Beneficent
Cardinal
Determinants

A. AFFECTION: - Feeling of fondness or tenderness towards somebody.--->

Acutely AROUSE in you the noble feeling of fondness towards others.
Boldly EVOKE from yourself favourable sentiments towards others.
Candidly ILLUMINE unto you the offshoot and flowering of altruism.
Daringly ASPIRE that, your own welfare be at par with that of all.
Essentially STRIVE for heavenly sake, to feel at home on this earth.
Fondly DEDICATE towards having something worthwhile for others.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘AFFECTION’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my personal development nourish others.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let it be measured on how I connect to others.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my personal development nourish others.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let it be measured on how I connect to others.
Repeat 4 times

B. BOLDNESS: - Power to overcome danger, misfortune or injustice.--->

Acutely AROUSE in you the latent power to overcome misfortunes.
Boldly EVOKE from yourself the volcanic faith in all what you do.
Candidly ILLUMINE unto you the awakening of your inherent genius.
Daringly ASPIRE to amass all possible determination to be assertive.
Essentially STRIVE to always find out the essential nature of everything.
Fondly DEDICATE to siphon off all sorts of energy sapping fear.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘BOLDNESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be motivated to exercise all my powers.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me face this world of change and danger.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be motivated to exercise all my powers.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me face this world of change and danger.
Repeat 4 times

C. CREATIVITY: - Generating ideas that are both novel and appropriate.--->

Acutely AROUSE in you the need to ever keep your mind expanding.
Boldly EVOKE from yourself the flowering of the inherent creativity.
Candidly ILLUMINE unto you, the knowledge of your ignorance extent.
Daringly ASPIRE to acquire knowledge from all circles and corners.
Essentially STRIVE to always generate novel and appropriate ideas.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself to be a devotee of pure perspective.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘CREATIVITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my volcanic power of inventiveness erupt.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let it propel me towards my self-ACTUALIZATION.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my volcanic power of inventiveness erupt.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let it propel me towards my self-ACTUALIZATION.
Repeat 4 times

D. DISCIPLINE: - Conscious self-control over lifestyle and behaviour.--->

Acutely AROUSE in yourself an intrinsic sense of self-direction.
Boldly EVOKE from yourself the self-control of your LIFEstyle.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the assimilation of the spirit of all rules.
Daringly ASPIRE to use some of what you earn and keep the rest.
Essentially STRIVE to live within the confines of your wallet’s depth.
Fondly DEDICATE to never be perturbed by others’ possessions.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘DISCIPLINE’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all my thoughts be to the service of LIFE.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me develop the propensity for investing.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all my thoughts be to the service of LIFE.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let me develop the propensity for investing.
Repeat 4 times

E. EXECUTIVENESS: - Sense of self-confidence and/or ability to invest.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself that elevated sense of finesse.
Boldly EVOKE in you that loftiness of thoughts and deeds.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the need to believe in your greatness.
Daringly ASPIRE to radiate the calm confident self-assurance.
Essentially STRIVE to throw off the dust that blinds your visions.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself at being your own King or Queen.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘EXECUTIVENESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I revel in royal symbolisation of distinction.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me signify victory and high achievement.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I revel in royal symbolisation of distinction.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me signify victory and high achievement.
Repeat 4 times

F. FLEXIBILITY: - Readiness to change in tandem with circumstances.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself the courage to distance from rigidity.
Boldly EVOKE in you the swift responsiveness to new conditions.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the need to shake-off all unhealthy habits.
Daringly ASPIRE to bury away your ugly past with all its misfortunes.
Essentially STRIVE to change in regard to the changes in circumstances.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself to always do new things in new ways.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘FLEXIBILITY’, in your innards:
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I trample all impediments underfoot.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my ideals be fluid and always changing.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I trample all impediments underfoot.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my ideals be fluid and always changing.
Repeat 4 times

G. GENTLENESS: - Attending to that which needs nurturing and protection.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself that passionate feeling for others.
Boldly EVOKE in you the rising above narrow egoist self-interests.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the finding of praise in doing good acts.
Daringly ASPIRE to attend to all that needs protection and nurturing.
Essentially STRIVE to combine basic candour with essential courtesy.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself to be always modest and ever caring.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘GENTLENESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the happiness of humanity be my dream.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let courtesy direct my aspirations and ideals.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the happiness of humanity be my dream.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let courtesy direct my aspirations and ideals.
Repeat 4 times

H. HONESTY: - Not cheating, lying, stealing or indulging in falsehoods.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself that selfless respect for Reality.
Boldly EVOKE in you the behaving from your highest thoughts.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the true sense of moral obligation.
Daringly ASPIRE to trust in a wide range of interpersonal feelings.
Essentially STRIVE to be free from guilt by saying what you see.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself at being a true citadel of fairness.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘HONESTY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I become an enemy of any obsolete ideal.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let the cleanliness of my heart never be soiled.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I become an enemy of any obsolete ideal.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let the cleanliness of my heart never be soiled.
Repeat 4 times

I. INTEGRITY: - Steadfastly adhering to sound moral principles.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself adherence to high moral standards.
Boldly EVOKE in yourself that free instantaneous moral courage.
Candidly ILLUMINE the need to always secure and confer loyalty.
Daringly ASPIRE for an unwavering reputation for a just judgment.
Essentially STRIVE to guard your heart against shallow contentment.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself towards fair and truthful dealings.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘INTEGRITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the love for truth be the citadel of freedom.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let truth lighten me and never be extinguished.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the love for truth be the citadel of freedom.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let truth lighten me and never be extinguished.
Repeat 4 times

J. JEST: - Amusing oneself and others with a good sense of humour.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself a superlative sense of humour.
Boldly EVOKE in yourself the ability to lighten others’ heart.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you that playful though acute judgment.
Daringly ASPIRE to be refreshed by immense natural beauty.
Essentially STRIVE to arouse your childlike wide-eyed spontaneity.
Fondly DEDICATE to guiltless make fun on your bad behaviour.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘JEST’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----May my life be crowded with joys of thoughts.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm-----Let joys of nature also charm all my faculties.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----May my life be crowded with joys of thoughts.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm-----Let joys of nature also charm all my faculties.
Repeat 4 times

K. KEENNESS: - Swiftness and quickness to seize opportunities.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself that swiftness to apprehend.
Boldly EVOKE in you the wise acting on matters apprehended.
Candidly ILLUMINE the imperative to be always stout and awake.
Daringly ASPIRE for an eye for locality, letting no moment slip.
Essentially STRIVE to cultivate a critically superb social sensitivity.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself to seizing available opportunities.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘KEENNESS’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be conscious of all social imperatives.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me be aware of all historical compulsions.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be conscious of all social imperatives.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me be aware of all historical compulsions.
Repeat 4 times

L. LOVE: - Feeling of intimacy, passion and responsibility to the other.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself the inducement to be always alive.
Boldly EVOKE in yourself the natural therapeutic power of LOVE.
Candidly ILLUMINE in your soul the sweet healing scent of LOVE.
Daringly ASPIRE to always keep alight the flame of personal LOVE.
Essentially STRIVE for that strong defense, in the faithfulness of LOVE.
Fondly DEDICATE yourself at being a medicine to all your friends.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘LOVE’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the richness of my ‘being’ ooze out love.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me be a blessing to myself and everyone.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the richness of my ‘being’ ooze out love.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me be a blessing to myself and everyone.
Repeat 4 times.

M. MATURITY: - Changing in pursuit of greater human values.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself the thirst to be free from a bad past.
Boldly EVOKE in you the pursuance of all greater human values.
Candidly ILLUMINE your mind to be focused upon clear goal-setting.
Daringly ASPIRE to always be in the right place and at the right time.
Essentially STRIVE to always being in synch with all unfolding patterns.
Fondly DEDICATE to a heartily response to the call of your duties.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘MATURITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--May I be stimulated to always stride forward.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me move with assurance of the clear-sighted.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--May I be stimulated to always stride forward.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me move with assurance of the clear-sighted.
Repeat 4 times

N. NOURISHMENT: - Satisfying need self and others respect.--->

Acutely AROUSE your self-esteem through competence and MASTERY.
Boldly EVOKE valuing yourself positively regardless of situation.
Candidly ILLUMINE in your mind the ability to see good in all things.
Daringly ASPIRE for respect from others as well as your self-respect.
Essentially STRIVE in personal dignity to keep immersed in experiments.
Fondly DEDICATE to holding your head high and feeling energised.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘NOURISHMENT’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--May I always pursue the clear ‘existential’ path.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me cultivate my mind, body and the soul.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--May I always pursue the clear ‘existential’ path.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me cultivate my mind, body and the soul.
Repeat 4 times

O. OPTIMISM: - Ascribing to the conviction that things will be well.--->

Acutely AROUSE an inner conviction that things will turn out well.
Boldly EVOKE the ardent belief that, end product will be desirable.
Candidly ILLUMINE in your mind that, all will eventually make sense.
Daringly ASPIRE to keep your heart invigorated and ever stimulated.
Essentially STRIVE to see no possibility of failure in all your missions.
Fondly DEDICATE at reacting to setbacks from loci of your power.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘OPTIMISM’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I fight all passive and pessimistic attitudes.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me be in the world of action and adventure.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I fight all passive and pessimistic attitudes.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me be in the world of action and adventure.
Repeat 4 times

P. PRUDENCE: - Using good sense of judgement to deal with issues.--->

Acutely AROUSE a good sense of judgment in all practical matters.
Boldly EVOKE a careful consideration of the likely consequences.
Candidly ILLUMINE in yourself the fluid relativity of ideas and morals.
Daringly ASPIRE to see the earthily and fallible source of all ideals.
Essentially STRIVE to see the relation of ideals on changing basis of LIFE.
Fondly DEDICATE to judging ideas by their practical consequences.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘PRUDENCE’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I never be a prisoner to any ideology.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---- Let no dogma arrest my mind’s navigation.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- May I never be a prisoner to any ideology.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let no dogma arrest my mind’s navigation.
Repeat 4 times

Q. QUEST: - Deep passion for details and comprehension of ideas.--->

Acutely AROUSE a personal passion for details and comprehension.
Boldly EVOKE in yourself the need to inquire into all vital issues.
Candidly ILLUMINE in yourself a scientific spirit and temperament.
Daringly ASPIRE to make your reflective faculties active and firing.
Essentially STRIVE to see the world devoid of all sorts of irrationalism.
Fondly DEDICATE to a deep investigation of everything at hand.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘QUEST’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be able to see deep into my ‘being’.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my inner eye see the essence of all.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I be able to see deep into my ‘being’.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let my inner eye see the essence of all.
Repeat 4 times

R. RESPONSIBILITY: - Authority to make independent decisions.--->

Acutely AROUSE the personal making of independent decisions.
Boldly EVOKE in yourself absolute personal accountability.
Candidly ILLUMINE the attacking of difficulties at the source.
Daringly ASPIRE to avoid all sorts of reckless scapegoating.
Essentially STRIVE to amass the prerogative of personal censure.
Fondly DEDICATE to sincere adornment of personalised ideals.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘RESPONSIBILITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I build up the clearness in discernment.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me accumulate the sureness in reasoning.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I build up the clearness in discernment.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me accumulate the sureness in reasoning.
Repeat 4 times

S. SOCIABILITY: - Ability to interact with different people.--->

Acutely AROUSE the individual art of interacting with everyone.
Boldly EVOKE the ability of assuming different social selves.
Candidly ILLUMINE the playing of roles according to the moment.
Daringly ASPIRE to mirror the others cherished ideals and tastes.
Essentially STRIVE to master the strategy of winning over everyone.
Fondly DEDICATE to forging a new identity of your own making.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘SOCIABILITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--May I be able to cultivate communion with others.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let my ‘being’ synchronize with ‘being’ of anyone.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--May I be able to cultivate communion with others.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let my ‘being’ synchronize with ‘being’ of anyone.
Repeat 4 times

T. TRUST: - Believe in honesty, fairness or benevolence.--->

Acutely AROUSE the oath of never playing games with yourself.
Boldly EVOKE in you a total believe in your inherent potential.
Candidly ILLUMINE in yourself never to leave any stone unturned.
Daringly ASPIRE to being problem-centered and not self-centered.
Essentially STRIVE to orient and commit yourself to productive tasks.
Fondly DEDICATE to always correlate your need with your world.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘TRUST’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the cloud weighing upon me drop down.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me accrue firmness and percept in deciding.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May the cloud weighing upon me drop down.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---Let me accrue firmness and percept in deciding.
Repeat 4 times

U. UTILITY: - Quality of being seen as useful or important.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself the commitment to be useful.
Boldly EVOKE individual worth and dignity to the society.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the need to throw off all servitudes.
Daringly ASPIRE to always sharpen your communication skills.
Essentially STRIVE to always be at ease with your present purse.
Fondly DEDICATE to keep your thought at par with modernity.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘UTILITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I tacitly pluck all thorns of decadence.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them be formulas for my worthwhileness.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I tacitly pluck all thorns of decadence.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them be formulas for my worthwhileness.
Repeat 4 times

V. VITALITY: - Energetic and joyous approach to issues.--->

Acutely AROUSE in you the explosion of latent psychic energy.
Boldly EVOKE the joyous approach to situations and activities.
Candidly ILLUMINE purposive keeping of your LIFE fire burning.
Daringly ASPIRE to never succumb to idleness at any moment.
Essentially STRIVE for that little extra in all and everything you do.
Fondly DEDICATE to persistent effort and tireless endeavours.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘VITALITY’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my perspirations reflect my inspirations.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them reflect and yield to my aspirations.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my perspirations reflect my inspirations.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them reflect and yield to my aspirations.
Repeat 4 times

W. WARMTH: - Keeping the fire in relationships burning.--->

Acutely AROUSE the ability to have charming companions.
Boldly EVOKE in you the ability to make others buoyant.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the need to be always magnetic.
Daringly ASPIRE to be charismatic, humoristic and inspiring.
Essentially STRIVE for everybody to like associating with you.
Fondly DEDICATE towards pure enthusiasm and jovial mood.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘WARMTH’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue being a source of joy to others.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me always infuse my emotional magnetism.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I continue being a source of joy to others.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me always infuse my emotional magnetism.
Repeat 4 times

X. XENOPHISM: - Arousing the inherent ability to know.--->

Acutely AROUSE unto yourself the innate potential towards insight.
Boldly EVOKE in you the turning of your mind towards the light.
Candidly ILLUMINE in you the need to locate your individual bearing.
Daringly ASPIRE to be unique and wholly distinct from anyone else.
Essentially STRIVE to seek reinvigoration from within your resources.
Fondly DEDICATE towards individual designated evolutional path.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘XENOPHISM’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I stop energising below my maximum.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me cease behaving below my optimum.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May I stop energising below my maximum.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let me cease behaving below my optimum.
Repeat 4 times

Y. YEARNING: - Shifting from a spectator into a participant.--->

Acutely AROUSE the shifting from a spectator to an active player.
Boldly EVOKE in you the keeping of scrambling and scratching.
Candidly ILLUMINE the learning of who you are and your potential.
Daringly ASPIRE to keep developing the possibilities of your mind.
Essentially STRIVE to escape from the virtual current psychic prison.
Fondly DEDICATE to being a representative not one represented.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘YEARNING’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my achievements reflect my predispositions.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let my endeavours keep pace with my dreams.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May my achievements reflect my predispositions.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm--- Let my endeavours keep pace with my dreams.
Repeat 4 times

Z. ZEST: - Capacity to believe in LIFE without reservations.--->

Acutely AROUSE the total belief in LIFE without reservations.
Boldly EVOKE in you the utilisation of LIFE to its optimum.
Candidly ILLUMINE the absolute enrichment of the present hour.
Daringly ASPIRE to appreciate each passing time as a challenge.
Essentially STRIVE to respond to each moment with the best in you.
Fondly DEDICATE to vent the vast unexpended store of energy.
Goodly, these are realistic recipes in ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.

To therapeautically assimilate and anchor, ‘ZEST’, in your innards, here is a Meditative Mantra:
(close your eyes)
Inhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all slumbering energies in me awaken.
Hold to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them arouse me to excitements of the day.
Exhale to a count of 4 as you silently affirm---May all slumbering energies in me awaken.
Pause to a count of 4 as you silently affirm----Let them arouse me to excitements of the day.
Repeat 4 times

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An ‘ABCD...’ for an Assertive African
By Gilbert Kinyua Mwaniki

BEYONDISM BACKUP #6
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#6 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Let every free human being look to his or her bond (self-interest) without threat, intimidation or blackmail.

“When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bonds which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.”
- U.S. president Thomas Jefferson (1743 - 1826), in Declaration of Independence (July 4, 1776)
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Control Theory (sociology) asnswers the question: Why do people obey the law?
Distinguished Developer: American sociologist Francis Ivan Nye (1918 - 2014).

UNLIKELY to engage in DEVIANT activity, are people, due to their strong BONDS within the society.
PEOPLE are interested in satisfying their NEEDS and eschew experiencing NEGATIVE consequences.
GOING against the grain, and losing vital SUPPORT and APPROVAL from those in our LIFE is scaring.
REASONABLE ground for not violating laws, is informed by the deep connection we have with others.
ADHERING to cultural norms and willingness to obey laws, is impacted by inner and external controls.
DESIRE (conscience, values) to receive from those in our close relationships informs our inner control.
EXTERNAL controls are people and institutions – police, family etc. – that will respond if you deviate.
Timely Therapy: - Ethics of excellence comes to LIFE via values; obeying the law is the bare minimum.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
All actions must justify their VALUE before the judgment seat of BEYONDISM, or vanish into oblivion.

“Men are rewarded and punished not for what they do, but rather for how their acts are defined. This is why men are more interested in better justifying themselves than in better behaving themselves.”
- Hungarian-born U.S. psychiatrist Thomas Szasz (1920 - )
“What in me is dark
Illumine, what is low raise and support;
That to the highth of this great argument
I may assert eternal providence,
And justify the ways of God to men.”
- English writer John Milton (1608 - 1674).
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Minimal Justification Principle: We justify what cannot be explained rationally.
Distinguished Developers: American social psychologists Leon Festinger (1919 – 1989) and James Merrill Carlsmith (1936 – 1984).

UNDETERRED, when one does something, there is always a Minimal Justification for them doing it.
PRUDENTLY, this creates more dissonance than if they can explain it through a significant rationale.
GOING forward, the Cognitive Dissonance acts to make them seek to internally JUSTIFY the action.
REASONABLY, it may be by saying: “I wanted to do it anyway because I like doing that sort of thing.”
ASPIRING to obtain private CHANGE, instead of MERE public compliance, offer just enough reward.
DECISIVELY, give people small rewards or tokens for the actions you want them to keep performing.
EVEN praise is often enough; beware of big bonuses and other major rewards that get only compliance.
Timely Therapy: - Justify your bad actions to others, but never can you convince yourself, for so long.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
A basic point of view can be a very dangerous luxury when substituted for deep insight and understanding.

“I do not want to use the word ‘true.’ There are only opinions, some of which are preferable to others. One cannot say: ‘Ah, if it is just a matter of preference to hell with it.’...One can die for an opinion which is only preferable.” - Italian writer and literary scholar Umberto Eco (1932 - )
“If all mankind minus one were of one opinion, and only one person were of the contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person, than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind.” - British philosopher and social reformer John Stuart Mill (1806 - 1873)
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Counter-Attitudinal Advocacy: Sometimes we tell white or gray lies.
Distinguished Developers: American social psychologists Leon Festinger (1919 – 1989) and James Merrill Carlsmith (1936 – 1984)

USUALLY, we may state an opinion or support a point of view that is actually against our own beliefs.
PUBLICLY espousing a belief which runs counter to our own belief is Counter-Attitudinal Advocacy.
GAINFUL result is changing our original belief, in order for it to be in accordance with our statement.
REDUCTION of dissonance ensues; failure to find external justification, leads to internal justification.
AVAILED rewards are too small for one to attribute one’s change to, thus forcing internal attribution.
DRIVE people to agree with you, on a small point, about something which you want to persuade them.
ENSURE there is no SIGNIFICANT external justification. After a while, their beliefs will simply change.
Timely Therapy: - Nothing is wrong in fighting a battle, but something is wrong in fighting a wrong battle.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
You MUST take your LIFE in your own hands, and even if a terrible thing happens you should blame no one.

“Everyone threw the blame on me. I have noticed that they nearly always do. I suppose it is because they think I shall be able to bear it best.” - British prime minister and writer Winston Churchill (1874 - 1965)
“They invent a legend to put the blame for the existence of humanity on women and, if she wants to stop it, they talk about the wonders of civilizations and the sacred responsibilities of motherhood. They can’t have it both ways.” - British writer Dorothy M. Richardson (1873 - 1957)
“Let him who finds good praise Allah and let him who finds other than that blame no one but himself.”
- Arab religious leader and prophet Muhammad (570? - 632?)
Quoted in The Complete Forty Hadith. The Hadith, of which there are several accepted canonical collections, are the record of the precepts, life, and actions of Muhammad. Attribution is based on a clear chain of named authorities traceable back through his companions to Muhammad himself. Reported as spoken by Muhammad by Abu Dharr al-Ghifari.
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Actor-Observer Difference: We see others’ behaviour caused by disposition, ours by situation.
Distinguished Developers: Jones and Nisbett (1971)

UNABATED, one explains one’s behaviour with situational causes; others’ with internal causes.
PRONOUNCED more in situations where the outcomes are negative, is the Actor-Observer Bias.
GIVEN a situation where one experiences something negative, one will often blame the situation.
REALLY, when something negative happens to another person, we will often blame the individual.
Actor-Observer Bias entails ignoring situational factors when assessing other people’s behaviour.
DUE experiencing of this bias is less frequently with people one knows well; like friends or family.
EXPLANATION: They are informed about the needs, motivations, and thoughts of those individuals.
Timely Therapy: - Do not blame others for causing events without acknowledging the role you played.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Infer from various sources; have a conceptual structure that makes unified sense of all disparate information.

“‘I grant you that he’s not two-faced,’ I said. ‘But what’s the use of that when the one face he has got is so peculiarly unpleasant?’” - British novelist and scientist C. P. Snow (1905 - 1980)
“Bold knaves thrive without one grain of sense,
But good men starve for want of impudence.”
- English poet, playwright, and literary critic John Dryden (1631 - 1700)
“From a timid, shy girl I had become a woman of resolute character, who could not longer be frightened by the struggle with troubles.” - Russian diarist and writer Anna Dostoyevsky (1846 - 1918)
“He of a temper was so absolute
As that it seem’d when Nature him began,
She meant to shew all, that might be in man.”
- English poet Michael Drayton (1563 - 1631)
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Correspondent Trait Inference: We assume unusual acts are due to disposition.
Distinguished Developers: American social psychologists Edward Ellsworth “Ned” Jones (1926 – 1993) and Keith E. Davis.

UNDERSTAND: A Correspondent Inference, is sometimes called a Correspondent Trait Inference.
PRECISELY, it is a judgment that a person’s personality matches or corresponds to his or her behaviour.
GENERALLY, we compare people’s actions with alternative actions to evaluate the choices they made.
REASONABLE it is to infer that people’s personalities correspond to their behaviour and sometimes not.
APPROPRIATENESS to infer that one’s personality corresponds to his or her behaviour is by two factors.
DULY, if the behaviour is what is expected of most people in that situation, it is not reasonable to infer.
EVENTUALLY, if it is not clear what trait the behaviour suggests, it is not reasonable to draw inference.
Timely Therapy: - Words deployed by a coherent character, can change the very fabric of our civilisation.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:
Most folks secretely admit that it would be nice if they had a few more exciting personal qualities than they do.

“Anyone can be heroic from time to time, but a gentleman is something which you have to be all the time. Which isn’t easy.” - Italian dramatist, novelist, and short-story writer Luigi Pirandello (1867 - 1936)
“I say that moral judgments are prescriptive because in their typical uses they are intended to guide our conduct; to accept one is to be committed to a certain line of action or to prescribing it to somebody else.”
- British philosopher R. M. Hare (1919 - 2002)
“It’s wiser being good than bad;
It’s safer being meek than fierce;
It’s fitter being sane than mad.
My own hope is, a sun will pierce
The thickest cloud earth ever stretched;
That after Last returns the First,
Though a wide compass round be fetched;
That what began best can’t end worst,
Nor what God blessed once prove accurst.”
- British poet Robert Browning (1812 - 1889)
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Covariation Model: We look for similarities to narrow down attribution in others.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Harold Kelley (1921 – 2003)

UNIFORMLY, we make causal INFERENCES to explain why WE and OTHERS behave in a certain way.
PRECISELY, the Covariation Principle is concerned with both SOCIAL perception and SELF-perception.
GENERALLY, “an effect is attributed to the one of its possible causes with which, over time, it covaries”.
REASONS can be attributed to the person (internal), the stimulus (external), the circumstance, or ALL.
ACUTE Consensus is the covariation of behaviour across many people (high = stimulus, low = person).
DISTINCTIVENESS refers to how unique the behaviour is to a single situation (high = circumstance).
EVENTUAL Consistency is the covariation of behaviour across time (high = person, low = circumstance).
Timely Therapy: - Inference is always an intentional invasion of the unknown, a lofty leap from the known.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:
An adorable element of any good education is its due emphasize on knowledge analysis, description and debate.

“If we take in our hand any volume; of divinity or school metaphysics, for instance; let us ask, Does it contain any abstract reasoning concerning quantity or number? No. Does it contain any experimental reasoning, concerning matter of fact and existence? No. Commit it then to the flames: for it can contain nothing but sophistry and illusion.” - Scottish philosopher and historian David Hume (1711 - 1776)
“The true system of the World has been recognized, developed and perfected...
Everything has been discussed and analysed, or at least mentioned.”
- French scientist, mathematician, and philosopher Jean le Rond d’ Alembert (1717 - 1783)
Referring to the Encyclopédie (1751-1780), which he helped to edit.
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Positivity Effect: We make situational attribution for those we like.
Distinguished Developers: Taylor, S.E.; Koivumaki, J.H. (1976)

USUAL Positivity Effect is deeply ANALYSING a situation where the desired results are not achieved.
POSITIVE feedback is still obtained upon this careful consideration that assists our future progression.
GAINFUL relation is to the characteristics of people when EVALUATING the causes of their behaviours.
ROBUST attribute is inferring a person’s inherent disposition as the cause of their positive behaviours.
AND attributing the situations surrounding them as the potential cause of their NEGATIVE behaviours.
DECISIVELY, on online social networks like x.com and Instagram, users prefer to share POSITIVE news.
EMOTIONAL affection is by POSITIVE news, more than twice as much as they are by NEGATIVE news.
Timely Therapy: - Be positive in your views; the only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down.

Realizable Requests

R#56. On finding yourself in CONFLICT with established rules and accepted norms.

BQ#7. What intensity of CLASSINESS is key in CONTROLLING CONFLICT, as a function of sequentially seeking REALISABLE REQUESTS?--->

“Truth persuades by teaching, but does not teach by persuading.”
- Prolific early Christian author from Carthage Tertullian (Latin: Quintus Septimius Florens Tertullianus; 155 AD – 220 AD)

“Do not raise your voice, improve your argument.”
- South African Anglican Bishop Desmond Mpilo Tutu (1931 – 2021)

“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity… There is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument—and that is to avoid it… There’s magic, positive magic, in such phrases as: “I may be wrong. I frequently am. Let’s examine the facts”.
- U.S. writer and speaker Dale Carnegie (1888 - 1955)

“You would play upon me; you would seem to know my stops; you would pluck out the heart of my mystery; you would sound me from my lowest note to the top of my compass.”
- Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 2

“People almost invariably arrive at their beliefs not on the basis of proof, but on the basis of what they find attractive…people are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered than by those which have come into the mind others.”
- French philosopher, mathematician, and physicist Blaise Pascal (1623 – 1662)

“Woe betide him, and her too, when it comes to things of consequence, when they are placed in circumstances requiring fortitude and strength of mind, if she have not resolution enough to resist idle interference ... It is the worst evil of too yielding and indecisive a character, that no influence over it can be depended on. You are never sure of a good impression being durable; everybody may sway it. Let those who would be happy be firm.”
- English novelist Jane Austen (1775 – 1817)

“The King has a way of making every man feel that he is enjoying his special favour, just as the London wives pray before the image of Our Lady by the Tower till each of them believes it is smiling upon her.”
- English statesman and writer Thomas More (1478 - 1535), 1518. Referring to Henry VIII.
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PERSUASION IS GOOD, BUT IT HAS ITS OWN LIMITS. We would like to see anyone, prophet, king or an angel, convince a thousand cats to do the same thing at the same time. Get what you can with words, because words are free, but the words of a practiced persuader ring that much sweeter. It is indubitable that words have persuasive power. But only to the extent they are tactfully used. Fail in this direction and you become a frustrated person. The more you try to impress, the more you become depressed, and the more they get tired of your coercion. It does not make them love you, instead, they will see you as a little child, trying to draw a senseless picture on a piece of paper, begging people to look at it and admire it by force. You can persuade someone to look at your face, but you cannot persuade them to see the beauty therein. It does not really matter if you are left behind the back, but what matters is your capacity to pull and push everyone by your way to get to the front. You must develop an uncanny ability to always get what you want, to size up a person and know exactly what to say to reach him or her. Compliance gaining studies examine techniques that produce behavioral conformity without exerting substantial pressure on the target and without necessarily persuading the target. These techniques can be classified as either sequential or nonsequential request strategies. Sequential request strategies are those requests that involve messages transmitted at multiple stages in the compliance process. They involve subtle messages transmitted at multiple stages in the compliance, soft-sale process.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of REALISABLE REQUESTS thus:

Read clearly the motivation and oriention of the person you wish to really persuade.
Endeavouring to really persuade, entails appealing to ‘interest’ rather than ‘intellect’.
Actually one of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears; by listening to them.
Lofty well-crafted persuasion can go through hardened obstacles that any force cannot.
If you wish to win a human being over to your ideas, first make him or her your friend.
Self-discovered reasons convince most people deeply than by those found out by others.
Aspiring to to persuade people to do or buy something? You should use their language.
Basically try to convince one to go along, because once well persuaded, one will stick.
Loathfully if scared, one will stay just as long as he or she is scared, and then goes away.
Essentially, a single loaded question can be more influential than a thousand statements.

Rogue persuaders appeals to people’s appetites, their fears, and above all their vanity.
Entrenched in society is this fact: you cannot antagonise and influence at the same time.
Quell any internal fear about your ability to influence; your words are the true weapons.
Using steel to fight limits you to arm’s strength, the blade’s reach, and the strike timing.
Ennobled to fight with persuasion removes all limits - not time, nor status, nor chance.
Status, academic pedigree or job title need not be invoked for people to believe in you.
Trying to use long arguments to proof yourself means that you are not persuasive enough.
Strong compelling reason will never convince blinding emotion; use emotion for emotions.

“Inspiration is hard to come by. You have to take it where you find it.”- American singer-songwriter Bob Dylan (born Robert Allen Zimmerman, 1941). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: IRRIGATING your CLASSINESS for CONTROLLING CONFLICT with the accepted norms.--->

LIFE should be a ceaseless stream of HAPPINESS. Consequently, the accumulation of knowledge, like ingestion of delicious food, should be painless, natural and personally enriching. As a student, you need to ‘learn how to learn’ without many burdens; the kind of learning that makes you feel good while you are doing it, and how you can apply this learning skill in a good many areas of your LIFE. You will thus, be able to study not primarily to pass exams; you will study to acquire knowledge, and in the joyous expansiveness of your mind, passing exam will be easily achieved.

Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to LEARN LAUDABLY.
SOCIETY has inevitably two kinds of SLAVES: the prisoners of ADDICTION and the prisoners of ENVY.
UNDERSTAND: There is only one reason why people become addicted to drugs, they are bare weaklings.
MOST psychiatrists concurs that only strong individuals are cured of addictions, and they cure themselves.
MAKE sure you always remember this simple Tamil proverb: “Alcohol drowns more people than water.”
AMBROSE Bierce defined drug as: “An unlocked door in the prison of Identity. It leads into the jail yard.”
REALLY, all SIN tends to be addictive, and the terminal point of addiction is what is called DAMNATION.
YE shall count yourself the most WILLED creature, if you are able to quit from any sort of ADDICTION.

PREPARE yourself to diligently IRRIGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for CONTROLLING CONFLICT.

Positivity or negativity in our attitudes, belief, and thoughts directly affect how we feel and behave.
Really, the way we think about events, and the MEANINGS we give to them, determines our LIFE.
Examine your philosophy of LIFE – goals, values, etc. - and how it affects your SELF-help efforts.
Personally encourage and boost yourself to accept your limitations while working on SELF-change.
Although you are determined extensively by genetics, upbringing, and culture, you still can change.
Rate your behaviour, not your SELF; this philosophy entails Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)
Essentially, rate what others do, but not them; this implies Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA).

REALISE that IRRIGATING your innate ‘quest’ for CONTROLLING CONFLICT is in your ‘power.’

Rational people realise that when they think reasonably, their LIFE is helpful, functional and better.
Emotions are affected by what happens to you and how you think affectionately about those events.
Accepting that, what you do (your behaviour) affects how you think and feel, nourishes your LIFE.
LIFE informed by Rational Thinking, does not mean cold and calculating; it is flexible and realistic.
It reflects preferences rather than demands, in terms of someone’s long-term goals and deep values.
Surely and in all circumstances, Irrational Thinking does NOT, cannot and will NOT work for you.
Even if irrational thinking may seem to work, it is helpless in obtaining medium and long-term goals.

EMPOWER yourself to IRRIGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for CONTROLLING CONFLICT.

Example of irrational thinking: Demandingness, inflexibility, rigidity, awfulising and catastrophising.
Most lethal: I-cannot-stand-it (low frustration tolerance), all-or-nothing thinking and personalising.
Personally feel empowered and hopeful that you can understand and, finally control your thoughts.
Only in this way will you be able to pioneer your attitudes and behaviour productively and effectively.
Where is the evidence? Use this statement to dispute, question, or challenge your irrational beliefs.
Empowerment at a personal level entails asking: Where is it written that……..? Why is it so awful?
Render your PSYCHIC effort, into figuring out more EFFECTIVE thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to IRRIGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of CONTROLLING CONFLICT.

Movement towards Self-pity is seeing yourself in a loathful manner: “I deserve better – poor me!”
Entrenching Self-doubt is by using negative statements like: “I am such a failure,” “I am worthless.”
Demanding-ness is believing that LIFE ought not be so hard, that you or others should be different.
IN Awfulising we have negative exaggeration, evaluation and I “crank it up” on my scale attitude.
ACUTE Low frustration tolerance manifests in beliefs like: I cannot stand it, it is terrible, unfair.
These are the vicious cycle of Irrational Thinking, which MUST be broken with all necessary resolve.
Encumbrances by such faulty thoughts curtails all core efforts to live productively and contentedly.

INDULGE yourself in IRRIGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards CONTROLLING CONFLICT.

Indict Demanding-ness, by trying “Preferential Thinking”; Awfulising, by “combating your rating”.
Negating Low frustration tolerance is by reality check (which is training yourself to face issues).
Deal with the gnawing feelings of Self-pity, by prudently practicing uninhibited PSYCHIC awareness.
Unchain yourself from the cruel clutches of Self-doubt by questioning your irrational assumptions.
Loath all Cognitive Distortions in the manner of SHOULDS, MUSTS, as well as WONDERFULISING.
Guide yourself against the assertions: “I cannot stand what I feel,” or “I deserve it,” or “it is not fair”.
Encroach yourself from: “I can get away with it,” “It will not matter,” or “I am going to do it anyway.”

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for IRRIGATING the ‘compulsion’ of CONTROLLING CONFLICT.

Undaunted every human being has an inborn capacity to shield or heal oneself from any addiction.
To let loose your potential, you have to untie you PSYCHE from the negating noose of addiction.
Indulging in the use of any substance which tends to alter the function of nervous system is lethal.
Listed among the most dangerous drugs are those which disorts colours, sounds, time and speed.
If you remove the drug and the body cannot function without discomfort, this is drug dependence.
State of “addiction”, is when drug dependency develops serious detrimental effects on the user.
Effects of drug abuse can always be permanently reversed by medication or personal will-power.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to IRRIGATE CONTROLLING CONFLICT.

Most people are substantially more likely to become alcoholics after taking alcohol at the age of 15.
Only by abstaining from drugs and alcohol can you guarantee success and happiness in your LIFE.
No amount of temptation or frustration, should prompt you to engage in any sort of criminal activity.
Identity-search or failure to handle the crisis of role confusion often leads to antisocial behaviour.
Trust your animal instincts by never engaging in sexual perversions like homosexuality or lesbianism.
Occupy yourself with MEANINGFUL activities, so as to avoid creeping of any sense of emptiness.
Realise that SUICIDE can happen to anyone, and especially to those individuals who expect it less.

“The quality of mercy is not strained,
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath. It is twice blest,
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes.
‘Tis mightiest in the mightiest, it becomes
The thronèd monarch better than his crown.
His sceptre shows the force of temporal power,
The attribute to awe and majesty,
Wherein doth sit the dread and fear of kings;
But mercy is above this sceptred sway,
It is enthronèd in the hearts of kings,
It is an attribute to God himself;
And earthly power doth then show likest God’s
When mercy seasons justice.”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice (1596), Act 4, Scene 1

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on seeking sequentially REALISABLE REQUESTS:
Noticeably you are now ripe to REAP your lively labour to LEARN LOFTILY.
Blessed is you who has transcended CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
And NURTURING your ennobling exertion.

“Good name in man and woman, dear my lord,
Is the immediate jewel of their souls:
Who steals my purse steals trash; ‘tis something, nothing;
‘Twas mine, ‘tis his, and has been slave to thousands;
But he that filches from me my good name
Robs me of that which not enriches him
And makes me poor indeed.”
- Shakespeare in Othello, Act 3, Scene 3
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BEYONDISM BACKUP #7
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#7 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
To effectively persuade, make your attitude univalent not ambivalent (having mixed, or conflicting feelings).

Take the instance of a cleric who wants to persuade another towards a religion.
When the target person states opposing beliefs, the cleric shows vague agreement.
When the person states better beliefs, the cleric becomes more confirmatory.
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Amplification Hypothesis ascertains that certainty hardens attitude.
Distinguished Developers: Clarkson, J.J., Tormala, Z.L., & Rucker, D.D. (2008)

UNCERTAINTY when displaying an ATTITUDE, only serves and acts in softening that ATTITUDE.
PROACTIVELY displaying an ATTITUDE when talking, acts to increase and harden that ATTITUDE.
GRANTED, using an emotional attack on a cognitive ATTITUDE, will simply increase RESISTANCE.
REASONABLE cognitive attack, will then be more effective in dealing with a cognitive ATTITUDE.
A logical argument has little impact on an emotional person; an emotional one is more POWERFUL.
DEDICATED to persuading another person? Simply align your projected ATTITUDE with his or hers.
ENERVATING persuaders? Mismatch their ATTITUDES. When logical, be emotional, and vice versa.
Timely Therapy: - Success often comes to those people, who are duly too busy and solidly looking for it.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
As far as criticism is concerned, people do not resent that unless it is absolutely biased, as it is in most cases.

Kipchoge walks up to a yard with a sign written:
“KEEP OFF LAWN”.
He is astonished as to why a person would be more likely to want to walk on the lawn.
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Boomerang Effect is whereby persuasion may result in hardened opposing views.
Distinguished Developers: Hovland, Janis and Kelly (1953)

UNINTENDED consequences of persuasion, is arousing resistance or adoption of an opposing position.
PRUDENTLY, Boomerang Effect is sometimes also referred to “the theory of psychological reactance”.
GHASTLY attempts to restrict a person’s freedom may produce an “anticonformity boomerang effect”.
READ in other words, the Boomerang Effect is a situation where most people tend to PICK the opposite.
APPARENT OPPOSITION to something or someone is determined by how it is PRESENTED to a person.
DARINGLY, the more aggressively it is PRESENTED, people are more likely to want to do the opposite.
ELIMINATING freedom to support a position, moves attitudes in the way of restoring the lost freedom.
Timely Therapy: - If you want to persuade others, use language that tends to support their belief systems.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
Next to arms, eloquence offers the great avenue to popular favor, whether it be in civilized or savage LIFE.

“Until we learn the use of living words we shall continue to be waxworks inhabited by gramophones.” - British poet and novelist Walter de la Mare (1873 - 1956)
“Language has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone, and the word solitude to express the glory of being alone.” - German-born U.S. theologian and philosopher Paul Tillich (1886 - 1965)
“‘I don’t know what you mean by ‘glory’,’ Alice said. Humpty Dumpty smiled contemptuously. ‘Of course you don’t—till I tell you. I meant ‘there’s a nice knock-down argument for you’!’ ‘But glory doesn’t mean ‘a nice knock-down argument’,’ Alice objected.” - British writer and mathematician Lewis Carroll (1832 - 1898)
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Language Expectancy Theory (LET): We are shocked by unexpected language.
Distinguished Developers: M. Burgoon and Miller (1985)

UNDERSTAND: LET is a theory of persuasion which says that, language is a rules-based system.
PEOPLE often develop expected norms in order to appropriate language usage in given situations.
GRANTED, people create expectations for language, which determine its acceptance or rejection.
RESULTANT change in favour of the persuasive message is done by breaking expectations positively.
ACTUALLY, breaking expectations negatively results in no change or an opposite behaviour change.
DULY those who hold power have the freedom to select varied language strategies (wide bandwidth).
EVENTUALLY, low credibility restricts a person to compliance-gaining messages, to be persuasive.
Timely Therapy: - Seek social elevation first (power), and your persuasive abilities will be augmented.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
In nature before outright rewards and punishments shows up, we have suitabtle choices and consequences.

“When an emotionally exciting object stimulates the subject simultaneously with one not emotionally exciting, the latter may in time (often after one such joint stimulation) arouse the same emotional reaction as the former.” - U.S. psychologist and advertising executive John B. Watson (1878 - 1958)
Assume that you liked your history teacher.
In her presence you always felt warm and wanted.
This distinguished scholar always wore a particular perfume.
When you smell the perfume now, you immediately feel warm and wanted.
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Classical Conditioning ascertains how a repeated stimulus will trigger associated event.
Distinguished Developer: Soviet and Russian physiologist Ivan Petrovich Pavlov (1849 –1936)

UNCONDITIONALLY responding in particular ways to stimuli, is what individuals are pre-conditioned to.
PUT together a stimulus that results in an EMOTIONAL response alongside another one which does not.
GAINFUL eventuality is that the second stimulus will robustly result in the same EMOTIONAL response.
REAL example: a song (an Unconditional Stimulus, US) makes us sad (the Unconditional Response, UR).
A movement is made at the same time, such as moving hands to clap loudly (Conditional Stimulus, CS).
DULY, one is sad when the movement is made in the absence of the song (the Conditional Response, CR).
ENTRENCHED association is made between the ‘US’ and ‘CS’, with either stimulating the same response.
Timely Therapy: - To persuade one to a task, get him do it at the same time as doing what he likes doing.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Fondly we tend to think we honour merit then, when we but subtly praise those people who verily praise us.

Can you objectivelly recall how your parents tried to balance praise and punishment on you?
To be effective, parents should punish only behaviours they wish to extinguish.
They should not punish kids for not doing what should be done.
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Operant Conditioning affirms that behaviour + reward = More behaviour (and vice versa).
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Burrhus Frederic Skinner (1904 - 1990)

UNDERSTAND: Behaviour increases if followed by positive reinforcement; decreases if by punishment.
PRECISELY, Classical Conditioning = automatic response; Operant Conditioning = learned behaviours.
GIVEN, Classical Conditioning associates two stimuli; Operant Conditioning, a stimulus and a response.
REALLY, Classical Conditioning is the push of stimulus, while Operant Conditioning is the pull of reward.
ACTUALLY, FAVOURABLE circumstances are purposively known as REINFORCING stimuli or reinforcers.
DECADENTLY, the UNFAVOURABLE circumstances are then known as PUNISHING stimuli or punishers.
ESSENTIAL Classical Conditioning is ‘learning by association’; Operant Conditioning, ‘by consequences’.
Timely Therapy: - To fully motivate, do not punish them when they do not work — reward them when they do.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Beware when you think you can live a risk-free existence; many people have tried and have bitten the dust.

If you want a person to take an action,
Show them the threat,
But also ensure they can see that there is a solution,
Which they can use (probably your solution).
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Extended Parallel Process Model (EPPM) explains that threat leads to danger- or fear-control.
Distinguished Developer: American communications scholar Kim Witte in a research paper:
“Putting the fear back into fear appeals: The extended parallel process model” (1992).

USUAL Extended Parallel Process Model (EPPM) illustrates how we react to fear-inducing messages.
PEOPLE who are threatened will take one of two courses of action: either danger control or fear control.
GAINFUL danger control seeks to reduce the risk; fear control seeks to reduce the perception of the risk.
REAL danger control is outer-focused (towards a solution); fear control is inner-focused (away from it).
AN effective response needs to be seen as available (response efficacy) for danger control to be selected.
DILIGENTLY, the person should be capable of UTILISING this response to reduce the risk (self efficacy).
EVENTUALLY, if danger control is not deliberately selected, then action simply defaults to fear control.
Timely Therapy: - When feeling threatened, pause before taking the ‘obvious’ solution to reduce the threat.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
Achieving a unique goal entails surpassing beautifully designed and effective ‘societal’ braking mechanisms.

Have you witnessed football crowds becoming aggressive when their team starts to lose?
Some people are more predisposed to aggression and find it harder to contain it.
For such people, frustration is more likely to lead directly to aggression,
Than for other people with a calmer disposition or greater self-control.
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Frustration-Aggression hypothesis affirms that, when our goal is blocked, we may get aggressive.
Distinguished Developers: American psychologist and social scientist John Dollard (1900 – 1980),
American experimental psychologist Neal Elgar Miller (1909 – 2002),
American psychologist Orval Hobart Mowrer (1907 – 1982,
and American psychologist Robert Richardson Sears (1908 – 1989)

UNDERSTAND: After being prevented from achieving a goal, frustration is likely to turn to aggression.
PERCEPTUALLY, the closer you get to a goal, the greater the excitement and expectation of the pleasure.
GNAWINGLY, the closer you are to a goal, the more frustrated you are apt to get by being HELD BACK.
REALISTICALLY, unexpected occurrence of the frustration also INCREASES the likelihood of aggression.
ACTUALLY, frustration does not always lead to aggression, particularly when we deliberately suppress it.
DULY, because either we know that it is wrong or we FEAR the social consequences of being aggressive.
ESSENTIALLY, we often DISPLACE aggression into other activity, such as sports, driving fast and so on.
Timely Therapy: - If people dangle a carrot then whisk it away, either refuse to play or play hard and fast.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #8:--->
Timing can be everything in selling an idea; knowing when people can resist it and when they can fall for it.

Pennebaker and Sanders (1976) put one of two signs on college bathroom walls.
One read “Do not write on these walls under any circumstances.”
The other read “Please do not write on these walls.”
The results were evaluated a couple of weeks later.
The walls with the “Do not write on these walls under any circumstances” notice,
Had far more graffiti on them.
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Reactance Theory affirms that preventing an action, leads to action (to prove control).
Distinguished Developers: Brehm (1966), Pennebaker and Sanders (1976)

USUALLY, Reactance is an unpleasant motivational reaction to offers, ideas, people, rules, or regulations.
PROFUSELY, these are things that tend to threaten or eliminate a person’s specific behavioural freedoms.
GHASTLY reactance can occur when someone is heavily PRESSURED to accept a certain view or attitude.
REACTANCE occur when one feels that one’s choices are taken away or the range of alternatives limited.
AWFUL reactance can cause the person to adopt or STRENGTHEN a contrary intended view or attitude.
DECISIVE reverse psychology is playing on reactance; influencing one to choose the OPPOSITE request.
EFFETELY, some people are naturally high in reactance, a personality characteristic called trait reactance.
Timely Therapy: - If people get wind that they are being railroaded, they will just leap right off the tracks.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #9:
When all is said and done, seek to persuade the decision makers that the decision you want is their idea.

“‘My idea of good company, Mr. Elliot, is the company of clever, well-informed people, who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company.’ ‘You are mistaken,’ said he gently, ‘that is not good company, that is the best.’” - British novelist Jane Austen (1775 - 1817) in the novel Persuasion (1818)
“In recommending a book to a friend the less said the better. The moment you praise a book too highly you awaken resistance in your listener.” - U.S. novelist Henry Miller (1891 - 1980)
“I have always found that the only kind of statement worth making is an overstatement. A half-truth, like half a brick, is always more forcible as an argument than a whole one. It carries further.” - British-born Canadian writer and economist Stephen Leacock (1869 - 1944)
“At any given moment, there is always a line representing what your boss will believe. If you step over it, you will not get your budget. Go as close to that line as you can.” - U.S. navy officer and mathematician Grace Murray Hopper (1906 - 1992)
“Children are to be won to follow liberal studies by exhortations and rational motives, and on no account to be forced thereto by whipping.” - Greek biographer and philosopher Plutarch (46? - 120?)
“Oftentimes, to win us to our harm,
The instruments of darkness tell us truths;
Win us with honest trifles, to betray’s
In deepest consequence.”
- William Shakespeare in Macbeth, Act 1, Scene 3
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Elaboration Likelihood Model (ELM) is how we either think centrally or take unthinking short-cut decisions.
Distinguished Developers: Richard E. Petty and John Cacioppo (1980)

UNDERSTAND: ELM proposes two major routes to persuasion: the central route and the peripheral route.
PERSUASION will likely result from a thoughtful consideration of the true merits of the facts presented.
GIVEN, this is the central route: involves a high level of message elaboration in support of an advocacy.
RESULTANT attitude change in this case will be relatively enduring, resistant, and predictive of behaviour.
ASCRIBING to the peripheral route, persuasion results from making a simple inference about the merits.
DELIBERATE cues received by the individual are generally unrelated to the logical quality of the stimulus.
ESTEEMED cues involve factors such as the attractiveness of the message, or the credibility of its sources.
Timely Therapy: - For long-term changes, use the central route; for simple compliance, use the peripheral.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #10:
The object of oratory is not truth, but persuasion; the aim of advertisement is not information, but deception.

In political campaigns during important elections,
Undecided voters often see negative advertisements about a party or candidate for office.
At the end of the advertisement,
They also might notice that the opposing candidate paid for the advertisement.
Presumably, this would make voters question the truthfulness of the advertisement,
And consequently, they may not be persuaded initially.
However, even though the source of the advertisement lacked credibility,
Voters will be more likely to be persuaded later.
And ultimately, vote against the candidate disfavoured by the advertisement.
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Sleeper Effect is when persuasive messages increase effectiveness over time.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Carl Iver Hovland (1912 – 1961).

USUALLY, the Sleeper Effect is a puzzling psychological phenomenon that relates to PERSUASION.
PURELY, it is a delayed increase in the effect of a message that is accompanied by a discounting cue.
GRANTED, a discounting cue being some negative connotation or lack of credibility in the message.
REALLY, a positive message may EVOKE an IMMEDIATE positive response which decays over time.
ACTUALLY, the Sleeper Effect refers to a DELAYED positive response that is maintained over time.
DUE effect occurs when the discounting cue is strong enough to SUPPRESS initial ATTITUDE change.
ENOUGH time must have elapsed and the message itself must still have a strong effect on ATTITUDES.
Timely Therapy: - When making a decision, robustly recall the source and hence credibility of the data.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #11:
“The sublime and the ridiculous are often so nearly related that it is difficult to class them separately...

One step above the sublime makes the ridiculous; and one step above the ridiculous makes the sublime again,” so diligently taught Anglo-American political philosopher Thomas Paine (1737 - 1809)
Amazon has arguably one of the most recognised logos around.
But no matter how many times you have seen it, you may not have really taken it in.
Take a look at the strategically placed arrow to see what is meant here.
Why it works: The hidden message here is simple: Amazon sells everything, from A to Z.
It helps, of course, that Amazon actually does sell everything.
It is not pushy; it just reinforces the channels all-in-one model.
The fact the arrow also forms a smile does not hurt, either.
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Subliminal Messages are inaudible to the conscious mind but audible to the unconscious mind.
Distinguished Developer: American market researcher James McDonald Vicary (1915 – 1977)

USUAL Subliminal Messages are visual or auditory stimuli that the conscious mind cannot perceive.
PURPOSIVELY, these stimuli are often inserted into various media such as TV commercials or songs.
GENERALLY, this strengthens the persuasiveness of adverts, or conveys an entirely different message.
REAL Subliminal Messages are unobserved by the conscious mind, even if you are looking for them.
ACTUAL stimuli to which we respond every day are ABOVE the threshold of CONSCIOUS perception.
DULY, unlike subliminal (sub- literally means “less than”) messages, which are BELOW this threshold.
EVEN though unaware of the message, our SUBCONSCIOUS mind responds to the concealed stimuli.
Timely Therapy: - Subliminal messaging is so insidious in that it happens entirely without our knowledge.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #12:
LIFE may seem to be a system of half-truths and lies, opportunistic, convenient evasion. TRUTH is Freedom.

“Doubtless the pleasure is as great
Of being cheated, as to cheat.
As lookers-on feel most delight,
That least perceive a juggler’s sleight,
And still the less they understand,
The more th’ admire his sleight of hand.”
- English satirist Samuel Butler (1612 - 1680)
“And thus I clothe my naked villany
With odd old ends stol’n forth of holy writ,
And seem a saint when most I play the devil.”
- William Shakespeare in Richard III, Act 1, Scene 3
“I will have nothing to do with a man who can blow hot and cold with the same breath.”
- Greek writer Aesop (620? - 560 bc)
“Intellectual slavery masquerading as sophistication is the worst form of slavery.”
- Kenyan writer Ngugi wa Thiong'o (1938 - )
Have you ever watched children who have found out about lying?
Do they point at their siblings and put on their best ‘innocent’ expression?
Do they hold their hands behind their backs, pleadingly saying “not me, not me”?
At that developmental stage in their LIFE their minds are very flexible and learn fast.
Unfortunately, only before long they can pull the wool very well over their parent’s eyes.
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Interpersonal Deception Theory (IDT) views deception through the lens of dialogue.
Distinguished Developers: American philosopher of science David J. Buller (b. 1959)
and American communication expert Judee K. Burgoon (b. 1948).

UNCOUTH LYING happens in a dynamic interaction where liar and listener DANCE around one another.
PROACTIVELY, these two people continue changing their thoughts in response to each other’s MOVES.
GHASTLY, a liar is able to manipulate information, so as to DISTANCE him or herself from the message.
REALLY when found to be false, one can self-extricate by using vague excuses and talking about others.
ACUTELY and strategically control behaviour to suppress signals that might indicate that they are lying.
DECEPTION being well anchored in their psyche, their face may be more impassive and body more rigid.
EFFECTIVE Image Management is a perfected ART for them, for they are able to smile and nod more.
Timely Therapy: - Intentional deception requires greater cognitive exertion than truthful communication.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #13:
The face (and the body) is the index of a feeling mind; your whole LIFE shows (exhibits) in your expressions.

Wairimu is attractive and has no problem meeting eligible men.
But she has a difficult time maintaining a relationship for longer than a few months.
Wairimu is funny and interesting.
But even though she constantly laughs and smiles, she radiates tension.
Her shoulders and eyebrows are noticeably raised, her voice is shrill, and her body is stiff.
Being around Wairimu makes many people feel anxious and uncomfortable.
Wairimu has a lot going for her that is undercut by the discomfort she evokes in others.
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Non-Verbal Behaviour is how we communicate hugely without words.
Distinguished Developer: Darwin (1872), Argyle (1975), Morris (1978), Pease(1981),
Mehrabian (1971), Burgoon, Buller and Woodall (1996).

UNCENSORED facial expressions, gestures, posture, or tone of voice are powerful communication tools.
POTENTLY, it is not the words used, but your nonverbal cues or “body language” that speak the loudest.
GENERAL body language communicates nonverbally; is often done instinctively rather than consciously.
REALISTIC but often subconscious, it can be used to express emotion (like smiling to show happiness).
ATTITUDES conveying, and demonstrating of traits (like open palms for accepting personality) is vital.
DULY saying one thing, and body language saying something else, your listener will detect dishonesty.
EEMOTIONS (anger, fear, disgust, sadness, happiness and surprise) all six are common across cultures.
Timely Therapy: - Watch your body language for the subtle signs of what your subconscious is thinking.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #14:
Saying you agree to a thing in principle, may mean you have no slightest intention of carrying it out in practice.

Before meeting in a group, members of the group will develop arguments to support their positions. To sway others, the arguments will to a reasonable extent tend to be more extreme. In the end, one argument will prevail or win and the group will find itself supporting an extreme decision. Consequently, company strategists often frame competitors and the general business environment, in very alarming terms. This is precisely in order to arouse, or even shock managers and board members into accepting volitionally their radical ideas.
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Persuasive Arguments Theory affirms how swaying others in group, entails extreme arguments.
Distinguished Developer: Pruit (1971)

UPON hearing some arguments in support of one’s position, one gets more convinced of one’s VIEWS.
PURELY, one enters a discussion aware of a set of items of information favouring both sides of an issue.
GAINFULLY, one thereafter lean toward that side that boasts the greater amount of NOVEL information.
REALISTICALLY, individuals base their personal choices by weighing remembered pro and con arguments.
AFFLUENT discussion SHIFTS the weight of evidence as each group member expresses their arguments.
DUE intellective issues, a goal of making correct decision, task-oriented members, are key determinants.
ESTEEMED data and persuasiveness of the arguments MEDIATE the LEVEL of polarisation experienced.
Timely Therapy: - Shedding more light onto different positions and ideas improves informational influence.

Wonderful World

R#57. On perceiving world outside classroom as INTIMIDATING and unwelcome.

BQ#8. What intensity of FORTIFICATION is key to INDICT INTIMIDATION, as a function of passionately preparing for a WONDERFUL WORLD?--->

“The person who knows ‘how’ will always have a job. The person who knows ‘why’ will always be his boss.”
-U.S Educator Diane Ravitch (1938 - )

“Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you…Insist on yourself, never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole LIFE’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous, half possession….Each man has his own vocation; his talent is his call. There is one direction in which all space is open to him….A person will worship something, have no doubt about that. We may think our tribute is paid in secret in the dark recesses of our hearts, but it will not. That which dominates our imaginations and our thoughts will determine our lives, and our character. Therefore, it behoves us to be careful what we worship, for what we are worshipping we are becoming… What a man does, that he has. What has he to do with hope or fear? In himself is his might. Let him regard no good as solid but that which is in his nature, and which must grow out of him as long as he exists. The goods of fortune may come and go like summer leaves; let him scatter them on every wind as the momentary signs of his infinite productiveness.”
- American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 82)

“There is more credit and satisfaction in being first-rate truck driver than a tenth-rate chief executive.”
- U.S. publisher B.C Forbes (1890 - 1954)

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your LIFE.”
- Chinese philosopher and educator Confucius (551 - 479 BC)

“Send a boy where he wants to go and you will see his best pace.”
- Hausa (Nigerian) proverb

“What work I have done, I have done because it has been play. If it had been work I should not have done it. Who was it who said, ‘Blessed is the man who has found his work’? Whoever it was, he had the right idea in his mind. Mark you, he says his work – not somebody else’s work. The work that is really a man’s own work is play and not work and cannot lose it. When we talk about great workers of the world we really mean the great players of the world. The fellows who groan and sweat under the weary load of toil that they bear never can hope to do anything great. How can they when souls are in a ferment of revolt against the employment of their hands and brains? The product of slavery, intellectual or physical, can never be great.”
- American writer and humourist Samuel Langhorne Clemens, writing under the pseudonym Mark Twain (1835 - 1910)
--->

THE HALLMARK OF MATURITY, in the context of a fully functional human being, can be summed up in the German expression Lieben und arbeiten, “to love and to work”. The mature person is able to love in a socially approved way (upholding the laws, taboos, and standards of one’s culture) and also to work productivelly in his or her community and society. BEYONDISM augments you on the ‘Prudent Pilgrimage’ of perpetual self-expansion towards the ‘Luminous Summit’ of your real God-ascertained essence, as far as your CAREER is concerned. The overiding principle here is that, the relationship between professions is not vertical, but horizontal, meaning that none is superior to the other. This is perhaps what U.S. writer and film director, David Mamet (1947 - ) meant when he said: “All professions, achievements, impulses, are thrown up to compete, to strive, to an end which is not chance, but is the effect of some Universal Will.” The overall purpose of learning in school is to acquire the appropriate knowledge and skill to enable you to thrive and ultimately to excel in the real world of WORK; formal or informal. “You are an idler” or “I am idle”, are two statements which should be utterly discouraged from social discourse; for there is nothing haunting to a human being than having one’s potential being bottled up. ‘Existence’ informs us with bedrock certainty that, if we impregnate our PSYCHE with the will-to-live, the will-to-power, it will usually come to our aid and furnish us with the necessary raw materials to make us move forward. However, if we succumb to the will-to-fail, and subsequently the will-to-extinction, ‘existence’ will ultimately rubbish at us and put into notice our unfitness to people the earth. It will let us go without a pang, by weeding us out to pave way for the thriving of the fittest; and evolution matches over. We have to keep on TELLING ourselves that we CAN and WILL succeed in LIFE. This will eventually become a narrative, that will nourish us and lift us to great heights.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of WONDERFUL WORLD thus:

Willful job motivation is the force that directs and energises one toward a specific goal.
One is said to be fully motivated when he or she works persistently towards set objectives.
Nourishing, potent wisdom comes from education, age, work as well as continuous learning.
Dare to always do that which you cannot do, in order that you may learn how to do it well.
Essential intellectual growth should purposively commence at birth and cease only at death.
Real achievers desires to overcome obstacles, excel in their field and be better than others.
For the best return on your money, pour your purse into your head; seek to travel a lot.
Utilising a high speed of achievement entails often trying difficult but not impossible task.
Learning never exhausts the mind; in learning you will teach, and in teaching you learn.

Work ethics is striving for high achievement, but within the decorum of one’s profession.
Only the high need achievers pursue excellence and want to do everything to perfection.
Receiving positive feedback is one of the important component of successful goal setting.
Loving one’s work is a function of ability to do it well, and being rewarded for it desirably.
Difficult goals lead to better performance, as specific goals lead to higher performance.

“If you can’t do what you imagine, then what is imagination to you?”- American rapper and actor Kid Cudi (b. 1984). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: NURTURING the FORTIFICATION for INDICTING INTIMIDATION from the world.--->

Each human being has a unique and special place and role in the vast universe. So when one is in the soundness of mind and physical uprightness, and it seems the person is not delivering to the expected optimal level, there are various explanations for this. It is either because the society has a misplaced expectations of him or her, or one has consciously or unconsciously been derailed or dislocated from the viable developmental path of one’s faculties. One may also be engaging himself or herself in pursuits, that are incompatible with his or her personality. An engaging work, is the one which stimulates one’s curiousity, permits one to express one’s creativity, and fosters positive relationships with others. It is work which one is good at. As for activities people hate, it is repititive, that requires little or no thought, and that is forced on an individual by others. You may be out of bare necessity, and due to limited chances indulge in any work. But when the conditions becomes favourable, you should shift to work that nourishes your spirit, more than the one that nourishes only your pocket. Otherwise, if you continue following the demands of your stomach, in ignorance of the dictates of your soul, you will be doomed.

Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to INOCULATE INTIMIDATION.
SURELY, Aristotle (384 - 322 BC) truly taught: “What we have to learn to do, we learn by doing.”
UNTIL we reach the possible level of perfection, is what we must practice after learning our trade.
MINDS like bodies, will often fall into a pimpled, ill-conditioned state from mere excess of comfort.
MASTER this as a categorical commandment about our bodies and minds: “USE IT, OR LOSE IT”.
ACTUALLY, doing nothing is the wrong thing to do if there is something to do that is the right thing.
REALLY, the best idea is not simply doing something vital, but also doing positive and sensible things.
YE shall know with great sincerity, that nobody who does not rise EARLY will ever do anything good.

PREPARE yourself to diligently NURTURE the creative ‘capacity’ for INDICTING INTIMIDATION.

Puerile sign of the inferiority of any culture is when money is made the object of worship and envy.
Real achievement MUST be measured on the unique contribution one makes on human evolution.
Every individual who cannot work with love, but only with distaste, is advised to leave that work.
Passion arises out of deep interest in one’s work; lack of it leads to toiling without being productive.
A ‘Vocational Vacuum’ victim is an individual who is for ever apologising for his or her occupation.
Radically, this is the inability to realise one’s potential in the direction of one’s vocational aptitude.
End result for this is being a disappointment to one’s employers, one’s subordinates and to oneself.

REALISE that NURTURING your innate ‘quest’ for INDICTING INTIMIDATION is in your ‘power.’

Robotic work is without MEANING, it is drudgery, and requires faking affection that will not endure.
Ennervated, one’s heart is eaten out with a suicidal desire to seek or get back to the warm center.
Assaulted by frustrations many get sick, or become drunks and still others become accident-prone.
Lacking passion in work, one may continue squeezing oneself through, either out of bare necessity.
In most instances many people lacks an alternative occupation, that may suit their temperaments.
Sinking feeling of not wanting to go to work any more, seizes the individual; known as ‘job-o-pause’.
Essentially in this state, one grudgingly ploughs through the day because of a pathetic need for cash.

EMPOWER yourself to NURTURE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for INDICTING INTIMIDATION.

Engulfed in a state of perpetual inner conflict, inertia creeps in; the person lacks any creative ability.
Motivated only by extrinsic factors like money, one cannot receive one’s working orders from oneself.
PSYCHIC agitation, torture and torment makes the person to be absolutely unproductive and useless.
One’s energies are bottled up, one is not freed ‘to push the work done’; one has ‘to push and sweat’.
Without a career calling, one is devoid of that steady, confident feeling important in any endeavour.
Engaging in a career while blind of its true nature, result in frustrations when its true colours unfolds.
Resist all those pursuits founded on a “me-too” basis, or you will be chained into a LIFE of misery.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to NURTURE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of INDICTING INTIMIDATION.

Most parents wishes to consciously or unconsciously realise their unfulfilled ambitions through kids.
Entering into a career because so and so is in it and seem to be or is really succeeding, is misleading.
Driven hard into fields of no interests, students may pass EXAMS but never enjoy the PRACTICE.
It is very vital that you select an occupation that satisfies your personal goals and suits your lifestyle.
All vocational undertakings, requires a thorough knowledge of its bright face as well as its dark face.
The price one pays for pursuing any profession or calling is an intimate knowledge of its ugly side.
Engaging in any Vocation requires one to a good extent be versed with its ‘how’ as well as its ‘why’.

INDULGE yourself in NURTURING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards INDICTING INTIMIDATION.

Indeed, poor sense of self-efficacy, waters down the belief in successful coping with everyday LIFE.
Negative or lowered expectations make one to avoid tasks which one does not believe in doing well.
Defeated in spirit, where situation cannot be avoided, one tries only a little and gives up quickly.
Untenably, one avoids activities that demonstrate one’s ability or improves one’s self-efficiency.
List all your skills, interests or hobbies before undertaking to engage in any potent career choice.
Gainfully study for what your heart wants, and not because employers are looking for certain skills.
Entertain in your PSYCHE only that career which arouses a deep sense of MEANING in your LIFE.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for NURTURING the ‘compulsion’ of INDICTING INTIMIDATION.

Unceasingly striving towards self-realisation, is the dutiful will of all human being’s true PSYCHE.
There is a lot one can do to learn about an occupation or a profession without actually working in it.
It is true that first hand experience is vital, but you can explore an occupation, by reading about it.
Loftily, in every moral action, human’s higher spiritual impulses mould his or her essential nature.
In this way human beings achieves an ever more loyal deduction to their nourishing spiritual ideals.
Sound moral LIFE is the free endeavour, devoted to the pursuit of one’s vocation to be truly human.
Each one may avail limitless powers upon placing one’s trust in the infinite streaming through one.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to NURTURE INDICTING INTIMIDATION.

Move yourself in the direction of unearthing your ‘unique success formula’ that is immanent in you.
One must posses many skills, from smartness, curiosity, to social skills, to succeed in today’s world.
Needed today are heaps of positive energy, guts to make tough yes-or-no decisions, to get job done.
Indeed, we have to possess confidence and humility at the same time, and a heavy-duty resilience.
The core quality which is truly essential to career progress regardless of industry is to be authentic.
Only by thinking as your own foundation, own center, will you resist anyone to wring it out of you.
Really, your unique humanity (who you are in your soul) is the most appealing virtue in any career.

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BEYONDISM BACKUP #8
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#8 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Dependency on others for self-image or self-esteem maims a sense of own worth—stunts full self-realization.

“Oft times nothing profits more than self-esteem, grounded on just and right well managed.”
- English writer John Milton (1608 - 1674)
“Confidence is a plant of slow growth in an aged bosom.”
- British prime minister William Pitt the Elder (1708 - 1778)
“Don’t you see that that blessed conscience of yours is nothing but other people inside you?”
- Italian dramatist, novelist, and short-story writer Luigi Pirandello (1867 - 1936)
“Man is not a solitary animal, and so long as social life survives, self-realization cannot be the supreme principle of ethics.” - British philosopher and mathematician Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970)
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Looking-Glass Self: We see ourselves through the eyes of others.
Distinguished Developer: American sociologist Charles Horton Cooley (1864 – 1929)

UNDERSTANDING ourselves relies on social interaction, which plays an important role than we realise.
PEOPLE build their concept of self not in solitude, but by observing how they are perceived by others.
GENERAL application of the Cooley’s concept of Looking-Glass Self, in this digital age is persuasive.
RAISED are questions about the nature of identity, socialisation, and the changing landscape of self.
AS long as individuals base their sense of self on how they believe others view them, this is palatable.
DO individuals use social interaction as a “mirror,” to measure their own worth, values, and behaviour?
ESSENTIALLY, society and people are two inseparable, complementary aspects of the same phenomenon.
Timely Therapy: - Self-esteem is often dictated by your predictions of how you will be perceived by others.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
The virtue of self-worth - beauty of mankind - should never give place to that fount of all ugliness, conformity.

“He that complies against his will,
Is of his own opinion still.”
- English satirist Samuel Butler (1612 - 1680)
“John looks about him with enjoyment.
What a man needs, he thinks, is health;
Well-paid, congenial employment;
A house; a modicum of wealth;
Some sunlight; coffee and the papers.”
- Indian novelist and poet Vikram Seth (1952 - ).
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Social Comparison Theory: We learn about ourselves by comparing with others.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Leon Festinger (1919 – 1989)

UNINHIBITED, there is an innate drive within human beings to gain accurate SELF-evaluations.
PEOPLE regularly EVALUATE their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others.
GENERAL domains for evaluation are things like attractiveness, wealth, intelligence, and success.
REALLY, this is in order to reduce uncertainty in these domains, and learn how to define the self.
AFFLUENT social and personal worth is determined by how individuals STACK up against others.
DECADENTLY want to feel better? Engage in unhealthily comparing to those worse off than you.
ENDEAVOURING to improve? Compare to those similar to you, but higher achievers in some trait.
Timely Therapy: - It takes discipline to build positive self-image and to avoid the pitfalls of negativity.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
When in Rome, live and behave as the Romans do: when elsewhere, lucidly live and behave as they do there.

“My love is of a birth as rare
As ‘tis for object strange and high:
It was begotten by despair
Upon impossibility.
Magnanimous Despair alone
Could show me so divine a thing,
Where feeble Hope could ne’er have flown
But vainly flapt its tinsel wing.”
- English poet and government official Andrew Marvell (1621 - 1678)
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Self-Monitoring Behaviour: We are affected by how others see us.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Mark Snyder (b. 1945)

USUALLY, this involves being AWARE of your behaviour and the IMPACT it has on your environment.
PERSONALITY trait involved is the ability to monitor and REGULATE self-presentations and emotions.
GENERAL reference is modifying personal behaviours in RESPONSE to situational, or social variables.
REASONABLY high self-monitoring allows one to change behaviour in order to adapt to the situation.
AWKWARD low self-monitors tend to behave in accordance with their own internal needs and feelings.
DECLINE in levels of self-monitoring may happen when in situations where you feel more comfortable.
ESSENTIALLY, one may monitor oneself more during social situations or during periods of high stress.
Timely Therapy: - Look at people and situations; figure out what to do; adapt your behaviour accordingly.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Cherish the circumstantial detail, embellish touches of probability, and embrace the air of scrupulous veracity.

“The new always happens against the overwhelming odds of statistical laws and their probability...
the new therefore always appears in the guise of a miracle.”
- German-born U.S. philosopher and historian Hannah Arendt (1906 - 1975)
“Fool! All that is, at all,
Lasts ever, past recall;
Earth changes, but thy soul and God stand sure.”
- British poet Robert Browning (1812 - 1889)
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Certainty Effect ascertains that a certainty that becomes less likely has high impact.
Distinguished Developers: Tversky and Kahneman (1981)

UNDER this psychological effect is the result of the reduction of probability from certain to probable.
PROBABILITY of WINNING a reward when reduced from 80% to 20% creates a DISPLEASING effect.
GHASTLY, it leads to a sense of loss from the original probability thus favouring a risk-averse decision.
REDUCTION of the same results in a larger effect when it is done from certainty than from uncertainty.
ACTUALLY people prefer absolutes and are unable to understand the difference between probabilities.
DECISIVELY, to most people, 70%, 80% and 90% all mean the same: not CERTAIN, but fairly LIKELY.
ENDEAVOUR not to offer 4 for the price of 3, but 1 free with 3 purchased; zero price has high certainty.
Timely Therapy: - Make no decision based on absolutes; distinguish the difference between 80% and 90%.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:
Looking to another for nourishment? On the very first scarcity one will turn and bite the hand that fed one.

“That which costs little is less valued.”
- Spanish novelist and dramatist Miguel de Cervantes (1547 - 1616)
“The value of a thing is the amount of laboring or work that its possession will save the possessor.”
- U.S. economist Henry George (1839 - 1897)
“It may be that the imagination is a miracle of logic and that its exquisite divinations are calculations beyond analysis, as the conclusions of reason are calculations wholly within analysis.”
- U.S. poet Wallace Stevens (1879 - 1955)
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Scarcity Principle outline how we anticipate regret and so want what is scarce.
Distinguished Developers: Worchel, Lee & Adewole (1975)

USUAL Scarcity Principle is the tendency to place a higher value on things that are perceived as rare.
PURPOSIVELY, this often happens while devaluing things that are seen as COMMON or ABUNDANT.
GENERALLY, if everyone is buying a product, humans tend to interpret that to mean it must be GOOD.
REALLY, if we have committed to an item, then find out we cannot HAVE it, we tend to want it MORE.
ALTHOUGH we think of scarcity physically, the ‘product’ in short supply can be ideas, time or energy.
DULY faced with due scarcity, we can be overwhelmed by the fear of need of an item and not having it.
ESSENTIAL cycle of scarcity ensues as we buy all we are able, thus furthering the scarcity of the item.
Timely Therapy: - Loyalty to THYSELF is the scarcity, and it is the product we cannot create any more of.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:
Decisively desist to be a cynic who is such a folk who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.

“The trouble about bargaining, once one abandons the belief that there are gods in the sky willing to do deals, is that when one loses in a particular competitive negotiation, one’s chances of winning the next negotiation are frequently diminished.” - British historian Theodore Zeldin (1933 - )
“Failing is good as long as it doesn’t become a habit.”
- U.S. entertainment executive Michael Eisner (1942 - )
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Sunk-Cost Effect entails reluctance to pull out of an investment.
Distinguished Developer: American economist Richard H. Thaler (b. 1945).

UNDERSTAND: Sunk Cost Fallacy, or the “Concorde fallacy”, is “throwing good money after bad”.
PROFUSELY, the UK and French governments took their past expenses on the costly supersonic jet.
GIVEN, this was used as a rationale for continuing the project, as opposed to “cutting their losses”.
REAL Sunk Cost Effect is continually pursuing an option, if one has invested much resources in it.
A sunk cost (a retrospective cost) is a cost that has already been incurred and cannot be recovered.
DESCRIBED as “water under the bridge”, deciding on a sunk cost basis is like “crying over spilt milk”.
ENDEAVOUR not to let sunk costs influence your judgments; they are irrelevant to rational decisions.
Timely Therapy: - A sunk cost is a sum paid in the past that is no longer relevant to future decisions.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:
We MUST believe in the present; have no veneration for the past and study it only to avoid future mistakes.

“Not Heav’n itself upon the past has pow’r;
But what has been, has been, and I have had my hour.”
- English poet, playwright, and literary critic John Dryden (1631 - 1700)
“The past is a rich resource on which we can draw in order to make decisions for the future, but it does not dictate our choices. We should look back at the past and select what is good, and leave behind what is bad.”
- South African president and lawyer Nelson Mandela (1918 - )
“The past is but a coarse and sensual prophecy of the present and the future.”
- U.S. novelist and short-story writer Nathaniel Hawthorne (1804 - 1864)
“The idiot who praises, with enthusiastic tone,
All centuries but this, and every country but his own.”
- British librettist and playwright W. S. Gilbert (1836 - 1911)
“Is it so impossible to seal off the past and let it alone? Let it stay in its harmless anachronistic unit so we can dip into it at will and leave it without commitment, without impositions! A man needs that especially when the present, equally futile, distinguishes itself only by a particularly abject lack of courage.”
- Nigerian novelist, playwright, poet, and lecturer Wole Soyinka (1934 - )
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Bygones Principle affirms that the past must not influence present decision-making.
Distinguished Developers: John von Neumann and Oskar Morgenstern (1944)

USUAL Bygones Principle is grounded on the Rational Choice Theory, in Expected Utility Hypothesis.
PURE Expected Utility Theory of rational decision-making, relies on a property known as cancellation.
GAINFULLY it is to disregard (cancel) any state that yields the same outcome regardless of one’s choice.
REALISTICALY, the Bygones Principle can also be factually formalised as the notion of “separability”.
ARDENT separability is deciding by comparing the available options in eventualities that can still occur.
DULY uninfluenced by how the current state was reached or by eventualities precluded by that history.
ESSENTIAL decision tree: Choice at a particular NODE is independent of unreachable parts of the tree.
Timely Therapy: - The past is behind, learn from it; future is ahead, prepare for it; present is here, live it.

Holistic Healing

R#58. On construing LIFE as a hotbed of MISFORTUNES, and a series of calamities.

BQ#9. What density of DILIGENCE is critical in MANAGING MISFORTUNES, as a function of innovatively indulging in HOLISTIC HEALING?--->

“Hark! to the hurried question of despair:
‘Where is my child?’—an echo answers, ‘Where?’
- British poet Lord Byron (1788 - 1824)

“He who shall teach the Child to Doubt
The rotting Grave shall ne’er get out.”
- British poet, painter, engraver, and mystic William Blake (1757 - 1827)

“Home they brought her warrior dead.
She nor swoon’d, nor utter’d cry:
All her maidens, watching said,
‘She must weep or she will die.’”
- British poet Alfred Tennyson (1809 - 1892)

“Hopeless hope hopes on and meets no end,
Wastes without springs and homes without a friend.”
- British poet John Clare (1793 - 1864)

“Imagine, then, by miracle, with me,
(Ambiguous gifts, as what gods give must be)
What could not possibly be there,
And learn a style from despair.”
- British poet and literary critic William Empson (1906 - 1984)

“I could lie down like a tired child,
And weep away the life of care
Which I have borne and yet must bear,
Till death like sleep might steal on me.”
- English poet Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792 - 1822)

NEVER be like the character Macbeth, in Shakespeare’s Macbeth (1606) Act V, scene 4, where there is no redemption, only the sharp descent into a bleak pessimism. Human existence, as he sees it (or as he has made it, at least for himself), amounts to nothing:

Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day
To the last syllable of recorded time,
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle.
Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.

The words of French playwright Jean Baptiste Racine (1639 - 1699) reflects the plight of most of us Africans:

“I know not where I am going, I know not where I am.”

“I am not now in fortune’s power:
He that is down can fall no lower.”
- English satirist Samuel Butler (1612 - 1680)

“I shall despair. There is no creature loves me;
And if I die, no soul will pity me:
Nay, wherefore should they, since that I myself
Find in myself no pity to myself?”
- Shakespeare in Richard III, Act 5, Scene 3

In the play The Merchant of Venice (1596), Shakespeare sets motifs of masculine friendship and romantic love in opposition to the bitterness of Shylock, whose own misfortunes are presented so as to arouse understanding and even sympathy. While this play reflects European anti-Semitism of the time (although Jews had been banished from England in 1290 and were not formally readmitted until 1656), its exploration of power and prejudice also promote a critique of such bigotry. As Shylock says, in Act III, scene 1, confronted by the double standards of his opponents:

He hath disgraced me, and hindered me half a million; laughed at my losses, mocked at my gains, scorned my nation, thwarted my bargains, cooled my friends, heated mine enemies, and what’s his reason?—I am a Jew. Hath not a Jew eyes? Hath not a Jew hands, organs, dimensions, senses, affections, passions; fed with the same food, hurt with the same weapons, subject to the same diseases, healed by the same means, warmed and cooled by the same winter and summer as a Christian is? If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge? If we are like you in the rest, we will resemble you in that.

“My daddy lynch. My mama crazy. All my little half-brothers and sisters no kin to me. My children not my sister and brother. Pa not pa. You must be sleep.”
- U.S. novelist and poet Alice Walker (1944 - )

“I used to wonder why people should be so fond of the company of their physician, till I recollected that he is the only person with whom one dares to talk continually of oneself, without interruption, contradiction or censure; I suppose that delightful immunity doubles their fees.”
- British writer and philanthropist Hannah More (1745 - 1833), 1789.
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RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE CHALLENGING. What makes them even more of trials is when our adult behaviors reflect the unmet needs we had as children. The INNER CHILD encompasses the parts of our PSYCHE that retain the qualities we all possessed as children. The joyful energies of creativity, curiosity, playfulness, and spontaneity are potent: they can mobilize a collapsed system and be a catalyst in the healing process. INNER CHILD also describes parts of us that have been deeply wounded. Various incidents in our childhood, especially highly charged ones, that left us hopeless, sad, angry, scarred and/or unsupported live unchanged in our energy field. Why does this happen? At the time when they occurred, our little PSYCHIC systems were not developmentally equipped to process such a large charge, usually coming at us from an adult who had more power than us. We simply did not have the cognition to understand what was happening and often there was no supportive presence to explain it to us. So, the emotion was left unprocessed and frozen in our energy field. These early experiences leave “markers” in our body, mind, and spirit that show up in adulthood as thoughts, beliefs, images, energy tones and habits. Your childhood is not a separate part of your LIFE. The experiences you had as a child affect your LIFE today. However, many people are unaware of this connection and end up struggling unnecessarily with physical, emotional and mental health problems. INNER CHILD wounds, or ATTACHMENT wounds, can happen when a child experiences a traumatic experience. It is the emotional and biological responsibility of parents and guardians to create a safe environment for their children, but unfortunately, this does not always happen. Some parents, caregivers and guardians do not accept this responsibility, are not aware of this responsibility, or do not have the capacity to fill this responsibility. The four INNER CHILD wounds are: (1) If you were abandoned as a child, you may fear being alone or left out (Abandonment wound). (2) If the adults in your LIFE did not protect you from danger, you may feel insecure or afraid of getting hurt (Trust wound). (3) If you were made to feel guilty as a child, you may not like to ask for favors or set boundaries (Guilt wound). (4) Experiencing neglect as a child can lead to low self-esteem, repressed emotions, and difficulty saying no (Neglect wound). The wound of Injustice (which cuts across all other wounds) creates emotional overreactions within you. While there are many signs of a wounded INNER CHILD (generally referred to as the wound of Non-being), here are some of the most common: People-pleasing behavior, such as trouble saying no. Difficulty setting and enforcing boundaries. Feeling guilty for standing up for yourself. Avoiding conflict at every chance possible. Fear of abandonment or letting go. Feeling inadequate or unworthy. Constant criticisms – strong inner critic. Afraid to ask for help or fear of being a burden.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of HOLISTIC HEALING thus:

Harness to concretely understand the energy of mindfulness, so as to fully utilise it.
Only the energy of mindfulness is the salve that will recognise and heal the child within.
LOVELY cultivating the energy of mindfulness, is trying to engage your active awareness.
In all activities of your basic LIFE, you MUST be truly present in whatever you are doing.
Seek to be mindful in all facets of LIFE; as you drink your tea or drive through the city.
Try to be aware that you are walking; when you breathe, be aware that you are breathing.
Indeed, our practice is based on the insight of nonduality (e.g. anger is not an enemy.)
Concrete mindfulness is not to suppress anger, but to simply recognise and take care of it.

Happily all negative emotions are recognised and embraced by the energy of mindfulness.
Every time we need the energy of mindfulness, we just need to touch that particular seed.
Always, it will do the work of recognising, embracing, looking deeply and transforming.
Lively continue to generate the energy of mindfulness, and its seed will fully strengthen.
In the seed of mindfulness is the seed of concentration; which liberates us from afflictions.
Nourishing our pain and sorrow with the energy of mindfulness massages consciousness.
Generally, mindfulness stimulates and accelerates circulation throughout blocks of pain.

“It’s hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember.”- American singer Christopher Maurice Brown, alias Chris Brown (b. 1989). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: PROPAGATING due DILIGENCE for MANAGING MISFORTUNES by empathetic self-relation.--->

Our general helplessness - personal, social, economic, political - as an African society, can be traced back to our CHILDHOOD. In one way or the other, we were unintentional victims of 7B’s (Blamed, Bottled, Blackmailed, Battered, Botched, Bungled, Banished). Consequently, we must decisively deliver ourselves from this PSYCHIC hemorrhage (which has led to the current cultural eneamia) so that our LIFE may be FULL-BLOODED. If we are persistent in this direction, our LIFE will be ultimately defined by positive 7B’s (Blooming, Bounty, Bouncy, Beautiful, Bright, Best, Blessed). Towards this DIVINE end, we must deliberately indulge ourselves in Holistic Healing. This is an amorous approach to the whole person, based on a caring, gentle, empathic reaching to the WOUNDED CHILD within. The term “INNER CHILD” points to a fundamental quality of authentic personality — experiencing oneself “as a child” in relationship to SELF. It is an attempt to outline the loss, recovery, healing and opening of “inner child” and authentic personality. This empathic reaching to inner child, is synonymous with realising the authentic, whole expression of one’s essential nature, or “I-amness.” If this authentic self-expression finds support and nurture in one’s LIFE, authentic personality is formed — one’s attitudes, behaviour, and LIFE itself become an expression of one’s true nature. So inner child is not one “ego state” or subpersonality among others, but the true “heart” or “core” of the personality, having a fundamental impact on one’s LIFE as a whole. It follows from this that, the wounding of INNER CHILD by abuse and neglect, for example, is something which also affects one’s LIFE as a whole. Here, trauma is not limited to one aspect of the personality, but damages the very heart of the personality. Such wounding causes a global shift from authentic, spontaneous expression of self — authentic personality — towards a compensating, defensive focus on survival in an unhealthy environment, forming over time what we call survival personality. So INNER CHILD, whether healthy or wounded, profoundly affects the overall expression of ourselves in the world.

Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to MANAGE MISFORTUNES.
SORDID delusion is injurious, it brings hardship to oneself, soils the mind, and may well lead one to hell.
USUALLY, the best thing you can do to a past injury or insult is NOT to repress it, but to acknowledge it.
MOST misfortunes of LIFE carry with them nothing harder to bear, other than making victims ridiculous.
MISFORTUNES feeds our memory with a reserviour of probabilities to handle uncalled for happenings.
AS LIFE grows richer in its scope, and its heritage, the field of CHOICE widens the solidity of response.
RICH alternatives present themselves for every situation, as a function of how the past memory is active.
YE shall not expect to shield yourself from misfortunes, but harden thyself to deal with any shortcoming.

PREPARE yourself to diligently PROPAGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for MANAGING MISFORTUNES.

PSYCHICALLY, in each of us, there is a young, suffering child, traced to the hurdles we had as kids.
Resistance, protection and defense against future suffering, prompts us to forget those painful times.
Every time we are in touch with the experience of suffering, we falsely believe that we cannot bear it.
Pressured in this way, we tend to stuff our feelings or memories deep down in our unconscious mind.
Actually, we may have for too long refused to face this child; ignoring it does not mean its absence.
Really, the wounded child says, “I am here. You cannot avoid me. You cannot run away from me.”
End of suffering cannot be by sending the child to a deep place inside; running away only prolongs it.

REALISE that PROPAGATING your innate ‘quest’ for MANAGING MISFORTUNES is in your ‘power.’

Running away from the child, is borne of fear of suffering; opposite of the care and love it asks for.
Even if we have time, we do not come home to ourselves; the block of sorrow feels overwhelming.
Always trying to keep ourselves entertained; watching movies, socialising, or using alcohol or drugs.
Loathing to experience that suffering again, the wounded child remains there, but we cannot see her.
Ignorance is DEEPLY ingrained in our consciousness; like a drop of ink diffused in a glass of water.
Stopping us from seeing reality, ignorance pushes us to do stupid things that make us SUFFER more.
Embedded in our LIFE is the cycle of suffering as the already wounded child in us, is wounded again.

EMPOWER yourself to PROPAGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for MANAGING MISFORTUNES.

Each cell of our body, has the wounded child; we do not have to look far into the past for that child.
Most vital thing is that, we only have to look deeply, in order to be in touch with the wounded child.
Precisely, the suffering of that wounded child is lying inside you right NOW, in the present moment.
Our PSYCHE, having been the reserviour of suffering, so are the seeds of awakened understanding.
We have a lamp inside (mindfulness), whose oil is our breathing, our steps, and our peaceful smile.
Endeavour to light up that lamp of mindfulness so the light will shine out and the darkness will cease.
Realising that we have so forgotten the wounded child in ourselves, leads to great compassion for it.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to PROPAGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of MANAGING MISFORTUNES.

Mindful walking, mindful sitting, and mindful breathing really generates the energy of mindfulness.
Energy of mindfulness will embrace us and heal the wounded child; it awakens the inner WISDOM.
Directly talk to the child in a lovely language; from the depths of your consciousness it cries for help.
Intimately say: “In the past years, I left you alone. Now, I am SORRY. I am going to embrace you.”
Affirm: “Darling, I am here for you. I will take good care of you. I know that you suffer so much.”
Truly say: “I have been so busy. I have neglected you, and now I have learned a way to come back.”
Essentially, if necessary, you have to cry together with that child; this is cathartic and therapeautic.

INDULGE yourself in PROPAGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards MANAGING MISFORTUNES.

Intimately ASSERT: “Breathing in, I go back to my wounded child; breathing out, I take care of it.”
Now and then, tenderly talk to your wounded child; only then can healing start to slowly take place.
Decisively embracing it, leads to reassurance that it will never be let down again or left unattended.
Unravel this PYSCHIC practice right away; if you do not start doing it NOW, when will you DO it?
Lovely go back to it, listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, and healing will be initiated.
Go about all your business with it; invite it to climb a mountain with you, to enjoy a sunset with you.
Experience of healing will happen to your wounded child, if you do that for a few weeks or months.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for PROPAGATING the ‘compulsion’ of MANAGING MISFORTUNES.

Usual practice, makes us see our wounded child as not only us; it may represent several generations.
Throughout their LIFE our parents may have suffered: were unable to look after their wounded child.
In embracing the wounded child in us, we embrace all the wounded kids of our past GENERATIONS.
Learning this is not for US ALONE, but for the numberless generations of ancestors and descendants.
Indeed, our ancestors may not have known the CARE of the Inner Child, so they transmitted it to us.
So, our practice is to end this CYCLE; liberating ourselves, helps to liberate our abusers and hurters.
Experiencing transformation, lessening your suffering, and improving relationships is the end result.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to PROPAGATE MANAGING MISFORTUNES.

Mostly, we suffer because we have not been deeply touched by love, compassion and understanding.
Only if we generate the energy of mindfulness, understanding, and compassion, will we suffer LESS.
Now, when we generate mindfulness, then compassion and empathy become possible; we allow love.
Intimate compassion helps us relate to others without suspicion; it duly restores open communication.
There is more peace and love in you. Upon healing yourself, your relations with others is well oiled.
Opulently, go back and take care of your SELF; your body, your feelings, your perceptions needs you.
Remember: the wounded child in you needs you; your suffering also needs your acknowledgement.

“Do not, as some ungracious pastors do,
Show me the steep and thorny way to heaven,
Whiles, like a puff’d and reckless libertine,
Himself the primrose path of dalliance treads
And recks not his own rede.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 1, Scene 3

“Men shut their doors against a setting sun.”
- Shakespeare in Timon of Athens, Act 1, Scene 2

“When sorrows come, they come not single spies,
But in battalions!”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 4, Scene 5

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on indulging innovatively in HOLISTIC HEALING:
Apparently you are PROPAGATING your solid struggle to MANAGE MISFORTUNES.
You have gone a long way in CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
As well as IRRIGATING your dauntless determination.
No sooner than later, will you NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.

“Trust none;
For oaths are straws, men’s faiths are wafer-cakes,
And hold-fast is the only dog, my duck.”
- Shakespeare in Henry V, Act 2, Scene 3

A scientific spirit of inquiry is the glaring guiding Star of BEYONDISM. To be a BLESSED BEYONDIST is not only to be GODLY inspired by systematic love and pursuit of wisdom (philosophy), but also to be GOODLY illumined by a philosophical sense of humor (hilarity). In all articles in our analysis be bounteously braced to get the deft definition of three therapeutic Key Words [KW] from the academically accredited Encarta Dictionary (2009) [ED], as jestingly jelled by American satirist, short-story writer, and journalist Ambrose Bierce (1842 - 1914) in The Devil’s Dictionary (1911) [DD].

Refresh to Reload
- This is just an Example to orient you to our abbreviations -

1^st KW: DICTIONARY, noun.
ED: A reference book that contains alphabetically ordered words, with explanations of their meanings, often with information about grammar, pronunciation, and etymology.
DD: A malevolent literary device for cramping the growth of a language and making it hard and inelastic. This dictionary, however, is a most useful work.
2^nd KW: PHILOSOPHY, noun.
ED: The branch of knowledge or academic study devoted to the systematic examination of basic concepts such as truth, existence, reality, causality, and freedom.
DD: A route of many roads leading from nowhere to nothing.
3^rd KW: HUMORIST, noun.
ED: Somebody known to be amusing and to have a quick wit.
DD: A plague that would have softened down the hoar austerity of Pharaoh’s heart and persuaded him to dismiss Israel with his best wishes, cat-quick.

1. HOLISTIC HEALING AS BASED ON PSYCHOSYNTHESIS--->

According to the Synthesis Center in America: “Psychosynthesis is a name for the process of personal growth: the natural tendency in each of us to harmonize or synthesize our various aspects at ever more inclusive levels of organization… All living things contain within them a drive to evolve, to become the fullest realization of themselves. This process can be supported consciously, and Psychosynthesis is one means to do this.”

As a spiritual and holistic approach to psychology, Psychosynthesis brings together different orientations in psychotherapy – Psychoanalysis, Humanistic Psychology and Transpersonal Psychology. Piero Ferrucci, an Italian author and Psychosynthesis expert writes: “If I had to get embarrassed and describe in a few words what Psychosynthesis is, I would say that it is a TRAINING IN THE ART OF LIVING...”

Psychosynthesis psychology was developed by Roberto Assagioli (1888 – 1974), who was a medical doctor, contemporary of Freud and Jung, and the first psychoanalyst in Italy. In the 1960s, along with Maslow, he was one of the founders of the emerging field of transpersonal psychology, helping to define essential transpersonal concepts such as peak experiences. Psychosynthesis is simply a spiritual and holistic approach to psychology that had developed from psychoanalysis.

Assagioli who was largely inspired by Freud’s idea of the repressed mind and Jung’s theories of the collective unconscious, was unsatisfied by what he regarded as its incompleteness as a whole. He felt that love, wisdom, creativity, and will all were important components that should be included in psychoanalysis. He therefore, unlike Freud believed in a more inclusive concept of humanity – one that integrated spiritual as well psychological elements. In the December 1974 issue of Psychology Today, Assagioli was interviewed by Sam Keen, in which Assagioli discussed the differences between Freudian psychoanalysis and Psychosynthesis:

We pay far more attention to the higher unconscious and to the development of the transpersonal self. In one of his letters Freud said, “I am interested only in the basement of the human being.” Psychosynthesis is interested in the whole building. We try to build an elevator which will allow a person access to every level of his personality. After all, a building with only a basement is very limited. We want to open up the terrace where you can sun-bathe or look at the stars. Our concern is the synthesis of all areas of the personality. That means psychosynthesis is holistic, global and inclusive. It is not against psychoanalysis or even behavior modification but it insists that the needs for meaning, for higher values, for a spiritual life, are as real as biological or social needs. We deny that there are any isolated human problems.

Assagioli noted that Carl Jung, “of all modern psychotherapists, is the closest in theory and practice to psychosynthesis”, and further expanded on the similarities between his own and Jung’s views:

In the practice of therapy we both agree in rejecting ‘pathologism’ that is, concentration upon morbid manifestations and symptoms of a supposed psychological ‘disease’. We regard man as a fundamentally healthy organism in which there may be temporary malfunctioning. Nature is always trying to re-establish harmony, and within the psyche the principle of synthesis is dominant. Irreconcilable opposites do not exist. The task of therapy is to aid the individual in transforming the personality and integrating apparent contradictions. Both Jung and myself have stressed the need for a person to develop the higher psychic functions, the spiritual dimension.

“We hold that outside imagination or fantasy is a distinct function. There is also a group of functions that impels us toward action in the outside world. This group includes instincts, tendencies, impulses, desires, and aspirations,” thus affirmed Assagioli. He further asserted about the will:

And here we come to one of the central foundations of psychosynthesis: There is a fundamental difference between drives, impulses, desires, and the will. In the human condition there are frequent conflicts between desire and will. And we will place the will in a central position at the heart of self-consciousness or the ego. The will is not merely assertive, aggressive, and controlling. There is the accepting will, yielding will, the dedicated will. You might say that there is a feminine polarity to the will – the willing surrender, the joyful acceptance of the other functions of the personality.

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AS a psychology of hope, the spirit of Psychosynthesis is the underlying philosophy and lived ethos of BEYONDISM, with a focus on our personal unique history, on how as authentic individuals we can have a purposeful future, and how it is possible to redirect our lives towards meaning and values.
MOSTLY, each of us not only has relationships with others, but it is these relationships, which forms the substance of our LIFE. These relationships are strong and true, or weak and false; they are fertile or destructive; they are stuck or in progress; they are alive or dead. As our relationships are, so is our LIFE. And luckily, we can change our LIFE, as well as our relationships.
ACTUALLY, Psychosynthesis has also been described as “a psychology of the Self, in that the realms of human experience also include matters of soul and spirit, alongside physical and emotional experiences and thoughts and mental processes.” (Institute of Psychosynthesis, London).
ZOOMED cautiously, regarding spirituality, Assagioli proposed that the word “spiritual” includes “all states of awareness, all the functions and activities which . . . [possess] values such as the ethical, the aesthetic, the heroic, the humanitarian, and the altruistic”.
IN all perspectives, this definition agrees with that of Maslow (1954), who noted that mystical experiences, as described by James (1943), are a subset of the broader realm of peak experiences, which can also include non-religious feelings of ecstasy, wonder, and awe.
NOTABLY, as a transpersonal approach, the journey of psychospiritual development understands suffering from a multi-dimensional perspective. One needs to learn to self-reflect and to recover a more soulful way of living and being in the world.
GAINFULLY, this in therapeutic practice may mean reconnecting to what is often a lost language of soul, this can be done through imagination, writing, poetry, and music, working with metaphor, storytelling, dreams and visions, intuition, all of what in Psychosynthesis is considered connection, meaning making and a journey of soul making.

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KW: REFLECTION, noun.
ED: Careful thought, especially the process of reconsidering previous actions, events, or decisions.
DD: An action of the mind whereby we obtain a clearer view of our relation to the things of yesterday and are able to avoid the perils that we shall not again encounter.

2. ALIGNMENT WITH OUR TRUE SELF AND POTENTIAL--->

One of the key concepts of Psychosynthesis is Sub-personalities. In simple terms they are the parts of our self that we adapted to survive, and to get our needs met that may need integrating in our current life and then, this process will bring us more into alignment with our true self and the potential of our wholeness. Assagioli (1965), defined subpersonalities as “the functions of an individual in whom various psychological traits are not integrated…One should become clearly aware of these subpersonalities because this evokes a measure of understanding of the meaning of Psychosynthesis, and how it is possible to synthesize these subpersonalities into a larger organic whole without repressing any of the useful traits”.

Okoth, my inner judge aspect says “um, Mwaniki, who do you think you are, and how are you going to be able to articulate your view?” Kilonzo, my kind loving wise part says “ah, Mwaniki, breathe, you are wonderful, let your light shine, be yourself, that’s enough, you are enough!” In wholeness and synthesis, I take both aspects in my loving arms and thank them both, for they both belong. I relax, all is well in this moment. As Assagioli said: “There is no such thing as certainty, only adventure”.

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A world that is rapidly changing and a time of uncertainty is where we live in. On a global level many changes are occurring in the field of education, transformative learning, family relations, mental health and well-being to mention a few. As Africans who are always on the receiving end, we cannot afford to be left behind.
MASLOW’s hierarchy of needs, to which he ultimately added self-transcendence as the ultimate need, and personal psychosynthesis prepare and support the individual to enter conscious relationship with the deeper and more meaningful parts of their lives. This is then expressed through higher qualities such as peace and altruism.
AFFIRMATIVE and sustainable personal growth (freed from wrong mental habits) is related to spiritual growth in that, as individuals develop healthy, actualised personalities, they are then able to move BEYOND a focus on self and personhood toward a wider and more universal understanding of their individual and social reality.
ZERO growth arises from prejudices, negative images of ourselves and others, remnants of past traumas, tensions that no longer have a reason to be, inner ghosts left too free. We harm ourselves and others. In any age of life, in any situation, there are resources of intelligence, strength, love, creativity in us which we have not yet manifested.
INDEED, we have not reached our final version yet. There is always room for some new development. Even if we are conditioned by our genetic inheritance, society, history, a thousand factors beyond our control, we still have a wide space of freedom in which we can make choices; of values, ideas, behaviours.
NOW, as we endeavour to become more inclusive as a society and navigate pandemics, uncertainty, and chaos and become more accepting of difference, perhaps a psychology like Psychosynthesis with its theoretical framework which acknowledges ambiguity in terms of personal and spiritual integration is imperative.
GRANTED, this will support a global community, and the aspiration of serving humanity, and how this still begins with an individual’s unique expression of living a meaningful life within their context of personal well-being, home, and community. The words of Gandhi come to mind: “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

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KW: ABILITY, noun.
ED: A natural tendency to do something successfully or well. A high degree of intelligence or competence.
DD: The natural equipment to accomplish some small part of the meaner ambitions distinguishing able men from dead ones. In the last analysis ability is commonly found to consist mainly in a high degree of solemnity. Perhaps, however, this impressive quality is rightly appraised; it is no easy task to be solemn.

3. ESSENCE OF INNER CHILD WORK DULY EXPLAINED--->

The term “inner child” is referring to that part of you that can be holding onto past pains, hurts, traumas and emotional distress that is affecting your ability to function and make healthy choices, whether it is conscious or not, in your present life.

It is suggested that if you have a “wounded” past self within, this part of self will “act out” that pain within your adult life and relationships. When our inner child is holding onto past pain and without peace, we can find ourselves, in the present, making choices from that hurt place within.

The thought behind inner child work is that once the “old wound” is addressed and healed, we will no longer have the unconscious pull for our pain from the past to show up in our present. Think of a physical wound and it’s healing process. If a deep cut was never taken care of it is going to look physically different years later than if it was properly tended to and addressed at the time of injury. So is the same with our emotional pain. You cannot visibly see emotional pain, so it can go under the radar and be dismissed if we are not attentive to it.

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A little skeptical about the idea of an inner child, is what some people might be. Can everyone get in touch with their inner child if they choose? Absolutely! Everyone whose open to exploring the relationship with their inner child can connect with this aspect of themselves.
MERILLY, with that said, individuals that have skepticism around whether this part of them exists, would need to do some work on increasing their belief and unblocking the resistance around this concept in order to fully “go there.”
ACTUALLY, as events unfolds, and generally speaking, resistance is a common barrier that needs to be released in order to dive into an area of LIFE or SELF that has blockage or disbelief.
ZESTFULLY, areas where we have blocks or resistance, usually, are the areas where there is inner work to be done. It reminds me of the saying: “Go Toward Your Fear.” The truth is, it often takes discomfort to grow. When things are comfortable it presents no motivation for us to change or challenge our situation.
IINDEED, situations that trigger intense emotions tend to awaken our inner child or “old wounds.” Look for areas of discomfort, helplessness, fear, anxiety, a lack of control and grief. Generally, keep your eye out for situations that bring up resistance and a high emotional response.
NOW, look for a response that does not align with the emotional intensity of the event. For example, getting enraged about something that most would consider trivial; I will use the cliche: “Crying over spilled milk."
GOODLY, for a healthy reference point, emotions usually tend to “match” the level of intensity of a situation. When there is a misalignment, meaning that the reaction is way bigger than the event calls for, it’s important to take a look at that in order to identify what could be coming up for you.

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KW: PAIN, noun.
ED: The acutely unpleasant physical discomfort experienced by somebody who is violently struck, injured, or ill.
DD: An uncomfortable frame of mind that may have a physical basis in something that is being done to the body, or may be purely mental, caused by the good fortune of another.

4. ARDENTLY AROUSING THE AUTHENTIC PERSONALITY--->

Do you wish to rekindle the dormant ember of your authentic personality? Then you MUST recognise and accept the wounding to your Inner Child. And it is possible to heal the break between the child and oneself. Usually people do not come to explore their depths until their current way of living has in some way been found lacking.

Perhaps they are struggling with recovery from an addiction or having difficulty in relationships, or perhaps they have glimpsed a new way of being which seems much more free, creative, and expansive. Whatever the reason, many today are being drawn to take a long close look at their inner depths in order to heal their wounds, find their true selves, and engage the world from their authenticity.

All of us mature human beings have an inner child. We grow up, we get bigger, and our brains become more logical, but that does not erase our thoughts, feelings, or memories from childhood.

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ACTUALLY, some people had happy and healthy childhoods with supportive caregivers who buffered them from stressors, and they’re naturally in tune with and accept their inner child.
MANY others endured difficult experiences—abuse, neglect, losing a parent to illness, dealing with poverty or divorce—and lack the capacity to process those feelings and make sense of their pain and suffering.
AT the same time, most people do not realize that the effects of those memories from childhood are what drive us to make the choices that we make in adulthood.
ZEALOUSLY, our brains are associative and tie together memories, feelings, and experiences that relate to each other. Imagine, for example, that something causes you to feel embarrassed or ashamed at work, and you have a disproportionate reaction—maybe crying hysterically or erupting in anger.
IT is likely that your inner child is being activated in avery subtle, but painful manner, because it remembers feeling shamed and rejected by a parent or a caregiver.
NOW, take the case whereby your partner does not text you back immediately, and you are convinced that means he is leaving you, because you felt abandoned as a little kid.
GNAWINGLY, you might realize you are responding in a way that does not match your adult age, because you are mimicking childhood behaviors and emotions.

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KW: AGE, noun.
ED: A stage or phase in the lifetime of somebody or something.
DD: That period of life in which we compound for the vices that we still cherish by reviling those that we have no longer the enterprise to commit.

5. HOW IS INNER CHILD WORK PSYCHICALLY HELPFUL?--->

If you are wondering whether you might benefit from inner child work, consider whether you are able to reflect on your childhood with emotional regulation and balance. Some people with a wounded inner child will experience a sense of disconnect or incoherence—like saying, “Oh, yeah, my dad died, but then I was totally fine.” That indicates a break in the narrative, and that they are skipping over something painful, perhaps because it is too hard to look at.

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ASK yourself these questions to figure out if inner child work might be helpful: Do you often feel like a victim? Do you let others dictate how you feel?
MORE vital, do you struggle to set boundaries in relationships? When you get upset in situations in the present, are the feelings you are having all about that day — or related to things from your childhood?
AWFULLY, do you frequently find yourself reliving experiences that already happened? Do you feel safer when you put walls up?
ZESTFULLY, the INNER CHILD work typically consists of first gaining awareness of your inner child, and then validating its point of view.
INTENTIONALLY, in as much as you begin to understand its purpose and needs, you can turn your attention to cultivating a sense of security and reassurance.
NOTABLY, you will learn how to reparent your inner child, which means making sure it feels the love and safety you lacked during childhood.
GRANTED, the goal is “having the tools to be able to protect ourselves better, and to understand how to respond [to triggers] in a more adaptive way”.

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KW: INTENTION, noun.
ED: 1. Aim or objective: something that somebody plans to do. 2. The quality or state of having a purpose in mind.
DD: The mind’s sense of the prevalence of one set of influences over another set; an effect whose cause is the imminence, immediate or remote, of the performance of an involuntary act.

6. INNER CHILD DOES NOT RIGIDLY RESIDE IN THE PAST--->

SELF in the context of BEYONDISM, is the deeper ‘Ground of Being’ from which ‘personal being’ flows. Thus, a human being is essentially dependent, deriving from SELF, and from this dependence emerges the individuality (authentic personality) and uniqueness of personal identity. The paradox is that out of this childlike dependence on SELF arises our individuality, personal power, and solidarity with others and the world (the dependent-independent paradox).

Authentic personality is therefore, not “childish” or “immature,” but “as a child” vis-à-vis deeper SELF. Authentic personality does not operate as an isolated, self-sufficient, closed system, but is ever in responsive, vulnerable, and intimate communion with a deeper source of being, SELF. INNER CHILD represents this transpersonal openness, an essential characteristic of authentic personality. If we were continuously aware of this dependent, childlike relationship to deepest SELF, it seems we would live lives of integrity, MEANING, and purpose, while at the same time respecting our transpersonal connection to other people and all of LIFE.

In short, we would be walking the path of self-realisation, living in ongoing communion with SELF. Of course most of us are not living in such continuous union with SELF. The tragedy is that authentic personality invariably has been wounded since our earliest days. This has caused this inner “childlikeness” to go into hiding, to become split off from our usual day-to-day awareness. And it is often only through our difficulties and crisis — the breakdown of our normal functioning — that we begin to glimpse the wounding beneath our normality. This is what eventually may lead a person to begin a search for that lost authenticity through such things as therapy, SELF-help groups, or a spiritual practice.

Childhood is in fact not “far, far away” but utterly present in the moment, it is only outgrown. But “outgrowing” does not mean “losing.” You can and should keep the child in yourself — not killing the child. You see, the child remains, the adolescent will remain as you move to adulthood, and so on. Outgrowing does not mean eliminating. Of course that is the ideal process, but we unwittingly try to kill or repress the past ages.

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ANNIHILITATING the false notion that “one has to kill the child in order to become mature, or to repress the previous stages”, is the most critical point towards authenticity.
MEANINGFULLY, no age is left behind, but forms an aspect of the whole personality. Infancy and childhood are not distant, but at our center, similar to the annual rings of a tree.
ACTUAL unfoldment of the personality through developmental stages is of course a matter both of genetic endowment and social interaction — a matter of both “nature and nurture.”
ZESTFUL about one’s authentic individuality, in total cognizance of positive or negative influence of one’s social environment, augments personal growth, which leads to a sense of liberty.
IN all measures and perspectives, one ‘existentially’ needs to be seen as the unique, individual SELF one is, rather than being seen as something to meet the needs of others.
NO wonder then, I must be seen as “me” by my parents, and not, for example, as “the one who will grow up and make us proud,” or, “the one who will save our marriage.”
GIVEN so, only if I am seen as uniquely “me” — and not simply an object of someone else’s desires — can I have a sense of myself as a unique person living my own LIFE.

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KW: DEPENDENT, adjective.
ED: Not self-reliant: needing to rely on or trust in somebody or something for help or support, especially financial support.
DD: Reliant upon another’s generosity for the support which you are not in a position to exact from his fears.

7. MIRRORING AS THE CORE OF EMPATHETIC RELATING--->

“I think, therefore I am...But what then am I? A thing that thinks. What is that? A thing that doubts, understands, affirms, denies, is willing, is unwilling, and also imagines and has sensory perceptions...Observing that this truth ‘I am thinking, therefore I exist’ was so firm and sure...the sceptics were incapable of shaking it, I decided that I could accept it...as the first principle of the philosophy I was seeking.” These are the words of French philosopher, scientist, and mathematician René Descartes (1596 - 1650), sometimes called the father of modern philosophy.

The above may be paraphrased in the language of Psychosynthesis thus: “When I look I am seen, so I exist”. This type of empathic attunement with the child, generalised to the whole early nurturing environment — called a “holding environment”—provides for the development of what is called a “continuity of being” and a blossoming of the “true SELF” of the child.

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ACTUAL Mirroring occurs as the mother (or caregiver) can with all necessary fidelity, look at the infant and recognise the unique, individual human being who exists before her.
MEANINGFULLY, as the infant experiences his or her SELF, reflected in the other’s gaze, the infant is able to realise that she or he is indeed a unique, individual human being.
AN empathic responsiveness to the child on the part of the caregivers, is what this type of relating entails. Empathy allows the understanding of another from the other’s point of view, a seeing into the other’s world of experience (“vicarious introspection”).
ZESTFULLY, if parents relate to the child in this attuned way, the child is able to develop a sense of SELF which has “cohesion in space” and “continuity in time.”
IN all disguises, this “true SELF”, is a deep “nuclear SELF” which will unfold its unique destiny (“nuclear program”) in response to empathic attunement from the nurturing other.
NOTE that it is via a mirroring or empathic connection to others that we develop an awareness of ourselves as whole, volitional, and continuous through time — what in psychosynthesis can be called authentic personality. If at each stage of LIFE we receive this mirroring, we are able to recognise, accept, and include the unfolding aspects of ourselves at that stage.
GOODLY, if our developing independence, or sexuality, or cognitive abilities are mirrored, we will be able to recognise these as valid aspects of our identity: “I am my own person,” “I am a lovely person,” “I am a thinker”—in other words, these unfolding developmental abilities become expressions of one’s authentic existence, one’s true “I-amness.”

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KW: FIDELITY, noun.
ED: Loyalty to an allegiance, promise, or vow.
DD: A virtue peculiar to those who are about to be betrayed.

8. “I” AS A RADICAL REFLECTION OF THE DEEPER SELF--->

Through this mirroring we can actualise all the richness of our unfolding human potential in an ongoing way; the developmental stages form the “rings” of one’s personality, each subsequent age of LIFE enduring as an important part of the larger whole. This development is “authentic” in that the blossoming personality is a true expression of who I really am. It is as if the mirroring other is a gentle wind fanning the spark of “I,” allowing “I” to glow and come to LIFE, fully expressing that unique individuality through the unfolding developmental stages.

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A passive process in which we are empty holes being filled up by the empathic regard of others, is of course what mirroring is not. It is a relational process in which one learns to give and receive, to contact and withdraw.
MOREOVER, it implies even influencing the responses of the mirroring other (as when an infant’s responses cause the caregivers to modify their behaviour).Relationship is ever a dynamic and changing process influenced by all parties involved.
ALLOWING the flowering of I-amness throughout the LIFE span, thus creating authentic personality, is the reserve of mirroring or empathic attunement. The ultimate source of personal selfhood is a deeper Transpersonal SELF or SELF.
ZESTFULLY, this individual, personal “I” is a “reflection” or “projection” of deeper or transpersonal SELF, and thus it is this I-SELF connection which allows the experience of individuality and personal freedom.
IN all measures and perspectives, a critical question arises: How does this fit with the idea that personal being arises from relationships with empathic others?
NOTABLY, it must be that these mirroring others, so obviously crucial to the blossoming of personal being, are facilitators of this I-SELF connection.
GAINFULLY, they are somehow conduits or channels for the being “flowing” from SELF, as it were. These empathically-attuned others would be called external unifying centers.

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KW: FREEDOM, noun.
ED: Ability to act freely: a state in which somebody is able to act and live as he or she chooses, without being subject to any undue restraints or restrictions.
DD: Exemption from the stress of authority in a beggarly half dozen of restraint’s infinite multitude of methods. A political condition that every nation supposes itself to enjoy in virtual monopoly. Liberty. The distinction between freedom and liberty is not accurately known; naturalists have never been able to find a living specimen of either.

9. KEY EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL UNIFYING CENTERS--->

In ideal human development, the person would at each stage of LIFE experience the primary I-SELF connection facilitated by different empathically-attuned or mirroring others. Each stage of growth would have attendant external unifying centers — external others who serve to act as the facilitating medium for the I-SELF relationship. Such an external center comprises, an indirect but true link, a point of connection between the person and his or her higher SELF, which is reflected and symbolised in that object.

The external unifying center is a “true link” or conduit for the I-SELF connection. Thus the external unifying center of early childhood would be the matrix of empathic connections with the caregivers and the extended family system. This early holding environment would mediate the I-SELF relationship, allowing the experience of healthy personal SELFhood, a sense that, “I exist as a unique, worthy, and choosing person, just as I am.” Later, this I-consciousness might be facilitated by school teachers, peers, and other validating, mirroring contexts such as social, cultural, and religious milieus. At each point in growth, one would be realising oneSELF through the different empathic connections at that time in LIFE.

Besides significant other people, external unifying centers can be such things as pets and cherished objects; natural environments; scientific and artistic disciplines; or political, business, and religious communities. The point for the current discussion is that there are a series of relational systems — external unifying centers — which are crucial to the development of human being. Each center in a different way facilitates the I-SELF relationship, supporting the expression of authentic personality.

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AS a matter of fact, each stage of LIFE is supported and held by the appropriate, empathic, external unifying center. The active interaction with that external unifying center conditions the formation of an inner representation or inner model of that center— what can be called an internal unifying center.
MEANINGFULLY, the experience with the external center would condition the development of an inner center capable of serving many of the same functions fulfilled by the external Continuity of being over individual LIFE-span. The internal unifying center might be called an “internalized object” or “object representation.”
AFFIRMED development of such an inner center could be described as the outer holding environment conditioning the formation of a similar “internal environment”. The internal center may be experienced as actual inner images or figures, as when one inwardly “hears” the advice of a parent or mentor, or carries on an inner dialogue with a symbol of wisdom. But these internal centers also include the more general beliefs, values, and world-views developed in relationship to the external centers over one’s lifetime.
ZESTFUL internal unifying centers thus constitute a context or matrix, an internal holding environment, within which one derives a sense of individual SELFhood, personal meaning, and LIFE direction. The internal unifying centers (beliefs, goals, values, worldview etc.) are, like the external centers, “indirect but true links” or points of connection between “I” and SELF.
IT is vital to acknowledge that SELF is not to be equated with any particular internal (or external) unifying center. SELF is distinct from them all, yet can express through them all. One can relate to SELF via many different internal unifying centers: an image of one’s loving grandparent, or a spiritual teacher; a masculine or feminine God-image; a sense of responsibility, values, and conscience; or a philosophical stance towards the world.
NOTABLY, SELF is not only distinct from the multiple internal unifying centers, but provides a continuity of being throughout all our inner experiences, from the peak of ecstasy to the abyss of despair. The I-SELF relationship is “transcendent” of all particular inner contents, yet “immanent” within them all.
GRANTED, if the primary I-SELF connection, facilitated by unifying centers, creates our experience of personal SELFhood, what happens when the unifying centers fail? What happens if one’s unifying centers are broken or violated? What happens when the unifying centers are damaged “links” to SELF, preventing an intimate relationship with SELF? Then the unifying center cannot fully mirror true I-amness, and instead of facilitating the experience of personal existence, creates the experience of personal nonexistence — not the experience of being, but of nonbeing. This is the origin or the core of the WOUND of Injustice

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KW: ACKNOWLEDGE, noun.
ED: To admit or accept that something exists, is true, or is real.
DD: To confess. Acknowledgment of one another’s faults is the highest duty imposed by our love of truth.

10. NARROWING DOWN ON THE WOUND OF INJUSTICE--->

The Wound of Injustice awakens in the child roughly between the ages of 4 and 6, when he or she becomes aware of his or her individuality and his or her differences. It is lived especially with the parent of the same sex. This therefore concerns the relationship to the mother if one is a woman, or to the father if one is a man.

Several origins are possible. Parental Coldness is key. The child feels coldness from the same-sex parent. This parent seems to him or her too critical, severe, demanding for him or her to allow oneself to be oneself. The obligation to follow a model is another factor. Young, the child had to follow the example of the big brother, the big sister, a cousin. One’s parents often cited the person as an example for one’s qualities, expecting him or her to be the same. This parent was putting enormous pressure on the child. While the child, internally, wanted to exist and be appreciated for what he or she was deep down.

The obligation of excellence cannot be ignored. One’s parents expected one to always be the best, to have the best results in school subjects and in his or her other activities. Emotional repression, entails an impossibility to express one’s sensitivity without being judged, pointed out and punished. For example, a little boy may feel prevented by his dad from living and expressing his emotions, and therefore his sensitivity: “A boy does not cry! Be strong my son! “, “Don’t be sissy”…

This feeling of injustice is built up if the child has not felt free to be oneself and to express oneself as a unique individual! One’s parents did not encourage, facilitate, or even accept his or her personality. It is for this child deeply unfair that he or she cannot be her or himself. The child retains the impression of having been WRONGED, a victim of difference with this parent in particular. And also the impression of not being recognized and appreciated at its fair value. He or she realises that people appreciate him or her more for what he she does than for who he or she is. He or she hides his or her WOUND behind a rigidity and a demand for perfection by protecting oneself from what makes one suffer. One creates protection for oneself each time he or she is confronted with this WOUND. A wound of injustice always follows a wound of rejection.

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AWFULLY, people whose wound of injustice is often activated have common characteristics. All of these attitudes are not true all the time; only when the wound of injustice is triggered. Perhaps you will find yourself in many of them. Your greatest fear is coldness. You find it difficult to accept it in yourself and in others. Besides, you are convinced that you are a warm person. You resent being wrong and making mistakes. You construe yourself to be very sensitive. Yet others feel that you are cold and insensitive. Always seek justice and what seems right to you. You only take into account your values(?) and your criteria. Only, you have to understand that they are not universal.
MORBIDLY, justice, for you, is perfection. Your ideal is to aim for the best, the right, the correct. You can also appear controlling. Yet deep down, far from wanting to control others, you want to make sure it is fair for everyone. Attracted to all things noble, you can easily be impressed by social status or a place of honour. You want to be appreciated for what you do. This explains your perfectionist and competitive spirit, but also your doubts when faced with choices. Your perfectionism means that you often lack time for your projects. You can also start a lot of projects but you get too scattered trying to be too perfect. You are a good burnout candidate.
ARDENTLY, you like everything to be tidy, serialised, categorised. This desire for tidiness and order can sometimes even lead to obsession. You confuse discipline with rigidity. Know that discipline achieves a specific goal. You need to feel worthy of what you receive. If there is no reason to get something, you can even unconsciously make sure you lose it. You find it difficult to relax without feeling guilty. It is difficult for you to know and respect your limits. Your perfectionist side is such that you rarely ask for help. You sometimes go so far as to exhaust yourself so much that you do not listen to yourself. Watch out for burnout!!!
ZEALOUSLY, your desire for justice is such that you want everything to be equitably distributed. Otherwise it is not fair. Above all, you avoid being affected by others. You often hide your emotion behind irrelevant laughter or derision rather than acknowledging your sensitivity. It is difficult for you to indulge in feelings and receiving. In this regard, you generally pass for a cold and unloving person. You fear authority because as a child you learned that authority was always right. Despite this, when a situation seems right to you, you “step up to the front” and dare to defend what seems right to you.
IMPLICITLY, you may feel a lot of cravings. The most common emotion is anger. Anger most often towards yourself when you make mistakes or when attacking others. In love, it is difficult for you to let go, to feel pleasure and to express your feelings. You are hyper controlling. In general, your body is straight, stiff and well-proportioned. If you are overweight, your pounds are evenly distributed. Your desire for perfection drives you to want the most perfect body possible. You tend to have a closed attitude by crossing your arms. Your gestures are rigid and without much flexibility.
NOTABLE deconstruction or healing comes through experimentation more than intellectual understanding. The more we give ourselves the right to be masochistic (tending to invite and enjoy misery), the less we will do it in the future. To deconstruct the wound pattern, you simply have to start by constructing the mask, upside down. Become aware of the mask you wear. Being revolted by this realisation, emanates from having difficulty accepting your share of responsibility, thus preferring to blame the causes of your suffering on the parent “in question”. The intensity of the revolt depends on the degree of acceptance.
GIVE yourself the right to have suffered from humiliation and to have resented a parent. Be compassionate with yourself. It is during this phase that we let go by having compassion for the parent concerned. Become yourself again by ceasing to believe that wearing a mask is vital for protection. Integrate that LIFE is only a sum of experiences that serve to learn what is good for you.

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KW: INJUSTICE, noun.
ED: Unfair or unjust treatment of somebody, or an instance of this.
DD: A burden which of all those that we load upon others and carry ourselves is lightest in the hands and heaviest upon the back.

11. EXPOUNDING THE PATHETIC WOUND OF NONBEING--->

Mirroring should be construed here as Unconditional Positive Regard (UPR), as oiled by GENUINE TALK. “When I look I am seen, so I exist,” describes well the process in which mirroring facilitates the formation of authentic personality; here the empathic regard of the other allows a sense of personal being. Conversely, the phrase, “When I look I am not seen, so I do not exist,” describes well how psychological wounding disrupts human development; here nonempathic regard creates the experience of personal nonbeing. The powerful term “annihilation” may be used to refer to the experience of not being mirrored — one is torn from being and plunged towards nonbeing.

This non-mirroring is what we call “empathic failure” or “SELF-object failure”— events, moments, interactions, etc., in which we were not treated as living conscious human beings, but as objects, as things. Here we are faced with “the indifference of the nonhuman, the non-empathically responding world”.

These failed relationships create not empathic “I-Thou” experiences, but cold, impersonal “I-It” experiences. In these moments the experience of personal being is broken, one’s sense of SELF is wounded.

Such “I-It” experiences indicate a failure of the unifying center to facilitate an I-SELF connection. Since personal being or “I” in effect flows from SELF via the unifying centers, a broken unifying center will disrupt this “flow” and create the experience of not existing. Thus moments of non-mirroring or empathic failure face us with the unimaginable prospect of personal nonexistence, nothingness, nonbeing.

Here are some experiences which have been associated with nonbeing: Anxiety and disintegration. Feeling lost, trapped, or buried. A lack of meaning in SELF or world. Isolation, abandonment, banishment. Feeling overwhelmed, helpless, or hopeless. Emptiness or hollowness. Endless despair. Wanting to disappear or die. Shame and guilt. Overwhelming terror at the possible loss of other. A sense of inauthenticity or falseness. Low SELF-esteem or worthlessness

“The worst feeling is feeling unwanted by the person you want the most,” so sung Canadian rapper and actor Aubrey Drake Graham (b. 1986). Have you ever been ignored by someone you looked up to? Have you ever poured out your heart to someone and found that they have not been listening? Have your personal boundaries ever been disregarded or violated? There can be anger in these moments, true, but beneath this is a feeling of not being seen, recognised, and respected as a human being — the analysis above outlines where we may find ourselves at such times. All these experiences imply a profound threat to SELF, what may be called the threat of nonbeing.

Moments like these can be devastating for adults, so imagine how much more devastating they are for the child who experiences such empathic failures as a small, vulnerable SELF. Instances of major failures in mirroring for a child will inflict psychological wounding to the child’s deepest sense of identity; they are disruptions in the continuity of being, moments of nonbeing.

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ACTUAL events which create these wounding experiences may be either direct and overt, or indirect and covert. The overt type includes obvious violence, sexual abuse, or physical abandonment, but the covert category is perhaps even more pervasive.
MORE covert types include such things as emotional battering, psychological incest, and identity enmeshment; bigotry (sexism, racism, etc.); compulsions and addictions which remain unrecognised and untreated in the caregivers; or denial in the family system of any important aspect of human LIFE (e.g., sexuality, spirituality, death).
APPARENTLY, even the seemingly healthy family can covertly inflict debilitating wounds in the children via the unconscious wounding of the caregivers. The caregiver’s wounds constitute blind spots in the mirroring function which cannot but create areas of nonbeing in the child — “When I look I am not seen, so I do not exist.”
ZEREOD, here the adult’s psychological blindness to certain sectors of human experience leave vacancies in the child — holes of nonbeing, so to speak — in the unfolding personality. In this way wounds can be inflicted by the very process of bonding to the wounded personality of the caregiver.
INDEED, our lives are filled with moments when significant others have treated us not as human beings but as objects, as “It’s” rather than “Thou’s”. These wounds might be imagined as dark cuts in the developing authentic personality, inflicted at different ages within us.
NOTABLY, these wounds are unbearable moments of isolation, fragmentation, and pain which are subsequently split off from awareness. Rather than experience that instance of nonbeing, we cut off that moment, that aspect of ourselves, and develop what a “false SELF.”
GIVEN, instead of being who I am — which is unseen or violated by the environment — I will become what I must become in order to survive. This dynamic is seen as the transformation of authentic personality into survival personality.

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KW: TALK, verb.
ED: To speak, or express something using speech.
DD: To commit an indiscretion without temptation, from an impulse without purpose.

12. SURVIVAL PERSONALITY AS A DEFENSE MEASURE--->

The hallmark of survival personality, is LIVING in the face of nonbeing wounding. It represents the best one (ME) can do to find some sort of existence in spite of non-empathic or non-mirroring responses from the environment. The trouble is that as we become more and more identified with survival personality, we become less and less in touch with authentic personality. We quite literally forget who we truly are, we develop a “co-dependent, false SELF,”. When our alive True SELF goes into hiding, in order to please its parent figures and to survive, a false, co-dependent SELF emerges to take its place. We thus lose our awareness of our True SELF to such an extent that we actually lose awareness of its existence. We lose contact with who we really are. Gradually, we begin to think we are that false (ME) SELF — so that it becomes a habit, and finally an addiction.

It must be emphasised that since nonbeing wounding seems inevitable, survival personality, or “false, co-dependent SELF” is the starting place for all of us to a greater or lesser extent. Survival personality is not merely a one-dimensional façade, an empty shell devoid of depth and richness. Indeed, this personality can often function well above the average level, commanding truly impressive talents and abilities. It has even been suggested that many, if not most, therapists may themselves be in the grips of survival personality or co-dependent SELF: most mental health professionals are untreated co-dependents who are actively practicing their disease in their work in a way that helps neither them nor their clients.

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AFFIRMATIVELY, whether we agree with the above statement or not, it does seem clear that a person can undergo a surprising amount of psychological and spiritual growth and yet remain well within the grips of survival personality.
MERRILY, one can engage tremendous depths of past wounding, abreacting memories of childhood abuse (lower unconscious); or feel released from many different psychological patterns and sub-personalities (middle unconscious); or move into the heights of the sublime, enjoying the complete transcendence of EGO in a union with the DIVINE (higher unconscious) — and do all of this while leaving survival personality intact.
ACTUALLY, this is why, as BEYONDISM has unearthed, therapy can go on forever, never reaching the core personhood. This is why too, as spiritual and psychological communities have discovered, truly advanced leaders (social, political or religious) may yet be controlled by their psychological wounding.
ZEALOUSLY note that, survival personality is not a subsystem within the personality, but represents a conditioning of the whole person. One cannot easily gain distance from, and reflect upon, (disidentify from) survival personality as one can from many other personality contents.
INDEED, different sub-personalities and complexes are elements contained within the larger context of survival personality. One can therefore disidentify, become “centered,” and mindfully observe the flow of inner processes, all while remaining well within the confines of this pervasive survival orientation.
NOTABLY, one can live a great deal of one’s LIFE while identified with survival personality, especially if this mode is high-functioning and successful. However in many cases survival personality sooner or later does eventually begin to wear thin, to reveal the hidden chasm of nonbeing on which it is built.
GENUINELY speaking, just because nonbeing wounding is buried, does not mean it is inactive. The pressure from such hidden wounds can and does eventually wreak havoc in our lives and in the world.

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KW: ME, pronoun.
ED: My normal or usual self.
DD: The objectionable case of I. The personal pronoun in English has three cases, the dominative, the objectionable and the oppressive. Each is all three.

13. COPING BEHAVIOUR FOR NONBEING WOUNDING--->

In order to maintain survival personality, we are increasingly driven to coping behaviours which serve to distract and defend us from the underlying nonbeing wounding. But because these behaviours merely hide rather than heal the wounding, the wounds and associated feelings remain. Thus the coping behaviours easily become out-of-control and destructive to SELF and others; there is literally no end to such driven motivation, because the root cause is never touched. In short, one here becomes attached or addicted.

These attachments or addictions include such things as: Alcohol and drug abuse. Compulsive exercise and dieting. Attachment to power. Envy, jealousy, and greed. Preoccupation with fantasy, imagery, and mythology. Sex, relationship, and romance addiction. A driven search for spiritual experience or enlightenment (even from esoteric sources). Cold detachment or possessive clinging in relationships. Defenses such as displacement, projection, denial, etc.

In the catalogue of discernible pervasive maladies are: Implosive withdrawal and passive aggression. Obsession with, or avoidance of, stimulation. The “people-who-love-too-much” syndromes. Antisocial and isolating tendencies. Codependency. Compulsive overeating. Bigotry, chauvinism, xenophobia. Workaholism. Seeking revenge. Needing always to be right. Fanaticism. Religious addiction.

All of these focus on survival personality managing the surging threat of nonbeing wounding and its attendant feelings. Here one becomes trapped in addictions of behaviour, thought, and identity in a vain effort to escape the hidden wounds from the past:

How would I feel if I did not seek comfort in compulsive overeating?
I would feel lost, alone, abandoned (threat of nonbeing).

How would I feel if I quit my all-consuming project?
I would feel empty, isolated, worthless (threat of nonbeing).

Why do I not leave this abusive relationship?
Because I would feel lost, abandoned, helpless (threat of nonbeing).

What would happen if I did not keep my house so perfectly clean?
I would feel like a bad person, ashamed, worthless (threat of nonbeing).

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ARDENTLY, the tremendous power of these attachments derives largely from the fact that they offer ways of avoiding the hidden threat of nonbeing caused by nonempathic responsiveness from others.
MEASURABLY, these are not simply habits and tastes casually gathered over the course of living; they are desperate strategies by which one attempts to avoid nonbeing. This partially explains the perplexing tenacity of addictions even in the face of pain, illness, and physical death itself.
ALL in all, BEYONDISM is not implying here that all addictions can be eliminated simply by uncovering the hidden nonbeing feelings. Recovery from a major addiction is a lifelong process involving fundamental changes in attitude, identity, and LIFE style.
ZESTFULLY however, an important aspect of successful, as well as enduring recovery, often does involve learning to feel and work with these primal feelings — the forte of Inner Child work.
IN all practicality, although survival personality with its hideous show of resilience may allow the management of nonbeing wounding for a time, its purported protection will eventually falter.
NEGATIVELY then, one is thrown into a crisis which may feel like the “end of the world” — one is brought to her or his knees by a major addiction, by a brush with personal mortality, by a destructive relationship, or perhaps by the loss of a job or loved one.
GHASTLY, here survival personality destabilizes and one begins to feel the wounds which were present all along. Here, “hitting bottom,” one has a chance to reach to the depths and reclaim one’s authentic self-expression forsaken so long ago — what we are calling Inner Child work.

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KW: ESOTERIC, adjective.
ED: Intended for or understood by only an initiated few.
DD: Very particularly abstruse and consummately occult. The ancient philosophies were of two kinds, - exoteric, those that the philosophers themselves could partly understand, and esoteric, those that nobody could understand. It is the latter that have most profoundly affected modern thought and found greatest acceptance in our time.

14. DAUNTLESSLY FACING PERSONAL WORST TERRORS--->

Inner Child is not simply one part of the personality to be integrated into the whole. Rather, Inner Child is the foundation of one’s authentic, whole expression of I-amness in the world. “Inner Child” infuses all the past hidden ages which have made up one’s LIFE journey, so that inner-child work is a reaching to the lost wholeness of one’s being.

But since the true expression of ourselves has been broken and wounded, as we reach to Inner Child we will find that our authentic LIFE story now includes the wounds from many ages of LIFE. It is of course true that in reaching to Inner Child we will regain many lost gifts — new sources of spontaneity, wonder, and creativity, for example — but we must also engage the anxiety, isolation, and abandonment we suffered at various times in our lives. That is all a part of our story, our path in LIFE, our wholeness. We must find a willingness to enter into the world we have left behind, the world in which Inner Child dwells even now.

In other words, contacting Inner Child is a matter of mirroring, of empathic attunement. It was a disruption in mirroring which caused the splitting off of Inner Child, and it is only mirroring which can heal the break with Inner Child. This is the most important point of BEYONDISM and the central organising principle of Inner Child work. Both wounding and healing are a matter of RESOLUTE empathic connection and relationship.

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ACTUALLY, this approach to healing may seem obvious, simple, and humane, but it is precisely what all our survival tactics have been designed to avoid. The whole raison d’être of survival personality is to function without feeling the nonbeing wounding, and an empathic connection to Inner Child goes directly against this prime motivation. So while this approach seems simple and humane, let us see how far survival personality can go while still preventing the surfacing of Inner Child.
MORTALLY, if my LIFE is being disrupted by emerging feelings from the nonbeing wounding of Inner Child — anxiety, hopelessness, or depression, for example — my survival personality will want to get rid of these feelings so that my LIFE can continue in the way I see fit. The first thing I may do is blame the environment: “My problem is really my parents, my school, my teachers, my brothers or sisters, or my friends.” But perhaps after changing friends several times, it may just dawn on me that the issue is not so much them as it is my SELF. (If such changes do in fact resolve the feelings, that is another issue of course.)
AFTER this first line of defense fails, I might be moved to another course of action: “I must find the right medication, psychological technique, therapy, or spiritual practice which will get rid of these feelings and let me live my LIFE in peace.” Here I may begin an exploration of various approaches to therapy, personal growth, or spirituality, in a search to resolve the emerging nonbeing feelings.
ZEALOUSLY, an important part of this search may be my addressing addictions/attachments which are becoming increasingly destructive as the feelings emerge. All of these methods I discover may in fact help, providing self-knowledge, cathartic release of traumatic memories, recovery from addiction, some relief from medication, and even spiritual or “unitive” experiences. But throughout all of this, my survival personality may remain in command, and Inner Child may yet remain hidden. Why?
INDEED, the reason is that if I am approaching the wounded Inner Child with the idea that I am going to fix, get rid of, or even heal him or her, I am setting up the same type of relationship which caused the wounding in the first place — a relationship in which the child is not treated as a “Thou,” but as an object, as an “It.” Inner Child here becomes simply an obstacle blocking my way to the LIFE I (survival personality) want to lead. There is still little vulnerability on my part, little patient listening to this inner voice, little willingness to change my LIFE in order to touch and be touched by my authentic being. And without a non-judgmental, empathic, mirroring atmosphere, Inner Child simply will not emerge.
NOTE that, the phrase, “healing the inner child,” is misleading, while “healing my relationship with the Inner Child” is more accurate. I must be willing to let go of survival personality, face my worse fears, and gradually allow my Inner Child to live with me. It is not a matter of fixing a problem or curing a disease; nor a matter of having powerful cathartic experiences or attaining higher states of consciousness; it is a matter of actively making a place in my LIFE, for my CHILD.
GNAWINGLY, as we have discerned, empathic failure wounds us, and it is only empathic connection which can ultimately heal us. Let us now look at the three mutually-overlapping stages of this type of work with Inner Child. The first two stages — recognition and acceptance — are focused on sub-personality harmonisation, while the third stage, inclusion, recognises the ongoing relatedness one develops with the Inner Child.

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KW: RESOLUTE, adjective.
ED: Motivated by or displaying determination and purposefulness.
DD: Obstinate in a course that we approve.

15. RECOGNITION AS THE 1^st CORE STAGE OF HEALING--->

Very seldom, it seems, does someone turn to Inner Child work except out of some dire situation in their lives. Survival personality is tremendously resilient, and can operate throughout a range extending from classical psychopathology, through high functioning “SELF-ACTUALIZATION,” to genuine spiritual or transpersonal states of consciousness. Most often one’s foundations must be shaken, one must be crushed down by LIFE, one must be plunged into the realisation of personal vulnerability.

Early in the history of Alcoholics Anonymous, so the story goes, the alcoholics recovering in the fellowship would not accept a person as a “true alcoholic” unless that individual had lost everything: house, car, spouse, family, career. Not having lost all these things, one would not have “hit bottom” and so could not have found the willingness to completely surrender to something greater than ego — the first step in recovery (or on any spiritual path). Later in the history of A.A., they recognised “high bottoms” who had not lost everything, but who had met with such suffering that there was a sincere willingness to change.

Much the same can be said about Inner Child work. It seems unlikely that anyone who has not hit bottom — a “low bottom” or a “high bottom” — will be motivated to look at the dark forces which drive their lives. This is, after all, the gift and curse of survival personality: to carry on, to survive, to remain in control by ignoring or smoothing over personal vulnerability, wounding, and pain. We do this not only by addictions such as alcohol and drugs, but by a dizzying variety of other means as well.

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AS survival personality finally begins to falter and fragment in the face of LIFE’s buffeting, one may become willing to look deep into one SELF. This willingness is the beginning of the recognition stage of Inner Child work.
MORE often, for some, this willingness is found only after a long hard battle with addictions and compulsions; for others, only after an extensive journey through many psychological and spiritual disciplines; for some, this willingness never seems to emerge at all.
ACUTELY, when there is willingness to see the TRUTH of one’s deepest inner experience, a myriad of different avenues to Inner Child may magically appear. One may gain insight from books, Self-Help groups, or therapy; an increased awareness of one’s vulnerability and hurt in relationships.
ZESTFULLY, and spontaneously - emerging memories of childhood; being touched by a film or play dealing with one’s lifelong issues; finding oneself deeply shaken by a natural disaster; or by revealations about childhood experience arising in conversations with parents, siblings, or relatives.
INNER CHILD however, appears perhaps most directly in empathic, intimate relationships. Remember that the child has been wounded by faulty empathic connections with others. So where would one expect these wounds to surface? Precisely — in intimate, empathic connections with others.
NOW, an empathic relationship tends to surface all the many inner levels or inner “rings” of the personality; such a whole relationship is not limited to the present levels, but invites all the many psychological ages into play. While this intimacy will entail the emergence of childlike wonder, spontaneity, and joy, it will also energise old wounds.
GENERALLY, intimate empathic relationships will invariably surface earlier relational wounding. But that takes us beyond the acceptance stage into the next stages of work with Inner Child. After hitting bottom and recognising the Inner Child, one can move into the second stage, the stage of acceptance.

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KW: EXPERIENCE, noun.
ED: Active involvement in an activity or exposure to events or people over a period of time that leads to an increase in knowledge or skill.
DD: The wisdom that enables us to recognize as an undesirable old acquaintance the folly that we have already embraced.

16. ACCEPTANCE AS THE 2^nd CORE STAGE OF HEALING--->

Acceptance speaks more directly to the need for the Inner Child to be heard and understood, to be mirrored. This often entails working with the parts of oneSELF (sub-personalities) which tend to criticise, discount, and belittle the child. For example, if I mutter angrily to mySELF, “You idiot,” when I make a mistake, the inner child will feel this and withdraw. Or if I deny or make fun of my child’s feelings of hurt, sadness, or joy, the child will not feel accepted and will remain hidden. Or if I find mySELF fed up with my vulnerability, and demand that I “stop whining and grow up,” again the child will not reveal him or herself.

Here the adult level — dominated by the survival orientation — is sending messages designed to EMOTIONALLY suppress the child. Whether through negative criticism, beliefs, or attitudes, the child is kept down, and more to the point, so too is the nonbeing wounding. As long as the inner atmosphere is polluted by these negative factors, the child and the nonbeing wounds will remain hidden. Here survival personality will remain in power, and one will continue to be susceptible to addictions, compulsions, and destructive interpersonal relationships.

In short, until I can honestly be with the child with no pressure to change, no shaming, and no hurtful criticism, there is no way I will ever connect to the freedom and spontaneity of authentic personality — nor to the unfoldment offered by deeper SELF.

Perhaps the biggest challenge at the acceptance stage is to be with the actual direct experience of the child level within us. Ironically, this experience often eludes us not because it is far away from us, but because it is so very close to us.

To directly engage this existential level of experience (the world of violation, abandonment, and despair), much less accept it, is to leave the safe well-lit surface of the present world and step into a dark, strange, and scary world. Furthermore, acceptance of the child’s world can also mean a threat to one’s identity and perhaps to the one’s relationship itSELF. Owning the experiential world of the child here risks appearing weak, vulnerable, and dependent, and so belies the notion that one is in-control and grown-up.

As the child’s world surfaces, we are challenged to move from a survival level to the level of authenticity, from the shallows to the depths of human being. No wonder we are “afraid of intimacy.” Many choose conflict, violence, obsessive sexuality, and even termination of meaningful relationships rather than face this intimacy with SELF and other.

So acceptance of the child’s world is no small matter. But there can be still another challenge in the acceptance stage, a challenge brought by the question: “How did my Inner Child come to have wounds such as abandonment, rejection, and loss in the first place?” This may threaten long-held images of our childhood, ourselves, and our families.

Survival personality is based upon psychological contracts which require one to be a certain way in order to be accepted by the early caregivers. These contracts offer a security and belongingness, a sense of identity, a knowing who I am — and so an avoidance of nonbeing. But the price one pays for this secure identity is the disruption of authentic personality, a disowning of the experience of the Inner Child. And if I begin now to listen to the child’s actual experience, I may begin to uncover a whole experiential world which reveals my early LIFE as far more destructive than I or anyone else had ever realised. This revealation will challenge my secure identity, bringing up again the ancient threat of nonbeing.

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APPARENT justification: “But my family was fine. Sure, we were not perfect, but all in all, I had a wonderful childhood.” This may be absolutely true for aspects of one’s childhood. This does not rule out, however, deep sectors of abandonment, depression, and pain; there seems to be no caregiver or other unifying center which can be empathically connected to the experience of the child in a complete and continuous way.
MERRILY, let us be absolutely clear here that accepting the full phenomenological (sum total of all experiences) world of the child does not mean blaming one’s caregivers for everything wrong in one’s LIFE. True, this SELF-empathy may mean accepting deep rage vis-à-vis one’s caregivers, or clearly seeing their dark side, but blaming has nothing to do with this.
ALL what matters here is honestly understanding and feeling one’s wounds. Why? Besides the fact that hidden wounding produces destructive inauthentic lives, the reason is simply because this is our story. This is the path of our authentic personality in LIFE. Here are our roots, an important aspect of our truth. Without the knowledge of our child’s experience, we simply cannot know ourselves at depth, and will forever be living in some amount of illusion about who we are.
ZESTFULLY, by the way, an awareness of the wounds of the child is not necessarily a matter of remembering the exact events which caused the wounding. We do not have to go anywhere but into the depths of our here-and-now experience to recognise and accept the child. How do you feel when a police officer stops you? Your teacher shouts at you? Your parents criticise you? Your loved one slights you?
INDEED, all these feelings of vulnerability press upon the child’s wounds. One does not need to rack one’s memory to discover the child. While the recovery of long-forgotten memories may occur as one relates honestly and respectfully to the child, this is not always necessary for healing one’s relationship with the child. Again, the child is hidden not so much “in the past” as in the here and now, so near to us that we often do not notice.
NOW, in this acceptance stage, the task is to open oneSELF to the phenomenological world of the child without allowing survival personality to cover this up. But let us acknowledge that accepting the child’s true experience can be tremendously anxiety-provoking, and needs to proceed at its own natural pace. As we have seen, the entire process is hemmed in by the threat of nonbeing, and only gentleness, respect, and safety can support this uncovering and acceptance. This is not something one can force.
GRANTED, throughout this work, one is simply attempting to become more and more empathically attuned to the world of the child within, and one simply cannot establish an empathic relationship through pressure, clever techniques, or force. Having hit bottom, recognised the child, and attained some amount of acceptance for the child, it becomes possible to include the child more fully in daily living. Accordingly, the last stage of relationship with inner child can be called “inclusion.”

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KW: EMOTION, noun.
ED: A strong feeling about somebody or something.
DD: A prostrating disease caused by a determination of the heart to the head. It is sometimes accompanied by a copious discharge of hydrated chloride of sodium from the eyes.

17. INCLUSION AS THE 3^rd CORE STAGE OF HEALING--->

The last stage is the stage of inclusion, which can also be called the stage of “living with.” The metaphor here is that you have found an abandoned child, adopted him or her, and have brought the child home to live with you. Perhaps this is more than a metaphor. Take a moment and imagine this. If you brought a child home, a child who would be with you every second of your day, what in your LIFE would need to change? Inclusion is an ongoing, daily process whereby one adopts the Inner Child and begins to live one’s LIFE in intimate relationship with him or her. Inclusion does not mean the child is “integrated” in the sense that the child becomes submerged within the larger personality; nor does it mean changing the child to suit the needs of survival personality; rather, it means making whatever LIFE style, attitudinal changes are needed to accommodate the child in one’s LIFE. Only by creating such a space in one’s LIFE will the child find a new unifying center, a new empathic holding environment, by which to heal and grow.

In bringing this child into one’s LIFE, it will often be necessary to evaluate how current personal and professional relationships affect the child. Do you have friends who criticise and belittle you “all in good fun”? Does your friend give you the message, in word or deed, that your vulnerability and sensitivity are not okay? Do your teachers set a non-empathic, even abusive tone in the classroom? Such questions can point to ways in which your LIFE needs to change in order for it to become safe for your new charge, the child.

It is of course not always possible to alter one’s situation immediatelly. But even so, what would you do if you had a child with you in difficult relationships? You do have a child with you in those relationships! Are there ways you can find for the child — and thus the expression of authentic personality — to at least remain unharmed in your LIFE? And many relationships, of course, will easily change in order that the child may be included. Simple, direct statements and requests about one’s needs will be honored by those who respect you, and your child will find safety within these relationships.

Note again that the emphasis here is not upon “shaping up” or “fixing” the child so the child will fit neatly into one’s current relationships. The emphasis is upon changing one’s relationships so that the child is welcomed, made safe, and thereby allowed to emerge, heal, and grow.

Having a new child means making parenting a priority. Spending time with the child is crucial if one expects to get to know this new addition to your LIFE. Relationships only blossom with attention and care, so you both need time to sit down and communicate with each other. Through a variety of different methods, you and your child can learn to communicate, and gradually you can gain an understanding of his or her needs. Does the child need time alone? More peace and safety during the day? Time to play? A teddy bear? The child’s needs are usually quite easily satisfied within the course of normal living. Indeed, meeting the needs is not nearly as hard as remembering to create the time and space to meet the needs.

The inclusion stage is an ongoing process. It is not one moment of insight, one breakthrough experience, or one important abreacted memory (although these may be valuable aspects of the process). Inclusion means relationship. It is a living with this newly-discovered, orphan child, and doing concrete things in one’s LIFE so that the child — with no pressure to change — is allowed to live securely with you in your LIFE.

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ACKNOWLEDGE without any iota of denial that this inclusion of the CHILD entails your adopting a “good-enough” parenting stance. While the core of this stance is an empathic connection with the child, this does not mean the child is to control your LIFE.
MUNIFICENTLY, as any parent, you have the responsibility not only to nurture and support, but to guide and direct. An empathic relationship here simply means that no matter how you choose to live your LIFE, that you respect, hear, and include the child.
ALL throughout this ongoing inclusion, one will of course make mistakes, committing empathic failures under the sway of survival personality. An important point here is that these failures need to be mended. Empathic failures such as inner self-criticism, indulgence in petty rages are critical.
ZERO forgetting the child in excessive T.V. viewing, or exposing the child to abusive situations, all need to be owned and healed. As with any relationship, making amends forms a resilient foundation of respect, safety, and trust which allows one to navigate the mistakes which will surely occur over time.
IN essence, taking responsibility for survival personality can also include making amends for interpersonal pain which one inflicts. This can mean apologising for moments in which one’s criticism, revenge, or dark humour hurts other people. This making of amends for the transgressions of survival personality can be taken into the past as well, with great healing effects.
NOURISHINGLY, such work is not about the past as much as it is about transforming the present. It helps establish an empathic holding environment around us, and allows us to become safe for other people’s inner children as well. In this way, empathy and intimacy may begin to infuse many of our relationships, creating a unifying center by which the child may again live and breathe. Here the re-traumatisation of the child is stopped, creating space for the unfoldment of authentic personality.
GOODLY, this empathic holding environment is not only for the child. As a parent to an Inner Child, you will need support as well; any parenting is a difficult, if rewarding, task. Indeed, your ability to “hold” your child depends on your being “held” by your own unifying center(s). Here is where one’s spirituality, SELF-help group, therapist, friends, and family become crucial aspects of right relationship with the child.

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KW: LIFE, noun.
ED: The quality that makes living animals and plants different from dead organisms and inorganic matter. Its functions include the ability to take in food, adapt to the environment, grow, and reproduce.
DD: A spiritual pickle preserving the body from decay. We live in daily apprehension of its loss ; yet when lost it is not missed. The question, “Is life worth living?” has been much discussed; particularly by those who think it is not, many of whom have written at great length in support of their view and by careful observance of the laws of health enjoyed for long terms of years the honors of successful controversy.

18. THE REDEMPTIVE ROYAL ROAD TO SOCIAL JUSTICE--->

BEYONDISM seems to have made it clear that working with authentic personality is not only an intrapersonal process, but a profoundly interpersonal one. We were wounded in interpersonal relationships, and we need to be healed in them as well. You and your child need the support of empathic others as you begin to heal your relationship. Whether friends, family, SELF-help groups, or therapy, there needs to be a healthy holding environment for healing to take place. Such new unifying centers facilitate the inclusion of the child in one’s LIFE, and eventually lead towards the formation of internal unifying centers which support the continuous and stable unfolding of authentic personality. This is the the basis of the ultimate personal and social ennobling EMANCIPATION.

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AUTHENTIC personality, as it blossoms via the healing of inner and outer relationships, there is an increased empathic connection with oneSELF, other people, and the world at large. This can in turn lead to social action as one engages a world which is very often profoundly non-empathic to human vulnerability.
MEANINGFULLY, here we can see the deep and unbreakable connection between transformation of SELF and transformation of world — two levels of transformation which are often mistakenly seen as mutually-exclusive.
ARDENT social action can also be more dramatic, as when people recognise and report sexual harassment around them; pursue legal action towards perpetrators of abuse; or work politically to pass legislation which protects the vulnerable among us — the young, the poor, the disabled, and the elderly, for example.
ZESTFULLY, the very substance of Inner Child work seems to be the addressing of abuse and oppression perpetrated by social structures, beginning with the family. This empathic process of opening to Inner Child very often moves from healing the individual and family towards healing the wider society and the planet itself.
INDEED, such concern for the world can of course take the form of economic, religious, artistic, and political agendas beyond the single issue of children. The point is that a great deal of human suffering is not here blamed on the Divine, nature, or “the way things are,” but largely upon human empathic failures and/or the structures which embody a lack of human empathy.
NOTABLY, this is a focus about which we can do something. Here one can look deeply into the roots of the broken human condition, and begin to discern strategies for healing it. So from opening to Inner Child and reestablishing authentic personality flows a larger concern for others and the world.
GHASTLY, if we refuse to recognise our wounds and our path of healing, we will find it difficult to render true service to a wounded world. It appears that empathy for the other can only be founded on clear SELF-knowledge — on empathy for oneself. The ability to perceive and understand someone else’s suffering depends more than anything else on the degree to which one has experienced the suffering of one’s own childhood.

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KW: EMANCIPATION, noun.
ED: The condition or fact of being set free or freed from some restriction.
DD: A bondman’s change from the tyranny of another to the despotism of himself.

19. THE NOBLE PROGRESSIVE PATH OF AUTHENTICITY--->

As one’s inner and outer relationships heal, authentic personality begins to unfold. As the blocks to these relationships are unearthed and addressed; as there is more empathic communion among all concerned; as there is an ongoing commitment to keeping these relationships alive in one’s LIFE; one begins to shift away from survival personality and towards authentic personality — into the expression of one’s true nature, one’s essential I-amness among other people and the world.

From the point of view of the individual, empathy is thus the force which “integrates” or “synthesises” the personality; through SELF-empathy we can hold all the different parts of us, allowing a sense of inner multiplicity and unity at the same time. At a social level, empathic connection functions much the same way; this is the source of a solidarity with others and world which can honour both unity and differences.

It might even be said that living these inner and outer relationships amounts to one’s LIFE path, journey, or one’s SELF-realisation. This journey begins as we grapple with the “egoism” of survival personality and see through the illusions by which we have been living. The journey proceeds into a letting go of addictions and attachments (“aversions and cravings”) which were generated by the survival motivation, and towards an acceptance of the profound depths of human vulnerability hidden beneath them. From there, we move into a new relationship to ourselves, others, and the world which is grounded in a sense of the interconnection of all things.

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AS intimated, the journey of Inner Child seems to be much the same as the spiritual journey outlined by religious traditions of all times and places. This is a healing of the primal break between “I” and SELF, a communion of ‘personal being’ with ‘Universal Being’.
MUNIFICENTLY and decisively grappling with one’s compulsive behaviours and enthrallments, and then searching the depths for the child, can eventually lead to wondrous and creative lives.
ACTUALLY, it is not uncommon to hear someone say, “I am a grateful alcoholic,” or, “I am glad to be an adult child of a dysfunctional family,” or, “I thank the struggles I have had in my LIFE.” Such sentiments do not indicate an identity as a victim, a “poor-me” or blaming stance in LIFE; nor do they entail a condoning of the brokenness of the world.
ZESTFULLY, there is here an acknowledgment that suffering can be redeemed. Such statements say: “This is the road I have traveled to become who I am today, and I am grateful for the goodness I have found on the journey.”
IN all disguises, BEYONDISM affirms that, this journey from survival to authenticity is not one we finally complete, finding ourselves eventually in a state of blissful perfection. Authenticity is not an enlightened state to be grasped, but a direction in which to face.
NOW and then, we will always experience some mixture of survival and authentic personality in our lives. We shall always be human beings in an imperfect world. This is where the seeds of our SUCCESS in LIFE starts to germinate. The point is that we can be human beings in recovery.
GENUINELY, we can be people who admit our brokenness, face in the direction of authenticity, and walk with others who are traveling this same path. It may even be that the distance we walk is unimportant, and that the real gifts are the fellow travelers we meet along the way.

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KW: SUCCESS, noun.
ED: Impressive achievement, especially the attainment of fame, wealth, or power.
DD: The one unpardonable sin against one’s fellows.

20. FUNDAMENTALS OF HEALING YOUR INNER CHILD--->

We have acknowledged that, the experiences that we have as children –– both bad and good –– can significantly impact our lives as we grow up. As indicated, negative or traumatic childhood experiences tend to stick with us. We have also appreciated the fact that, even though you may not be consciously aware of the pain your INNER CHILD is carrying, it may be impacting your mental health and relationships.

As well articulated, many people who experienced hardships growing up have a “wounded inner child” that needs healing. This is where INNER CHILD work comes in –– the practice of healing your INNER CHILD which can help you thrive as an adult.

We reiterate again that healing your INNER CHILD can be LIFE-changing as you move forward. Let us again emphasize the fact that, once you have addressed childhood trauma and your INNER CHILD wounds, you may experience improved mental health, overall well-being, and healthier relationships. Most important the powers to do this do not come from outside, but they are INNATE.

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ASSERTIVELY get in touch with your INNER CHILD. INNER CHILD work requires you to get very introspective, diving deep into your past. You want to create a safe space where you can interact with your INNER CHILD and offer comfort and reassurance that you may not have received as a kid. Do this when you have plenty of time to be alone, where you will not be bothered by others. To connect with your INNER CHILD, you may visualize yourself as a kid and speak to your younger self as you are now. If you need a visual aid, you may choose to look at a photo of yourself as a child. Try to tap into the emotions that your younger self felt during childhood. When you speak to your INNER CHILD, do so with compassion, reminding them that they are safe and supported now.
MOTIVATE yourself to practice self-compassion. This is crucial during the process of INNER CHILD work. When you were young, you may not have received the non-judgemental compassion, love, and care that you needed. Perhaps you even treated yourself in judgemental and unkind ways as you grew up, reinforcing negative beliefs about yourself that others may have pushed on you. Now that you are older and have more knowledge, it is time to treat your INNER CHILD with love and compassion. Learning to be kinder and gentler to yourself is an important part of healing your wounded INNER CHILD. When you speak to your INNER CHILD, approach them in a caring and loving way. Validate your INNER CHILD’s struggles and the pain they felt, show them empathy, and tell them what you wish you could have heard back then. Additionally, you will want to work towards treating yourself with the same love and understanding that you would give to your child self or a kid in your LIFE now, such as a son, daughter, niece, nephew, or cousin. This may help put things in perspective for you.
ALLOW yourself to feel. You may have grown up stifling your emotions, perhaps being told that crying is a sign of weakness or that you need to always appear to have it all together. But now, you have the power to choose to feel your emotions. Remind yourself that it is safe and healthy to feel and express these emotions. Allow yourself to feel angry, sad, or cry. Keeping your feelings bottled up will do you no good. If you truly want to heal your INNER CHILD, you have to allow yourself to feel any and all emotions that pop up. While doing INNER CHILD work, you may also notice physical sensations popping up in your body. You may notice what you are feeling in your body, whether it is a tightness in your chest or a knot in your stomach. INNER CHILD work can bring up some painful and difficult emotions, especially if there is trauma involved in your childhood or you have had Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). You may be opening up emotional wounds that have not been addressed for years. Understand that doing this work will not always be pleasant or easy, but it will be worth it. Working alongside a therapist for INNER CHILD work is highly recommended if you have unresolved childhood trauma.
ZEALOUSLY identify key events in your LIFE. When you start connecting with your INNER CHILD, some past painful experiences may instantly jump out at you. For example, you might have a strong awareness of traumatic events you have been carrying with you throughout your LIFE. It can help to take some time to identify childhood memories and key events in your LIFE where your younger self felt scared, unsafe, invalidated, or unloved. Make a timeline or a list of these events to reference. This will show you the hard times you might have stuffed away and never fully addressed. For example, were there specific times you were abused? Neglected? Bullied? Once you identify these defining past experiences, you can take some time to reflect on them and the feelings that these events resulted in. Connect with your INNER CHILD at the time of the traumatic event. How did they feel in this moment and after it? What emotions came up? What beliefs did they have? Did the grown-ups in their LIFE react inappropriately? From here, you can work to understand how these events affected you, see the significance of them, and realize how they have stuck with you for all these years.
INDULGE in drawing links between past and present. When looking back at your childhood memories and experiences, try to see if you can draw a connection between how you felt then and how you feel now. For example, if you were bullied about your appearance or your performance in school when you were younger, do you still find yourself feeding yourself the same messages that the bullies back then passed along to you? Or, if you were a victim of sexual abuse or physical abuse as a child, do you still find yourself carrying any of that shame or pain, letting it get in the way of your adult relationships? Sometimes there will be clear links between past and present, but other times you may have to dig a little deeper. See if you notice similarities between how your younger self felt during difficult times and how you feel now. You might have even developed negative thought patterns or behaviors in response to painful childhood experiences. Sometimes, these patterns you developed as a kid might stick with you as you get older, and INNER CHILD work can help you become aware of them and change them. Alternatively, when you are feeling triggered or very upset in a certain situation, you may want to take a step back and ask yourself if you can trace this emotion back to an earlier painful experience. It might be your INNER CHILD and unhealed wounds reacting to the current situation. Again, a therapist can be very helpful here if you are having trouble drawing parallels between your unresolved childhood trauma and your LIFE now.
NEGATE or challenge deleterios thoughts. INNER CHILD work involves “unlearning” things. You may realize you have a lot of automatic thoughts that are not very kind. Many negative beliefs about ourselves are formed in childhood and can continue to impact us as adults. Identify any negative beliefs that you catch yourself thinking about as you go about your day at school, work, or home. These may be beliefs that adults in your LIFE ingrained in you when you were little. Some common negative thoughts linked to INNER CHILD wounds include “I’m not good enough” or “I’m unlovable.” Work towards identifying these negative, unhelpful thoughts. Once you can notice and identify these thoughts, you can then work on challenging the distorted negative thoughts with more realistic and positive thinking.
GROOM or try journaling? This is a great tool for connecting with your INNER CHILD. It is a safe and private tool for you to express and process difficult emotions and troubling memories. Putting pen to paper and writing about your experiences can help you slow down your thinking and gain even stronger awareness and a deeper understanding of your feelings back then and the present day. One idea is to journal from the point of view of your younger self. Write the journal entry as if you are in the moment as a kid. Explore any of the feelings and beliefs you felt then. Again, allow yourself to experience any emotions that come up. Another idea is to write a letter to your younger self as your present-day self. This is a great chance to practice self-compassion. You can tell your child self exactly what they needed to hear at that moment. What do you wish someone would have said to you? Offer comfort, validation, and support as you write to your wounded INNER CHILD. By expressing love and compassion towards yourself and your child self, you can work on healing emotional wounds of the past and move forward in a healthier way.

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KW: INNATE, adjective.
ED: Coming directly from the mind rather than being acquired by experience or from external sources.
DD: Natural, inherent as innate ideas, that is to say, ideas that we are born with, having had them previously imparted to us. The doctrine of innate ideas is one of the most admirable faiths of philosophy, being itself an innate idea and therefore inaccessible to disproof, though Locke foolishly supposed himself to have given it “a black eye.” Among innate ideas may be mentioned the belief in one’s ability to conduct a newspaper, in the greatness of one’s country, in the superiority of one’s civilization, in the importance of one’s personal affairs and in the interesting nature of one’s diseases.

21. INNER CHILD VISUALIZATION WITH EXPLANATION--->

The INNER CHILD in us unconsciously re-creates the childhood environment by projecting roles of significant others such as parents and siblings on current relationships. The unmet need of the wounded child wants to get met and re-creates the situation in the hopes of making that happen. For example, unresolved issues with a father or other authority figure will get projected onto our boss. And if we were hurt by excessive criticism by our parents, our INNER CHILD will scan faces, voices, behaviors, and gestures looking for and therefore finding signs of criticism in the environment while overriding signs of love and support.

Contacting our INNER CHILD, entails reconnecting and resolving our childhood issues by reprogramming the negative conditioning of the past with something more positive.

When energies are unresolved, they create a disturbing, if not dislocating dynamic in the energy field. As such, these negative energies held in the system, needs to be experienced and processed. The childlike qualities that were being held hostage become available to complete the developmental learning that did not take place in childhood. These learnings create the self-esteem and the safe boundaries that we need to be open, tolerant, non-judgmental, spontaneous, loving and cooperative rather than forever on guard.

One way to heal our younger selves is to access the “charged” childhood memory and re-experience it with what we shall call the Six C’s: Contact, Compassion, Conversation, Cognition, Connection, Consolation. These are ENOUGH! No more wandering.

You may want to try the below visualization. It is suggested here that you read through the visualization once before attempting it. Also, plan for a least one hour to give yourself plenty of time. Often it helps to do this work with a witness such as a therapist or trained professional to help monitor and mediate the work.

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AMOROUSLY sit or lay down in a comfortable, quiet space. Become aware of your breath. Consciously take a slow deep breath in and exhale gently. If you feel any tension in your body, focus on that area and breathe into it, releasing the tension with the out breath. Allow the breath to relax your muscles, and any tension you may be holding. Breathe in slowly and breathe out gently. The following process is a journey to heal your INNER CHILD. Please take it slowly, as past pain and emotion can rise to the surface. If this happens, stop and take several deep breaths and visualize a light transmuting this emotion, bringing you back to a state of calm. If you feel calm continue, otherwise you may have done enough for now.
MUNIFICENT Contact: Picture yourself as a small child. Usually, we can remember a time between the ages of 3 and 12 when we were hurt, angry or neglected. Slowly invite all your senses into the experience. Remember the place, what you were wearing, any smells and lastly what you were feeling in your body. Invite all that into your awareness as if it was a movie. No judgment, no comment - just invitation, just watching. Stay as long as you need in the scene to feel the emotion. Know that emotions come in waves of three so, for instance, there can be anger, sadness, hurt and there is always confusion. Now visualize light shining on you, slowly getting brighter and stronger. The light may appear as a specific color. If at any time you feel overwhelmed by emotion, slow down the process by taking a few deep breaths. When you feel calmer, take up where you left off. There is no rush, and slower is better than faster. You can always stop altogether if need be.
AMICABLE Compassion: This can be the most challenging part of this exercise. The residual of negative early experiences leave a mark on our self-esteem. To show themselves, early parts have to trust that you will be there for them as a supportive, non-shaming ally to validate the abandonment, neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. Only when we show up in this way can true healing happen. If you are having a difficult time showing compassion to your younger self, invite someone’s energy in to help, such as your own child, a niece or a loved younger person the age that you are working with. With your most loving eyes, look into your little child’s eyes. Take in the emotions, validating them and then send love to your hurt child. Create an energy that is reciprocal, back and forth. This is important since at the time of the hurt no one was there to witness and help contain the charge. You can change that now.
ZESTFUL Conversation: Gently approach your little one. Ask what is going on. Encourage any bodily sensations to arise in your awareness. Ask what is needed that might helpful. If there is an adult in the space, they may want them to go away, say or do something. Ask what wants to “be done” or said. Listen, and in your imagination, slowly, even if it seems unrealistic to your rational brain, allow whatever comes up to happen while your adult self is there protecting and supporting your child. Finish the unfinished verbal and physical action that was not completed at the time. After that, there can be a huge shift in energy. At this point, it is helpful to ask our child if they want to be held and comforted. During this process always offer support. Some self-nurturing things you might consider saying to your INNER CHILD include: “I love you. I hear you. I’m sorry you had to go through that alone but I am with you now. Thank you for being so strong and getting us through that, we made it and we are here now because of your resilience and strength.” Always await a response and create a dialog.
INTIMATE Cognition: Now we can elicit your adult brain to join the conversation. Making sense of the aftermath of a held negative early experience will lead to organization on every level of the system. Fragmented memories need to be reentered, reframed, and given a cohesive narrative with the cognitive abilities of logic that were not available at the time of the incident. With your adult brain present, work with your child self to create a new narrative that “makes sense.” With your adult brain tell your child that they were not to blame, they did nothing wrong. After all, making mistakes is a vital part of growing up and developmentally appropriate! All too often, it was the adult that was inappropriate in their action or reaction. With your adult cognition, update the event and give language to what happened. Be the adult support that was not there to witness and make sense then. Let your child tell you things they could not say then. Revisit the negative story that was held and reframe it to a positive one of resilience and growth. Change the mindset!
NOURISHING Connection (Mind, Body, and Spirit): By inviting and building on the sensations and feelings that were present during the event and asking what was needed at the time, the body can get in touch with options that were not available then. By creating the story one hoped for or wanted to happen, frozen energies get activated and can be completed; unfinished business held in the muscles and psyche can be released. By highlighting and reinforcing the positive energy that helped your little one get through the event, you get in touch with the potency in the system and allow disowned parts to join the whole. The new story becomes the new experience and gets “installed” into the body, mind, and nervous system. Memory consolidation is accomplished and the result is the ability to be more present for current situations without bringing in the past.
GENTAL Consolation: Always end a child session asking your child where they want to live. Using your imagination fill the space with things that evoke love and safety. Let your child know that you will never ignore them again and are happy to spend time together whenever needed. Make sure you hug, thank them, and tell them how much they mean to you before saying goodbye. When you are ready, gently bring your awareness back to your body. You can give your legs a stretch, your fingers a wiggle and when you feel ready, open your eyes and come back to waking consciousness. You may need to practice this visualization process several times to fully heal your INNER CHILD. Also, you can invite different ages and incidents, eventually imagining all your little ones joined in solidarity.
REST ASSURED THE EFFORT WILL BE WORTH THE TIME!!!
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KW: ENOUGH, pronoun.
ED: The amount that is needed or that can be tolerated.
DD: All there is in the world if you like it.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #9
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#9 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
In all manifestations, eschew being treated as an object, and also seek to treat others as humanly unique.

“I swear ‘tis better to be much abused
Than but to know ‘t a little.”
- English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616), in Othello, Act 3, Scene 3
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Objectification is the dehumanizing act of treating a person as a thing or an object.
Distinguished Developer: American philosopher Martha Craven Nussbaum (born 1947)

UNCOUTH instrumentality means treating the person as a mere TOOL for another person’s purposes.
PROFUSE inertness is treating the person as lacking in agency (simply the ability to volitionally ACT).
GHASTLY fungibility entails treating the person as easily INTERCHANGEABLE with (other) objects.
ROGUE violability is treating the person as something that is permissible to smash, or easily break into.
AWFUL ownership is treating the person as though they can be owned, bought or SOLD (as in slavery).
DENIAL of autonomy is treating the person as lacking in free-will or is just devoid of self-determination.
EVENTUALLY treating the person as though there is no need for concern of their experiences or feelings.
Timely Therapy: - To alienate humans from their own decision-making, is to change them into automations.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
One cannot shave own head. People depends on each other; they must help one another; it is nature’s law.

Support from friends, family members, and others who care for us goes a long way in helping us to get by in times of trouble. Social support systems provide us with emotional sustenance, tangible resources and aid, and information when we are in need. People with social support feel cared about and valued by others and feel a sense of belonging to a larger social network. A large body of research has linked social support to good health and a superior ability to cope with stress. If you know your friends will support you, and there is someone with whom you can talk things through, somehow stressful situations are more tolerable.
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Buffering Effect ascertains that supported people feel less stress.
Distinguished Developers: Callell and Kaplin (1972)

USUAL buffering effect is a process in which a psychosocial resource improves psychological well-being.
PERSONS with high support show less adverse impact from negative events; reduces the STRESS impact.
GRANTED, social support is a known buffering agent; contributes to adjustment in facing LIFE turmoils.
REAL social support is associated with widespread benefits for physical and mental HEALTH across LIFE.
APPARENTLY, social buffering occurs throughout LIFE; in childhood, adolescence, as well as in adulthood.
DELIVERING a speech with a ROMANTIC PARTNER present can dampen or block CORTISOL production.
EXPERIENCING high levels of ANXIETY in the presence of a social support makes the recovery QUICKER.
Timely Therapy: - Kindness and empathy are the intimate languages which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
An individual who has not really passed through the inferno of one’s passions has never overcome them.

I see a bear.
I feel afraid.
I tense in readiness to run away.
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Cannon-Bard Theory of Emotion proposes that emotions lead to physiological changes.
Distinguished Developers: American physiologist Walter Bradford Cannon (1871 – 1945)
and his doctoral student Philip Bard (1898 – 1977).

UTILITY question: When faced with a potently dangerous scenario, what do your instincts tell you to do?
PRUDENTLY proposing the idea of the “fight or flight” response, is the Cannon-Bard theory of emotion.
GENERALLY, the lower part of the brain, also called the thalamus, controls your EXPERIENCE of emotion.
REALISTICALLY, the higher part of the brain, also called the cortex, controls the EXPRESSION of emotion.
ACCORDINGLY, it is purposivelly believed that, these two PARTS of the BRAIN react SIMULTANEOUSLY.
DAUNTLESSLY, for example, you may SEE a car coming toward you, or may HEAR a sudden loud sound.
END processing of what you SEE and HEAR by amygdala, translates possible danger to the hypothalamus.
Timely Therapy: - LIFE is a COMEDY to those who think; a TRAGEDY to those who are victims of feelings.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Our senses makes us truly human; distrust of our senses prevents us from feeling comfortable in the universe.

I see a bear.
My muscles tense, my heart races.
I feel afraid.
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James-Lange Theory of Emotion proposes that physiological changes lead to emotions.
Distinguished Developer: American philosopher, psychologist and educational reformer John Dewey (1859 - 1952),
American philosopher, historian and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910),
and Danish physician Carl Lange (1834 - 1900).

USUALLY, an emotion is felt when the brain reacts to the information received via the nervous system.
PHYSIOLOGICAL arousal with the exclusion of emotional behaviour, determines emotional feelings.
GENERALLY, each emotional feeling has a unique pattern of physiological responses associated with it.
RESPONSES must meet this first important, critical criterion: At least two emotions should be induced.
ANY one emotion should be verified using other measures, such as facial expressions or verbal reports.
DISCRETE and distinct emotions are precisely precipitated, by a few specific physiological differences.
EXPERIENCING anger and fear, increases blood pressure, while happiness and sadness decreases it.
Timely Therapy: - Hold on to your heart; for if you let it go, you will soon lose control of your head too.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Pleasure may be fleeting, but human; to feel fully alive all the strings in our heart should be verily vibrated.

“Pleasure is a knowledge or feeling of perfection, not only in ourselves, but also in others, for in this way some further perfection is aroused in us.”
- German philosopher and mathematician Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz (1646 - 1716)
When we are feeling unwell, we often will deduce the illness from the symptoms. From then on, hypochondria can take hold, and further symptoms psychosomatically appear to confirm our conclusions.
RESEARCH:
Dutton and Aron (1974) had an attractive woman ask for interviews of young men, both on a swaying rope bridge, 200 ft above a river, and also on terra firma (dry land). A part way through the interview, she gives them her phone number. Over 60% from the rope bridge called her back, versus 30% from terra firma. They had interpreted their arousal from fear on the bridge as attraction to the woman.
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Two-Factor Theory of Emotion proposes that we deduce our nature from what we do and feel.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Stanley Schachter (1922 – 1997)
and his student Jerome Everett Singer (1934 – 2010)

UNDERLYING the Two-Factor Theory of Emotion is: physiological arousal and cognitive label
PUT well, what if one experiences a state of arousal for which one has no immediate explanation?
GENERAL labeling and description of one’s feelings is in terms of the cognitions readily available.
REALLY, what if one experiences a state of arousal for which one has an appropriate explanation?
ALTERNATIVE cognitions available, is what one will be unlikely to label one’s feelings in terms of.
DELIBERATELY put in an ENVIRONMENT which in the past could have made one feel an emotion?
EMOTIONAL reaction or experience will occur, only if one is in a state of PHYSIOLOGICAL arousal.
Timely Therapy: - Unaware why you feel an emotion. You rely on immediate environment for cues.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Credulity increases impudence; wanes with experience. Between naivety and insecurity lies Vision Clarity.

When you think about breaking up with your most intimate partner,
You believe you will be so upset,
You will be unable to do your job effectively for a long time to come.
RESEARCH:
Gilbert and colleagues (1998) demonstrated in 6 studies that participants overestimated,
The duration of their affective reactions to the dissolution of a romantic relationship,
The failure to achieve tenure, an electoral defeat, negative personality feedback,
An account of a child’s death and rejection by a prospective employer.
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Impact Bias entails over-estimating the effect of emotional event.
Distinguished Developers: Gilbert, Pinel, Wilson, Blumberg and Wheatley (1998)

UPON thinking about the ‘impact’ of future events, we tend to forget about all other things in our lives.
PEOPLE (to make decisions) try to predict how an event will play out and what it will make them feel.
GENERALLY, when making these predictions, we are subject to a cognitive bias, namely Impact Bias.
REAL inability to anticipate the effect of external factors, and change over time, fully defines this bias.
ALL humans are more prone to make errors about intensity and duration of affect, than about valence.
DUE valence, or hedonic tone, refers to the intrinsic ‘good’-ness or ‘bad’-ness of an object, or situation.
EVENTUALY, these mistaken projections affect our ability to make decisions that maximize happiness.
Timely Therapy: - One thing you cannot hide is when you are crippled, tormented or traumatised inside.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
A good and progressive IDEA is like the wind, even if it comes from a far off place, and we will still feel it.

“A sweet attractive kind of grace,
A full assurance given by looks,
Continual comfort in a face,
The lineaments of Gospel books;
I trow that countenance cannot lie,
Whose thoughts are legible in the eye.”
- British poet Matthew Roydon (1564? - 1622?)
“To be a poet and not to know the trade
To be a lover and repel all women;
Twin ironies by which great saints are made,
The agonising pincer-jaws of Heaven.”
- Irish poet and novelist Patrick Kavanagh (1905 - 1967)
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Repulsion Hypothesis: We dislike people who are very different from us.
Distinguished Developer: Rosenbaum (1986)

UNDER Repulsion Hypothesis is the proposal that attraction is not enhanced by similar attitudes.
POSITIVITY is what we initially have, but are later repulsed by the discovery of dissimilar attitudes.
GAINFUL orientation is that, we can get on with people whose attitudes are mederately different.
REALISTICALLY, we will be repulsed by people whose attitudes are particularly different from us.
ARDENT argument is: similarity does not lead to liking, but rather, dissimilarity leads to repulsion.
DISSIMILARITY has been purposively proved by research as carrying more weight than similarity..
EXCLUDING those with attitudes outside of an acceptable range, is done before looking for friends.
Timely Therapy: - Beware of holding extreme attitudes as you may fall the first hurdle of friendship.

Psychic Palace

R#59. On being SWAYED hither and thither by others opinions or belief systems.

BQ#10. What intensity of CERTITUDE is necessary in STOPPING SWAYNESS, as a function of boldly building a PSYCHIC PALACE?--->

“The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.”
- U.S. writer Harriet Beecher Stowe (1811 - 1896)

“What a piece of work is a man!
How noble in reason!
how infinite in faculties!
in form and moving, how express and admirable!
in action, how like an angel!
in apprehension, how like a god!
the beauty of the world!
the paragon of animals!
And yet, to me, what is this quintessence of dust?
Man delights not me — no, nor woman neither.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 2, Scene 2

“Engage yourself spiritedly in creative pursuits.
Never lose your sense of the wonder in life.
Try everyday to overcome your boredom
Through worthwhile goals.
Have faith in your powers.
Understand that life can be fun.
Select goals that are realistic for you, then
move out to reach them.
Investigate your real worth so that you can
feel good about yourself.
Accept your shortcomings so that you can
feel good even when you fall.
See yourself at your best every day.
Move out in the world with excitement
and curiosity so that each day is a big day for you.”
- American neuro-surgeon Maxwell Maltz (1899 - 1975)--->

HERE YOU ARE, faced with the inescapable prerogative of building, entering and thriving in the abode of your PSYCHIC PALACE. This is imperative at this age of shattered belief systems, of melting creeds, of rapid breakdown of the theological sanctions on morality, of danger and incessant questionings. You will arouse in you the necessary preparedness, whereby through mental toil and directive resolution you will be able to contemplate the world with the candid, eager curiousity of the seeker after an understanding of various ‘existential’ issues. Building and living in the ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE does not mean becoming a King or a Queen in the literal sense, but putting on the crown of dignity and grandeur by showering with light those inherently human devices which are always within our precincts (but sometimes ignored), facilitative in leading a ‘Fully Functional Life’. The exhortation here is to seal off all those ‘Caves’ of dented self-efficacy, set ablaze all those ‘Huts’ of poor self-esteem, and destroy all those ‘Tents’ of low self-assertion and consequently dedicate your energies in building an enduring house of an Active SELFHOOD. This is another precise prelude to making an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION of LIFE, with an aim of eventually realising in your unique manner the eternal joy of ‘BEING’ and ‘BECOMING’.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of PSYCHIC PALACE thus:

Practically speaking, where there is individual WILL, there is always WAY and breakthough.
Strive for the realisation of elegance, style, grace and refinement in regard to your percepts.
Your joyful attempt at sanity is struggling for LIFE to become divinely conscious of itself.
Cleanliness (PSYCHIC) which comes next to Godliness comes by asserting your authenticity.
Hopefully negate anything that tends to dry up the springs of quest and action in this world.
Insist on never being a mere item stumbling blindly hither and thither in a moral pageant.
Creatively burst through the barriers of social stereotypes, and design your unique patterns.

Perseverance enables you to welcome LIFE pushing you around and turn ‘flight’ into ‘fight.’
A burning desire to be, and to do is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off.
LIFE invokes you to be all that reflects your ‘Distinct’ tastes, aspirations as well as potentials.
At the citadel of your individuality, you find a quieter or more untroubled retreat and freedom.
Commit fully at every moment to one of a limitless range of possibilities evident in this world.
Enact a ‘Yea-attitude’ to the joy of living and to the creative tasks of your immediate society.

“Only God can judge me, so I’m gone, either love me or leave me alone.”- American rapper Shawn Corey Carter a.k.a. Jay-Z (b. 1969). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: IRRIGATING the CERTITUDE for STOPPING SWAYNESS, to be firm in your convictions.--->

Human excellence is not an accident of fate or a prerogative of noble birth, but an art that can be taught and learned. While this art do exist, it is only one piece and the least, in a process of self-improvement that relies more heavily on native talent, desire and constant practice. Building and thriving in a ‘Psychic Palace’, entails combating those militating factors, that poisons the climate of one’s LIFE, and thereby break all the prison-houses, that close upon the growing individual. This is by provoking one to get access to greater part of one’s personal resources, as a means of responding to the challenges of one’s LIFE, thus stimulating one to grow in psychic, as well as emotional fitness and health.

Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to STOP SWAYNESS.
SELF-command, calmness and justice are at the center of a good LIFE; the sure source of pure PEACE.
USUALLY, a towering intellect, grand in its achievements, and glorious in its possibilities, is truly adorable.
MOST dangerous and mischievous force it becomes, if moral and spiritual faculties are held in abeyance.
MERRY beauty without vanity, strength without insolence, courage without ferocity, is character loftiness.
AMICABLE friendliness, fragrance, radiance, and easy hospitality are more important than any grandeur.
REMARKABLE vision, and keen feeling for suffering humanity, will make you stand TALLER in this world.
YE shall be phantom of delight, and a lovely apparition, a moment’s ornament, with vigour and elegance.

PREPARE yourself to diligently IRRIGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for STOPPING SWAYNESS.

Progress in our African society will only rise upon the heels of liberated, and actualised individuals.
Real changes will only be achieved through personal self-commitment in undetermined free choice.
Experiment and adventure, is what will break the PSYCHIC inertia, and kindle thirst for novel ideas.
Provoke positive percepts by changing and controlling yourself; you cannot change or control events.
Aspire to forge a new identity that extends the boundaries assigned by rigid and suffocating society.
Reason is the one core strength you have and which alone could save you from confusion and decay.
Entrech the belief that labour and industry in all LIFE’s aspect is your prima facie duty towards God.

REALISE that IRRIGATING your innate ‘quest’ for STOPPING SWAYNESS is in your ‘power.’

Revel in the beauty arising from wrestling with all your illusions and eventually vanquishing them.
Entertain a long term vision and a readiness to postpone immediate profits for future greater gain.
Accumulation of wealth is gradual, and so is the process of fashioning of a progressive civilisation.
Lively, zealous spiritual devotion to work when cropped up will drive you towards unsuspected ends.
Inculcate in yourself a sense of energy, acquisitiveness, discipline, enterprise, diligence, and thrift.
Seek sustained effort, willingness to mobilise savings, to take risks, and propensity for innovation.
Essentially it is not where you are or what you have, but where you are going and the moving-rate.

EMPOWER yourself to IRRIGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for STOPPING SWAYNESS.

Every dream is not born of laziness; it is the seedling of ambition; so awake, arise and be assertive.
Making LIFE ‘Choices’ is a must, it is a divine duty; but the most crucial aspect is choosing in time.
People with greater certainty about their emotions are better pilots of their lives; the key to success.
On success: Intelligence Quotient (IQ) makes about 20%; 80% is from Emotional Intelligence (EQ).
Work out new modalities that shall be in accord with the changed conditions of your unique LIFE.
Existence precede essence, so there no explaining things away by reference to a fixed human nature.
Reason informs us: God knows the options open to us in our freedom, not the decision we will make.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to IRRIGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of STOPPING SWAYNESS.

Mechanisms BEYOND your control may influence your fate, yet your ‘Choices’ have consequences.
Essence of emotional self-regulation: ability to delay and resist an impulse in the service of a goal.
Devising realistic ways of looking and dealing with natural and social phenomena, is your DUTY.
Impatience and self-indulgence, taking the easy way out, wrecks your LIFE on the rock of indolence.
All what you become is your responsibility, either you make yourself or, in a sense, allow others to.
Trespass into your LIFE by others, and so moulding you according to their ideals, is the original sin.
Energy plus talent and you are a conqueror; talent minus energy and you are like a flavourless salt.

INDULGE yourself in IRRIGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards STOPPING SWAYNESS.

Infusing upon yourself ‘Perseverance’ is the lever upon which you will thus grow healthy and wealthy.
Negating ‘Destiny’, leads to superstitions or projecting it onto others; perceiving them as totally bad.
Denial of ‘Destiny’ ups the feelings of lack of responsibility; through scapegoating and blame shifting.
Urge of LIFE or the dynamic WILL, is the cause and the goal of all action; instinctive or conscious.
Live by continually magnifying inner shine; you will have less dips, more peaks and greater balance.
Guard from escaping your consideration, the finding of MEANING in what you do, and experience.
Earth moves at different speed depending on WHO you are, WHAT you want in LIFE, and WHY.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for IRRIGATING the ‘compulsion’ of STOPPING SWAYNESS.

Under no circumstance should you allow frustrations, and despondency to creep in your innards.
The very heavens seek to arouse a human being’s core determination to be free from any limitation.
Inscription at one’s birth is not that one is a puppet of one’s past; its message is a PROD to PRIDE.
LIFE force, at its most intensive and extensive manifestation is the principle or fount of all morality.
Immerse yourself in the creative challenge of the present moment; it is NOW when LIFE is blissful.
Spontaneity and flexibility enables you to adjust adequately to changes and to seek NEW challenges.
Endeavour to direct your PSYCHE to the service and manifestation of JOYFUL affirmation of LIFE.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to IRRIGATE STOPPING SWAYNESS.

Meaninglessness in LIFE is a condition you MUST abhor at all cost; succumbing to it is virtual death.
Override all manacles, break all chains of PSYCHIC slavery, and be free to grow and self-actualise.
Nature is an infinitely big COW where you have to MILK your MEANING depending on your needs.
In moving the direction of BEYONDISM, question obsolete beliefs and check on inconsistent values.
To be at pace with ‘existence’ you must be ready or willing to make necessary adjustments in LIFE.
Obeying GOD will enable you to work through hurdles, thereby bettering and strengthening yourself.
Regard with greatest contempt, mechanically responding to others, if you assents to the will-to-live.

“When we mean to build,
We first survey the plot, then draw the model;
And when we see the figure of the house,
Then we must rate the cost of the erection;
Which if we find outweighs ability,
What do we then but draw anew the model
In fewer offices, or at last desist
To build at all?”
- Shakespeare in Henry IV, Part 2, Act 1, Scene 3

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on building boldly the PSYCHIC PALACE:
It is manifest that you are IRRIGATING your dauntless determination to STOP SWAYNESS.
Having CULTIVATED your affluent attempts,
You are now armoured to PROPAGATE the solid struggle.
Soon you will NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.
--->

CATEGORICAL CONSIDERATIONS:--->

The picturesque conception of our ‘PALACE’, like all houses which are built to live and not to look on, whereby use should be preferred before anything else, entails infusing with energy those PSYCHIC apparatus which have clearly proved from time immemorial, outside and BEYOND the realm and bounds of time, to be invariably vital and ‘purposeful preservatives’ to our human ‘existence’.

The ‘WHY’ of building a PSYCHIC Palace.--->

Purposively, I WILL keep up with all of the rapid changes in the contemporary world.
Strategically, I WILL know what is within my human power and what is BEYOND.
Yearningly, I WILL no longer melt in the scorching sun of the inability to use reason.
Creatively, I WILL abhor the obsession with the past and intolerance of the new.
Holistically, I WILL break through the passivity of perpetually renewed identical circles.
Implicitly, I WILL develop a revolutionary scientific or explosive philosophic outlook.
Categorically YES, I CAN utilise my mind to destroy all decadent traditional beliefs.

The ‘HOW’ of building a PSYCHIC Palace.--->

Purposively, I WILL sincerely protest against my submergence in the collectivity.
Strategically, I WILL never be content to act as semi-conscious member of a crowd.
Yearningly, I WILL maximally intensify the magnitude and impetus of my passions.
Creatively, I WILL ascribe the ‘sign of nobility’ as acting on my core conscience.
Holistically, I WILL never lower my duties to the rank of duties for everybody.
Implicitly, I WILL never renounce any of my duties or discard my responsibilities.
Categorically YES, I CAN count my prerogatives and the exercise of them resolutely.

The ‘WHAT’ of building a PSYCHIC Palace.--->

Purposively, I WILL always seek to learn the art and science of human improvement.
Strategically, I WILL improve myself by native talent, desire and constant practice.
Yearningly, I WILL sincerely impregnate my psyche with the ‘will-to-succeed’.
Creatively, I WILL tune myself to the modern fast acceleration of ‘times arrow’.
Holistically, I WILL never succumb to the ‘will-to-fail’ and the ‘will-to-extinction’.
Implicitly, I WILL never allow ‘existence’ to rubbish at me and put me down.
Categorically YES, I CAN assert to never allow anybody to steam off my self-esteem.

DESIGN DRAWING:--->

As point of departure, our grievances shall be reflected and bundled together in our Design Drawing by discerning the possible causes of our dehumanisation, and put a strong armour against it.

MALTREATMENT: - Keeping flesh in a scorching psychosocial environment.--->

Purposively, I WILL utilise my creativity and make a radical shift in my behaviour.
Strategically, I WILL realise elegance, grace and refinement in all my perceptions.
Yearningly, I WILL rise above the superficial expectation of acting on deterrence.
Creatively, I WILL never fail to honour my promises for the fear of being punished.
Implicitly, I WILL act on the solid belief that the other has the best interest at heart.
Holistically, I WILL always act as I promise to act following agreed upon procedures.
Categorically YES, I CAN behave cleanly by being open about my motives and needs.

SUFFOCATION: - Amassing energy to propel me in performance of vital tasks.--->

Purposively, I WILL stop vegetating in inertia and strike out any lack of ‘nerves’.
Strategically, I WILL fight any unlimited conformity and uncontrolled traditionalism.
Yearningly, I WILL rebel against the attachment and dependence to the habitual.
Creatively, I WILL be swift in reacting to unusual stimuli, in the intellectual sphere.
Implicitly, I WILL not allow the tender plant of my nobler feelings to be killed.
Holistically, I WILL always indulge my high aspirations and intellectual tastes.
Categorically YES, I CAN disallow myself to be addicted to inferior pleasures.

CORRUPTION: - Deriding the division of loyalty and misleading of motives.--->

Purposively, I WILL never be a short-sighted egoist who follows short-range interests.
Strategically, I WILL stop feeling alive upon living a shallow LIFE of instant gratification.
Yearningly, I WILL never indulge in acts of using public resources for private gain.
Creatively, I WILL never involve myself in self-defeating acts of betraying a trust.
Holistically, I WILL affirm that each step of development brings its own problems.
Implicitly, I WILL affirm that there never is a time in life for an effortless ride.
Categorically YES, I CAN never sit down on and enjoy a ready-made sled of success.

AREA ANALYSIS:--->

Our comprehensive Area analysis implies a distillation of the consequences of our societal sordidness, and how to shield yourself from them.

DECADENCE: - Avoiding build-up of the emotion of ‘future hopes strangled’.--->

Purposively, I WILL overcome all cruel forces that may tend to crush my dreams.
Strategically, I WILL never be gnawed by a sense of being bound and constrained.
Yearningly, , I WILL never fall into the temptation at despair and circumscription.
Creatively, I WILL never degenerate into a regrettable state of a lack of LIFE goals.
Holistically, I WILL avoid being in a social vacuum without direction or meaning.
Implicitly, I WILL never conclude that ‘the way of the world is closed to me’.
Categorically YES, I CAN infuse my ‘sagged spirit’ with a view of a fertile future.

WILL-to-DIE: - Shunning squalid form of escape – the lure of alcohol or drug.--->

Purposively, I WILL never allow the perception of the meaning of LIFE to leak away at all.
Strategically, I WILL never condone any sort of psychic impotence to creep in my innards.
Yearningly, I WILL never allow any boredom to become an overriding force in my LIFE.
Creatively, I WILL never indulge in drinking to drown my feelings of worthlessness.
Holistically, I WILL never experiment with drugs to run away from PSYCHIC vacuum.
Implicitly, I WILL verily avoid all these subtle ways of committing indirect suicide.
Categorically YES, I CAN learn effective methods of coping with stress and depression.

VIOLENCE: - Curbing the unconscious protest against feeling of stagnation.--->

Purposively, I WILL teach that violence has its breeding ground in impotence and apathy.
Strategically, I WILL abhor all sort of exploitation for they produce boredom and triviality.
Yearningly, I WILL disallow them to make me a psychic cripple, turning me into a sadist.
Creatively, I WILL strive to achieve a sense of purpose and meaning in my undertakings.
Holistically, I WILL never at all seek to enhance my self-esteem through violent deeds.
Implicitly, I WILL blunt my inclination towards ‘Violence’ by feeding my appetite for LIFE.
Categorically YES, I CAN seriously override all feeling of insignificance and powerlessness.

CULTISM: - Managing the quest for a sense of belonging to quench one’s misery.--->

Purposively, I WILL never shrink from the responsibility of weighing motives and intentions.
Strategically, I WILL disallow any emotional deprivation to make me a fanatical devotee.
Yearningly, I WILL never let anybody to strip me of my ability to act or think independently.
Creatively, I WILL be wary of joining any group through sort of psychological manipulation.
Holistically, I WILL never join a group to find refuge from seemingly unfair large society.
Implicitly, I WILL avoid all charismatic relationships which demand total commitment.
Categorically YES, I CAN quench any thirst for an ideological organisation or community.

SITE SURVEYING:--->

We have to locate an ideal specific Site, and mount a suitably strong FENCE which shall be secure enough to ensure our territorial integrity, such that in the eventuality of an attack by the wildest torrents and floods of social inhibitions and strangulations, our ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE will not be swept away.

The ‘WHY’ of a PSYCHIC Revolution.--->

Purposively, I WILL be a master of a new mode of valuation ‘at any cost’.
Strategically, I WILL be an enemy and a rebel of an old withering order.
Yearningly, I WILL seek to shatter and sink down all vulgar valuations.
Creatively, I WILL energise myself with sufficient insatiable ambitions.
Holistically, I WILL be boldly daring, splendidly overbearing, and high-flying.
Implicitly, I WILL press profoundly longingly, with passionate conviction.
Categorically YES, I CAN move with strength into a new light and disposition.

The ‘HOW’ of a PSYCHIC Revolution.--->

Purposively, I WILL alleviate all moral strengths, vital in this specific epoch in history.
Strategically, I WILL sweep away altogether all old prejudices and misunderstandings.
Yearningly, I WILL cleanse my conception as a ‘Free spirit‘, ’Rare bird’, ‘Noble soul’.
Creatively, I WILL leap and advance towards the temple of posterity and prosperity.
Holistically, I WILL secure the TRUMP CARD by which to accrue salvation unto myself.
Implicitly, I WILL amass and utilise all SIGNS in which I should conquer the world.
Categorically YES, I CAN be serenely fired with fertile imagination of a bright future.

FORTIFIED FOUNDATION:--->

“A mud hut cannot withstand great shocks”, so goes a Swahili proverb. So, as strong as it is supposed to be, the Foundation of our ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE shall be made of the most stable structures, such that, when the geological forces of obsolete conceptualisations, hollow abstractness and narrow verifiability tend to pull it down, it will not sink.

SELF-AWARENESS: - Having an expanded appreciation to issues and ideas.--->

Purposively, I WILL face the task of soul searching by not dwelling on irrelevancies.
Strategically, I WILL never be a weaver of myths and carver of gods about myself.
Yearningly, I WILL never dress myself on other people’s personality’s gowns.
Creatively, I WILL never blindly live up to other people’s expectations or ideals.
Holistically, I WILL never embark on a style of LIFE which belies my actual capacity.
Implicitly, I WILL never act ‘as if’ I am weak or ‘as if’ I am doomed to be a loser.
Categorically YES, I CAN face the task of creating a constructive ‘existence’ for myself.

GOD-CONSCIOUSNESS: - Seeing all things as a manifestation of Cosmic Reality.--->

Purposively, I WILL appreciate and evoke total submission to the mystery of existence.
Strategically, I WILL conceive myself as the unique locus of the realisation of the divine.
Yearningly, I WILL merrily recognise and perform all my duties as divine commands.
Creatively, I WILL assert total reaction upon life; live life with all my mind and soul.
Holistically, I WILL wholeheartedly live life with all my goodness and righteousness.
Implicitly, I WILL verily attempt to realise God in this very life, in all my undertakings.
Categorically YES, I CAN experience the Supernatural as a certainty, as well as a fact.

PERENNIAL PILLARS:--->

The Pillars of our ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE shall be so hardened and tempered that, when the earthquake of false ideologies and rogue dogmas attacks it, it will neither shake nor collapse.

DESTINY: - Amassing total charge of personal present and future motivations.--->

Purposively, I WILL be keen and alert to recognise the very elusibility of my Prime.
Strategically, I WILL go BEYOND the grave, by ensuring the immortality of my deeds.
Yearningly, I WILL do things that will make me to be remembered with appreciation.
Creatively, I WILL believe in my own mortality; and also be totally in love with it.
Holistically, I WILL believe that the best is yet to come, and work hard to realise it.
Implicitly, I WILL focus on where I am going and also the rate of my getting there.
Categorically YES, I CAN enjoy the fullness of LIFE; in options as well as in commitments.

DISTINCT: - Indulging in personal pilgrimage towards unique individuality.--->

Purposively, I WILL locate my center of gravity, for ‘Reality’ to unfold uniquely.
Strategically, I WILL verily make sure that everything I do has my fingerprint.
Yearningly, I WILL find a quieter or more untroubled retreat and freedom in me.
Creatively, I WILL be free, blessed and glorious when I discover who I am really.
Holistically, I WILL never waste my uniqueness in running after some shadow.
Implicitly, I WILL affirm that there is no recipe for living that suites all cases.
Categorically YES, I CAN start to drop the idea of comparing myself to anybody.

DREAM: - Fertile imagination related to deep belief, as opposed to doubt.--->

Purposively, I WILL stop all fantastic longings which have no bearing upon reality.
Strategically, I WILL avoid the misplaced kind of wishful thinking that feeds on illusions.
Yearningly, I WILL put my dream across, and never mind meeting temporary defeat.
Creatively, I WILL affirm that while doubt inhibits, dreaming gives radiance to my life.
Holistically, I WILL affirm dream as an ally of faith, which improves the mental appetite.
Implicitly, I WILL affirm that success requires no apologies, failure requires no alibis.
Categorically YES, I CAN be a practical dreamer; one of the pattern-makers of civilisation.

WONDERFUL WALLS:--->

The Walls of our ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE shall be of the toughest marble and granite with the perfect joinery made of the finest mixture of cement and sand, such that, even when the lateral pressures and thrusts from the winds of conformity, dependence and escapisms blows it, it will not be affected at all.

FREEDOM: - Creative endeavour in spontaneous actions and in making decisions.--->

Purposively, I WILL not be a King who is a slave of his position for not following his heart.
Strategically, I WILL love the flashing face of freedom, and ready to join in the fight for it.
Yearningly, I WILL affirm my self-determination as the call to be all I can and ought to be.
Creatively, I WILL affirm my responsibility to be ideally myself and be integrally human.
Holistically, I WILL assert my ‘Freedom’ within the obligation to solidify my SELFHOOD.
Implicitly, I WILL affirm at base the ‘Freedom’ as that of actualising my objective essence.
Categorically YES, I CAN arouse the immense potential for action which latently lie within me.

CHOICE: - Assenting to the self-determined effort to do and achieve great things.--->

Purposively, I WILL never slavishly act according to the suggestions of other fallible beings.
Strategically, I WILL never be a prisoner; being stripped all options to make key ‘Choices’.
Yearningly, I WILL not construe freedom as merely the opportunity to do as I please.
Creatively, I WILL see freedom as prerogative to formulate through available resources.
Holistically, I WILL be open, ready to rise through my bootstraps towards higher heights.
Implicitly, I WILL assert my determination to change in pursuit of greater human values.
Categorically YES, I CAN see and seize opportunities; argue over them and choose wisely.

WILL: - Staunch ability to overcome barriers and live LIFE in a holistic manner.--->

Purposively, I WILL arouse a creative spark to which I can sacrifice my every desire.
Strategically, I WILL never be condemned to be a stone in another person’s building.
Yearningly, I WILL be driven by staunchness of making myself stronger and firm.
Creatively, I WILL really prod my pride and refuse to be a mere puppet of my past.
Holistically, I WILL arouse my core determination to be free from every limitation.
Implicitly, I WILL affirm that my freedom is utterly final and immediate, if I so wills.
Categorically YES, I CAN assert that my life depends precisely on my inner victories.

RAPTUROUS ROOFING:--->

The Roofing of our ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE shall be well tact and made of defectless welds such that when the rains of idleness, fear, lethargy and burnout fall upon it, the drops will not penetrate inside.

PATIENCE: - Anchoring the inner control and self-discipline.--->

Purposively, I WILL affirm as basics of LIFE; ‘self-discipline’ and ‘emotional self-regulation’.
Strategically, I WILL solidly plant my feet firmly upon ‘Patience’ to acquire abundance.
Yearningly, I WILL harbour the hope of climbing towards the temple of self-sufficiency.
Creatively, I WILL cultivate the mental discipline emanating from patience in learning.
Holistically, I WILL think things through, account for all the details, and ignore nothing.
Implicitly, I WILL make careful measurements to keep my mind active and involved.
Categorically YES, I CAN affirm that patience is important in any life advancing endeavour.

PERSISTENCE: - Plodding along in the face of great odds.--->

Purposively, I WILL know when to make quick decisions; for opportunities come and go.
Searningly, I WILL harness the magnitude of my willpower to beat my goals into submission.
Ytrategically, I WILL exclusively occupy on something and succeed whatever the difficulties.
Creatively, I WILL move on in my endeavours even when there seems to be no hope at all.
Holistically, I WILL not necessarily be obligated to have an instant win in whatever I do.
Implicitly, I WILL nevertheless be obligated to keep trying to do the best I can everyday.
Categorically YES, I CAN concentrate on my effort to carry a task I may set to fulfillment.

PERSEVERANCE: - Unflinching endurance and concentration.--->

Purposively, I WILL never spend my life grumbling, whining, or blaming anybody.
Searningly, I WILL have new perspectives, be aware of and overcome my blind spots.
Ytrategically, I WILL seek to graduate with distinction and honours in this ‘varsity of LIFE’.
Creatively, I WILL fully revel in this real world, in this grand school of ‘Hard Knock’.
Holistically, I WILL affirm and nurture my present thrive as well as future fertility.
Implicitly, I WILL duly cultivate ‘guts’, ‘audacity’, ‘bravado’, ‘daring’, and ‘tenacity’.
Categorically YES, I CAN cease from locking myself in self-defeating pattern of thinking.

PURPOSIVENESS: - Moving ahead in spite of despair or setbacks.--->

Purposively, I WILL find the way out even in the middle of the impenetrable chaos.
Strategically, I WILL cultivate a deep faith in my ability to change my circumstances.
Yearningly, I WILL hold the view of the future giving direction and focus to my life.
Creatively, I WILL develop a sense of reality defined by the attainable without guilt.
Holistically, I WILL ask: Who am I? What ought I to do? What may I hope and believe?
Implicitly, I WILL catch the sight of myself in a way that is often unfamiliar to others.
Categorically YES, I CAN lead myself away from current limitations into later possibilities.

FELICITIOUS FLOORS:--->

Our Floors entails discarding all those empty formulas which have placed indelible stains on our backs thus quenching all those fires that have tempted to set our temperaments in flames, through scientific spirit of inquiry.

WILL-TO-LIVE: - Continual oiling of individual self-preservation and self-advance.--->

Purposively, I WILL creatively channel the irresistible and subliminal urge to amass power.
Strategically, I WILL keep myself in synchronicity with the ever-progressive motion of nature.
Yearningly, I WILL have ambition; striving to reach the highest possible position in LIFE.
Creatively, I WILL be an inquisitive individual who verily attacks any difficulty at its source.
Holistically, I WILL revel in the pursuit and possession of objective knowledge of issues.
Implicitly, I WILL free my minds from emotional conflict as well as intellectual confusion.
Categorically YES, I CAN give way to emotional stability alloyed to intellectual refinement.

WILL-TO-MEANING: - Affirming that life is worth living in the face of frustrations.--->

Purposively, I WILL milk the ‘meaning’ from LIFE depending on my daily requirements.
Strategically, I WILL nurture freedom to find ‘meaning’ in what I do, and experience.
Yearningly, I WILL know how sublime a thing it is to endure suffering and be strong.
Creatively, I WILL take a strong stand when in a situation of unchangeable suffering.
Holistically, I WILL listen and open up for discernment of the meaning of the moment.
Implicitly, I WILL make responsible decisions within my available area of freedom.
Categorically YES, I CAN affirm that, finding meaning in LIFE is my powerful motivation.

WILL-TO-BELIEVE: - Trample doubt; make decisions based on intuition and faith.--->

Purposively, I WILL in the fullness of my optimism ascertain the power of tomorrow.
Strategically, I WILL never deprive myself of the responsibility of present moment.
Yearningly, I WILL assert the parenthood of my invention as well as resourcefulness.
Creatively, I WILL sing a song full of faith and hope that the present has brought me.
Holistically, I WILL face the rising sun of my new day and march on till victory is won.
Implicitly, I WILL keep my feathers well-oiled; the water of criticisms will run off.
Categorically YES, I CAN affirm that the only wrong will be to think that I am wrong.

BEING-UNTO-CONQUEST: - Always devising new patterns of LIFE and thought.--->

Purposively, I WILL be enriched and ennobled by my scars; not destroyed by them.
Strategically, I WILL deeply dig beneath my mistakes and find treasures underneath.
Yearningly, I WILL discover the inner space of my mind, by ferreting out any guilt.
Creatively, I WILL shun all feelings that distort my self-image and make me look less.
Holistically, I WILL contrive new ideals to meet all societal blind and brute forces.
Implicitly, I WILL say ‘NO’, to all errors that I might have accepted as true in the past.
Categorically YES, I CAN pave way for a strong need of making a clean sweep in my life.

YEA-ATTITUDE: - Cultivating the joy of living and loving creative challenges.--->

Purposively, I WILL direct my all ‘psychic powers’ towards my core capacity to create.
Strategically, I WILL search within myself for a concealed ‘YES’; stronger than all ‘NO’s’.
Yearningly, I WILL triumph over emptiness and meaninglessness, for value of my life.
Creatively, I WILL evoke the genius latently lying in me, by developing trust in my abilities.
Holistically, I WILL say YES to the uncertain reality of my human nature and the world.
Implicitly, I WILL open myself to reality and maintain this attitude consistently in practice.
Categorically YES, I CAN live anything but YES, when everything has value and meaning.

‘I-THOU’ DIALOGUE: - Getting nourishment from interpersonal relationships.--->

Purposively, I WILL affirm that basic authenticity is achieved through social interaction.
Strategically, I WILL assert that others help and aid me to interpret myself to myself.
Yearningly, I WILL teach that no one achieves his or her true humanity in total isolation.
Creatively, I WILL apprehend my truth only in the context of interpersonal relationship.
Holistically, I WILL be myself by interdependent appreciation and understanding of others.
Implicitly, I WILL separate ‘environmental preoccupation’ from ‘communal involvement’.
Categorically YES, I CAN say that ‘existence’ entail personal concern, or ‘being-with-others’.

FABULOUS FINISHING:--->

Finally, we will have to do the Finishing of our ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE in such a sovereign manner that, in the elevation of our dignity, we will be able to construe any darkness of rigidity or immobility that may tend to afflict us, as a raindrop in the ocean of our perennial bliss.

CONSCIENCE: - ‘Compass Needle’ which direct one to one’s ‘True North’.--->

Purposively, I WILL fight for a social reward system that facilitates fairness and justice.
Strategically, I WILL not abide by majority opinion under any sort of duress or blackmail.
Yearningly, I WILL be both sincere in my faith and reasonable in my moral judgment.
Creatively, I WILL affirm the inner ‘knowledge of right’ which makes me a moral agent.
Holistically, I WILL follow the ‘light of self-attestment’ whose authority is ‘self-evident’.
Implicitly, I WILL perform duty if I feel it is right, regardless of the possible outcome.
Categorically YES, I CAN be awed only by the starry heaven above and the moral law within.

VOLITIONAL VOW: - Tempering the deep conviction of being all what we can.--->

Purposively, I WILL never cooperate with anything humiliating.
Strategically, I WILL live life in totality, creatively and intensely.
Yearningly, I WILL boldly rush where ignoramus fear to trend.
Creatively, I WILL reach, however awkwardly for the stars.
Holistically, I WILL move however haltingly in that direction.
Implicitly, I WILL act according to my ‘highest’ thought.
Categorically YES, I CAN, therefore, I MUST and I SHOULD.

RESOLUTE RULE: - Confronting LIFE’s constraints confidently and candidly.--->

Purposively, I WILL never be an embittered avenger, but a formidable fulfiller.
Strategically, I WILL be responsible only to God, present and future obligations.
Yearningly, I WILL remain in this ‘PSYCHIC’ PALACE of ‘posterity’ and ‘prosperity’.
Creatively, I WILL have no option but to break the doors if I am locked outside.
Holistically, I WILL not just remember the past misdeeds but learn from its lessons.
Implicitly, I WILL affirm that, though I cannot do everything, I can do anything.
Categorically YES, I CAN say that no force shall be able to distract me from my vision.

CROWN CONSCIOUSNESS: - Dedication to being a King or a Queen unto oneself.--->

Purposively, I WILL make a fundamental shift from a slavish state of ‘mental malnutrition’.
Strategically, I WILL move to an enriched and imperial state of ‘Crown-Consciousness’.
Yearningly, I WILL be a royal symbol that signifies victory, success and high achievement.
Creatively, I WILL wholeheartedly appreciate my LIFE on this EARTH with satisfaction.
Holistically, I WILL honestly contend that I have an unlimited reserviour of intelligence.
Implicitly, I WILL ascertain my supreme sovereignty over myself and social environment.
Categorically YES, I CAN trample under my feet all social impediments against my happiness.

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BEYONDISM BACKUP #10
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#10 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Your enduring hope lies not in your despair, but in your esteem; in your perspirition, but not in your lethargy.

“Oh, I have slipped the surly bonds of earth,
And danced the skies on laughter silvered wings;
Sunward I’ve climbed and joined the tumbling mirth
Of sun-split clouds and done a hundred things
You have not dreamed of.”
- British-born U.S. wartime pilot John Gillespie Magee (1922 - 1941)
Quoted by President Ronald Reagan after the “Challenger” space shuttle disaster, January 28, 1986.
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Opponent-Process Theory explains how Opposite emotions interact.
Distinguished Developers: German physiologist Karl Eward Konstantin Hering (1834 - 1918)
and American psychologist Richard Lester Solomon (1918 - 1995).

UNDERGOING repeated exposure to an emotional response subsequently triggers an opposite emotion.
PRECISELY, this may result in the first emotion getting weaker and the opposite one becoming stronger.
GETTING addicted to a drug, results from an emotional pairing of pleasure and withdrawal symptoms.
REALLY, at the beginning of drug use, there are high levels of pleasure and low withdrawal symptoms.
AS time moves on, the levels of pleasure decreases, while the levels of withdrawal symptoms increases.
DOING daring or high-risk activities begins with greater levels of fear, but with low levels of pleasure.
EVENTUALLY, as one progresses with the effort, there is an increase in pleasure and a decrease in fear.
Timely Therapy: - Things may come to those who wait; but only the things left by those who surely hustle.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Simply disdain being a feather for each wind that blows; be ardent in your values, but eschew being dogmatic.

“And blest are those
Whose blood and judgement are so well comeddled
That they are not a pipe for Fortune’s finger
To sound what stop she please.”
- English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 2
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Framing encompasses the mental combinations that affect perception.
Distinguished Developer: Canadian-born sociologist, social psychologist, and writer Erving Goffman (1922 – 1982)

UNDERSTANDING and responding to events, entails relying on a subtle SCHEMA of interpretation.
PEOPLE build a series of mental constructs or FILTERS, through biological and cultural influences.
GUIDED by these filters, individuals are enabled to make sense of their environment and the world.
RANDOMLY, the choices which individuals then make, are influenced by their creation of a FRAME.
ALSO, how an issue is presented to the audience (the FRAME) influences how the data is processed.
DILIGENT FRAMING is made by media, so as to influence perception of the news by the audience.
ENTRENCHING framing is through metaphors, myths, legends, rituals, slogans, artifacts and spins.
Timely Therapy: - What is fashion really? It is a language that creates itself in clothes to interpret reality.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
Old people (in their wisdom?) becomes dangerous when it matters not to them what is changing in the world.

“I have shot my arrow o’er the house
And hurt my brother.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 5, Scene 2
“My motto is: live fast, die young, and have a good-looking corpse.”
- South African writer Bessie Head (1937 - 1986)
“Hollywood is a place where they’ll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul.”
- U.S. film actor Marilyn Monroe (1926 - 1962)
“And it seems to me you lived your life
Like a candle in the wind.”
- British songwriter Bernie Taupin (1950 - ). “Candle in the Wind” (music by Elton John).
Referring to Marilyn Monroe.
In 1997, the song was reissued with different lyrics after the death of Diana, Princess of Wales.
“A judge is a law student who marks his own examination papers.”
- U.S. journalist, critic, and editor H. L. Mencken (1880 - 1956)
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Overconfidence Barrier focuses on how we are too confident in our own judgments.
Distinguished Developers: Fischhoff, Slovic and Lichtenstein (1977)

UNWARRANTED confidence in one’s own knowledge and competence can yield to reckless behaviour.
POOR performance and severe mistakes, is the result of a lack of openness for disconfirming FACTS.
GENERALLY, uniformed, we tend to have too much confidence in the accuracy of our own judgments.
RELATED, is the ‘God Complex’: A FALSE BELIEF that we know the answer to complicated problems.
ACTUALLY, this can be seen in daily gossip where people confidently propose solutions to world issues.
DUE overconfidence is greatest when accuracy is near CHANCE levels; reduces as accuracy increases
EQUATING quantity with quality makes confidence to closely MATCH the accuracy of one’s decisions.
Timely Therapy: - When making a solid judgment, stop to consider the reasons why you may be wrong.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Existence will highly renumerate you as an optimist; but an optimist who is duly aware of possible pessimism.

“He was the great tortoise upon whose back the world sat for eight years. We laughed at him; we talked wistfully about moving; and all the while we never knew the cunning beneath the shell.” - U.S. writer and commentator Murray Kempton (1918 - 1997), referring to Dwight D. Eisenhower.
“White people tend to grossly underestimate all blacks, out of habit. Blacks have been overestimating whites in a conditioned reflex.” - U.S. political activist and writer George Jackson (1941 - 1971)
“Be thou the rainbow to the storms of life!
The evening beam that smiles the clouds away,
And tints to-morrow with prophetic ray!”
- British poet Lord Byron (1788 - 1824)
“I am an optimist, unrepentant and militant. After all, in order not to be a fool an optimist must know how sad a place the world can be. It is only the pessimist who finds this out anew every day.” - British actor, director, and writer Peter Ustinov (1921 - 2004)
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Planning Fallacy entails underestimating how long things will take.
Distinguished Developer: Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky in 1979

UNDERESTIMATING the amount of time needed to complete a future task display an optimism bias.
PLANNING fallacy is a phenomenon sometimes occurring regardless of one’s PRIOR ENCOUNTERS.
GIVEN that, past tasks of a similar nature had taken longer time to complete than generally planned.
REAL prediction by outsiders tends to exhibit a pessimistic bias, also overestimating the time needed.
ACTUALLY, we have an overall bias towards optimism, especially where our ABILITIES are concerned.
DULY optimistic in expectations, people tend to favour positive information in their decision-making.
END result of this fallacy is not only TIME overruns, but also COST overruns and BENEFIT shortfalls.
Timely Therapy: - Only when the tide goes out do you then discover who has been swimming naked.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
“A little blindness is necessary when you undertake risk,” so said U.S. business executive Bill Gates (1955 - )

“The conformist is not born. He is made...Many teachers and professors seem hell-bent on imbuing their students with a desire to achieve ‘security’ above all.” - U.S. oil magnate J. Paul Getty (1892 - 1976)
“He who doesn’t take risks, doesn’t drink champagne.”
- Russian general and politician Alexander Lebed (1950 - 2002)
“Risk-taking is an integral and intrinsic part of success or living a full life.”
- U.S. publisher Malcolm S. Forbes (1919 - 1990)
“The entrepreneur is like an eagle...he soars alone, he flies alone, and he hunts alone.”
- Irish business executive Michael Smurfit (1936 - )
“Man is different from animals in that he speculates, a high risk activity.”
- U.S. novelist, naturalist, and essayist Edward Hoagland (1932 - )
“The ultimate risk is not taking a risk.”
- French-born British businessman and politician James Goldsmith (1933 - 1997)
“Nor law, nor duty bade me fight,
Nor public men, nor cheering crowds,
A lonely impulse of delight
Drove to this tumult in the clouds;
I balanced all, brought all to mind,
The years to come seemed waste of breath,
A waste of breath the years behind
In balance with this life, this death.”
- Irish poet and playwright W. B. Yeats (1865 - 1939)
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Prospect Theory entails valuing certain gains and trying to avoid certain losses.
Distinguished Developers: Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky in 1979.

UNCORRUPTED, the Prospect Theory is a theory of behavioural economics and behavioural finance.
PRECISELY, when faced with a Risky Choice leading to GAINS, people are purpossively Risk-Averse.
GAINFUL preference is on the CERTAIN outcome with a lower expected utility (concave value function).
REALLY, people will choose the certain $450 even though the expected utility of the risky gain is higher.
AFFIRMATIVELY, when faced with a Risky Choice leading to LOSSES, people are often Risk-Seeking.
DUE focus is on the outcome with lower expected utility, with loss avoidability (convex value function).
EVEN though the expected utility is lower, people will choose the 50% chance to lose nothing - $1100.
Timely Therapy: - The world makes less sense; coherence comes mostly from the way your mind works.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
It is difficult to escape the conclusion that when expenditure rises to meet income - no savings, no progress.

“I used to think that if there was reincarnation, I wanted to come back as the president or the pope. But now I want to be the bond market: you can intimidate everybody.” - U.S. political advisor James Carville (1944 - )
“Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, result happiness.
Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery.” - British novelist Charles Dickens (1812 - 1870)
“Dreading that climax of all human ills,
The inflammation of his weekly bills”
- British poet Lord Byron (1788 - 1824)
“Nations that cheat innovators fail to attract capital investment, are unsuitable partners for technology transfers, and have no savings to pass on to their citizens.” - U.S. academic Clarisa Long
“As an anonymous participant in financial markets, I never had to weigh the social consequences of my actions...I felt justified in ignoring them on the grounds that I was playing by the rules.” - Hungarian-born U.S. investor and philanthropist George Soros (1930 - )
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Psychological Accounting is how we organise and keep track of financial activities.
Distinguished Developer: American economist Richard H. Thaler (b. 1945)

USUAL Mental (psychological) Accounting describes how we evaluate economic outcomes.
PEOPLE place different VALUES on the same amount of money often with detrimental results.
GENERALLY, Mental Accounting bias leads to irrational spending and investment behaviour.
REGARDLESS of its origins or intended use, all money is the same (the fungibility of money).
AVOIDING the Mental Accounting bias, entails treating money as fungible when allocating it.
DECISIVELY, be it a budget account (everyday expenses), or a wealth account (investments).
ENDOWED, we should VALUE money the same; whether earned through work or given to us.
Timely Therapy: - All riches have their origin in the mind; wealth is in creative ideas, not money.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
Brace yourself for accident; no formula, no ‘principle,’ which covers all things; no totality or system of things.

“School yourself to demureness and patience.
Learn to inure yourself to drudgery in science.
Learn, compare, collect the facts.”
- Russian physiologist Ivan Petrovich Pavlov (1849 - 1936)
“Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date.”
- Shakespeare in Sonnet 18
“In order to be utterly happy the only thing necessary is to refrain from comparing this moment with other moments in the past, which I often did not fully enjoy because I was comparing them with other moments of the future.” - French novelist and critic André Gide (1869 - 1951)
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Representativeness Heuristic explains how we guess probability from a ‘comparable’ event.
Distinguished Developers: Amos Tversky and Daniel Kahneman in the early 1970s.

UNCERTAINTY in deciding leads us to use mental shortcuts or “rules of thumb” known as heuristics.
PRECISELY, it involves making judgments by comparing things to concepts we already have in mind.
GAINFULLY, this PROTOTYPE is what we think is the most relevant of a particular event or object.
REALLY, for every decision, we do not always have the time to compare all the available information.
ACTUALLY, before we make a choice, we use heuristics to help us to decide quickly and efficiently.
DUE problem is often overestimating the similarity between the two things which are being compared.
EFFECTIVE speeding up the decision-making may be done, but it can lead to poor choices and biases.
Timely Therapy: - Heuristics get us where we need to quickly go, but at the cost of sending us off course.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #8:--->
We are thinking beings, and we cannot exclude the intellect from participating in any of our essential functions.

“Be Prepared...the meaning of the motto is that a scout must prepare himself by previous thinking out and practising how to act on any accident or emergency so that he is never taken by surprise; he knows exactly what to do when anything unexpected happens.” - British soldier and founder of the Boy Scout movement Robert Baden-Powell (1857 - 1941). Motto of the Boy Scout movement.
“Consciousness, from our natal day, is of a teeming multiplicity of objects and relations, and what we call simple sensations are results of discriminative attention, pushed often to a very high degree...Consciousness, however small, is an illegitimate birth in any philosophy that starts without it, and yet professes to explain all the facts by continuous evolution...Consciousness...is only intense when nerve-processes are hesitant. In rapid, automatic, habitual action it sinks to a minimum.” - U.S. psychologist William James (1842 - 1910)
“Consciousness is thoroughgoing dialectical restlessness, this melee of presentations derived from sense and thought, whose differences collapse into oneness...For consciousness is, on the one hand, consciousness of the object, on the other, consciousness of itself...In work consciousness becomes aware of itself as it in truth is, and its empty notion of itself disappears.” - German philosopher G. W. F. Hegel (1770 - 1831)
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Heuristic-Systematic Model (HSM) is how we either use short-cuts or logic to interpret arguments.
Distinguished Developers: Chaiken, Wood and Eagly (1996)

USUALLY, HSM states that people receive and process messages either heuristically or systematically.
PURPOSSIVE, Systematic Processing entails careful and deliberative processing of a received message.
GRANTED, we think deeply when forming an opinion to determine whether the information is accurate.
REALISTIC attitudes are formed based on the conclusions from this careful consideration of the facts.
ACTUALLY, this kind of thinking takes a lot of effort, and given that we usually only have limited time.
DUE attitudes (no lasting change) are often formed in a simplified manner called Heuristic Processing.
ESSENTIAL USE is of the ‘rules of thumb’ known as ‘heuristics’ to decide the nature of one’s attitudes.
Timely Therapy: - On vital things do not use short-cut decision-making, mostly if encouraged by others.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #9:--->
The progressive model for the information-based organization is not the military...it is the symphony orchestra.

“The consultant...offers the advantage of generally having had no firsthand experience in the matters of interest, thereby assuring a clear mind uncluttered by any of the facts.” - U.S. businessperson Norman R. Augustine (1935 - )
“We must also keep in mind that discoveries are usually not made by one man alone, but that many brains and many hands are needed before a discovery is made for which one man receives the credit.” - Swiss medical historian Henry E. Sigerist (1891 - 1957)
“Even the seemingly ‘hardest’ models and data are frequently based on ‘soft’ assumptions, especially when these concern human affairs.” - U.S. writer Alvin Toffler (1928 - )
“The successful economies of the future will excel at generating and disseminating knowledge, and commercially exploiting it.” - British prime minister Tony Blair (1953 - )
“Today’s global economy is genuinely borderless. Information, capital, and innovation flow all over the world at top speed, enabled by technology and fueled by the consumers’ desires for access to the best and least expensive products.” - Japanese business strategist Kenichi Ohmae
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Information Bias is seeking facts when making decision, even when they are irrelevant.
Distinguished Developers: Baron, Beattie and Hershey (1988)

USUAL Information Bias is a cognitive bias to seek information when it does not affect action.
PEOPLE often make better decisions, judgements, predictions or choices with enough information.
GENERAL excess information is not always better; too much knowledge and analysis can paralyse.
REAL case of Information Bias is believing that the more facts that can be acquired, the better.
ACTUAL yearning for facts is unlimited, even if that extra information is irrelevant for the decision.
DULY, too much knowledge is a dangerous thing; a boon to people who do not have deep feelings.
EGOTISM dilutes the humility to appreciate our too humanness to mistake knowledge for wisdom.
Timely Therapy: - Facts can be a weight upon wisdom; insight lost in the quicksand of experience.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #10:--->
“The quality of your attention determines the quality of other people’s thinking.” - U.S. author Nancy Kline

“Facts are stubborn things.” - Scottish novelist Tobias Smollett (1721 - 1771)
“Facts do not make history; facts do not even make events...a fact is an isolated particle of experience, is reflected light without a source, planet with no sun, star without constellation, constellation beyond galaxy, galaxy outside the universe—fact is nothing.” - U.S. novelist Russell Banks (1940 - )
“The ‘facts’ of history do not exist for any historian until he creates them, and into every fact he creates some part of his individual experience must enter.” - U.S. historian Carl Becker (1873 - 1945)
“If you don’t get noticed, you don’t have anything. You just have to be noticed, but the art is in getting noticed naturally, without screaming or without tricks. - U.S. advertising executive Leo Burnett (1891 - 1971)
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Information Processing Theory sees persuasion as requiring attention and comparison with previous views.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist George Armitage Miller (1920 — 2012)

UNDERLYING this theory: We PROCESS the information received, rather than mere stimuli-response.
POTENTLY, the MIND functions like a biological computer; analyses information from the environment.
GROWING up improves the ability to process and respond to the information received through senses.
RECEIVING input the way the computer does, the MIND will receive information through the senses.
ACCOMONDATED information, is then moved to the short-term memory, to address the surroundings.
DECISIVELY, the information is then encoded to the long-term memory, where the data is then stored.
ESSENTIAL information can be retrieved when necessary using the central executive (conscious mind).
Timely Therapy: - It is useless to attempt to reason a person out of a thing one was never reasoned into.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #11:--->
Remorse is the fatal egg laid by failure to anticipate danger; how will it feel when all you will say is ‘IF ONLY?’

Have you ever indulged in a course of action which then hit a snag?
Had you incorporated all the relevant information before duly deciding?
Did you take into account any potential pitfalls to be encountered along the way?
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Regret Theory explains how we consider and try to avoid future regret.
Simultaneously developed in 1982 by Graham Loomes and Robert Sugden, David E. Bell, and Peter C. Fishburn.

UNDERSTAND: Regret Theory is referred to as Theory of Regret Aversion or Anticipated Regret.
PRECISELY proposed here is that when facing a decision, individuals might ardently anticipate regret.
GAINFULLY, they will incorporate in their choice their desire to eliminate or reduce this POSSIBILITY.
REGRET is basically a negative EMOTION with a superbly powerful social and reputational component.
ACTUALLY, it is central to how we learn from experience and to the human psychology of risk aversion.
DUE conscious anticipation of regret creates a feedback loop that prevents regret from HAUNTING you.
EXTENSIVE fear can affect rational behaviour, and impair a person’s ability to make beneficial decisions.
Timely Therapy: - Fear of regret can dissuade you from impulsive acts or motivate you to informed doing.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #12:--->
Always prudently think about the downside risk on a takeover rather than the upside potential—never gamble.

It is no doubt that you will once have to consider investing in a certain venture.
Your most critical concern shall be on the returns from that investment.
You will also factor in the loss that may arise from the investments.
Balancing of two shall occupy your decision-making process.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Risk Preference is the attitude of taking financial risks by an investor.
Distinguished Developers: Miller and Hoffmann (1998).

UNDERLYING Risk Preferences is how one, while making an investment decision, would take risks.
PURELY, one classifies the risks associated with an investment to finds one matching one’s preferences.
GENERAL Risk Preferences can be categorised into Risk-Averse, Risk-Neutral, and also Risk-Seeking.
RISK-AVERSE Investors prefer to take lesser risks, and they attach LOWER utility to increasing wealth.
ACTUALLY, Risk-Neutral Investors attach the same utility to increase in wealth and decrease in wealth.
DULY, in the process of investing, Risk-Seekers look for potential GAIN of wealth from the investments.
EFFICIENT Risk-Seekers may get higher returns on their investments; may LOSE more money as well.
Timely Therapy: - Do not be too timid and squeamish; LIFE is an experiment; the more you try the better.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #13:--->
Coherence underlies meaningfulness; it is better to have a framework to fight against than no framework at all.

Have you ever encountered a new person who was unpleasant to you?
Perhaps you instantly tended to think that he or she had a bad day?
Did this factor alone take care of other nagging behaviours too?
Was he or she simple and could easily be explained away?
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Explanatory Coherence clarifies how we like simple, explainable hypotheses.
Distinguished Developer: Canadian philosopher Paul Richard Thagard (1989)

UNDERSTANDING something implies building several candidate hypotheses as possible explanations.
PRUDENTLY, we will tend to prefer those explanations which encompasses a wide number of factors.
GENERALLY, we will gravitate to those which are SIMPLE, requiring very little thought to understand.
REASONABLY, we will appreciate those that are plausible, being easy to explain from other information.
ACTUALLY, the scales may be tipped and one hypothesis starts to look good compared with the others.
DECISIVELY, the acceptability of the hypothesis rapidly increases until it is the only ‘LOGICAL’ choice.
EXPLAINING a idea entails helping the other to develop an internal hypothesis that is easily acceptable.
Timely Therapy: - We kick reality and feel it kick back, upon twisting the coherence and utility of an idea.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #14:--->
Curiousity for relevant information endears you to high influence; to be candid with yourself and the world.

Perhaps you have been to a certain shop?
You asked some information about an item and it was withheld.
You go to another shop and the information was heartily given to you.
It is most probable that your buying preference went to the second shop.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Ambiguity Effect affirms that, we prefer a known probability to an unknown one.
Distinguished Developer: American political activist and former United States military analyst Daniel Ellsberg (b. 1931)

USUAL Ambiguity Effect (the Ellsberg Paradox) is where decision is affected by a lack of information.
PARTICULARLY, we tend to select options for which the probability of a favourable outcome is known.
GENERALLY, this is done over an option for which the probability of a favourable outcome is unknown.
REMAINING committed to failing systems, instead of introducing new policies is the danger of this bias.
ACTUALLY, the Ambiguity Effect can prevent us from giving two VIABLE options equal consideration.
DECISION is made based solely on the fact that we feel putting our trust in the unknown is too RISKY.
ENGAGING in this bias limits us; it prevents us from reaping the long-term benefits of riskier decisions.
Timely Therapy: - Avoiding the ambiguity effect entails being willing to put the time into making decisions.

Benevolent Beauty

R#60. On believing: NATURAL replenishment cannot cool the agitations of your PSYCHE.

BQ#11. What density of DELIGHT emanates from NATURAL NUGGETS, as a function of unveiling unconventionally BENEVOLENT BEAUTY?--->

“If we remain humble and grounded in nature’s wisdom, our mind will guide us safely through the confines of unawareness and the blindness of ignorance.
- Belgian painter and writer Erik Pevernagie (b.1939)

“He who lives in the ideal, and leaves it expressed in society or in art enjoys a double immortality. The eternal has absorbed him while he lived, and when he is dead his influence brings others to the same absorption, making them, through that ideal identity with the best in him, reincarnations and perennial seats of all in him which he could rationally hope to rescue from destruction. He can say, without any subterfuge or desire to delude himself, that he shall not wholly die; for he will have a better notion than the vulgar of what constitutes his being. By becoming the spectator and confessor of his own death and of universal mutation, he will have identified himself with what is spiritual in all spirits and masterful in all apprehension; and so conceiving himself, he may truly feel and know that he is eternal.”
- Spanish-born U.S. philosopher, poet, and novelist George Santayana (1863 - 1952)

“The observation of nature is part of an artist’s life, it enlarges his form and knowledge, keeps him fresh and from working only by formula, and feeds inspiration.”
- British sculptor Henry Moore (1898 - 1986)

“We did not label our pictures with a special appeal as ‘having a moral’, for we knew that a scene of beauty in itself alone gives innocent joy, with unspeakable strength of persuasion to purity and sweetness.”
- British painter William Holman Hunt (1827 - 1910)

“Fashion is a sub-art and is not intellectual. Fashion is a business and operates best when it is born out of instincts. Fashion appeals to the senses and comes from gut feeling...True fashion comes straight out of the jungle.”
- U.S. publisher John B. Fairchild (1927 - )

“When you have only two pennies left in the world, buy a loaf of bread with one, and a lily with the other.”
- Chinese Proverb

“To bear all naked truths,
And to envisage circumstance, all calm:
That is the top of sovereignty....
Beauty is truth, truth beauty, — that is all
Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.”
- English poet John Keats (1795 - 1821)

“Beauty is momentary in the mind—
The fitful tracing of a portal;
But in the flesh it is immortal.
The body dies; the body’s beauty lives.”
- U.S. poet Wallace Stevens (1879 - 1955)

“No one has ever been able to show me precisely the right way. ... As for me, I follow my feeling for the beautiful. What man is certain of having found a better guide? ... If I had to choose between beauty and truth, I should not hesitate; it is beauty I should keep. . . . There is nothing true in the world except beauty.”
- French novelist, poet, and critic Anatole France (1844 - 1924)

“Art is the imposing of a pattern on experience, and our aesthetic enjoyment is recognition of the pattern.”
- British philosopher and mathematician A. N. Whitehead (1861 - 1947)
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ALBERT EINSTEIN (1879 - 1955) WAS EVIDENTLY GIFTED with a scientific as well as a didactic mind, as it is evident in the many discoveries he made, which to a normal mortal are incredible achievements in a single individual’s life span. But Einstein’s sense of beauty made these achievements seem effortless, as he well expressed: “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” “For Beauty being the best of all we know sums up the unsearchable and secret aims of nature”, thus noted British poet Robert Bridges (1844 - 1930). A thing of beauty is a joy for every human being, and the one who cannot enjoy a marvelous painting, a melodious song or a beautiful sunset, is not fully human. The most civilised person is the one whose aesthetic faculties are best developed, meaning that the highest expression of civilisation is the aspiration and love for the beautiful. “I am certain of nothing but the holiness of the heart’s affections, and the truth of imagination,” so believed John Keats. The moment of eternal beauty, frozen in time, has more significance for humanity, according to Keats, than the fleeting nature of individual happiness. “Perhaps we shall some day be strong enough and clear enough in soul to see the shining beauty of even the darkest truth,” thus illumined Will Durant.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of BENEVOLENT BEAUTY thus:

Beauty is worth going hungry and footsore endless miles to see.
Engraved in beauty the whole world seems richer now than ever.
Nothing in the world is worth praise other than Nature’s beauty.
Ever planted a garden? Do it now and you will be transformed.
Viewing LIFE as bed of roses, with a thousand fragrant lilies.
Orienting yourself to the sun, the moon, the sea, and the field.
Lettting not your hand ravage with impunity anything Natural.
Entrenching beauty in your soul to keep love in its loftiest form.
Nurturing beauty keeps you away from fears as well as tears.
Thrilling on the dawn, to keep your hope in its brightest realm.

Blending your innate intelligence with aesthetic deep awareness.
Effecting on yourself the latent erotic fountains immanent in you.
Always looking forward to being creative in your own unique way.
Unraveling your play instincts, so as to act from an inner necessity.
Tuning your intuitions to be in synchronicity with Nature’s motions.
Yearning for subtle superlative effects of the mysteries of Nature.

“Nature is the one song of praise that never stops singing.”- American author, spiritual writer, and Franciscan friar Richard Rohr (b. 1943). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: PROPAGATING the DELIGHT in NATURAL NUGGETS for personal replenishment.--->

A love for the beautiful has a refreshing, softening and enriching influence upon character, which nothing else can supply. Therefore, an infinite satisfaction comes from beginning early in LIFE (and at any AGE), to cultivate our finer qualities; to develop higher sentiments, purer tastes and delicate feelings.

Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to NATURAL NUGGETS.
SEE clouds come floating into your LIFE, no longer to carry rain, but to add colour to your SUNSET sky.
UNDERSTAND that everything has BEAUTY, but not everyone sees it; a deep loving concern is needed.
MEANINGFUL beauty, whose therapeautic import is infinite, is derived from deep immersal into Nature.
MOST fantasies, as they enter into art, are sublimated from an escape from LIFE into ways of meeting it.
APPRECIATION of art is vital, but more importance is enjoyment of NATURE; art cannot replace LIFE.
REAL value of art, as reflected in a good painting - as Sigmund Freud believed - lie in its therapeutic use.
YES, it is by this means that both the artist and the public reveals hidden conflicts and discharge tensions.

PREPARE yourself to PROPAGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for enjoying NATURAL NUGGETS.

Permanently wearing off everything in business, politics, conviviality and so on, leaves Nature intact.
Remaining after you have really exhausted everything and found them to be unsatisfactory is Nature.
Entreat yourself to pomp out and come forth into the light of things, let Nature be your real Teacher.
Practically and purposively, simply know that Nature never did betray the heart that really loved Her.
Aspire to listen to Nature, not in bare mindlessness; but to hear the subtle sweet music of humanity.
Reason must sit at the knee of instinct and learn reverence for the miraculous capacity for creation.
Effectively, Heaven and Earth are never ruthless, and never treat the myriad creatures as straw dogs.

REALISE that PROPAGATING your ‘quest’ for enjoying NATURAL NUGGETS is in your ‘power.’

Reveling in contemplation of beauty your sleep will be full of sweet dreams, all healthy, and blissful.
Every point in life, the world’s beauty is enough in itself; taking a photograph is usually unnecessary.
A thing of beauty is a joy for ever: its loveliness increases with age; it will never pass into DECAY.
Lonely and divided, is one who relies on perceptions based either on the sensuous or the intellectual.
Illumining IDEAL of the beautiful makes humans whole, because one’s nature simply accords with it.
Sense of beauty makes the world happy; one forgets one’s limits by experiencing its enchantment.
Escape provided by beauty thrusts you joy - like eyeing the autumn sunsets exquisitely dying.

EMPOWER yourself to PROPAGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for enjoying NATURAL NUGGETS.

Exclusively an ‘existential’ necessity, beauty in things exists, just in the mind which contemplates it.
Motivated by beauty, you will be older than the days you have seen and the breaths you had drawn.
Pampered by beauty, you will link your past with your present; the eternity will throb behind you.
Opulent with beauty, you will ride in the mighty rhythm of nature; swaying with tides and seasons.
Willfully fit your actions into the rhythm of seasons and mysterious requirements of organic LIFE.
EARTH appears as a mote in the sunbeam; we are CONSCIOUS of one narrow streak in the abyss.
Reeling from space to the sky, the sea, every blade of grass, the smallest insect, and ocean waves.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to PROPAGATE the ‘prerogative’ of enjoying NATURAL NUGGETS.

Meritorious as it is, Nature admits no lie, it has always had more power than any sort of education.
Ever-anchored Nature is very well in her place, but she must not be allowed to make things untidy.
Disposed to reduce things to few principles, we are often led into this error by the love of simplicity.
It is hard to have rain over your cropland at your convenience; Nature respects not your intentions.
Accepting Nature as it unfolds is what will enable you to appreciate its richly unfathomable beauty.
Truly truly, Nature is not easy to live with, if you conceive a greater simplicity in it than THERE IS.
Essentially, Nature is consonant and conformable with herself; uses as little as possible of anything.

INDULGE in PROPAGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards enjoying NATURAL NUGGETS.

In Nature one thing just happens after another; cause and effect have their place only in our minds.
Natural beauty, is unconventional, it is shrill and sweet to you like the sudden springing of a tune.
Deeply interfused in your PSYCHE is a sense sublime, whose dwelling is the light of the setting Sun.
Unlimited beauty flows around the ocean, the living air, the blue sky, and in the PSYCHE of humans.
Living beauty is a motion and a spirit, that impels all thinking things, including all objects of thought.
Gain from ‘existence’ by crafting an act of production that mimics and enhances natural processes.
Engage yourself to look for what needs to be done; after all, that is how the universe designs itself.

UTILISE your ‘potential’ for PROPAGATING the ‘compulsion’ of enjoying NATURAL NUGGETS.

Usefulness of medicinal plants is immense, for their active principles are manifold and well-balanced.
The more you look for bodily health from foods in their basic natural form, the more safe you will be.
In Nature there are no rewards or punishments, ONLY consequences. So let Nature unfold FREELY.
Learn patience of the wild that holds motionless for hours the spider in its web, the snake in its coils.
Initiate yourself into this solid patience, for it belongs primarily to LIFE when it hunts its living food.
Stimulated by beauty you will be like body fully swayed to music; it will be such a brightening glance.
Enthrall your entire ‘being’ in the divinity of beauty; you will be like the dancer infused in the dance.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to PROPAGATE NATURAL NUGGETS.

Make a sudden sally and sparkle out among the fern, as you bicker down a valley; thrill in Nature.
Only have a PSYCHE of winter; regard the frost and the boughs of the pine-trees crusted with snow.
Never pretend to understand the Universe; it is a great deal bigger than you are; seek to be modest.
Impulses from a springing plant, teaches you more about morality, good and evil than all the sages.
The observation of Nature is part of an artist’s or a thinker’s LIFE, it enlarges form and knowledge.
One is kept fresh and from working only by rigid pre-established formula, and feeds one’s inspiration.
Revel in anything Natural, guard it from abuse, and you will forever blossom in the infinite BEAUTY.

“Under the greenwood tree
Who loves to lie with me,
And turn his merry note
Unto the sweet bird’s throat,
Come hither, come hither, come hither.
Here shall he see
No enemy
But winter and rough weather.”
- Shakespeare in As You Like It, Act 2, Scene 5

“Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale
Her infinite variety. Other women cloy
The appetites they feed, but she makes hungry
Where most she satisfies.”
- Shakespeare in Antony and Cleopatra, Act 2, Scene 2

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on unveiling unconventionally the BENEVOLENT BEAUTY:
Apparently you are PROPAGATING your solid struggle to enjoy NATURAL NUGGETS.
You have gone a long way in CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
As well as IRRIGATING your dauntless determination.
No sooner than later, will you NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.

“Blow, winds, and crack your cheeks; rage, blow.
You cataracts and hurricanoes, spout
Till you have drench’d our steeples, drown’d the cocks.”
- Shakespeare in King Lear, Act 3, Scene 2

“Beauty itself doth of itself persuade
The eyes of men without an orator.”
- Shakespeare in The Rape of Lucrece,
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Awakening the ‘Mystical Mood’:--->

The state of ‘Mystical Mood’ is the supreme end of genuine RELIGIOUSNESS.
It may be awakened by peculiar power inherent in certain aspects of NATURE.
This can only be achieved through deep appreciation of its immense BEAUTY.
This heightened sensitivity to NATURE implies completely opening ourselves.
It entails being profoundly moved by the charm and fragrance of the woods.
It means being entertained and mesmerised by the gay splendor of the stars.
It is being fascinated by divine dance of the waves in the rising sea and ocean.

Cultivating the aesthetic side of our being:--->

It is good and admirable to cultivate one’s physical and intellectual strengths.
You should also cultivate, develop and foster the aesthetic side of your being.
In this way you will be able to enjoy all that is beautiful in NATURE and the arts.
Otherwise, LIFE will be like a country without flowers, birds, scents or sounds.
It may be strong, but lacks the graces that would adorn it, to make it attractive.
You must separate aesthetic sense of beauty, with synthetic sense of fashion.
Fashion is mere appearance which inspires the desire to seem rather than to be.

Beauty is implicit not explicit:--->

The saying that ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’, is today, true than ever.
A pure and sincere sense of beauty is essentially subjective rather than objective.
There is nothing that is intrinsically beautiful, outside our conception of its beauty.
Originally, the beauty consciousness is inseparable from the matrix of our desires.
A thing is seen and appreciated as good, beautiful, first of all because it is desired.
We desire nothing because it is good, but perceive it as good because we desire it.
We desire nothing because it is beautiful, but consider it beautiful upon desiring it.

Contemplation of nature’s beauty:--->

When you walk the fields, you are oppressed now and then with an innate feeling.
That everything you see has a meaning, if only you could but barely understand it.
This feeling of being surrounded with truths which you cannot grasp is redeeming.
This refreshing awareness is nourishing and may amount to an indescribable awe.
The soul is imperceptible to one’s mental vision, except in a few hallowed moments.
All your essential and intrinsic faculties have their ultimate natural value actualised.
Only if they are directed towards the deeper contemplation of NATURE’S BEAUTY.

Wisdom is the beauty of mind:--->

Wisdom is of use only if it makes us love and seek to preserve the beautiful.
Knowledge is only beneficial if it creates new beauty fairer than nature gives.
Wisdom (beauty of the mind) is a means; beauty of body and soul is an end.
Art without science is basically poverty, but science without art is barbarism.
Even divine philosophy is a means, unless we deliberately broaden its flight.
To cover all the coordinated significance, instrumentalities and values of LIFE.
Do not purport to be wise if you cannot progress personal and natural beauty.

Nature’s and Biological Beauty - Difference:--->

Nature’s BEAUTY is not biological beauty; not subject to the fulfillment or denial.
It is very true that symmetry and proportion, order and unity, delights the soul.
As in regularity of sounds in music, and of the proportions in physical beauty.
But, Nature’s BEAUTY pleases us regardless of our intentionality towards its use.
It stirs in us happiness, as the intellect is for a moment emancipated from desire.
It realises those eternal forms, which constitute the aspects of the universal will.
This then excites our ‘will’ towards its destined direction of unity with the Cosmos.

Drinking at the fount of EROS:--->

When one is free of repressions, addictions, compulsions and inhibitions,
One’s noble ambitions drinks at the fount of EROS for utmost sustenance.
The pure LOVE implicitly mounts in the heart like light in the morning sky.
The intensity and extensity of this LOVE fills one with warmth and radiance.
Consequently one’s emotions freely rise up into the divine realms of LIFE.
It continues to grow to high heights of liveliness, gladness and loftiness.
It propels the individual towards his or her spiritual home; GODLINESS.

Beauty and eternity:--->

Beauty is eternity gazing itself in the mirror; thrilling and reveling in itself.
Beauty offers us for a minute the glimpse of the limitless creativity of God.
Beauty illumines in us what we should like to stretch out over the whole time.
All the mountains, the seas, and the rushing rivers with their falls, gains life.
The plains of bending grass strikes the heart with fondly uplifting affection.
This basically drives the individual to pursue the race of LIFE with hot desire.
One is energised to live LIFE without regrets, worries, and shuns all vanities.

Refining our lenses:--->

The lenses which we create to see the world through, affects what we see.
We then have to refine them by cultivating the aesthetic side of our being.
The ability to feel and appreciate beauty is essentially a free gift from nature.
This gift enables us to appreciate the immensity of BEAUTY in our surroundings.
Contemplating the beauty of the earth gives reserves of strength that is enduring.
This is persuasive stepping stone to nourish and inform us as long as our life lasts.
It initiates us into the streneous way forward into a higher level of consciousness.

The Golden Gate to Divinity:--->

A sense of wonder and appreciation of nature, is the Golden Gate to divinity.
The curious eye will see colour and liveliness in every mountain and meadow.
The investigative eye will perceive serenity and charm in every tree and lane.
The attentive ear will hear harmony and orderliness in every valley and wind.
The listening ear will discern melody, music and song in every babbling brook.
One will find immense pleasure, elevation and enrichment in nature’s beauty.
A love for the beautiful refines our tastes, and makes our LIFE beautiful too.

The diversity in beauty:--->

We should cultivate an appreciation of the immense beauty that lies around us.
Not only in the harmony of material elements, and in the artistic creation.
We should discern and expunge beauty in the world of spiritual relationships.
The expression of beauty is indeed an inner natural need of the human spirit.
The human spirit has a deep need for the immense variety of sources of joy.
This is really opened through increased sensitivity toward the richness of LIFE.
Also through the profound cherishing of free and diversity of natural landscapes.

The refreshing power of the sky:--->

The sky is the daily bread and feast of the eyes, the mind and the imagination.
The sky is the oldest symbol of ‘freedom of the mind’ known to the human race.
The immensity of the sky is potentially able to offer the bright beckoning of hope.
Focusing on the sky may turn happiness into exaltation and grief into comfort.
When life appears to be at its worst we should take a look at the splendor overhead.
We should look at lilies of the field, the grass in the meadow, the trees on the hill.
We should aim our sights on the birds in the air, the clouds in the sky and enjoy them.

Looking and seeing beauty everywhere:--->

Look and see beauty in the early morning sunlight filtering through the lovely leaves.
Look and see beauty in the faint but visible moon in heavenly hues of fleecy clouds.
Look and see beauty in the sparkling dishes in the cup of coffee and the bowl of jam.
Look and see beauty in the dark eyes of the little child; peep through its innocence.
Look and see beauty in the warm embrace of a little child, in the kiss of a loved one.
Look and see beauty in the soft earth as we plant seeds to brighten the coming spring.
Look and see beauty in the sounds of wind, blowing through the lovely vegetation.

Training or ears to hear clearly:--->

We should train our ears to hear beauty in the strains of lovely music (sacred or secular).
We should train our ears to hear beauty in the spontaneous singing of the wild animals.
We should train our ears to hear beauty in the uninhibited laughter of the small children.
We should train our ears to hear beauty in the numberless tree branches and their twigs.
In the oceanic music of the waves, cataracts, brooklets and wind blowing through trees.
Beauty is in the spirit lifting song of birds in woodlands, orchards, meadows and gardens.
All these scenery of beauty offers a most glorious spectacle humans ever behold on earth.

Melting of outer and inner worlds:--->

We have the outer (objective) world and the inward (subjective) world.
The former flows naturally in upon the later resulting in an illumination.
A pure point of adjustment takes the form of merging of the individual.
In the uncontrollable processes and unseen rhythms around him or her.
Nature flows upon one who has opened out into it, the two becoming one.
The differentiation between the external world and the self breaks down.
This oneness with the stream of experience is what constitutes REALITY.

Victory over the burden of necessity:--->

A well-adjusted and fully functional life should be spontaneous in flavour.
A sense of ‘Beauty’ is an expression of genuine awakening and self-realisation.
A sense of ‘Beauty’ is the very essence of our feeling of ‘existential’ worthiness.
It basically waters the roots of religion and fuels the wings of social idealism.
‘Beauty’ is a quality of divinity; to live with the beautiful is to approach the divine.
Our spirits come into close touch with the divine when we are lost in the sublimity.
Divinity is found in contemplation of the grandeur and perfection of the universe.

Aesthetic awareness and artistic consciousness:--->

Objective ‘Beauty’, lies in the easy fulfillment of natural purposes and functions.
When one’s heart is filled with love, this eroticism overflows to objects in nature.
This ever-growing erotic strength seeks to beautify the very soil one treads on.
It enriches the air one breathes and may spend its surplus in scenic admiration.
The LIFE of art is neither an interruption, nor a distraction in the LIFE of any society.
It is very close to the center of a society’s purpose and soul; in art there is liberation.
It is a reflection of society’s refinement, and the test of the quality of its civilization.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #11
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#11 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
The necessity of being ready increases in direct propotion to your level of expectation — Looking to it.

“This is the night
That either makes me or fordoes me quite.”
- Shakespeare in Othello, Act 5, Scene 1.
“See yon pale stripling! when a boy,
A mother’s pride, a father’s joy!”
- Scottish novelist Sir Walter Scott (1771 - 1832)
“This dumb ox will fill the whole world with his bellowing.”
- German scholar Albertus Magnus (1200? - 1280?),
referring to his pupil Thomas Aquinas, whose nickname was “The Dumb Ox.”
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Interpersonal Expectancy Effect is how we act towards others, as based on expectation.
Distinguished Developers: Rosenthal and Jacobson (1992)

USUALLY, the Interpersonal Expectancy Effect is also reffered to as the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.
PURELY, our expectations for the behaviour of another, serves to bring about the prophesied behaviour.
GAINFULLY, the way we act towards others depends on how we perceive and predict they will behave.
REALLY their behaviour is impacted by our expectation of them, as they act to fulfill this expectation.
ACUTELY, we look for particular attributes in the other person and ignore those which we do not expect.
DISTINCTIVELY, this is also known as the ‘Pygmalion Effect’, after the book by George Bernard shaw.
EFFECTIVELY related is the Galatea Effect: We meet the expectations (high or low) WE place upon US.
Timely Therapy: - When people expect you to fail, reject this and set your own expectations to succeed.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Propelled by divinity, allow not ambition to neither suppress, nor suspended, the sentiments of religion.

“How selfish soever man may be supposed, there are evidently some principles in his nature, which interest him in the fortune of others, and render their happiness necessary to him, though he derives nothing from it except the pleasure of seeing it.” - Scottish economist and philosopher Adam Smith (1723 - 1790)
“The mystic reverence, the religious allegiance, which are essential to a true monarchy, are imaginative sentiments that no legislature can manufacture in any people.” - British economist and journalist Walter Bagehot (1826 - 1877)
“The high sentiments always win in the end, the leaders who offer blood, toil, tears and sweat always get more out of their followers than those who offer safety and a good time. When it comes to the pinch, human beings are heroic.” - British writer George Orwell (1903 - 1950)
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Endowment Effect entails valuing more highly the things we own.
Distinguished Developers: Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky.

UNDERSTAND: Endowment Effect is attributing greater value to things we own than those we do not.
POTENTLY, we demand more to give these things up, than we would be willing to pay to acquire them.
GRANTED, we do not need to even actually OWN or POSSESS the thing; it just needs to feel like we do.
REALLY, how does the Endowment Effect work? The key is SENTIMENT; feeling a sense of possession.
AFFIRMING the things as ours; they form part of a lot of nice MEMORIES; we just cannot let them go.
DUE Loss Aversion: We hate experiencing LOSSES about twice as much as we like experiencing GAINS.
EXAMPLE: You may be twice as sad if you lost $20 as you may be happy if you found the same amount.
Timely Therapy: - As we do not like losing things, we attribute more value to them to cover for their loss.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
The best guide to the future is to be found in a proper, creative understanding of the lessons of the past.

“For he lives twice who can at once employ
The present well, and e’en the past enjoy.”
- English poet Alexander Pope (1688 - 1744)
“In other words, it is quite true that the past haunts us; it is the past’s function to haunt us who are present and wish to live in the world as it really is, that is, become what it is now.” - German-born U.S. philosopher and historian Hannah Arendt (1906 - 1975)
“Man has truly a past only when he is conscious of having one, for this consciousness alone introduces the possibility of dialogue and choice.” - French writer Raymond Aron (1905 - 1983)
“Nothing has happened to the present by becoming past except that fresh slices of existence have been added to the total history of the world. The past is thus as real as the present.”
- British philosopher C. D. Broad (1887 - 1971)
“The past is a kind of screen upon which we project our vision of the future; and it is indeed a moving picture, borrowing much of its form and color from our fears and aspirations.”
- U.S. historian Carl Becker (1873 - 1945)
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Focusing Effect is how we pay more attention to some things than others.
Distinguished Developers: Kanheman et al.

USUAL Focusing Effect is putting excess weight to past events and translating them into future aims.
PRUDENTLY, this is why financial advisers tell us “past performance is no guarantee of future returns”.
GAINFUL performance makes us learn to do something again; doing badly, we learn to do it differently.
REDUCTION of decision-making time is done; lets us refer to past incidents to predict future outcomes.
AS long as many outcomes are complex, they depend not on a single action (or inaction) for the result.
DECIDE to ask this question: “Is it reasonable to assume that, that single action caused that outcome?”
ENDEAVOUR to put a particular action in the context of other actions; you develop a sense of the whole.
Timely Therapy: - DRILL DEEP enough into a matter, so as to develop an uncontestable understanding of it.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
There are many events in the womb of time which will be delivered; open your heart to receive the baby.

“With the loss of tradition we have lost the thread which safely guided us through the vast realms of the past,
but this thread was also the chain fettering each successive generation to a predetermined aspect of the past.”
- German-born U.S. philosopher and historian Hannah Arendt (1906 - 1975)
“We are always acting on what just finished happening. It happened at least one thirtieth of a second ago.
We think we’re in the present but we aren’t. The present we know is only a movie of what happened in the past.” - U.S. writer Ken Kesey (1935 - 2001)
“Happy the Man, and happy he alone,
He who can call today his own:
He who, secure within, can say,
Tomorrow do thy worst, for I have liv'd today.”
- English poet, playwright, and literary critic John Dryden (1631 - 1700)
“Comfort? comfort scorn’d of devils! this is truth the poet sings,
That a sorrow’s crown of sorrow is remembering happier things.”
- British poet Alfred Tennyson (1809 - 1892)
“History is a clock that people use to tell their political and cultural time of day.
It is also a compass that people use to find themselves on the map of human geography.”
- U.S. historian and educator John Henrik Clarke (1915 - 1998)
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Gambler’s Fallacy affirms how we belief we can predict random events.
Distinguished Developers: Amos Tversky and Daniel Kahneman.

UNDERSTAND: Gambler’s Fallacy, is the Monte Carlo fallacy or fallacy of the maturity of chances.
PURELY, it is the incorrect belief that, if a particular past event OCCURS more frequently than normal,
GIVEN, it is less likely to happen in the future (or vice versa), when it has otherwise been established,
REALISTICALLY, that the probability of such events does not depend on what has happened in the past.
ACUTE events, having the quality of historical independence, are referred to as statistically independent.
DULY, the fallacy is associated with gambling, based upon the belief, for example, that the next dice roll,
ESSENTIALLY, is more likely to be six as there have recently been fewer than the usual number of sixes.
Timely Therapy: - Most vital question: How many NO’s are you willing to accept on your way to success?

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Success is apparently relative; it is what as learners, we can make of the mess we have made of things.

“Ability and achievement are bona fides no one dares question, no matter how unconventional the man who presents them.” - U.S. oil magnate J. Paul Getty (1892 - 1976)
“All winning organizations are more akin to a pack of wolves than they are to a flock of sheep or wild ducks.” - U.S. management writer Gary Hamel (1954 - )
“Anybody who runs a successful high-technology company has to be an eternal optimist, has to be able to take big risks.” - U.S. business executive John Sculley (1939 - )
“Apparent failure may hold in its rough shell the germs of a success that will blossom in time,
and bear fruit throughout eternity.”
- U.S. writer and social reformer Frances E. W. Harper (1825 - 1911)
“Everyone has the feeling that all you have to do is to achieve stardom and once you’re there you can relax. It’s just the opposite. Once you get there, then the war really starts. The pressures get larger because getting hit records is a miracle.” - U.S. pop singer Phil Everly (1939 - )
“I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has had to overcome while trying to succeed.” - U.S. educator and political activist Booker T. Washington (1856 - 1915)
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Hot Hand Phenomenon consolidates the fact that assuming success breeds success.
Distinguished Developers: Thomas Gilovich, Amos Tversky, and Robert Vallone (1985)

UNDER the banner of the Hot Hand Fallacy is the concept known as the Hot Hand Phenomenon.
PEOPLE who experiences successful outcomes, have greater chances of success in following attempts.
GENERALLY, this concept is applied to sports and skill-based tasks and originates from BASKETBALL.
ROBUST shooter is likely to score, if previous attempts were successful, i.e. while having “hot hands.”
ARDENT success at a task can change the psychological attitude and further success rate of a player.
DUE research however, has not found evidence for a “hot hand” in practice, dismissing it as fallacious.
ESSENTIAL items come in clumps. Is our evolved psychological default not randomness, but hot hand?
Timely Therapy: - If basically you are not afraid to fail, then you probably do not care enough about success.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
The most merciful thing in the world, is the inability of the human mind to purely correlate all its contents.

“He that is robb’d, not wanting what is stol’n,
Let him not know’t, and he’s not robb’d at all.”
- Shakespeare in Othello, Act 3, Scene 3
A correlation is a statistical measure of the extent to which two variables are associated. A positive correlation exists when two variables increase or decrease together. For example, frustration and aggression are positively correlated, meaning that as frustration rises, so do acts of aggression. More of one means more of the other. A negative correlation exists when increases in one variable are accompanied by decreases in the other, and vice versa. Friendships and stress-induced illness are negatively correlated, meaning that the more close friends a person has, the fewer stress-related illnesses the person suffers. More of one means less of the other.
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Illusory Correlation implies seeing correlation where it is not.
Distinguished Developers: David Hamilton and Robert Gifford (1976)

USUAL Illusory Correlation is the tendency to perceive a relationship between non-existent variables.
PURPOSIVELLY, this happens when we mistakenly over-emphasise one outcome and ignore the others.
GRANTED, you hear about Gates or Zuckerberg dropping out of college to start a billion-dollar business
REALLY, you over-value that story and ignores all the dropouts that fail to start a successful company.
ABOUT the hits is what your hear; never hears about the misses even though they outnumber the hits.
DECADENTLY, we are unaware of how our selective memory of events influences the beliefs we hold.
ENTRENCHED in us is the assumption that, if we do not see it, then it has no impact or rarely happens.
Timely Therapy: - Free will is the real sensation of making a choice; but the choice seems to be illusory.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
We learn best from experience but we never directly experience the consequences of many of our decisions.

“The intellect of man is forced to choose
Perfection of the life, or of the work.”
- Irish poet and playwright W. B. Yeats (1865 - 1939)
“And this is what the physician has to do, and in this the art of medicine consists: for medicine may be regarded generally as the knowledge of the loves and desires of the body, and how to satisfy them or not; and the best physician is he who is able to separate fair love from foul, or to convert one into the other; and he who knows how to eradicate and how to implant love, whichever is required, and can reconcile the most hostile elements in the constitution and make them loving friends, is a skilful practitioner.”
- Greek philosopher Plato (428? BC - 347? BC)
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Neglect of probability bias entails ignoring probability; assuming certainty.
Distinguished Developer: American legal scholar Cass Robert Sunstein (b. 1954)

USUAL Neglect of Probability is disregarding probability when making a decision under uncertainty.
PROBABILITY is ignored in decision-making when we treat any possible outcome as equal in VALUE.
GHASTLY abetted by this bias small RISKS are typically either neglected entirely or hugely overrated.
RELATED are many ways, we violate the normative rules of decision making with regard to probability.
ACTUALLY, this bias is different, in that, rather than INCORRECTLY using probability, one disregards it.
DECADENTLY, we have no intuitive GRASP of risk and thus distinguish poorly among different threats.
EMOTION arousing outcomes makes the apparent probability to be more likely to be utterly neglected.
Timely Therapy: - Keep on smiling, because LIFE is a beautiful thing and there is so much to smile about.

Meliorating Meditation

R#61. On turning off the external stimuli so as to INTENSIFY your inner states.

BQ#12. What intensity of EAGERNESS is key to INNER INTENSIFICATION, as a function of positively patterning MELIORATING MEDITATION?--->

“And I was taught to feel, perhaps too much,
The self-sufficing power of Solitude.”
- British poet William Wordsworth (1770 - 1850)

“Comrades, leave me here a little, while as yet 'tis early morn:
Leave me here, and when you want me, sound upon the bugle-horn.”
- British poet Alfred Tennyson (1809 - 1892)

“I will arise and go now, and go to Innisfree,
And a small cabin build there, of clay and wattles made;
Nine bean-rows will I have there, a hive for the honey-bee,
And live alone in the bee-loud glade.”
- Irish poet and playwright W. B. Yeats (1865 - 1939)

“In solitude
What happiness, who can enjoy alone,
Or all enjoying, what contentment find?”
- English writer John Milton (1608 - 1674)

“For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude.”
- British poet William Wordsworth (1770 - 1850)

“Anythin’ for a quiet life, as the man said wen he took the sitivation at the lighthouse.”
- British novelist Charles Dickens (1812 - 1870)

“Through the study of books one seeks God; by meditation one finds Him.”
- Catholic Italian Capuchin Saint Padre pio of Pietrelcina (1887 - 1968)

“Meditation is not a means to an end. It is both the means and the end.”
- Indian theosophist Jiddu Krishnamurti (1895 - 1986)

“I have a great deal of company in the house, especially in the morning when nobody calls...I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”
- U.S. writer Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862)

“I was never less alone than when by myself.”
- British historian Edward Gibbon (1737 - 1794)

“In psycho-analytical literature more has been written on the fear of being alone or the wish to be alone than on the ability to be alone...a discussion on the positive aspects of the capacity to be alone is overdue.”
- British psychoanalyst and child psychiatrist Donald W. Winnicott (1896 - 1971)

“In the tumult of great events, solitude was what I hoped for. Now it is what I love. How is it possible to be contented with anything else when one has come face to face with History?”
- French president Charles de Gaulle (1890 - 1970)

“It is a fine thing to be out on the hills alone. A man can hardly be a beast or a fool alone on a great mountain.”
- British diarist and cleric Francis Kilvert (1840 - 1879)

“Pythagoras, when he was asked what time was, answered that it was the soul of this world.”
- Greek biographer and philosopher Plutarch (46? - 120?)
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THE TROUBLE WITH US HUMAN BEINGS is not in essence sin, so much as spiritual ignorance. The TRUTH is veiled from our insight because of our immersion in irrelevancies. Conversely, this spiritual condemnation keeps us bound to futility. The reason why most of us seems to be in an abysmal error is the failure to overcome the forces in the World and in our Human Nature that resist the impulse toward a higher LIFE; towards our spiritual home; to the roots of our ‘Being’. A deeper understanding of the mystery behind MEDITATION is imperative. It may be useful in improving the consciousness and purifying it, as far as may be at the outset, so that it may apprehend things without error, and in the best way possible. This is the ‘Lordly License’ to self-salvation, self-cultivation and SELF-ACTUALIZATION. The door to Absolute Awareness can be glimpsed with the aid of our minds, but to pass BEYOND the door requires MEDITATION. This entails turning towards the potentially transformative power of God and consolidating the communion of one’s ‘being’ with the transcendental divine supreme ‘Being’, in order that one may reinvigorate one’s inherent spiritual forces and avail oneself of infinite powers. Besides serving as ladder to spiritual growth, the distinct taste and flavour of reaching the lofty core of our spiritual essence is absolute peace and tranquility inside and outside the body. An important point of caution is that, whereas meditation is a permanent feature of all mainstream religions, breaking the barriers to the core of our spirituality does not require one to belong to a particular theological discipline.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of MELIORATING MEDITATION thus:

Merging LIFE-force with healing currents in our spinal centers, by releasing bodily identification
Enlargement of our consciousness to infinity, thus the freedom to reinherit our Eternal Kingdom.
LIFE-force is mentally guided to the inner Cosmos and becomes united with subtle spinal energies.
Intimately entering the cave and abode of the most High, the source and dwelling place of all felicity.
Our cerebral tenement is sufficiently purified for the proper manifestation of Cosmic Consciousness.
Realisation of the identity and union with Omniscient God, wherein we find the secret of immortality.
Attaining the unqualified Absolute and Transcendent; being ourselves ‘the Way, the Truth and LIFE’.
The soothing sensations of regenerative effect in the spine and taste of Eternal breath are witnessed.
Inwardly centering all bodily force; and in that felicitous state we are freed from sensory delusions.
Nurturing to melt in issues by removing the frontier between the inquirer and the object of inquiry.
Gainful insight happens by dismantling the barrier between the object and the subject of understanding.

Manifestation of liberation and enlightenment, upon transformation of suffering and maladjustments.
Entrenching in our own LIFE, the necessary wisdom to be able to see what we need for our happiness.
Discovering what is needed, knowing what to do, and by having a productive aim, acting accordingly.
If our action is good or bad, we will be able to determine; and this will lead toward our ultimate vision.
The wondrous sound AUM which is the actual Cosmic Sound, the witness of Divine presence, is heard.
Armoured with WISDOM, in the manner that happiness and suffering are no longer individual matters.
Tempered with nondiscrimination, we recognise that ill-being and well-being exist inside each other.
If we run away from ill-being, we have less chance of well-being; happiness has the taste of suffering.
One of the treatment for pain, despair, anger, and depression, as opposed to drugs and entertainment.
Nourishing the acceptance of LIFE and everything that belongs to it — joy, peace, sickness, and death.

“We all get distracted, the question is, would you bounce back or bounce backwards?”- American rapper Kendrick Lamar Duckworth (b. 1987). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: NURTURING the EAGERNESS for INNER INTENSIFICATION by turning off external stimuli.--->

Meditation is a drug-free self-induced persuasive way of effecting changes in the neurological process. This goes in the manner of cultivating various favourable physiological health benefits which include: improved forgiveness and reduced anger, reduction in stress, anxiety, depression, headaches, pain, and elevated blood pressure. As an avenue for doing what one wants to do in a better way - a right way for maximum results - through effective mental functioning, we can also attain to good academic performance, concentration, perceptual sensitivity, reaction to time, memory, self-control, empathy and self-esteem. The ultimate delicious fruits, are increased creativity and flexibility, increased productivity and increased occupational satisfaction.

Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to INNERLY INTENSIFY.
SEE the reasoning faculty as only one out of a myriad possibilities in the thinking potential of each of us.
USE or arouse your hidden, latent capacities to clearly peer into the dearest freshness deep down things.
MENTAL reflection is so much more interesting than T.V.; it is a shame more people do not switch to it.
MEDITATION is an INNER movement; it is a thought which saddens while it at the same time soothes.
AFFLUENT living is feeling entirely enriched within the shell that is you, or being refreshed by yourself.
REALLY concentrate on the beauty of one blue hill in the distance, and that moment will be ETERNITY.
YE shall have more merit in Heaven for a year of meditating, than for a hundred years of mouth-praying.

PREPARE yourself to diligently NURTURE the creative ‘capacity’ for INNER INTENSIFICATION.

Psychologically speaking, the purpose of meditation is to look at something deeply and see its roots.
Really, ANY kind of action we take, if we look deeply into it, we will be able to recognise its SEED.
Enough conditions to be happy are right HERE and right NOW; you do not need to obtain any more.
Purely go home to the present moment, so as to view all the conditions of happiness that you have.
And you may ultimately find out that you have more than enough for you to be happy right NOW.
Resist running after things, because even if you get the object of your desire, you will not be happy.
Endlessly running after things is vain; if you feel safe enough, it is possible to have no more desire.

REALISE that NURTURING your innate ‘quest’ for INNER INTENSIFICATION is in your ‘power.’

Respect what you have as enough for you; adopting that style of living, makes you happy right away.
Essentially, people have plenty of money and power, but still suffer deeply from stress and loneliness.
Adopting this wisdom in your LIFE, entails educating yourself in the art and science of MEDITATION.
Learn that your breath is a wonderful vehicle to bring you back to your body, feelings, and MIND.
In all measures, our practice is always to go back to the present moment, to the HERE and the NOW.
Subtly and seriously learning how to live deeply each moment of our daily LIFE, is our true practice.
Existence informs us with loftiness that, only in the HERE and the NOW can we touch LIFE deeply.

EMPOWER yourself to NURTURE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for INNER INTENSIFICATION.

Each of us has some illness in our body or mind; healing begins by being totally with the present.
Mindfully being attentive to breathing, our in-breath and out-breath become peaceful and relaxed.
Purely walking with attention and without thinking or being carried away by anything, begins healing.
Our relaxed, peaceful in-breath, is the resting place, when our mind is carried away by strong pain.
When pain returns, we accept it as it is, and not letting it carry us away and make us more agitated.
Emotions which are negative are all part of us; we can calm them by using, in-breath and out-breath.
Readily calming emotions, clarifies the roots of our suffering; those who pains us are also suffering.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to NURTURE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of INNER INTENSIFICATION.

Most of the time, when hurt, we can think in a way that makes us angrier and want to retaliate.
Enact to calm yourself, touch your compassion and understanding, to give yourself a peaceful mind.
Diligently, this will help you to see that the other person also suffers, and your anger will dissipate.
If your body is disturbed, have too many strong emotions, then your breathing cannot be peaceful.
All meditation makes our breathing calmer, harmonious, as the tension in our breathing is released.
Taking our mind back to our breath and, if we continue, to our whole body, is the work of meditation.
Eventually, we get to know the wrongs done, the conflicts we are having, and how to handle them.

INDULGE yourself in NURTURING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards INNER INTENSIFICATION.

In order to be strong enough to deal with our suffering, how do we bring about the feelings of joy?
NOTHING is the most important thing, than to release, to LET GO; joy is born from leaving behind.
Dauntless joy and happiness are impermanent; need constant nourishment, so as to stay longer.
Usually, if you are in physical pain during meditation, or deep relaxation, you are not doing it right.
Labourless labour is the BEYONDISM name for MEDITATION. LIFE is full of toil, so create no more.
Gainfully, you do not have to suffer because of MEDITATION; it should bring you joy and happiness.
Enabled thus, you will be strong enough to handle the blocks of pain, sorrow, and despair within you.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for NURTURING the ‘compulsion’ of INNER INTENSIFICATION.

Underlying our MEDITATION, is an affluent attempt to transform our deep-rooted seeds of suffering.
This entails focusing on sowing, germinating and watering seeds of pure joy and enduring happiness.
Inviting the afflictions that have been with us since childhood into our consciousness, becomes easy.
Longings and sadness that were difficult to touch, we sit down and talk with them like old buddies.
In doing this, we must be sure that the lamp of our PSYCHE is lit and its light is steady and strong.
Suppose you are meditating to get in touch with LIFE’s wonders, simply acknowledge your suffering.
Each of us needs a certain amount of suffering so as to understand and cultivate joy, and happiness.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to NURTURE INNER INTENSIFICATION.

Moments which were dangerous, when contemplated makes us fully enjoy the safety of this moment.
Our robust joy and happiness can only be recognised against the background of the past suffering.
No religious leader ever reached the highest level of PSYCHIC precision without undergoing suffering.
It is because of our suffering that we have a chance to really learn understanding and compassion.
Through touching and appreciating suffering, compassion arises; this is the basis of MEDITATION.
Only a person who has passed through some phases of suffering, can really appreciate MEDITATION.
Revel in your natural ability to MEDITATE, and you will have augmented your PSYCHIC precision.

“But thy eternal summer shall not fade,
Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow’st,
Nor shall death brag thou wander’st in his shade,
When in eternal lines to time thou grow’st;
So long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.”
- Shakespeare in Sonnet 18,

“All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages.”
- Shakespeare in As You Like It, Act 2, Scene 7

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on patterning positively MERIOLATING MEDITATION:
Unmistakably you are NURTURING your ennobling exertion to INNERLY INTENSIFY.
The accumulated energy of CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
And PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
Will ultimately propel you to REAP your lively labour.

“Silence is the perfectest herald of joy: I were but little happy if I could say how much.”
- Shakespeare in Much Ado About Nothing, Act 2, Scene 1

“Oh! how bitter a thing it is to look into happiness through another man’s eyes.”
- Shakespeare in As You Like It, Act 5, Scene 2
--->

A. BEYONDISM BOUNDLESS EXPERIENCE (BBE)

1. Universe’s Subtle Affirmation.--->

MEDITATION as a THERAPY is a reminder of our unbounded nature, of the part of us that is infinite in SPACE and TIME. Having an inherent capacity to catalyse change in our lives, it is the universe’s affirmation that we are not alone. It is one of the most effective methods of finding meaning because it is a way of contracting a dimension of experience that seems wiser, deeper and more than an individual sense of self.

2. Towards the Root of ‘Being’.--->

Within each one of us, there is unlimited and infinite reservoir of energy, intelligence and happiness. MEDITATION is an invocation that, one should identify oneself with nature provided that one is spontaneous and clears one’s mind of the extraneous concepts and information which serve to clutter up one’s ‘existence’ and cut oneself off, from the roots of one’s ‘being’. This enables one to see things expansively and as they really are. As it is implicit that we should allow nature to operate effortlessly on its own, the following technique is designed to remove those obstacles and barriers which stand in the way of this inner expansion of experiences.

3. Absolute Thinkers in Silence.--->

Intended to draw on our ‘Spiritual Springs’, our unique kind of ‘Scenery MEDITATION’ is a realisation that in silence it is discernible that we are the thinkers in every thought. Between our thoughts there is an area which is completely serene and silent, a zone which is the gateway through which our personal ‘being’ gets reflected and communicates with the universal or Cosmic ‘Being’.

4. LIFE of Pure Cosciousness.--->

So, against anything that tends to cloud the mind, our psychological exercise as here below outlined in the form of ‘Scenery MEDITATION’ is intended to set a great store by the practice of self-awareness, or rather knowledge of our motives. The meditation technique outlined here may simply be defined as the art and science of detaching one’s own pure consciousness to enable one to discover oneself as the LIFE of pure consciousness within which and through which the contents of self-awareness, the objects of one’s world, in their entirety exists.

5. Individual Meaning and Truth.--->

The single invariant ingredient here is the fact that, I cannot think, live, experience, value or act in any world other than the world which is in some sense in Me. And this world, is my perceptual world, which derives its meaning and TRUTH from Me. It is only through my pure conscious self, that any reality has any possible validity and makes any sense to me. It is the constantly present pure awareness, which is the consciousness and source of all its own objects and meanings. But a point of caution here is that our ‘Scenery MEDITATION’, is not at all intended at offering a quick trip into the land of dreamless unconsciousness.

6. Transcendental Melting Down.--->

Through focused attention, on a specific scenery, our MEDITATION is an attempt at going BEYOND the ‘reflexive’, ‘discursive’, ‘logical’ mind into a deeper, more devout relaxed state where the ‘ontological cord’ between our ‘being’ and the ‘Supreme Being’ melts down into a transcendental ‘Ontological Field’.

An illuminating specter of wisdom to be extracted from most Eastern Philosophies goes in the manner that, we live in a bright, vital sea of energy. Yogis call this energy Prana, while Oriental acupuncture recognise this same energy and calls it Chi. In western thought this energy has gone under horde of names from ‘Odic Force’, to ‘X-force’, to ‘Orgone Energy’ to ‘Etheric Force’, to ‘Plasma Energy’, to ‘Life Fields’.

BEYONDISM further informs that through regulated breathing we can extract a greater supply of Prana from the air and transform it to maintain and develop ourselves. With the body accumulating Prana as a battery does electricity, this internalized energy Yogis say gives the body vitality and nourishes consciousness. It has been proved in various circles that this Pranic stream is the key to genius, artistic talents, scientific and intellectual creativity, as well as good health thus optimising our Potential Quotient (PQ). In its utmost ACTUALIZATION, this entails awakening our true natures.

7. Body and Mind Resynchronization.--->

By heightening this energy exchange going on inside us and between us and the environment, through what we will call ‘Breathing to a Beat’, we can learn to breath in rhythm and through rhythmic breath control, to slow down body and mind rhythms, as well as resynchronize out of synch body and mind. We will be able to ‘allow our Inner Light to shine and glow brighter and brighter’. This goes towards ‘sparking off the genius in us, thereby augmenting the attainment of superbly enriching performance’. The effect of breathing to beat was scientifically illustrated by Indian yogi and religious scholar Paramhansa Yogananda (1893 - 1952) in ‘The Autobiography of a yogi’:

Many illustrations could be given of the mathematical relationship between man’s respiratory rate and the variations in his states of consciousness. A person whose attention is wholly engrossed as in following some closely knit intellectual argument, or in attempting some delicate or difficult physical feat, automatically breaths very slowly. Fixity of attention depend on slow breathing; quick or uneven breathing are an inevitable accompaniment of harmful emotional states; fear, lust, anger. The restless monkey breath at the rate of 32 times a minute, in contrast to man’s average of 18 times. The elephant, tortoise, snake, and other creatures noted for their longevity have a respiratory rate that is less than man’s. The giant tortoise, for instance, which may attain the age of three hundred years, breathes only 4 times a minute.

B. BEYONDISM SCENERY MEDITATION (BSC)--->

Using different focus sceneries to generate different brainwave patterns, through what we will refer to as ‘Internal Movement’ in ‘External Stillness’, let us immerse ourselves in the basics of our ‘Scenery MEDITATION’.

To cleanse our minds in the preparation for this divine process of self-redemption, we should take ourselves to a quite spot and seated or lying down, we should place before ourselves an object to concentrate upon. This device may be a blue flower, or some other simple object which may calm ones soul and soothes, or arouses ones reflective faculties. Suppose you are considering a blue flower, then concentrate upon it as simply blue and of certain shape, in isolation from anything else for two minutes. Further, try shifting your eyes and imagine it for two minutes. This effort at excluding all other perceptions and images awakens and sets the mind ready for the next stage of rhythmic breathing.

Close your eyes and visualise yourself as surrounded by a bright sea of LIFE energy. Visualise further this energy to be entering your forehead circulating in all parts of your body cells and energising everything in its trail. Open up every pore in your body and feel yourself slowly being energised and charged by this Pranic energy.

Sitting comfortably on a chair or laying down on a coach or bed, put yourself into a very relaxed state, making sure all parts of your body are absolutely relaxed. With your eyes still closed take a very slow, deep breath through your nose. Inhale as much air as you can hold comfortably. Try to take in just little bit more air. Now exhale slowly. Feel the deep sense of relaxation as you exhale. When you think all air is out of your lungs, try to force out a little but more. Practice taking three very deep breaths for a few moments. Inhale as much air as you possibly can. Distend your abdomen. Slowly exhale. Pull your abdomen in. Take another deep breath, inhaling as much air as possible. Hold it for a count of 3, and exhale very slowly. Relax and try to inhale the air in a very even continuous breath.

Scenery MEDITATION provides means of conforming imagination to the real essence of nature. It is directing the will to unhesitant service even in the face of gross discomfort and adversity. While you are relaxed, this is an ideal time to repeat some positive affirmations to yourself. Choose a couple of the following phrase. You can also create some to fit your own circumstances and your inclinations. Try to make them short and rhythmic, use alliteration and rhyme if it appeals to you. Silently repeat your affirmation to yourself four or five times.

All fears, quilt, regrets, doubts and inhibitions are falling.
My consciousness moves efficiently and effectively.
I am supremely calm and superbly enrichingly aware.
LIFE is NOW lovely, simple, sweet and enriching.
I am in my soul’s calm retreat which none can disturb!
I can start to hear the divine music playing in me.

It is important to remember that the above outlined scenario is not mandatory. You are at liberty to choose a scenery of your choice, as long as the breathing technique is applied to the letter.

1. Beneficient Blueness.--->

Visualise yourself lying down on a soft grassy area and watching the refreshing immense blue sky on cloudless atmosphere. Try to fill your mind with this BENEFICENT BLUENESS for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘BENEFICENT BLUENESS’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.

Inhale – 2, 3, 4.
Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn.

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the importance of taking a calm survey of LIFE.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN in me that perfect obligation of keeping promises.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to be a self-confessed addict of integration.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN in me the oath to never fear any particular change.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to win and gain respect from everyone.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN inwardly that, this life with all its sorrows is good.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

2. Ornamental Orange.--->

Assume yourself to be sitting comfortably in the evening watching the twilight of a sunset. Try to fill your mind with this ORNAMENTAL ORANGE of the sun rays for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘ORNAMENTAL ORANGE’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.

Inhale – 2, 3, 4.
Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to forgive all insults effected on me.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to be free from maladaptive inclinations.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN being natural, so that I may tune to existence.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to do all what is in my predispositions.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN standing on my feet without other’s clutches.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need for exposure to buoyant characters.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

3. Boosting Brightness.--->

Imagine yourself lying on a beach sunbathing in the morning hours when the sun is rising. Try assimilating this BOOSTING BRIGHTNESS to your mind for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘BOOSTING BRIGHTNESS’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.

Inhale – 2, 3, 4.
Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn.

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to be a passionate lover of LIFE.
I ABSOLUTELY AFFIRM the need to analyse everything holistically.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN courage to say ‘I can handle this and that’.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN showering of my spirit with utmost energy.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to be faithful to all my ideals.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to do all what I can, anywhere.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

4. Charming Colurlessness.--->

Take yourself to be attentively standing in front of a forcefully dropping fall. Try to placidly fill your mind with this CHARMING COLOURLESNESS of water for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘CHARMING COLOURLESNESS’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.

Inhale – 2, 3, 4.
Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn.

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I ABSOLUTELY AFFIRM the need to be a captain of my LIFE’s ship.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the dire need for accurate knowledge of myself.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need for unification of many academic fields.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to be proactive, initiating and acting.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the prioritising of important and vital issues.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to be comfortably at ease with myself.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

5. Meritorious Melody.--->

Assume you are safely in the thick of a forest at midnight hearing all kind of sounds there in. Let this MERITORIOUS MELODY flow in your every nerve for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘MERITORIOUS MELODY’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.

Inhale – 2, 3, 4.
Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn.

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN pure explosion of my repressed sensibility.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN thorough self-squeezing of juice of LIFE NOW.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN to move all my energies towards productivity.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the consciousness of total personal experience.
I ABSOLUTELY AFFIRM the personal source of praise and approbation.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN never to entertain any cloud of wishful thinking.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

6. Gentle Greenness.--->

Now you are on top of a hill whereby you are watching well leveled green vegetation below. Allow this GENTLE GREENNESS to pleasantly occupy your mind for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘GENTLE GREENNESS’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.
Inhale – 2, 3, 4.

Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn.

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the making of others energised in my presence.
I ABSOLUTELY AFFIRM the emotional connectedness to significant ones.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN that unbounded magnitude of a fertile future focus.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to honestly own up when I make a mistake.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN to spend all days of my life in search of TRUTH.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN my individual worth even in the midst of failures.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

7. Gigantic Goldness.--->

Consider yourself walking with your best friend or a lover on plain land in the mid of night watched by a bright full moon. Open up yourself to this GIGANTIC GOLDNESS allowing it to infiltrate your every nerve for about a minute. Making your breathing rhythmic, inhale to a count of 4 as you open up for this ‘GIGANTIC GOLDNESS’ to infiltrate your whole ‘being’. Hold to a count of 4; exhale to a count of 4 (pumping out all negative feelings of e.g. fear, guilt, anger etcetera.); pause to a count of 4.

Inhale – 2, 3, 4.
Hold – 2, 3, 4.
Exhale – 2, 3, 4.
Pause – 2, 3, 4.
Repeat four cadences of this rhythmic breathing pattern.
Relax as you feel your ‘being’ dissolving in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
After 2 minutes, say a nourishing Aa-Mm-Ee-Nn.

While you are still relaxed, this is an appropriate time to consolidate in your PSYCHE the following ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATIONS:

I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN never to shift my duties to the divine providence.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the need to laugh through toils and hardships.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the awareness of the correct acting time and place.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the end of good actions regardless of outcome.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN the propelling of my life by love and knowledge.
I MINDFULLY MAINTAIN in me the conviction; ‘I will never lose my nerve’.
For I am mortally and divinely anointed for superbly enriching attainments.

SO WHAT?--->

Upon the serene silence of this scenery MEDITATION, you should be guaranteed of entering into Cosmic Oneness, where all dualities of good and bad melt away as the rankest superficialities. Divine eloquence will flow in soundless chant into your very ‘being’ (your cells and nerves). With an antennae of irrefragable insight, you will sense ‘everything as it really is’, as all obscuration of this LIFE disappears in a fragile dawn of prenatal memories.

Meditation is a spiritual journey towards what lies BEYOND our sensations, towards all-pervading, inconceivable, unchanging, fixed and unmovable, the Absolute Truth.

C. BEYONDISM CALCULATED CONCENTRATION (BCC)--->

Concentration exercises sharpen the mind and improve the ability to concentrate. These are mental exercises that will strengthen the power of your mind. Sharpening the needle of concentration requires practice, like everything else in LIFE. Do you go to the gym? If you do, how many times a week and for how long? Have you studied a foreign language? If you did, for how long did you practice, until you had a basic knowledge of the language? It is the same with developing your concentration. You need training and practice. Even only ten minutes a day of concentration exercises will do you good.

Your mind does not like discipline, and will resist your efforts to discipline it. It loves its freedom more than anything else, and will not let you master it. It will make you forget to do the exercises, tempt you to postpone performing them, or make you feel too lazy. It will find many tricks to occupy your attention with something else. The choice is yours, to be mastered by the mind and its whims, or to be its master.

Below, you will find a few simple concentration exercises. By practicing mental exercises, it is possible to train the mind and master it, and put it in its proper place, as your servant, and not as your boss and master. You are not the mind, nor the thoughts that pass through it. Though it might be hard to accept this idea, the mind is not you, the real you, but only a tool that you use. It is an instrument, which has great value, but it has to be taught to obey you.

Most people believe that they are the mind, and erroneously believe that controlling the mind means holding themselves back and denying their freedom. They feel that controlling their mind is not natural, and that it is some sort of repression. These beliefs are not correct. The proof that we are not the mind comes with training. Accept the idea in theory, and in time, as your control over your thoughts grows, you will know it as a fact. In reality, you, the real you, is the one mastering the mind. It is not the mind mastering itself.

The chief advice for Practicing the Concentration Exercises, is first to find a place where you can be alone and undisturbed. If you wish, you may sit crossed legged on the floor, but most people would find it more comfortable to sit on a chair. Sit with your spine erect. Take a few calm deep breaths and then relax your body, by directing your attention to it, and relaxing each muscle, from head to toe.

Practice each of the exercises below for about 10 minutes, and after a few weeks of training, lengthen the time to 15 minutes. Start with the first exercise. Practice it every day, until you are able to do it without any distractions or forgetfulness, and without thinking about anything else, for at least three continuous minutes. Every time you get distracted, start again, until the 10 or 15 minutes pass away.

You have to be honest with yourself, and proceed to the next one, only after you are convinced that you have practiced it correctly and with full concentration. There is no timetable, since this could be frustrating. If, for example, I tell you to practice a certain exercise for a specific number of days, two things might happen. You might get disappointed, if you cannot get the desired concentration within the allotted time period. You might also proceed to the next exercise, without practicing correctly the previous one. Mastering the exercises successfully can take days, weeks, months and sometimes even more.

Put your whole attention into the exercises, and do not think about anything else. Be careful not to fall asleep, daydream or think about other matters. The moment you find yourself thinking about something else, stop the exercise and start again. After you become proficient, lengthen the time, and if possible, include another session in the afternoon. Do not attempt too much at the beginning, and do not try to perform them all at once. Go slowly, without overdoing them or tensing your brain.

If you find it too difficult, or thoughts distract you and make you think about other matters, do not despair. Everyone encounters difficulties along the way. If you persevere and never give up, in spite of difficulties and disturbances, success will crown your efforts. Remember, even those with powerful concentration had to exercise their minds. It does not matter if your concentration is weak now. It can be developed and strengthened like any other ability, through training.

In time, you will find out that you can concentrate anywhere, anytime, no matter where you are. You will be able to focus your mind, think and function under the most trying circumstances, while remaining calm, relaxed and collected. The reward is worth the effort a thousand fold. Now to the exercises. For the full benefit, it is advisable that you practice each exercise for one additional week, after you are convinced that you are practicing it correctly and with full attention. It may sound absurd, but a simple exercise like counting backwards in your mind from hundred to one, and once you have mastered this, moving on to counting backwards from hundred to one but this time skipping three numbers such as 100, 97, 94, 91, 88 etc, may go a long way in improving your concentration.

HERE ARE 7 x 2 = 14 VERY VALUABLE CONCENTRATION EXERCISES

Exercise: 1--->

Take a book or a magazine and count the number of words in a single paragraph. Count them again to ensure that you have counted correctly. You can start off with one paragraph and as you get used to it, move on to counting words in two paragraphs. Then move on to counting words on the whole page. Make sure that you perform the counting mentally and only with your eyes without pointing your finger at each word. This is one of the simplest brain exercises to improve concentration.

Exercise: 2--->

Select an inspiring word or just a simple sound and think about it in your mind, repeating it in your mind for 5 minutes. Once your mind has begun to concentrate on it easily, move on to 10 minutes of uninterrupted concentration.

Exercise: 3--->

Try to suppress your thoughts for at least 5 minutes. This appears pretty tough, but with regular practice, you can do it. Start off with one minute and gradually increase the length of time. Try your best to stay blank for 5 minutes without a single thought in your mind. This will take time, but gradually you will improve and thus your concentration will also excel. Do not try to push yourself if you find it difficult initially. Just try to give your best. Once you are finished with it, stop and try again the next day. This is one of the most difficult exercise for concentration.

Exercise: 4--->

Sit straight on a chair with your head up, chin out and shoulders back. Raise your right arm up to the level of your shoulder, pointing to your right. Look around, moving your head only and fix your gaze on your fingers. While doing so, keep your arms perfectly still for one minute. Repeat this exercise with your left arm. Once you are able to keep your arms perfectly steady, increase the length of time to reach up to 5 minutes with each arm. The easiest position is to turn the palm of your hand downwards when it is outstretched. If you are able to keep your eyes fixed on the tips of your fingers, you will be able to tell if your arm is perfectly still.

Exercise: 5--->

This exercise aims to improve your focus. Hold a fruit such as an apple, banana or an orange in your hand and examine it from all sides, while focusing your attention on it. Do not get carried away by irrelevant thoughts that might arise in your mind or thoughts related to the fruit such as the grocery from where you bought it, its nutritive value etc. You should stay calm and ignore all these thoughts. Focus all your attention on the fruit without thinking of anything else and examine its shape, taste, smell and the sensation you get on touching it.

Exercise: 6--->

Fill a small glass full of water. Putting your arms directly in front of you, grasp it by your fingers. Now fix your eyes on the glass, focusing all your attention on it. While doing so, try to keep your arm so steady that no movement becomes noticeable. Do this for one minute and then gradually increase it to five. This exercise should be done with one arm and then with the other.

Exercise: 7--->

Take a small simple object such as a spoon, fork, cup or a glass. Now concentrate on one of these objects, watching it from all sides without any verbalization, that is, with no words in your mind. Just concentrate on watching the object closely without thinking about it.

Exercise: 8--->

You can try this exercise once you have gained proficiency in the above exercises. Draw a small geometrical figure of about 3 inches in dimensions, such as a triangle, rectangle or a circle. Paint it with any color and then concentrate on it by looking at just the figure you have drawn and nothing else. Ward off any unrelated thoughts or distractions such that only the figure exists for you and nothing else. Focus your attention only on the figure but do not try to strain your eyes. Once you have mastered this, you can try to visualise the figure with your eyes closed. If you forget the appearance of the figure, open your eyes for a few seconds; watch the figure and then close your eyes to continue with the exercise.

Exercise: 9--->

Start off by sitting on a comfortable chair and see for how long you can keep still. This might sound easy but it is quite tough to do initially. All you need to do is to center your attention on sitting still. Ensure that you are not making any involuntary muscular movements. With little practice you will be able to sit still without a movement of the muscles for 15 minutes. You can start off by sitting in a relaxed position for 5 minutes. Once you are able to do it perfectly, gradually increase the time to 10 minutes and then to 15 minutes. Do not strain yourself to keep still. This exercise is great for relaxing you completely.

Exercise: 10--->

Move your chair by the table and place your hands upon it, clenching your fists and keeping the back of the hand upon the table such that the thumb is doubled over the fingers. Now look carefully at the fist for a while and then gradually extend your thumb. While doing so, all your attention should be focused on this act as if it is a matter of great importance. After this, extend your first finger followed by your second and so on until you open all of them. Then reverse the process, first closing the last one opened and then the rest to bring your fist in the original position with the thumb closed over the finger. This exercise should be done with one hand and then with the other such that five repetitions are performed with each hand. Once you master it, you can increase it to ten times in a few days.

Exercise: 11--->

This exercise enables you to concentrate from within. Start off by lying down and thoroughly relaxing your muscles. Now concentrate on your heartbeat without paying attention to anything else. Think about your heart and how it is pumping blood to every part of the body. While doing so, try to visualise the blood leaving your heart and flowing in one stream right down to the toes. Think of another picture with blood flowing down the arms to the tips of the fingers. After doing this exercise, you can actually feel the blood passing through your system.

Exercise: 12--->

Sit on a chair in an upright position, keeping your back high. Now pressing one finger against your right nostril, take a long deep breath. Draw the breath in gently as you count to ten and expel the breath through the right nostril as you count to ten. Repeat this exercise with the other nostril. This exercise should be repeated at least 20 times at each sitting.

Exercise: 13--->

Standing in front of the mirror, make two marks on a level with your eyes and imagine them as two human eyes looking into yours. You might blink a little initially, but keep standing erect without moving your head. All your thoughts should be concentrated on keeping your head perfectly still and avoid other thoughts from coming into your mind. Now keeping your head, eyes and body still, think that you look like a reliable person, someone whom anyone would have confidence in. Ensure that there the room in which you are standing is well ventilated. Practice deep breathing in front of the mirror. You will feel that as it permeates every cell; your timidity is replaced by a sense of peace and power, making you more focused. This exercise should be practiced for 3 minutes.

Exercise: 14--->

This exercise is concerned with focusing on sounds. In our day to day lives we keep hearing several sounds. Try to focus on a specific sound such as a voice. Then deliberately switch over to another sound such as that of a bird. Again switch over to another sound, say the sound of traffic. Continue to switch between sounds after focusing on one sound for one minute. This exercise can also be done visually by focusing on the person or thing that is creating the sound and refocusing on another. Ensure that while focusing on one particular sound, you do not think of or hear anything else.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #12
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#12 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Our misfortune as humans: Though we can put things out of our head we cannot erase them out of our psyche.

“‘I have done that,’ says my memory. ‘I cannot have done that,’ says my pride, and remains inexorable. Eventually — memory yields.” - German philologist and philosopher Friendriche Nietzsche (1844 - 1900)
Police cross-questioning witnesses can implant false memories.
Hypnotic techniques are particularly susceptible.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Imagined Memory is not as detailed and sensory as real memory.
Distinguished Developers: French psychologist, physician, philosopher, and psychotherapist Pierre Marie Félix Janet (1859 – 1947),
and Austrian neurologist and the founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud (1856 – 1939).

UNDER normal circumstances, sound minded human beings are very good at reconstructing memory.
PURELY, we often tell the difference between what is a real memory and what is an imagined memory.
GENERALLY, REAL memories include more sensory data. We recall colours, how things felt, or smelt, etc.
RELEVANT detail, includes irrelevant stuff, for instance, what a person at the bus stop really looked like.
ASSOCIATION, is also very critical, such that the memories logically link to other memories and events.
DISTINCT logic is also an indispensable part of REAL memory; IMAGINED memories can be impossible.
ESSENTIALLY, we can get confused and turn an imagined memory into what we think is a real memory.
Timely Therapy: - The most beautiful things are not associated with money; are memories and moments.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
“Maybe one day we shall be glad to remember even these hardships,” so said Roman poet Virgil (70 - 19 BC)

“A man should keep his little brain attic stocked with all the furniture that he is likely to use, and the rest he can put away in the lumber room of his library, where he can get it if he wants it.” - Scottish-born British writer and physician Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 - 1930)
“Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.”
- British poet Christina Rossetti (1830 - 1894)
In a famous 1988 case, Paul Ingram was accused by his daughters, of having committed sexual abuse, satanic rituals and even murder (they suddenly remembered these events after many years). Even he eventually became convinced that he must have committed these crimes and then somehow repressed the memories. He was given a long prison sentence. Many believe that he is innocent and a victim of false memory syndrome.
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False Memory Syndrome is having a good imagery of past, but false experiences.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Elizabeth F. Loftus (b. 1944)

USUALLY, we can have memories which are actually false but which we absolutely believe to be true.
POLICE questioning or psychotherapists, for instance, may cause this quite vivid (but false) memory.
GUIDED well, and when we are sufficiently motivated, we can actually change what we REMEMBER.
REALLY, we are better at creating false memories when asked to imagine the supposed event in detail.
A similarity - one was at an event when it was another who looked alike - may create a false memory.
DUE false memory can appear when we want a thing to have happened, because it is pleasant to recall.
ESSENTIALLY, false memory is basically caused by what is sometimes called ‘imagination inflation’.
Timely Therapy: - Best way for you to be happy in the present? It is to recall happy times from the past.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
“Fortune is for all; judgment is theirs who have won it for themselves.” - Greek tragedist Aeschylus (525 bc -)

“A moral judgment made about one situation commits us, on pain of logical inconsistency, to making the same judgment about any precisely similar situation.” - British philosopher R. M. Hare (1919 - 2002)
“But for those obstinate questionings
Of sense and outward things,
Fallings from us, vanishings;
Blank misgivings of a Creature
Moving about in worlds not realised,
High instincts before which our mortal nature
Did tremble like a guilty Thing surprised.”
- British poet William Wordsworth (1770 - 1850).
If asked whether the population of Ukraine was greater or less than 30 million, you might give one or other answer. If then asked what you thought the actual population was, you would very likely guess somewhere around 30 million, because you have been anchored by the previous answer.
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Anchoring Bias entails relying on initial information to base subsequent judgments
Distinguished Developers: Israeli cognitive and mathematical psychologist Amos Nathan Tversky (1937 –1996)
and Israeli-American psychologist and economist Daniel Kahneman (b. 1934)

UNDERLYING the anchoring bias is the tendency to rely on initial facts to base subsequent judgments.
PROFUSELY, it causes us to rely too heavily on the first piece of information we are given about a topic.
GAINFUL setting of plans or making of estimates, often depends on how we interpret newer information.
REGRESSIVELLY, when we do this from the reference point of our anchor, we fail to see it objectively.
ACTUALLY, this skews our judgment, and prevents us from updating our plans or predictions as required.
DISTORTED is our perception, as we end up filtering all new facts through the initial mental framework.
EVEN if the situation calls for it, this makes us really reluctant to make significant changes to our plans.
Timely Therapy: - Let yourself become that space that welcomes any experience without prior judgement.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
“He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that.” - British philosopher J.S. Mill (1806 - 1873)

“Everyone must know the tantalizing effect of the blank rhythm of some forgotten verse, restlessly dancing in one’s mind, striving to be filled out with words.”
- U.S. psychologist and philosopher William James (1842 - 1910)
“Crime has its heroes, error has its martyrs:
Of true zeal and false, what vain judges we are.”
- French writer and philosopher Voltaire (1694 - 1778)
“But when the days of golden dreams had perished,
And even Despair was powerless to destroy,
Then did I learn how existence could be cherished,
Strengthened, and fed without the aid of joy.”
- British poet and novelist Emily Brontë (1818 - 1848).
Plane crashes can make people afraid of flying. However, the likelihood of dying in a car accident, is far higher than dying as a passenger on an airplane.
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Availability Heuristic is making decision upon what come to mind most readily.
Distinguished Developer: Israeli cognitive and mathematical psychologist Amos Nathan Tversky (1937 –1996)
and Israeli-American psychologist and economist Daniel Kahneman (b. 1934)

UNDERLYING availability heuristic is recalling immediate examples from the mind about something.
PRECISELY, this is the tendency to use information that comes to mind quickly when making decisions.
GENERAL example as when asked: “What is the first thing that comes to mind when you think of . . ?”
RATHER than thinking further, you just mention events based on the what comes to your mind first.
ALL this can lead to bad decision-making because memories that are easily recalled are insufficient.
DECISEVELY, they cannot enable us to figure out how likely things are to happen again in the future.
EVENTUALLY, this leaves a person with low-quality information to form the basis of a good decision.
Timely Therapy: - When trying to make a decision or judgment about the world around do not be hasty.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
“Do not judge, and you will never be mistaken.” - French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau (1712 - 1778)

“Far away now in the mountains...a photograph guards the memory of a man. The photograph is all alone out there. The snow is falling eighteen years after his death. It covers up the door.” - U.S. novelist and poet Richard Brautigan (1935? - 1984)
On TV game shows where people can win everything in a list of items they see, they usually at least remember the first few items.
RESEARCH:
Solomon Asch (1946) asked some people about a person described as envious, stubborn, critical, impulsive, industrious and intelligent. He then asked other people about a person described as intelligent, industrious, impulsive, critical, stubborn and envious. The second group rated the person more highly than the first group. He also found that the second and third items on the list had reduced primacy effects.
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Primacy Effect entails remembering what happened first.
Distinguished Developer: German psychologist Hermann Ebbinghaus (1850 – 1909)

UNDERSTANDING the primacy effect ensures that we make better judgments in our day-to-day LIFE.
PRIMACY EFFECT aids one in recalling information seen first, better than the one presented later on.
GIVEN a long list of words, one often remembers words listed at the beginning, instead of the middle.
READILY, the way we receive raw data, has proven to be a critical factor in the decision-making process.
AN individual’s opinion can easily be manipulated or skewed based on their first impression of an object.
DO not make rash purchasing decisions based on first impressions; always weigh options based on fact.
ENSURE that you do not fall prey to advertising and marketing gimmicks and make an informed choice.
Timely Therapy: - Beware, so long as you live, of judging humans or things by their outward appearance.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
“Forgetfulness is an indispensable condition of memory.” - French playwright and poet A. Jarry (1873 - 1907)

“Footfalls echo in the memory
Down the passage which we did not take
Towards the door we never opened
Into the rose-garden. My words echo
Thus, in your mind.”
- U.S.-born British poet and playwright T. S. Eliot (1888 - 1965).
I take one bite from a chocolate bar.
I now desire another bite even more than before I took the first bite.
RESEARCH:
Bargh and Pietromonaco showed some people neutral words, whilst others were shown hostile words, very briefly flashed up on a computer screen. Both groups then read about a character with ambiguous behaviour. Those who had been primed with hostile words interpreted the behaviour as more hostile.
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Priming Effect is how some ideas prompt other ideas later on unintentionally.
Distinguished Developers: American psychologists David E. Meyer (b. 1943) and Roger W. Schvaneveldt (b. 1941)

UNAWARE of the connection, certain stimulus influences people’s response to a subsequent stimulus.
PURELY, these stimuli are often related to words or images that you see during your day-to-day LIFE.
GIVEN, you are presented with the word ‘doctor’, and a moment later, with the words ‘nurse’ and ‘cat’.
RECOGNIZING the word ‘nurse’, far much faster than the word ‘cat’, is what you are more disposed to.
ALL of this occurs minus your conscious awareness; the two medics are closely associated in your mind.
DILIGENTLY primed, we can behave in certain ways based on things we have read, watched, and heard.
EFFECTIVELY through a ‘behavioural pump’, companies dramatically influence consumer decision-making.
Timely Therapy: - Captivity in the prison of woeful unawareness, in a no-man’s-land of ignorance is deathly.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
“Time is the only critic without ambition,” thus ardently affirmed U.S. novelist John Steinbeck (1902 - 1968)

“God gave us our memories so that we might have roses in December.” - British playwright and novelist J. M. Barrie (1860 - 1937) in Rectorial address, St. Andrews University.
“Glanced sideway, leaving the tumultuous throng
To cut across the reflex of a star;
Image, that flying still before me, gleamed
Upon the glassy plain.”
- British poet William Wordsworth (1770 - 1850)
This poem became part of Book 1 (Introduction—Childhood and School-Time) of The Prelude (1850), ll. 449-452.
“Influence of Natural Objects in Calling Forth and Strengthening the Imagination in Boyhood and Early Youth”
What did you do in the last hour?
What about the last day?
Last week?
Year?
RESEARCH:
Miller and Campbell (1959) recorded proceedings from a trial, with a combination of sequences of arguments for and against the plaintiff, sometimes with delays of a week between parts and the judgment, that they sought from experimental participants. The results showed that when there was no delay between the first and second message, but then a week’s delay before the judgment, a primacy effect occurred. When there was a delay between the first and second message, but no gap between the second message and the judgment, then a recency effect occurred.
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Recency Effect is how we remember recent stuff.
Distinguished Developer: German psychologist Hermann Ebbinghaus (1850 – 1909).

UNINFLUENCED, what determines the ability to accurately recall items on a list is their location.
POSITIONED at the end of the list, or items learned most recently are recalled best (recency effect).
GRANTED, the first few items are also recalled better than those found in the middle (primacy effect).
RECENCY effect is dependent upon short-term memory (also known as active or primary memory).
ABILITY to hold a relatively small amount of memory for a brief period of time, is what this entails.
DECISEVELY, short-term memory only lasts between 15 and 30 seconds without active maintenance.
ESSENTIALLY, if you do not rehearse that information, it will quickly be lost and fade from memory.
Timely Therapy: - Never try to memorize what you do not understand; that is an insult to your PSYCHE.

Munificent Music

R#62. On feeling melodies as IRRITATING noises to be kept at bay at any cost.

BQ#13. What density of ENTHRALLMENT, INNOCULATES IRRITATION, as a function of lucidly listening to MUNIFICENT MUSIC?--->

“Jazz is a music which is perpetually in motion, a living music which will never fall...into the funereal sleep of many chefs d’oeuvre which often give the impression of having been imprisoned in a pickle jar.”
- French jazz writer and impresario Hugues Panassie (1912 - 1974)

“The blues is an art of ambiguity, an assertion of the irrepressibly human over all circumstance whether created by others or by one's own human failings. They are the only consistent art in the United States which constantly remind us of our limitations while encouraging us to see how far we can actually go.”
- U.S. writer, jazz musician, and photographer Ralph Ellison (1914 - 1994)

“Music-hall songs provide the dull with wit, just as proverbs provide them with wisdom.”
- British writer Somerset Maugham (1874 - 1965)

“The fact is there are no rules, and there never were any rules, and there never will be any rules of musical composition except rules of thumb, and thumbs vary in length, like ears...Music will express any emotion, base or lofty, she is absolutely unmoral.”
- Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950)

“We are the music makers,
We are the dreamers of dreams,
Wandering by lone sea-breakers,
And sitting by desolate streams;
World-losers and world-forsakers,
On whom the pale moon gleams:
We are the movers and shakers
Of the world for ever, it seems
For each age is a dream that is dying,
Or one that is coming to birth.”
- English poet and natural historian Arthur William Edgar O’Shaughnessy (1844 - 1881)

“O chestnut tree, great rooted blossomer,
Are you the leaf, the blossom or the bole?
O body swayed to music; O brightening glance,
How can we know the dancer from the dance?”
- Irish poet and playwright W. B. Yeats (1865 - 1939)

“There is music in the air, music all round us: the world is full of it, and you simply take as much as you require.”
- British composer, conductor, and violinist Edward Elgar (1857 - 1934)

“We are finding that the universe is composed not of matter but of music.”
- American chemistry expert Dr. Donald Hatch Andrews (1898 - 1973)

“See deep through and you see musically;
The heart of Nature being everywhere music,
If you can only reach it.”
- Scottish essayist and historian Thomas Carlyle (1795 - 1881)

“Music is one of the attributes of matter...Infinitesimal portions of air plash and sing about the angles and hollows of sand-grains, as perfectly composed and predestined as the rejoicing anthems of worlds.”
- U.S. naturalist and explorer John Muir (1838 - 1914)

“Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought.”
- English poet Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792 - 1822)

“I don’t write modern music. I only write good music.”
- Russian-born U.S. composer Igor Stravinsky (1882 - 1971), to journalists on his first visit to the United States.

“I have always believed that I need a circumference of silence. As to what happens when I compose, I really haven’t the faintest idea.”
- U.S. composer Samuel Barber (1910 - 1981)

“It is evidently known, beyond contradiction, that New Orleans is the cradle of jazz, and I, myself, happened to be the creator in the year 1902...Jazz music is a style, not compositions; any kind of music may be played in jazz, if one has the knowledge.”
- U.S. jazz pianist, composer, and bandleader Jelly Roll Morton (1890? - 1941)

“Music to me is a sound sensation, assimilation, anticipation, adulation, and reputation.”
- U.S. jazz bandleader, pianist, and composer Duke Ellington (1899 - 1974)

“Music is my mistress and she plays second fiddle to no one.”
- U.S. jazz bandleader, pianist, and composer Duke Ellington (1899 - 1974)

“Whether an album sells or not is not of consequence. The reward for me is in the process. If it sells...then that’s a bonus.”
- U.S. singer, film actor, director, and producer Barbra Streisand (1942 - )
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MUSIC — A UNIVERSAL HUMAN PHENOMENON — is structured tonal sound moving in time and space. From its origins in the primitive imitation of nature’s sounds — songs of birds, calls of animals, and waves of the ocean — music has evolved into organised forms that have varied in style and idiom from century to century and culture to culture. Sound is an ordinary natural phenomenon. Music on the other hand, is the result of human being’s conscious development of sound, into an art and science. --->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of MUNIFICENT MUSIC thus:

Meritorious mode of expression which is essentially cross-cultural.
Universal means of communication, due to its nonverbal nature.
Nourishes personal growth and boosts PSYCHIC development.
It is an eminently functional, adaptive as well as aesthetic modality.
Facilitates learning and the acquisition of essential LIFE skills.
Its intrinsic qualities organises the individual as well as groups.
Contributes to the attainment of the goal of SELF-ACTUALIZATION.
Effects personal change and key in oiling interpersonal relations.
Nurtures physiological and mental responses by energising the SELF.
Truly penetrates mind and body directly due to its sound stimulus.

Mediation, stimulation, evocation and expression of joy.
Unravel and release old patterns, habits and beliefs.
Spiritual awakening and accessing the elemental powers.
Integrating the body, mind and soul for utmost working.
Communication conduit to access the Divine dimension.

“Hear what the artists hear, and listen to the music the way they should, the way I do.”- American rapper Andre Romelle Young, alias Dr. Dre (b. 1965). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: REAPING the ENTHRALLMENT for INDICTING IRRITATION, to be refreshed by melodies.--->

MUSIC when used therapeutically, can be very effective in curing even the worst psychological abuses like trauma. When styled in a mentally stimulating, physically challenging and socially integrating manner, MUSIC can take many people from the pits of depression to a heights of a stronger self. It can make people more aware of their potential, and enable them to face challenges with a more positive outlook, and a renewed self-esteem.

Reverentially REAP your deep desire to INDICT IRRITATION.
SOULFUL music can do that which language could never do, that painting can never do, or sculpture.
UNTAINTED music goes directly to the source of the mystery. It does not explain it; only celebrates it.
MUSIC expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which it is impossible to remain silent.
MITIGATING the maladies of the soul – and in particular those concerning love - is music’s POWER.
AFTER silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is simply the purity of music.
REGGEA musician Bob Marley sung; “One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.”
YES, LIFE is for the living; death is for the dead. Let LIFE be like MUSIC; and death a note unsaid.

PREPARE yourself to diligently REAP the creative ‘capacity’ for INDICTING IRRITATION.

Positive in our future goals, we cannot simply afford to have a continent of malingerers and invalids.
Real hope for new Africa lies in bodily fitness, alloyed to mental health as well as emotional balance.
Every SELF-ACTUALISED individual is a subtle combination of a gental nature, with great courage.
Painstakingly, we do not at all want a continent of pure prize-fighters, weight lifters or lone thinkers.
Accordingly, through music, the soul basically learns harmony and rhythm, and disposition to justice.
Rhythm and harmony find their way into the secret places of the PSYCHE and the depth of the soul.
Essentially, as music revels and bears grace in PSYCHIC movements it then makes it more graceful.

REALISE that REAPING your innate ‘quest’ for INDICTING IRRITATION is in your ‘power.’

Real music moulds character. As such, it shares in determining important social and political issues.
Every fundamental moral of society or law of the state changes, with changes in the modes of music.
Absolute valuability and vitality of music is rousing refinement of feeling and strength of character.
Lovely music is very vital in treatment, preservation and restoration of bodily and mental HEALTH.
In music, the unconscious sources of the psyche are transcedentally touched and spiritually soothed.
Soul music prepares the subtle substrata of behaviour and feeling, where genius sinks its deep roots.
Every conscious person (old or young), may then attain to true or inspiried intuition through music.

EMPOWER yourself to REAP your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for INDICTING IRRITATION.

Ennobling music, lends grace and health to the Spirit, as alloyed to standard strength in the Body.
Most vital, too much music is as dangerous and lethal, as too much athletics or excessive eating.
Purely and merely being a musician, is to be melted and softened BEYOND what is necessarily good.
Only music can provide attractive, nourishing forms for the unappetising contents of ‘hard sciences’.
When seemingly difficult studies are smoothed into verse and then beautified with song, this is LIFE.
Elements of complex instruction should be presented to the mind in the most musical way possible.
Readily, music endows you with a flexible MIND; will never be mentally plater-casted into routine.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to REAP the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of INDICTING IRRITATION.

Music listenting activates a multitude of brain structures involved in complex cognitive processing.
Engaging music modulates activities of brain strutures which are involved in modulation of emotions.
Disorders such as clinical depression as well as pathological anxiety can be treated by music therapy.
In fending focus from experiences evoking negative stimuli (e.g. sadness) music captures attention.
Attention-deficit disorders and tittinus can be apparently handled or really treated by music therapy.
Therapeautic music can be used to treat dysfuctions in the nervous, hormonal or immune systems.
Effects of music therapy on the facilitation of Alzheimer’s patients’ adaptation is relatively immense.

INDULGE yourself in REAPING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards INDICTING IRRITATION.

In regard to conditioning of behaviours (e.g. movement patterns of walking) music is a vital therapy.
No other medium is enough in training of interpersonal competencies and social skills than music.
Discerning the message of music facilitates in understanding intention and desires of other people.
Uuncontestable evidence for effects of music therapy on the recovery of stroke patients is abundant.
LOVE music induces joy and pleasurable experiences such as “chills” or “shivers down the spine.”
Good music increases blood flow in brain regions involved in the functions of reward and emotions.
Essentially, Music Therapy is both ancient and young; its root deep and its branches ever growing.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for REAPING the ‘compulsion’ of INDICTING IRRITATION.

Use of music is beneficial in allowing one to experience emotions without need for substance use.
Those patients in alcohol, or substance abuse treatment, reports music therapy to be highly effective.
Increasing relaxation and energy level, as well as decreasing impulsiveness is the reserve of music.
Levels of anxiety decreases and sleep quality increases upon exposure to good music (e.g. R&B).
Improvement of self-esteem to the victims of domestic violence is substantially done by good music.
Social or group therapy facilitates self-expression VIA music into self-exploration and self-MASTERY.
Experience of creativity after tranforming frustration, anger and aggression is realised through music.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to REAP INDICTING IRRITATION.

Music has a great impact in helping individuals to explore issues associated with high levels of stress.
Orderly music can clear the skeptical, mistrustful and negative lens through which to view the world.
New visions triggered by music, enables folks to positively deal with rejection, disapproval or hatred.
Interventions for influencing one’s perceived LOCUS of self-control may, be based on Music Therapy.
Therapeautic music helps to develop a postive attitude towards LIFE, leading to PSYCHIC adjustment.
Occupying song writing and lyric analysis, increases personal feeling of acceptance and happiness.
Regrets, guilt, blame, worry, loath, fear and distrust are significantly decreased by Music Therapy.

“I can suck melancholy out of a song,
as a weasel sucks eggs.”
- Shakespeare in As You Like It, Act 2, Scene 5

“I am never merry when I hear sweet music.”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice, Act 5, Scene 1

“Music to hear, why hear’st thou music sadly?
Sweets with sweets war not, joy delights in joy.”
- Shakespeare in Sonnet 8,

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on listening laudably the MUNIFICENT MUSIC:
Noticeably you are now ripe to REAP your lively labour to INDICT IRRITATION.
Blessed is you who has transcended CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
And NURTURING your ennobling exertion.

1. Connecting to a Space Within.--->

Each of us is a moving center, a space of divine mystery. And though we spend most of our time on the surface in the daily details of ordinary existence, most us hunger to connect to this space within, to break through to bliss, to be swept away into something bigger than us. This unconscious yearning of mankind was attributed by American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910), to the reason why alcohol taking, has held most people on its grips: “The sway of alcohol over mankind is unquestionably due to its power to stimulate the mystical faculties of human nature”.

While the effect of alcohol or drug is delusive and destructive in the long run, as it keeps us away from our essential calling, in order to go into deep ecstatic places we have to be willing to transform absolutely everything that gets in our way, to let go everything. Every form of physical inertia of tight and stressed muscles; the emotional baggage of depressed, repressed feelings; the mental baggage of dogmas, attitudes and philosophies. Between the head and feet of any given person is a billion miles of unexplored wilderness; MUSIC like MEDITATION may help us in our yearning to know what is going on in that wilderness.

2. Journey towards our Essence.--->

MUSIC has been used throughout the ages to facilitate personal transformation and social evolution, as well as to represent and facilitate rites of passage; from birth rituals to the entry into manhood, to wedding ceremonies, to the ceremonies of death.

The word ‘Music’ is etymologically translated from French word ‘Musique’ which is derived from Greek word ‘Mousike’ meaning ‘the art of muses’. In Greek mythology the muses were goddesses who inspired and presided over the creative arts. Through MUSIC we can eliminate various obstacles and hindrances in our lives and embark on our journey towards our essence. This idea of MUSIC as a bridge to inner awareness goes way back to legends of Orpheus who was so skilled a lyre player that he used music as a means of charming everything in nature. American writer Thomas Bulfinch (1796 - 1867) in The Age of fables (1855) gave his version of the legend thus:

Orpheus was the son of Apollo [Greek god of prophesy, poetry, and music, also associated with the sun] and the Muse Calliope [the muse of epic poetry]. He was presented by his father with a lyre and taught to play upon it, which he did to such perfection that nothing could withstand the charm of his music. Not only his fellow-mortals, but wild beasts were softened by his strains, and gathering round him laid by their fierceness, and stood entranced with his lay. Nay, the very trees and rocks were sensible to the charm. The former crowded round him and the latter relaxed somewhat of their hardness, softened by his notes.

3. Resonance with the LIFE-force.--->

A little digging into the hidden sources of music shows that the art of music was once tied to medicine and to bringing about the so-called ‘supernatural feats’. It is believed that Hermes Trismegistus of Ancient Egypt developed the philosophy which taught that there is a ‘harmony and correspondence’ among all the different kinds of manifestations in the universe – the circling of the planet, the tides of the earth, the growth of vegetation, the lives of animals and people – all are related. All-that-is in the universe emanates from the same source, according to Hermitic philosophy, and therefore the same laws, principles, and characteristics apply to each unit – ‘As above, so below’.

After looking out at the universe, noting the ratios of the different planetary cycles, counting the rhythmic periodicities in nature, ancient mathematicians were able to calculate the ratios of the human body, and put together a ‘sacred geometry’, a set of mathematical ratios and proportions. They believed that these ratios, if used in the sound of music and the architecture of buildings, would resonate with the LIFE-force of universe and thus enhance LIFE.

4. The Bridge Linking all Things.--->

Like a note on one piano in a hall full of pianos, which when played the same note will resonate on the other instruments enhancing the power of the single note to fill the whole hall, in the same way, the ancients believed that playing certain harmonies and combinations of notes would resonate with other elements in the universe tuned to the same scale. They hypothesised that, through the resonance, we could at will have our ‘single’ notes increased in power, and consequently harmonise and ‘tune in’ to the energies of the planet to open our natural powers.

The so-called ‘music of the spheres’ was thought by Greek philosopher and mathematician Pythagoras in the 6^th century B.C. — and by later classical and medieval philosophers of the Western world — to be a perfectly harmonious music, inaudible on Earth, produced by the movement of the stars and planets.

The ancient schools of music believed that music was the bridge linking all things. Following the ideas of Pythagoras, they built a ‘sacred canon’ of these specific harmonies, intervals, and proportions into their music. When people heard sound made of specific ratios, the rhythms of their cells, bodies, and minds would be synchronised to the very rhythms as the planets and plants, earth and sea. Disharmony and out of synch patterns in mind or body would be dissolved. These particular sounds and rhythms, they thought would enhance LIFE and make it healthier and more abundant; music would be a bridge to the Cosmos.

5. Everything in a State of Vibration.--->

Modern science has illumined that everything in our universe is in a state of vibration. Matter is made up of atoms and each atom is composed of nucleus and protons each with certain types of waves on pulsing vibration. There is commonness between the vibration in a music note in a colour, in the bonds of a chemical, and even the vibration of electrons in an atom, with each vibrating at its specific frequency in ratio. American chemistry expert Dr. Donald Hatch Andrews (1898 - 1973) put it: “We are finding that the universe is composed not of matter but of music.”

Since everything in the universe is in a constant state of vibration, including the human body, even the smallest change in frequency can affect the internal organs. Modern sound therapists consider there is a natural resonance or “note” that is “right” for each part of the human body, and for each individual. So, by directing specific sounds waves to specific areas they can affect the frequency at which that part is vibrating and thereby restore it to balance and therefore health. The point is well consolidated by Paramhansa Yogananda in The Autobiography of a Yogi (1954):

Because man himself is an expression of the creative word, sound exercises on him a potent and immediate effect. Great music, sacred or temporal bestows joy on the human being because it causes a temporary vibrancy awakening of one of his or her occult spinal centers; in those blissful moments a dim memory comes to him or her, of his or her divine essence or transcendental origin.

6. Source of Solemnity and Holiness.--->

In the book The Religious Experience of Mankind (1969), Scottish writer, educator and religious scholar Ninian Smart (1927 - 2001) gives account of solemnity and holiness of Eastern Christianity, of the long and splendid ritual, the beauty of music – a blend of the singing of the Jewish synagogue and the classical chants of Greece – the richness of the vestments and the colour of the icons, all these blended together to make a glorious impression. He gives an example of Russian Grand Duke Vladimir, who in the tenth century A.D. being uncertain about which faith to espouse, sent emissaries to visit both the Western Church and the Church at Constantinople, and when they attended the Liturgy at the great church of St. Sophia, their account was exhilarating:

We did not know whether we were in heaven or on earth. It would be impossible to find on earth any splendour greater than this, and it is vain that we attempt to describe it…Never shall we be able to forget such beauty.

7. Altering Basic Attitude to LIFE.--->

MUSIC can be a persuasive means of expressing the entire range of feelings and emotions and to figure out the features of a human character. As LIFE produces MUSIC and the music affects LIFE making it richer, music has sufficient means to alter a person’s attitude to LIFE; strengthen his or her will power; arouse a number of positive qualities, such as kindness, generosity, nobility and others. MUSIC can become a source of energy. By listening to favourite music, a person can feel a bigger moral strength and a stronger wish to commence or continue a desired activity. Beautiful MUSIC decorates life; makes people kinder; develops positive spiritual qualities. In Light Emerging, Barbara Ann Brennan (b.1939) explains some of the effects of music on the human energy field:

Music plays a very important role in health and healing. Many healers use music to help calm the auric field or bring it to high vibrational heights to help the client go into a healing state. The wide variety of music offers us a wide variety of effects. Some music is very soothing; some charges the field. Some music directly enhances altered states, and other music awakens the rational mind. There is a lot of New Age music out now that charges and opens each chakra in sequence as it is played. Some is wonderful for meditation. In the trainings given by the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, we use music all the time to bring students to different states of consciousness for healing. For example, drum music is very good for grounding down to connect with earth energies and to open the first and second chakras…..we regularly use harp music to take us into the experience of the essence of the core. A regular diet of music helps us remain healthy. The types of music you choose will be directly related to the types of energies that compose your energy field and what type of personal learning you are doing at any particular moment.

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Music and YOUTH:--->

If playing is to children what work is to all adults,
Music is to the YOUTHS what praying is to monks.
Playing helps the child to explore and experiment.
Work helps the adult to acquire health and wealth.
Music can help you to channel your rogue appetites.
It may help you to quell the murmurs of passions.
Play, work, pray and immerse in therapeautic music.

Healing power since antiquity:--->

The healing power of music is well illustrated in the book of 1 Samuel 16: 23,
Where David skillfully played harp and soothed King Saul from his depressions.
Science has shown that MUSIC really does kill pain, reduce stress and depression.
Music may really better our brains and basically change how we experience LIFE.
Music rhythm, melodies and tonal qualities may put the patient in a peaceful state.
Health professionals are playing therapeutic music to improve their clients’ healing.
This is being done in hospitals, hospices, and a variety of many clinical settings.

Physiological benefits:--->

Studies have led to the conclusion that, MUSIC ‘significantly’ lowers the heart rates.
It calms and regulates the blood pressures and respiration rates of surgery patients.
Music is very good at helping improve motor skills in patients recovering from strokes.
It boosts the immune system, improves mental focus, and really helps to control pain.
It creates a feeling of well-being and greatly reduces anxiety of patients awaiting surgery.
Scientists also have confirmed that MUSIC definitely provokes experienced memories.
We do not even have to hear a song - we just think of it and the memories flood in.

Energizing our spirit:--->

MUSIC in its right context can act as the bridge from conscious to the unconscious.
It helps in opening body and mind to higher powers besides amplifying awareness.
Like religion it unconditionally brings in its train a deep feeling of empowerment.
Music energises our spirit and arouses all the moral virtues to the heart it enters.
No heart is unworthy or so much hardened to be immune from an elevating music.
Music lifts us on its lullaby to the world less brutal and nourishing than the earth.
It soothes us with its rhythm; relieves pain, improves digestion and stimulates love.

Altered States of Consciousness (ASC):--->

One of the principal powers of music is to induce altered states of consciousness.
These altered states of consciousness (ASC’s) ranges from a very relaxed state.
They go to a much deeper state, where non-ordinary realities can be experienced.
One may reach a state whereby one ‘being’ melts in the ocean of ‘Supreme Being’.
There are many ways to enter such states, like the meditation outlined in this SITE.
But music has always been one of the primary entrance points to these inner states.
Not all music can do this, but some like the Mozarts, are capable of inducing them.

Awakening the inner states:--->

It is not that the music creates these inner realities or their contents, to everyone.
These inner states are all distinctly different for each person, and varies with taste.
Rather, the music opens a kind of inner space in which certain experiences can occur.
Certain kinds of music have the power to pull an inner curtain aside, so to speak.
One becomes temporarily aware of parts of oneself which are usually inaccessible.
Music may be key to enhancing intelligence and learning to unlock the creative spirit.
With its many benefits, music may evoke specific emotions such as loss and sadness.

Music improved the LIFE of our ancestors:--->

The reason why our ancestors enjoyed a harmonious existence and long live is clear.
They were able to integrate MUSIC into the very fabric of their private and public life.
In the garden or performing domestic duties MUSIC became an indispensable aspect.
their LIFE was interwoven with festivals, from planting, to weeding, to harvesting.
From birth, to initiation, to paying dowry, to marriage, to mourning the departed ones.
Songs were well crafted to suit each event, the circumcision, marriage, even the war.
Each music was accompanied by its unique kind of replenishing DANCE movement.

Music therapy is readily available:--->

With the improved technologies in entertainment and communication industries,
It remains a disgust why we should not enjoy the infinite amount of music in our time.
Hearing a favourite song on the radio or enjoying the music from a live band is refreshing.
This mood enhancing and also cleansing effect is one of the reasons for music therapy.
Every age group enjoys MUSIC – the one of the youths may differ from that of the old.
This enjoyment is not limited by any sort of physical or mental or even spiritual challenge.
It is becoming more and more the perfect way to help people in a therapeutic manner.

Effectiveness of Movie Music:--->

Music is an effective means of expressing and dealing with feelings and emotions.
It deals with reality that can be difficult to express through verbal communication.
Some kinds of MUSIC make the heart glow and facilitates higher consciousness.
Music as an effective nonverbal means of communication, is in the ‘Movie Music’.
It has an inherent potential to signal us when something scary is about to happen.
In a good movie music, if one closes ones eyes, in an action, horror or thriller movie,
One can pretty much tell what is really happening on the screen by the music alone.

Seek for plenty music in your life:--->

The power of music to enhance learning, creativity or relaxation, is inexhaustible.
Besides this boundless communicative ability, its therapeutic power is also limitless.
No feeling, except the extremes of fear and grief that does not find relief in music.
You should have no other mortal wants if you could always have plenty of music.
It seems to infuse armour and strength into your limbs and ideas into your brain.
Life seems to go on with loveliness, without effort, when one is filled with music.
Life without music would be a mistake, or would be horrible if not unendurable.

Hearing is superior to seeing:--->

Our early connection and orientation to sound is another reason for its power.
The ear, which we now know is active in the womb, has an advantage over the eye.
The ear has a head start over the eye, which does not see anything until it comes out.
The visual ability of the eye is also something that one can control more fully and easily.
If you do not like the way I look, and you do not want to see me, you can close your eyes.
But if you do not like my voice, then you cannot simply shut your ears in a natural way.
Sound literally penetrates the human body, as opposed to vision which is superficial.

We learn music right in the womb:--->

As human being we begin learning about the goodness of music even before birth.
The human relationship to sound can be traced back to between 17 and 19 weeks.
This is the time where the foetus begins to slowly develop an auditory system.
Since that time we get immersed in a world of sound, of breath and heartbeat.
Since that time we are exhilarating in the world of subtle rhythm and vibration.
When music that can penetrate the womb is absent, the fetus is in a musical state.
It is surrounded by those bodily rhythms — heartbeat and the pulse and breath.

Music is better than narcotics:--->

The stimulation of MUSIC upon the soul, and tendency to keep tune it is natural.
It is something we inherited from our earliest human evolutionary ancestors.
Sport psychologists have learned how to devise soundtracks that are powerful.
Powerful as some of the illegal substances that athletes commonly take to excel.
Music is a great way to regulate mood both before and during physical activity.
A lot of athletes use music as if it is a legal drug; as a stimulant or as a sedative.
Loud upbeat music has a stimulating effect and slow music reduces arousal.

Music as key to motivation:--->

When a person engages in any sort of sport, listening to music works out wonders.
First, by reducing one’s perception of how hard one is working by about 10 percent.
In low-to-moderate intensity activity. In high intensity activity, it does not work well.
Because your brain screams at you to pay attention to physiological stress signals.
Music has been seen to serve as a uniting factor in mass celebrating of sports events.
One of the key causes of motivation is satisfaction of an emotional need for relatedness.
Music creates a common bond, a social gel that allows you to almost satisfy this need.

Music and exercise:--->

Music elevates the positive aspects of mood, such as viguor, excitement and happiness.
Music is also good at reducing depression, tension, fatigue, anger and confusion.
Music can be used to set your pace; the beats or rhythms can be a good exercise-guide.
Music can be used to overcome fatigue and control one’s emotions around competition.
Research has indicated that, music is most effective boost when we are losing steam.
Not as a constant stimulus, such that for those who are at the gym or doing some jogs.
Two workouts with music are vital to every one without, so the effect is not dulled.

Music and social cohesion:--->

The cohesive ability is of MUSIC makes it an indispensable factor in all social events.
If we first focus on the passive role played by many in regard to MUSIC & DANCING.
Relaxation may be brought about from the joy of watching other sing and dance.
That in itself is a healing for the people because they are able to set aside all turmoil.
They shed strife for that moment in time and come together in laughter and happiness.
That creates for them an alternative emotional state and creates a healing for them.
It illumines that there is reason to rejoice, there is more than just hard work and toil.

As such, we usurp our religious duty of laying down
The 10 CATEGORICAL COMMANDMENTS on MUSIC:--->

In MUSIC we may experience who we really are, feel whole, be pushed over the top of joy and appreciation of LIFE in its totality.
In MUSIC we may reclaim our brilliant ability to disappear in something bigger, something safe, a space without a critic or a judge or an analyst.
In MUSIC we may fall in love with the spirit in all things, to wipe out memory or transform it into moves that nobody else can make because they did not live it.
In MUSIC we may hook up to the true genius lurking behind all everything - to seek refuge in our originality and our power to reinvent ourselves.
In MUSIC we may shed the past, forget the future and fall into the NOW; in the possession of the beat, the thrill of music everything is drown out.
In MUSIC we may find a lover that never disappoints and, like all lovers, it demands absolute surrender; being seduced to undreamable moves.
In MUSIC we may rock our world, break down walls, letting go of everything that impedes our inner silence; towards ultimate freedom.
In MUSIC we may anchor our survival, and be offered a yellow brick road to make it through the chaos that is the tempo of our times.
In MUSIC we may locate the fastest, most direct route to the individual TRUTH; the get down and personal kind, the what-is-happening-in-me-right-now kind of TRUTH.
In MUSIC we may shed skins, tear off masks, crack moulds, and experience the breakdown - the shattering of borders between body, heart and mind, between genders and generations, between nations and nomads.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #13
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#13 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
LIFE is too short to wallow in grief; arouse unto yourself joyous moods and more positive feelings will ensue.

I like going to the movies.
I am feeling good this evening.
I know – I will go to the movies!
RESEARCH:
Eich and his associates got people into good or bad moods, gave them neutral words and asked them what past memories came to mind. The memories recalled often had associated moods similar to those that had been induced.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Mood Memory outlines how we recall things that match our current mood.
Distinguished Developers: Blaney (1986), Eich, Macauley and Ryan (1994).

UNDENIABLY, our present MOOD will affect the memories that are most easily available to us.
PUT in a positive light, when we are in a good mood we recall good memories (and vice versa).
GENERAL associative nature of memory means that we do store happy memories in a linked set.
RECALLING of mood-congruent material is timelessly facilitated by mood-congruent memory.
A situational instance here is, when we are happy, we are more likely to remember happy events.
DEPENDENT memory: the congruence of current mood with that, at the time of memory storage.
EXAMPLE: when we are happy, we are more likely to remember other times when we were happy.
Timely Therapy: - To remember something, get into the mood you were in when you experienced it.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
“Subdue your appetites my dears, and you’ve conquered human nature,” so said Charles Dickens (1812 - 1870)

“When he was angry, one of his eyes became so terrible, that no person could bear to behold it; and the wretch upon whom it was fixed, instantly fell backward, and sometimes expired. For fear, however, of depopulating his dominions and making his palace desolate, he but rarely gave way to his anger.”
- British writer and art collector William Beckford (1760 - 1844)
“Yet when I approach
her loveliness, so absolute she seems
And in her self complete, so well to know
Her own, that what she wills to do or say,
Seems wisest, virtuousest, discreetest, best.”
- English writer John Milton (1608 - 1674)
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty;
and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
- King James Bible, Proverbs 16:32
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”
- King James Bible, James 1:19-20
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Restraint Bias explains why we assume we can control urges.
Distinguished Developer: Nordgren, van Harreveld and van der Pligt (2009)

USUAL Restraint Bias is the tendency to overestimate one’s ability to control IMPULSIVE behaviour.
PUERILE, inflated self-control belief may lead to exposure to temptation, and increased impulsiveness.
GHASTLY, someone might use drugs, simply because they believe they can resist any potential addiction.
REAL person’s inability to control, or their temptation can come from several different visceral impulses.
AROUSAL, hunger and fatigue are impulses which provide information on how to keep the body satisfied.
DUE Empathy Gap Effect deals with the trouble of appreciating the power of impulse states on behaviour.
EMPATHY gap (cold-to-hot): In a cold state (well fed), one underestimates those influences in a hot state.
Timely Therapy: - Focusing attention to oneself can lead to successful SELF-control which is helpful in LIFE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
Loath dwelling on lamentation, guilt and misery; LIFE is just a Bowl of Cherries, so keep your sunny side up.

In the glad book Pollyanna (1913), in a fundamentally honest and straightforward way, U.S writer Eleanor Hodgman Porter (1868 - 1920) examines the trials of life — poverty, loneliness, and illness — and concludes that a cheerful child’s presence can alleviate social and personal bitterness. Pollyanna makes people see the good in life rather than the sad and negative. The book is not, however, a sermon, nor is its tone preachy. It is a solid adventure - romance tale with many familiar but engaging elements. The poor orphan girl arrives in a strange place, lives in the ‘big house on the hill,’ and, through her liveliness and curiosity, explores and conquers a new environment. High spirited and free of prejudice, Pollyanna is the only person in the small New England town willing to talk and associate with everyone. Nothing she does is cruel; when she breaks a rule, it usually results in some good for someone else. Pollyanna’s fans include adults as well as children and young adults. Porter’s basic theme, namely that even in the darkest situations people can find something to be glad about, seemed to appeal to everyone. Even prison inmates founded a branch of the Glad Club. Restaurants, resorts, apartment houses, commercial products, and babies were named after Pollyanna. One observer of the Pollyanna phenomenon commented that it was nearly as influential an event as the First World War. Pollyanna, as both a literary creation and a cultural phenomenon, is one of the important and influential landmarks of the twentieth century.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Valence Effect affirms our tendency to be optimistic.
Distinguished Developers: Rosenhan, D.L. and Messick, S. (1966).

UNDISPUTED Valence of anything is the emotional charge that we feel when we think about it.
POSITIVE or negative EMOTION is what this can be and indicates positive or negative Valence.
GENERALLY, it is natural for us humans to want good things and so we think more about them.
REALISTIC is what slight pessimism is likely to make you, because of the bias towards optimism.
ALL those whose future is in jeopardy, such as the terminally ill can be more realistic in this way.
DECISIVE ‘Pollyanna’ effect is where people sees good in all things and are OVERLY optimistic.
ESSENTIAL optimism is helpful, but being unremittingly positive is not the best survival strategy.
Timely Therapy: - Play to the tendency of the valence effect and be positive when persuading others.

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Delightful Dancing

R#63. On seeing twisting, and shaking of bodily part in rhythmical STIMULATION as simply childish.

BQ#14. What intensity of FOCUS is persuasive in SEEKING STIMULATION, as a function of charmingly caricaturing DELIGHTFUL DANCING?--->

“Dancing is the loftiest, the most moving, the most beautiful of the arts, because it is no mere translation or abstraction from life; it is life itself.”
- British psychologist and author Havelock Ellis (1859 - 1939)

“On with the dance! let joy be unconfined;
No sleep till morn, when Youth and Pleasure meet
To chase the glowing Hours with flying feet.”
- British poet Lord Byron (1788 – 1824)

“The curious wanderings of these griots—the wandering African dancers and drum-beaters—through the yellow desert northward into the Maghreb country...then...into Constantinople where they place the old Congo airs for the great population...whom no laws or force can keep within doors when the sound of griot music is heard.”
- Greek-born U.S. writer Lafcadio Hearn (1850 - 1904)

“David danced before the Lord with all his might; and David was girded with a linen ephod. So David and all the house of Israel brought up the ark of the Lord with shouting, and with the sound of the trumpet.”
- King James Bible II Samuel 6:14-15

“A dancer is rather like a nun. Not a nun like we had in Black Narcissus, but a devotee.”
- British filmmaker Michael Powell (1905 - 1990)

“A kind of madness is involved. When pubescent girls have any inclination toward dancing at all, they are fairly driven by the frenzy.”
- U.S. dancer and choreographer Agnes de Mille (1905 - 1993)

“All the dancer's gestures are signs of things, and the dance is called rational, because it aptly signifies and displays something over and above the pleasure of the senses.”
- Numidian Christian theologian and Doctor of the Church Saint Augustine of Hippo (354 - 430)

“Dancing is a very crude attempt to get into the rhythm of life.”
- Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950)

“Hence it is from the representation of things spoken by means of posture and gesture that the whole of the art of dance has been elaborated.”
- Greek philosopher Plato (428? BC - 347? BC)

“Other arts may have from time to time some strange champions, but they have never at any one period been given over mainly into the keeping of fanatical women and emasculated men. In all primitive societies, dancing is the chief concern of the warriors and the priests. Women are rarely permitted to participate and then only in a subsidiary fashion.”
- U.S. dancer and choreographer Agnes de Mille (1905 - 1993), referring to ballet.

“Sometimes I think that dancing, like youth, is wasted on the young.”
- Russian-born U.S. editor and social scientist Max Lerner (1902 - 1992)

“What are the connections that unite and separate music and dance? In my opinion, the one does not serve the other. There must be a harmonious accord, a synthesis of ideas. Let us speak, on the contrary, of the struggle between music and choreography.”
- Russian-born U.S. composer Igor Stravinsky (1882 - 1971)

“Whenever a dance fever has gripped the public, moralists have inveighed against it as the work of the devil...Hopping dances and ring dances were condemned...in 1209, and the waltz was violently opposed for its ‘immorality’ at the end of the eighteenth century.”
- U.S. editor and critic William Livingstone

“Will you, won’t you, will you, won’t you, will you join the dance?”
- British writer and mathematician Lewis Carroll (1832 - 1898)

“All the disasters of mankind, all the fatal misfortunes that histories are so full of, the blunders of politicians, the miscarriages of great commanders, all this comes from want of skill in dancing.”
- French playwright Molière (1622 - 1673)

“At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh nor fleshless;
Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is,
But neither arrest nor movement.”
- U.S.-born British poet and playwright T. S. Eliot (1888 - 1965)

“Hence, with her sister arts, shall dancing claim
An equal right to universal fame;
And Isaac’s Rigadoon shall love as long
As Raphael’s painting, or as Virgil’s song.”
- English poet and politician Soame Jenyns (1704 - 1787)

“I compare...dance...to water...Everyone knows what water is or what dance is, but...fluidity makes them intangible...Music at least has a literature, a notation.”
- U.S. dancer and choreographer Merce Cunningham (1919 - )

“I could dance with you till the cows come home. Better still, I’ll dance with the cows till you come home.”
- U.S. comedian and film actor Groucho Marx (1895 - 1977)

“I dance not to entertain but to help people better understand each other...Because through dance I have experienced the wordless joy of freedom, I seek it more fully now for my people and for all people everywhere.”
- Trinidadian-born U.S. dancer, choreographer, and anthropologist Pearl Primus (1919 - 1994), referring to being black and a dancer.

“It is the drummer who regulates the tone and pace of the dance, who decides when it is appropriate to introduce the 'breaks' or 'feints' which so often induce possession and who...invokes the loi or god to enter that individual. It is not unusual for the drummers themselves to become possessed while drumming.”
- U.S. choreographer, dancer, and scholar Katherine Dunham (1909 - 2006), referring to Haitian ritualistic dances.

“It is the one physical performance possible to women that does not carry with it either moral responsibility or physical hazard. It constitutes a true recapturing of pagan freedom and childish play. It can be even a complete although unconscious substitute for physical love, and in the lives of the greatest dancers it usually assumes this function.”
- U.S. dancer and choreographer Agnes de Mille (1905 - 1993), referring to women ballet dancers.

“Never...have I moved so lightly. I was no longer a human being. To hold the most adorable creature in one’s arms and fly around with her like the wind, so that everything around us fades away.”
- German poet, playwright, and scientist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 - 1832), describing the sensation of dancing.

“No sober man dances, unless he happens to be mad.”
- Roman orator and statesman Cicero (106 - 43 BC)

“Of dancers, 38 percent show anorexic behavior. The average...dancer...is thinner than 95 percent of the female population...a near skeleton and the texture of men’s musculature where the shape and feel of a woman used to be.”
- U.S. writer Naomi Wolf (1962 - ), in The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women
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BANKING ON THE IDEA THAT ‘the body and mind are inseparable’ to reap most from MUSIC, we should also be delighted dancers, who by using the medium of DANCE, should strive to locate that ‘unique unity’ of our bodies, minds and spirits, which can provide a sense of wholesome to us. By learning movements that reflects our personalities and by improvising movements that can allow us to experiment with new ways of being, body and mind interact in a way that we reach the sphere where there is a consummation between the music and the dance. It is here where we may witness the fullest scope for our imagination and attain – however remotely - a glance of eternity. When all is said and done, it is a categorical assertion here that, anyone who cannot lift one’s leg in response to a certain musical rhythm, who cannot twist his or her body to match a certain musical beat, who can not revel in the synchronicity of one’s spirit with a certain musical melody, is not a truly human being, but a crude assemblage of bones, flesh and blood. At the same time, through total devotion, and absolute surrender, DANCE becomes a sure means of connecting with the Divine, as immense joy, compassion and love permeates our every nerve. This is what the chief proponent of spiritual dance Iris J. Stewart illumined: “Dance is divinity, a natural state of grace in which we all reside. In its sacred form, dance is a language that reunites the body, soul, and mind. Working throughout the body, we integrate energetic information directly at the cellular level.” --->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of DELIGHTFUL DANCING thus:

Delightfully the most persuasive means of connecting with the Divine.
Each one should design a dancing style unique to self and situation.
LIFE experience deepens, by expanding expression through dance.
Improving the overall PSYCHIC health in an enjoyable manner.
Gaining a solid sense of self, as based on a clear sense of direction.
Harnessing personal creativity by seeing issues in broadened sense.
Twisting one’s body to match a music beat is the most redeeming act.
Feeling oneself as connected to the ultimate source of all things
Unleashing your LIFE-FORCE towards SELF-ACTUALIZATION.
Living LIFE fully in the present moment by centering on the self.

Directing, expressing and integrating personal feelings and emotions.
Ascribing to bodily movement as a pervasive and refreshing ritual.
Nourishing our body image, self-confidence, as well as self esteem.
Channelling our vital energies towards other states of consciousness.
Inaugurating physical strength, and verily boosting the immune system.
Nullifying all negative feelings by arousing LIFE-affirming attitudes.
Generating the necessary confidence to face LIFE without awkwardness.

“Life is too short to not have fun; we are only here for a short time….”- American rapper Artis Leon Ivey Jr. alias Coolio (b. 1963). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: NURTURING the FOCUS for SEEKING STIMULATION through bodily rhythmical patterns.--->

The healing power of DANCING upon our body, mind and soul, is immense. It is premised on its ability to help us work out our depression, as we open our eyes and see just how beautiful we are, inside and out. This dssolves hatred and self-loathing. Some situations and encounters in our LIFE may make us feel ugly, worthless, good-for-nothing. But through DANCE, we can twist, twirl and shimmy all the way to a stronger, relaxed and invigorated person.

Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to SEEK STIMULATION.
SEE dancing as a primal urge coming to LIFE at the first moment we need to express JOY.
UNRESTRICTED dancing means being out of yourself, larger, more beautiful, more powerful.
MOTIVATE yourself towards seizing this power; it is glory on earth and it is yours for the taking.
MEANINGFUL dancing is an art – a fun - which transforms emotion into thought and unites them.
ACTIVE dancing, if done consistently, as part of a measured regimen is a form of health insurance.
RUMI (1207 - 1273) proclaimed: “Whosoever knoweth the power of the dance, dwelleth in God.”
YOU should mournfully consider every day LOST, on which you have not danced at least once.

PREPARE yourself to diligently NURTURE the creative ‘capacity’ for SEEKING STIMULATION.

Pure dance is a measured pace, as a verse is a measured speech; a dancer is like a devoted monk.
Realistically, your body may not be a ‘national shrine’, but you can appeal to others through dancing.
Ennobled by dance one IS like, ‘a man of the hour who has appeared at a time when he is needed.’
Patterns from a dance, are the most appealing and lofty attempts to get into the rhythm of LIFE.
Affluent dancing is not just for fun but an art; it transforms emotion into thought and unites them.
Reeling in the dance, you will find yourself move so lightly, as everything around you fades away.
Embodying the gesture and sound of one’s outstanding vitality, a consuming dance oozes true spirit.

REALISE that NURTURING your innate ‘quest’ for SEEKING STIMULATION is in your ‘power.’

Radical connection that unite music and dance is basically a harmonious accord, a synthesis of ideas.
Existence does not relent in affirming: Whosoever knoweth the power of the dance, dwelleth in God.
A body swayed to music is a brightening glance, as you cannot separate the dancer from the dance.
Learn from the Biblical David who was fond of dancing before the Lord with all his might and spirit.
Investing your PSYCHIC apparatus in a dance is what will result in a cathartic enjoyment of dancing.
Serious dancing is a contradiction; dancing is dancing and there should be no grades imposed on it.
Even if you may fail to find happiness in general LIFE, you will never fail to taste its fruits in dancing.

EMPOWER yourself to NURTURE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for SEEKING STIMULATION.

Entertaining oneself through dance is subjective; cannot be compared to dancing to entertain others.
Most drills amounts to entering a convent whence frivolity is banned, and merciless discipline reigns.
Proficiency in professional dancing, cannot be achieved all that easily, except by dint of hard work.
Orchestrated and lasting success depends in a large measure upon individual initiative and exertion.
With wholehearted JOY alloyed to sincere enjoyment, just jump around to the music of your taste.
Emulate only yourself, do not be so desperate to catch up, you need no training, you are not for hire.
Robustness is the goal, never accept to be prettily deranged; go out of your mind with utter realism.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to NURTURE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of SEEKING STIMULATION.

Most arts like poetry are reflective, they stop to think; dance is immediate, it goes on to become.
Enacted choreography is like cooking or gardening; it is just not like painting because painting stays.
Dancing finally disintegrates. Like a garden. Lots of roses come up, and in the evening they are gone.
Intimate dance augments the sense of ‘not being at the center’; elevates the feeling of ‘nothingness.’
A bounty dance is Nature herself, charmed by art; practice not merely the steps; study the passions.
Thrilling in dance, you experiences the wordless joy of freedom, and the blessing of self-awareness.
Effect of dance on the soul, is creating a striking beauty in a situation even if it looks like a vile hell.

INDULGE yourself in NURTURING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards SEEKING STIMULATION.

In LIFE you may have consumed many drugs, but ultimately, dancing will be your best medicine.
No laws or force can keep the PSYCHE within any confinement when it is reveling in a soulful dance.
Dance has to look like the music; if you see music just as an accompaniment, you do not hear it.
Unfortunately, so many youths who have talent are put off by the belief that it is a field of junkies.
Loving to dance intimately can be transformed into a profession which can sustain you in your future.
George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950) on dancing: “A perpendicular expression of a horizontal desire.”
Elaboration of the art of dance is representation of things spoken by means of posture and gesture.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for NURTURING the ‘compulsion’ of SEEKING STIMULATION.

Usually, beauty in dance is often confused with something that lets the soul lie back in an easy chair.
The ultimate purpose of dancing is simply a way to wake up to the very LIFE you are living NOW.
It is so excellent once one gets one’s mind and desires out of its way and lets it act of its own accord.
Loath any attempt at debating dance; it basically strips it of most of its natural mystery and depth.
Indeed, dancing is a thing more than shadows made to the measure of an idea, engraved on glass.
Soberly conscious of your dancing immerses you in a world which no one is privileged to penetrate.
Engaging in a dance needs superb sensitivity, emotional expansiveness, and creative contemplation.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to NURTURE SEEKING STIMULATION.

Most if not all of the dancer’s gestures are signs of things, which is why dance bypasses rationality.
Over and above the basic pleasure of the senses, is what the dance aptly signifies and verily display.
No amount of intellectualism should discourage you from engaging in the pleasurable act of dancing.
Insist on being your own referee in issues of personal dancing; compare yourself to no other person.
The principle is: Between balance and unbalance, fall and recovery, lies the scope of a basic dance.
Only a simple step throws the body off balance; a compensatory movement, restores the balance.
Read the moment’s mood, because, “If you dance at every wedding, you will weep at every funeral.”

“Hark, hark! the lark at heaven’s gate sings
And Phoebus ‘gins arise,
His steeds to water at those springs
On chalic’d flow’rs that lies;
And winking Mary-buds begin
To ope their golden eyes.”
- Shakespeare in Cymbeline, Act 2, Scene 3

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on caricating charmingly DELIGHTFUL DANCING:
Unmistakably you are NURTURING your ennobling exertion to SEEK STIMULATION.
The accumulated energy of CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
And PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
Will ultimately propel you to REAP your lively labour.

1. Relation Between Movement and Emotion.--->

Tapping on what dance have been used for the purposes of expression, ritual and healing for thousands of years, Dance Movement Therapy (DMT) is a specific form of psychotherapeutic use of movement and dance for emotional, cognitive, social, behavioural and physical conditions. Founded on the basis that, movement and emotion are directly related, it was developed in the 1940s in the United States as a way of expressing feelings and thoughts in movement. Its chief goal was to stimulate the healing process from within, and its ultimate purpose is to find a healthy balance and sense of wholeness. It is used to tell a story, gain insight that might be difficult to access verbally and to release rigid or repetitive behaviours.

2. Bypassing the Conscious Mind.--->

Using unchoreographed and spontaneous movement to bypass the conscious mind and increase body awareness, Dance Therapy can be performed alone with a facilitator or therapist to assist in the interpretation of the source of the movement, or the therapist can mirror the movements or discuss what ‘came up’ for the client during the process. It can be used to tell a story, act out a dream, or used for non-verbal expression of issues, emotions and feelings that can then be integrated by the conscious mind. Its supreme advantage is that, it works equally well for highly articulate people and for those less able to express themselves in words, including people with learning disabilities, mental problems, or psychotic illnesses, as well as the severely physically disabled people can experience the liberating effects of dance.

3. Uniting the Ego and Physical Body.--->

Two differing forms of Dance Movement Therapy which have been developed around the world, and are most practiced include Eurythmy and Eutony. EURYTHMY is a movement therapy developed by Austrian philosopher, social reformer, architect, and esotericist, Rudolf Steiner (1861 - 1925) to enhance the relationship between the ego and the physical body. Unlike dance steps and mime, eurythmic movements are choreographed to symbolise sounds, making speech and music ‘visible’ in shapes, gestures and color. Eurythmy is thus sometimes called ‘visible music’ or ‘visible speech’; expressions that originate with its founder, who described it as an ‘art of the soul’.

4. Discovery of Self-Knowledge.--->

EUTONY was developed by Danish teacher Gerda Alexander (1908 - 1994) who emphasised intelligence, sensitivity, and awareness rather than simple physical exercise, to facilitate a patient discovering self-knowledge by exploring their own movements. Claiming to develop the ability to be aware and able to regulate muscular tone, the term was coined to express the idea of a harmoniously balanced ‘tonicity in constant adaptation to the state or activity of the moment’. Some of the healing benefits of Eutony address musculo-skeletal disorders and conditions resulting from psychological issues.

5. Exploring Body’s Capability.--->

Our analysis will be inexhaustive if we fail to mention the American Anna Halprin (b.1920) who is one of the modern-day pioneers of healing dance movement and who often uses her dance movement methods to help those with cancer or AIDS. Once a victim of cancer herself, she helped in pioneering the experimental art form known as Postmodern Dance. Being able to freely explore the capabilities of her own body, she has since 1950’s perfected a systematic way of moving using kinesthetic awareness: “I believe if more of us could contact the natural world in a directly experiential way, this would alter the way we treat our environment, ourselves, and one another”.

6. Unlocking One’s Own Healing Dance.--->

The uniqueness in her techniques is to help others discover their knowledge of their own personal rhythm and movement, and access their body wisdom, strength and desires. Through what she terms as Halprin LIFE/Art Process, her practice is not about teaching any particular dance steps, but helping people unlock their own healing dances, as she describes it:

This method of working with dance seeks to access the life story of each person, and then use this story for the ground for creating art. This is based on the principal that as life experience deepens, personal art expression expands, and as personal art expression expands, life experience deepens….movement can change your feelings. I always incorporate the body. Even if I start with an image, I move it through the body. If nothing changes in the body, your feelings will not change.

7. Mix of Isometric and Isotonic Resistance.--->

Like MEDITATION, DANCING encourages introspection, releasing toxins from the body, the elimination of the waste by-products of conditioning and support thereby getting in touch with the part of us which never takes life too seriously, and sees life as an exciting opportunity to learn, grow and develop. Owing to basic physiological fact that, when we engage in physical activity, our mental as well as our emotional facilities also benefit, a well caricatured movement of the DANCE is the one that provide the perfect mix of isometric and isotonic resistance to shape our bodies without forming bulk muscle. Belly dance for instance increases our endurance and strengthens our cardiovascular system with as much of a workout as any aerobics class. Our posture is improved which improves our overall health. Our joints and spine are nourished by the synovial fluid, thus resulting in less pain and stiffness from arthritis, and our bone density increases.

DISCERN your DISTINCT DANCE to DULY DECIPHER your DIVINE DIRECTION (7D’s)!

Dance as the core of universe:--->

Rhythm is an inherent quality, not only to humans, but to the whole of the cosmos.
From the creation of the universe, to the first heartbeat of the foetus in the womb.
Rhythm and DANCE have always existed, and will continue to catapult existence.
For tens of thousands of years, humans have used dance as an integral part of LIFE.
All societies have used ritual, prayer, in order to reach other states of consciousness.
It has been used for the purpose of healing, and to facilitate contact with the Divine.
Scholars believe that the soul of a people is woven into the steps of their DANCES.

A ceremony for uniting people:--->

A basic DANCING together like the popular Kikuyu dance known as MUGITHI,
Is a kind of ceremony that connects people to joyous dancing is a form of comfort.
It goes further in giving an acknowledgement that, they are really a solid people.
And that what they were doing is absolutely right and they take comfort in that.
It provides them with a healing, not from an illness, but from the arduousness of LIFE.
Many of the moves involve isolations, which improves flexibility of the torso.
It strengthens the entire column of spinal and abdominal muscles in a gentle way.

Prompting the release of endorphins:--->

Dance is a non-impact, weight-bearing exercise and is thus suitable for all ages.
Dance is a good exercise for the prevention of osteoporosis in older people.
It has a profound effect on physiological processes, such as heart rate or breathing.
Enjoyable dancing prompts the release of endorphins, the body’s own painkillers.
In this regard dancing is an easy way to assist the body with fighting pain naturally.
The rhythm of music is also said to treat stress, anxiety, chronic pain, speed healing.
Besides assisting in any recovery, dancing is positively affect breathing and heart rate.

A good recipe for heart health:--->

Looking what makes one happy and have positive effect on heart is impressive.
DANCING as in listening to good music is basically one of the best de-stressors.
It is essentially therapeautic either by dancing, playing or even listening to music.
When one indulges in DANCING, the inner lining of the blood vessel relaxes.
It immediately opens up and produces chemicals that are protective to the heart.
But listening to music which you cannot particularly enjoy is fatal health wise.
The vessels actually began to close up, which is exactly what tension or stress does.

Reversing the dangers of stress:--->

Science says: long-term stress can wreak havoc on the cardiovascular system.
It causes blood vessels to stiffen and become rigid, constricting blood flow.
As people get older, arteriosclerosis, or hardening of the arteries, is a problem.
Constricted vessels can cause blood pressure to rise and increase the risk of stroke.
Stress can also suppress the immune system, contribute to infertility and impotence.
Stress speeds aging, may rewire the brain, leaving you more vulnerable to depression.
Dance counters the effects of stress; it gives us an overall feeling of good, well-being.

Handling the risk of dementia:--->

The effect leisure activities had on the risk of dementia in the elderly is telling.
Dancing is the only physical activity that appears to lower the risk of dementia.
Both intellectual effort and social stimulation involved in DANCING is very vital.
It has been essentially attributed to the reduction of the risk of getting dementia.
Other studies have pointed on the ability of DANCE in helping Parkinson’s patients.
It helps them find ways of moving and to improve the speed at which they move.
With time, they become more mobile, confident and are in some cases able to run.

Individual, community and environment:--->

A well designed dance which allows for individual catharsis and the expressive arts,
When connected with the life concerns and issues of the individual, the community,
And the environment, have a creative and healing role to play in the lives of all people.
Dance can heighten the client’s life force energy, and also improve self confidence.
Dance may provide a general sense of well-being and strengthen the will to live.
The dynamic of healing and strengthening the will to live is not exclusive to dance.
But is associated with being an active participant in one’s own healing process.

Shifting from passivity to activity:--->

Instead of sitting back and passively following doctor’s advice, one should be active.
The experience of movement connected to feelings is very cathartic to say the least.
The encounter basically generates long buried and unknown emotions and images.
When these emotions and images are expressed through movement, we dance.
These dances should be deeply connected to our lives, to our unique personalities.
In this way they really bring about dramatic release and change in our will to live.
We become transformed and our view of the world changes towards the positive.

Expressing the repressed feelings:--->

Be present in your body; notice the feedback between movement and feelings.
This is the first step to release stuck feelings to facilitate the healing process.
Repressed emotions shut down the immune system, causing pain and illness.
You are working toward expression and understanding movement and feelings.
Congruency in a constantly circulation feedback loop facilitates this process.
The key is: body and movement, can be used to express emotions and feelings.
This mode of expression would be difficult or impossible to express with words.

Unearthing deeply buried emotions:--->

Unrestricted and unchoreographed movement can help bring to the surface.
And express feelings or emotions that were unknown or long deeply buried.
Words label what we already know; expressive movement reveals the unknown.
Sensations, feelings, emotions, and images are revealed through movement.
This is also useful in shifting old patterns, habits, and destructive belief systems.
Dance is the most easily accessible way of renewing your immanent life force.
Dance is the only medicine-free way of facing the rigours and buffets of existence.

Accessing the accumulated wisdom:--->

Many people who are seriously ill tend to view their bodies with shame and distrust.
Those with physical challenges harbour a feeling of being betrayed by their bodies.
Through dancing people access the inherent and accumulated wisdom in their bodies.
DANCE and Movement has the capacity to take us to the ultimate home of the soul.
DANCE has the ability to catapult us to the world within for which we have no names.
Movement reaches our deepest nature, and dance creatively expresses and reveals it.
Through DANCE, we can gain new and deep insights into the mystery of our inner lives.

Illuminating the path of healing:--->

When brought forth from inside and forged by the desire to create personal change,
DANCE and movement has the profound power to heal the body, psyche and soul.
DANCE has the power to illuminate the way on our journey through illness and health.
DANCE engages our whole being; emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health.
Our level of consciousness or attitude can greatly affect the outcome of our dances.
And conversely our dances can greatly affect and improve our level of consciousness.
This mutual relationship is what makes DANCING an indispensable part of healing.

Accessibility to the young and old:--->

It is indubitable that DANCING is acknowledgeable for its physical exercise aspect.
Healing comes from the healthy body experience of increasing the heart rate.
It emanates from enhancing cardiovascular endurance, body strength, and flexibility.
The power of DANCE is manifested in its accessibility to nearly every human being.
Excluding only the infants, every person from underage to the overage can dance.
DANCING in its essential nature is a very holistic and integrative healing modality.
This why, the very nature of movement and dance demands that we be fully present.

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Redeeming Religiousness

R#64. On thinking that, BELIEF in a Deity is a clutch for those with broken PSYCHE.

BQ#15. What density of ALTRUISM is imperative in BOOSTING BELIEF, as a function of intimately illumining REDEEMING RELIGIOUSNESS?--->

“The central symbol of Christianity must have, above all else, a psychological meaning, for without this it...would have been relegated long ago to the dusty cabinet of spiritual monstrosities.”
- Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Gustav Jung (1875 - 1961)

“I do not believe in a personal God and I have never denied this but have expressed it clearly. If something is in me which can be called religious then it is the unbounded admiration for the structure of the world so far as our science can reveal it.”
- Albert Einstein

“Among all my patients in the second half of life...there has not been one whose problem in the last resort was not that of finding a religious outlook on life.”
- Carl Gustav Jung

“Despair and suicide are the result of certain fatal situations for those who have no faith in immortality, its joys and its sorrows.”
- French symbolist writer Gérard de Nerval (1808 - 1855)

“One cathedral is worth a hundred theologians capable of proving the existence of God by logic... One’s religion is whatever he is most interested in, and yours is Success.”
- British writer Julian Barnes (1946 - )

“Here is God’s purpose -
for God, to me, it seems,
is a verb,
not a noun,
proper or improper.”
- U.S. architect, designer, and inventor R. Buckminster Fuller (1895 - 1983)

“And I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year: ‘Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown.’ And he replied: ‘Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the hand of God. That shall be to you better than light and safer than a known way.’”
- U.S. writer and poet Minnie Louise Haskins (1875 - 1957)

“Millions long for immortality who do not know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon.”
- U.S.-born British novelist and playwright Susan Ertz (1894? - 1985)

“Whenever a man talks loudly against religion,—always suspect that it is not his reason, but his passions which have got the better of his creed.”
- Irish-born British writer and clergyman Laurence Sterne (1713 - 1768)

“It were better to have no opinion of God at all, than such an opinion as is unworthy of him...God never wrought miracles to convince atheism, because his ordinary works convince it...For none deny there is a God, but those for whom it maketh that there were no God… I had rather believe all the fables in the legend, and the Talmud, and the Alcoran, than that this universal frame is without a mind... A little philosophy inclineth man’s mind to atheism, but depth in philosophy bringeth men’s minds about to religion.
- English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626)

“Among the repulsions of atheism for me has been its drastic uninterestingness as an intellectual position. Where was the ingenuity...of saying that the universe just happened to happen and that when we’re dead we’re dead?”
- U.S. writer John Updike (1932 - )

“We cannot bear to regard ourselves simply as playthings of blind chance; we cannot admit to feeling ourselves abandoned.”
- Italian dramatist and poet Ugo Betti (1892 - 1953)

“Knowledge of divine things for the most part, as Heraclitus says, is lost to us by incredulity.”
- Greek biographer and philosopher Plutarch (46? - 120?)

“A fanatic is a man who does what he thinks th’ Lord wud do if He knew th’ facts iv the case.”
- U.S. humorist and journalist Finley Peter Dunne (1867 - 1936)

“Religion does not consist in turning unceasingly toward the veiled stone, nor in approaching all the altars, nor in throwing oneself prostrate on the ground, nor in raising the hands before the habituations of gods, nor in deluging the temples with bloods of beasts, nor in heaping vows upon vows; but in beholding all with a peaceful soul.”
- Greek philosopher Lucretius (95 - 45 BC)

“Whatever is in motion must be moved by something else. Moreover, this something else...must itself be moved by something else, and that in turn by yet another thing...So we reach a first mover which is not moved by anything. And this all men think of as God.”
- Italian theologian and philosopher Thomas Aquinas (1225 - 1274)

“Let us say, ‘Either God is or he is not’...Let us weigh up the gain and loss involved in calling heads that God exists...Let us assess the two cases: if you win you win everything, if you lose you lose nothing. Do not hesitate then: wager that he does exist.”
- French philosopher, mathematician, and physicist Blaise Pascal (1623 - 1662)

“Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind…The fairest thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion which stands at the cradle of true art and true science. He who knows it not and can no longer wonder, no longer feel amazement, is as good as dead, a snuffed-out candle.”
- German-born U.S. physicist Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

“I am a sort of collector of religions: and the curious thing is that I find I can believe in them all.”
- Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950)

“One compares religions...not by equating the highest storey of one with the lowest storey of another, but storey for storey...The majority of the faithful, like the majority of the rest of Mankind, have to live the life of the world.”
- British historian Arnold Toynbee (1889 - 1975)

“Many people think they have religion when they are troubled with dyspepsia.”
- U.S. lawyer Robert G. Ingersoll (1833 - 1899)
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MOST OF US HUMAN BEINGS can adapt ourselves somehow to anything our imagination can cope with; but we cannot deal with CHAOS. CHAOS in the context of BEYONDISM is a tumult of events which lack not just interpretations but interpretability. Because the characteristic human function and our highest asset is conception, our greatest fright is to meet what we cannot construe — the “uncanny,” as it is popularly called. There are at least three points where CHAOS threatens to break in upon a human being: at the limits of one’s analytic capacities, at the limits of one’s powers of endurance, and at the limits of one’s moral insight. “The greatest evil is physical pain,” thus noted Saint Augustine of Hippo (354 - 430). Bafflement, suffering, and a sense of intractable ethical paradox are all, if they become intense enough or are sustained long enough, radical challenges to the proposition that LIFE is comprehensible and that we can, by taking thought, orient ourselves effectively within it. These are challenges with which any RELIGION, however “primitive,” which hopes to persist must attempt somehow to cope. The word ‘RELIGION’ comes from French word ‘religio’ which comes NOT from Latin word religare, to bind together, but from Latin word relegere, to take care of, or to tend, or to reconnect – the opposite of neglegere, to neglect. RELIGION is basically trying to reconnect our individual ‘being’ to its creature: the Supreme Being. RELIGION is essentially bound up with filial emotions. RELIGION is a developed system for ascribing ultimate MEANING and purpose to LIFE. It is dependent upon something BEYOND the methods of empirical observation for its verification. BEYONDISM does not intend to turn against the belief systems of our fathers, or to laugh in our fathers face. Our love of RELIGION on the other hand, is not to restore the ancient polytheistic faiths; not to lead current African emancipated(?) souls to the temples and sacred groves to sacrifice to the gods of our ancestors. BEYONDISM contends that, this is a hopeless and suicidal policy, a progress backward INTO and not OVER the tombs. The CULTURE CONCEPT adhered by BEYONDISM denotes a historically transmitted patterns of meanings embodied in symbols. It is a system of inherited conceptions expressed in symbolic forms by means of which people in a given social setting communicate, perpetuate, and develop their knowledge about and attitudes toward LIFE. BEYONDISM is of the view that, reverence of ancestors (in Kikuyu, Ngomi) supports the jural authority of elders. Initiation rites are means for the establishment of sexual identity and adult status. Ritual groupings reflect political orientations. Myths provide charters for social institutions and rationalisations of social privilege. --->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of REDEEMING RELIGIOUSNESS thus:

Refusing false assumption of authority in the ‘name of God.’
Eschewing that most hypocritical holier-than-thou attitude.
Discarding empty ceremionalism or self-enslaving rituals.
Entertaining only those ideals which are spiritually uplifting.
Enact religion not as a garment to be worn on worship days.
Move against blaming your shortcomings to that entity ‘Devil’
Insist on basing morality to the present human circumstances.
No mortal possesses divine wisdom in the matters of heaven.
Guide others without dominating; never try to exploit them.

Realising ourselves as part and parcel of Divinity.
Endeavouring to uproot ourselves from self-betrayals.
Loving everybody as ourselves with no strings attached.
Intentionally committing ourselves to a clean life.
Giving out without expecting to be rewarded back.
Incisively testing and improving our potential quotient.
Opening our ‘beings’ to the mysteries of the ‘Cosmos’.
Uniting our innermost ‘beings’ with the ‘Supreme Being’.
Shooting the arrow of our aspirations courageously.
Nurturing human welfare and social co-operation.
Enjoying our every moment and hour of mortality.
Soaking ourselves to social and historical imperatives.
Surrounding ourselves with the ethical companions.

“Just wakin’ up in the morning gotta thank God.”- American rapper O’Shea Jackson, alias Ice Cube (b. 1969). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: PROPAGATING the ALTRUISM for BOOSTING BELIEF so as to align with a Godly LIFE.--->

Religion is not a gown to be worn on Sundays and Sabbath days. Religion is reconnecting your individual ‘being’ with the Supreme Being, thereby getting replenished by infinite power emanating from that timeless source. As long as we continue to revel in the mystery of where we were before birth, and where we will be after death, RELIGION will continue to be an indispensable part of our lives. As long as science continue to unravel the complexity of the animate, as well as inanimate world, humans cannot afford to be irreligious. Even those who profess Atheism (no mortal can afford to be a real atheist), are somewhat religious in one way or the other. Do not allow yourself to sink in morass of wasting your intellectual, or emotional energy by criticising other people’s belief systems. Diverse religions are but the changing garments of one eternal TRUTH. Tolerance should be your guiding star. Your position MUST be that of Dutch philosopher and religious thinker Benedict Spinoza (1632 - 1677): “I do not agree with a word that you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.”

Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to BOOST BELIEF.
SOCIETY needs legends, heroes, and myths. Deny these and you have won half the battle against people.
UNDENIABLY, RELIGION is the essence of Human Nature. No human being can afford to be irreligious.
MILITANT atheism is impossible. Atheism is a kind of adolescent rebellion which castigates, as it reveres.
MOSTLY, it has been said that the highest praise of GOD consists in the denial of HIM by the ATHEIST.
AN atheist is a man or a woman who finds Creation SO perfect that he or she can dispense with a Creator.
REFUSE the blasphemy of attributing false norms to God, which may be projection of thy selfish desires.
YE shall not deny the existence of an Unseen Kingdom, but pretend not that ye know SO much about IT.

PREPARE yourself to diligently PROPAGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for BOOSTING BELIEF.

Plato (428 - 347 BC) believed and taught that a nation cannot be strong unless it believes in God.
Really, a mere cosmic force, that is not a Person, can hardly inspire hope, devotion and sacrifice.
Embattled souls, can only be fully encouraged, or distressed hearts comforted by an Almighty God.
Potent God apparently frightens self-seekers into moderation of greed, or control of rogue passions.
All the more so, if the belief in the Omnipresent God is added a deep belief in personal immortality.
Real hope of another LIFE gives us courage to meet our death and bear with death of loved ones.
Encountering the perils of LIFE is easened by solid belief: we are twice armed if we fight with faith.

REALISE that PROPAGATING your innate ‘quest’ for BOOSTING BELIEF is in your ‘power.’

Reason cannot postulate God; for He is a spiritual reality emanating from immediacy of ‘existence.’
Essentially, God does not want to be debated or defended by you, but to be deeply realised in you.
Always speak of God as the “ground of being,” the “ultimate concern” and the “experienced reality.”
Living, ‘existing’ and allowing the “religious reality” to become totally manifest in you is Godliness.
If there were no religious reality, if God was only a fiction, it would be mankind’s duty to demolish it.
Spiritual ‘Time,’ is the lived ongoing reality of becoming; mathematical ‘Time’ is abstract and static.
Enlivenning, thriving, wanting to master, confront, be involved, and perfect the world, is RELIGION.

EMPOWER yourself to PROPAGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for BOOSTING BELIEF.

Even if belief in God cannot be empirically demonstrated, it will do us no harm to sincerely believe.
Morever, granted that God may be only the personified ideal of our earthly love and heavenly hope,
Potently, it does ourselves and our children immeasurable good, to believe in an Omnipresent God.
Our soul is not like the music lyre which dies with the instrument that gives it, its fundamental form.
Without fear of divine disfavour, RELIGION should be in the very marrow of your day-to-day LIFE.
Emptiness and meaninglessness (existential vacuum) will haunt your LIFE if you loose RELIGION.
Rottenness will blind your soul; like one who had staked all on a single throw of dice and had lost.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to PROPAGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of BOOSTING BELIEF.

Meaningful sacred symbols function to synthesise a people’s ethos and their enduring WORLD-view.
Ethos is the general tone, character, quality, moral, aesthetic style and mood of a people’s LIFE.
Distinctively, it is the picture of the way things in their actuality are, their comphrensive idea of order.
In purely enriching religious belief and practice, a group’s ethos is rendered intellectually reasonable.
Adapting a way of LIFE to the actual state-of-affairs, which the WORLD-view describes is imperative.
The WORLD-view is rendered emotionally convincing by being presented as an image of True LIFE.
Expressing deeply felt moral sentiments as experiential evidence of their TRUTH, is core RELIGION.

INDULGE yourself in PROPAGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards BOOSTING BELIEF.

In all meritorious measures, pure RELIGION tunes human actions to an envisaged Cosmic order.
Nourishment springs from projecting images of Cosmic Order, onto the plane of Human Experience.
Doing it annually, monthly, weekly, daily or hourly, is the depth of one’s Redeeming Religiousness.
Unfortunately, to seek for an analytic account of how this miracle is accomplished, is to be doomed.
Looking for the MIRACLE SPACE within you, is affirming your Oneness with God, the All That Is.
Gleemed correctly, it is the SPACE where inner PEACE exists, flowers, can be felt and experienced.
Ennobled thereof, you will perceive the illumined TRUTH of anything you focus your attention on.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for PROPAGATING the ‘compulsion’ of BOOSTING BELIEF.

Understanding the Unconditional LOVE of God for all souls and all LIFE is Redeeming Religiousness.
The Divine Cosmic Power of God, is available for creating abundance here on Earth for all creatures.
Indulging in a RELIGION is a tremendous leap upward in self-awareness and SELF-ACTUALIZATION.
Living a religious LIFE, fully expands your consciousness into higher dimension of Oneness with God.
Indipendence, courage, perseverence, passion and willfulness are flambouyant virtues of RELIGION.
Sound belief, amounts to achieving a sense of REVEALATION, which stabilises a sense of DIRECTION.
Elevated sense of remorse of defaulted obligations, underlies the duty ethic of a deep religious LIFE.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to PROPAGATE BOOSTING BELIEF.

Meaningful LIFE as the true end of a mature human being, is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever.
Only by directing one’s actions to the highest good (God), can one attain true, enduring happiness.
Negating spiritual ignorance, is basically interweaving RELIGION into the fabrc of your daily LIFE.
Infinite, Omniscient, Personal and Merciful conception of God should illumine your core convictions.
Teach and preach a religious precept, only if you are deeply convinced you can prudently practice it.
Occupy your PSYCHE with IDEALS, which makes you to have a reason to Actualise your Potential.
Really SEEK GOD, and MAKE Him and RELIGION a CONCERN for your moment-to-moment LIFE.

“The evil that men do lives after them;
The good is oft interred with their bones.”
- Shakespeare in Julius Caesar (1599), Act 3, Scene 2

“It is an heretic that makes the fire,
Not she which burns in ’t.”
- Shakespeare in The Winter’s Tale (1610), Act 2, Scene 3

“Let Hercules himself do what he may,
The cat will mew, and dog will have his day.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet (1601), Act 5, Scene 1

“How far that little candle throws his beams!
So shines a good deed in a naughty world.”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice (1596), Act 5, Scene 1

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on illumining intimately the REDEEMING RELIGIOUSNESS:
Apparently you are PROPAGATING your solid struggle to BOOST BELIEF.
You have gone a long way in CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
As well as IRRIGATING your dauntless determination.
No sooner than later, will you NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.

“Write down that they hope they serve God; and write God first; for God defend but God should go before such villains!”
- English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Much Ado About Nothing (1599), Act 4, Scene 2

“The better part of valour is discretion; in the which better part I have saved my life.”
- Shakespeare in Henry IV (1592), Part 1, Act 5, Scene 4

1. A Permanent Feature:--->

Throughout history and BEYOND the farthest and darkest reaches of mankind’s earliest cultures, RELIGION has been a permanent feature of the human record. RELIGION has grown and evolved within itself as well as affecting other religions resulting in a hybrid form of religion as living organisms do. Being a doubly rich and complex phenomenon - as indicated by its need to build together its outer and inner aspects - RELIGION has existed, exists and shall continue to exist in variety of forms and faiths. However, the craving for absoluteness has been concern of mankind since time immemorial. Scottish writer, educator and religious scholar Ninian Smart (1927 - 2001) in The Religious Experience of Mankind (1969), vividly summarises this volatile subject:

Altogether, the story of man’s religious experience is a rich, strange, sometimes bitter, often noble one. In his religious life, and in his rejections of religion, man has expressed his deepest attitudes to the universe about him. Through religion, man has worked out these attitudes in a pattern of daily living and dying. Whether he feels himself surrounded by spirits, or guided by God, or striving towards nirvana, the religious man has tried to see beyond his senses.

“God has made different religions to suit different aspirations, times and countries. All doctrines are only so many paths, but a path is by no means God Himself. Indeed, one can reach God if one follows any of the paths with wholehearted devotion. One may eat a cake with icing either straight or sidewise. It will taste sweet either way”, thus noted Hindu scholar Paramhansa Ramakrishna (1836 - 1886). Besides discrediting the purported dogmatic superiority or inferiority of any religious orientation over any other, this enduring statement by a Hindu mystic has the implication that, the religious experience of mankind has led down many pathways resulting in the enormous diversity of religious expression found worldwide.

The great worldwide variety of religious devotion, which reflects the spiritual need and yearning of mankind, is discernible from the endless variety of Hinduism to the monotheism of Judaism, Islam and Christianity and to the Oriental philosophies of Shinto, Taoism and Confucianism. This diversity in the origin and form of various RELIGIONS can be accounted for by particular stages of intellectual growth and special types of mentality belonging to certain nations, owing to different geographical locations and other extraneous circumstances. It is therefore, not an overstatement to assert that all over the world, for most adherents belonging to a certain religion, denominations and sect, it is not a matter of choice, but simply ‘Geographical Accidents’. American anthropologist and religious scholar Ivar Lissner (1909 - 1967) in Man, God and Magic (1961) comments:

One may only marvel at the perseverance with which man has striven, throughout history to reach outside himself. His energies were never directed solely toward the necessities of LIFE. He was forever questing, grasping his way further, aspiring to the unattainable. This strange and inherent urge in the human being is his spirituality…No one who has carried out research among the oldest primitive people can fail to understand that they all conceive of God, that they posses a lively awareness of a Supreme being.

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KW: RELIGION, noun.
ED: People’s beliefs and opinions concerning the existence, nature, and worship of a deity or deities, and divine involvement in the universe and human life.
DD: Adaughter of Hope and Fear, explaining to Ignorance the nature of the Unknowable.

2. Making of Religion:--->

In our quest at illumining more on RELIGION, it is good that we focus on what we shall refer to as the five elements in the making of religion; Animism, Magic, Totemism, Taboo and Ancestor-worship.

In the midst of myriad dangers, violence or diseases, the primitive man was condemned to an early grave. Devoid of the intelectual ability to comprehend the cause-effect relationships of these phenomenon, Sir Edward Burnett Tylor (1832 - 1917) informs us that, our ancestors concluded that, a spirit dwelled in every natural object (mountains, rivers, rocks, trees, stars and the sky became the external forms of manifestation of spirits) and was responsible for all the actions of the object. In Primitive Culture (1871) Tylor defined ‘Animism’ as the general belief in spiritual beings and considered it “a minimum definition of religion.” He asserted that all religions, from the simplest to the most complex, involve some form of animism. For instance, the Greeks thought the sky to be the body of the god Uranos; the moon, of the goddess Silene; the earth of the goddess Gaea; the sea, of the god Poseidon. From early Germans and Scandinavians who construed woods to be densely populated with genii, elves, trolls, giants, dwarfs, harpies, faire and gnomes, to the American Indians who sometimes attribute their decadence to the cutting of trees whose spirits had protected them, by the invading white man, to the simpler peasants of Ireland who still believes in faires, and fear their influence, spirits inhabited everything in their midst. Like the present peasant of the Southern Sudan, in the Gaul, there were sacred forests full of specially worshiped trees.

In the absence of science, and having filled their world with Spirits, and being unable to control them, the primitive man undertook to enlist them in his aid, through the strategy of Magic. Scottish social anthropologist and folklorist Sir James George Frazer (1854 - 1941) proposed a three-stage evolutionary scheme in The Golden Bough (3^rd edition, 1912 – 1915). According to Frazer’s scheme, human beings first attributed natural phenomena to arbitrary supernatural forces (magic), later explaining them as the will of the gods (religion), and finally subjecting them to rational investigation (science). Frazer taught that, man first tried to control his own LIFE and his environment by initiating what he saw happening in nature, like invoking rain by sprinkling water on the ground to the accompaniment of thunderlike drumbeats or that he could cause his enemy harm by sticking pins in an effigy. As this sympathetic magic basically relied upon suggestion, surprisingly enough, ‘most prayers today are still of the nature of magic formulas mumbled over and over again, through talismans, maledictions and benedictions’. Without the modern scientific means of renitrogenating the soil, magic in the form of vegetation rite sufficed as the most instructive way of suggesting to Mother Earth that she should deliver herself of a great litter of food. These phallic festivals which were arranged at sowing time, were characterised by sacrificing a human being, then, in more genial ages, an animal to the spirit of the earth, and as blood sunk into the ground, the god would be appeased and fertilize the soil.

The continual dependence of men on animals, beget the need to have a protective spirit for the tribe. Totemism (The term totem is derived from the language of the Ojibwa, a Native North American tribe, and the totemic relationship is widespread and has been observed in Malaysia, Africa, and Guinea) signified the worship and veneration of sacred animals or plants where these protective spirits dwelled. The sacred dove, fish and lamb passed down into Judaism and Christianity from this stage. We may also contend that we are all Totemists in one way or the other, in as much as we use animal figures as symbols in our football clubs, political parties, school logos, etc.

The fourth element in the making of religion was Taboo, which is a Polynesian word, meaning prohibited. The forbidden item was believed to be unclean or sacred, and the taboo was imposed for protection against the item’s power. Most taboos were moral customs considered so vital to the tribe that they needed a religious sanction, a divine origin, to buttress them with fear and reverence. The Ten Commandments delivered by mosses from Mt. Sinai are a set of taboos God directed Mosses to be adhered by the Isrealites. In the like manner, the Persians have the legend of Zoroaster who when praying in the high mountains, God showed up in thunder and lighting and delivered to him ‘The Book of Law’. In Cretan legend King Minos received from God two tables of stone on which laws had been engraved, on Mt. Dicta.

Ancestor-Worship suffices out as the last element. This seems to have began with the appearance of dead in dreams, apparently a slight step from the fright caused by such apparitions, to the worship of the dead. Those who were powerful in their lives especially the King were feared after death. With most kings being worshiped as a god even during their lifetimes, the ghost of such tremendous men elicited the need for propitiation, with the funeral rites given to them becoming the first form of religious ceremonies in their memory, honour and service. Modern religion is bound up with filial emotions, in which the fear of the dead is gradually transformed into love of the dead. No wonder then up to now all the catholic altars are filled with the remains of departed saints, those heroic martyrs and ancestors. As such Ancestor worship, instead of being confined to China and Japan, is spread throughout the world. From the conception of the god, or the dead chieftain, as father, to the more refined conception of a human god, Ancestor-worship brought a great change in religion by humanizing it through the conception of deity in terms first of the strongest, then of the finest men. This conception prepared the way for the great anthropomorphic faiths of Judea, Greece and Rome, wherein the seed of the present monotheistic religions of Christianity and Islam found their sprouting ground.

Having discerned the vital elements in the making of religion, we will be enabled to comprehend various conducts in the Christian religion without disillusionment; having striped them off dogmatic trappings. We will be able to see how the Jews, Greek, Egyptians and Babylonians rites and feast were adopted to form the fabric that informs the Christian churches today. One importance feature of modern religious settings is priests or pastors or church ministers and churches. Contrary to the common misconception that priest created religion, priesthood was a spontaneous outcome of the religious thirst of mankind which necessitated the need for a specialized class to oversee the ceremonies. However, after organizing themselves into a powerful hierarchy financed from bottom and ruled from the top, they conventionalized these religious gatherings into churches.

If we focus on the two most important Christian holidays which are Easter and Christmas, we will find that Easter is a combination of the Jewish Passover, the Roman rites of Ishtar, and the Greek celebration of the resurrection of Adonis. Christmas was originally the Egyptian feast of the birth of Sun after the winter, whereby the Egyptians represented the new-born by the image of an infant which priest brought out and exhibited to the worshipers.

Both Baptism as an indispensable rite, and Doctrine of Vicarious Atonement as the central tenet in Christianity should not escape our mention. Baptism was a primitive rite that had marked the initiation of Jewish youth into adult life and privileges. It took the form of total immersion and a pretended rescue from drowning, signifying new birth. The idea of son of God, a saviour, a Messiah, born of a virgin, dying in atonement for the sin of men and rising again from the grave, goes back to the scapegoat selected by the people to die for their sins and appease the deities of soils and sky, so that crops might grow again, and as anthropologists informs us, the belief was evident in every ancient people.

Both the ceremony of Mass and its apex the transubstantiation of the bread and wine into the substance (not appearance) body and blood Christ, as compelling aspects of Christianity, also need our mention. The first churches being synagogues, the Mass was taken over from the old synagogue rites, along with the vestments and chants of the Jews. The Eucharist, developed out of the ancient custom of eating the God. In his researches Sigmund Freud (1856 - 1939) found that in primitive society the father dominated the clan. The sons who both hated and feared the father, rebelled and killed the father. To acquire the fathers power, ‘these cannibalistic savages ate their ‘victim’.’

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KW: FAITH, noun.
ED: Belief in, devotion to, or trust in somebody or something, especially without logical proof.
DD: Belief without evidence in what is told by one who speaks without knowledge, of things without parallel.

3. Contrasts of Theism:--->

THEISM, from the term theos (Greek for “god”), is belief in one God who is personal and worthy of worship, who transcends the world but takes an active interest in it, and who reveals His purpose for human beings through certain individuals, miraculous events, or sacred writings. A theistic God is personal if He can be understood by analogies drawn from human experience and if human beings can enter into a personal relation with Him and petition Him in prayer. Such a God is considered worthy of worship because He is believed to be morally perfect and infinitely powerful.

Broadly speaking, theism is the belief in any God or gods. However, in its typical philosophical and theological usage, theism is a form of MONOTHEISM, the belief in only one God. In contrast to theism, PANTHEISM is the view that God is identical with the world or is completely immanent, pervading everything that exists in the world. DEISM is the belief that God created the world but then had no further connection with it. Theism should also be contrasted with ATHEISM and AGNOSTICISM, both of which have several variations. In the broadest sense, positive atheism is a disbelief in all gods including the theistic God, whereas negative atheism is simply the absence of belief in any god. Negative atheism is compatible with agnosticism, the denial that a person can know either that God exists or does not exist. Some agnostics draw the conclusion that one should suspend one’s belief, a view known as agnostic atheism. Other agnostics choose to believe in a theistic God on the basis of faith, a view known as agnostic theism.

Three of the major world religions—Christianity, Islam, and Judaism—are primarily theistic and today comprise about 3 billion followers. Theistic strands can also be found in Hinduism, although this religion usually interprets God in an impersonal and pantheistic way. Several other Eastern religions, including Theravada Buddhism and Jainism, reject the theistic idea of God as creator of the universe. Although it is uncertain if the ancient Chinese philosopher Confucius believed in some kind of God, it is clear that a theistic God plays little, if any, role in Confucianism, the moral, social, and political practices associated with his name.

To be precise MONOTHEISM, is belief in the unity of the Godhead, or in one God. It is opposed to pantheism and polytheism. Because they believe the Christian doctrine of the Trinity to be incompatible with monotheism, some groups reject Trinitarianism in favor of Unitarianism. Monotheism is a firm tenet of Muslims and Jews.

Atheism has wide-ranging implications for the human condition. In the absence of belief in god, ethical goals must be determined by secular (nonreligious) aims and concerns, human beings must take full responsibility for their destiny, and death marks the end of a person’s existence.

Atheists justify their philosophical position in several different ways. Negative atheists attempt to establish their position by refuting typical theist arguments for the existence of God, such as the argument from first cause, the argument from design, the ontological argument, and the argument from religious experience. Other negative atheists assert that any statement about God is meaningless, because attributes such as all-knowing and all-powerful cannot be comprehended by the human mind. Positive atheists, on the other hand, defend their position by arguing that the concept of God is inconsistent. They question, for example, whether a God who is all-knowing can also be all-good and how a God who lacks bodily existence can be all-knowing.

Some positive atheists have maintained that the existence of evil makes the existence of God improbable. In particular, atheists assert that theism does not provide an adequate explanation for the existence of seemingly gratuitous evil, such as the suffering of innocent children. Theists commonly defend the existence of evil by claiming that God desires that human beings have the freedom to choose between good and evil, or that the purpose of evil is to build human character, such as the ability to persevere. Positive atheists counter that justifications for evil in terms of human free will leave unexplained why, for example, children suffer because of genetic diseases or abuse from adults. Arguments that God allows pain and suffering to build human character fail, in turn, to explain why there was suffering among animals before human beings evolved and why human character could not be developed with less suffering than occurs in the world. For atheists, a better explanation for the presence of evil in the world is that God does not exist.

BEYONDISM construe itself as obliged to resolve one of the most troublesome metaphysical problem of ethics namely: the presence of evil in the world, with the existence of a benevolent God.

In Principal Doctrines I, Greek philosopher Epicurus (342 - 270 BC) argues that, it does not follow logically from the existence of God, nor does experience testify, that “the greatest misfortunes befall the wicked and the greatest blessings the good by the gift of God.” The paradoxical nature of the problem of EVIL is clearly evident from the formulation of it, attributed to Epicurus:

Either God would remove evil of this world, and cannot: or He can, and will not; or, He has not the power nor will; or, lastly, He has both the power and will. If He has the will, and not the power, this allows weakness, which is contrary to the nature of God. If He has the power, and not the will, it is malignity, and this is no less contrary to His nature. If He is neither able nor willing, He is both impotent and malignant, and consequently cannot be God. If He be both willing and able (which alone is consonant to the nature of God), whence comes evil, or why does He not prevent it?

For our enlightenment on this very volatile issue, we shall rely on Christian Philosopher and one of the most eminent Doctors of Church, Saint Augustine of Tagaste (354 - 430 AD). Augustine’s insistence that God is perfectly good and all things come from Him, marks the starting point for his treatment of the problem of evil. He further argues that, since God in His goodness cannot create anything evil, it follows that evil cannot be a positive characteristic of things. However, the things which God creates are less than wholly good, and they are evil insofar as they lack goodness. In the City of God he argues:

Wherefore corruption can consume the good only by consuming the being. Every being, therefore, is a good; a great good, if it cannot be corrupted; a little good, if it can: but in any case, only the foolish or ignorant will deny that it is good. And if it be wholly consumed by corruption, then the corruption itself must cease to exist, as there is no being left to consume.

Augustine further argues that that since God is all-powerful, He can prevent evil if He so wills, so that His permitting evil must reflect His goodness in some way. He explains that God’s mercy and justice are served by presenting individuals with a choice between good and evil. Whichever we choose, God’s will ultimately is fulfilled, and even evil choices are turned to good account by Him. The will of God, which is always good, is sometimes fulfilled through the evil will of man: “For God accomplishes some of His purposes, which of course are all good, through the evil desires of wicked men.”

“Even if God did not exist,” said Voltaire, “it would be necessary to invent Him.” It is very unfortunate that, some of the best minds that Nature has produced, have sought to discredit the very idea of GOD and water down the whole concept of RELIGION.

According to German philosopher Ludwig Andreas Feuerbach (1804 - 1872), God is a projection of man. “Man sets up his human nature out of himself, he sees as something existing outside himself and separated from himself; he projects it, then as an autonomous figure – so to speak – in heaven, calls it God and worships it.”

Is God, a consolation serving vested interest? German philosopher, the brain behind Communism, Karl Marx (1818 - 1883) reasoned: “Man, who looked for a superhuman being in the fantastic reality of heaven and found nothing there, but the reflection of himself, only an inhuman being, where he seeks and must seek his true reality…Religion is the self-consciousness and self-esteem of Man who has either not yet found himself or has already lost himself again…Religion is the opium of mankind…It is an illusion hindering human growth.”

“All religion,” according to German philosopher, historian and revolutionary socialist Friedrich Engels (1820 – 1895), “is nothing but the fantastic reflection in Men’s minds of those external forces which control their daily life, a reflection in which the terrestrial forces assume the form of supernatural forces.”

“Religious insanity, fantasies and hallucinations of God, heaven, and the saints, as well as the feeling of being crushed are to be understood as infantile megalomaniac ideas,” so taught Austrian psychiatrist Alfred Adler (1870 - 1937).

Austrian neurologist and psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud (1856 – 1939) viewed God as an infantile illusion and that religious ideas are “not precipitates of experiences or end-results of our thinking,” but “illusions, fulfillment of the oldest, strongest and most urgent wishes of mankind. The secret of their strength lies in the strength of those wishes.” Which wishes? “The wishes of the childishly helpless human being for protection from life’s perils, for the fulfillment of justice in this unjust society, for the prolongation of earthly existence in a future life, for knowledge of the origin of the world, of the relationship between the corporeal and the mental.”

“Beware of the community in which blasphemy does not exist: underneath, atheism runs rampant.” What does these words of Spanish poet and playwright Antonio Machado (1875 - 1939) means to you? Before yo get lost in contemplation digest these words of English poet Edward Young (1683 - 1765): “By night an atheist half believes a God.” And British poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge (1772 - 1834) give his most fine words:

Forth from his dark and lonely hiding-place
(Portentous sight!) the owlet Atheism,
Sailing on obscene wings athwart the noon,
Drops his blue-fringèd lids, and holds them close,
And hooting at the glorious sun in Heaven,
Cries out, “Where is it?”

4. Dimensions of Religion:--->

Our astute analysis on this most complex topic of RELIGION will remain inexhaustive if we fail to take into consideration what we may refer here as the seven discernible dimensions of all religions, namely ritual, mythological, doctrinal, ethical, social, motivational and experiential.

On the Ritual Dimension of religion, it is notable that, religion in part tends to express itself through repetitive forms of everyday behaviour. This is in the manner of socially structured ways of doing things, such as rituals and ceremonies through worship, prayers, offerings and the like in specific temples and churches. Since rituals involves both an inner and an outer aspect, the former assists us in becoming productive members, while when the latter dominates, it then degenerates into a mechanical or conventional process. If people go through the motions of religious observance without accompanying it with the intentions and sentiments which give it human meaning, ritual is merely an empty shell.

The Mythological Dimension involves the collection of myths, images, and stories through which the invisible world is symbolized. This dimension includes not merely stories about God (for instance the story of creation in Genesis), about the gods (for instance Homer’s Iliad) but also the historical events of religious significance in a tradition. BEYONDISM use of the term myth in relation to religious phenomena is quite neutral as to the truth or falsity of the story enshrined in the myth.

The Doctrinal Dimension is manifested an attempt to give system, clarity, and intellectual power to what is revealed through the mythological and symbolic language of religious faith and ritual. In the instance where theology must make use of symbols and myths, the dividing line between mythological and doctrinal becomes blurred. All world religions owe some of the their living power, to their success in presenting a total picture of reality, through a coherent system of doctrines.

The Ethical Dimension concern the behaviour of the individual and to some extent, the code of ethics of the dominant religion controls the community. Quite obviously, people do not always live up to the standards which are inculcated by the dominant faith in a particular society. These precepts may also not be believed by all section of that society. It is indisputable that religion have been influential in moulding the ethical attitudes they are part of. It is important, however, to distinguish between the moral teachings incorporated in the doctrines and mythology of a religion, and the social facts concerning those who adhere to the faith in question.

The Social Dimension gives religion its social shape which is of course, to some extent is determined by the religious and ethical ideals and practices that it harbours. The difference between the ethical dimension and the social dimension, is that the latter is the mode in which the religion in question is institutionalised, whereby, through its institutions and teachings, it affects the community in which it finds itself. The doctrinal, mythological and ethical dimension, express a religious claim about the nature of the invisible world and its aims, about how people’s lives ought to be shaped. The social dimension indicates the way in which people’s lives are in fact shaped by these claims, and the way in which religious institutions operate.

In the Motivational Dimension, we see that, besides serving as informal ‘Guidance and Counselling’ centers, most churches have surfaced out as the most persuasive if not convenient avenues for offering motivational talk to their adherents, on how to handle the crippling burdens of the LIFE. Most priests, pastors and church ministers besides finding it as their duties to prepare their flock in the way of going to heaven, find it also as their assignment of arming them with strong convictions for handling the hurdles and obstacles immanent in this world. In most instances, this dimension overrides the Doctrinal and Mythological Dimensions, and the scriptures are manipulated and tactfully quoted to serve the purpose of infusing vitality and zeal to the listener.

The Experiential Dimension is informed by the fact that, although as humans we may hope to have contact with, and participate in the invisible world through ritual, personal religion normally involves the hope of, or realisation of experience of that world. This dimension concern with the inner side – what religious mean in personal experience and how people have been moulded by such experience. It is worth noting the dialectic interplay between experience and doctrine. For instance, as young people, most of us are taught certain doctrines and mythological symbols by our parents, which are simply ‘theoretical’ as far as the young minds, are concerned. But supposing that one progresses to a deeper understanding of one’s faith, through a particular personal experience, or through one’s response to the ritual and ethical demands of one’s religions, then one will come to see that in some mysterious way God is an entity, with whom he or she can have contact. One will now believe something other that what one fist believed, making the interplay between doctrine and experience fundamental to personal religion.

It is this ‘Experiential Dimension’ which German Lutheran theologian and scholar of comparative religion Rudolf Otto (1869 - 1937), consecrated as the essential importance in religion. Otto understood the Holy as a nonhuman, pure ‘other’, which can be approached on a rational level as well as on a nonrational level as a mysterium (Latin, ‘mystery’). The existence of the Holy can be rationally determined through the senses, by perceiving, for instance, the order apparent in Nature. The nonrational apprehension of the Holy, or “numinous,” has two aspects: fascination, or attraction, and awe.

Otto explained the numinous as ‘non-rational, non-sensory experience or feeling’ whose primary and immediate object is outside the self. This sets the paradigm for the study of religion, that focuses on the need to realize the religion as non-reducible, original category in its own right. Following this line of thought, German Jesuit and theologian Karl Rahner (1904 - 1984), conceived human person as a being of transcendence. He argued that, all human beings have a latent awareness of God, in any experiences of limitation in knowledge or freedom as finite subjects. Because such experience is the ‘condition of possibility’ for knowledge and freedom, it is categorical. This is knowledge of God through reason ‘natural knowledge of God’, prior to advent of ‘special’ revealation. God is only approached in the mode of what Rahner call ‘absolute mystery’. This underlies the fact that, while one may try to furnish proofs of God’s existence, these explicit proofs ultimately refer to the inescapable orientation towards mystery which constitute by transcendental necessity, the very nature of the human being.

5. Mystical States:--->

In The Varieties of Religious Experience (1902), American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910) talks of ‘mystical states of consciousness’. In order to ‘save verbal disputation, and the recriminations that generally go therewith’, James proposes ‘four marks which, when experience has them, may justify us in calling it mystical’; Ineffability, Noetic core, Transiency, and Passivity.

On the mark of ‘Ineffability’, James contends that, the subject of it immediately says that it defies expression, that no adequate report of its contents can be given in words. It follows from this that, its quality must be directly experienced; it cannot be imparted or transferred to others. The peculiarity of mystical states lies in their being more like states of feeling, than like states of intellect No one can make clear to another who has never had a certain feeling, in what the quality or worth of it consists. This is why the mystic finds that most of us accord to his or her experiences an equally incompetent treatment.

On the mark of ‘Noetic quality’ James argues that, although so similar to states of feeling, mystical states seem to those who experience them to be also states of knowledge. He affirms that, they are states of insight into depths of truth, unplumbed by the discursive intellect. They are illuminations, revealations, full of significance and importance, all inarticulate though they remain. As a rule, they carry with them a curious sense of authority for after-time.

On the mark of ‘Transiency’, James affirms that, mystical states cannot be sustained for long. He contends that, except in rare instances, half an hour, or at most an hour or two, which seems to be the limit BEYOND which they fade into the light of common day. Often, when faded, their quality can but imperfectly be reproduced in memory; but when they recur it is recognized; and from one recurrence to another, it is susceptible of continuous development in what is felt as inner richness and importance.

On the mark of ‘Passivity’, James teaches that, although the oncoming of mystical states may be facilitated by preliminary voluntary operations, as by fixing the attention, or going through certain bodily performances, or in other ways which manuals of mysticism prescribe. Yet, when the characteristic sort of consciousness once has set in, the mystic feels as if his or her own will were in abeyance, and indeed sometimes as if he or she were grasped and held by a superior power. James illumines that, this latter peculiarity connects mystical states with certain definite phenomena of secondary or alternative personality, such as prophetic speech, automatic writing, or the mediumistic trance. When these latter conditions are well pronounced, however, there may be no recollection whatever of the phenomenon, and it may have no significance for the subject’s usual inner LIFE, to which, as it were, it makes a mere interruption. According to James, mystical states, strictly so-called, are never merely interruptive. Some memory of their content always remains, and a profound sense of their importance. They modify the inner LIFE of the subject between the times of their recurrence. But James concludes, ‘sharp divisions in this region are, however, difficult to make, and we find all sorts of gradations and mixtures’.

James suggested that in studying religious experience, it is important to bear in mind that belief in the reality of God is more like belief in the genius of Shakespeare than belief in the veracity of STRING THEORY. This means it will always be contested, though to reduce extraneous argument and focus on the evidence that is mostly likely to be illuminating, James examines what he takes to be the most valuable topic: the case of Religious Conversion. He strives to answer the question why some people appear to be immune to conversion. “They may be excellent persons,” he notes, “servants of God in practical ways, but they are not children of his kingdom.” Neither do they want to be. They regard faith as “something weak and shameful”, so intellectual barriers would check subconscious spiritual energies where they are real and there. Only James adds: “Even late in life some thaw, some release may take place, some bolt be shot back in the barrenest breast, and the man’s hard heart may soften and break into religious feelings.” Perhaps it can happen to anyone.

Earlier in the Middle Ages in Summa Theologica (1265 - 1273), Italian philosopher and theologian Saint Thomas Aquinas (1225 - 1274) coined the concept of the ‘beatific vision’ of God as humanities final goal:

Now there is but one supreme good namely God ... Along with natural happiness there is supernatural happiness of coming to see God as He is…Therefore all things are directed to the highest good, namely God as their end.

“The true purpose of a higher religion is to radiate the spiritual counsels and truths that are its essence into as many souls as it can reach, in order that each of these souls may be enabled thereby to fulfill the true end of man. Man’s true end is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever”, thus noted British historian Arnold Toynbee (1889 - 1975). True as it is, most of us are not dead to God and religion, but in our spiritual ignorance, we have degenerated into the essential defect upon which we lack a conception of God and RELIGION that can be interwoven with the fabric of our daily LIFE.

6. A Personal Decision:--->

German-born US psychologist Victor Frankl (1905 - 1997) referred to religious belief as the most personal decision a human being makes. He asserted that, while religious forms are transmitted to future generations through culture, each individual must embrace these forms and fill them with one’s own existential MEANING.

Besides various stereotyped conceptions, and BEYOND the veils of myriad bodies of beliefs, tenets and dogmas, we are all seekers after God, though we fail to make Him and RELIGION a concern for our moment-to-moment ‘existence’ as opposed to a one-day-in-a-week affair. In The Science of Religion (1950), Indian yogi and Guru Paramhansa Yogananda (1893 - 1952) ascertains this basic weakness:

God may be Infinite, Omniscient, Personal and Merciful, but these conceptions are not sufficiently compelling to make us try to know Him. We fall back on these conceptions only when we seek to justify in philosophical and poetical writings, in art or in idealistic talks, the infinite craving for something beyond; when we, with all our vaunted knowledge, are at a loss to explain some of the most common phenomena of the universe, or when we get stranded in the vicissitudes of the world. We pray to the ever-Merciful when we get stuck. Otherwise we seem to get along all right in our workaday world without Him.

Having clothed ourselves with religious sanctioned morals which we preach more than we practice, floating complacently on the surface of stereotyped conceptions which appears to be the safety valves of our pent-up human thought and comfortable pillows for our weary souls, we have theologically armed ourselves with explanations of God, but are utterly impotent in seeking Him.

It is the epitome of self-deception to think that we are seeking God when we call Him, Infinite, Omnipresent, All-merciful, and Omniscient. Deficient as they are in motive power, these conceptions may superficially satisfy the intellect, but DO NOT soothe the soul. The express implication is that, if respected and cherished in our hearts, they may broaden us to a certain shallow extent – may make us moral and resigned toward Him - but they DO NOT make God our own, as they are not intimate enough. Consequently, they place Him aloof from our every concerns of the world.

7. Divine Oneness:--->

All the wisdom traditions see the beginning of everything as Oneness. Consequently, the first Universal Law, the first principle, is the Law of DIVINE ONENESS. This Oneness or Source from which everything emanates is an eternal and unchanging unified field of intelligence underlying everything and permeating the whole of creation.

To the extent everything emanates from this Oneness or Source, and in as much as this field permeates all the manifest and unmanifest parts of creation, the Law of Oneness also states that everything that exists is connected with everything else. That which connects everything with everything else and therefore we ourselves with everything else too is expressed in different ways. Some call it Love, others, Universal Consciousness. It is also referred to as ether and in modern usage it is sometimes also called energy and sometimes light. This interconnectedness means that the world does not consist of separate things. Mind and matter are not separate from each other. Nor are we human beings separate from each other or from the world around us, or from nature, the plants and the animals, or from seemingly non-living matter either.

The Law of Oneness also tells us that this omnipresent field of intelligence, which lies hidden behind all the outer manifestations and phenomena, is in fact an infinite and endless field of Universal Consciousness. The Law of Oneness is therefore also known as the Law of Universal Consciousness and as the Law of Universal Mind. In accordance with the Law of Oneness, this Oneness is also the Whole, because it is everything that there is. Nothing exists outside this Oneness, which means that everything that exists, exists within this Oneness. At the same time, this Oneness is endless, both in terms of time (it is eternal) and place (it is everywhere, permeates everything and is in everything) and it is also endless in terms of force (it is unlimited). This law is therefore also known as the Law of Pure Potentiality.

In short, between the material world and the world of the mind and consciousness there does not exist an absolute dividing line. Instead there exists a constant connection and communication between all things, which co-exist. If our individual consciousness is indeed a part of universal consciousness, that means, wrote scientist Erich Jantsch as early as 1975 in his book Design for Evolution, Self-Organization and Planning in the Life of Human Systems, that all knowledge present in universal consciousness is in principle available within ourselves. However, to consciously contact this universal consciousness, our rational mind or our five physical senses are of little use to us. Instead, we have to rely on our intuition and even more on the capacity to perceive via other states of consciousness. In other words, it is in essence available as inner knowledge.

In the meantime, considerable research has also been conducted into the existence of the various forms of perception that transcend the familiar five senses. In his book The Conscious Universe: The Scientific Truth of Psychic Phenomena (1997), Dean Radin, psychologist and researcher into the multidimensional nature of our consciousness, gives a detailed overview of the progressively more refined experimental scientific research that has now been going on for over a century into these widely-ranging capabilities of our consciousness.

Dean Radin describes our consciousness not only as a part of the omnipresent Universal Consciousness that extends beyond the individual. On the basis of many well documented experiments, he describes consciousness, moreover, as something that affects the probability of events. Consciousness brings order into systems and that also applies to our own consciousness. Because our consciousness is a part of the consciousness of the universe, we are therefore also able to influence the field of universal consciousness with our own consciousness. And in Dean Radin’s view, this is precisely what we do. The many studies that have been conducted into this show that the degree in which such influence takes place is in proportion to the strength of the consciousness present.

Normally speaking, the strength of consciousness of an individual fluctuates from moment to moment, and is regulated by the degree of focus of attention of the individual. And the ability to focus our attention is of course something that we can improve by practice. In short, a skill of this nature in principle opens up unending possibilities in co-creating the kind of world we wish for. In his recent article The Emperor’s New Media: Science, Psi, and Skeptics: Breaking the Silence (2004) Dean Radin observes: “...some of which is now beginning to appear in mainstream psychology, physics, and medical journals. (...) my guess is (...) that historically the turn of the millennium will be viewed as a time when scientific and editorial opinions began to noticeably shift about the capacities of mind.”

For present-day scientists from widely-ranging disciplines, a real understanding of consciousness appears to be of pivotal importance to comprehend more of the nature, the meaning and operation of the universe. Recently, among a small but growing number of scientists nowadays, the radical perception has begun to dawn that consciousness may not only be something that permeates everything, but consciousness may also be something that underlies everything and that plays an important organizing role in the creation of life and matter. Listen to biochemist Herbert G. Lebherz (1997): “Unless modern Western science can embrace the concept that consciousness is primary, it will remain trapped in a repetitive maze.”

Instead of matter giving rise to consciousness - which was long the accepted view - a number of scientists are now suspecting that it could well be that consciousness has always existed and that consciousness gives rise to life and matter. In 1993, the North American physicist Henry Stapp postulated in his book Mind, Matter and Quantum Mechanics the hypothesis that reality is created by consciousness. He bases this Quantum Theory for Consciousness mainly on the perceptions in quantum physics. In the same year, the North American physicist Amit Goswami also put forward this perception. In his book The Self-Aware Universe: How Consciousness Creates the Material World (1993), he tries convincingly to argue that consciousness indeed is the primal ground from which everything originates. He does this, like Henry Stapp, with use of the perceptions in quantum physics, but as well as this he also uses insights from different wisdom traditions.

After thirty years of research into the nature of consciousness, British physicist, mathematician, philosopher and author Peter Russell also comes to the conclusion that consciousness does not arise from matter, but that the reverse is the case. Consciousness underlies everything and matter originates from consciousness. In his book From Science To God (2000) he writes that he arrived at this radical perception by integrating the most innovative perceptions from theoretical physics and experimental psychology with the study of various mystical texts as well as with his own personal experiences. Furthermore, he maintains that this new world view is not in conflict with any of the findings of modern science - it turns out only to be in conflict with certain presuppositions within Western science.

This radical new perception represents a change in the world view that has long been at the foundation of the whole of Western science. For this reason, Peter Russell terms this new perception, in which consciousness should be seen as real and fundamental a factor as space, time and matter and in fact more fundamental than the other factors, not merely a paradigm shift but a metaparadigm shift. According to this new perception, the universe is regarded as having its origins in - and in essence consisting of - consciousness, consciousness from which matter arose and continues to arise.

Physicist Fred Alan Wolf summarizes this new view as follows: “Basically, we’re looking at a process in which the ultimate source of everything (...) transforms consciousness into matter. Once this happens, matter inherently acts as a kind of reflection or mirror of the intelligence from which it sprung. As matter modifies itself over time in an ongoing evolutionary process, new information and intelligence continues to be reflected in an ever-evolving universe.” In this new view, consciousness, then, is what underlies all the processes and is the directional force behind the process of evolution, in which we human beings also participate.

The Law of DIVINE ONENESS was perhaps illumined in Hermetica: The Greek Corpus Hermeticum and the Latin Asclepius, a group of primarily philosophical and spiritual treatises written in Greek, dating from 2^nd and 4^th centuries CE. This foundational collection of texts attributed to Hermes Trismegistus (from Ancient Greek: “Hermes the Thrice-Greatest”), a syncretic figure blending aspects of the Greek god Thoh affirms:

If then you do not make yourself equal to God, you cannot apprehend God; for like is known by like. Leap clear of all that is corporeal, and make yourself grown to a like expanse with that greatness which is beyond all measure; rise above all time and become eternal; then you will apprehend God. Think that for you too nothing is impossible; deem that you too are immortal, and that you are able to grasp all things in your thought, to know every craft and science; find your home in the haunts of every living creature; make yourself higher than all heights and lower than all depths; bring together in yourself all opposites of quality, heat and cold, dryness and fluidity; think that you are everywhere at once, on land, at sea, in heaven; think that you are not yet begotten, that you are in the womb, that you are young, that you are old, that you have died, that you are in the world beyond the grave; grasp in your thought all of this at once, all times and places, all substances and qualities and magnitudes together; then you can apprehend God. But if you shut up your soul in your body, and abase yourself, and say “I know nothing, I can do nothing; I am afraid of earth and sea, I cannot mount to heaven; I know not what I was, nor what I shall be,” then what have you to do with God?

Atheism in all manifestation is ANTI-LIFE.
Atheism turns out to be too simple if not horrible.
If the whole universe and human’s destiny has no meaning,
We should never in our sanity have found out that it has no meaning.
All we have seen teaches us to trust the Creator for all we have not seen.
Those who can make you believe absurdities, can make you commit atrocities.
Religion being part of your LIFE, here are SEVEN RELATED RELIGIOUS phenomena.
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RELIGIOUS discipline of defending religious doctrines through systematic argumentation and discourse, is APOLOGETICS (from Greek, “speaking in defense”).
EFFETE APOSTASY is an individual’s abandonment of their religious commitment and acceptance of a nonreligious lifestyle or joining a different movement of belief.
LOATHFUL DECONVERSION is the process by which converts leave their faith. A minority of mainstream religious followers truly reject their faith and deconvert. Apostates make up just 7% of deconversions from mainstream religion. However, 80% will withdraw and later return.
A revitalised commitment to a religion is called INTENSIFICATION. This may be to a religion that one was brought up in or has only casually followed. Also referred to as “born again” or a “rebirth”. In some religions the faithful follow procedures designed to induce experiences of intensification.
TRULY changing religious identification group without radically changing as a person, is SWITCHING. An example would be switching religious denomination.
ENTRENCHED varying religious participation across an individual’s lifetime is CYCLING. An individual may drop out of religion to later return, or periodically fall out of the faith.
DECADENT RADICALIZATION is the process by which an individual or a group comes to adopt increasingly radical views in opposition to a political, social, or religious status quo.

GOD is REAL.
We must believe in GOD.
But not as one thing, not as an old man in the sky.
We believe that what people call God is something in all of us.
We believe that what Jesus, Mohammed and Buddha and others said was right.
Their timeless TRUTHS have been lost in the mist of translations that have gone wrong.
So here now unfolds our dense and uncensorable BEYONDISM BENEDICTION:
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It was Spanish-born U.S. philosopher, poet, and novelist George Santayana (1863 - 1952) who affirmed: “There is nothing impossible in the existence of the supernatural: its existence seems to me to be decidedly probable...Any attempt to speak without speaking any particular language is not more hopeless than the attempt to have a religion that shall be no religion in particular...Thus every living and healthy religion has a marked idiosyncrasy. Its power consists in its special and surprising message and in the bias which that revealation gives to LIFE. The vistas it opens and the mysteries it propounds are another world to live in — whether we expect ever to pass wholly over into it or no — is what we mean by having a religion...There are two stages in the criticism of myths...The first treats them angrily as superstitions; the second treats them smilingly as poetry...Religion is human experience interpreted by human imagination...The idea that religion contains a literal, not a symbolic, representation of truth and life is simply an impossible idea. Whoever entertains it has not come within the region of profitable philosophising on that subject...Matters of religion should never be matters of controversy...We seek rather to honor the piety and understand the poetry embodied in these fables.”

The supreme question is: Who is GOD?--->

GOD is the first unmoved mover, one who transcends all predicables and categories.
GOD is HE who induces the first eternal movement from potentiality towards actuality.
GOD is the Nature that creates and is not created; the essence, which is super-essential.
GOD is in Himself wisdom, and yet not wisdom, since He is super, and absolute wisdom.
GOD is the infinite LIFE itself; creatures are finite beings who have LIFE by participation.
GOD is HE WHO IS; the source of all that is in being; creatures have existence, but He Is.
GOD is a cumulative intuition arrived by mind in its observation of Nature’s harmony.

What is the ramification of RELIGION?--->

RELIGION is a feeling of absolute dependence, alloyed to belief in a Spiritual Being.
RELIGION is a deep intuition of union with the inanimate as well as animate world.
RELIGION is that which brings us into subjective relation with the great world-forces.
RELIGION is viewing the unthinkable as a certainty, and the supernatural as a fact.
RELIGION is perceiving LIFE as existence, in a world that is non-actual, but very true.
RELIGION is nothing but submission, propitiation or conciliation of superior powers.
RELIGION is appreciation of mystery of existence, in the interest of human as an ego.

Use of persuasive symbols, rituals and myths:--->

RELIGION is a system of beliefs in supernatural forces, which guide human beings.
RELIGION uses symbols and rituals, that melts away the monotony and dullness of LIFE.
These symbols establish powerful, and long lasting impression in the moods of people.
They motivate us through the formulated conception of a general order of existence.
RELIGION utilises doctrines, myths with the purpose of making ‘existence’ meaningful.
RELIGION is subtly concerned with the expression of social values, in a given setting.
RELIGION attempts to safeguard social values by endowing them with divine sanction.

The Overriding Timeless Therapeautic Tool:--->

RELIGION is the only Therapeutic Tool, which people finds solace in when in pain.
RELIGION is imperative, when faced by the uncertainties in our works and our toils.
People have turned to God for blessings, in the face of many encounters of this world.
RELIGION takes the sting out of death; lifting and beautifying the routineness of LIFE.
It has filled from birth through marriage to death, with ceremonies, drama and music.
It has changed the sordid tragedy of LIFE, into a poetic pilgrimage to an ennobled end.
Without RELIGION, LIFE would be unbearable and mean, like a body without a soul.

No human is immune to religious feeling:--->

All humans in some loneliness of their pain, or of their thoughts come close to God.
The point here is cut and dry: there is no human being who is an invulnerable heathen.
All patients and old people, where death seems inevitable, have one common thing.
Their major problem in the last resort, is that of finding a religious outlook of LIFE.
There has never existed any human beings, who were not in some sense RELIGIOUS.
People long for value in LIFE; and believe that LIFE is not accidental and meaningless.
The search for meaning, leads to faith in order to maintain the highest values for LIFE.

Atheism is impossible, or simply foolish:--->

How could things have been as they are, were there not an original order?
No living mortal, can be able to be an atheist in the proper conception of the word.
Those who purports to be atheists, are only rebelling against the conventional beliefs.
Deep inside they are yearning for a BELIEF, to fill the void that is gnawing them.
The rise of atheism, and the acceptance of the theory of evolution, is irrelevant.
This does not water down the fact that, RELIGION satisfies a basic human NEED.
RELIGION quenches a deep human thirst, much more as food satisfies our hunger.

There is basically a common source for all:--->

Mankind is of the same stock (related not only biologically but in other areas as well) -
As testified in the fact that, all language can be grouped into familiar classes of speech.
And all these families are seen to have started or originated from one common source.
Likewise, RELIGIOUS ideas and concepts are traceable to some common origin or pool.
All religions, say in one way or another that humans do not and cannot, stand alone.
Humans are vitally related with, and even dependent on powers in Nature and society.
Humans are not independent centerS of force, capable of standing apart from the world.

A sparkling similarity with all religions:--->

Those who believed in various myths, lived far from one another geographically.
Their cultures were different, as their customs bore no relationship to one another.
Paradoxically, when it comes to their RELIGIONS, a sparkling similarity is evident.
As if there was a common fount from which each RELIGION drew its basic beliefs.
With the passage of time, these basic IDEAS were embellished and modified;
And other teachings developed from them, but the basic outline is unmistakable:
The human being’s search for connectedness with the powers beyond him or her.

Religion when really suppressed will erupt:--->

RELIGION weaves itself in the fabric of individual, and general social consciousness.
RELIGION is unlike fire, which when covered by a blanket eventually extinguishes off.
When the RELIGIOUS need is suppressed, it only grows in intensity and extensity.
It becomes more and more ferocious, and may express itself even in works of art.
Religious cultures often produce poetry and theater, but only rarely great novels.
Fiction is in societies where faith is in crisis; where one needs to believe something.
Suppress all religions for a century then take off the lid, and it grows again in a year.

The transcendental source of Religiousness:--->

RELIGIOUSNESS essentially erupts directly from our instinctive and emotional fount.
RELIGIOUSNESS is borne out of hunger for self-preservation, and for companionship.
RELIGIOUSNESS arises out the need for reward, for security, and even for submission.
RELIGIOUSNESS becomes spiritually nourishing, when it is danced out to a cathartic state.
RELIGIOUSNESS becomes uplifting, when listened as it is couched in polyphonic music.
RELIGIOUSNESS is expressive through the medium of poetry, and phrased in imagery.
RELIGIOUSNESS is enriching, when it showers in our minds haloed with the supernatural.

Goodness as a laudable lever to Godliness:--->

Acting solely according to the decree of God, is to be partakers in the Divine nature.
The more we perform more perfect actions, the more and more we understand God.
This tranquilises our spirit, shows us where our highest happiness and blessedness is.
In the deepest knowledge of God, we are led to act only as love and piety shall bid.
Expect not to be decorated by God with high rewards, for enduring the direst slavery.
Virtue, and the service of God, are in themselves happiness and the perfect freedom.
It is submitting to the guidance of reason, according as the time and occasion demand.

Relationship between morality and conscience:--->

REDEEMING RELIGIOUSNESS, is a total and spontaneous reaction upon ‘existence’.
It is ultimate appreciating of the world, through total employment of our sensations.
It is ultimate synthesis of the data, gathered by total employment of our intuitions.
This results in clear and pure perceptions, and acting our behaviour wholeheartedly.
Our moralities should derive their precise impetus, from the depth of our conscience.
To explain human’s being ‘free,’ the existential quality of human reality would do.
To explain our being ‘responsible,’ the transcendent quality of conscience prevails.

How the conscience itself becomes conscious:--->

On choosing to respond to the pull of ‘religio’, the conscience becomes conscious.
Conscience, as a function of the human spirit, remains free to take a social stand.
Conscience informs one of the one, right thing required by any unique situation.
The intensity of our ‘religio’, is the extent which we feel an inner sense of reward.
It is feeling an inner sense of replenishment, when we obey a certain moral precept.
We abscond from doing some acts deemed to be immoral, from our conscience.
It is neither to accrue for ourselves divine blessing, nor to avoid divine retribution.

The basic challenge of modernity on religion:--->

Modernity fueled by science, has posed acute challenges to traditional RELIGIONS.
For a large number of people in modern societies, religion is neither good nor bad.
But simply irrelevant, given the many alternative ways to find solution to problems.
There are various forms of social and cultural pursuits, ethical ideals, and lifestyles.
We need to face the fascinating, terrifying and unresolved areas of human enquiry.
This is the unavoidable and myriad influence of science and religion on one another.
To put this debate on the right context and in the right magnitude is our core duty.

Religion will never be replaced by science:--->

The truth is simple: science HAS never, CAN never and WILL never replace religion.
The scientific revolution has changed the way human beings live quite radically.
Communication, medical intervention, increasing control of reproduction are necessary.
These breakthroughs have transformed the conditions of LIFE, for millions of people.
However, to argue that, science has outdated the religious faith is to plead ignorance.
Religion and science are concerned with different areas of LIFE - which are equally vital.
The creative mind utilises both approaches, for personal well-being, and social thrive.

Religion and science compliments each other:--->

Religion and science do not, can not and will not really conflict each other.
They talk different languages, and they address themselves to different realms.
Science is concerned with the physical, measurable aspects of the universe.
Religion on the other hand is concerned with the spiritual, the immeasurable.
Science, basically focuses itself to the finite, analysable and experimental reality.
Religion, essentially focuses itself to the infinite and experiential spiritual reality.
As such, science and religion, are not contradictory, but complimentary activities.

We must continue updating our basic science:--->

God is not just a probable hypothesis, but a living, experienced reality.
Religion is a matter of vision and commitment, not of speculative theories.
It is indisputable that, there is a subtle spiritual dimension to the universe.
This dimension is not, as such, accessible to the methodologies of science.
In all shades, it is still ‘existentially’ compatible with what the science says.
For that reason, as human beings we are in a state of perpetual evolution.
We are called upon to test our visions against the scientific understanding.

Keeping religion relevant, thriving and lively:--->

The only way to keep religion alive and thriving is to adapt it to the secular values.
It is to reposition its conservativeness which is in direct opposition to secular values.
In the event of possible conflict between scientific view and religious orientation,
Religion will have to revise itself and change some traditional way viewing things.
Religions should place their beliefs in the context of an evolutionary world-view.
Humans are one evolved species on a small planet in a tiny part of the universe.
Evolution is not a random process, but compatible with some sort of Cosmic goal.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #15
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#15 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Don’t wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day.” - Algerian novelist Albert Camus (1913 - 1960)

“And said, Verily I say unto you,
Except ye be converted, and become as little children,
Ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.”
- King James Bible, Matthew 18:3
Want to change a person’s belief system?
Find or build significant tensions in him or her.
Let them build to almost breaking point, where they are desperately looking for a solution.
Then provide the solution.
Preferably this should be in an engineered context where all cues point to the same conclusion.
Follow up by giving them experiences that allow them to ‘prove’ the change to themselves.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Conversion entails a fundamental change in one’s strongly held critical convictions.
Distinguished Developers: Berger and Luckmann (1967)

UNTAINTED, this experience is often strongly felt and leads to radical changes in a person’s behaviours.
POTENT ground is in search for MEANING in one’s LIFE and having built up massive tension around this.
GENERALLY, the convert experience a significant emotional release (as when one get initiated in a cult).
REALLY, this is within a carefully engineered context of RITUAL and socialisation, as they ‘see the light’.
ACTUALLY, this often happens to an individual, who has been thinking about something for some time.
DECISIVELY after a long painful search, a cognitive breakthrough or a cathartic release at last appears.
ESSENTIAL with beliefs as in when an inventor gets a ‘EUREKA’ experience on how to solve a problem.
Timely Therapy: - When in tension or searching for a MEANING, beware of people offering pat solutions.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Brief and powerless is OUR human LIFE; on US and all OUR race the slow, sure doom falls pitiless and dark.

“Persecution is a bad and indirect way to plant religion. There are many (questionless) canonized on earth, that shall never be Saints in Heaven.” - English physician and writer Thomas Browne (1605 - 1682)
Most of us are strongly affected by social pressures. This makes it a strongly significant effect in our LIFE. Especially if we are overly susceptible to such forces. Suppose all of our friends clearly have strong beliefs in one area. And particularly if they see our beliefs are being wrong. Then we will feel a powerful urge to convert to their way of thinking. This is more likely to occur when there is consistent evidence pointing to:
(a) Current beliefs being wrong.
(b) Alternative beliefs being right.
Perhaps there is conflicting evidence about the area in question. Then we can more easily ask searching questions. And pay attention to whichever evidence confirms our current belief. In this case our conversion may be slow, deliberate and rational. There are those in our midst who may be referred to as ‘Sudden Converters’. These people often make excellent protagonists. They go from vocal and visible opposition to “seeing the light”, and subsequent vocal and visible advocacy in a short space of time.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Sudden Conversion Syndrome is drastic change to a belief and becoming its extreme proponent.
Distinguished Developer: American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910).

USUALLY, this syndrome occurs where a person switches diametrically a belief in a short space of time.
PURE Sudden Conversion Syndrome is going from strong opposition to an idea to strong support of it.
GIVEN this sudden experience typically happens to people who see the world more in black and white.
REAL believe is in black, then for them to convert, they only leap the chasm between black and white.
AFFIRMATIVELY, this happens in a single bound, ardently believing in white (and disbelieving in black).
DULY, this is based in having a high need for control, achieved by seeking and creating life’s certainties.
EMOTIONAL certainty over truth is sought; any use of structure and logic, is made of false arguments.
Timely Therapy: - When considering a shift from your current beliefs, keenly examine all possible angles.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
“You have not converted a man because you have silenced him.” - British statesman John Morley (1838 - 1923)

“So the wheel comes full circle: ‘and where I did begin, there shall I end’. Henry VIII binds and clasps this massive life-work into a single whole expanding the habitual design of Shakespearian tragedy: from normality to order, through violent conflict to a spiritualized music, and thence to the concluding ritual.”
- British academic and critic G. Wilson Knight (1897 - 1985)
The Crown of Life, “Henry VIII and the Poetry of Conversion”
Religious conversion is the adoption of new religious beliefs, that differ from the convert’s previous beliefs. In some cultures conversion also signifies joining a group as well as adopting its religious beliefs. Conversion requires internalisation of the new belief system.
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The Psychology of Religious Conversion as a cause for a revolution in the personality.
Distinguished Developer: American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910)

UNDERLYING Religious Conversion is a sense of regeneration, a reception of grace, or assurance.
POTENTLY, what distinguishes Religious Conversion from normal experiences of change, is DEPTH.
GENERALLY, we undergo alterations of character: at home, at work, or awaking at four in the morning.
RELIGIOUS Conversion, be it sudden or slow, results in a revolutionary, but stable transformation.
A defining role in our LIFE is played by subconscious forces, even without our CONSCIOUS awareness.
DUE conversion can be thought of as a precipitation from the unconscious and is surely, for the good.
EXISTENTIALLY, it re-orientates the individual around a new center of previously submerged energy.
Timely Therapy: - Evidence for the existence of God is found in pronounced personal, inner experience.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Freedom includes realization and converts everything to its basic nature, which is SELF-ACTUALIZATION.

Have you also witnessed how some people confess to have received “salvation?”
And how they have suddenly “accepted Lord Jesus their personal saviour?”
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Sudden Conversion is whereby beliefs can change suddenly when we are “born again”.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist and educator Granville Stanley Hall (1846 – 1924)

UNCONTESTED religious paradigm for conversion, is dependent on the idea of Sudden Conversion.
PROTOTYPICAL Sudden Conversion in the Bible, is the conversion of Paul on the road to Damascus.
GRANTED, one is a passive agent acted upon by external forces; it entails a total submission of being.
RESTIVE emotion dominates this dramatic, irrational transformation leading to a shift in self and belief.
AFFIRMATIVE behaviour change follows, and this conversion is not a back and forth drawn out process.
DEFINITELY, Sudden Conversion happens rather, in one single instance and is permanent thereafter.
EASING the overwhelming, unbearable emotions of anxiety and guilt from sin is Sudden Conversion.
Timely Therapy: - Sudden conversions often occur in youth, and are exceptionally emotional experiences.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Constant conditioning in youth and social pressure in every department of LIFE may fail to subvert a person.

“It is extremely difficult for a Jew to be converted, for how can he bring himself to believe in the divinity of—another Jew?” - German poet Heinrich Heine (1797 - 1856). Born a Jew, Heine converted to Christianity in 1825 to secure his rights as a German citizen.
Numidian Christian theologian and Doctor of the Church Saint Augustine of Hippo (354 - 430), first encountered an (intellectual conversion) into Christianity, then subsequently, and eventually, he began to fall deeply in love with God (spiritual conversion) and changed the way he lived (moral conversion).
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Gradual Conversion is how we can transform ourselves slowly as we persue a goal.
Distinguished Developer: Rambo, L. R. (1993).

UNCONSCIOUS Conversion defines Gradual Conversion, as a contrast to Sudden Conversion.
PRUDENTLY, Gradual Conversion is a rational, highly intellectual, well thought out potent process.
GENERALLY and typically, Gradual Conversions do not occur following a single, impactful event.
RATHER, they are diligently distinguished EMPIRICALLY, and thoughtfully over a length of TIME.
A Gradual Conversion can be identified by purposively and strategically striving toward the goal.
DELIBERATELY, this movement has no DECISIVE point where conversion is initiated or concluded.
EMOTIONALLY less with no Emotional Crisis, GUILT, or SIN, the whole process occurs cognitively.
Timely Therapy: - Have dominant emotional factors affecting your conversion? Make them rational.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
A free-thinker confines oneself to studying the outlooks or intentions of folks one finds oneself associating with.

Much of the fighting around the world is based on differences of religion.
Zealots cast the other side as jointly and severally guilty for the sins of their peers.
And equally likely to commit the same acts of war.
Thus genocide seems the only answer as they blindly fight on.
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Out-Group Homogeneity entails seeing non-group people as ‘all the same’.
Distinguished Developers: Quattrone (1986), Linville, Fischer and Salovey (1989)

UNIMPEDED, we tend to classify people who are not in our in-group as being SIMILAR to one another.
PRECISELY, without any deep consideration, “they are all like that” is a common reference term used.
GENERALLY, in contrast, we tend to see those people who are in our in-group as being more individual.
REALLY, we tend to use a set of stereotypes for people from different countries, cities and companies.
ACTUALLY, these generalizations lead us to discriminate uniformly towards people from these groups.
DULY, when visiting a new country or group, the behaviours of the first few people we meet are vital.
ESSENTIALLY, they will quickly be used to create a subtle stereotype of the others in the same group.
Timely Therapy: - To form your own group, cast selected other people as having undesirable attributes.

Psychosocial Prophesy

R#65. On seeing LIFE as haphazard and human DEVELOPMENT follows no discernible pattern.

BQ#16. What intensity of WIT is key in DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT, as a function of enlightening existentially the PSYCHOSOCIAL PROPHESY?--->

Shakespeare’s play The Tempest (1611) is without doubt reflective in tone, especially on the end of life, in its concerns with remembrance and forgiveness, the loss and limitation of power, and the need for the reconciliation of the past, present, and future. The character Prospero in Act IV, scene 1, gives up his account:

Our revels now are ended. These our actors,
As I foretold you, were all spirits and
Are melted into air, into thin air:
And, like the baseless fabric of this vision,
The cloud-capp’d towers, the gorgeous palaces,
The solemn temples, the great globe itself,
Ye all which it inherit, shall dissolve
And, like this insubstantial pageant faded,
Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded with a sleep.

“Youth is a blunder; Manhood a struggle; Old Age a regret.”
- British prime minister and writer Benjamin Disraeli (1804 - 1881)

“I used to think getting old was about vanity—but actually it’s about losing people you love.”
- U.S. writer Joyce Carol Oates (1938 - )

“The ego, in the course of its synthesising efforts, attempts to subsume the most powerful ideal and evil prototypes (the final contestants, as it were) and with them the whole existing imagery of superior and inferior, good and bad, masculine and feminine, free and slave, potent and impotent, beautiful and ugly, fast and slow, tall and small, in a simple alternative, in order to make one battle and one strategy out of a bewildering number of skirmishes.”
- American psychologist Erick H. Erickson (1902 – 1994)

“Live with the gods. And he does so who constantly shows them that his soul is satisfied with what is assigned to him.”
- Roman emperor and philosopher Marcus Aurelius (121 - 180)

“Once I accept the existence of dying, as a life process, who can ever have power over me again?”
- U.S. poet, novelist, and feminist Audre Lorde (1934 - 1992)

“Society, friendship, and love,
Divinely bestowed upon man,
Oh, had I the wings of a dove,
How soon would I taste you again!”
- British poet William Cowper (1731 - 1800)
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BEYONDISM SEEKS TO OUTLINE THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE EGO in eight psychosocial stages of LIFE cycle. At each evolutionary stage, the EGO develops certain strengths or basic virtues that enable it to move forward. The EGO strengths further lay the basis for a set of ethical rules based on ideals that we can strive for. If we should view these stages as ground plan, we find that, they do not occur within a strict chronological framework, as each child has her or his own timetable. However, as in foetal development, each aspect of psychosocial development has a critical period of readiness during which, if it does not flourish, it is likely to flounder. In addition, the stages progress in a cumulative rather than a linear fashion, as the behaviour of one stage does not disappear with the successive stage. The eight stages of psychosocial development behaviours may be associated with healthy and unhealthy expressions of the self’s development and ego boundary growth during first psychosocial stages. It is worth noting that maternal emotional state, is critical to the subsequent emotional stability or instability of the child in his or her future LIFE. When a person is under emotional stress, they experience hormonal changes in the body. In case of a pregnant woman, these hormones can pass through the placenta and affect the baby. Expectant mothers who have been under prolonged emotional stress are likely to have: a child with behaviour problems, cleft palate, lip deformation, chronically ill child, infants with feeding problems, hyperactive babies and irritable infants.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of PSYCHOSOCIAL PROPHESY thus:

Philosophical choice facing any human is the ordering of one’s inner LIFE.
Searching for MEANING is BEYOND the scope of empirical verification.
Your nature as a human being, is suffering from internal and external conflicts.
Conflict and suffering arises from the false demands and expectations of others.
Human nature is essentially made up of a mixture of both good and bad tendencies.
Operationally, experience of inner conflict is part of what it means to be human.
Striving to actualise, maintain, and enhance the experiences of organism is vital.
Organic needs may be described as partial aspects of this one fundamental need.
Channeling the movement of this single tendency is persuasive and imperative.
In the direction of an increasing self-government, self-regulation, and autonomy.
And then move away from heteronymous control, or control by external forces.
Leaning of this tendency appears to be in the positive direction of socialisation.

Practically every normal human being is able to know what is good and what is evil.
Reason and strength of one’s natural potentialities propels one to act accordingly.
Our biological Actualization tendency is grounded on the facts of human motivation.
Possibility of human distress should be attributed to forces external to the person.
Happiness can only arise from the virtues of individual freedom and autonomy.
Encouragement here is never to assume the psychological stance of being victims.
Social harmony may be achieved only when each person achieves Actualization.
Your SELF-Actualization really impedes not, the SELF-Actualization of others.

“Everybody just has different steps in their life that they take to do what they should.”- American rapper Jacques Bermon Webster II a.k.a. Travis Scott (b. 1992). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: CULTIVATING your WIT for DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT which underlies LIFE’s patterns.--->

LIFE itself is a force of its own (a vector quantity as opposed to a scalar quantity), with its own magnitude and direction. Although cruelly limited and constrained, its impetus affects the human organism with an amazing degree, rising from the lowliest dependent organism, to the independent lonely height of genius. Every living human creature, in proportion to the flexibility of its structures, is a centre of this redirected force, and in some measure of spontaneous initiation. Human behaviour is lawful, consistent, predictable and controllable. This means that, the LIFE of every human being from birth to death, follows a certain ‘developmental path’ (with very minor individual variations). If all factors are held at a constant (environmental, biological and social influences), the individual accumulates necessary ego-strengths at each particular ‘developmental stage’.

Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to DISCERN DEVELOPMENT.
SUITABLY, PROPHESY in the context of BEYONDISM, is not an attempt to foretell things to come.
UNIMPEDED, it seeks to expose to you at the risk of your displeasure, the secrets of your PSYCHE.
MOST formative experiences of LIFE occur in the early years; that is during infancy and childhood.
MOTOR skills, thinking abilities, and capacities for feeling are characteristics that will last a lifetime.
A PERSON may maintain the same basic TEMPERAMENT he or she had when young, while growing up.
RECOGNITION that, development continues throughout the LIFE span, is the most recent discovery.
YOU possesses the seed of greatness, which when planted in a fertile soil sprouts to make you greater.

PREPARE yourself to diligently CULTIVATE the creative ‘capacity’ for DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT.

Plotting or attempting to draw a map of LIFE’s journey, is a way of searching for meaning of LIFE.
Representing the maturation process of the PSYCHE to where its potentialities are integrated is vital.
Each and every human LIFE is divided in various segments or “stages” from the cradle to the grave.
Peculiarities and distinguishing marks, defines each developmental stage, in a homogeneous process.
Attention is hereby directed to the whole of human ‘existence’ as such, from its beginning to its end.
Revealation from within all LIFE’s aspects as a totality, is the “sacred” endeavour of BEYONDISM.
Exposing and tracing the IDEALS of a meaningful, hidden “LIFE-span” with its “phase”, is our DUTY.

REALISE that CULTIVATING your innate ‘quest’ for DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT is in your ‘power.’

Research of the LIFE-course as a psychological problem point the ways and means of inner growth.
Essential insight entails giving an account of what Gustav Jung termed the “individuation process.”
An attempt is made here to trace “the individuation process” with reference to the “stages of LIFE.”
LIFE viewed as an “individuation process” characterises a possibility of development immanent in all.
In all pure perspectives, this clearly culminates in rounding out the individual into a PSYCHIC whole.
Subtly we take account of both the “conscious” and the “unconscious” components of the PSYCHE.
Entrenched deeply in their delicately balanced and creative interaction with the whole of the person.

EMPOWER yourself to CULTIVATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT.

Embracing our innermost, last and incomparable uniqueness, “individuation” is becoming ONESELF.
Meaningfully “becoming an in-dividual”, individuation, is basically “coming to self or self-realisation”.
Personality has as its aim, its completion through the maximal extension of its field of consciousness.
Only when an individual becomes fully realised, does the maturation process of the PSYCHE ensue.
Willfully, it is a gradual integration; unconscious contents being capable of becoming conscious.
Every human being is faced with the prerogative of becoming what he or she is utmostly capable of.
Realisation and integration of all possibilities congenitally present in the individual, is individuation.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to CULTIVATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT.

Most appropriate definition of personality is the characteristic ways in which one deals with others.
Each and every individual exists only in the context of interpersonal relations with other individuals.
Dynamisms are patterns of energy transformation that characterise one’s interpersonal relations.
Individuals are continually changing energy in their encounters and relationships with other people.
A person who randomly relates to others in a hostile manner is expressing a dynamism of ill will.
Those people who are characteristically affraid of strangers implicitly illustrates the dynamism of fear.
Expression of the dynamism of lust is manifest in those who seek bare sexual relations with others.

INDULGE yourself in CULTIVATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT.

Individuation can be divided into two phases containing sub-divisions: first and second half of LIFE.
Nurturing first half of LIFE is explicit expansion of the personality and adaptation to the outer world.
Distinction of the second half is based on a restriction which signifies an adaptation to the inner LIFE.
Usually, the transition from the first phase to the second, is a TIME of GREAT difficulty and tension.
LIFE’s “change” is a conflict between the onset of aging, and the urge for further PSYCHIC growth.
Gradually, as one reaches the zenith of LIFE, one gets confronted with the reality of the end - death.
Existentially, a “balance account crisis” arises; the “change” of LIFE is construed as a transformation.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for CULTIVATING the ‘compulsion’ of DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT.

Usually, the extent, intensity, and duration of LIFE “transformation” vary from individual to individual.
The potent for such a transformation does not depend on the bigness or smallness of the personality.
It entails moving from an ego-centered to an ego-transcending attitude, or PSYCHIC reconstruction.
Lively transformation can be either sudden or gradual; takes place in a short time or several years.
In any case, the slowness or gradualness of the transformation does not affect PSYCHIC maturation.
Suitable individuation is the progressive differentiation of attitudinal and functional modes of being.
Endless, is it, the confrontation, step by step, between the ego and the contents of the unconscious.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to CULTIVATE DISCERNING DEVELOPMENT.

Meaningful text of LIFE is edited by the first 40 years, the remaining years supply the commentary.
Oddly but clearly, without the commentary we are unable to understand the right true sense of LIFE.
No wisdom will accrue to us; we will miss the coherence of the text, together with its inherent moral.
Individuation cannot be grasped in its core essence; it is a transformation that pervades all creation.
The meaning and purpose of individuation problem lie not in its solution, but in fully working at it.
Onset, or picturesquely speaking, “at the stroke of NOON the descent of human PSYCHE begins.”
Reversal of all the ideals and values that were cherished in the MORNING characterises this descent.

“My words fly up, my thoughts remain below:
Words without thoughts never to heaven go.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 3

“O good old man! how well in thee appears
The constant service of the antique world,
When service sweat for duty, not for meed!
Thou art not for the fashion of these times,
Where none will sweat but for promotion,
And having that, do choke their service up
Even with the having.”
- Shakespeare in As You Like It, Act 2, Scene 3

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on enlightening existentially the PSYCHOSOCIAL PROPHESY:
It is clear that you are CULTIVATING your affluent attempt to DISCERN DEVELOPMENT.
Forthwith, brace yourself to IRRIGATE this dauntless determination,
Before PROPAGATING the solid struggle,
Then NURTURING your ennobling exertion,
And ultimately REAPING your lively labour.

“The purest treasure mortal times afford
Is spotless reputation; that away,
Men are but gilded loam or painted clay.”
- Shakespeare in Richard II, Act 1, Scene 1
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After birth how does the EGO DULY DEVELOP? Here are SEVEN ways to shed more light on this:--->

DISTINCTIVELY, the EGO according to Erick H. Erickson, is the part of the mind that gives coherence to experiences, be they conscious or unconscious. The EGO does more than simply defend itself; it also learns skills and adaptive techniques. Although many aspects of EGO functioning are unconscious, the EGO has an overall unifying purpose that leads to consistent behaviour and conduct. The EGO has the positive role of maintaining effective performance, rather than just a negative role of avoiding anxiety. Its defenses are adaptive as well as maladaptive.
ESSENTIAL and adaptive capacities of the EGO includes the ability to deal with stress, to resolve vital conflict, to recuperate, and to contribute to identity formation. The EGO is strong, vital, and positive; it is an organising capacity of the individual that leads to that strength which can reconcile discontinuities and ambiguities.
VERILY, the EGO is creative and flexible as it comes to terms with the body, the mind and social processes. EGO strength should be measured in terms of the extremes that an individual is able to unify rather than by the extent of denial or repression.
EFFECTS of one’s society are not peripheral but central to the development of personality; there is interdependence between inner and outer organisation. Differences in cultural variables are significant and lead to variations in adult behaviour. Different groups have different ways of rearing their children to become functioning adult members of their society. From the very beginning, the way in which an infant is handled and fed affects the development of his or her EGO.
LOVE is imperative here. The development of the EGO first depends on the nurturance of the family. Later, other social models play a significant role. It is important that social organisations permit a child’s capacities and potentials to develop. The vey synthesising capacity of the EGO depends on the role of social organisation.
ONTOLOGICALLY, EGO development reaches a climax during adolescence when the individual is ready to establish his or her identity. EGO identity is an awareness of continuity in one’s EGO-synthesising methods and one’s meaning for others. It is a sense of coherent individuality that permits one to resolve conflicts.
PURPOSIVELLY, EGO identity denotes certain comprehensive gains that an individual must have derived from his or her experiences throughout childhood and adolescence in order to be ready for adulthood. It is a successful variation of one’s social group. Ultimately, EGO identity is a psychosocial product.

SEVEN KEY TERMINOLOGIES--->

Prophesy:

Although BEYONDISM does not ignore or discredit the Divine and sacred aspect of prophesy, as outlined in the Scriptures, our focus here is on its temporal, etymological implication. The word prophesy can be traced to 13^th Century French word prophecie, which was derived from Latin word prophetia, as borrowed from Greek word propheteia, meaning “speaking beforehand.” Prophesy in our context here entails to predict, forecast, foretell, see the future, prefigure, portend, presage, or envisage, the development of human being, in order to unearth the secret of human nature.

Psychosocial Stages:

Stages which develops on top of another in a sequential and hierarchical pattern. At each successive level the human personality becomes more complex. In each stage of life, a given strength is added to a widening ensemble and reintegrated at each later stage in order to play a part in full cycle.

Identity Crisis:

Each of the the eight stages entails it own Identity Crisis. A crisis is not a catastrophe but a turning point, a crucial period in which the individual cannot avoid a decisive turn one way or the other.

Emotional Duality:

Emotional polarity or conflict that one encounters at certain critical periods. New environmental demands introject positive and negative emotional components into the development of personality. Both emotional components are to some extent incorporated into the emerging person, but if the conflict is resolved satisfacorily, the positive component is reflected to a higher degree. If the conflict persists, or is not adequately resolved, the negative component predominates.

Ego Strengths or Virtues:

Psychosocial gains at each stage, resulting from ego’s successful adaptation to its environment and which must be nurtured and reaffirmed continuously.

Ritualizations:

Repetitious forms of everyday behaviour, socially structured ways of doing or experiencing something, that assist us in becoming productive members of a community.

Ritualisms:

Distortion, perversion or exaggeration of ritualizations.

In your INFANCY (1^st year), if needs were met, you were able to develop a sense of basic TRUST.

1. Trust versus Mistrust

Existential Question: Can I trust the world?
Significant Relationship: Mother.
Events: Feeding, Abandonment.
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The basic mode of behaviour at this point is an incorporative one, that of taking in. The infant takes in with all of its senses, primarily through the mouth. A complex of experiences centered on the mouth develops in relation to the mother or the primary caretaker.

Realistically, the basic psychosocial attitude to be learned at this stage is whether or not you can trust the world. At birth, infants are deprived of the constant attention they received in the womb and for a protracted period of time they are highly dependent on others for their care. Certain frustrations are inevitable and socially meaningful, but too much of either frustration or indulgence may have negative effects. Basic trust implies a perceived correlation between one’s needs and one’s world.

Usually, the primary dilemma that infants face is whether or not the world and its people are safe, nurturing, and can be trusted to meet one’s needs. If infants receive unreliable, inadequate, or rejecting care, they will perceive their world as indifferent or hostile and they will develop a high degree of mistrust.

Some sense of mistrust is important for the infants as they develop. When we enter into a situation, we need to be able to judge how much we can trust and to what degree we must be ready for danger and discomfort.

The danger lies in the extremes of trust and mistrust. This crisis is not permanently resolved during the first year or two of LIFE, but a foundation is laid that influences the subsequent course of development. An appropriate balance of trust and mistrust leads to the development of the ego strength hope, a basic human virtue without which we are unable to survive.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Trust.
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Invested in relationships.
Open.
Non-suspicious attitudes.
Let the mother go.
Welcomed touching.
Good eye contact.
Shared self and possessions.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Mistrust.
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Avoided relationship.
Suspicious.
Closed, guarded.
Unwilling to let mother go.
Loner and unhappy.
Poor eye contact.
Did not share self or possessions.

As a TODDLER (2^nd year) you strove to learn INDEPENDENCE and SELF-CONFIDENCE.

2. Autonomy versus Doubt

Existential Question: Is it okay to be me?
Significant Relationship: Parents.
Events: Toilet training, Clothing themselves.
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Affluent Ghanaian journalist, lawyer, and nationalist Joseph Ephraim Casely-Hayford (1866 - 1930), illumined: “Reform never comes to a class or a people unless and until those concerned have worked out their own salvation”.

Under all circumstances, and when viewed in the right context and perspective, holding on and letting go are the basic social modalities of this phase and may have constructive or destructive effects.

The primary emotional duality here is that of control over the body and bodily activities as opposed to a tendency for shame and doubt. This is a negative emotion that combines feeling of dishonour, unworthiness, and embarrassment; a state of disgrace; a cause for regret or disappointment.

Only after learning to trust his or her mother and to trust the world, that a child becomes self-willed and must take chances with his or her trust in order to see what he or she, as a trustworthy individual, can will.

New members of the world, or toddlers, who are making rapid gains in neuromuscular maturation, verbalisation, and social discrimination, begin to explore independently and interact with their environment.

On a deeper reflection, the negativism of the two-year-old whose favourite word is “no,” is evidence of the child’s struggling attempt at autonomy. A temper tantrum is simply a momentary loss of self-control.

Most cultures have different ways of cultivating or breaking the child’s will, either reinforcing or rejecting the tentative explorations of the child. Doubts about their ability for self-control may give children feelings of inadequacy or shame.

Yearning for will, is the virtue corresponding to this stage, and it is a natural outgrowth of autonomy. Clearly in the toddler years only rudiments emerge, but these will build into a mature sense of will power.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Autonomy.
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Independent.
Expressive.
Not easily led.
Resisted being dominated.
Able to stand on own two feet.
Worked well alone or with others.
Assertive when necessary.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Shame and Doubt.
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Procrastinated frequently.
Had trouble working alone.
Needed structure and directions.
Had trouble making decisions.
Was easily influenced.
Tended to be gullible
Felt embarrassed when complimented.

As a PRESCHOOLER (3 - 5 years) you learned to INITIATE tasks and grappled with SELF-CONTROL.

3. Initiative versus Guilt

Existential Question: Is it okay for me to do, move, and act?
Significant Relationship: Family.
Events: Exploring, Using tools or making art.
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In all stages and aspects of LIFE, success depends in a very large measure upon individual initiative and exertion, and cannot be achieved except by dint of hard work.

Notably, at this period, children are active in their environment, mastering new skills and tasks. Their dominant social modality is the intrusive mode: their bodies vigorously intrude into space and onto other people.

In as much as children are able to gain relative independence and autonomy during the toddler years, preschoolers direct their activities toward specific goals and achievements.

Their intrusion and curiousity extends not only to sexual matters but to many other concerns of LIFE as well. If the characteristic word of toddlers is “no,” the characteristic word of preschoolers is “why?” their incessant questions are a hallmark of their curiousity.

In all perspectives, parental responses to children’s self-initiated activities determine the successful or unsuccessful outcome of this stage. Unconditional positive regard, and constructive criticisms on the part of the parent is vital.

After initiative has been reinforced, a child’s behaviour becomes increasingly goal oriented. Guilt is projected resentment. Children and mature people should be encouraged to find out what they resent, and the guilt will vanish.

Truly, excessive punishment or discouragement of a child’s general stance of initiation may lead to feelings of guilt, resignation, and the belief that it is wrong to be curious about the world and ill-advised to be active in it. Guilt is the dread remorse when one is tempted to err: it is the poison of LIFE.

In all measures, children are at no time more open to learning than during these years. They are able to work cooperatively and to profit from teachers. If teachers are affectionate and empathetic, this will go along way in moulding a sound character.

Vigorousness in children’s learning at this particular developmental stage, leads away from their own limitations and into later possibilities. Children are able to nurture creative potentials; a persuasive tool in their future.

Emerging out the duality of initiative versus guilt, is the virtue of purpose; a view of the future giving direction and focus to our mutual efforts. The child develops the desire, resolve and determination necessary to accomplish a goal.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Initiative.
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Was a self-starter.
Accepted challenges.
Assumed leadership roles.
Set goals- went after them.
Moved easily, freely with body.
Positive about future.
Not defensive when reprimanded.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Guilt.
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Got depressed easily.
Put self-down.
Slumped posture.
Poor eye contact.
Had low energy level.
Insulted others.
Lied to parents or teachers.

In PRIMARY SCHOOL (6 years to puberty) you learned either to feel EFFECTIVE or INADEQUATE.

4. Industry versus Inferiority

Existential Question: Can I make it in the world of people and things?
Significant Relationship: Neighbours, School.
Events: School, Sports.
--->

In all measures, the term “industriousness” might be better than “industry” as it has nothing to do with big business but rather implies being busy with something, learning to make something and to make it well. Industry, entails educational achievements and other skills needed to be interpersonally competent.

New demands are placed upon children at this time. They are no longer loved simply for who they are; they are expected to master the technology of their culture in order to earn the respect of their teachers, peers, parents and the general society.

Diligent ability to conform and master the tasks of this level depends in large measure on how successfully children have traveled the preceding stages. A certain residue of each side of the emotional polarities is left at each stage. The question is, which predominates?

Undetered, if children emerge from the preceding stages with a basic sense of trust, autonomy, and initiative, they are ready for the industrious labour that “school” presupposes.

Subtly, if their development has left heavy residues of mistrust, doubt, and guilt, these children may have difficulty performing at an optimal level. If potentialities have been permitted to develop fully in the earlier stages, the child is in less danger.

The peril during this period is that feelings of inadequacy and inferiority will develop. Children begin to make comparisons between themselves and others and to perceive themselves in a more or less favourable light.

Reasonably, the avoidance of group labels that differentiate children’s performances may minimise but can in no way erase a child’s consciousness of doing superior or inferior work. Children know, or think they know, where they stand.

Young children at this stage are ready to learn to work and need to develop a sense of competence. This ability to do something well, as measured against the standard of one’s immediate societal expectations, forms the basis of self-esteem.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Industry.
--->

Wondered how things work.
Finished what you started.
Liked ‘projects’.
Enjoyed learning.
Liked to experiment.
Comfortable with exploration.
Engaged in constructive discussion.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Inferiority.
--->

Timid.
Shy.
Somewhat withdrawn.
Overly obedient.
Procrastinated often.
An observer, not a producer.
Questioned own ability.

PERHAPS you are in ADOLESCENCE (Teen years), as a teenager you have to work at developing a sense of SELF by testing roles, then integrating them to form a single IDENTITY.

5. Ego Identity versus Role Confusion
This Emotional Duality has been discussed comprehensively by BEYONDISM!

Existential Question: Who am I? Who can I be?
Significant Relationship: Peers, Role Model.
Events: Social relationships.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Identity.
--->

Certain about sex role identity.
Active interest in opposite sex.
Tends to be self-accepting.
Involved in enriched projects.
Have made concise career choice.
Ready to join any positive cultural movement.
Ready to be faithful to an ideological point of view.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Role Confusion.
--->

Doubts about sex role identity.
Lacks confidence.
Lacks plans for future.
Challenges adult authority.
Overly hostile to authority.
Overly obedient.
Tends to be self-rejecting.

OR you are in YOUNG ADULTHOOD (20 - 40 years) whereby you have to struggle to form close RELATIONSHIPS and to gain capacity for INTIMATE love.

6. Intimacy versus Isolation
This Emotional Duality has been discussed comprehensively by BEYONDISM!

Existential Question: Can I LOVE?
Significant Relationship: Friends, Partners.
Events: Romantic relationships.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Intimacy.
--->

Maintained friendship.
Physical and emotional intimacy.
Participation in games, groups.
Open, willing to interact.
Able to make and keep commitments.
Empathise with others feelings.
Able to offer unconditional postive regard.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Isolation and Self-Absorption.
--->

Sabotages relationships.
Withdraws.
Avoidance, defensive.
Self-defeating behaviour.
Maintaining isolation.
Questions job performance.
Not content with study or work.

In MIDDLE ADULTHOOD (40 - 60 years) you will seek a sense of CONTRIBUTING to the world, through, for example family and work.

7. Generativity versus Stagnation

Existential Question: Can I make my LIFE count?
Significant Relationship: Household, Workmates.
Events: Work, Parenthood.
--->

Generativity entails more than parenthood; it is the ability to be productive and creative in many areas of LIFE, particularly those showing a concern for the welfare of ensuing generations.

Every productive and progressive adult MUST actively participates in those elements of his or her culture that will ensure its maintenance and enhancements. To be well renumerated by the society one must contribute positively to its thrive.

Negating this responsibility or failing in this direction leads to feelings of stagnation, boredom, and interpersonal impoverishment. This then leads to negative consequences like envy and cynicism.

Encouraging as it is, an individual who does not have children can fulfill his or her generativity by working with other people’s children or helping to create a better world for them.

Reasonable as we should in our analysis, while the idea of generativity includes the concepts of productivity and creativity, it is much broader. It entails dynamic action in all facets of LIFE, and changing in pursuit of what is personally and socially enriching.

A person is generative when making a contribution appropriate to his or her particular potential, be it children, products, ideas, or works of art. This is undoutedly the most enduring path towards SELF-ACTUALIZATION.

Tempered and thorough, a procreative drive is instinctual and so generativity is an ego strength whose frustration leads to symptoms of self-absorption and indulgence.

Emerging during the middle years is the ego strength of care; the adult needs to be needed. However, you will be valued by other people only to extent you are able to exert value on them; it is a purely two way system, without any exception or variation.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Generativity.
--->

Confident.
Productive work.
Your own person.
Willingness to invest in the next generation.
Achievement goals.
Willing to risk, explore.
Take charge attitude.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Stagnation.
--->

Spectating, watching.
Complaining, blaming.
Withdrawal, alienation, isolation, detachment .
Obesity.
Fatalist attitude.
Dissatisfaction with self, job, LIFE, mate.
Resentful, offended, aggrieved.

In LATE ADULTHOOD (60 years and up) you will be deeply reflecting on LIFE. As an elderly person you will experience SATISFACTION or a sense of FAILURE.

8. Ego Integrity versus Despair

Existential Question: Is it okay to have been me?
Significant Relationship: Humankind, My kind.
Events: Reflection on LIFE.
--->

Intimate ego integrity entails the ability to reflect on one’s LIFE with satisfaction. This positive sense of self-gratification, is the feeling of pleasure when a need or desire is fulfilled.

Needless to say, death is not feared but accepted as one among many facet of one’s existence. Fear of death is the reserve of those who have accomplished less in this worldly LIFE.

Taken to the extreme, despair refers to regret over missed and unfulfilled opportunities at a time when it is too late to begin again. It is a profound feeling of hopelessness.

Ego integrity represents the fruit of the seven stages that have preceded. If there were some unfinished business in the former stages one will find it hard to be integral at this stage.

Gains accumulated from the preceeding stages, will enable the aging person to witnesses and revel in the ego’s culminating ability to perceive LIFE as orderly and meaningful in a spiritual sense.

Realistic and content about past achievements (or failures?), the end of one’s LIFE evokes “ultimate concerns”. Having raised one’s children in a postive way, and having initiated projects with a lasting legacy, one is guaranteed of one’s immortality.

At this stage, individuality finds it ultimate test as each person must face death alone, yet it owes to the next generation to face it with strength, without the gnawing feeling of regrets (I wish I had done this or that).

Loftily, the virtue of this stage is wisdom. One has now developed good sense as shown in the ability to act, make decisions and judgements based on the accumulated wealth of personal knowledge and experience.

Outward signs of Healthy Growth:
Expressions of Integrity.
--->

Proud, content with self and LIFE.
Still actively thinking about the future.
Healthy interaction with self.
Self-approving.
Comfortable giving and sharing with others.
Will like being an example to others.
Accept aging process gracefully and death as part of LIFE cycle.

Outward signs of Unhealthy Growth:
Expressions of Despair and Distrust.
--->

Hopelessness, despondency, misery, anguish, desolation.
Deep resentment. Nothing left. Uselessness.
Low self-esteem.
Anger at self, other, world, society.
Closed to others.
Complaints, irritable.
Anger at aging, will feel cheated.

BEYONDISM hereby endeavours to outline a LIFE CYCLE CHART for you,
To mark the culmination of our PSYCHOSOCIAL PROPHESY!

PSYCHOSOCIAL STAGE	EMOTIONAL DUALITY	EGO STRENGTH (VIRTUE)	RITUALIZATION	RITUALISM
1^st Year	Trust vs. Mistrust	Hope: ---> Persistent conviction that our wishes can be satisfied in spite of disappointment and failures.	Numinous: ---> The infant recognises the mother or primary caretaker and her affirmation of its existence by expressing devotion.	Idolism: ---> Distorting reverence for an essential source into excessive devotion to an idol or hero worship.
2^nd Year	Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt	Will: ---> An unbroken determination to exercise freedom of choice and of self-restraint.	Judicious: ---> Making judgements as to possible areas of self-assertion in daily LIFE. By playfully testing his or her limits, the child learns an early sense of right and wrong that will culminate in a sense of the pragmatic.	Legalism: ---> The letter of the law triumps over its spirit. This expresses itself in vain displays of righteousness or morality and a feeling of triumph over the convicted.
3^rd - 5^th Year	Initiative vs. Guilt	Purpose: ---> A view of the future giving direction and focus to our mutual effort. Purposiveness slowly enables one to develop a sense of reality that is defined by what is attainable and is not afraid of guilt or punishment.	Dramatic: ---> In experimenting with self-images and images of others, children begin to develop concepts of themselves in both ideal and evils roles.	Impersonation: ---> Role-playing and the assumption of different stances prevents one from expressing who one really is and leads to the quality of inauthenticity.
6^th - 11^th Year	Industry vs. Inferiority	Competence: ---> Ability to use one’s intelligence and skill to complete tasks that are of value to one’s society.	Methodic Performance: ---> A formal aspect which provides the necessary discipline and basic techniques to permit one to complete a series of tasks and put them together into a skillful, finished product.	Formalism: ---> Overfomalisation, pefectionism, and empty ceremonialism, leading to self-enslavement in a task.
12^th - 18^th Year	Ego Identity vs. Role Confusion	Fidelity: ---> Being ready to learn to be faithful to an ideological point of view. It consisits of the ability to sustain loyalties freely pledged in spite of the inevitable contradictions of value systems. Without fidelity, the young person will either have a weak ego and suffer a confusion of values or search for a deviant group to be loyal to.	Ideology: ---> Readiness to assume a constructive role in the techological-political system of one’s culture and to commit oneself firmly to its values. This entails ability to engage actively in those rites and ceremonies, be they of a religious, national, or military nature, that reflect the ideological commitments of one’s society.	Totalism: ---> A fanatic and exclusive preoccupation with what seems to be right that excludes any other point of view.
19^th - 39^th Year	Intimacy vs. Isolation	Love: ---> Rather than simply being sexual, this virtue involves a healthy, mutual relationship of trust, in which each person is deeply understood and accepted.	Affiliative: ---> Participating and sharing with others in work, friendship and love.	Elitism: ---> Focus on an exlusive group that shuts out others.
40^th - 59^th Year	Generativity vs. Stagnation	Care: ---> Doing something for somebody. This entails attending to that which needs protection and avoiding destructive acts. It is the ability sustain one’s identity and the truth of one’s world. It is also able to overcome the inevitable ambivalent feelings that are involved in the parent-child relationship. It is a broad solicitude for that which has been created.	Generational: ---> Includes pactices such as parenting, teaching, producing, creating, restoring: activities by which one giudes the young.	Authoritism: ---> False assumption of authority in which the individual seeks to dominate rather than to care.
60^th Year - Death	Ego Integrity vs. Despair	Wisdom: ---> As we grow older, we also run the risk of a return to a second childhood. Ideally, we return to a childlikeness that is softened with wisdom. This enables one to bring one’s LIFE to an appropriate closure. It is the ability to reflect on one’s LIFE in the face of impending death.	Integral: ---> This affirms the meaning of the life cycle. The traditional role of the elder in society, sharing his or her wisdom, personifies this role.	Sapientism: ---> A pretense at being wise.

THE NINTH PSYCHOSOCIAL STAGE:
--->

American Author, educator, craftsperson, and dance ethnographer Joan M. Erikson (1903 - 1997), who married and collaborated with Erik Erikson, added a ninth stage in The Life Cycle Completed: Extended Version (1987). Living in the ninth stage, she wrote, “old age in one’s eighties and nineties brings with it new demands, reevaluations, and daily difficulties”. Addressing these new challenges requires “designating a new ninth stage”.

Joan Erikson showed that all the eight stages “are relevant and recurring in the ninth stage”. In the ninth stage, the psychosocial crises of the eight stages are faced again, but with the quotient order reversed. For example, in the first stage (infancy), the psychosocial crisis was “Trust vs. Mistrust” with Trust being the “systonic quotient” and Mistrust being the “dystonic”. Joan Erikson applies the earlier psychosocial crises to the ninth stage as follows:

“Basic Mistrust vs. Trust: Hope”--->
In the ninth stage, “elders are forced to mistrust their own capabilities” because one’s “body inevitably weakens”. Yet, Joan Erikson asserts that “while there is light, there is hope” for a “bright light and revelation”.

“Shame and Doubt vs. Autonomy: Will”--->
Ninth stage elders face the “shame of lost control” and doubt “their autonomy over their own bodies”. So it is that “shame and doubt challenge cherished autonomy”.

“Inferiority vs. Industry: Competence”--->
Industry as a “driving force” that elders once had is gone in the ninth stage. Being incompetent “because of aging is belittling” and makes elders “like unhappy small children of great age”.

“Identity confusion vs. Identity: Fidelity”--->
Elders experience confusion about their “existential identity” in the ninth stage and “a real uncertainty about status and role”.

“Isolation vs. Intimacy: Love”--->
In the ninth stage, the “years of intimacy and love” are often replaced by “isolation and deprivation”. Relationships become “overshadowed by new incapacities and dependencies”.

“Stagnation vs. Generativity: Care”--->
The generativity in the seventh stage of “work and family relationships”, if it goes satisfactorily, is “a wonderful time to be alive”. In one’s eighties and nineties, there is less energy for generativity or caretaking. Thus, “a sense of stagnation may well take over”.

“Despair / Disgust vs. Integrity: Wisdom”--->
Integrity imposes “a serious demand on the senses of elders”. Wisdom requires capacities that ninth stage elders “do not usually have”. The eighth stage includes retrospection that can evoke a “degree of disgust and despair”. In the ninth stage, introspection is replaced by the attention demanded to one's “loss of capacities and disintegration”.

Living in the ninth stage, Joan Erikson expressed confidence that the psychosocial crisis of the ninth stage can be met as in the first stage with the “basic trust” with which “we are blessed”.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #16
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#16 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
As mortal creatures, we cannot really fly away from death and there is no place we can have recourse from it.

“When death comes
To fetch you
She comes unannounced,
She comes suddenly
Like the vomit of dogs,
And when she comes
The wind keeps blowing
The birds go on singing
And the flowers
Do not hang their heads.”
- Ugandan poet, writer, anthropologist and dancer Okot p’ Bitek (1931-1982) in Song of Lawino (1966)
“Men fear death, as children fear to go in the dark; and as that natural fear in children is increased with tales, so is the other.” - English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626)
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Terror Management Theory (TMT) explains how we deal with inevitability of death.
Distinguished Developers: Anthropologist Ernst Becker
and social psychologists Jeff Greenberg Sheldon Solomon and Tom Pyseczynski.

UNPREDICTABILITY or inevitability of death (and its terror) is what most human action is taken to avoid.
PSYCHOLOGICAL conflict results from having a self-preservation instinct in the midst of a possible death.
GENERALLY, this conflict produces terror which is managed by a mix of escapism and CULTURAL beliefs.
REALLY these counters biological reality with more significant and enduring forms of meaning and value.
AFFIRMED CULTURAL values that usuage death anxiety are beliefs in afterlife, bearing kids and identity.
DECISIVE cultural values being influencer of what is meaningful, are the solid foundation of self-esteem.
ESTEEM (self) is personal, subjective measure of how well one is LIVING up to one’s CULTURAL values.
Timely Therapy: - The goal of LIFE is not to live forever; the pure purpose is to CREATE something that will.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
“Friendships begin with liking or gratitude—roots that can be pulled up,” so taught George Eliot (1819 - 1880)

“Always, Sir, set a high value on spontaneous kindness. He whose inclination prompts him to cultivate your friendship of his own accord, will love you more than one whom you have been at pains to attach to you.”
- British lexicographer and write Samuel Johnson (1709 - 1784), May 1781.
“Friendship has splendors that love knows not.
It grows stronger when crossed, whereas obstacles kill love.
Friendship resists time, which wearies and severs couples.
It has heights unknown to love.”
- Senegalese novelist and campaigner for women's rights Mariama Bâ (1929 - 1981)
“Friendships made o’er wine are slight;
Like it, they only act one night.”
- German poet and writer Friedrich von Logau (1604 - 1655)
“Cosmus, Duke of Florence, was wont to say of perfidious friends, that ‘We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends.’” - English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626)
“Give me the avowed, erect and manly foe;
Firm I can meet, perhaps return the blow;
But of all plagues, good Heaven, thy wrath can send,
Save me, oh, save me, from the candid friend.”
- British prime minister George Canning (1770 - 1827)
Think back in time how you initially encountered your most important comrade.
What is that which gravitated you to him or her in the exclusion of others?
How did this first union attract others and a small group was formed?
What sorts of emotional benefits did you receive from each other?
How has this spark been maintained, improved or faded?
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Stage Theory outlines the ABCDE stages gone by relationships as they mature.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist George Levinger (1927 – 2017)

UUNDERSTAND: Stage Theory describes how people go through distinct stages as they DEVELOP.
PRECISELY, rather than gradually changing, we make sudden shifts to different plateaus of perception.
GAINFUL Acquaintance is how we meet others and feel an initial attraction, often based on BEAUTY.
REAL Build-up is when we become increasingly INDEPENDENT as we REVEAL more about ourselves.
ACTUAL Continuation or consolidation is when longer-term commitments are made, such as marriage.
DETERIORATION, is due to relative effort, rewards, barriers to exit and the availability of alternatives.
ENDING the relantionship is when partners agree to separate (voluntarily) or when one grudgingly leaves.
Timely Therapy: - The depth of commitment in a relationship informs the height of resentment upon betrayal.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
“When we remember that we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained.” - Mark Twain

“Hearing one saga, we enact the next.
We please our elders when we sit enthralled;
But then they’re puzzled; and at last they’re vexed
To have their youths so avidly recalled.”
- British poet, critic, and translator Donald Davie (1922 - 1995)
Baby boomers born around the 1950s, will probably think that the moon landing, and Martin Luther King’s famous Washington speech, were particularly significant and most celebrated public events.
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Youth Bias is glaringly remembering when we were young.
Distinguished Developers: Jonathan Koppel and Dorthe Berntsen (2014)

UNINHIBITED, human beings tend to think that the most important events happened in their youth.
PUBLIC (as opposed to personal) events are of concern, particularly between the ages of 10 and 30.
GOOD relation of memory and emotion; we remember better events when we are emotionally aroused.
ROMANTICISING of youth is key, where difficulties are downplayed, although wars are remembered.
AS per research, there is a huge bias toward the second and third decades of LIFE for people over 33.
DISTINGUISHABLY, younger people, under 33, are biased to the ages of 16 to 20; old people to 10’s.
EVOKING nostalgia in others is done by going back to the teens, twenties or childhood of their lives.
Timely Therapy: - To find joy in work, to see beauty in everything, is to discover the fountain of youth.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Will power is the only tensile strength of one’s own solid disposition; one cannot increase it by a single ounce.

The exercise of will requires cognitive effort, as brain uses more glucose from the blood. As the blood glucose is a limited supply, it can run low, leading to a sense of weakening. The human brain takes a lot of energy to run. It consumes 20% of the body’s calories although it constitutes only 2% of the body’s mass.
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Willpower as Muscle means that willpower like muscles can be made stronger with exercise.
Distinguished Developers: Baumeister et al (1998)

USUAL willpower is similar to muscle, although this is just more of an analogy than physical similarity.
PRACTICING or exercising using willpower gets you better at it and you become exhausted less easily.
GNAWING exhaustion in deliberately utilising or exercising willpower can be both physical and mental.
REAL thought of not succeeding, may RESULT in wearing out based on what you are thinking about.
ACTUALLY, you feel when you are physically tired but may well not realise that your will is fatiguing.
DUE paradox is when the will tires, one may be more energetic; emotions are loosened and intensified.
EGO depletion has hence been said to ‘turn up the volume on life’; will-sagging may arouse one more.
Timely Therapy: - Anticipating exhaustion rather than physical depletion, perhaps may be the key factor.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
“And with necessity, the tyrant’s plea, excus’d his devilish deeds.” - English writer John Milton (1608 - 1674)

You have made a decision to be a fan of, say, the Yankees.
You tend to discount a losing streak, poor pitching performance, or incompetent management.
Instead, you praise their star batter, laud their fielding, and admire their history.
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Choice-supportive bias entails distorting memories to make decisions seem good.
Distinguished Developers: Mather, Shafir and Johnson (2000).

UPON recalling a past decision, we distort memories to make the choices appear to be the best made.
PURPOSIVE choice of option A instead of option B, often leads to downplaying the faults of option A.
GIVEN that this happens without duress one may amplify or ascribe new negative faults to option B.
REALLY, one may notice the advantages of option A and not notice or de-emphasize those of option B.
AS a result, we verily feel good about ourselves and our choices and have less regret for bad decisions.
DELIBERATELY, what is truly remembered about a decision can be as important as the decision itself.
END positive aspects may be remembered as part of chosen options; negative one’s of rejected options.
Timely Therapy: - Think hard when recalling a choice, so as to remember the real reasons for your choice.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Persist even if your ideas seems dead-born from the very conception; seek to excite a murmur among zealots.

“All for one, and one for all.”
- French novelist and dramatist Alexandre Dumas (1802 - 1870)
“Man was formed for society.”
- British jurist William Blackstone (1723 - 1780)
“For man seeketh in society comfort, use, and protection.”
- English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626)
“What’s a cult? It just means not enough people to make a minority.”
- U.S. film director Robert Altman (1925 - 2006)
“The essence of democracy is creating. The technique of democracy is group organization.”
- U.S. social worker and management theorist Mary Parker Follett (1868 - 1933)
“She was seen as obstinate, unassimilable, refusing to join groups of people like herself for purposes of travel or instruction, in which activities she might be supposed to involve herself honourably, thus leaving the world with no obligations towards her.” - British novelist and art historian Anita Brookner (1928 - )
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Group Attribution Error proposes that groups attribute much like individuals do.
Distinguished Developers: Psychologists Scott T. Allison and David M. Messick in 1985.

USING a group’s decision to ATTRIBUTE correspondent attitude to its members may be untrue.
PREFERENCES of individual group members are falsely reflected in group’s decision outcome.
GEAR away from the assumption that, people within the group are more similar in convictions.
REALISE that, business or corporate meetings might be a minefield of bias and false attribution.
ASSUME not that just because a team has made a unanimous decision, everyone subscribes to it.
DECISIONS can actually be changed by approaching and trying to convert individual members.
EVEN when coerced, when in a group, you do not have to sheepishly buy into the decision made.
Timely Therapy: - An overemphasis on teamwork and consensus, can cause serious mental lethargy.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
Blame game aside, brains are becoming the core of organisations—other activities can be contracted out.

“Companies die because their managers focus on the economic activity of producing goods and services, and they forget that their organization’s true nature is that of a community of humans...If corporate health falters, the priority should be to mobilize human potential, to restore or maintain trust and civic behavior and to increase professionalism and good citizenship...Like all organisms, the living company exists primarily for its own survival and improvement: to fulfil its own potential and to become as great as it can be.”
- Dutch author Arie de Geus
“Everybody in an organization has to believe their livelihood is based on the quality of the product they deliver.” - U.S. business executive Lee Iacocca (1924 - )
“If a company has the competencies that flow from self-awareness and self-regulation, motivation and empathy, leadership skills and open communication, it should prove more resilient no matter what the future brings.” - U.S. author Daniel Goleman
“If an institution wants to be adaptive, it has to let go of some control and trust that people will work on the right things in the right way.” - U.S. business executive Robert B. Shapiro (1938 - )
“In the future the optimal form of industrial organization will be neither small companies nor large ones but network structures that share the advantages of both...Many Information Superhighway enthusiasts believe that networks of small firms or individuals constitute a new organizational form that will prove its superiority to both large, hierarchical corporations, on the one hand, and anarchical market relationships, on the other.”
- U.S. economist and historian Francis Fukuyama (1952 - )
“Making the company into something of a self-sustaining institution, with its own methods and mores and organization—that's tough.” - Hungarian-born U.S. business executive Andrew S. Grove (1936 - )
“A great deal of contemporary criticism reads to me like a man saying:
‘Of course I do not like green cheese: I am very fond of brown sherry.’”
- British writer and poet G. K. Chesterton (1874 - 1936)
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Minimum Group Theory affirms that when in any group, people use group behaviour.
Distinguished Developer: Polish social psychologist Henri Tajfel (1919 - 1982)

US versus THEM mentality is prevalent in most group setting, irrespective of age or EDUCATION.
PEOPLE tends to favour new ingroups over new outgroups in their perceptions and BEHAVIOUR.
GROUP members evaluate new ingroups more positively on traits of likeability or cooperativeness.
READILY, they tend to evaluate products and decisions made by new ingroups more POSITIVELY.
ALLOCATION of more resources (including money) is more prevalent to members of new ingroups.
DISTINCTIVELY, ingroup favouritism is more prevalent than negative derogation of the outgroup .
EVEN when one’s group performs worse than the other group, the evaluation is often POSITIVE.
Timely Therapy: - Privileged groups duly work for greater power consolidation through favouritism.

Compulsive Cautions

R#66. On finding it scary to TRY new things or create new ways of approaching LIFE.

BQ#17. What density of ZEAL is necessary for TEMPERING TRYING, as a function of diligently designing COMPULSIVE CAUTION?--->

“The blessed and immortal nature knows itself nor causes trouble to any other, so that it is never constrained by anger or favour. For all such things exist only in the weak.”
- Greek philosopher Epicurus (341 - 270 BC)

“The golden rule is, to help those we love to escape from us; and never try to begin to help people, or influence them till they ask, but wait for them.”
- Italian-born British theologian and philosopher Friedrich Hügel (1852 - 1925). Advice to his niece.

“The first law of economics is that when the price goes up, consumption comes down. This is a divine law. You cannot change it.”
- Saudi Arabian politician Sheikh Yamani (1930 - )

“The thing that differentiates man from animals is money...the thing no animal can do is count, and the thing no animal can know is money.”
U.S. writer Gertrude Stein (1874 - 1946)

“Alas, Lord, I am powerful but alone. Let me sleep the sleep of the earth.”
- French poet, novelist, and playwright Alfred de Vigny (1797 - 1863)

“And now that the purgatory is over
I invent phrases, thoughts, days,
a short story where blindness
may be lived as nakedness.
Converted into words
desperation is impossible.”
- Spanish educator and poet Jenaro Talens (1946 - )

“Because I do not hope to turn again
Because I do not hope
Because I do not hope to turn.”
- U.S.-born British poet and playwright T. S. Eliot (1888 - 1965)

“Despair is the one sin that cannot be forgiven.”
- Kenyan writer Ngugi wa Thiong’o (1938 - )

“Don’t despair, not even over the fact that you don’t despair.”
- Czech writer Franz Kafka (1883 - 1924)

“‘God save thee, ancient Mariner!
From the fiends that plague thee thus!—
Why look’st thou so?’—With my cross-bow
I shot the Albatross.”
- British poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge (1772 - 1834)

“A castle called Doubting Castle, the owner whereof was Giant Despair.”
- English preacher and writer John Bunyan (1628 - 1688)

“A policeman’s ballbearing eyes searched his face as he passed, a stout blue column waving a nightstick. Then suddenly he clenched his fists and walked off. ‘O God everything is hellish,’ he said aloud.”
- U.S. novelist John Dos Passos (1896 - 1970)

“A theory can be proved by experiment; but no path leads from experiment to the birth of a theory.”
- German-born U.S. physicist Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

“Don’t despise empiric truth. Lots of things work in practice for which the laboratory has never found proof.”
- German-born U.S. physician and author Martin H. Fischer (1879 - 1962)

“After all, science is essentially international, and it is only through lack of the historical sense that national qualities have been attributed to it.”
- Polish-born French chemist and physicist Marie Curie (1867 - 1934)

A BLESSED BEYONDIST FEELS WITH THE most popular ancient Chinese philosopher Yang Chu, who asked over 2000 years ago: “What is LIFE for?.. Is it for the sake of being driven into frenzied activity of the lure of reward or fame? We waste our lives in a mad scramble, trying to catch the ephemeral praise of the moment, hoping that somehow some of it will last after we have passed from the scene. We go through the world in this narrow track, preoccupied with the petty things that we see and hear, moping over our prejudices, and ignoring the joys of LIFE without even knowing it. Never for a moment do we taste the heady wine of freedom.” As a BLESSED BEYONDIST, you will be primarily interested in the qualitative excellence of your own self-shaped way of LIFE and the welfare of those immediately within your restricted sphere of personal responsibility. Not being concerned with the fleeting and puerile power over others, your mode of thought and behaviour will reflect a desire for avoidance of external recognitions and commitments. You will seldom assume an active role in the many confrontations that excite others. For you, refraining from rouge activities will not be a matter of moralistic, but of practical wisdom.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of COMPULSIVE CAUTIONS thus:

Combating any assertion that you are “dumb”, or rather you cannot “make it in LIFE.”
Only by “perspiring” based on your “inspirations” will you be SELF-ACTUALISED.
Moulding your appearance to reflect the environment, always changing with TIMES.
Perceiving yourself objectively, as the outside observer would really perceive you.
Unravelling the hidden meaning in your profession by combing its “how” and “what”.
Loathing the use of friends to further your works, but hiring professionals instead.
Sharply defined enemies are important to your success, than sycophantic friends.
In all dimensions, the money gotten from gambling cannot give you real happiness.
Validation of your core LIFE’s pattern or destiny, cannot be by reading horoscopes.
Expecting not to get miraculous solution to LIFE’s problems from self-help books.

Creatively using the Smartphone; refusing to let it dull your communication skills.
Acquiring the ability to invest, to let money work for you, not working for money.
Unleashing your passion NOW; do not just do what you love, but love what you do.
Training yourself in the art and craft of amassing POWER as an important LIFE goal.
Indulging not in lies and decpetions even if this act tends to have short-term benefits.
Owning your MENTORING process, by being involved in all its aspects and facets.
Nurturing your public image by self-packaging or personally branding yourself.
Selling your ideas in as indirect manner as possible; concealing your real purpose.

“The sooner you realize things will never be the same, the sooner you can move on.”- American rapper and actor Kid Cudi (b. 1984). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: IRRIGATING the ZEAL for TEMPERING TRYING, in order to create new ways of LIFE.--->

“The surest road to social success in a democracy is to behave like an aristocrat; the surest road to success as a speaker in America is to talk like an Englishman”, so taught Will Durant. BEYONDISM hereby repeatedly ascertain that, the surest road to PSYCHIC PRECISION in our African society and subsequent ennobling existential elevation is the measure of our success in PROVOKING POSITIVE PERCEPTIONS. You must possess immense knowledge, and an unremitting gift of observation, to make any substantial contribution to the heritage of human knowledge. Remember that, fortune favours the prepared mind, and hardwork puts you where goodluck can find you. Acquisition of timely information, is the lifeblood of any scholar. It enables you to get the most out of an academic field, learn from like-minded colleagues, and open eyes to the unseen. Listen to Polish-born French chemist and physicist, Marie Curie (1867 – 1934): “One never notices what has been done; one can only see what remains to be done.”

Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to TEMPER TRYING.
SUBTLY forewarned is strategically forearmed. Never ever promise that which is not in your possession.
UTILITY is vital in LIFE. So, practically never try to sell the bear’s skin before you have killed the beast.
MORE creativity is needed in introducing a NEW IDEA than the creative effort that went in begetting it.
MOST public ACTION which is not customary, either is wrong or, if it is right, is a dangerous precedent.
AS society is sensitive to the attack of new ideas, so you must also guard yourself from attack by others.
RENDER yourself to be eternally vigilant. This is the condition upon which God has given liberty to you.
YE slaken here and servitude is at once the consequence of THY crime and the punishment of THY guilt.

PREPARE yourself to diligently IRRIGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for TEMPERING TRYING.

Purposelessness, meaninglessness and anxiety? Curable by a spiritual reorientation towards LIFE.
Reorient yourself by the words of Jesus: “Do not worry . . . but set your hearts on His kingdom first.”
Ever busy is one of the ways in which we most commonly describe our lives; a major cause of worry.
Profuse obsessions with “WHAT IFS,” and DOUBTS, fills our external and internal lives to the brim.
Actually, our energies and attention are less consumed by our occupations than by preoccupations.
Replacing the sense that our lives are “filled,” is the disquieting sense that our lives are “unfulfilled.”
Entrenched sentiments beneath a sense of “unfulfillment” are resentment, boredom and depression.

REALISE that IRRIGATING your innate ‘quest’ for TEMPERING TRYING is in your ‘power.’

Resentment is experienced when we sense we are being used or manipulated for meaningless ends.
Endless questioning the value of what we do, triggers a sense of disorientation; leads to boredom.
Any feeling that, our presence makes no difference, or our absence may be preferred is depression.
Lives that are filled, but fragmented and disconnected are the result of the dynamic of depression.
It is for this, that you are asked to shift the point of gravity, to relocate the center of your attention.
Shifting from a ‘worry-filled way’ of living is not refusing to be so busy with important worldly affairs.
Essentially, it is just making a fundamental move from the ‘many things’ to the ‘one necessary thing.’

EMPOWER yourself to IRRIGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for TEMPERING TRYING.

Ennoble yourSELF by shifting the point of gravity, to radically relocate the center of your attention.
Meaningful and the most striking feature of your LIFE, must be the unwavering nature of your focus.
Progressively, this focus consist in a single minded obedience to a LIFE’s TASK, or your DESTINY.
Obedience in society must be contrasted with intimate and trusting relationship with your DESTINY.
Willfully, you MUST maintain this in the midst of the unpredictable and changing needs around you.
Endeavour to make the LIFE of creativity and innovation the center of what you think, says or does.
Requirement? Self-Transformation; an ideal which is experienced as either sudden or gradual.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to IRRIGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of TEMPERING TRYING.

Meaningful transformation removes not LIFE’s difficulties, but places them in a purposeful context.
Existentially, this transformation is ‘an act of grace,’ but this does not mean it happens automatically.
Discerned are “disciplines,” which place us in a position that facilitates the changes God makes in us.
Identified are two primary methodologies; the “discipline of solitude,” and “discipline of community.”
Actual “solitude,” means regular times set aside for prayer, meditation and the contemplation of God.
This is a simple, though not easy way to free us from the slavery of occupations and preoccupations.
Endlessly refreshed and cleansed, you will thus begin to hear the voice that makes all things NEW.

INDULGE yourself in IRRIGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards TEMPERING TRYING.

Immersing in the “discipline of community,” is the way of setting our hearts on the kingdom of God.
Notably, it is related to the FIRST discipline; for God speaks to us “through others” and in “solitude.”
Disciplined community, has little to do with mutual compatibility; stands in contrast to many groups,
Usually formed to protect their own interests, defend their status, or to promote their own causes.
Lucidly, the “discipline of community” prevents us from clinging to each other in fear and loneliness.
Guided by an element of “discipline,” you will be able to hear and listen to the liberating voice of God.
Elements of discipline are required to maintain relations with those you feel little natural attraction.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for IRRIGATING the ‘compulsion’ of TEMPERING TRYING.

Uniqueness and wholeness is achieved by a regeneration sourced from spiritual connection with God.
True wholeness is moving away from slavish concern with the expectations or evaluations of others.
In all measures, it entails a corresponding reorientation to a single source of MEANING and authority.
Locate the source of MEANING by knowing God, or by recovering contact with your authentic SELF.
Individual MEANINGFULNESS and fulfillment is the supreme goal and the ultimate purpose of LIFE.
Seek not for personal orientation through an imposed ‘system’ derived from some extrinsic authority.
Emanating from your organism, living in poises in its environment, should be your IDEA of ORDER.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to IRRIGATE TEMPERING TRYING.

Master and secure the free flow of forces in your environment, so as to assimilate the inherent order.
Only then will you ACTIVATE the free flow of forces within yourSELF, so as to ACTUALISE them.
Nurturing these forces as part of “self experience” is the ultimate source of TRUTH and MEANING.
Innate “organismic valuing process” enables you to choose between what is fulfilling and what is not.
Truly find in your organism, the supply of the evidence, upon which to make your value judgments.
Only your senses, provides the data for making value judgments and for continuously revising them.
Replacing adopted or imposed values with those learned from organic experiences, is MEANINGFUL.

“Cromwell, I charge thee, fling away ambition:
By that sin fell the angels; how can man then,
The image of his Maker, hope to win by’t?
Love thyself last: cherish those hearts that hate thee;
Corruption wins not more than honesty.
Still in thy right hand carry gentle peace,
To silence envious tongues: be just, and fear not.
Let all the ends thou aim’st at be thy country’s,
Thy God’s, and truth’s: then if thou fall’st O Cromwell!
Thou fall’st a blessed martyr.”
- Shakespeare in Henry VIII, Act 3, Scene 2

“Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot
That it do singe yourself. We may outrun
By violent swiftness that which we run at,
And lose by over-running.”
- Shakespeare in Henry VIII, Act 1, Scene 1

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on designing diligently the COMPULSIVE CAUTIONS:
It is manifest that you are IRRIGATING your dauntless determination to TEMPER TRYING.
Having CULTIVATED your affluent attempts,
You are now armoured to PROPAGATE the solid struggle.
Soon you will NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.

“Some craven scruple
Of thinking too precisely on th’ event.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 4, Scene 4

“Thus conscience does make cowards of us all;
And thus the native hue of resolution
Is sicklied o’er with the pale cast of thought.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 1

ENNOBLING EXISTENTIAL ELEVATION--->

“The surest road to social success in a democracy is to behave like an aristocrat; the surest road to success as a speaker in America is to talk like an Englishman”, so taught Will Durant. BEYONDISM hereby repeatedly ascertain that, the surest road to PSYCHIC PRECISION in our African society and subsequent ennobling existential elevation is the measure of our success in PROVOKING POSITIVE PERCEPTIONS.

Ask most adults and they will confess to you that, looking back on their YOUTH years, it is hard not to feel uncomfortable, embarrassed or regretful. Youth is the time in your LIFE where every adult you speak to hands out some sort of generic LIFE advice, and you do not realise until years later that half of everything you heard was totally misleading. It is easy to be fooled at this age because you have been taught to give weight to what adults tell you. You know, because they have more experience in LIFE than you do. Unfortunately, since very few of the people you meet will be geniuses, or even wise, for that matter, that means you will be accidentally trusting the words of some complete idiots.

Our supreme aim here is to make clear the great distance between the high-flown ideals, to which majority of humans give lip service, and the down-trodden expediency of the ideals they practice. It is our esteemed gratitude and good fortune to make the broad distinction between COMMONSENSE and COMMONSCIENCE. You will be taught how to differentiate and separate facts (truth, reality or actual existence of something, as opposed to the supposition of, or a belief about something), from factoids (unreliable information or something that may not be true but is widely accepted as true because it is repeatedly quoted, especially in the media). Eventually we will expose and strip bare all the presumptuous principles that humans publicly proclaim and secretly disregard.

Go astray no more. BEYONDISM hereby seek to set the right direction and path for you to follow.

#1. COMMONSENSE: - You should obey without questioning the advice given to you by older people or you will lead be doomed in LIFE.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Advice tends to be something you do not truly appreciate until you wish you had taken it. It is not just you; we all do it.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Common error of mankind.

“Advice is seldom welcome; and those who want it the most always like it the least,” so said British statesman and writer Lord Chesterfield (1694 - 1773). We are not just talking about people who are where you want to be in terms of career, but in any facet of LIFE - emotional, spiritual, financial, mental stability, social status, or even criminal record.

ii. Advice is totally different from counselling.

Advice is simply defined as recommendation about an action; somebody’s opinion about what another person should do. Advice is trying to solve other people’s problems. Counselling is helping other people solve their own problems. Whereas counselling is voluntarily sought, advice is poured on one’s mind involuntarily. And that marks the great distinction.

iii. Understand and prioritise any opinion.

“I have lived some thirty years on this planet, and I have yet to hear the first syllable of valuable or even earnest advice from my seniors,” so complained U.S. writer Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862). It is important to know that, because you are going to get advice from everyone, all the time, it is good to know how to rank and prioritise that information.

iv. Time for heeding to an advice is always late.

Advice would be more acceptable if it did not always conflict with our plans. Regardless of where we get it, there is every chance in the world that you are going to blow it off because you have this all under control. It is human nature. “My life is not a catastrophe, so I must be doing something right. Right?” It is only later when the doctor is showing you an X-ray of a spot on your lung that you give the ball-crushing attention to his warnings that you are going to die if you do not quit smoking.

v. It is often a question to tongue-tresspass.

Real help can only be delivered when both the adviser and the advised are using a common set of assumptions and have developed some common language. In most cases people are resistant to an outside opinion, as a threat to their basic insecurity. “When was the last time someone praised you for ‘taking advice well’? In the advice game, we all would rather be perceived as the one dispensing wisdom rather than seeking it,” so affirmed U.S. sports agent, promoter, and lawyer Mark McCormack (1930 - )

vi. Often listen, even though you may not act.

We are so happy to advise others that occasionally we even do it in their interest, but when we ask advice, we are usually looking for an accomplice. We all do it. Moreover, people may start listening to you when you get to a position in LIFE where your advice is not laughable and actually starts carrying some weight. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Probably a little of both, we guess, depending on the situation. But the point is not so much about right or wrong as it is the overall lesson of “Be aware. This stuff happens, so take notice.”

vii. Not all advice may be helpful.

It was U.S. teacher Anne Sullivan (1866 - 1936), who illumined: “It is queer how ready people always are with advice in any real or imaginary emergency, and no matter how many times experience has shown them to be wrong, they continue to set forth their opinions, as if they had received them from the Almighty!”

#2. COMMONSENSE: - Self-control (or reigning over impulses) is a PSYCHIC skill BEYOND the grasp of youths.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Self-control is definitely not the hardest PSYCHIC skill or strength you will ever have to master.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Censored and watched throughout.

From birth until the day you move out on your own, pretty much every facet of your LIFE is controlled by someone else. Parents, teachers, babysitters, the secretive, nameless guardian who taught you to kill from the quiet embrace of the shadows. There is always someone looking over your shoulder to prevent you from doing something bad. “Do not run in the house, you will get hurt.” “Do not stab that guy, you will go to jail.”

ii. Accustom yourself to adult LIFE.

From the time we are old enough to rationalise, we are trained that nothing is truly under our own control, and if we do happen to do something, the most we have to fear is getting grounded, spanked or yelled at. When you enter adulthood, all that changes literally overnight.

iii. Utilise your YOUTH as a ground for future.

Soon, you will be put into situations in which the only person you have to answer to is yourself. How will you react? Take away the teacher - do you start slacking off? Take away mom and dad’s rules on junk food - do you start eating at Hotel every day? Take away the police patrols - do you strip naked and set houses on fire, cackling like a crazed hyena?

iv. Truth is living on your terms.

This is what we are dealing with when we talk about things like addictions, youth pregnancy and obesity (the type that is not tied to a physical cause, of course). It is an area in which the only person who is going to give you hell is your future self. Are you prepared for that? Because keeping yourself in check when the temptation is there to just take the easy way out is excruciating. U.S. political activist and writer George Jackson (1941 - 1971) has this for you: “I don’t care how long I live. Over this I have no control, but I do care about what kind of LIFE I live, and I can control this. I may not live but another five minutes but it will be five minutes definitely on my terms.”

v. Impulsivity is the gateway to ruin.

Nobody is going to step in and force you to get yourself under control, unless it is flat-out breaking the law. That is your thing now, and failing to master that self-control could make your future LIFE a hell on earth. By focusing your energy on controlling your impulse, you will find a refuge from having to face the more painful issues at the center of your LIFE. British novelist Charles Dickens (1812 - 1870): “Subdue your appetites my dears, and you’ve conquered human nature.”

vi. Oonly by governing yourself will you love LIFE.

If you govern your passion with absolute sway, you will grow wiser and better as your strength wears away. Remember the words of U.S. writer Jack London (1876 - 1916): “There is a patience of the wild...that holds motionless for endless hours the spider in its web, the snake in its coils, the panther in its ambuscade; this patience belongs primarily to LIFE when it hunts its living food.”

vii. No other virtue is higher than self-control.

“The greatest victory a man can win is victory over himself,” so taught Swiss educational reformer Johann Heinrich Pestalozzi (1746 - 1827). According to British naturalist Charles Darwin (1809 - 1882): “The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognise that we ought to control our thoughts.” Listen to British novelist and poet Anne Brontë (1820 - 1849): “Keep a guard over your eyes and ears as the inlets of your heart, and over your lips as the outlet, lest they betray you in a moment of unwariness.” You will eventually vow like British writer William Ernest Henley (1849 - 1903):

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

#3. COMMONSENSE: - Your YOUTH is basically a tentative rehearsal for the best time you will face in future.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Do not trust anyone who tells you that a certain time period is the best years of your LIFE. It means they are not doing it right, NOW.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Confront these teachers unto darkness.

Even though a person may have the best of intentions when he or she spew the advise, that GOOD TIMES ARE AHEAD OF YOU, he or she is putting out not only a false message, but a harmful one to boot. There is nothing like talking to a person who is prone to depression, in the throes of rebellion, addled by hormones and under more stress than he or she had ever experienced before and telling him or her that the best LIFE is yet to come. Good job, self-imposed counsellors.

ii. Anyone who postphones your happiness is dangerous.

But it goes further than that. If someone boils your LIFE down to a specific time frame in which you can expect the most enjoyable, rewarding things to happen, that person has no idea what they are talking about. If you are reading this part at age 25 in a Third World country, your life expectancy is right around 80 years. That means you have about 70 percent of your LIFE left to live. Think about that. Do you honestly believe that the very best things you will ever experience in LIFE are taking place before you are even allowed to ride your own motorbike? To have your own job and your own house with your own rules? Does that make sense? Of course not.

iii. Untwine the web of deception.

If the person telling you this, is 40 years old, even they have about 50 percent of their own LIFE to experience. How can they possibly advise you on what the best age is when they still have yet to experience half of their own LIFEtime? Mathematically, the best times of your LIFE have not happened yet, and probably will not for many, many years. For all you know, the last four seconds of your LIFE could end up feeling like a spiritual high.

iv. Travel your own path to posterity.

But even if you set simple math aside, you have to keep in mind that the people handing out this sort of generic advice are not taking into account that their experiences at that age are most likely going to be drastically different from yours. Not just because of a change in generations, but because we are all individuals with different factors governing our lives. Put those same people in a room with their old high school classmates, ask them all what the best time in their lives have been, and you will get different answers across the board.

v. Immerse yourself in living wholeheartedly.

Your goal is to make right NOW the best time in your LIFE, regardless of what happened yesterday. We are telling you as straight up as we can that if you are in that frame of mind when you are 30, you will give your kids’ generation a whole lot more to look forward to. And you are going to be a whole lot less miserable when you are not looking back and thinking, “Wait, that was it? Why am I even still trying?” Nope. You have a long way to go, chief. LIFE is pretty awesome, and we assure you that the best of it sure is not crammed into a four-year period that throws brackets around the most awkward and chaotic you will ever be.

vi. Only by appreciating what you have, will you be HAPPY.

You do not have to wait until you get a car or buy a house to be HAPPY. Part of the reason why you should be HAPPY is consciousness of what you do not have, and conviction of how you will get it in spite of any barrier. Listen to British philosopher and mathematician Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970): “To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness.”

vii. Now is the fount of your individual TRUTH.

According to Irish writer James Joyce (1882 - 1941): “It is the now, the here, through which all future plunges to the past.” And “Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now — always,” so said German theologian, philosopher, physician, and musicologist Albert Schweitzer (1875 - 1965). But you must realise like Chinese philosopher Laozi (570? BC - 490? BC):

“Therefore hold to the things which are reliable.
Look to simplicity; embrace purity;
Lessen the self; diminish desire.”

#4. COMMONSENSE: - If you keep on failing in your exams, or in some of your basic projects, you will not make it in LIFE; you will be an utter failure.
COMMONSCIENCE: - You are not dumb – you are learning. The same as every other human on this goddamn planet. Know that, and you will be fine.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Creativity is simply a matter of practice.

Most adults are guilty of calling YOUTHS dumb. Mostly they do it because they just love giving people hard time for no reason, but other times they look at them and genuinely think, “How could you possibly not understand a concept this simple?”

ii. Arouse your thirst to keep on learning.

If any adult was to pull his or her head out for ten seconds and sincerely try to remember what it was like when he or she was a kid, he or she would realise that the reason many youths do not understand a concept that seems like second nature to adults is because they have not learned it yet.

iii. Uniqueness is stopping to compare yourself with others.

We fall into the trap of despondency, the time when we look at other peoples’ success and then wonder what we are doing wrong ourselves. That is one of the driving forces in keeping us active and pushing for a better LIFE, but in comparing ourselves to others in that manner, it is extremely easy to think of ourselves as stupid or inadequate. Trust us, you are not.

iv. Time will see your genius awakening.

The reason you are not where that other person is in LIFE is not because you are dumb. It is because you have not had access to the same lessons that got him or her where he or she is. Or maybe you did have access, but for whatever reason, the lesson just did not sink in. Or you did not realise there was even a lesson in progress (they can be pretty sneaky). Or you did not understand what it was teaching. Regardless of all those reasons, none of them mean that you are dumb.

v. Implanted in you is an ability to thrive.

The people who are sincerely too dumb to progress in LIFE could not have made it this far into this page you are reading NOW, in the first place, let alone have the self-awareness to give a crap about their own level of intelligence. Yes, it is frustrating when you feel yourself busting your heart with little affinity towards forward progression, but believe us, the fact that you are trying to understand WHY, is a good sign that you are on the right track.

vi. Only failure can teach you success.

It is by losing him or herself in the objective, in inquiry, creation, craft, and overriding any shortcoming that a human being becomes something. U.S. writer and social reformer Frances E. W. Harper (1825 - 1911) affirmed: “Apparent failure may hold in its rough shell the germs of a success that will blossom in time, and bear fruit throughout eternity.” “I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in LIFE as by the obstacles which he has had to overcome while trying to succeed,” so commented U.S. educator and political activist Booker T. Washington (1856 - 1915)

vii. No obstacle should hold you back.

If you simply know what you are actually striving for, hour by hour, day by day, month by month and year by year, you are becoming better equipped to accomplish your esteemed goals. Be inspired by the words of U.S. professional sports team executive Willis Reed (1942 - ): “Go for the moon. If you don’t get it, you’ll still be heading for a star.” And as U.S. poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807 - 1882) remarked:

If you would hit the mark, you must aim a little above it;
Every arrow that flies feels the attraction of earth.

#5. COMMONSENSE: - If you simply harness your willpower, you will achieve great feats or accomplish anything you dream of.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Realistically, you cannot do “anything” you set your mind to. But give a shot to an endeavour, ONLY after assessing your core potentiality in regard to its accomplishment.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Consider yourself a winner, but know your weaknesses.

One of the most annoying messages you will ever hear is “You can do anything you put your mind to!” It is in every Christmas special, family sitcom, motivational speech, sermon, inspirational song, and feel-good movie. It is probably the single most popular half-truth in existence. It is a half-truth because, on a certain level, it is absolute gospel (and at the very least, common sense). If you work hard, master your craft, talk to the right people and be as persistent as a haemorrhoid throb, you will make it happen. But, you must know your limitations. You must know when to move on, and when to pull back.

ii. Apparent failure is matter of misinformation.

Does it mean that many people who fail in their undertakings are just crazy and deluded, right? Not entirely. There is every chance that they just never had anyone tell them how they measure up to industry standards. Many people have been inadvertently tricked into thinking that success is about perseverance and determination because nobody ever stressed the fact that they have to actually have some sort of talent to begin with.

iii. Understanding your core potential is the starting point.

We are not suggesting that you give up your dreams. If you have a dream, you need to make a sincere attempt to achieve it. What we are saying is, if it turns out that you do not have what it takes, you need to be realistic about the possible outcomes. What do you want to be known for?

iv. True originality is the essence goodness.

“The glass I drink from is not large, but at least it is my own.” These are the words of French poet and playwright Alfred de Musset (1810 - 1857). Creativity is not being godlike; it is simply doing a common thing in an uncommon way. “All good things which exist are the fruits of originality”, so said British philosopher and social reformer John Stuart Mill (1806 - 1873)

v. Invicibility is a product of creative effort.

Stupidity does not consist in being without ideas. Such stupidity would be the sweet, blissful stupidity of animals, and mollusks. Human Stupidity consists in having lots of ideas, but obsolete or useless ones. So the key thing here is to be creative and resourceful. In this way you will be a wise person who will make more opportunities than you find. You will be infinite in your conquests. Listen to U.S. writer Annie Dillard (1945 - ): “Look, in short, at practically anything — the coot’s feet, the mantis’s face, a banana, the human ear — and see that not only did the Creator create everything, but that He is apt to create anything. He’ll stop at nothing.”

vi. On Talent, Genius, Career and Character.

It takes people a long time to learn the difference between these seemingly related, but absolutely distinct words, especially the ambitious young men and women. “Talent is hereditary; it may be the common possession of a whole family (e.g., the Bach family); genius is not transmitted; it is never diffused, but is strictly individual,” so taught Austrian philosopher Otto Weininger (1880 - 1903). According to British statesman and poet Owen Meredith (1831 - 1891): “Genius does what it must, and Talent does what it can.” To the Russian-born U.S. sculptor Louise Nevelson (1900 - 1988): “There’s no denying...that Beethoven came with music in his soul, Picasso was drawing like an angel in the crib. You’re born with it.” U.S. film actor Marilyn Monroe (1926 - 1962) affirmed: “A career is born in public — talent in privacy.” “Talent develops in quiet places, character in the full current of human life”, so illumined German poet, playwright, and scientist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 - 1832)

vii. Negating your ability is the filthest sin.

“Talent is like electricity. We don’t understand electricity. We use it,” so taught U.S. writer Maya Angelou (1928 - ). If a person has talent and cannot use it, he or she has failed. If he or she has a talent and uses only half of it, he or she has partly failed. If he or she has a talent and learns somehow to use the whole of it, he or has won a satisfaction and a triumph, few human being ever know. You should not want to die until you have faithfully made the most of your talent and cultivated the seed that was placed in you by the Almighty, until the last small twig has grown. Listen to Chinese poet Li Bo (701 – 762 AD):

And never let a goblet of gold
face the bright moon empty.
Heaven bred in me talents,
and they must be put to use.

#6. COMMONSENSE: - You must never be a hypocrite and should be consistent as to how you express yourself to all people and in all situations.
COMMONSCIENCE: - You should be able to create the appropriate persona, to suit different environment and in interaction with various people.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Consciousness of your personna gives you a higher leverage.

It is not generally acknowledged, but the personality we project to the world plays a substantial role in our success and in our activation of SELFHOOD. The public arena, in your profession or in any endeavour, can be ruthless in one way or the other. Being able to look at yourself and your field of interest, with a level of detachment, you will intuit the power you could possess by being conscious of your personna and taking control of the appearance dynamic.

ii. Appearance is often what people uses to judge you.

It is critical to understand that, people will tend to judge you based on your outward appearance. If you are not careful and simply assume that it is best to be yourself, they will begin to ascribe to you all kinds of qualities that have little to do with who you are, but correspond to what they want to see. All of this can confuse you, make you feel insecure, and consume your attention. Internalising their judgements, you will find it hard to focus on your work.

iii. Unrwap the image people creates of you.

Your only protection is to turn this dynamic around by consciously moulding these appearances, creating the image that suits you, and controlling people’s judgements. At times, you will find it appropriate to stand back and create some mystery around you, heightening your presence. At other times, you will want to to be more direct and impose a more specific appearnce.

iv. Take controll of the way you express yourself.

Formlessness is what will make people remain intrigued in regard to fathoming your actions. Consequently, this is where your solid source of power lies. In general, you never settle on one image or give people the power to completely figure you out. You are always one step ahead of the public.

v. In regard to social intelligence, persona is critical.

You must see the creation of a persona as a key elememt in social intelligence, not something evil or demonic. We all wear masks in the social arena, playing different roles to suit the different environmnets we pass through. You are simply becoming more conscious of the process.

vi. Onto you, allow them to project their fantasies.

Think of LIFE as theater. By creating a persona that is mysterious, intriguing, and masterful, you are playing to the public, giving them something compelling and pleasurable to witness. You are allowing them to project their fantasies onto you, or directing their attention to other theatrical qualities. In your private LIFE, you can let the mask fall.

vii. No amount of rigidity should hold you back.

In this diverse, multicultural world, it is best that you learn how to mingle and blend into all types of environments, giving yourself maximum flexibility. You must take pleasure in creating these personas - it will make you a better performer on the public stage.

#7. COMMONSENSE: - Appropriate self-expression entails blurting your beliefs and opinions frankly and fearlessly.
COMMONSCIENCE: - It is always good to stand outside yourself and see yourself as an objective observer would construe you.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Consider straightfordness as sometimes crude.

Almost all of us have social flaws of some sort, ranging from the relatively harmless to those that can get us in trouble. Perhaps it could be that we talk too much, or are honest in our criticisms of people, or take offense too easily when others do not respond positivey to our ideas. If we repeat instances of such behaviour often enough, we tend to offend people, or blush them the wrong way without ever really knowing why.

ii. At times we see others flaws not ours.

The reason for this is twofold: first, we are quick to discern the mistakes and defects of others, but when it comes to ourselves we are generally too emotional and insecure to look squarely at our own. Second, people rarely tell us the truth about what it is that we do wrong. They are afraid to cause conflict or to be viewed as mean-spirited. And so it becomes very difficult for us to perceive our flaws, let alone correct them.

iii. Usually others may see in us what we are blind of.

We sometimes have the experience of doing work that we consider to be quite brilliant, and then are rather shocked when we receive feedback from others who do not see it the same way at all. In such moments we are made aware of the discrepancy between our emotional and sujective relationship to our work, and the response of others who view it with complete detachment, capable of pointing out flaws we could never see. The same discrepancy, however, exists on social level. People see our behaviour from the outside, and their view of us is never what we imagine it to be.

iv. The epitome of emotional Inteligencce.

To have the power to see ourselves through the eyes of others would be of immense benefit to our social intelligence. We could begin to correct the flaws that offend, to see the role that we play in creating any kind of negative dynamic, and to have a more realistic assesment of who we are.

v. Immerse yourself in knowing your flaws.

To see ourselves objectively, we can begin this process by looking at negative events in our past - people sabotaging our work, bosses firing us for no logical reason, nasty personal battles with colleagues. It is best to start with events that are at least several months old, and thus not so emotionally charged. In dissecting these occurrences, we must focus on what we did that either triggered or worsened the dynamic. In looking at several such incidents, we might begin to see a pattern that indicates a particular flaw in our character.

vi. Our mistakes can teach us alot.

Seeing these events from the perspective of other people involved will loosen the lock our emotions have on our self-image, and help us understand the role we play in our own mistakes. We can also elicit opinions from those we trust about our behaviour, making certain to first reassure them that we want their criticisms.

vii. Newness will arise from objective self-analysis.

Slowly, we can develop increasing self-detachment, which will yield us the other half of social intelligence - the ability to see ourselves as we really are.

#8. COMMONSENSE: - If you are in the arts or in sciences, you should follow your line of specialty if you have to curve a niche in this world.
COMMONSCIENCE: - In combining the “how” and the “what” of any field, you will gain a much deeper, or rather more rounded knowledge of your field.--->

We humans live in two worlds. First, there is the outer world of appearances - all of the forms of things that captivate our eye. But hidden from our view is another world - how these things actually function, their anatomy or composition, the parts working together and forming the whole. This second world is not so immediately captivatng. It is harder to understand. It is not something visible to the eye, but only to the mind that glimpses the reality. But this how of things is just as poetic once we understand it - it contains the secret of LIFE, of how things move and change.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Crude division leads to narrowness.

The unfortunate and corrossive division between the “how” and the “what” has been applied to almost everything around us - we see the machine, not how it works; we see a group of people producing something as a business, not how the group is structured or how the products are manufactured and distributed. In a similar fashion, we tend to be mesmerised by people’s appearances, not the psychology behind what they do or say.

ii. Aawareness borne of synthesis.

In diligently overcoming the division between the “how” and the “what” of any field, you will attain to holistic approach to your field. You will open up a kind of “Third Eye”. You will grasp a larger portion of the reality that goes into the essence of your profession. This will allow you to create something infinitely more poetic, to stretch the bounderies, to break the conventions of your field.

iii. Utilise diverse information so as to be creative.

It is vital to understand that we live in a world of a sad separation that began some five hundred years ago when art and science split apart. Scientists and technicians live in their own world, focusing mostly on the “how” of things. Others live in the world of appearances, using these things but not really understanding how they function. Just before the split occured, it was the ideal of European Renaissance to combine these two forms of knowledge. This more rounded knowledge is in fact the way of the future, especially now that so much more information is available to all of us.

iv. Thinking through issues and ideas.

We must make ourselves study as deeply as possible the technology we use, the functioning of the group we work in, the economics of our field, its lifeblood. We must constantly ask the questions - how do things work, how do decisions get made, how does the group interact? Rounding our knowledge in this way will give us a deeper feel for reality and the heightened power to alter it.

v. Ideal of the Universal Man.

In the effort toward the Activation of your SELFHOOD, your MASTERY must not be over this subject or that one, but in the connections between them. After decades of deep thinking and observation, you will come to epitomise what was known in the European Renaissance as the Ideal of the Universal Man - a person so steeped in all forms of knowledge that his mind grows closer to the reality of Nature itself and sees secrets that are invisible to most people.

vi. Our inclination is towards unified knowledge.

The ideal of unifying knowledge is not a Romantic dream, but in fact the opposite is the case, and for one simple reason: the design of the human brain - its inherent need to make connections and associations - gives it a will of its own. Although this evolution might take various twists and turns in history, the desire to connect will win out in the end because it is so powerfully a part of our nature and inclination.

vii. NOW is the time to get closer to Nature.

Aspects of technology now offer unprecedented means to build connections between fields and ideas. The artificial barriers between the arts and the sciences will melt away under the pressure to know and to express our common reality. Our ideas will become closer to nature, more alive and organic. In any way possible, you should strive to be a part of this universalising process, extending your own knowledge to other branches, further and further out. The rich ideas that will come from such a quest will be their own reward.

#9. COMMONSENSE: - I should utilise the bond of affection which I have cultivated among my friends by using them to further my ideals.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Friends are the most inappropriate people to help you improve in your works. Value professionalism instead, and not friendship if you have to propagate yourself forward.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Construe friends as threat to your thrive.

Fortify yourself against your friends. Your prayer must be like that of French philosopher Voltaire (1694 - 1778): “Lord, protect me from my friends; I can take care of my enemies.” A Chinese proverb compares friends to the jaws and teeth of a dangerous animal: If you are not careful, you will find them chewing you up.

ii. Avoid the temptation to hire a friend.

It is natural to want to employ your friends when you find yourself in times of need. The world is a harsh place, and your friends soften the harshness. Besides, you know them. Why depend on a stranger when you have a friend at hand? This is a dangerous illusion which has driven many people to their ruin.

iii. Usually friends are pretentious and hypocritical.

The problem is that you often do not know your friends as well as you imagine. Friends often agree on things in order to avoid argument. They cover up their unpleasant qualities so as to not offend each other. They laugh extra hard at each other. Since honesty strengthens friendship, you may never know how a friend truly feels. Friends will say that they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste in clothes – maybe they mean it, often they do not.

iv. Trust less in giving favours to friends.

When you decide to hire a friend, you gradually discover the qualities he or she has kept hidden. Strangely enough, it is your act of kindness that unbalances everything. People want to feel they deserve their good fortune. The receipt of a favour can become oppressive. It means you have been chosen because you are a friend, not necessarily because you are deserving. There is almost a touch of condensation in the act of hiring friends that secretly afflicts them. The injury will come out slowly: a little more honesty, flashes of resentment and envy here and there, and before you know it your friendship fades. The more favours and gifts you supply to revive the friendship, the less gratitude you receive.

v. Ingratitude has a long and deep history.

Ungratefulness, unappreciativeness, or thanklessness have demonstrated its powers for so many centuries, that it is truly amazing that people continue to underestimate them. Better to be wary. If you never expect boorishness from a friend, you will be pleasantly surprised when they do prove rude.

vi. Occassionally, your ability will be curtailed.

The problem with using or hiring friends is that it will inevitably limit your power. The friend is rarely the one who is most able to help you; and in the end, skill and competence are far more important than friendly feelings.

vii. Not friendliness but expertise is vital.

All working situations require a kind of distance between people. You are trying to work, not make friends; friendliness (real or false) only obscures that fact. The key to being a BLESSED BEYONDIST, then, is the ability to judge who is best able to further your interests in all situations. Keep friends for friendship, but work with the skilled and competent.

#10. COMMONSENSE: - You should keep off your enemies and never involve them in any of your endeavours or projects.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Your enemies are the most essential people to use in your dealings. First they have something to prove, and second they are not aroused to envy.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Consider enemies progressivelly.

Your enemies are an untapped gold mine that you must learn to exploit. Former hatred will create an opportunity for an emotional reconciliation. An enemy will expect nothing from you, and in fact would work to prove that he or she is worthy of your choice; a person who has something to prove will move mountains for you.

ii. An enemy is destroyed upon being turned into a friend.

Your relationship with a reconcilled enemy, will be based on mutual self-interest, and will not be contaminated by personal feeling. From then on you will have a fruitful working relationship. So whenever you can, bury the hatchet with an enemy, and make a point of putting him or her in your service. You destroy an enemy when you make a friend of him or her.

iii. Utilise an enemy, and not a friend.

Without enemies around us, we grow lazy. An enemy at our heels sharpens our wit, keeping us focused and alert. It is sometimes better, then to use enemies rather than transforming them into friends.

iv. Through crisis our personality is strengthened.

See conflict and challenges as key component in your road to SELF-ACTUALIZATION. Without worthy crisis to wrestle with, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST you cannot grow stronger.

v. In conflicts our focus is clarified and solidified.

The strategy of constant conflict has several key components. First, be certain that in the long run you will emerge victorious. Never pick a fight with someone you are not sure you can defeat. Second, if you have no apparent enemies, you must sometimes set up a convenient target, even turning a friend into an enemy. Third, use such enemies to define your cause more clearly to the public, even framing it as a struggle of the good against evil. A sharply defined enemy is a far stronger argument for your side than all words you could possibly put together.

vi. Opponents who are clearly seen, are no more threats.

Never let the presence of rivals, opponents or enemies upset or distress you – you are far better off with a declared opponent or two than not knowing where your real enemies lie.

vii. NO more wishful thinking or coiling away.

A BLESSED BEYONDINST welcomes conflict, using enemies to enhance his or her reputation as surefooted fighter and witty warrior who can be relied upon in times of uncertainty.

#11. COMMONSENSE: - You can easily make it in LIFE by engaging in Get-Rich-Instanly betting in phones, TV and Radio, or by simply indulging yourself in gambling.
COMMONSCIENCE: - There is nothing like easy-ride-to-success; you have to persist your way through. Even if you win some money in this way the happiness therein is only fleeting and temporary.--->

The current trend of legalised gambling has become a sort of misconceived investment, even an obsession. Driven by a ruthless, destructive, paradoxically pathological want of cheaply acquired wealth, people from all walks of LIFE degrade themselves by crowding in betting houses to try their luck, or lining at convenience stores or wherever, to buy their lottery or are busy in their phones sending those SMS numbers, to win the promised amount of money. From the seemingly creative to the utterly gullible, men and women, old and young are lured by get-rich-instantly-schemes, and have blindly reduced themselves, thus becoming imperceptive gamblers, letting loose their hard earned coins in the hope of becoming instant millionaires.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Competition which leads to doom.

It is very unfortunate that, most people have fell prey to Pyramid Schemes or SMS patterns of winning money which have become fashionable on almost all Radio and TV stations. January 2010, estimates indicated that a single competition can earn a single business KSH 5 million in revenue per day from subscribers paying premium prices for an SMS to enter these competitions. However even if you happen to be the ‘LUCKY(?)’ winner, you should be forewarned that easy money cannot and will not shower you happiness—earned success will.

In other words, money per se will and can never create success, the freedom to make it will. This fact is consolidated by a classic 1978 study, conducted by two psychologists who interviewed 22 major lottery winners and found that the joy of sudden wealth wore off in a few months.

ii. Access to real happiness is highly limited.

Betting and lottery winners have a harder time than the rest of people enjoying LIFE’s prosaic pleasures: watching television, shopping, talking with friends, and so forth. It is as if the overwhelming experience of winning the lottery dulls the enjoyable flavours of ordinary LIFE.

In truth, it does not necessarily destroy your LIFE to win the lottery, but it will not make your LIFE better either.

iii. Under the yoke of involuntary impulses.

Psychologist have examined the phenomena of drug addictions to determine whether the notion of addiction can be extended to the repeated ingestion of nonessential substances which are not drugs or to activities which are engaged in excessively. It is concluded that in neither case can the category of drug addiction be extended to include these other activities without losing the essential meaning of drug addiction. A new category of psychological addictions is defined as “a persistent behavioural pattern characterised by: a desire or need to continue the activity which places it outside voluntary control; a tendency to increase the frequency or amount of the activity over time; psychological dependence on the pleasurable effects of the activity; and, a detrimental effect on the individual and society.”

iv. Thirst which is unquenchable.

While the heavy gambling of some victims may under certain circumstances meet these criteria, it is not clear whether the group selected by the criteria is the same or similar to the group diagnosed as pathological or compulsive gamblers. Furthermore, it is not clear that the activity of gambling involves psychological dependency - one of the listed criteria. So what is the essence of ‘compulsive gambling’? Scholars have identified two psychological issues a significant percentage seems to share. There may well turn out to be a neurological or even genetic reason that helps explain why compulsive gamblers can not seem to resist visiting casinos, buying lottery tickets or staying glued to Internet gaming sites. Parts of their brains that respond to pleasure - including what is called the limbic system - may react particularly strongly, for example, to the intermittent and unpredictable reward of winning.

v. In the grip of perversive emotional turmoil.

The emotional forces at the root of an addiction to gambling should not be overlooked. Psychologist have noticed that, for many addicts, gambling reproduces painful and unexamined aspects of their childhoods and make casinos, convenient stores with Keno and Internet lottery sites feel very much like going home. First, gamblers often seem to come from homes where they could not predict whether the environment would be peaceful and happy, or filled with panic, despair or anger. They may have had alcoholic parents who were sometimes sober and loving, but sometimes drunk and punishing. They may have had parents who could be kind to one another and to them, but could also become verbally or physically abusive. They may have had siblings who struggled with illnesses - like severe diabetes or asthma - that meant that they sometimes seemed to be in perfect health, then needed to be rushed to emergency rooms.

When the good things about home - like shelter and food and birthday parties - become linked in a person’s mind with a seesaw of unpredictable highs and lows, then they may be forever drawn to other places that spark uncontrollable waves of pleasure and pain. Second, compulsive gamblers want to believe that they are “liked” or “loved” by the people, places (including gaming websites) or even the machines that are actually hurting them. As obvious as it may be, many of my gamblers need to admit that their bookies or blackjack dealers, along with the folks who park their cars and smile at them at the doors of casinos, do not really like them at all, but are looking to take their money away. Often, admitting that this is the case requires admitting that they were not loved in a pure way during childhood - or, in some cases, ever, by anyone.

vi. Only the helpless delude themselves.

Take the case a father who keeps telling his daughter how much he loves her, when he really intends to manipulate her and control her (ultimately disempowering her), that girl can actually believe she has got “friends” bringing her drinks at slot machines. Take another case of a bookmaker who described the “customers” he serviced: “they are sick, degenerate addicts, their whole lives are a tragedy, because they think I am actually on their side, that I believe in them. They think I want them to win. They really do. It is incredible.” What he really wanted was to keep them weak and dependent on him.

This combination of having experienced little control, lots of chaos and too little genuine caring during childhood (even if there were lots of false displays of it), can make a building with no windows and lots of machines and tables where you might get “lucky” feel like home. And almost everyone wants to “go home,” even when home was a pathological place. Because almost everyone is willing to fool himself or herself into believing - during childhood - that home is a good place. Very few 5-year-olds or 8-year-olds run away from home - and mean it. Many more should.

vii. No enduring consolation can be got from gambling.

In this regard BEYONDISM teaches you that, breaking the cycle of compulsive gambling requires resolving to no longer be complicit in your own destruction. It means realising that the people and places you think embraces you, are actually shaking you down - all the way back to childhood.

These are sobering realisations that can come with all the force of a freighter adrift that slams into shore. And That is the point. When you decide to no longer be hostage to tides of emotion outside you that drag you here and there, there is always a moment of impact when everything becomes perfectly, painfully clear.

#12. COMMONSENSE: - Your fate is absolutely predetermined and you can look for the direction of your LIFE by reading horoscopes in phones, newspapers or magazines.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Psychoastrology may have some import in understanding your traits, but to fully know yourself, you have to consider all the various determinants of your personality as outlined by BEYONDISM.--->

Whenever you read a paper or magazine, you may be drawn to the horoscopes page. You may know there is no real truth in it, but you still want to know the prediction for your star sign. It feels like a little ritual, and you enjoy it. Yes, you know millions of people were born on the same day, at the same time, but, irrationally, you think you are going to read something unique about yourself.

This temptation to read personal meaning into a general description is recognised by psychologists, who refer to it as the Barnum Effect (after PT Barnum (1810 - 1891) who was an American showman remembered for promoting celebrated hoaxes who made the famous line, ‘we have got something for everyone’).

Another term is Forer Effect. We are all surprisingly willing, according to psychologist Bertram Forer (1914 - 2000), to attribute the vaguest personality descriptions to ourselves. In other words, the Forer effect is the observation that individuals will give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people. This effect can provide a partial explanation for the widespread acceptance of some beliefs and practices, such as astrology, fortune telling, graphology, and some types of personality test.

A related and more general phenomenon is that of ‘Subjective Validation’. This occurs when two unrelated or even random events are perceived to be related because a belief, expectation, or hypothesis demands a relationship. Thus people seek a correspondence between their perception of their personality and the contents of a horoscope.

Horoscopes use vague statements which may reflect almost every person:
You have a great need for other people to like and admire you.
You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.
You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.
While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them.
Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside.
At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing.
You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.
You pride yourself as an independent thinker and do not accept others’ statements without satisfactory proof.
You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.
At times you are extroverted, affable, sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, reserved.
Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.
Security is one of your major goals in LIFE.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Consistency of effect, derives from vagueness of statements.

In 1948, Forer gave a personality test to his students. He told his students they were each receiving a unique personality analysis that was based on the test’s results and to rate their analysis on a scale of 0 (very poor) to 5 (excellent) on how well it applied to themselves. In reality, each received the same analysis: On average, the rating was 4.26. Only after the ratings were turned in was it revealed that each student had received identical copies assembled by Forer from various horoscopes. As can be seen from the profile, there are a number of statements that could apply equally to anyone.

In another study examining the Forer effect, students took a personality assessment and researchers evaluated their responses. The researchers wrote accurate evaluations of the students’ personalities, but gave the students both the accurate assessment and a fake assessment using vague generalities. Students were then asked to choose which personality assessment they believe was their own, actual assessment. More than half of the students (59%) chose the fake assessment as opposed to the real one.

Two factors are important in ensuring that the study is replicable. The content of the description offered is important, with specific emphasis on the ratio of positive to negative trait assessments. The other important factor is that the subject trusts the person who is giving feedback to give them feedback based on honest and subjective assessment.

The effect is so consistent because the statements are so vague. People are able to read their own meaning into the statements they receive, and thus, the statement becomes “personal” to them. The most effective statements contain statements based around the phrase: “at times.” Such as: “At times you feel very sure of your self, while at other times you are not as confident.” This phrase can apply to almost anybody, and thus each person can read their own meaning into it. Keeping statements vague in this manner will ensure high rates of reliability when repeating the study.

ii. Affirmed gullibility in regard to personal definitions.

In 2011, the study was repeated with the statements altered so that they applied to organisations rather than individuals. The results were similar suggesting that people anthropomorphise (to give a nonhuman thing a human form) organisations and are gullible when it comes to interpreting their characters. Studies have shown that the Forer effect is seemingly universal – it has been observed in people from many different cultures and geographic locations. In 2009, psychologists Paul Rogers and Janice Soule conducted a study that compared the tendencies of Westerners to accept Barnum personality profiles to the tendencies of Chinese people. They were unable to find any significant differences. However, later studies have found that subjects give higher accuracy ratings if the following are true: The subject believes that the analysis applies only to him or her, and thus applies their own meaning to the statements. The subject believes in the authority of the evaluator. The analysis lists mainly positive traits.

The method in which the Barnum personality profiles are presented can also affect the extent to which people accept them as their own. For instance, Barnum profiles that are more personalised – perhaps containing a specific person’s name – are more likely to yield higher acceptability ratings than those that could be applied to anyone.

iii. Usual beliefs promotes beliefs in horoscopes.

There is evidence that having prior belief in the paranormal, correlates with greater influence of the effect. Subjects who, for example, believe in the accuracy of horoscopes have a greater tendency to believe that the vague generalities of the response apply specifically to them. Other examples of beliefs in the paranormal include belief in god(s), magical powers, spiritual happenings, or other influences. Studies on the relationship between schizotypy and susceptibility to the Forer effect have shown high amounts of correlation. However, Rogers and Soule’s 2009 study also tested subjects’ astrological beliefs, and both the Chinese and Western skeptics were more likely to identify the ambiguity within the Barnum profiles. This suggests that individuals who do not believe in astrology are possibly influenced less by the effect.

Self-serving bias has been shown to cancel the Forer effect. According to the self-serving bias, subjects accept positive attributes about themselves while rejecting negative ones. In one study, subjects were given one of three personality reports. One contained Barnum profiles with socially desirable personality traits, one contained profiles full of negative traits (also called “common faults”), and the last contained a mixture of the two. Subjects who received the socially desirable and mixed reports were far more likely to agree with the personality assessments than the subjects who received negative reports, though it should be noted that there was not a significant difference between the first two groups. In another study, subjects were given a list of traits instead of the usual “fake” personality assessment. The subjects were asked to rate how much they felt these traits applied to them. In line with the self-serving bias, the majority of subjects agreed with positive traits about themselves, and disagreed with negative ones. The study concluded that the self-serving bias is powerful enough to cancel out the usual Forer effect.

iv. Thrilling in the illusion of being easily understood.

BEYONDISM seeks to go to the bottom of this matter by noting that, some 60 years after the discovery of the Barnum Effect, horoscope writers still rely on this observable human trait. A horoscope should be well-written to be convincing. They say the same things year in, year out, and we do not even notice, as we are in the realm of fiction. A typical prediction might say, ‘Things have been difficult but there is the opportunity for resolution on the horizon.’ So it does that cunning trick of reflecting back to you the reality that LIFE is quite difficult, but also offers hope of improvement.

It is also an appealing illusion to feel you can be ‘defined’, and therefore, more easily understood by others. Capricorns are said to be solitary creatures, for example, while Leos like to take centre stage, and Taureans are trustworthy and reliable. The fact that these definitions are steeped in time increases that illusion. Ancient civilisations used horoscopes to divide time into years, months and hours — the word ‘horoscope’ comes from the Greek, meaning ‘to tell the time’. Priests and kings looked to the stars to tell them whether they would win in battle or enjoy a good harvest.

v. Individualism and narcissism as fueled by self-deception.

Horoscopes only began being aimed at ordinary people from the end of the nineteenth century. By the 1950s, they took off in the US, appealing to a new mood of individualism and narcissism, not to mention the endless quest for identity. Nowadays, reading our horoscope is a collective self-deception, like doing the lottery. We imagine if we believe in something enough it will come true. When we were children, we believed in Father Christmas. As adults, we hope the stars will bring us what we desire: love, money and a full social LIFE. What we can always rely on is the omission of bad news. Sad events, such as death, divorce or illness, are never there.

70 per cent of information in newspaper horoscopes is positive, substantially higher than any other part of a newspaper. Horoscopes offer escape from daily anxieties — grown-up fairy tales many of us consume without questioning. They are something you absorb in childhood, knowing from a young age what star sign you are, and people remain attached to the idea.

vi. Obsessive pattern-seeking set the stage for allures of horoscopes.

The justification is always that it is ‘a bit of fun’. So it can be, as long as we recognise its limitations. The problem is, if it incites us to ignore certain aspects of our personality, it can be a short cut that stops us thinking too much for ourselves. It can even encourage avid astrology followers to conform to their sign, says psychologist Susan Blackmore, who has researched the effect of horoscopes on women’s relationships. “The interesting discovery was when we looked at women’s personality traits in terms of how much interest they took in their star signs. The women who did not know much about it were not similar at all. Yet the women who followed them closely conformed significantly to their sign definition. So they can be influential, to the point where you could twist your personality to fit in with what they say.”

Yet horoscopes’ allure endures, as they give meaning to otherwise random events in our lives. So we can think it is not going well because I am a Pisces and we are destined to suffer. If we can blame it on Saturn or Mars, we can feel a little less responsible for our inability to keep a job or a partner. Instinctively, we do not like the idea that events are random — so horoscopes offer us the comfort of predictability. For good evolutionary reasons we are obsessive pattern-seekers. Centuries ago, in terms of survival, it was safer to see patterns in everything, as a means of protection.

vii. No amount of rationalism seems to water down horoscopic deception.

Widespread interest in the rational and logic has not, it seems, dented our hunger for any of the generalisations that horoscopes rely upon. “There is something in each one of us that is superstitious, that can not be convinced by reason,” explains psychoanalyst Gerard Miller. “This part of us means we are able to dream, to access our imagination. The problem is it makes us vulnerable to astrology, clairvoyants or any type of guru who claims to know something about our essential being, our needs, our desires — our future.”

#13. COMMONSENSE: - Modern LIFE seems to be very complex and you can look for solution to critical problems by reading Self-Help books.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Self-Help books may be necessary to a very limited measure. But to the extent they offer very cheap solutions to the complex problems of LIFE, they could lead to self-sabotage.--->

Self-Help books could ruin your LIFE! They promise everything - and sell in their millions. Prominent American scholar Morris Berman in the book The Twilight of American Culture says: “Self-Help books are essentially watered down saying on tea bags that have been made into books; chicken soup for the soul” – every other Self-Help is “the soul”. “Why did we get so preoccupied with the soul? Because we are so dumb we can not think of anything else”, he said.

The first Self-Help book was published in 1859 and called Self-Help: With Illustrations Of Character And Conduct. The proliferation of Self-Help books may be traced back to what is now referred to as ‘Popular Psychology’.

The term popular psychology (frequently called pop psychology or pop psych) refers to concepts and theories about human mental LIFE and behaviour that are purportedly based on psychology and that attain popularity among the general population. The concept is closely related to the human potential movement of the 1950s and ‘60s. The term “pop psychologist” can be used to describe authors, consultants, lecturers and entertainers who are widely perceived as being psychologists, not because of their academic credentials, but because they have projected that image or have been perceived in that way in response to their work.

The term popular psychology can also be used when referring to the popular psychology industry, a sprawling network of everyday sources of information about human behaviour.

The very fact that there are so many Self-Help books on the market is likely to be a sign that none of them is particularly effective. After all, if one of them really did unlock the secret to everlasting happiness, would it not corner the market and crowd out all the others? Instead, there is what is known in the Self-Help industry as the ‘18-month rule’ — which is that the person most likely to buy a book this week is someone who bought one 18 months earlier.

In his book Sham: How the Self-Help Movement Made America Helpless, author Steve Salerno argues that there are huge costs associated with the public acceptance of the ‘Self-Help movement’. Buying into the overblown claims such books make, he argues, can lead to you blaming yourself for failure when you do not achieve the outcome you hoped for — and avoiding treatments that actually work. Furthermore, very little of the advice offered in Self-Help books has been tested scientifically, despite the fact that there are ways to do so. Indeed, there have been many good scientific studies on how to become happier. Most Self-Help authors are either unaware of this research or opt not to discuss it. Maybe a better analogy is that reading a Self-Help book is like buying a lottery ticket. For a small investment, we get hope in return — the dream that all our problems will soon be solved, without any real expectation that they will be.

But BEYONDISM holds a well considered opinion that, there may be real harm in Self-Help books. The problem with Self-Help books, is that they can steer people away from effective solutions to their problems by suggesting that good health, love, and riches are theirs for the asking if they just think about them.

Three potential dangers of Self-Help books are: people may falsely label themselves as psychologically disturbed; people may misdiagnose themselves and use material that deals with the wrong problem; people may not be able to evaluate a program and may select an ineffective one. Listening to Self-Help is all about persuading yourself. To make positive changes in your behaviour. Presumably to make your LIFE better. It sounds easy and straightforward. It is usually well-intentioned. But Self-Help can actually harm you, backfire, dig you deeper into failure, or solidify denial.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Categorically wrong about where you need to go.

Self-Help means choosing a course of action (e.g. a particular reading list) based on where you want to end up. Where you end up is supposed to be a better place. A good place. A healthy place. A happy place. But you could be dead wrong about what that place needs to be. Maybe you think your dream job is with a nonprofit — but after working at one for six months you realise you need to start your own. You could also be focusing on getting to “that place” as a means of avoiding a current challenge. Maybe you think you are wired for a polyamorous relationship, but that is just an excuse for avoiding intimacy with your partner. Maybe you are practicing mindfulness meditation to feel inner calm, but in a way to subtly avoid your negative emotions — that when worked with actually help you to create inner calm. The problem: If you do not get clear on what you want to do with your LIFE and why — you can end up going a path that is dangerous to your health and well-being. Because it either takes you to a place that is actually not in your best interests, or it distracts you from finding solutions to your actual problems. The solution: Create your LIFE as a mindful construct. Remain true to your emotions — they alert you on the problems in your LIFE.

ii. Apparently right about where to go, but wrong about how to get there.

So let us say you do know where you need to go. Well, just knowing where you need to go does not get you there. You could be dead wrong about how to get there. Maybe “where” you want to go is a state of mind where you are happy with your LIFE. If you stuff your anger for the sake of fake smiles, it is going to backfire. Or maybe “where” you want to be is feeling good about your physical health. If you diet and compulsively exercise for the sake of pleasing a scale, it is only going to backfire. The problem: If you do not get clear on defining what success means to you, you can end up following advice that contradicts success, and leads to failure. The solution: Get really clear on your goals. Spell out what they mean. And make sure they are founded upon genuine self-love. You can not succeed if you are your own enemy.

iii. Unihibitedly making up your mind.

Self-Help is all about self-persuasion, and persuasion sure is according to Nietzsche: “Ultimately, nobody can get more out of things, including books, than he already knows. For what one lacks access to from experience one will have no ear.” If your mind is made up that anger is the evil stepchild of emotions, you will not go near the Self-Help materials that teach you how to work constructively with your anger, let alone express it. Obviously, there are definite things you need to make up your mind on. Otherwise, you would have no identity. But for the major decisions regarding personal development, it is important to keep an open mind. Especially in regards to what can be of value to your on your Self-Help journey. And especially when it comes to turning something bad into something good. Or seeing the potential bad in something good. Like in transmuting something negative (like anger) into something positive (like genuine gratitude). Or spotting out the pitfalls of being empathetic. The problem: If you have already labeled everything as inherently good or bad, you will not be able to grow from pain or find light in the dark. The solution: Have an open mind, while keeping your discernment. Do not assume you have this Self-Help thing all figured out. you have admitted you need help. you are seeking resources to make your LIFE better. Be ready to learn.

iv. Tuning out what you do not want to hear.

There is a lot of good advice out there, but just because it is out there, does not mean that you will hear it. (Or that you will take it.) ‘Mindful Construct’ is about moulding your LIFE. Which means using your emotions as powerful tools for self growth and personal development. But some people still do not get it. They still judge emotions as the enemies. They do not want to take response ability. Because it is too scary — for whatever reason. Because they do not want to. The problem: You tune out what you do not want to hear. You make up reasons not to believe it. You argue against it. You ignore it. You come up with stories for why it is not true. When you tune out what can actually help you — what you absolutely need to hear — you are in trouble. The solution: Be mindful of what you tune out and why. Do not just do it — watch yourself doing it. Do not just argue against what you disagree with — be confident enough in your beliefs to really own them without being compulsed to defend them. Have an intimate relationship with your belief systems, so that they are not dysfunctional and so that you Do not tune out what can actually help you.

v. Inordinatelly taking bad advice.

There is a lot of bad advice out there. You will attract it like a magnet if you are searching for false safety rather than real growth. The Self-Help industry is full of people, books, and systems that dish out bad advice. About getting rid of problems rather than actually solving them. About quick-fixing your moods rather than changing them from the inside out. Or about glossing over the small stuff instead of being aware of what is going on in your LIFE. If you are looking for things which do not last — “Eternal Joy,” “No-Conflict,” “The Perfect Relationship” — you will lap up that bad advice without even thinking. The problem: If you do not have enough discernment to sort out the false promises from the worthy goals, you will take advice that gets you nowhere fast. The solution: Forget about the buzzwords. Forget about the stuff that sounds good. The point is not to feel good all the time. Look for the insight that is realistic. That talks about working diligently and consistently at concrete, long-term goals.

vi. Occupationally avoiding working on your “deeper issues”.

While Self-Help is often well-intentioned, it is usually superficial-level stuff. Like losing weight or keeping your house pretty or making a good impression on everyone you meet. Self-Help will hurt you when you focus on superficial gains at the expense of working on your “deeper issues.” Issues like having tolerated an abusive boss for ten years, compulsively arguing with those your spouse before bed every night, or suffering from dysfunctional religious programming. Those deeper issues are scary. And painful, and dark. But they are your issues. You have to take charge or they will ruin your LIFE. You are the only one to work on them constructively. The problem: Self-Help can serve as a convenient distraction from working on your deeper issues — the real barriers to getting what you want out of LIFE. Self-Help is commercially situated to dabble on the happy, feel-good, no-hard-work-or-sweat-or-tears-required stuff. This puts you at odds with actually doing anything meaningful with your LIFE. The solution: recognise that Self-Help is only good to you if it arms you to work at those deeper issues. And pay attention to your emotions — they are the links back to those deeper issues.

vii. Negating or mistaking short-term for long-term change.

One reason why Self-Help is a multi-billion dollar industry is that it sells quick-fixes. How to lose ten pounds in only one week. How to transform your LIFE in an eight-week program. Or how to make twenty friends in less than a month. If you are looking for short-term success, you will not understand the merits of the long-term kind. Short-term success is about feeling good — or at least slightly better about yourself — right now. It has nothing to do with going through the hard work and tough times that come with really getting physically healthy. Or transforming your LIFE for good. Or making true friends, and letting go of everyone else. Self-Help in the short-term is not a fix. It is a quick-fix. And it will not last. The problem: Most of Self-Help is built around the quick-fix, feel-good-now mentality. It avoids hard work like the plague, and most certainly avoids working with your negative emotions. If you consume this type of Self-Help, you are bound to suffocate in your motives, instead of actually get your LIFE on track. The solution: realise that long-term change requires commitment and sacrifice. And that sometimes it means failing first to succeed — for real — later.

THE CATCH!

Self-Help is supposed to be about changing your bad LIFE into a good one. But most of Self-Help ends up being about feeling good. This makes no sense whatsoever. Considering that change rarely comes about until something is so painful you can not go on the same way anymore. You learn from mistakes — from pain. You have to feel the pain — feel uncomfortable — before you can create positive, lasting, LIFE-long change for the better. You should not try to get rid of pain — but feel it, learn from it, and work with it. If you are following what the majority of Self-Help prescribes — feeling good right now — you are going to feel bad later. Because all your problems will remain and nothing of significance will change. The most important thing here, is to get comfortable feeling your pain. Allow yourself to feel it. Give it permission to exist. Then start looking at why it is here, and what you can do about it.

Practicing safe Self-Help, entails avoiding the potential dangers of Self-Help by staying true to your emotions, being willing to learn, and getting clear on your long-term goals. Self-Help can help you blossom if you can detect the bad from the helpful. When you are doing it all alone, that is a lot of hard work, but it is well, well worth it in the end. How do you practice safe Self-Help? Are there any other ways you have experienced that Self-Help can actually hurt you? What about other ways to practice safe Self-Help? What will really make us happy? Research reveals there are three key ingredients to human happiness: meaning, hope, and purpose.
For us to feel truly content we need a spiritual and ethical framework — be it religious or otherwise — that gives us an understanding of our place in the world, in a way that allows us to make sense of why bad things sometimes occur.
It helps to be optimistic — not because positive thoughts magically attract things to us, but because optimistic people cope better with adversity.
It helps to view ourselves as strong protagonists who set our own goals and make progress toward them. In other words, to have a sense of purpose. The good news is that there are relatively simple exercises any of us can do to shape our views in these directions.

In BEYONDISM’S view, following techniques have been scientifically shown, to lead to HAPPINESS.
The pennebaker exercise.
Is there something in your LIFE that you are particularly worried or upset about right now? If it has been on your mind for several weeks, you might want to try this technique. All you have to do is commit to writing about your problem for at least 15 minutes a day for three or four consecutive days — ideally, at the end of the day, and without interruption. Writing your thoughts and feelings down about a specific issue really can help you to analyse and change your feelings and approach to it.

The step-back-and-ask-why-approach.

THIS helps people get over events from their past that they find particularly upsetting or depressing. Close your eyes, and go back to the time of the experience and see the scene in your mind’s eye. Now take a few steps back (in your mind). Move away from the situation to a point where you can now watch the event unfold from a distance and see yourself in the event. As you do this, focus on what has now become the “distant you”. Now watch the experience unfold as if it were happening to the “distant you”, all over again. Replay the event as it unfolds in your imagination as you observe your “distant self”. Take a few moments to do this. As you continue to watch the situation unfold to your “distant self”, try to understand his or her feelings. What were the underlying causes and reasons?

Maintain a sense of purpose.

When everything we do feels futile, we should remind ourselves of our most important goals in LIFE and find ways of making progress toward them. Persuing our studies, or caring for our families is the most important goal for many of us, and for many of us there are ways we can do it better. Others find meaning and purpose in their religions, professions, communities or hobbies. Whatever it is that gives us a sense of purpose, we should be sure to make time in our lives to pursue it. People often forget to follow it when choosing careers or deciding how to spend their leisure time.

The do good, be good principle.

Some of us may be slightly pessimistic, and some of us endure blows such as losing our jobs or seeing a relationship disintegrate. But by engaging in volunteer work, actively trying to find the positive in whatever we must endure, and making sure that we keep ourselves connected to other people, it has been shown that the reality of our situation will actually change to match our behaviour.”

#14. COMMONSENSE: - To be well informed, and to be on the trend, you should use the Smartphone as a partner, not just as a gardget for communication.
COMMONSCIENCE: - Smartphone, though very necessary in modern times, may dull your communication skills, by watering down your face reading ability or appreciating the beauty and spontaneity of the moment by for instance overusing the camera phone.--->

The evolution of Smartphone is astonishing, if not incredible:

In 1973 Martin Cooper, invented the first mobile phone.
10 years later in 1983, Motorola released the DynaTAC 8000x, weighing nearly one kilogramme and retailing at almost USD4,000 (about Ksh340,000 at current exchange rates).
In 1992, the first text message, “Happy Christmas”, was sent. Standard SMS messaging used 140 bytes per message, which translated to 160 characters of the English alphabet using 7 -bit encoding.
In 1999, the first BlackBerry 850 was launched, bearing little resemblance to the phones used today. Launched in Munich, Germany, it was more of a two-way pager than a mobile phone.
In 2000, Sharp communications and J-Phone released the first camera phone.
In 2003, the Nokia 1100 was launched, eventually becoming the top selling phone of all times. The phone, which is still used by some people today, moved over 250 million units. No other manufacturer has broken that record.
In 2004, Motorola unveiled the Razr series, which came in custom colours, hence pioneering the emergence of phone personalisation.
In 2006 ringtones generated over USD52 billion (Ksh4,500,600,000,000 at current rates) in yearly worldwide sales.
In 2006 the first iPhone was launched, featuring a touch screen and countless apps.
In 2008, the first Android phone, the HTC Dream, was released.
From there, everything has gone helter-skelter.

The world is truly going mobile. With the growing “internet of things”, computers are getting smaller and smaller and thinner while the traditional cellphones are getting wider to accommodate larger screens. This converging evolution has brought with it numerous advantages that have enhanced communication and LIFE in general. Here is how.

1. You are never bored.
Smartphones have made idle time productive. In the past, one had to settle for outdated magazines in waiting rooms before an office appointment. But now, thanks to smartphone, the web is readily available with the latest news, magazines, and other information you mind need.

2. You are never lost.
Complicated directions are now easier to give and get through the various map apps. In situations where verbal directions would not suffice or there is no one available to give those directions, the smartphone has come in handy. Furthermore, with photo archive on the web getting bigger, chances are you can also get a photograph of the building you are looking for on Google.

3. You are always available.
This can be a good or a bad thing; it just depends on what you are available for. Smartphones have made us easily accessible through multiple platforms. Even when you are not available for that call, you can still be reached through chat, email, social media…all of which are found in your phone. And yes, that office emergency does not have to end up being catastrophic because you missed the memo.

4. You are never ignorant.
One word: Google. With smartphones, you no longer have to wait until you get home so that you can look up that word or that issue in your dictionary, encyclopedia, or on your desktop computer. There are even downloadable dictionaries that can be accessed when you are out of internet range. Thanks to the smartphone, you will always be in the know.

5. You are never forgetful.
Beyond the standard, traditional reminders, smartphones have revolutionised the way we record and remember events. Those who forgot birthdays can synchronize Facebook birthdays with their smartphone calendars. Women who are too busy to keep track of their cycles have an app for that. Appointments that were set up ages ago can send you alerts when the day or time, approaches. The list is endless.

6. You are always anchored.
Newer smartphones are coming up with all sorts of creative ways to remind you; from vibrating to flashing to even calling your other phones to alert you. The categorization of things to remember now comes with endless options and possibilities. In short, you no longer have an excuse for forgetting.

7. The list grows with each new innovation.
If there is a word that sums up how the smartphone has revolutionised life, it is “convenience”. Basically, if you need it, rest assured that there is an app for it. Even so, many have received smartphones with a lot of skepticism. The argument for smartphones making people less efficient, less knowledgeable, even less “human” have their valid place. But at the end of the day, it is the man, and not the machine, that must bear the brunt of the responsibility in how these wonderful gadgets are used.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

With all the notable and astonishing advantages of the smartphones, which could make our ancestors look at it with a magical sense of awe, your smartphone may be ruining your LIFE. It may be making you, your child, your friend or close person dumb!
i. Comparative replacement.

The smartphone has become the other partner wife, or husband in many marriages. Your phone may be valiantly fighting for the place of your lover, wife, husband or child. In the case of young dating couples, the gadget has rapidly become a permanent fixture on tables at restaurants. It is no longer seen as rude to keep checking your Facebook, Twitter, or WhatsApp every two minutes during a date. Both of you are doing it, so why complain? And if I find a funny meme or video clip, I will simply forward it to your phone and we will both laugh about it over our meal. In the process, social courtesy gets thrown out of the window without a second thought or a tinge of guilt.

ii. Affection and spontaneity is waning off.

Smartphones have also made us forget how to live in the moment. The camera has become a permanent curtain between our eyes and whatever interesting thing is going in the world. Go to a wedding and you will notice that the crowd taking videos on their phones, may be bigger than those dancing with the bridal party! In birthday parties people are more eager to take videos than to sing ‘happy birthday. Capture now, enjoy later has become the new mantra. Smartphones have made everyone a photographer and a videographer. We now visit game parks and go to art gallery to take pictures. We attend family functions to capture the moments on our cameras instead of experiencing them. The church is not immune to this phenomenon; some sleep in church with the phones on to record the sermon for them to listen to later.

iii. Unmoved by raw emotions.

Smartphones have made us emotionally dumb. We have replaced smiles with smiley and emotions with emoticoms. Gone are the good old days when we would write and receive love letters. The emotions back then were raw, real, and richer than anything you could express with a cute smiley today. Gone are the days of perfume scented letters. Smartphones have hijacked our emotions. We are now cold and blank-faced creatures text-speaking and short-cutting away what we think we should feel. Instead of laughing out loud, we type LOL with blank face. Instead of shaking our heads in disbelief, we type SMH with a steady head. We have become lifeless; no more than statues hunched over our four-inch capacitative touch-screens.

iv. Thoughtless about critical landmraks.

Thanks to smartphones, people have increasingly lost their sense of direction – literary. In the past, people would give directions to their homes using familiar landmarks and road signs. But with the invention of map applications such as Google Maps, all you need is a link containing the relevant coordinates. While this is a helpful tool, it has come with its own set of setbacks. Yes, you will get to your destination, but the problem is that, it is all you will get. You will miss out on everything else around you in the process. Your attention, throughout the journey, will be on your smartphone, following the blue dot tracing your path. You will miss the scenery and landscape along the way that once used to grab people’s attention. What this means is that, in case your internet or GPS fails, you will not able to find your way to that destination again in the future. You will look around you and nothing will be familiar because you never bothered to mark and learn the way, leaving everything to your smartphone. And so you will end up where you began – lost, with your pretty phone.

v. It is all about uploading and bragging.

If you walk into a coffee shop or restaurant, it will not be uncommon to find people hunched over their smartphones while their food goes cold in front of them. If you move closer and lean over the person’s shoulder, you might notice that the person is not texting, or scrolling through the phone, or reading anything. He or she is actually focusing on the food in front of him or her, trying to get the best possible photo. The photo will then be uploaded on instagram and hashtags such as #instafood, #instacoffe, #instajava, or #instalunch will be appended to it. This is what smartphones have made us; we are more fascinated by how our food looks than how it tastes. We would rather let our food go cold than take a dissatisfying picture. We are ready to spend ridiculous amounts of money in order to be able to eat particular restaurant just so that we could photograph it and brag to our friends.

vi. Old days of serenity are gone.

Smartphones may be the epitome of creativity in mobile technology, but this has recently been at the expense of the creativity of those who use it. We will never again experience, in our generation and BEYOND, the musical prowess of Mozart, the sculpting genius of Michelangelo, the painting marvel of Rafael, the architectural and ship building MASTERY of pre-medieval and medieval times. We are busy, distracted, unfocused and totally terrified by silent stretches of inactive time and space, which incidentally is the perfect environment for reflection, conceptualisation, reasoning, querying, validating, researching, and pretty much everything else that is necessary to sharpen the knife edge of human expression.

vii. No more enjoyment of an unperturbed sleep.

Most people today will panic at the thought of going to bed without their phones. Today, while the lights in many bedrooms will be switched off early in the night, the bright screens of smartphones tethered to chargers will continue to glow way past midnight. Yet, according to a study by the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute of New York, exposure to the light from the smartphone affects the body’s melatonin levels, making them drop by as much as 23 per cent. Melatonin is a naturally occurring substance in the human body that helps a person get to sleep by telling the body when it is dark and time for rest. It is actually much easier to sleep with the lights on in your bedroom than to sleep with your smartphone on. This is because, while you can cover your eyes with your eyelids even with lights on, you actually have to keep your eyes open to stare into your phone at night. The Rensselaer Polytechnic study showed that 40 per cent of adults who are woken up by their phones end up using it after checking whatever notification alerted them. This has an adverse effect on one’s productivity the next day.

#15. COMMONSENSE: - Study hard, get good grades, and find a safe job or career (simply, get employed).
COMMONSCIENCE: - This is an antiquated, bad advice, absolutely out of synch with requirements of modern day world.--->

This is basically a deceptive exhortation to be a SLAVE, working for others, as opposed to being a MASTER, working for oneself (and using the labour of others). This is simply because after completion of their respective studies and they get employed by the government or big corporations, they get trapped for the rest of their working days in what Robert Toru Kiyosaki (1947 - ) in his work Rich Dad, Poor Dad, calls the ‘Rat Race’. The seemingly successful who earns big salaries ends up being ‘high paid slaves’; working for the owners of their company, for the government, paying taxes, and for bank paying off a mortgage, and credit cards. They learn nothing about money, except from those who profit from their naïveté, and are chained for the rest of their lives to a live of toil.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Constant scrambling for money leads to ‘Rat Race’.

“The universal regard for money”, thus noted George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950) “is the one hopeful fact in our civilisation. Money is the most important thing in the world. It represents health, strength, honour, generosity and beauty”. However in this scrambling to get money, and the good things attached to money, therein we get the worst consequence of the ‘Rat Race’, whereby victims finds themselves gripped and driven by two emotions namely fear and greed.

ii. At the bottom of greed and fear.

First, the fear of being without money motivates them to work hard, and then once they get that paycheck, greed or desire propels them to start thinking about all the wonderful things money can buy and they engage in a spendthrift spree. The pattern is then set; the pattern of get up, go to work, pay bills, get up, go to work, pay bills. Offer them more money, and they continue the cycle of increasing their spending. This is the nub of ‘Rat Race’.

iii. Under no guise should you delegate your destiny.

If we construe LIFE as a game, then its score is determined by the extent of our economic self-sufficiency, and the extent which one is able to lay solid economic ground for one’s family. As an antidote for ‘Rat Race’ we should not be mistaken to imply that it is blessed to be poor, because poverty or destitution may lead to delusions, which is a pathetic state of mind than for the misers and all those who hoards money as end in itself rather than as a means to happiness. What we are advocating here is economic security through self-investment, thereby controlling our destiny as opposed to giving up that control to someone else.

iv. To invest is to discipline your appetite.

The road to financial stability is simply a choice between conspicuous consumption now, and disciplining our appetite so that we may invest for wealth tomorrow. And more importantly, it is not our earnings that matters but our savings, which is achieved through a dedicated transition from working for money to making money work for us.

v. Income is a function of perpetual saving.

The root cause of financial struggle is financial illiteracy – however highly educated or professionally successful one might be – as a result of impatience in saving the money we get, failing to invest and reinvest the money. The burden of these reflections is that, we should soak ourselves to fact that, every coin we save is a worker for us; every penny it earns is its child that can also earn for us, so that all may help us to give economic abundance. In the words of George Samuel Clason (1874 - 1957): “A man’s wealth is not in the coins he carries in his purse; it is the income he buildeth, the golden stream that continually floweth into his purse and keepeth it always bulging”. Clason construed wealth as a person’s ability to survive so many number of days forward, and we can paraphrase this by asking a question; ‘if one stops working or if one is laid off from that job, for how long could one and one’s dependents survive?’

vi. Once you get money, let it work you.

To free oneself from ‘Rat Race’ into what Kiyosaki call ‘Fast Track’ what we require is Financial Aptitude. This simply implies what we do with the money once we get it, how to keep people from taking it from us, how long we keep it, and how hard that money works for us.

vii. Nourishing and watering the seed of wealth.

In his book, The Richest Man in Babylon, George S. Clason, teaches that, the supreme law of road towards the temple of wealth is to ‘PAY OURSELVES FIRST’. In his uncontestable words he argues:

A part of all you earn is yours to keep. It should be not less than a tenth no matter how little you earn. It can be as much more than as you can afford. Pay yourself first. Do not buy from the clothes-maker and sandal-maker more than you can pay out of the rest and still have enough for food and charity and penance to God. Wealth like tree grows from a tiny seed. The first coin you save is the seed from which your tree of wealth shall grow. The sooner you plant that seed, the sooner shall the tree grow. And the more faithfully you nourish and water that tree with consistent savings, the sooner may you bask in contentment beneath its shade.

#16. COMMONSENSE: - Do ONLY what you love NOW…Simply follow your passion irrespective of any lures.
COMMONSCIENCE: - This has become a career mantra. It might be the most common career guidance, but it may actually be half-baked advice, and not a formula for real success.--->

Ask yourself: If you could do anything for 8 hours a day for the rest of your LIFE, and money was no object, what would you do? One of the big blessings of living in a democracy is the ability to pursue one’s own path, and the idea that anyone can pick him or herself up by the bootstraps and achieve great things. Of course, survival and success are inescapably connected to work, but we have the luxury of deciding how fun our day-to-day work is going to be. Sometimes that comes as a tradeoff for pay, but spending 1/2 your waking hours doing something you love is often well worth it. And BEYONDISM is convinced that the people who are best at what they do tend to be the ones that love it the most.

Are you in a stage of loving your LIFE so much that you would pay money to live it? If not? What can you do about it? A common question asked is, “I really want to feel that way, but I am just not passionate about anything. How do I find passion?”

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Channel your effort towards what you cherish.

If you want to be successful at your work or job and move up the highest ladder, you need to be passionate about your work. You need to be motivated and driven to be the best you can be regardless of your job or your work. Passion, drive, motivation, zeal - call it what you want - is the self-driven attitude about your job and your work that can help lead you down the path to success. Listen to American clergyman Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. (1929 - 1968):

If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.

ii. Abscond or move BEYOND fanciful theories.

The theory that following your passion leads to success first surfaced in the ‘70s, and in the intervening decades it has taken on the character of an indisputable fact. The catch? Most people’s passions have little connection to work or education, meaning passionate skiers, dancers, and readers run into problems. In a culture that tells people to transform their passions into lucrative careers via will-driven alchemy, it is no wonder so much of today’s workforce suffers from endless job swapping and professional discontent. The catch here is to be proactive in your path to professional fulfillment.

iii. Unconditionally immerse yourself in your profession.

Do not just do what you love; learn to love what you do. It seems that one of the most important factors in career contentment is simply experience. In a job satisfaction survey of college administrative assistants - work traditionally considered repetitive or “boring” - a third of respondents considered their position a “job”, merely a way to pay the bills. Another third deemed it a “career”, or a path towards something better. The final third, though - incidentally, also those who had spent the most time doing this type of work - considered it their calling or an integral part of their LIFE and identity. The key here is to be patient, simply because passion comes with MASTERY and time.

iv. Thoroughly adopt a craftsman’s mindset.

People with the passion mindset ask “What do I really want?” which breeds an obsession with whether or not a job is “right” for them. They become minutely aware of everything they dislike about their work and their job satisfaction and happiness plummets. By contrast, the craftsman’s mindset acknowledges that no matter what field you are in, success is always about quality. Once you are focused on the quality of the work you are doing now rather than whether or not it is right for you, you will not hesitate to do what is necessary to improve it. The catch here is to make the quality of what you do your primary focus.

v. Initiate yourself to practice hard and get out of your comfort zone.

So, how do you become the craftsman? You practice. A chess player must devote roughly 10,000 hours to becoming a master. Once that level has been reached, however, the real pros continue not just to practice, but to do it smarter. They study seriously and engage in what we may term as deliberate practice. In the case of the chess player, deliberate practice might mean studying difficult theoretical chess problems well out of the established comfort zone. The key here is that, although deliberate practice is often strenuous and uncomfortable, it is the only path to true MASTERY.

vi. Only by acquiring rare and valuable skills will you curve a perfect niche.

The craftsman mindset drives you to acquire and refine special skills. People with rare skills are more likely to get great jobs in which they are allowed creativity and control. Also known as career capital, they are what help set you apart. For example: A new app company hires two product designers. Muriuki is a bit of a newbie to digital and has a background in illustration and print design; he was hired for his great eye. Otieno has, however, seriously studied app design and, realising its importance a few years back, worked to become a whizkid at code. When the company hits a rough financial patch and someone needs to go, it is Muriuki who gets let go. Why? Otieno had the rare and valuable skill. The catch here is to improve the quality of whatever you do - and if that means acquiring a valuable compatible skill, do it. All the more career capital for you.

vii. New unique skills will boost your passion.

Though following your passion is today’s ideal, it often will not get you anywhere but frustrated. Focus instead on acquiring unique skills and refining the quality of what you do with the focus of a devoted craftsman. You will be well on your way to cultivating not only a satisfying career, but a new, rarer kind of practical passion built on commitment, MASTERY, and pride.

#17. COMMONSENSE: - The desire for power is basicaly evil, and it is the reserve of those who have rapacious and malicious motives of exploiting others.
COMMONSCIENCE: - The love of power is the most progressive instinct of humanity. Those who try to conceal this inclination are the most dangerous people to be wary of.--->

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Consider the desire for power as animating all.

To some people, the notion of consciously playing power games – no matter how indirect – seems evil, asocial, a relic of the past. They believe they can opt out of the game by behaving in ways that have nothing to do with power. You must beware of such people, for while they express such opinion outwardly, they are often among the most adept players at power. They utilise strategies that cleverly disguise the nature of the manipulation involved. These types, for example, will often display their weakness and lack of power as a kind of moral virtue. But true powerlessness, without any motive of self-interest, would not publicise its weakness to gain sympathy or respect. Making a show of one’s weakness is actually a very effective strategy, subtle and deceptive, in the game of power.

ii. Any pretense of equality is a banal lie.

Another strategy of the supposed non-player is to demand equality in every area of LIFE. Everyone must be treated alike, whatever their status and strength. But if to avoid taint of power, you attempt to treat everyone equally and fairly, you will confront the problem that some people do certain things better than others. Treating everyone equally means ignoring their differences, elevating the less skillful and suppressing those who excel. Again many of those who behave this way are actually deploying another power strategy, redistributing people’s rewards in a way that they determine.

iii. Use of honesty is a subtle power game.

Yet another way of avoiding the game would be perfect honest and straightforwardness, since one of the main techniques of those who seek power is deceit and secrecy. But being perfectly honest will inevitably hurt and insult a great many people, some of whom will choose to injure you in return. No one will see your honest statement as completely objective and free of some personal motivation. And they will be right: In truth, the use of honesty is indeed a power strategy, intended to convince people of one’s noble good-hearted, selfless character. It is a form of persuasion, even a subtle form of coercion.

iv. Trust not those who seem too naive.

Beware of those who claim to be non-players at power game by affecting an air of naïveté. These people use this strategy to protect themselves from the accusation that they are after power. Beware again, however, for the appearance of naiveté can be effective means of deceit. And even genuine naiveté is not free of the snares of power. Children may be naïve in many ways, but they often act from an elemental need to gain control over those around them. Children suffer greatly from feeling powerless in the adult world, and they use any means available to get their way.

v. Innocence may be a disguise for aggression.

Genuinely innocent people may still be playing for power, and are often horribly effective at the game, since they are not hindered by reflection. Once again, those who make a show or display of innocence are the least innocent of all.

vi. Our actions are aimed at gaining power.

You can recognise those supposed non-payers by the way they flaunt their moral qualities, their piety, their exquisite sense of justice. But since all of us hunger for power, and almost all of our actions are aimed at gaining it, the non-payers are merely throwing dust in our yes, distracting us from their power plays with their air of moral superiority. If you observe them more closely, you will see in fact that they are often the ones most skillful at indirect manipulation, even if some of them practice it unconsciously. And they greatly resent any publicising of the tactics they use every day.

vii. No opting out of the power game.

If the world is like a giant scheming court and we are trapped inside it, there is no use in trying to opt out of the game. That will only render you powerless, and powerlessness will make you miserable. Instead of struggling against the inevitable, instead of arguing and whining and feeling guilty, it is far better to excel at power. In fact, the better you are at dealing with power, the better friend, lover, husband, wife, and person you become. It is the one of the sure road towards your SELF-ACTUALIZATION.

#18. COMMONSENSE: - A human being is essentially good and honest, which means lying is the work of the devil.
COMMONSCIENCE: - As human beings, it seems - from a deeper perspective - we are inherently natural and compulsive liars.--->

Most people tell some kind of lies every day. Of course some are more serious than others, but in many instances it is not seen as being very bad. A very common reason to lie is in order to help ourselves in some way. This can be psychological, supporting the ego, or substantive, gaining material benefit.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Creatively avoiding punishment or embarrassment.

Lying often starts with wrong-doing. For whatever reason, we do something that others disapprove of. When they are in a position of greater power, they might punish us. Even if not, their disapproval may be punishment enough. In consequence, we deny the crime, pointing the finger at others, denying the action or justifying the act with some fabricated excuse.

When others might not directly punish us, embarrassment is a powerful form of self-inflicted punishment, where we imagine what others are thinking and assume they are silently disapproving. The implied loss of esteem and social position that causes embarrassment is a powerful force on us, enough to make us lie to reduce the impact on our social position.

ii. Aspiring to gain advantage.

Lying can also be used more directly, for material gain. If, by telling fibs, you can negotiate a lower price or get things for no cost, then telling untruth may seem worthwhile. There are many ways that we lie to gain advantage, for example:

Romance: A man telling tales of his sporting prowess in order to gain romantic admiration.
Sales: A car sales person saying there is nothing wrong with the wreck they are selling.
Reward: A child saying she has done her homework in order to get taken to the movies.

iii. Usually gaining esteem or helping others.

The flip-side of embarrassment is to gain the admiration of other people and so a specific advantage we seek when lying is for others to think well of us. Impression-management is particularly common in social, romantic and work situations, where we need others to think we are competent and successful in order to get their approval and the subsequent rewards they can give. Lying in order to make oneself look good is particularly common in job interviews, where ‘resume inflation’ is particularly common.

A more socially acceptable, desirable and even necessary reason for lying is to help others, particularly your friends and family. Sometimes, however, we use this as an excuse, telling ourselves we are lying for others when we really are gaining as much or more benefit for ourselves, such as avoiding embarrassment.

iv. Telling white lies and face-saving.

Sometimes we avoid telling things to other people more for their benefit than ours. For example saying you are feeling fine when you know it would upset a friend if you said you have serious illness. White lies are also often used in face-saving.

‘Face’ is a term used to indicate the public respect given to a person. ‘Saving face’ is hence a term for helping them to sustain the esteem of others and to avoid embarrassment. Different cultures have very specific rules about what face-saving is needed and how it should be done. One way we help others to save face is more about not telling the truth rather than overtly lying. If we meet a person with bad breath, for example, most would avoid pointing out this problem. Beyond being ‘economical with the truth’, the lies we tell to save face may be couched in euphemisms and other vague statements as we try to help others feel good whilst also seeking to avoid telling big lies ourselves.

v. Intentionally supporting friends.

Another way we tell lies is more directly in helping others avoid trouble, for example when we give them an alibi, saying they were with us rather than in some other compromising situation. At the most extreme, we might even commit perjury, lying in court to save our friends. The extent to which we lie for others is often determined by local culture. In some parts of the world, it would be considered only right that a person lies, even in court, to save their friends. In other places, such as Northern Europe and North America, there is much greater concern to be truthful, especially in a legal situation.

vii. On learning to lie.

We are not born liars, although we most certainly do have the mental faculties and inclination for deceit, to the point where we are known as the ‘mendacious ape‘.

Young children learn fast about what works and what does not work. Lacking the physical ability to get what they want, they discover natural guile and soon start lying in order to avoid punishment, receive rewards and get their siblings into trouble. Early deceits are obvious, such as when a child holds something behind their back as they say they do not have it. Before long, however, they learn to hide it somewhere else and put on a surprised and insulted look when their parents dare accuse them of wrong-doing. In fact when children are punished for lying, rather than doing it less, they often just get better they get at it.

vii. Notably, justifying stories.

Rather than directly lie, another approach is to use justification as a method of accepting that something has happened but showing that it was the best alternative course of action in the situation. When blame is difficult to dodge, children will quickly make up stories that justify how they have behaved. Pinnochio-like, these can quickly become elaborated to cover the challenges they get, using their natural creativity to help weave elaborate yet credible tales.

Given the chance to deceive without being detected, most people will, in fact, deceive in small ways. This is reflected in the common debate about stealing office supplies from the workplace. Whilst many would never contemplate stealing computers, taking a pen home seems quite reasonable. The same effect happens with lying. Small lies and little deceits are seen as being acceptable, which in many social circles they are.

It is therefore important to understand the reasons why people lie and use this in detecting deception. If you are trying to get to the truth with someone who may be lying, you can help them justify their actions by saying how reasonable it is to avoid embarrassment, and so on. You can also help reduce the significance of the act, helping them see it as a ‘little deceit’ that is not worth defending. If you are a student, try to cultivate values which will help you have self-esteem. If you are a parent, help your children adopt the value that lying is bad rather than punishing them for lies. Likewise if you are a manager, praise your people for telling the truth and they will lie and cover up less.

So What?
THE MENDACIOUS APE.

A key reason that we lie, cheat and deceive one another is that we have learned over thousands of years that it can be rather helpful for our primary evolutionary purpose of staying alive long enough to have children and look after them until they can likewise procreate.
Cheating is good for you.

Acting to ensure survival of the species is a fundamental force that is programmed into our genes and, whilst we have learned that living in tribes is helpful, we also have learned that deception, particularly if it goes undetected, can get us more of what we want and keep us out of trouble, even if we deserve it. How the guy gets the girl is less important than him being able to sow his seeds. Perhaps it is no surprise that homo sapiens has been called the ‘mendacious ape’. Although we are probably the most tricky creature, we are not alone in our use of deception. Nature uses it all the time, from camouflage that hides prey from predators, to cuckoos who avoid the hassles of parenthood by laying their eggs in other birds’ nests. Closest to us is probably chimpanzees where, for example, an inferior male will sit behind a dominant male displaying his erect member to a female in front of them, inviting her for a ‘bit on the side’.

The race for smarts.

As humans we have unusually large brains and one reason that has been proposed for this is to enable the thinking that lets us dream up our tricky deceptions. A larger, more complex brain enables us to think around the problem and project ideas into the future to guess whether they will work or not. We have even developed the Theory of Mind ability to help us with this, whereby we think about what others are thinking and so change our plans accordingly. Paradoxically, alongside evolution of deceptive ability has been evolution of the ability to detect and counteract deception. Just as plants evolved to be taller and taller to reach the sun’s light, so there has been a competition of increasing intelligence that feeds this battle of deception versus detection.

But deception is also bad.

Whilst many of us are mendacious in many ways, few of us are full psychopaths or narcissistics who callously manipulate others without any concern. Alongside deception we have also found that living in tribes is good for survival and so need others to like and trust us. Perhaps as a result of the tribal needs, we have also developed empathy and conscience that leads to feelings of shame if we transgress social values (or even think of doing so). This compensation is necessary to allow us to live in relatively harmony with others, although there is a constant tension between mendacity and being ‘good’, with deception tending to have the upper hand when short-term benefits take priority.

The need for fair play and justice.

An effect of deception and the counterbalancing social forces is that we have a need for fairness in our dealings with one another and will become very unhappy if we think we are not being treated fairly. If we consider things are not fair then we will feel betrayed and will seek justice of some kind. A limited ability for informal social control translates into national systems of laws and a strict justice system that aims to help control the urges that we feel to give in to our mendacious tendencies. It is perhaps notable that other animals do not have such developed concepts of fair play, trust, betrayal and justice, although they will react to abuse of trust and take what appears to be revenge, from the ‘death penalty’ to social isolation.

Ultimately!

Understand the natural forces on you and also on other people. Realise that deception is natural, although the social penalties are also high. Make deliberate and thoughtful choices as to whether you will lie, even what seems like white lies.

#19. COMMONSENSE: - To maximise the benefit of relationship with a career mentor, you must follow his or her advice without question.
COMMONSCIENCE: - You - the mentee - owns the mentoring relationship. You need to be involved in all aspect of mentoring.--->

You need to bring your energy, passion, vision, and enthusiasm for the complex and challenging tasks. Mentoring has transitioned from being a nice thing to have, to being essential for people on the academic career path, especially in a landscape in which team science dominates and multidisciplinary/transdisciplinary approaches have become the norm. In a present day careers with very many components, a single mentor is rarely sufficient. Building a team of mentors is a good investment in yourself and your career. So how can you maximise the benefits of your personal and professional relationships with one or more mentors?

The most important factor in mentoring “tune-up,” is to Know your goals. As a mentee, you need to be in the driver’s seat of your mentoring relationships - not in the passenger seat while your mentor makes all the important choices about your career. To have that control, you need to do a personal inventory and know your career goals. You need to be able to articulate where you would like to go over the next period of your career and BEYOND and share what passions you have for a particular research field. Once you have articulated your goals clearly, your mentor will be better able to advise and guide you on possible steps and opportunities. By knowing your goals, you will be in control of the path that you choose to take - and are more likely to be satisfied with your career decisions.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Choose the best mentor(s) to meet your goals.

The modern world of work requires the support of individuals with varying expertise in diverse scientific and professional languages. You will probably need not just one but several mentors to be successful in achieving your research and career goals. How do you know who to ask to serve as your mentor(s)? Start with a clear understanding of your goals for a given mentoring relationship, such as gaining more experience working with patients or learning a particular technique. Once you know your goals, look around for experienced individuals who can help you meet some of those objectives, who are good listeners, and who are generous with their time. A good mentor will likely welcome the opportunity to assist you in achieving your personal vision and professional goals. The opportunity to mentor you can be a great source of personal and professional satisfaction for your mentor.

ii. Affirmatively discuss mutual goals and expectations.

Perhaps you and your mentor have collaborated together before - or perhaps not. Either way, it is important to understand the framework and assumptions that each of you brings to the “mentoring table.” As you “set the table” - that is, as you identify the tools and resources you will need to move forward - be sure to encourage a discussion of each other’s goals for the relationship. You and your mentor(s) should have a frank discussion of expectations. Start with a discussion of how frequently you will meet in person and communicate via phone or e-mail and set up a means of contact in case of an urgent issue. Be sure to keep this discussion two-way, both mentee and mentor listening attentively and seeking to understand each other’s unique perspective. Addressing these issues at the beginning of a mentoring relationship helps avoid difficulties that can arise later on, when one party thinks that the other party is not living up to his or her end of the bargain.

iii. Undertanding each other and accepting feedback is vital.

Practice the highest standards of professionalism. Although this sounds simple, at the core of mentoring is a commitment of trust and mutual respect between the mentee and the mentor. It is essential that the mentee and the mentor mutually agree that their discussions will be kept confidential - and this commitment to a safe environment will enable a mentee to try out preliminary ideas and directions that he or she may want to explore before sharing in a wider venue. Take care to respect the boundaries of this relationship by being a true professional colleague.

Learn to accept and give feedback. The good news in a mentoring relationship is that you will receive feedback and insight from a knowledgeable and caring colleague. Many times this feedback will confirm that you are on the right track and/or be congratulatory when you have achieved a successful milestone to celebrate together. But sometimes the feedback will be less than flattering. You need to be receptive to both kinds, positive and negative, and learn to accept feedback That is intended to improve your performance, your work, or your path. The key is to learn to listen carefully to this constructive feedback, make adjustments, then seek more feedback so that you can continue to improve yourself and your lab. Also, pay attention to how your mentors offer constructive criticism and notice how you react to it. Good feedback is an art form that takes practice to deliver and be heard. It will not be long before you need this skill.

iv. Take responsibility and be expressive.

Recognise that your path is your responsibility. You have set out your goals, found the ideal mentor, launched a relationship, and even learned how to take full advantage of feedback from your mentor. But remember that you - the mentee - own the mentoring relationship. You need to bring your energy, passion, vision, and enthusiasm for the complex and challenging tasks you are apt to encounter. The best mentors are there to challenge you by asking great questions.

Practice good communication. Learning to communicate effectively is a lifelong challenge, particularly for those who have chosen the translation of ideas into tangible experiments and actions that have an impact as a career path. Mentoring relationships thrive on good communication - remember that your mentor cannot read your mind! Take time to keep your mentor up to date on how things are going (or not going), provide feedback on how well a strategy or approach you tried worked (or failed), and try not to overinterpret a comment from your mentor - who is probably just as busy as you are. Stick to the facts and make sure you keep in touch!

v. Inspiringly consider a periodic mentor checkup.

Mentoring relationships can benefit from a regular evaluation. As a mentee, you should evaluate whether this relationship is still helping you. If you look forward to meeting with your mentor(s) and can not wait to share your latest results, all is going well. But even when all is going well, you might need to make a change in your mentoring team to meet your changing needs - particularly if your work crosses discipline boundaries, the hallmark of the clinical and translational science fields. The ability to judge when you need a new mentor is evidence of your growing maturity as an investigator.

vi. Offend not, or burn bridges if it is time to move on.

Move on with care if your mentoring checkup reveals that you need a different set of mentors to meet your prospects and your needs. Assigning blame or fault to your mentor(s) is rarely a good professional strategy. If a mentoring relationship has gone sour, perhaps because of a lack of trust, a lack of follow-up or commitment, or poor communication, do not become the victim of a “tor-mentor.” Consider focusing your energy and efforts by carefully reviewing your goals, finding the best mentor(s) to meet those goals, and being clear on goals and expectations with your new mentor(s). Avoid the blame game and be the professional who places trust, mutual respect, integrity, and confidentiality as the highest standard for your mentoring relationships.

vii. Normally, enjoy the ride of mentoring relationship with a trusted colleague.

Over time, you will change from being a mentee to being a mentor yourself. Those who once served as your mentors will become your trusted and valued colleagues - individuals, much like yourself, who have common passions and interests and a dedication to advancing your occupation or career. Treasure these colleagues. They understand the challenges and surprises that come with careers. Be sure to find time to laugh together and learn from your mentor’s wisdom, strength, and commitment to creating the future - your future!

#20. COMMONSENSE: - As long as you are good in your profession or your business, customers will simply flock, and coins will simply trickle in your coffers.
COMMONSCIENCE: - It is one of the modern business practice to build your personal brand. This is the practice of people marketing themselves and their careers as brands.--->

While previous self-help management techniques were about self-improvement, the personal-branding concept suggests instead that success comes from self-packaging. Personal branding also involves creating an asset by defining an individual’s body, clothing, physical appearance, digital and online presence and areas of knowledge in a way leading to a uniquely distinguishable, and ideally memorable, impression.

Personal Branding is essentially the ongoing process of establishing a prescribed image or impression in the mind of others about an individual, group or organisation. Personal branding can often involves the application of one’s name to various products. A ‘personal brand’ is in many ways synonymous with your reputation. It refers to the way other people see you as a business owner or representative of an idea, organisation, or activity. Are you a genius? An expert? Are you trustworthy? What do you represent? What do you stand for? What ideas and notions pop up as soon as someone hears your name? When you have a personal brand, people recognise and care about your name, what you are working on, what you offer, and what you are about.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Cultivate and lay out your core values.

Stop reaching for any and every bit of publicity. Yes, there is such a thing as bad publicity. Yes, sometimes bad situations can make you come out looking stronger, but a lot of the time it will end in a ruined reputation. You want people to take you seriously and you want to have a clean reputation. Avoid doing publicity stunts with obvious risks, or doing bad things in order to get attention. When bad things do happen, work actively and harder than expected to make the situation right. People that overcome bad publicity do so because they have a strong basis of good publicity to start with.

How would you like potential customers and clients to think of you? Because your personal brand is built from the thoughts and words and reactions of other people, it is shaped by how you present yourself publicly. This is something that you have control over. You can decide how you would like people to see you and then work on publicly being that image. Values are the easiest thing to present and have people identify with, so start there. Are you the sort of person who puts ethics above everything else?

ii. Accrue the authority in your field, become the best.

If you want to sell an expensive course in watercolour painting you will need to be seen as someone with the authority to teach others on the topic. If you want to get work for high-end design clients you will need to be seen as a runaway talent with a professional attitude. Every good brand involves the notion of expertise. Even if you are not interested in marketing your advice, you need to create the perception that you are very good at what you do.

Continue learning and updating your knowledge, especially if your expertise is based around the online world. The web changes drastically from month to month. If you were an ‘expert’ two years ago but have since stopped learning and challenging yourself, you are not an expert anymore.

iii. Unleash and market your personality openly and constantly.

Personal branding is basically selling someone your personality. You need to think hard about HOW you act. You should have a clearly identifiable personality so that people can easily feel like they know you personally, even if they have never met you. Your style of delivery should be as unique as any other aspect of your personal brand. This does not mean you need to sit down and brainstorm how to be different. If you do not actively imitate anyone else, it will happen naturally. Are you kind and unusually enthusiastic, like Stephen Colbert? Are you witty and raw, like Rachel Maddow? Are you confident and crusading, like Glen Beck? Hopefully you are none of these, or at least, not in the same way. You want to be you, not someone else.

Embrace this age of social media and let everyone into your LIFE. Run a blog or website that is all you. It does not matter if it is not your first priority, or even your second priority, but it gives people a place to develop a stronger connection with you. Network all the time. Try to build relationships with as many people as possible. Constantly be figuring out what you can do for other people and what they can do for you. Make lots of friends and make sure those friends are diverse people who are really doing things. The next time you need an expert or help on a project, you will have someone you can call. You should also really get to know people: learn their real or full names and remember details about them. This changes how people see you (into someone who is friendly, earnest, and cares) and leaves a strong impression on the people who interact with you. The ones who you know best and who feel most connected to you will talk about you to others - this is how your personal brand grows stronger.

iv. Think deeply about finding your allies.

Look for people with an audience that you want to reach, the movers and the shakers, the big names. You want to get in their inner circle. Comment on their writing, keep track of them on social media, help them when they ask for it, if they have a blog try to guest-post (it must be your best stuff!). Not only do you have plenty to learn from people like this, but they are also the people who can give you that killer testimonial when you launch your product, who can tweet your links to thousands of followers, who can share the best opportunities with you. That being said, do not pester them and do not ask for more favours than you give them. If you are useful and not overbearing these influencers will remember you. View this as a long-term process. You can not expect to become friends with influencers in a week. It takes months. Try to use non-intrusive forms of communication. Do not write things that require a response in blog comments; that is what email/Twitter is for.

Communicate even when you are not. If you only have the time to answer 1/4 of the emails you get, why not mention this (with apologies) on your Contact page? The greatest source of negative feeling in these situations is disappointment. If you make it clear that you intend to behave in a certain way, people have little right to be disappointed when you do so. Have an FAQ on your website covering the most common messages and questions you get.

Let people see you. People need to feel like they know you, especially if your online presence is your main business. In order to help them feel like they know you, they need to be able to see you. This means pictures and, if possible, videos. Get some high quality headshots taken for your profile on your website. Get great actions shots of you doing what you do best. Put out some YouTube videos where you hand out some of your expert knowledge or tell people about what you are working on now. This will allow you to invite yourself into people’s personal spaces.

v. Insist on having a website.

Almost all those serious in their career have website now. It is an important part of getting taken seriously in the business and general work world. Make a website that functions as a sort of long-form resume, showcasing what you are about and all of the cool things you have done. You do not need to be a pro and making websites either, in order to get a nice one. Get a Tumblr and redirect it to a unique URL or use free website templates from services like Wix. A good thing to have on your website would be a blog, where you talk about your ideas and the latest developments in your industry. This shows employers that you take your job seriously and you are invested in what you do.

Be present and active on social media. Social media is crucial in terms of giving people the ability to feel like they know you. Keep your personal social media accounts under a slightly different name (your first and middle, for example) and attach your real name to public social media accounts. These will come up when employers or contractors look you up, so make sure the content and ideas that you post are relevant and good.

vi. Orient yourself to be seen.

Get a unique business card. Business cards can still be very useful, even in this digital age. But you need to have one that stands out. Get a professional, unique looking business card. Many sites sell these online and even offer customization services. These are not as expensive as you would think! Make yourself a card that no one will forget!

Get a great head shot. You want people to be able to picture you and feel like they really know you as they read about you. Do not look like some second-rate wanna-be with a blurry picture of you on your last vacation (complete with sunburn and an embarrassing shirt).

Put a lot of work into how you look. When we put a lot of work into how we look, we tell people two things. First, we tell them that we believe in taking this professional effort seriously. Second, we tell them that we believe they are worth making an effort for or that they are worth impressing. This shows respect. Between the two, you make people much more willing to take you seriously. Dress like you mean business for your industry, wear clothes that fit and compliment your body, and work on getting nice skin and a flattering hairstyle. Sometimes this might mean updating your style a bit or moving outside of your comfort zone. This is okay! Change is good for you and it will help you start a new chapter in your LIFE. Find a way to make this new style more “you” and everything will be fine.

Get a good bio written. This will probably mean hiring a professional to write it for you. When we write about ourselves at any length, we tend to write about what is important to us, rather than what is really interesting or valuable to someone else. This is why it is a good idea to get a helping hand. How your bio reads will depend on the nature of your industry and your particular “brand”, but a little humour and a smidgen of humility are usually valuable assets to a bio.

vii. Nurture your content, create change and speak up.

A strong personal brand is not going to provide much benefit unless you have valuable output to pair it with - a great service, a great blog, a great app, great public speaking skills, or something else. You need to spend as much time creating your ‘stuff’ (whether that blog posts, videos or artwork) as you do building relationships.

You need to be an active force in your field. You need to be changing, innovating, and making a significant contribution to your field at all times or else your brand will die out over time. Find what your role is, what you do best or that no one else is doing, and find ways to change the direction of that field for the better.

Take any opportunity you can to give speeches or present your work. When in meetings or discussions with people, take the initiative and speak up for your ideas. People need to hear you, as well as see you. You need to be an active participant in the events around you and in your own LIFE. Just make sure that you also value and ask other people’s opinions too. They need to feel that they are a part of your success.

Keep your brand fresh. You do not want people to see you as dated, a one-hit-wonder, or boring and repetitive. No matter how good your content is, you will risk seeming stale and repetitive if you do not continue adding new elements to your brand or take on new challenges. You can not ride one idea forever. Keep adding new layers to what you represent.

Play the long game. Look at your personal brand as an investment: your personal brand has the potential to last longer than your own LIFEspan. While the projects you are working on might get sold onwards or shut down, your personal brand will persist and (hopefully) add value to each new project you create. People will follow your brand from project to project if they feel connected to it. When launching new projects, your personal brand has the potential to guarantee you never have to start from scratch again. If you consider yourself to be in this particular game for the long-haul, whether it is an online business, art, or selling cars, a good personal brand is an invaluable investment.

#21. COMMONSENSE: - In your quest to sell yourself — as a personality, a trendsetter, a candidate for office, you will use the hard sell (the direct approach). You will state your case strongly and directly, explaining why your talents, your ideas, your political message are superior to anyone else’s. You will tout your achievements, quote statistics, bring in expert opinions, even go so far as to induce a bit of fear if the audience ignores your message.
COMMONSCIENCE: - In a world in which you cannot succeed without selling to large numbers, the direct approach will not take you far. The approach is a tad aggressive and might have unwanted consequences: some people will be offended, resisting your message, even if what you say is true. Others will feel you are manipulating them — who can trust experts and statistics, and why are you trying so hard? You will also grate on people’s nerves, becoming unpleasant to listen to. The Soft Sell (the indirect approach), on the other hand, has the potential to draw in millions because it is entertaining, gentle on the ears, and can be repeated without irritating people.--->

At the core of Soft Sell, is seduction. What makes seduction the ultimate form of power, is because those people who give in to it, do so willingly and happily. Having brought them pleasure, which is a rare commodity in the world, there is scarcely any resentment on their part. Consequently they forgive you for any kind of manipulation. With such power at your fingertips, though, why stop at the conquest of a man or woman? A crowd, an electorate, a nation can be brought under your sway simply by applying on a mass level the tactics that work so well on an individual. The only difference is the goal — not sex but influence, a vote, people’s attention — and the degree of tension. When you are after sex, you deliberately create anxiety, a touch of pain, twists, and turns. Seduction on the mass level is more diffuse and soft. Creating a constant titillation, you fascinate the masses with what you are offering. They pay attention to you because it is pleasant to do so.

Bringing pleasure by creating a positive atmosphere around your name or message, is the first and most effective step in Soft Sell. This entails inducing a warm, relaxed feeling. Never seem to be selling something — that will look manipulative and suspicious. Instead, let entertainment value and good feelings take center stage, sneaking the sale through the side door. And in that sale, you do not seem to be selling yourself or a particular idea or candidate; you are selling a life-style, a good mood, a sense of adventure, a feeling of happiness, or a neatly packaged rebellion.

BEYONDISM hereby narrows down on the specifics of our COMPULSIVE CAUTION thus:

i. Conjure yourself as NEWS, never as PUBLICITY.

The first image or impressions you present is very critical. If your audience initially sees you in the context of an advertisement or publicity item, you instantly join the mass of other advertisements screaming for attention — and everyone knows that advertisements are artful manipulations, a kind of deception. So, for your first appearance in the public eye, manufacture an event, some kind of attention-getting situation that the media will “inadvertently” pick up as if it were news.

Under normal circumstances, people have the propensity to pay more attention to what is broadcasted as news — it seems more real. You suddenly stand out from everything else, if only for a moment — but that moment has more credibility than hours of advertising time. The key is to orchestrate the details thoroughly, creating a story with dramatic impact and movement, tension and resolution. The media will cover it for days. Conceal your real purpose — to sell yourself — at any cost.

ii. Affectionately stir basic emotions.

A rational, direct argument, is the greatest impendiment in promoting your message. Logic tends to be burdening to most people; at worst it is repulsive. Anything that requires intellectual effort to comprehend on your audience’s part, will not gain its attention. Aim for the heart, not the head. Design your words and images to stir basic emotions — lust, patriotism, family values. It is easier to gain and hold people’s attention once you have made them think of their family, their children, their future. They feel stirred, uplifted.

After you have won a place in your audience’s soul, now you have the space to insinuate your true message. Days later the audience will remember your name, and remembering your name is half the game. Similarly, find ways to surround yourself with emotional magnets — war heroes, children, saints, small animals, whatever it takes. Make your appearance bring these emotionally positive associations to mind, giving you extra presence. Never let these associations be defined or created for you, and never leave them to chance.

iii. Utilise or make the medium the message.

The form of your message is more important than its content. Pay more attention to the way you package or express yourself, than what comes out from your mouth. Images are more seductive than words, and visuals — soothing colours, appropriate backdrop, the suggestion of speed or movement — should actually be your real message.

What is seen has a greater impact on the mind, than what is heard. The audience may focus superficially on the content or moral you are preaching, but they are really absorbing the visuals, which get under their skin and stay there longer than any words or preachy pronouncements. Your visuals should have a hypnotic effect. They should make people feel happy or sad, depending on what you want to accomplish. And the more they are distracted by visual cues, the harder it will be for them to think straight or see through your manipulations (not deceptions).

iv. Try to speak the target’s language — be chummy.

Humbleness and not arrogance is what will endear you to the feelings of your audience. At all costs, avoid appearing superior to your audience. Any hint of smugness, the use of complicated words or ideas, quoting too many statistics — all that is fatal. Instead, make yourself seem equal to your targets and on intimate terms with them. You understand them, you share their spirit, their language. If people are cynical about the manipulations of advertisers and politicians, exploit their cynicism for your own purposes.

Bending yourself, to the size of your audience is not stooping too low. Portray yourself as one of the folk, warts and all. Show that you share your audience’s skepticism by revealing the tricks of the trade. Make your publicity as down-home and minimal as possible, so that your competitors look sophisticated and snobby in comparison. Your selective honesty and strategic weakness will get people to trust you. You are the audience’s friend, an intimate partner. Enter their spirit and they will relax and listen to you.

v. Induce a chain reaction — everyone is doing it.

Being admired and liked by others, is the sure road to winning over them. People who seem to be desired by others are immediately more seductive to their targets. Apply this to the soft seduction. You need to act as if you have already excited crowds of people; your behaviour will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Seem to be in the vanguard of a trend or life-style and the public will lap you up for fear of being left behind. Spread your image, with a logo, slogans, posters, so that it appears everywhere. Announce your message as a trend and it will become one. The goal is to create a kind of viral effect in which more and more people become infected with the desire to have whatever you are offering. This is the easiest and most seductive way to sell.

Insinuate or mirror their cherished beliefs and convictions. It is always unwise to engage an individual or the public in any kind of argument. They will resist you. Instead of trying to change people’s ideas, try to change their identity, their perception of reality, and you will have far more control of them in the long run. Tell them who they are, create an image, an identity that they will want to assume. Make them dissatisfied with their current status. Making them unhappy with themselves gives you room to suggest a new life-style, a new identity. Only by listening to you can they find out who they are. At the same time, you want to change their perception of the world outside them by controlling what they look at. Use as many media as possible to create a kind of total environment for their perceptions. Your image should be seen not as an advertisement but as part of the atmosphere.

vi. Orchestrate an inclusive image with a popular friendly touch.

Individualism has permeated the world the extent that people think in terms of “Who is Who.” Society has fractured into smaller and smaller units. Communities are less cohesive; even individuals feel more inner conflict. To win an election or to sell anything in large numbers, you have to paper over these differences somehow — you have to unify the masses. The only way to accomplish this is to create an inclusive image, one that attracts and excites people on a basic, almost unconscious level. Besides talking about the truth, or about reality, you are forging a myth. Myths create identification. Build a myth about yourself and the common people will identify with your character, your plight, your aspirations, just as you identify with theirs. This image should include your flaws, highlight the fact that you are not the best orator, the most educated man, the smoothest politician. Seeming human and down to earth disguises the manufactured quality of your image. To sell this image you need to have the proper vagueness. It is not that you avoid talk of issues and details — that will make you seem insubstantial — but that all your talk of issues is framed within the softer context of character, values, and vision. You want to lower taxes, say, because it will help families — and you are a family person.

You must not only be inspiring but also entertaining — that is a popular, friendly touch. This strategy will infuriate your opponents, who will try to unmask you, reveal the truth behind the myth; but that will only make them seem smug, overserious, defensive, and snobbish. That now becomes part of their image, and it will help sink them; a fundamental law of any kind of sell. The moment the targets know you are after something — a vote, a sale — they become resistant. But disguise your sales pitch as a news event and not only will you bypass their resistance, you can also create a social trend that does the selling for you. To make this work, the event you set up must stand out from all the other events that are covered by the media, yet it cannot stand out too far or it will seem contrived. Associations that are patriotic, say, or subtly sexual, or spiritual — anything pleasant and seductive — take on a LIFE of their own. Who can resist? People essentially persuade themselves to join the crowd without even realising that a sale has taken place. The feeling of active participation is vital to seduction. No one wants to feel left out of a growing movement.

vii. Never try to preach, but seek to entertain.

Greater opportunities for the Soft Sell, lies in freeing yourself from the need to communicate in the normal direct manner. Make the words you say unobtrusive, vague, alluring. Pay much greater attention to your style, the visuals, the story they tell. Convey a sense of movement and progress by showing yourself in motion. Express confidence not through facts and figures but through colours and positive imagery, appealing to the infant in everyone. Let the media cover you unguided and you are at their mercy. So turn the dynamic around — the press needs drama and visuals? Provide them. It is fine to discuss issues or “truth” as long as you package it entertainingly. Remember: images linger in the mind long after words are forgotten. Do not preach to the public — that never works. Learn to express your message through visuals that insinuate positive emotions and happy feelings.

If you are able to combinine fiction with reality, this will give you an upper hand in your Soft Sell. The lines between fiction and reality, news and entertainment are very blurred. What opportunities that presents for soft seduction! The media is desperate for events with entertainment value, inherent drama. Feed that need. The public has a weakness for what seems both realistic and slightly fantastical — for real events with a cinematic edge. Play to that weakness. You are not starting a social trend, you are after something more short term (in the context of long term): to win people’s attention, to create a momentary stir, to lure them into your tent. Make your events and publicity stunts plausible and somewhat realistic, but make their colours a little brighter than usual, the characters larger than LIFE, the drama higher. Provide an edge of romance and adventure. You are creating a confluence of real life and fiction — the essence of any seduction. It is not enough, however, to win people’s attention: you need to hold it long enough to hook them. This can always be done by sparking controversy. While the media argues about the effect you are having on people’s values, it is broadcasting your name everywhere and inadvertently bestowing upon you the edge that will make you so attractive to the public.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #17
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#17 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Seek to have an upper hand in any deal; control your eagerness and act cool for the best bargain to materialize.

Assume that you are thinking vaguely about selling your laptop.
And a certain person is desperately keen on buying it.
You have no need at all to reduce your price.
You could even invent ‘another interested person’ to help crank the price up.
In other words, never appear too desperate for agreement: you will only lose.
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Least Interest Principle affirms that the person with the least interest has most power.
Distinguished Developer: American sociologist Willard Walter Waller (1899 – 1945)

USUALLY, Principle of Least Interest applies to relationships where more than one party is involved.
POTENT difference of commitment in a relationship has a major effect on the relationship’s dynamics.
GRANTED, in any relationship (romantic, business) one partner may be far more emotionally invested.
REALLY, than the other, and in such case, the less-involved partner has more power in the relationship.
AWKWARDLY, in a one-sided romantic relationship, the partner who LOVES less has more POWER.
DULY appearing uninterested is a way by which people try to raise their own standing in a relationship.
EFFETELY imbalanced relationship cannot last; a nourishing one has no constant struggle for POWER.
Timely Therapy: - Watch out for a relationship where the other cares less; such one can drain you dry.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
“Dreams and predictions ought to serve but for winter talk by the fireside,” wrote Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626)

In a certain research, participants were given a detailed description of an event that could have had various outcomes. When the people were told of what ‘happened’ (this was varied for the experiment, of course) and then asked to estimate the probabilities of the various outcomes, they increased the likelihood of the ‘actual’ outcome.
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Hindsight Bias outlines how we assume we knew everything all along.
Distinguished Developer: American academic Baruch Fischhoff (b. 1946)

UPON looking back at an event and believing that one could have predicted the outcome, is deceptive.
PROPHETIC (false) in our motives, is what makes most of us believe our judgment is better than it is.
GRANTED, the idea is that once we know the outcome, it is easier to construct a plausible explanation.
REALLY, with this, we become less critical of our decisions, leading to poor decision-making in the future.
ACTUALLY, it causes over-confidence in our ability to predict future events leading to unnecessary risks.
DELUSION leads to a sense of frustration or regret at not having acted in ADVANCE of a critical event.
EFFECTIVELY managing hindsight bias, is by documenting the decision-making process via a journal.
Timely Therapy: - Waste no iota of your PSYCHIC energy in predicting the future; start building the future.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
“You can keep the things of bronze and stone and give me one man to remember me just once a year.” - Damon

Try to remember this list (take a few seconds and then look away):
Cut
Run
Fly
Thyself
Read
Build
Lay
The chance is that you will easily remember “Thyself”, because it stands out by being a noun, physically longer, bold, italic and red. When the item in question stands out less, the likelihood of it being remembered also decreases.
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Von Restorff Effect explains how we remember things that stand out.
Distinguished Developer: German psychiatrist and pediatrician Hedwig von Restorff (1906 – 1962)

UNDERSTAND: The Von Restorff Effect is also the Isolation Effect or the Distinctiveness Principle.
PROACTIVELLY, this theory is relatively predictive when multiple homogeneous stimuli are presented.
GENERALLY, the stimulus that differs and is distinctive from the rest is more likely to be remembered.
REALLY, this happens better than an item in the same relative position in a list where all were similar.
ALL isolated items are rehearsed for a longer time in working memory compared to non-isolated items.
DULY, in our ‘attention age’, a plethora of media around us is always battling for a moment of our time.
EACH advertiser makes much use of this principle; VYING with the other to stand out from the crowd.
Timely Therapy: - If you want people to remember something, make it stand out; be very creative in this.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Memory is history recorded in our brain; memory is a painter, for it paints pictures of the past and of the day.

“It is unnecessary for a man to attend to public affairs without any interruption: such concentration is, indeed, more likely to render him useless than any other behavior.” - French churchman and statesman Cardinal Richelieu (1585 - 1642)
Psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik found in 1927 that waiters remembered orders, only as long as the order was in the process of being served. The waiter’s trick was thus to keep spinning the plates of the open orders, whilst letting those which are completed fall.
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Zeigarnik Effect explains how we remember better that which is unfinished or incomplete.
Distinguished Developers: Lithuanian-Soviet psychologist and psychiatrist Bluma Wulfovna Zeigarnik (1901 - 1988)

UNDERSTAND: Zeigarnik Effect occurs when an activity that has been interrupted is readily recalled.
POSTULATED is the fact that we remember unfinished or interrupted tasks better than completed tasks.
GAINFUL holding of things in short-term memory, entails REHEARSING them otherwise they disappear.
REALISTICALLY, this requires cognitive effort, if the thing is not to be forgotten like a “light going out”.
A similar effect happens over a longer period as we worry about things in which we have not finished.
DULY, one may keep thinking about a problem at work over a whole weekend as it keeps haunting one.
EXAM remembrance entails doing a prior incomplete task; ongoing thinking keep vital facts in mind.
Timely Therapy: - When teaching a multi-day course, always give them a problem at the end of the day.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
“Vain favour! coming, like most other favours long deferred and often wished for, too late!” - Charlotte Brontë

Stanley Rachman (1987) presented a questionnaire to healthy college students. He found that virtually all said they had intrusive thoughts from time to time. These bad thoughts included sexual violence, sexual punishment, “unnatural” sex acts. These intrusive thoughts entailed painful sexual practices, blasphemous or obscene images. Also unwanted thoughts of harming elderly people or someone close to them, violence against animals or towards children, and abusive outbursts or utterances. According to this prominent psychologist, such thoughts are universal among humans. They have “almost certainly always been a part of the human condition”.
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Ovsiankina Effect leads to a better rememberance of an unfinished action over a vacant one.
Distinguished Developer: Russian-German-American psychologist Maria Arsenjevna Rickers-Ovsiankina (1898 – 1993)

USUALLY, this is the tendency to pick up an interrupted action again when it has still not been achieved.
POTENTLY, the effect states that an interrupted task, even without incentive, values as a “quasi-need”.
GHASTLY, it creates intrusive thoughts, aimed at taking up the task again, so as to reduce dissonance.
REALLY, an intrusive thought is an unwelcome, involuntary, or unpleasant idea that may be obsessive.
ACTUALLY an intrusive thought is upsetting or distressing, and can feel difficult to manage or eliminate.
DULY, intrusive thoughts are a “fleeting annoyance”, but suppressing them only makes them stronger.
ESSENTIALLY recognizing them does not signify that one is evil; it is one of the steps to overcome them.
Timely Therapy: - There is benefit of acceptance as an alternative to the suppression of intrusive thoughts.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Nothing is so exhausting and draining as indecision coupled to impulsivity; and nothing is so futile and vain.

We have natural urges which, if indulged, would not always be socially acceptable. We need to control these and a key part of childhood is spent in learning this discipline. We need to do things that we do not necessarily want to do, which requires inner control. There are a number of negative emotions that we may experience. These range from anger to fear, yet in social situations there is a common value, that such emotions should be suppressed rather than expressed. Such control also takes ongoing effort, peaking at the moments, when there is internal pressure to say or do something that might later be regretted. This self-management takes constant emotional and cognitive effort. In these acts of self-control and will-power, some acts take more effort than others. Overall, though, there is almost always some ongoing effort in staying socially acceptable, under a state of pressure, we are more liable to outbursts, such as of anger or shock. As control loosens emotions intensify, including positive ones.
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Ego Depletion exposes how controlling urges is exhausting.
Distinguished Developers: Muraven, M., Tice, D. M. and Baumeister, R. F. (1998)

UNLIMITED resources for a task, is what we lack; which can run low, leaving us exhausted and vulnerable.
POTENTLY in this state we may make more errors and our decision-making ability may well be impaired.
GIVEN, in a Freudian sense, self-control uses the conscious ‘ego’ to control the basic desires of the ‘id’.
REALISTICALLY, as it slowly gets worn down through exposure and exercise, the ego becomes depleted.
ACTUAL Ego depletion tend to result in greater attention to the short term; giving more priority to this.
DECADENTLY, there is consequent ignoring of longer-term factors, which can lead to unwise decisions.
ESSENTIAL depletion may be restored to an extent by rest, positive experiences, or ingesting glucose.
Timely Therapy: - When putting effort into something, beware of making subsequent significant decisions.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
“When things are steep, remember to stay level-headed,” these are words of Roman poet Horace (65 - 8 BC)

Even though you think you are paying attention to the road, you fail to notice a car swerve into your lane of traffic, resulting in a traffic accident.
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Inattentional Blindness implies that attention to one thing makes us miss another.
Distinguished Developers: Arien Mack and Irvin Rock (1998)

UNEXPECTED stimulus in plain sight when not seen, leads to Inattentional or Perceptual Blindness.
PURELY, this happens as a result of a lack of ATTENTION, rather than any vision DEFECTS or deficits.
GENERAL inability to ATTEND to all the stimuli in a given situation, amounts to temporary “blindness”.
RELATIVELY, this effect can occur, as individuals fail to see UNEXPECTED, but often salient stimuli.
AFFIRMATIVELY, the phenomenon can occur in any individual, independent of COGNITIVE DEFICITS.
DETECTING threatening, unexpected stimuli more easily than nonthreatening ones, is our essential nature.
EXPERIMENTS and art works has demonstrated that Inattentional Blindness affects basic PERCEPTION.
Timely Therapy: - Attention plays a major role in perception; not necessarily what is seen upon opened eyes.

Undisguised Understanding

R#67. On being DEFENSIVE and never ready for whatever LIFE brings your way.

BQ#18. What intensity of GALLANTY is vital in DILUTING DEFENSES, as a function of clearly conceptualizing UNCONTESTABLE UNDERSTANDING?--->

“Oh Time, oh Still and Now.
Pregnant with things impending.
You travel the cold path with me,
Arousing restlessness and hope.”
- Spanish poet and playwright Antonio Machado (1875 - 1939)

“We that are young
Shall never see so much or live so long.”
- Shakespeare in King Lear (1605), Act 5, Scene 3

“Here comes the trout that must be caught with tickling.”
- Shakespeare in Twelfth Night (1601), Act 2, Scene 5

“Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person’s ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming in me. Neither the Bible nor the prophets - neither Freud nor research – neither the revealations of God nor man - can take precedence over my own direct experience. My experience is not authoritative because it is infallible. It is the basis of authority because it can always be checked in new primary ways. In this way its frequent error or fallibility is always open to correction… I find that I am closest to my inner, intuitive self, when I am somehow in touch with the unknown in me, when perhaps I am in a slightly altered state of consciousness…Then simply my presence is releasing and helpful.”
- American psychologist Carl Rogers (1902 – 1987)
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WHAT IS YOUR FLAVOUR, your texture, your impact? What do you stand for, what do you believe in? What has made you what you are? What colour do you intend to give the fabric of your TIME? A well-nourished LIFE is pegged on our needs for respect from others and need for self-respect. Through competence, confidence, MASTERY, achievement, independence and freedom, we are able to cultivate self-esteem, while through recognition, acceptance, status and appreciation we are able to cultivate self-respect. When these needs are not met an individual feels discouraged, weak, and inferior; in other words, one becomes psychologically undernourished. Psychological ‘Nourishment’ is anchored on how much one values oneself and how important one thinks he or she is; how one sees oneself and how one feels about one’s achievements. This does not mean bragging about how great one is, but more like quietly knowing that one is worth a lot. It is not about thinking one is perfect – because nobody is – but knowing one is worthy of being loved and accepted. Upon the wheels of this Psychological ‘Nourishment’, one is able to hold one’s head high and feel proud of oneself and what one can do. One is armed with the courage to try new things and power to believe in oneself, keeping one’s respect even if one makes mistakes.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of UNDISGUISED UNDERSTANDING thus:

Unearth the reasons and motives of people’s current behaviour.
No human being is perfect, so expect conflicts from other people.
Control the way you express yourself, to be at peace with yourself.
Old items and old ideas should be purged so as to have a free spirit.
Nothing should continually trouble you; defeatism is virtual death.
Throw off the slavish chain of a grudge, by learning to forgive others.
Eating food from plants and not those made in a plant, is healthier.
Soundness of body to a great extent determine the soundness of mind.
Thrill in being a faster learner who remembers tons of information.
Always improve your focus and complete complex tasks efficiently.
Boost your thinking power by studying everyday in different contexts.
Live LIFE fully by spending your time wisely and setting time limits.
Excitement will make you want to jump out of bed with deep passion.

Usually wake up early, and do your important thinking tasks at this hour.
Now and then, just reward yourself verily for being a productive early riser.
Diligent reading actually increases brain function in several important areas.
Exercising on a regular basis produces a protein responsible for mental focus.
Research shows: Learning a new language increases the brain’s gray matter.
Scientist advises of the benefits of exercising brain with puzzles and games.
Thinking, concentration, and better memory may be improved by meditation.
Aspire to be in shape by absolutely loving to work out and regularly running.
Negative and positive emotions should be permitted to enter the PSYCHE.
Discover the structure of your experiences in the process of experiencing.
Intimate LIFE is feeling free to be aware of your needs and responding to them.
Never blameshift, but always assume square responsibility for your behaviour.
Gain the courage and willingness to launch yourself into the process of LIFE.

“My life, my choices, my mistakes, my lessons, not your business.”- American rapper Scott Ramon Seguro Mescudi, alias Kid Cudi (b. 1984). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: PROPAGATING the GALLANTRY for DILUTING DEFENSES to be ready for what LIFE brings.--->

The ‘Truth’ of a roundly ‘Nourished’ LIFE may be put quiet briefly: eat a moderately balanced diet, seek a moderately balanced PSYCHE and aspire for a moderate balance between your PSYCHE with Nature. Armed with this Triangular Tablet of Biological, Psychological and Spiritual ‘Nourishments’, we shall gradually cultivate the conviction that, though there is virtually no barrier to our imagination, we should not overload or overburden ourselves by multiplicity of tasks. Though there is tremendous latitude in our existence, we should finish each day and be done with it, having done the necessary – what we could. Though some blunders and absurdities crept in, we should either learn from them or forget them and be focused on beginning another day – tomorrow - serenely, boldly, creatively and with a high a spirit, free from all burdens and encumbering old nonsense, weeping not for the past, and treading fearlessly to the future.

Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to DILUTE DEFENSES.
SOAK and accept what Nature has in store for you, unpleasant as it may be; defensiveness is anti-LIFE.
UNCORRUPTED, like a piece of litmus paper you have to be quick to take the COLOUR of your TIME.
MEANINGFULNESS is the aim of LIFE; it means to be joyously, serenely, and divinely aware of SELF.
MANKIND must irreversibly encounter only three major events in its EXISTENCE; birth, life, and death.
ACTUALLY, all human being are not conscious of being born, some die in pain, and most forget to LIVE.
ROGUE dogma thinks it knows. Bounty Belief knows it does not. Dogma is credulous. Belief is skeptical.
YE MUST be forever open-minded, even against great odds. Self-belief and believe in others is GODLY.

PREPARE yourself to diligently IRRIGATE the creative ‘capacity’ for TEMPERING TRYING.

PSYCHIC precision is understanding one’s and others inner thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and desires.
Reactions and behaviours of others can be anticipated, made sense of by the capacity to MENTALISE.
Empathetic attribution of thoughts and feelings to others, enables one to make sense of their actions.
Practically the individual is able to develop the creative capacity to separate inner and outer realities.
And to affirmatively acknowledge the real surface and depth of things as potentially separate worlds.
Really, all of these capacities are essential for the establishment of normal interpersonal relations.
Encore part of social reality-testing is unraveling the hidden causal, intentional mind states of people.

REALISE that IRRIGATING your innate ‘quest’ for TEMPERING TRYING is in your ‘power.’

Realities (complex) handled by ‘mentalisation’, are interpersonal conflicts and traumatic experiences.
Essentialy it allows us to interpret the reactions of other people’s as a result of their mental states.
And to fully understand that these behaviours do not always represent realistic reactions to the self.
Loftily perceiving that the expressive behaviour of others often reflects their current states of mind.
In all measures these mental states do not necessarily emanate from their feelings about the self.
Subtly we learn how to construct contextual understandings of the behaviour of other individuals.
Encompassing also how circumstances or immediate states of mind affects behaviour toward the self.

EMPOWER yourself to IRRIGATE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for TEMPERING TRYING.

Empathy is elicited by stepping BEYOND our immediate experience of others’ actions to the causes.
Moreover, empathy enables us to understand our mental states, fantasies, and emotional reactions.
Possible ways of expressing elements of the present reality and our expriencing of it, are actualised.
Outrightly, it is a key foundation of the capacity to discover the subjective meanings of one’s feelings.
We assert that the reflective function is a version of the traditional psychoanalytic notion of insight.
Every severe form of psychopathology, has been diagnosed as the result of poor affect regulation.
Real redundancy, is experiencing fantasies as reality and not as mental states representing reality.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to IRRIGATE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of TEMPERING TRYING.

MEANINGFUL ‘humanness’ entails accepting the bare fact that we are born into a world of Needs.
Existentially, the degree to which, and how, these needs are met forms our outlook on Self-Concept.
Duly and properly nurture your Self-Concept (who you think you are based on others’ expectations).
Interactions (others and environment) leads to Incongruence between Self-Concept and Ideal Self.
Apparent Congruence Activates your inherent tendency toward your Ideal Self (Self-Actualization).
There is a need for the self as perceived and the real self, the organism, to be reasonably Congruent.
Ennobling Congruence exists when a person’s symbolised experiences reflect his or her actual ones.

INDULGE yourself in IRRIGATING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards TEMPERING TRYING.

In our daily growth process, conflicts occur in which we must make a very solid and timely choice.
Negotiating between organismic needs and behaviours that lead to reward and acceptance, is vital.
Decisively, this may lead to Conditions of Worth: Introjecting values of others to be more worthy.
Unfortunately we become who we see others want us to be, even if it is not genuinely who we are.
Learning to selectively perceive experiences and events that fit our Self-Concept becomes the norm.
Generally, we may ignore or distort experiences that do not, as defined by our Conditions of Worth.
Emotional experiences which are repeatedly distorted or denied can lead to Psychic Maladjustment.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for IRRIGATING the ‘compulsion’ of TEMPERING TRYING.

Usually, incongruence makes experiences seen as ‘threats causing anxiety’, to raise our defenses.
This leads to further distortions, and more incongruence which amounts to serious Maladjustments.
If we are able to acutely perceive experiences and feelings they can be integrated into our PSYCHE.
Lively living is no longer perceiving threats that were learned as part of our Conditions of Worth.
If we receive Unconditional Positive Regard from others, it allows us to become aware of our feelings.
Such increased awareness of experiences and true feelings integrates them into our Self-Structure.
Eventually, this replaces the Self-Concept that was based on others’ demands, or our distortions.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to IRRIGATE TEMPERING TRYING.

More spontaneously natural in thought and behaviour, is you; conforms to conventions situationally.
Opinions of others should not matter so much, as you focus on your own potential and development.
Never defensive; you fully accept others and yourself as you are, with little guilt, shame, or anxiety.
Independent and autonomous of your environment; do not go against convention for the sake of it.
Tolerating uncertainty and ambiguity, judging others accurately, having a clear perception of reality.
Only by appreciating the simple pleasures of LIFE with awe and wonder, will you have self-renewal.
Revels in peak experiences of LIFE, or moments of intense ecstasy, whereby one feels transformed.

“There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,
Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 1, Scene 5

“So wise so young, they say, do never live long.”
- Shakespeare in Richard III, Act 3, Scene 1

“Like madness is the glory of this life.”
- Shakespeare in Timon of Athens, Act 1, Scene 2

“O, how full of briers is this working-day world!”
- Shakespeare in As You Like It, Act 1, Scene 3

“This fellow is wise enough to play the fool;
And to do that well craves a kind of wit.”
- Shakespeare in Twelfth Night, Act 3, Scene 1

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on conceptualising clearly the UNCONTESTABLE UNDERSTANDING:
Apparently you are PROPAGATING your solid struggle to DILUTE DEFENSES.
You have gone a long way in CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
As well as IRRIGATING your dauntless determination.
No sooner than later, will you NURTURE your ennobling exertion,
Before ultimately REAPING your lively labour.

“How every fool can play upon the word!”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice, Act 3, Scene 5

“I never knew so young a body with so old a head.”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice, Act 4, Scene 1

“For there was never yet philosopher
That could endure the toothache patiently.”
- Shakespeare in Much Ado About Nothing, Act 5, Scene 1

I. DEALING WITH THE PEOPLE YOU DO NOT LIKE - SMARTLY--->

In a perfect world, each person we interact with would be nice, kind, considerate, mindful, generous, and more. They would get our jokes and we would get their’s. We would all thrive in a convivial atmosphere where no one was ever cross, upset, or maligned. However, we do not live in a perfect world. Some people drive us crazy, and we (admittedly) drive a few mad as well. Those we dislike are inconsiderate, rushed, malign our character, question our motives, or just do not get our jokes at all — but expect us to laugh at all their’s. You might wonder whether it is possible to be fair to someone who ruffles you all the time, or someone you would rather avoid eating lunch with. You might wonder if you should learn to like every person you meet. It is neither possible — nor even ideal — to build a team comprised entirely of people you would invite to a backyard barbecue. That is why smart people make the most out of people they do not like. Here is how they do it.

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. ACCEPTS that they are not going to like everyone. Sometimes we get caught in the trap of thinking that we are nice people. We think that we are going to like everyone we interact with — even when that is not going to happen. It is inevitable you will encounter difficult people who oppose what you think. Smart people know this. They also recognise that conflicts or disagreements are a result of differences in values. That person you do not like is not intrinsically a bad human. The reason you do not get along is because you have different values, and that difference creates judgment. Once you accept that not everyone will like you, and you will not like everyone because of a difference in values, the realisation can take the emotion out of the situation. That may even result in getting along better by agreeing to disagree.

ii. PRUDENTLY bears with (not ignore or dismiss) those they do not like. Sure, you may cringe at his constant criticism, grit your teeth at her lousy jokes, or shake your head at the way he hovers around her all the time, but feeling less than affectionate to someone might not be the worst thing. From a performance standpoint, liking the people you manage too much is a bigger problem than liking them too little. You need people who have different points of view and are not afraid to argue. They are the kind of people who stop the organisation from doing stupid things. It may not be easy, but bear with them. It is often those who challenge or provoke us that prompt us to new insights and help propel the group to success. Remember, you are not perfect either, yet people still tolerate you.

iii. PURPOSIVELLY treats those they do not like with civility. Whatever your feelings are for someone, that person will be highly attuned to your attitude and behaviour, and will likely reflect it back to you. If you are rude to them, they will likely throw away all decorum and be rude to you too. The onus therefore, is on you to remain fair, impartial, and composed. Cultivating a diplomatic poker face is important. You need to be able to come across as professional and positive. This way you will not stoop to their level or be sucked into acting the way they do.

iv. LOFTILY checks their own expectations. It is not uncommon for people to have unrealistic expectations about others. We may expect others to act exactly as we would, or say the things that we might say in a certain situation. However, that is not realistic. People have ingrained personality traits that are going to largely determine how they react. Expecting others to do as you would do is setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration. If a person causes you to feel exactly the same way every time, adjust your expectations appropriately. This way you will be psychologically prepared and their behaviour will not catch you by surprise. Smart people do this all the time. They are not always surprised by a dis-likable person’s behaviour.

v. INTIMATELY turns inwards and focus on themselves. No matter what you try, some people can still really get under our skin. It is important that you learn how to handle your frustration when dealing with someone who annoys you. Instead of thinking about how irritating that person is, focus on why you are reacting the way you are. Sometimes what we do not like in others is frequently what we do not like in ourselves. Besides, they did not create the button, they are only pushing it. Pinpoint the triggers that might be complicating your feelings. You may then be able to anticipate, soften, or even alter your reaction. Remember: it is easier to change your perceptions, attitude, and behaviour than to ask someone to be a different kind of person.

vi. ESSENTIALLY pauses and takes a deep breath. Some personality characteristics may always set you off. Maybe it is the colleague who regularly misses deadlines, or the guy who tells off-color jokes. Take a look at what sets you off and who is pushing your buttons. That way, you can prepare for when it happens again. If you can pause and get a grip on your adrenaline pump and go to the intellectual part of your brain, you will be better able to have a conversation and to skip over the judgment. A deep breath and one big step back can also help to calm you down and protect you from overreaction, thereby allowing you to proceed with a slightly more open mind and heart.

vii. DECISIVELY voices their own needs, but allows space between them. If certain people constantly tick you off, calmly let them know that their manner of behaviour or communication style is a problem for you. Avoid accusatory language and instead try the “When you . . . I feel . . .” formula. For example, you have to tell that person, “When you cut me off in meetings, I feel like you do not value my contributions.” Then, take a moment and wait for their response. You may find that the other person did not realise you were not finished speaking, or your colleague was so excited about your idea that he or she enthusiastically jumped into the conversation. If all else fails, smart people allow space between themselves and those they do not like. Excuse yourself and go on your way. If at work, move to another room or sit at the other end of the conference table. With a bit of distance, perspective, and empathy, you may be able to come back and interact both with those people you like and those you do not like as if unfazed.

Opps!
Of course, everything would be easier if we could wish people we do not like away. Too bad we all know that is not how life works.

II. SMALL HABITS THAT LEADS TO A MORE PEACEFUL LIFE--->

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. ACTUAL, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. As an initial measure to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being do not go to every fight you are invited to. Particularly when you are around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama. Focus on your breath. Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times. Get organised and purge old items. A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you have not used in a year and invest in organisational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness. Stop yourself from being judgmental. Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

ii. PRUDENTLY say ‘thank you’ early and often. Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation. Smile more. Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down! Do not worry about the future. As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful LIFE. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it will not get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

iii. PRECISELY choose being happy over being right. Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It is rarely worth it. Make use of filtering features on social media. You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share. Get comfortable with silence. When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they are not talking. Listen to understand, not to respond. So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

iv. LUCIDLY put your troubles in a bubble. Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualise the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away. Speak more slowly. Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words. Do not procrastinate. Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute. Buy a colouring book. Mandala colouring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

v. INTIMATELY forgive others. Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go. Remind yourself of this most pronounced statement by Jesus the Christ: “Father forgive them for they do not know what they are doing”. Check your expectations. Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.” Engage in active play. Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend! Stop criticising yourself. The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. your LIFE is not served well by being one of them.

vi. EFFICIENTLY focus your energy and attention on what you want. Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back. Assign yourself “complaint free” days. Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of. Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices. Manage your money. Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

vii. DECLARE to stop trying to control everything. Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well. Practice affirmations. Repeat positive phrases that depict the LIFE and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works. Get up before sunrise. Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for LIFE. Prioritise and be yourself. You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your LIFE. Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

III. EFFECTIVE TOOLS FOR MAKING YOU A FASTER LEARNER--->

The importance of learning cannot be underestimated. Learning empowers us to fulfill our ideas and realise our full potential. The speed of gaining new knowledge is practically as important as its volume. Who would not love to remember tons of information as quickly as possible? If you want to start learning faster, you need a new approach towards the process which would enable you to comprehend the essence of the matter and relate it with new concepts you encounter.

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. AANALYZE your learning style. Before you can start experimenting with different studying methods, you need to understand what type of learner you are.
===>Is your memory associated to sound? Maybe you can remember what you were reading when a particular song was playing? If this is your case, then you fall into the category of auditory learners. If you want to start studying more efficiently, then it would be wise to record the lectures and listen to them instead of reading textbooks.
===>Do you relate information to visual content? If you are a visual learner, you should implement images, graphs, charts, infographics, colourful lists, flashcards, and other types of visual content when you study.
===>If your learning style is not auditory or visual, then you might be a physical learner. Some students have too much energy; they tap their feet or play with a pen during lectures. A walk before the lesson or a lecture will calm your nerves down. You can try studying/listening to audio speeches during a walk. That will help you remember the information more quickly (this may not be allowed in high schools).

ii. PROACTIVELY train your brain to accept new information. Efficient studying is a habit. Your brain needs constant training if you want to improve your focus and complete complex tasks without taking breaks. One way to achieve this goal is to create a private learning space in your home. You will also need a specific time of day that you will devote to studying. That will make your brain ready to accept the information it gets, so you will notice you are starting to learn much faster by the day.

iii. PURPOSIVELLY get some exercise. You are aware of the fact that physical activity is good for your body, but your brain needs it too! Light exercise, such as yoga, can help you learn much faster. If you are inactive throughout the day, your body will want to move, so it will be difficult for you to stay focused. If, on the other hand, you canalize your energy through light training sessions, you will be ready to study productively.

iv. LUCIDLY take a lot of notes. Only few people are capable of remembering information as they read it. If you do not belong to this category of privileged learners, then you absolutely need to start taking notes. This simple learning method will force you to think about the essence of the material, but it will also give you a nice framework that will help you review the things you have learned. Write down only the most important information. That will help you remember all the other things you have learned.

v. INCISIVELY make mind maps. Mind maps are among the best tools to speed up the learning process. Your mind will process information effectively if you create a visual representation of the things you are about to learn. You can create a nice mind map in the old-school way: take a large sheet of paper and organise all facts and explanations. Use pictures, note-cards, and other symbols you can think of. Group similar items together and connect them with colorful pens. Of course, you can also use an online mind mapping tool if you want to save yourself some time.

vi. EFFECTIVELY find the right context. Memorisation works solely in times of urgency. If you want to learn in the most effective manner, then you need to have context for information. Find an aspect that is interesting for you; try to research for related information, and you will discover the joys of learning. With time, this practice will make you a faster learner.

vii. DELIBERATELY study every day. It will take some time before you get used to a daily studying routine, but your mind will eventually grasp the habit. The more frequently you study, the less time it will take for you to remember the things you read. If you start studying as soon as possible after you cover new concepts in class, it will not take long at all for you to get ready for an exam. Now that sounds really good, does it not?

IV. MODALITIES AND BENEFITS TO MAKE ‘THIS THING’ WORK--->

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. AMERIOLATING excitement. You got to have at least one or two good reasons that will make you want to jump out of bed. When that alarm clock goes off you got to know what you are doing it for. A dream goal or something you are incredibly passionate about are reasons that work pretty well. Build up that excitement the night before, so when it is time to wake up you are still on steroids. Waking up early enough needs not being overemphasized. To stay excited you got to wake up early enough so you can really get some work done. Wake up at least one or two hours earlier than you would normally do. You can build it up gradually from 15 minutes to 30 minutes. The next week you can go from 30 minutes to an hour and finally you can try to wake up 2 hours earlier. This is where you can seriously get some amazing work done.

ii. PRIMAL focus. Spend your time wisely. The moment you wake up start working on your passion. Do not take your eye off the ball. Get away from distractions. Turn off electronic devices such as mobile phones, Internet and TV. Be focused and just work on the one thing that will make you happy. Prepare the night before. Write down what your plan is for the morning. What are the things that will make a difference and will be worth while waking up early. What is your longterm plan to keep the exitement going. Make a step by step plan to reach your dream goal. Prepare your breakfast for the morning and get some stuff together the night before to make things easy and comfortable.

iii. POSSIBLE time limit. Set time limits for the things you do. To keep the focus on your project or for the sake of productivity set limits of 30 minutes or an hour if you have different things you need to work on. Time limits will keep you from being distracted or wasting any time. Time limits work. The long term. TO MAKE THIS THING WORK you need to wake up early for at least 3 to 4 weeks in a row. It is okay to have 1 or 2 breaks a week, but wake up early at least 5 times per week for a month. By this time waking up early has become a habit and you have overcome all the beginners obstacles. Now you are in it for the long term. Congratulations!

iv. LOATH rationalising. The moment you wake up do not dare to rationalise. Every second you try this you are lost. Stop your thinking process immediately. Trying to think of the excitement ahead could work but it is also dangerous because you are opening your mind for discussion. The devil on your shoulder will give you the cons of going out of bed and pros of sleeping in. Do not give in to the dark side. Just turn off the alarm clock and step out. If you do get trapped into rationalizing, speak out your mantra. . Create a mantra for yourself to make sure you wake up early. The mantra should contain a few brilliant keywords to define the reasons why you want to wake up early.

v. IMBUE accountability. Let your family and friends know you are going to wake up early. If you tell people about it you feel more accountable to do so. You want to live up to what you preach. Share your excitement on waking early on Twitter and Facebook. The more people you tell the better it is. Reflect everyday on what you have accomplished by waking up early. Most people only think about what they still have to do and do not think about what they have already done. By reflecting on your accomplishments you get a feeling of fulfillment. This is important to keep you motivated at all times.

vi. ENDEAVOUR going to bed early. Do not stay up late to watch some more comedy series or late night shows. They will not get you anywhere. Instead get something amazing acomplished the next morning. If you do not go to bed early you will not succeed in waking up early. It is important that you do. Make this thing work! Mark your calendar. Write down each day you have accomplished to wake up early. This way you become conscious of your successes throughout the weeks. The more marks you see on your calendar, the more you want to stick with it.

vii. DECISIVELY, if you have an alarm clock with a built in CD player or a MP3player with a built in alarm clock you can wake up with your favorite music. Choose music that will get you excited and that will motivate you to get out of bed. You can also put your alarm clock a few feet so you really need to get out of bed to turn the alarm off. Once you are out of bed it is easier to get out of the bedroom into the bathroom to fresh up. Reward yourself for waking up early. There are many ways to reward yourself but eventually the best reward is waking up early itself. The work you have done, the art you created, the things you studied and the progress towards your dream goal will be the best reward you can give yourself.

“Lose an hour in the morning, and you will be all day hunting for it.”
– Richard Whately.

V. HOBBIES SCIENCE SAYS MAKES YOU SMARTER AND FASTER--->

All parts of our body age; and our brain does too. We have all witnessed the natural deterioration of brain functions in older relatives. Unfortunately, they lose their short-term memories and they gradually lose the executive functions, as the right frontal lobe loses gray matter and gets “mushy.” Even without the dreaded Alzheimer’s, our brains just age. Now; however, neuroscience tells us that we can delay this process. In some instances, we can reverse brain deterioration by engaging in some pretty specific activities, most of which we would consider hobbies.

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. ASPIRE to read anything. Whether you love old classic comic books or the Daily Nation, brain researchers tell us that reading actually increases brain function in several areas. It stimulates the growth of new neural pathways as we absorb new information. Reading flexes those parts of the brain that deal with problem-solving, seeing patterns, and interpreting what others are saying to us about their feelings. It also improves memory, builds on prior learning (more neural connections), and exercises parts of the brain that allow imagination. Some research also points to speed-reading as a method to increase synapses (electrical connections between regions of the brain), since the brains must process sensory information quickly. Indeed, for many students, speed-reading is a valuable skill.

ii. PREFERABLY, learn to play a musical instrument. For years, neuro-scientists have conducted research on the benefits of music instruction for children relative to improved cognitive functions – memory, problem-solving, sequential processing, and pattern recognition. Playing an instrument (the voice is also an instrument), increases gray matter volume and makes neural connections between the two hemispheres of the brain. For this reason, scientists believe that early musical training allows students to be better at both linear math work (algorithms, equation solving) and mathematical problem-solving (modeling, optimiSation, problem research). Playing an instrument ensures both sides of the brain work together much better. Now, researchers tell us that taking up a musical instrument as an adult – young, middle-aged, or older – can produce the same neurological effects as it does in children.

iii. PROACTIVELY exercise on a regular basis. Here is what the science tells us. Exercise produces a protein (BDNF) in the blood stream. As blood travels through the brain, cells absorb this protein, which is responsible for both increased memory and focus. One of the most notable experiments was a photo memory test given to experimental and control groups. The experimental group exercised before the test, while the control group did not. The experimental group’s test results were overwhelmingly better. Members were able to focus on the photos and then recall them after a period of waiting.

iv. LLEARN a new language. Several areas of the brain are used as we take in sound, give it meaning, and then respond to it – 4 areas in all. Bilingual people have more gray matter in their language centers. They can focus on more than one task at a time because parts of the brain that relate to reasoning, planning, and memory are more developed. Again, scientists began to study this in children first, looking at those in whose households a foreign language was spoken, but in whose schools only English was spoken. Being forced to take in sounds from two different languages and “sort out” which language was being heard forced these areas of the brain into greater functioning. Now, it is also known that learning a language at any stage in one’s LIFE has the same forceful effect on the brain making it smarter.

v. IMMERSING or engaging in cumulative learning. Cumulative learning is defined as that process by which we take what we already know and layer new information of the same type on top of that. For example, math is cumulative learning. Children first learn basic functions. Then they learn how to use those basic functions to solve word problems. Next, they learn algebra, using basic functions to solve equations. Every layer goes on top of what was learned before. As we age, and especially as we leave the workforce, we tend to cease cumulative learning activities. However, research says if we continue to engage in them we sharpen memory, sequential ordering, problem solving (executive functioning of right frontal lobe), and language. Maybe we should all take a math or writing class in our senior years!

vi. EXERCISING the brain with puzzles and games We need to think of our brains as both computers and muscles. The more information we put into our brains, the more functions they can perform. Likewise, the more we exercise our brains, the stronger they function. Brain plasticity is a term that is used to refer to the continually new connections that are made when we take in information, engage in thinking, and force ourselves to remember things. Crossword puzzles, deductive thinking activities, and strategic games such as chess or even some video games, force our brains to take in new information and make new connections.

vii. DULY meditating / practicing Yoga Meditation is no longer something that can be thought of as “that thing that Hindu and Buddhist monks do.” What research says about meditation is actually pretty astounding. First, it allows better control of one’s thinking when not in a meditative state. This control allows focus, concentration, and better memory. In fact, students who meditate do better on tests, and adults who meditate have better memories. Meditation increases gray matter in areas of the brain that control learning and memory. Senior citizens who meditate keep more gray matter than those who do not. For students with behaviour problems in school, meditation has been shown to improve behaviour and school attendance because it reduces stress and anxiety. It would appear that meditation is a great thing for all ages.

All of these hobbies are things that we can easily incorporate into our daily lives. Given what science now tells us, they will keep our brains wonderfully healthy.

VI. VITAL EXERCISES IN SHAPING YOUR BODY THAN RUNNING--->

Everyone wants to be in shape. But not many people absolutely love working out and running. However, there are a variety of exercises you can do in your home or your backyard that are just as effective in toning your body as running, if not more so. The following exercises affect various parts of the body, ensuring that you are getting an all-around workout each time you put on some gym clothes.

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. ARDENT Burpees. Burpees are like up-downs with an included jump added into the motion. It is a full body exercise that focuses on your core while also increasing your stamina. As you get a rhythm down, you should increase the speed of your motions. Try to do them as fast as you possibly can for maximum effect. Try doing 100 of these a day, and you are sure to see improvement within a week.

ii. POTENT Tuck Jumps. Who would have thought that simply jumping in place would be a great alternative to running? Tuck jumps burn calories and build up your endurance, and you do not need a lot of space to do them correctly. While doing tuck jumps, put your arms out straight in front of you and pull your knees up as you jump, trying to touch them to your hands. The closer you get, the stronger your core will become. Try to do as many tuck jumps in one session as you possibly can!

iii. PRODUCTIVE Jump Rope. If you feel silly simply jumping in place, grab a jump rope to accompany your workout. As well as burning calories and increasing stamina, jumping rope is a great way to get your heart rate up quickly. While jumping rope, you can add variations to mix up your routine, such as: quickening or slowing your pace, tuck jumping, or doing “double unders.” There are also many jump rope workout routines you can check out on YouTube if you need some guidance.

iv. LAUDABLE High Knee Sprints. When you do go for a jog or run, you can vary your speed as well as your range of motion to increase effectiveness. Think of high knees as the motion you would make while running in place, but continue moving forward while doing so. Doing high knee sprints will burn more calories as well as increase your heart rate even more than simple running or jogging. While doing high knees you should keep the same running pace or, if possible, increase your speed. Try to do high knee sprints intermittently throughout your jog, but take breaks to slow your pace and jog when you need to.

v. IIMPROVISATIONAL Long Jumps. To do long jumps effectively, you should be in a wide open space. Obviously, the idea is to jump as far as you can, so the larger the space, the more potential your workout has. With your feet firmly planted on the ground, jump as far forward as you possibly can. Do it again and again until you reach the edge of your workout space, turn around, and go back. Try to do sets of 10-20 jumps at least three times to build lower body and core strength. You will also be working on your balance and coordination, as you will have to hold yourself back as you gain forward momentum. Just make sure to stop short of any walls.

vi. ESTEEMABLE Mountain Climbers. You have probably been doing mountain climbers ever since primary school without realising the beneficial effects they have on your body. Mountain climbers increase your circulation, and require you to utilise your whole body to do them effectively. Doing this exercise strengthens your arm, core, and leg muscles throughout the routine. You do not need a large space in which to do mountain climbers, so you have no excuse to not drop down and do a few sets of 50 while watching TV tonight!

vii. DOING Squats. You will strengthen and transform your quadriceps, glutes, hamstrings, calves and core muscles. Performing exercises for your lower body, efficiently rids your body of excess stored fuel, better than any other exercises. You will work out muscles in your legs and your core, over and over again. You will strengthen your bones, connective tissues and joints. Adding strength to your body can never hurt. For example, all of this is so important in preventing osteoporosis and injuries. Even if your squats are meant to tone your body, the side effects can benefit your health as well. You will be performing one of the best functional exercises that ever existed. This exercise promotes mobility and balance. It will help you to do your day in and day out activities with ease. From picking up dropped items to balancing, squats prep your body for movement of all types. You will be able to enjoy a powerful physical activity anywhere, any time. Squats do not require you to go to a gym or pay for any expensive equipment. It is recommended here that you check your posture and form by seeking the advice of a fitness professional. You will enjoy the benefits of improved posture. The muscles that you strengthen while performing a squat, will help you to sit, stand and walk taller and more confidently. You will be changing the hormonal environment in your body … for the better. Two of the major hormones that shed your body of excess stored fuel, testosterone and growth hormone, skyrocket during exercise and afterward DHEA kicks in! DHEA is an amazing hormone that is responsible for shedding the body of excess stored fuel, muscle building, mood enhancement, and immunity.

VII. BEING VITALIZED AND NOURISHED BY NATURAL THINGS--->

“All health is better than wealth”.
- Sir Walter Scott (1771 - 1832)

It was Spanish theologian Saint Ignatius of Loyola (1491 - 1556) who asserted: “A sound mind in a sound body is the most useful instrument wherewith to serve God.” Remember the words of Greek biographer and philosopher Plutarch (46? - 120?): “A man ought to handle his body like the sail of a ship, and neither lower and reduce it much when no cloud is in sight, nor be slack and careless in managing it when he comes to suspect something is wrong”. The suggestions outlined here, may not apply to those who are in High school, Colleges or Universities, due to the fact most things are defined and determined for you by the teachers or parents. However, when you find even the slightest chance to practice them, just DO IT. Or prepare yourself to practice them when you will have more control of your LIFEstyle, later in your LIFE. According to numerous scientific studies, the amazing health benefits outlined here are too many and far-reaching to ignore.

SEVEN BEYONDIST occupational openers for APPLIED AWARENESS:

i. ASPIRE to eat real food. Most of the medical problems we face, like cancers, are attributed to eating processed foods, as opposed to natural foods. The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it, and the more it is medically fit. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

ii. PREFER water and not beverages. Scientists at the University of Jaen, in southern Spain, found that carbonated drinks, sold by the popular drinks companies, contain up to 300 times more pesticides than it is permitted in tap or bottled water. Researchers who carried out a worldwide study discovered the highest level of pesticides in orange and lemon drinks.

iii. PRACTICE Grounding. This is also referred to as earthing, means having direct contact with the earth — such as walking barefoot. Surfaces that allow grounding: sand, grass, bare soil, unpainted/unsealed concrete and brick. Surfaces that cannot get us grounded: wood, vinyl, carpet, sealed tiles…As the earth emits negative electrons, they penetrate our bodies when we walk barefoot. These electrons have remarkable benefits that many of us have never imagined. It will reduce free radicals, which are produced from our electronic devices, the sun’s rays, x-rays, cigarettes, and various chemicals, which can hurt our bodies and cause chronic diseases. The antioxidising effect of grounding neutralize the free radicals that contribute to our body’s inflammatory responses. It will improve your mood, improve your sleep, accelerate tissue repair and wound healing. Grounding can boost heart health by reducing blood viscosity and clumping. Essentially, grounding increases the Zeta Potential on red blood cells. Red blood cells have a negative electrical charge. When the negative charge is greater, the cells repel one another, which improves blood flow. It will reduce the symptoms of Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms such as bloating, irritability, fatigue, headache, and depression. It will help you recover from muscle soreness after workouts, generally referred to as Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness (DOMS), which is a common side effect of strenuous or new exercise.

iv. LAUDABLY waking up early. You know the old saying “Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise”. It is true. All of the benefits of waking up early fuse together into one great benefit – the benefit is possibly living a longer, healthier life – free of hypertension, cancer, heart disease, diabetes, and most any other deadly ailments that you can think of. Why? Because a healthy diet that contains the nutrients we need being received in the morning until the time we go to sleep help keep us in shape and slim. You actually have the chance to always be one step ahead as your day unfolds if you wake up early. This is a great way to quickly reduce stress. Often late snoozers tend to skip breakfast because they try to get in every last wink of sleep and skip breakfast. Skipping breakfast is a bad idea because your body needs those nutrients in the morning for energy and focus. Your body has been on a “fast” all night (6 to 8 hours) and you need to “break the fast” with some healthy food. When you decide to skip your A.M. meal, your body goes into starvation mode so the next time you actually eat something, you are more likely to overeat and crave unhealthy foods. Eating breakfast is also a foundation for building healthy eating habits and makes you less likely to eat junk the rest of the day. The first hour of your day and how you spend it often sets the tone for the rest of your day and your LIFE. By waking up earlier, you start to reduce the stress in your LIFE by eliminating the need to rush in the mornings. Having the chance to always be one step ahead as your day unfolds, will add an incredible amount of positivity to your LIFE and you will start to notice a change in your attitude. Studies have shown “morning people” are often more positive, more optimistic and more likely to experience satisfaction in their lives. While several night owls are known for their creativity, they can also pay the price by becoming more likely to succumb to depression and other psychological problems.

v. INCISIVE Exercise. This helps with exercising your heart and burning fat calories. A constant barrage of mental stress on the body has often been attributed to a possible cause for cancer. And if not cancer there is depression, anxiety, ADD, and plenty of other problems you just want to keep away from your body by relieving your stress levels. High blood pressure is actually a result of stress as well! Once your body starts feeling better, your mind will follow suit. Your mind starts to feel better and react differently to various things such as academics and work related problem-solving issues. You end up feeling like a better, healthier person.

vi. ENLIVENED by sleeping naked. This stimulates the release of the anti-aging hormone called melatonin and the growth hormone in the body, resulting in better skin and hair. You will facilitate the release of oxytocin, which is also called the “love hormone”: a powerful feel-good hormone that is involved in combating stress and depression, reducing intestinal inflammation by improving gut motility, and blood pressure reduction. You will lower your cortisol levels, maintain healthy body composition and get better quality of sleep. Poor or no sleep is associated with the release of cortisol, or the so-called stress hormone, as well as hunger hormones that can trigger our appetite for comfort foods and thus lead to overeating. Lack of a good night’s sleep is also related to less active production of the fat-burning and appetite-controlling hormones. Moreover, increased oxytocin and reduced cortisol levels – both previously mentioned – contribute to a more robust immune system. Keeping these important chemicals at their optimal amounts in your body’s ecosystem by sleeping naked means giving yourself the best shot at fending off germs, viruses and other disease-causing organisms. For ladies the vagina will get more ventilation, when you sleep naked, increasing its ability to stay dry and reducing the probability of fungal infection. For gentlemen, sleeping naked has been found to increase virility by keeping the testes cooler, which is why the testes are located outside of the body in the first place. When you wear tight briefs and cover up with heavy blankets, the testes heat up and lower your sperm count.

vii. DELIBERATELY having a submerged bath. Dipping all or part of the human body in water is used for therapeutic purposes, and in the treatment of various conditions and illnesses. The use of baths for such purposes as well as for religious purification, personal cleanliness, and private or social relaxation dates from at least the time of ancient Greece. Several kinds of therapeutic baths produce results through the selected temperature of the water, aided in some instances by the stimulation produced by a jet such as a needle shower or a whirlpool. Baths at skin temperature (about 37° C/98.6° F) are relaxing and sedative; those hotter or colder are stimulating. Baths may be given by submersion in water or, in the form of wet packs, by wrapping the body in wet sheets or towels. All of the body may be submerged, or only a particular part may be bathed, as, for example, in the arm bath or foot bath, or the sitz bath for the pelvic region. The hot bath stimulates, relieves pain (particularly of cramps and sometimes of arthritis), controls convulsions, and induces sleep. Quickening the pulse and respiration, it also increases perspiration, thereby relieving the kidneys of part of their work and temporarily decreasing weight. Hot packs are helpful in muscular disorders. The cold bath is helpful in reducing high fever and limiting inflammation. Stimulating baths are generally of short duration to avoid exhaustion; sedative warm baths may be continued for hours or, in the treatment of certain nervous diseases, for days. Kinotherapeutic baths, in which a routine of exercise is carried on while the member is submerged, were successful in restoring the use of muscles damaged by poliomyelitis when that disease was still widespread. They are used today in the treatment of some bone diseases and fractures.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #18
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#18 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Meaningfulness underlies all LIFE; if we do not find anything pleasant, at least we shall find something new.

Kimani believes Mutisya has some great character flaw.
Kimani will therefore distrust Mutisya’s allusion of self-knowledge.
This is done while sustaining that he does not hold that same flaw in self-knowledge.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Illusion of Asymmetric Insight is thinking we know others better than they know us.
Distinguished Developers: Pronin, Kruger, Savitsky and Ross (2001)

UNPERTURBED, we commonly BELIEVE that we understand others better than they do understand us.
PROFUSE assumption: The other person has a significant blind self, whilst our own blind self is SMALL.
GRUMBLING and feeling insulted is our case, if other’s try to show they understand us more than we do.
REALLY, we assume we know more than others, perhaps because we know MORE about what we know.
ASSUMED here is the personal conviction that observed behaviours are more revealing of OTHER people.
DUE misconception here: The private thoughts and feelings are taken to be more revealing of the SELF.
EXPRESSING doubt about the other’s self-knowledge, results from perceiving ascribed negative TRAITS.
Timely Therapy: - Be cautious about judging others, and assuming that they do not know themselves well.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Three critical things which human beings will always clamour for, sooner or later: Novelty, novelty, novelty.

Assume you are travelling in a desert. You will often tend to see water bodies nearby. Scientifically, this is only a mere illusion known as a MIRAGE. Things are not exactly how they appear to us or how we perceive them. Things might also appear different to different viewers when viewed from different angles.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Naïve Realism is assuming that we see the world objectively, while others’ are wrong.
Distinguished Developer: German-American psychologist Kurt Lewin (1890 – 1947)

USUALLY, naïve realism is the human tendency to believe that we see the world around us objectively.
PEOPLE who do not share the same views as ours must be ignorant, uninformed, irrational, or BIASED.
GRANTED, others suffer some intellectual and moral defect; are unable to see things ‘as they really are’.
REALLY, we falsely imply that, things are in FACT as we SEE them, and that ours are the ‘normal ways’.
ACTUALLY, people DISAGREE because they base their judgments on different ways of looking at issues.
DECADENTLY, naïve realism causes people to exaggerate differences between themselves and others.
EXACERBATION (or sparking) of conflict, as well as creating BARRIERS to sober negotiation is the result.
Timely Therapy: - Have a deep SENSITIVITY to social problems and commit to do something about them.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
Many see the world upside down; that is how their eyes functions; you must want to see TRUTH as it really is.

Have you ever listened to someone with extreme political beliefs?
This person incorrectly assumes that the majority of the population agrees with them.
And shares those beliefs, even though most people really do not.
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False-Consensus Effect implies overestimating the extent to which others share our views.
Distinguished Developers: Ross et al. (1977)

UNDERLYING this effect is the assumption that one’s opinions are WIDELY shared than is the case.
POTENT attribution here is the desire to view one’s thoughts and actions as appropriate and correct.
GENERAL tendency is the belief that one’s values and ideas are “normal” and that others share them.
REALLY trying to see if others share your beliefs? You will probably THINK of people SIMILAR to you.
ACTUALLY family or friends, and it is very likely that they do share many things in common with you.
DULY believing that others THINK and ACT the same way we do can be beneficial to our self-esteem.
ESSENTIALLY, we are most familiar with our own attitudes and notices well when others share them.
Timely Therapy: - To feel good about ourselves, we are motivated to think that others are just like us.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Be conscious of your unique abilities, energy, situation (space) and the times, but never ignore your limitations!

Individuals tend to think that their attributes and traits,
Are more uncommon and rare than they actually are.
A person may think that their ability to play sports is special and unique to them.
They flatly fail to consider the millions of other people,
Who are just as good or even better at sports than they are.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
False-Uniqueness Effect means viewing our qualities as unique when in reality they are not.
Distinguished Developer: Suls, J., & Wan, C. K. (1987)

UNDERESTIMATING the extent to which others possess the same attributes as oneself, is this effect
PARTICULARLY this happens when these characteristics or behaviors are positive or socially desirable.
GENERALLY, it is attributed to a desire to view one’s thoughts as unusual, arising from personal causes.
RELATED is the term “illusion of uniqueness” describing how people wrongly believe they are different.
AMELIORATING your self-esteem is a strong motivation to believe that your qualities are more unique.
DECISEVELY this effect can be seen mostly for flattering qualities and of being “better than average”.
EFFECT of false uniqueness regards desirable traits; applying false consensus justifies negative traits.
Timely Therapy: - Self-esteem is a crucial factor in defining how you proactively look at your behaviour.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Gather the relevant information, to be objective before you judge any news as biased against your own side!

Despite journalists’ best intentions to report news in a fair and objective way,
Partisans are motivated to see neutral content as harbouring a hostile bias.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Hostile Media Effect entails viewing neutral events according to one’s needs and values.
Distinguished Developers: Robert Vallone, Lee Ross and Mark Lepper in 1985.

UNDERSTAND: This bias is known as Hostile Media Phenomenon, or the Hostile Media Perception.
PARTISANS from opposite sides of an issue, tends to find the same coverage to be biased against them.
GENERAL focus is on those who are HIGHLY involved with an issue; have a strong pre-existing attitude.
READILY, they see the coverage as biased against their point of view, and in favour of their antagonists’.
ACCUSATIONS of media bias coming from partisans on both sides of an issue are viewed POSITIVELY.
DILIGENTLY, journalists see this as evidence that the content in question is, in fact, fair and BALANCED.
EMPIRICAL research attributes this BIAS to defensive processing, and selective attention and evaluation.
Timely Therapy: - What you see and what you hear depends a great deal on the sort of person YOU ARE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
It is critically very vital (even therapeautic) to drop your EGO so as to hear an antagonist with concise clarity!

Suppose that Nyambura and her next-door neighbour have an ongoing feud.
Nyambura finds herself exhausted, after disputing about many issues for years:
Property lines, garbage collection, noise complaints, and general upkeep.
She knows at some point, something has to change.
One day Nyambura’s neighbour knocks on her door with a proposal.
He says that he will not let garbage pile up between their houses.
This will happen only if she moves her fence over one foot and keeps down the noise on weekdays.
Nyambura sees that this agreement could be helpful in some ways, but feels uncertain.
She thinks, “Why would he propose it if it did not benefit him more than her? It must be unfair. ”
Nyambura had discussed a similar agreement with her husband the other day.
But she remains uneasy about her neighbour’s offering.
Thus, Nyambura declines the offer in order to keep the ball in her court.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Reactive Devaluation implies disparaging a proposal if it appears to originate from a rival.
Distinguished Developers: Stillinger, Epelbaum, Keltner, and Ross (1990)

UNDERSTANDING this cognitive bias deeply is vital, for it can serve as a major barrier in negotiations.
PROPOSALS made by another party, especially if it is viewed as negative or antagonistic are devalued.
GENERALLY, we inevitably face conflict in all realms of our lives; our needs clashes with those of others.
RESOLVING disputes and negotiating agreable terms is a necessary, but difficult social skill to cultivate.
ACTUALLY, reactive devaluation can serve as a significant cognitive hurdle in critical conflict resolution.
DUMBNESS to hear out and objectively consider others proposals creates harmful or costly stalemates.
EVEN further, stalled negotiation between warring countries duly determines the fate of many people.
Timely Therapy: - Barriers to negotiation like reactive devaluation can have life-altering consequences.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
A human is a resident in the castle one’s PSYCHE; to understand one’s, then the other takes time and effort.

“A clear attentive mind
Has no meaning but that which sees is truly seen.”
- U.S. poet, essayist, and translator Gary Snyder (1930 - )
“Ah! were she pitiful as she is fair,
Or but as mild as she is seeming so.”
- English poet and pamphleteer Robert Greene (1560? - 1592)
“A woman puts on rouge and powder to make her face more attractive.
Maybe we can put some make-up on her personality.
- U.S. playwright Neil Simon (1927 - )
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Interview Illusion: After a quick discussion, we believe we can predict many behaviours.
Distinguished Developers: Kunda and Nisbett (1986)

UNDERSTANDING another person candidly, is what we believe we have, after only a brief conversation.
PREDICTING their behaviour in all kinds of different situations, is what we are convinced we are able to.
GAINING more information and upon learning more about the person, may lead us to change this view.
REVISED model as sufficient to predict behaviour is what we end up believing we have got, each time.
ALSO, we tend to integrate this image so well, we forget how we felt before we created this perception.
DECISEVELY, we have the tendency to verily believe that we have always seen the person in this way.
ESSENTIAL need to predict and the limited time we have with others, triggers this short-cut approach.
Timely Therapy: - When you first meet people, help them to form a useful prediction model of yourself.

Power Paradigms

R#68. On having no EXCITEMENT in your endeavours, and cannot put your ideas to work.

BQ#19. What intensity of VICTORY is decisive in ENACTING EXCITEMENT, as a function of planning proficiently POWER PARADIGMS?--->

“His legs bestrid the ocean; his rear’d arm
Crested the world. His voice was propertied
As all the tuned spheres, and that to friends;
But when he meant to quall and shake the orb,
He was as rattling thunder. For his bounty,
There was no winter in’t; an autumn ‘twas
That grew the more by reaping. His delights
Were dolphin-like: they show’d his back above
The element they liv’d in. In his livery
Walk’d crowns and crownets; realms and islands were
As plates dropp’d from his pocket.”
- Shakespeare in Antony and Cleopatra (1606), Act 5, Scene 2

“An honest tale speeds best being plainly told.”
- Shakespeare in Richard III, Act 4, Scene 4

“I’ve got it, I like it, and with your help I’m going to keep it.”
- British prime minister John Major (1943 - ), in a speech to Conservative party conference referring to his job as prime minister.

“He is so vain that he wants to figure in history as the settler of all the great questions; but a Parliamentary constitution is not favourable to such ambitions: things must be done by parties, not by persons using parties as tools.”
- British prime minister and writer Benjamin Disraeli (1804 - 1881), referring to Sir Robert Peel.

“Deceive boys with toys, but men with oaths.”
- Spartan naval commander Lysander

“We’re going around, over, through, on top, underneath.”
- U.S. general Norman Schwarzkopf (1934 - ), describing his tactics for attacking the Iraqi army during the “Desert Storm” offensive in the Persian Gulf War (1991).

“Language is called the garment of thought: however, it should rather be, language is the flesh-garment, the body, of thought.”
- Scottish historian and essayist Thomas Carlyle (1795 - 1881)

“Logic/, n. The art of thinking and reasoning in strict accordance with the limitations and incapacities of the human understanding.”
- U.S. writer and journalist Ambrose Bierce (1842 - 1914?)

“The person who creeps forward inch by inch may well arrive at his or her destination, when the person who jumps without being able to see the other side may well fall and cripple him or herself.”
- Former Tanzanian president Mwalimu Julius Kambarage Nyerere (1922 - 1999)

“Books, we are told, propose to instruct or to amuse. Indeed!...The true antithesis to knowledge, in this case, is not pleasure, but power. All that is literature seeks to communicate power; all that is not literature, to communicate knowledge.”
- British essayist and critic Thomas De Quincey (1785 - 1859)
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POWER IS AN IMPORTANT FACTOR if not the supreme end of all human actions. It is an indispensable and a persuasive means of SELF-ACTUALIZATION. British mathematician and philosopher Bertrand A.W Russell (1872 –1970) argued that all human activity springs from impulse and desire for POWER. According to German philologist and philosopher Friendriche Nietzsche (1844 - 1900) the ‘will- to-power’ or basically the ‘love of power’ is the desire to produce intended effects upon the world, whether human or non-human and each one of us shares the common goal of striving for superiority, for power, even though there are many different ways by which we may achieve this goal. This view was later advanced by Valentin Kartsev, as quoted by Eric L. Harry’s novel depicting the Third World War ‘Protect and Defend’ (1992): “Power over one’s fellow man is the root of all human activity. For what better way to control one’s destiny than to bend others to your plans and your will? The urge to amass that power is both irresistible and subliminal. Whether that power is gained by beauty, by the muzzle of a gun or by the moral suasion of one’s ideas, its accumulation is the end of itself, of every human alive.” Many people see the acquisition of POWER as a “fierce” process, with much “blood, sweat and tears” – an endeavour in which wisdom demands toughness. This hard knock attitude demands calculated neglect of various concerns that are seen as “soft headed.” However, the most progressive contention of POWER is that, one must have responsibility for the development and change of the world in which one lives. One does not have to be either devout or nondevout to accept this basic connection. As people who live – in a broad sense – together, we cannot escape the thought that the terrible occurrences that we see around us are quintessentially our problems. They are our responsibility – whether or not they are also anyone else’s. As competent human beings, we cannot shirk the task of judging how things are and what needs to be done. As reflective creatures, we have the ability to contemplate the lives of others. In as much as BEYONDISM treats POWER as the basic building block of an individual LIFE, attention is thus particularly paid to the expansions of the “capabilities” of persons to lead the kind of lives they value – and have reason to value.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of POWERFUL POINTERS thus:

Persuasion is a critical weapon in getting your ideas accepted by others voluntarily.
Only you who can develop your will-power by working on yourself and practicing it.
Words which are Godly often invoke a sort of religious enthusiasm and excitement.
Encouraging yourself to lead by example and influencing team to find solution is vital.
Routine maintenance of your team entails flexibility and ownership of decision making.
Finding food for thought and motivation to move forward from criticism of others.
Usually, blessedness comes from laughing at oneself, which is fount of entertainment.
Learning to avoid using the words “ALWAYS” and “NEVER” when striking any deal.

Positive energy and optimism, showers your team with an infectious can-do attitude.
Organisations to thrive requires a firm decision made on the best interest of everyone.
It is often possible to persuade and convince anyone, of anything, most of the time.
No human being is immune to being influenced to accept your ideas, even a skeptic.
Tailoring your words, to let people see your values, your vision and your abilities.
Ensuring that your team understands how much you depend and rely on each other.
Reading those around you to determine your actions; act like a leader to be treated so.
Saying less in a negotiation and understanding the driving force of the other party.

“Power is not given to you. You have to take it.”— American singer Beyoncé Giselle Knowles-Carter (b. 1981). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: REAPING your VICTORY for ENACTING EXCITEMENT, so as to put your ideas to work.--->

Most people have problems because of learned limitations. They are caught in mental sets, frames of reference, and belief systems that do not permit them to explore and utilise their own abilities to the best advantage. Human beings are still in the process of learning to use their potentials. We hereby seek to ideally create a new phenomenal world in which you can explore your potentials, freed to some extent from your self-imposed barriers.

Reverentially REAP your deep desire to ENACT EXCITEMENT.
SEEK to have a capacity for enjoyment SO vast that you GIVE away great chunks to those around you.
USUAL pleasure is negative! ONLY a sorely wounded SOUL, can utter such a blasphemy against LIFE.
MORALISTS, withdrawing themselves from the contact with the WORLD, hypocritically castigate LIFE.
MEANINGFUL pleasure is the harmonious operation of our instincts; feeling blessèd and so could bless.
ACTUALLY, pleasure is negative where the instinct at WORK makes for retreat rather than for approach.
ROTTEN are pleasures because the instincts that impel us are essentially negative forms of flight and fear.
YEARN for positive instincts; of acquisition and possession, of pugnacity and mastery, of action and play.

PREPARE yourself to diligently REAP the creative ‘capacity’ for ENACTING EXCITEMENT.

Powerful indeed, is the essential empire of habit; for a cock has great influence on his own dunghill.
Refuse to marvel at how fishes live in the sea; as humans do, the great ones eat up the little ones.
Each individual clings for a ‘sense of power’; it is the most intoxicating stimulant a mortal can enjoy.
Power covers all PSYCHIC blemishes one may have; power makes most if not all actions virtuous.
A ‘powerful’ office is either big, neat, clean or efficient; it is a place where real business gets done.
Robust power, if unassisted by judgment, caution and responsibility, collapses through its own mass.
Essentially, if you aspire to power devoid of influence, the end result will be that you will forfeit both.

REALISE that REAPING your innate ‘quest’ for ENACTING EXCITEMENT is in your ‘power.’

Reasoning, debating or arguing against ‘power’ conceals a deep desire to acquire and amass ‘power’.
Everything is subject to barter; we may forfeit our goods; but relinquishing ‘power’ volitionaly is rare.
Any idea or belief must be gauged in terms of how it is able to elevate you in the realms of ‘power’.
Love or loath anything only if it impedes or boosts your affirmative appetite or the will-to-power.
It is easier to cope with a bad conscience, than a bad reputation; one is redeemable, the other is not.
See people’s actions in their true light; as direct or indirect attempts to further their ‘power’ games.
Even those actions covered under the pretense of meekness are also ‘power’ maneuvers in disguise.

EMPOWER yourself to REAP your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for ENACTING EXCITEMENT.

Excelling in your profession should not be neglected; this will make you distinguished and powerful.
Movement and momentum should be the axle of your PSYCHE; overcome stagnation and INERTIA.
Purge any idea of decrying business as boring; seek to witness the thrill and shrills of a boardroom.
Once you have a solid respect-base, ridiculing a rival, puts him on the defensive and enhances you.
Wishing to succeed or outshine famous parents? You have to accomplish double their achievements.
Enact your name and identity by changing course; be authentic and original in what you curve out.
Real ‘power’ will be gained by disparaging parents’ legacy and shining in your own unique manner.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to REAP the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of ENACTING EXCITEMENT.

Motivate others into wanting to move in your direction; coercion has a counterproductive reaction.
Endeavour to soften up the resistant of others by working on their emotions; what they like or fear.
Dare not to ignore the hearts and the minds of significant others, for they will GROW to HATE you.
In all sublime and critical matters of daily LIFE, suitable TRUTH is generally seen, and rarely heard.
Absolute power, whether vested in many or a few, is ever grasping; like the grave, cries ‘give, give.’
The image you subtly conjure is far more powerful than any argument that you make with words.
Enormous symbolic resonance, is made by the way you arrange things visually, factors like colour.

INDULGE yourself in REAPING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards ENACTING EXCITEMENT.

Indirectly associating yourself with historical figures, shall enable you to make your own mythology.
Never entertain banality or awkwardness; it is much better to die pursuing an awfully big adventure.
Discover or find a symbol to represent your cause – the more emotional the association is, the better.
Use the power of symbols to rally, to animate, and to unite your team, towards achieving your goals.
Love of what is grand, spectacular, and larger than LIFE, is what subtly characterises human beings.
Grand spectacles that AWES people and distracts them from HARSH realities have a lasting impact.
Emotional appeal or the visual is the easiest route to the heart of people; they will then flock to you.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for REAPING the ‘compulsion’ of ENACTING EXCITEMENT.

Unleash contempt to things you want but cannot have; revealing less interest makes you superior.
The more attention you pay to a small mistake, or try to fix it, the more worse and visible it gets.
In the heat of moments, just seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you finally.
Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
In the absence of organised religion or grand causes, be a focal point of promise; offer real recipes.
Soil not your PSYCHE by SINFUL deeds; you must seem a paragon of morality, civility and efficiency.
Emphasise enthusiasm over rationality; utilise people’s overwhelming desire to believe in something.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to REAP ENACTING EXCITEMENT.

Make yourself a magnet of affluent attention by appearing larger, more colourful, more mysterious.
Only by doing things that make you seem larger than LIFE, will you shine more brightly than others.
Never tire of drawing attention to yourself; better to be slandered and attacked than to be ignored.
In all measures, attach your name and reputation to a quality, or an image that distinguishes you.
This image can be a unique style of dress or a personality distinction that deeply amuses people.
Once the image is established, you have INFLUENCE; a place in the sky for your star to be brilliant.
Remember: Society craves larger-than-life figures, those who stand above the general mediocrity.

“O, it is excellent
To have a giant’s strength! But it is tyrannous
To use it like a giant.”
- Shakespeare in Measure for Measure, Act 2, Scene 2

“How long a time lies in one little word!
Four lagging winters and four wanton springs
End in a word; such is the breath of kings.”
- Shakespeare in Richard II, Act 1, Scene 3

“Be bloody bold, and resolute, laugh to scorn
The power of man, for none of woman born
Shall harm Macbeth.”
- Shakespeare in Macbeth, Act 4, Scene 1

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on planning prudently the POWERFUL POINTERS:
Noticeably you are now ripe to REAP your lively labour to ENACT EXCITEMENT.
Blessed is you who has transcended CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
And NURTURING your ennobling exertion.

3RD FISHERMAN: Master, I marvel how the fishes live in the sea.
1ST FISHERMAN: Why, as men do a-land—the great ones eat up the little ones.
- Shakespeare in Pericles (1607), Act 2, Scene 1

“The miserable have no other medicine
But only hope.”
- Shakespeare in Measure for Measure, Act 3, Scene 1

1. AT THE ROCK BOTTOM OF SOCIAL INFLUENCE AND POWER--->

Social influence is defined as ‘change in the belief, attitude, or behaviour of a person (the target of influence), which results from the action of another person (an influencing agent)’, and social power as the potential for such influence.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MANY scholars conceive Coercive Power, as the ability to force someone to do something against their will. It is often physical although other threats may be used. It is the power of dictators, despots and bullies. Coercion can result in physical harm, although its principal goal is compliance. Demonstrations of harm are often used to illustrate what will happen if compliance is not gained. Coercion is also the ultimate power of all governments. Although it is often seen as negative, it is also used to keep the peace. Parents coerce young children who know no better. A person holds back their friend who is about to step out in front of a car. Other forms of power can also be used in coercive ways, such as when a reward or expertise is withheld or referent power is used to threaten social exclusion.

ii. ACTUALLY, one of the main reasons we work is for the money we need to conduct our lives. There are many more forms of reward - in fact anything we find desirable can be a reward, from a million dollar yacht to a pat on the back. Reward Power is thus the ability to give other people what they want, and hence ask them to do things for you in exchange. Rewards can also be used to punish, such as when they are withheld. The promise is essentially the same: do this and you will get that.

iii. CLEARLY designated as Legitimate Power is that which is invested in a role. Kings, policemen and managers all have legitimate power. The legitimacy may come from a higher power, often one with coercive power. Legitimate power can often thus be the acceptable face of raw power. A common trap that people in such roles can fall into is to forget that people are obeying the position, not them. When they either fall from power or move onto other things, it can be a puzzling surprise that people who used to fawn at your feet no long do so. More broadly, legitimate power is that based on social rules and can have several different forms and not just be based on position.

iv. HONING Legitimate Position Power, is the social norm of obeying people in a superior position. Legitimate Power of Reciprocity is the norm that we should repay those who help us. Legitimate Power of Equity is the norm of fair play and due compensation. Legitimate Power of Responsibility is the norm of social responsibility in helping others (the ‘power of the powerless’).

v. INDEED, Referent Power is the power from another person liking you or wanting to be like you. It is the power of charisma and fame and is wielded by all celebrities (by definition) as well as more local social leaders. In wanting to be like these people, we stand near them, hoping some of the charisma will rub off onto us. Those with referent power can also use it for coercion. One of the things we fear most is social exclusion, and all it takes is a word from a social leader for us to be shunned by others in the group.

vi. NOW, when I have knowledge and skill that someone else requires, then I have Expert Power. This is a very common form of power and is the basis for a very large proportion of human collaboration, including most companies where the principle of specialisation allows large and complex enterprises to be undertaken. Expert power is that which is used by Trades Unions when they encourage their members to strike for better pay or working conditions.

vii. ESSENTIAL Informational Power, entails providing information to a person that results in them thinking or acting in a different way. Information by itself may not be enough for this and may hence be supported by an argument as to why the information should be believed. If the information is accepted then ‘socially independent change’ occurs as the person continues to believe this information to be true and acts accordingly.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
So use these categories as a checklist to determine what forms of power you and others have available. It is a common negotiating mistake to assume you are powerless or have less power than the other person.

2. FUNDAMENTAL TYPES OF POWER PUT IN REAL PERSPECTIVE--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MERITORIOUS Ownership. If I own something then I can also use it in any way I like. If I own a chair I can set fire to it, which I could not do if I had borrowed it from you. If I own money, I can spend it any way I choose.

ii. ARDENT Position. Where you occupy a recognised position, then I will obey the rules regarding that position (rather than obeying you, per se). Formal positions include managers, policemen, and so on. These may well have formal authority vested in them by the company or the country. Informal positions also exist. If you hold a creative social position such as a ‘plant’ then I will listen carefully to your ideas.

iii. COMPELLING Access Control. Another form of ownership is where you are the gatekeeper to something that is desired. Bouncers at night clubs and company receptionists are gatekeepers to entire organisations. Personal assistants control access to the managers they serve. Librarians control access to knowledge.

iv. HANDY Knowledge. Knowledge is power, as they say. If I know something, then I can use it to my advantage. Knowledge may come in several forms: Technical knowledge is knowing how things work. It is the power of experts and academics. Social knowledge is knowing things about people. This may include secrets that could be used for blackmail. The degree of power that a knowledge user has depends even more than other forms of power on a supply and demand situation. If nobody wants the knowledge or cares about it, then there is little power. But if the world is being invaded by aliens and I know how to repel them, I can demand a high price for my services.

v. INERRANT Skill. Skill is closely related to knowledge, but is the ability to do something rather than just know it. As with knowledge, there is technical skill and social skill. Engineers have technical skills. Sales people have social skills, which include the ability to communicate and the ability to persuade others.

vi. NOURISHING Obligation. If I feel obligation towards you, you can tip the scales by reminding me of that obligation. Obligations may come from: Favours you did me in the past and which I must now repay. Rules that I must follow, such as social rules to help a person in distress. Responsibilities that I feel, for example as a parent, friend or a manager.

vii. EFFECTIVE Trust. If you earn my respect then I will trust you and this gives you far greater power to ask me for things, as I will not need to wonder whether you may take advantage of me.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Cultivating self-determination, will go along way in meeting your goals. You are only person who can decide what you say and do. As such you have power, which can be much greater than is suspected. You can, for example, always choose to say NO and to walk out. This is of course, the basic power of Trade Unions.

3. POWERLESSNESS AS JUST A REMARKABLE COMMON ILLUSION--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MANY people have a self-image of powerlessness, believing that they are not able to achieve anything. This may take the form of needing to ask for approval before taking any action (I am not authorised to decide).

ii. ALSO, it may come from a self-image of being unable to achieve goals (I do not have the skill or knowledge to do anything). A low self-image can thus have a cripplingly, paralyzing effect on a person, preventing them from even beginning any action.

iii. CATEGORICALLY, it has been found that powerless people literally salivate over the things that seem unobtainable. Men who feel powerless, for example, may literally drool over fast cars and attractive women.

iv. HARBOURING the fear of failure, is another root of powerlessness. This is often based in the fear of persecution and rejection and may be related to the paranoid-schizoid position. The person typically projects forward into the future, sees themselves failing and then continues to imagine others criticising and ostracising them. The illusion may continue into feelings of guilt, shame and loneliness.

v. INTERNAL conflict can lead to powerlessness, for example where a manager wants to discipline an employee but also wants to be liked - the result can be a stasis of inaction. When equal and opposite forces pull against one another, the net movement is zero. Internal conflict thus can create significant internal tension but no real movement.

vi. NOTE curiously, that powerlessness is a form of power. If I feel powerless, then this gives me the power to ask for help. I can be powerless like a child and hence demand help from an adult-figure.

vii. EFETTE begging uses powerlessness to persuade. It says ‘I am not a threat because I am much lower status than you - you can confirm this by giving me money’. This is one reason why beggars often sit on the floor and lower themselves.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Do not get trapped by powerlessness. You always have power. When you are in a powerless state, you can always use it to play from the child state.

4. THINGS THAT MAY BE CONSIDERED AS POWER ENHANCERS--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MUNIFICENTLY, although there are many different types or power, there are a number of critical factors that may be taken into account which will increase the power you have.

ii. AFFLUENT scarcity. The Scarcity Principle makes anything that is not easily available more desirable. If the power I have is something that other people do not have, then I am the only wielder of this power and hence I can choose how it is used.

iii. CONCRETE desirability. If what I have is more desirable, then I can make greater demands, asking more for it and so on. A negative form of this is where my power is undesirable, such as the power to punish. Again, the greater the undesirability of my power the stronger the power is (although it will create very different reactions to a positive and desirable thing).

iv. HANDY skill. Some people have power but are not good at wielding it. Like a swordsman with a sharp cutlass, a skillful user of power uses just enough to get what they want and no more.

v. INDOMITABLE impact. If my power has a great impact on people, then they will pay greater attention to it. Thus a bank robber acquires great power (and money) from the use of a gun.

vi. NOTABLE acquisition cost. Sometimes power costs a great deal to acquire, such as expert power, for which takes time and money to get through college or university.

vii. EESCHEWING burn rate. Power, when used, may be used up or it may retain its ‘full strength’. Thus when a teacher shouts at a class, it will only work for a while and if they keep it up, before long the children will ignore the loud thing at the front of the class. A good teacher only needs to hint or raise an eyebrow.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
So not only build your power, but also make it scarce, desirable, etc.

5. SUITABLE STAGES FOR ACCUMULATION OF PERSONAL POWER--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MOST of the times, we start from a position of POWERLESSNESS. When we join an organisation we know nobody and are totally dependent on others for initial assistance in understanding how things work, how to influence others and how to get things done.

ii. ARDENT power by ASSOCIATION. This is the power we gain by being able to utilise the power that others already have. As we get to know people and gain their respect and trust, we may leverage their power, for example in asking them to ask others to do things or asking them for introductions. The secret of gaining associative power is hence in being able to create bonds and draw on relationships.

iii. CRUCIAL power by CONNECTIVITY. The most important thing here is build as many critical links as possible; to be able to contact (and be responded) by various promiment figures. We can also join teams, clubs and form other associations and coalitions, thereby gaining the power of the group.

iv. HONOURABLE power by ACHIEVEMENT. Power by acquisition is that power which we gain through what we do and the persuasive evidence that others perceive in this. Achievement leads to achievement. If we do well at work then we are given more important work and may also get promoted. The power we get from this multiplies, as people cede power to those who prove their ability, which then allows them to achieve further still.

v. INSPIRING power by REFLECTION. In a curious reversal of depending on others for power, we can gain power through internal reflection and realising we have all personal power on which we can draw. A person at this stage is competent and has sound integrity. They are widely respected and this strength draws others to them, on whose ability and power they may consequently depend. Paradoxically, as they let go of their ego, they gain more power.

vi. NOURISHING power by PURPOSE. People at this stage are driven by their devotion. Their power comes from within. Their inner power is so much greater than the power of those around them, they can influence decisions of many others. Great leaders show this purpose in stirring speeches and powerful and symbolic action. They succeed because they believe in a greater purpose beyond themselves. They are visionary and self-accepting, humble and spiritual.

vii. ENNOBLING power by WISDOM. At this stage people feel a deep connection to the greater universe. They may often spend time in solitude, connecting and reflecting. They may have been through great pain and crisis on more than one occasion, yet have used these events to learn and grow. They have found contentment and live on an ‘even keel’. The purpose they work to is very high. They know and accept powerlessness and in doing so find ultimate power. They embrace paradox and do not need to take sides.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Understand the level at which you are in this very deep hierarchy.

6. SOFT POWER: MAY HAVE GREATER EFFECT THAN HARD POWER--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MEANINGFUL Infection. Have you ever been in an organisation or a social group where one person is really likeable. They do not seem to ask much but somehow they have a huge effect on the group. Opposite to the effect of a ‘toxic’ personality, they seem to infect everyone around with their calm and positive ways.

ii. AMICABLE Martial Power. In Tai Chi and other soft martial arts, soft power works by connecting so softly with the other person that they cannot feel your touch. In the connection, you sense where they are and hence can avoid their attacks, destabilise them and lead them in any direction of your choosing. Martial arts can also be hard, yet the softer arts, once mastered, are by far the most effective.

iii. CHARMING Good Cop. Beyond the good cop, bad cop routine, much can be achieved in interrogation through softer methods. Hard methods may break the weaker willed, but those who know the most will likely be made more resistant by oppressive methods. A better way is to connect with the person, showing sympathy and interest in their lives and, by your breaking of the tough stereotype, getting through to their confidence.

iv. HILARIOUS Powerful Speeches. Politicians know that a good speech is worth its weight in ballot slips. A good public speaker can move millions with soft words that connect and sway opinion. Speeches can also be hard and threatening, but although they can stir people to action, these do not connect the speaker with the audience. The master of soft power in speaking can easily be seen as a saint and gain followers who will follow them to the ends of the earth.

v. INDULGING the Long Game. Much use of power is short-term, with immediate or near-term goals. The use of soft power is a long game, with no immediate goals. Or in a more subtle manner packaging the long-term in the context of the short-term.

vi. NURTURING Cultural Diplomacy. There are sometimes attempts to cloak the political aspect of cultural diplomacy, for example by calling it ‘cultural communication’. The British Council is an organ of the UK Government that seeks to spread good British values of hard work and fair play throughout the world, showing the best of British culture wherever there is a British embassy. Other countries do the same sort of things. This can effectively create a hidden ‘soft war’ that few except the most hard-line will notice, let alone resist. The BBC’s World Service radio acts similarly, subtly spreading British values through honest stories of human interest. A key reason that the BBC has such a powerful effect is because it has engendered trust through truth for many years.

vii. ESTEEMING Global Village. With the advent of global markets and the internet, the influence of other cultures and individuals is everywhere. Even if you do not use the internet, you are massively affected by it through the perceptions created in the people around you. There are critical questions asked as to whether we will end up with a single global culture. Perhaps this is already seeping in as we talk of ‘youth culture’ and the ‘internet generation’.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
If you have the time and inclination, you can achieve much with the subtle and steady use of soft power. Perhaps this WEBSITE is doing this? It seeks to inform and help, and if successful is creating change around the AFRICAN CONTINENT. Who knows who might read it and use its knowledge for what purpose?

7. FORM AND CONTENT OF STRATEGIC CONTINGENCIES THEORY--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MUCH of intraorganisational power depends on three factors: problem skills, actor centrality and uniqueness of skill. If you have the skills and expertise to resolve important problems, then you are going to be in demand.

ii. AND by the law of supply and demand, that gives you the upper hand in negotiations. It also gives you power from the reciprocity created.

iii. CANDIDLY, if you work in a central part of the workflow of the organisation, then what you do is very important. This gives you many opportunities to be noticed.

iv. HAPPILY, it also means you are on the critical path, such that if your part of the company fails, the whole show stops. Again creating attention and giving you bargaining power.

v. IN all measures and perspectives, if you are difficult to replace, then if you do make enemies up the hierarchy, then they cannot just move you out or sideways.

vi. NO one is vital than a production manager in an organisation, who is in charge of a key manufacturing operation (centrality), and understands its complexities very well (uniqueness).

vii. EFFECTIVELY, if not efficiently, from a long experience, when things go wrong, he or she is very good at fixing things, both mechanically and with the unions.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Get a job on the critical path through the organisation. Become expert in problem solving in it. Acquire and defend knowledge and skills that nobody else has. Do not let any one person become indispensable.

8. THE ESSENCE AND NATURE OF POWER PERCEPTION MATRIX--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MANIFESTLY, what power you REALLY have, depends not so much on what power you ACTUALLY have, but far much more on what power you and others BELIEVE you have.

ii. AS things stand, sometimes people have direct power in terms of resources they can control, but more important is the perception they have of their power. If I believe I have power then others may believe me. If I believe I have little power I may be doing myself a disservice by giving it away.

iii. CONCEIVABLY, BEYOND direct control, your power is very largely based on what others accept; so their perception of your power is important, if not paramount. If people believe you have power, then that belief is power handed to you on a silver plate. If they do not believe you have power, then you may yet be able to convince them.

iv. HOW then does the Power Perception Matrix maps your perception of your power against the perception that other people have of your power? Most vital is confirmed power. If both you and others believe you have power, then you most certainly do have it and will not be challenged when you use it.

v. INDEED, we also have wasted power. When you believe you do not have power and yet others believe that you do, then if you can see their belief then you can grasp the power that they afford you. If, however, you focus on your own belief then that power will be wasted.

vi. NOTE the underlying hidden power. If you are sure you have power but other people do not think you have that power, it may well be because they do not know about it. For example you may have influence with senior managers that they have not realised. If you are wrong in your belief, then your power is illusory and will fail in practice.

vii. EXPOSE the unknown power. If both you and they believe you do not have power then this will effectively be true, even though you may yet have power in the areas of consideration. Whether or not you actually do have power, your disbelief and their affirmation of this will most likely lead to you not using that power.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Understand the difference between power you actually have, power you believe you have and power that others think you have. Where there are gaps, work out how to handle this.

9. FACTUALLY FOCUSING ON THE THREE DIMENSIONS OF POWER--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MAJOR CHANNELS (1^st Dimension) of power entails the ways in which power is enacted. They can perhaps more readily be remembered as ‘head, hands and heart’. Physical power (hands) is derived from material advantage. Individually, it can come from strength or skill, such as the power of a wrestler. It can also come from having weapons, which can be the ultimate power of groups and governments. Physical power also comes from having things that are not designed to hurt people. Owning a building or a machine or even a sewing needle are forms of physical power.

ii. AFFIRMED informational power (head) is derived from knowledge. For example, if I know your weaknesses I could leverage this knowledge when trying to persuade you, or maybe help you learn and shore up those weaknesses. Power often comes from the control of access to information, where you can permit or offer access to others.

iii. CANDID emotional power (heart) is the social power of affect; using heightened feeling to get what you want. Charisma is a form of emotional power, including the power of oratory and the use of subtle body language. Threats are often emotional in the effect they have. In fact most interactions between people include some form of emotional power.

iv. HANKERING the INTENT (2^nd Dimension) forms the basic motivation of the person using power, helping or hurting others. First positive power is used for good, with the intent of helping others. It is used to protect and nurture, or at least do no harm. It is based on love, care, concern and pro-social values.

v. IN the second case we have negative power, which is used either to directly harm other people or with no care or concern about them. It is based either on greed and selfishness or on other negative emotions such as fear and hate.

vi. NEEDFUL DELIBERATENESS (3^rd Dimension) of power, encompasses the triggers which lead to power being used. To start with, reactive power is used in response to situations, as in the example where a person has the power to say no or to restrict access in some form. This power cannot be utilised until someone else wants something that can be blocked.

vii. ENTRENCHED proactive power is used consciously and purposefully, for example using your physical strength to attack someone. This is where values, morals and ethics are more significant, as they imply premeditation and forethought.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Understand your channels and sources of power. What physical strengths do you have? What material things? What information or control of access to information? What emotional sway? Understand your intent: are you planning harm or help? If you want to help, then remember to at least do no harm. Understand where you can act proactively and when you can only react - or perhaps choose not to react. Then make deliberate choices as to what power you will use or not use, and in what way. At the same time, apply this analysis to other people, and then work out ways to neutralize their negative power. Also think about how to appeal to them to use their power positively.

10. DISCERNIBLE DYNAMICS OF POWER FLOW IN ORGANIZATIONS--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MANAGERIAL formal authority is the simplest form of power that is vested in the position of ‘manager’. A manager has subordinates who must do his or her bidding, only within legal and organisational rules. The basic employment transaction is ‘we give you money, you do as you are told’. Of course there are many more ways that power can be exerted, and in particular in motivating people more effectively such as is found in transformational leadership. Control of scarce resources is the core duty of a manager. Other than directing employees, managers control budgets and the assets and other resources that the firm holds, from technology to people. A part of this control is the ability to allocate these resources to projects and other work. It is not unsurprising that many of the political battles in organisations is over control of resources and ‘empire-building’ is a classic game, with a significant risk that organisational goals get forgotten in the ‘cut and throat’ of winning and losing control of resources.

ii. AFFLUENT use of organisational structure, rules and regulations cannot be ignored. Organisations have hierarchies, departments, teams and other structures, often each with its own rules as well as the rules that govern the action within the organisation as a whole. Many people do not know all of these rules, which makes them a source of power for those who care to take time to learn their detail. Power can also be gained from quoting rules that do not exist or misquoting rules by overstating or understating their meaning. Control of decision processes, is informed by the fact that, work is selected and resources are allocated by choices, many of which are determined in some form by groups of people. By managing how decisions are made, for example by requiring consensus or senior-manager signoff, the power of some people may be curtailed whilst others gain the ability to shape decisions. When decisions are made in committee or other meetings, the person who chairs the meeting or keeps the minutes may have notable power to control decisions.

iii. CONTROL of knowledge and information alloyed to how you gather and distribute it is a source of power, whether it is technical or social information. Experts often work in this way, protecting their elevated status by hiding the sources of their knowledge and exacting high prices (whether financial or social) for their learned opinions. Then comes the control of boundaries. The structures and groups of the organisation are only so because they have boundaries which people cross in order to access resources and meet people. Thus, for example, an executive’s Personal Assistant may have disproportionate power in the ability to allow access or not to the executive. Likewise security guards, though not paid very much can allow, bar or hassle people crossing their boundaries.

iv. HAVING the ability to cope with uncertainty is indispensable. This quite different source of power is personal resilience, the ability to handle storm, strain and stress that might debilitate others. Such people can gain position by taking on work that others fear and is a common route for upwardly-mobile go-getters who seek early promotion. Control of technology is a vital tool. Technology is (or should be) an enabler, providing data, analysis, information, access and other benefits. Those who control what technology is used by the organisation or who gets the latest computers and software has significant power, and the person who used to be the ‘IT Manager’ may now be the ‘Chief Information Officer’. Having the latest technology can also be a status symbol, thereby giving the holder social power in the way they can show themselves to be influential and clever.

v. IINTERPERSONAL alliances, networks and control of ‘informal organisation’, in other words, who you know makes a lot of difference. We naturally help our friends and those who have helped us in some way in the past. Social networks are the glue of organisations and those who build and work their informal associates can thereby gain significantly more power. Control of counter-organisations surfaces out. Not to every organisation is there an equal and opposite counter-organisation, but in the battlefield of businesses, whole ecologies spring up, include local opposition to factory expansion, trade unions seeking ever-increasing pay and benefits and so on. If you can infiltrate or otherwise hold some sway over the groups who might oppose you, you may at least be able to damp the danger they pose and possibly neutralise them completely.

vi. NOTABLE symbolism and the management of meaning. We live a lot, more than perhaps we realise, in the sway of the symbols and semiotics of the workplace. If you can recognise the subtlety and understand the workings of how meaning is created, then you have a surprisingly powerful tool for change and influence. Symbols and meaning-making is a particular pattern of culture, and those who would change the underlying culture of an organisation can make use of these. In regaed to gender and the management of gender relations, we find that in a balanced workplace, around half the people are men and half are women. In practice, some women gravitate towards particular roles whilst men seek other work positions. The ‘glass ceiling’ still exists in many companies and, perhaps due to LIFE breaks such as having children, fewer women make it to the higher echelons. This can lead to frustrations and energy that can be put to good and destructive use. If you can harness this, you have power. There is also the power of sexual attraction, and tall and shapely people continue to make good use of their physical assets.

vii. ENTRENCHED structural factors that define the stage of action. The ‘stage of action’ in organisations is set up by the organisational purpose, vision, mission, strategy and other high-level shaping activities that lead to scenarios of activity, from driving into new markets to struggling with organisational change. If you can shape the direction of the organisation, you have tremendous power to affect much of what it does and consequently the futures (and power) of others in the firm. Last, but certainly not least, is the power of the individual, or the power one already has. We can be charming, willing, obstinate and more. And we have feet we can use to leave the company at any time we choose.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
So take note! When you will have joined an organisation, and you happen to feel powerless, think again and review the above list. Everyone has the ability to acquire and use more power than they might reasonably expect to have.

11. DOMINANT BODY LANGUAGE AS RELATED TO AGGRESSIVE ONE--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MORE often, dominant body language is related to aggressive body language, though with a less emotional content. In regard to size signals, the body in dominant stances is generally open, and may also include additional aspects. Making the body big is whereby hands on hips makes the elbows go wide and make the body seem larger. So also does standing upright and erect, with the chin up and the chest thrust out. Legs may be placed apart to increase size. Making the body high is borne of the fact that height is also important as it gives an attack advantage. This can be achieved by standing up straight or somehow getting the other person lower than you, for example by putting them on a lower seat or by your standing on a step or plinth. Occupying territory is indicated by annexing and colonizing territory that others may own, use or control. A dominant person may thus stand with feet akimbo and hands on hips.

ii. ANALYZING superiority signals may well start with the idea of breaking social rules. Rulers do not need to follow rules: they make the rules. This power to decide one’s own path is often displayed in breaking of social rules, from invasion and interruption to casual swearing in polite company. Going forward, ownership of something that others covet provides a status symbol. This can be territorial, such as a larger office, or displays of wealth or power, such as a Rolex watch or having many subordinates. Just owning things is an initial symbol, but in body language it is the flaunting of these, often casually, that is the power display. Thus a senior manager will casually take out their Mont Blanc pen whilst telling their secretary to fetch the Havana cigars. Invasion as a dominant act entails disrespecting the ownership of others, entering and overrunning their territory, for example getting to close to them by moving into their body space. Other actions include sitting on their chairs, leaning on their cars, putting feet up on their furniture and being over-friendly with their romantic partners. This kind of conquest says ‘What’s yours is mine’ and ‘I can take anything of yours that I want and you cannot stop me’.

iii. CERTAINLY, a dominant person will take higher status physical positions where they can see and be seen by more other people. If the table is rectangular, they will sit at the end. Likewise, they will sit on a corner seat. They will also stand in the middle of a group where they will have their backs to some people (but will not fear attack). They will also walk down the middle of a path or corridor and expect others to get out of the way. Negotiations for moving over start a long way off and they signal by not making any moves that others will have to move. Dominant people will seek to control time more. For example in conversations, they may talk more themselves and deny others time to talk, for example by interruption or leaving early. Another method is hurrying, talking fast themselves, checking the time and asking that others ‘be brief’. Outside of conversations, they may not be available when you need them but then demand your attention immediately.

iv. HIDEOUSLY belittling others is evident. Superiority signals are found both in saying ‘I am important’ and also ‘You are not important’. Thus a dominant person may ignore or interrupt another person who is speaking or turn away from them. They may criticise the inferior person, including when the other person can hear them. They may inspect their fingernails or otherwise show limited attention to the other person. General preening can likewise show a lack of respect. Stroking the chin shows judgement. Facial signals cannot be ignored. Much dominance can be shown in the face, from disapproving frowns and pursed lips to sneers and snarls (sometimes disguised as smiles). The eyes can be used to stare and hold the gaze for long period. They may also squint, preventing the other person seeing where you are looking. They may also look at anywhere but the other person, effectively saying that ‘you are not even worth looking at’. Narrowing eyes shows suspicion or even dislike. Faces can also look bored, amused or express other expressions that belittle the other person. The head will often move very little. A surprisingly effective trick is in holding the head still. Most people move their head as they talk and interact with others. We watch the faces of others a great deal and stillness in the head and face signals comfort and lack of anxiety. Dominant people often smile much less than submissive people.

v. IN various circumstances, when people first meet and greet, their first interaction sets the pattern for the future relationship. When a person is dominant here, then they will most likely continue to be dominant. A classic dominant handshake is with the palm down, symbolically being on top. Another form of dominant handshake is to use strength to squeeze the other person. Holding the other person’s hand for longer than normal also shows that you are in control.

vi. NOTE the eyes. Prolonged, unblinking eye contact acts like overplaying the handshake - it says ‘I am powerful, I can break the rules.’ The dominant person may alternatively prevent eye contact, saying ‘You are beneath me and I do not want even to look at you.’ Speaking needs also to be considered. The person who speaks first often gets to control the conversation, either by talking for longer or by managing the questions. Research has found that just putting the body in a dominant position, upright and open, reduces a person’s sensitivity to pain, possibly because this increases the sense of control. Research has also found that adopting a powerful pose changes your hormonal levels and increases your propensity to take risks, just as if you were more powerful. In generalised gender differences, women often make themselves smaller while men spread out. Even when women are seeking equality, this can happen, showing internal processes that are not in alignment with their conscious intent.

vii. EFFECTIVELY responding to dominance! If others display dominant body language you have a range of options. The simplest response is simply not to submit, which is what they probably want. Continue to appear friendly and ignore their subtle signals. Another response is to fight dominance with dominance, for example:
===>Out-stare them (a trick here is to look at the bridge of their nose, not their eyes).
===>Touch them, either before they touch you or immediately when they touch you.
===>When they do a power handshake, grab their elbow and step to the side.
===>When they butt in to your speech, speed up, talk more loudly and say ‘let me finish!’

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Utilize these techniques for your personal convenience, but do not overdo. However, when they are used against you, a critical approach is to name the game. Ask them why they are using dominant body language. A good way to do this is in a curious, unafraid way.

12. CLUSTER OF BODY MOVEMENTS USED TO SIGNAL AGGRESSION--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MASTERING a significant bunches of THREATS, as well as GESTURES which are socially acceptable is vital. This is actually quite useful as it is seldom a good idea to get into a fight, even for powerful people. Fighting can hurt you, even though you are pretty certain you will win. In addition, with adults, fighting is often socially unacceptable and aggression through words and body language is all that may ever happen.

ii. AT the heart of THREAT is the facial signals. Much aggression can be shown in the face, from disapproving frowns and pursed lips to sneers and full snarls. The eyes can be used to stare and hold the gaze for long period. They may also squint, preventing the other person seeing where you are looking.

iii. CLEAR attack signals. When somebody is about to attack, they give visual signal such as clenching of fists ready to strike and lowering and spreading of the body for stability. They are also likely to give anger signs such as redness of the face. Exposing oneself to attack is also a form of aggression. It is saying ‘Go on - I dare you. I will still win.’ It can include not looking at the other person, crotch displays, relaxing the body, turning away and so on.

iv. HASTILY invading the space of the other person in some way is an act of aggression that is equivalent to one country attacking another. What about false friendship? Invasion is often done under the cloak of familiarity, where you act as if you are being friendly and move into a space reserved for friends, but without being invited. This gives the other person a dilemma of whether to repel a ‘friendly’ advance or to accept dominance of the other.

v. INVASIVE approach is when you go inside the comfort zone of others without permission. You are indeed effectively invading or violating their territory. The close you get, the greater your ability to have ‘first strike’, from which an opponent may not recover. On the other hand touching the person is another form of invasion. Even touching social touch zones such as arm and back can be aggressive.

vi. NUMEROUS GESTURES have been used to convey a certain information without uttering any word. Insulting gestures are many, whose primary intent is to hurt and offend the other person and hence inciting them to anger and a perhaps unwise battle. Single and double fingers pointed up, arm thrusts, chin tilts and so on are used, although many of these do vary across cultures (which can make for hazardous accidental movements when you are overseas).

vii. EFFECTIVE mock attacks are GESTURES which may comprise symbolic action that mimics actual attacks, including waving fingers (the beating baton), shaking fists, head-butts, leg-swinging and so on. This is saying ‘Here is what I will do to you!’ Physical items may be used as substitutes, for example banging of tables and doors or throwing . Again, this is saying ‘This could be you!’ Sudden movements encompasses all of those gestures which may be done swiftly, signaling your level of aggression and testing the other person’s reactions.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Large gestures, are very persuasive. The size of gestures may also be used to signal levels of aggression, from simple finger movements to whole arm sweeps, sometimes even with exaggerated movements of the entire body.

13. EXPOSING THE DETERMINANTS OF POWER AND DEPENDENCY--->

When I want something from you, then I am dependent on you. And if you do not need much from me, then you have power over me. This is power-dependency relationship. In fact many relationships are characterised by power and dependency, from parent-child to police officer-suspect.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MEANINGFULLY, the basic form of dependency is demand-and-supply. One person wants something and another can supply it. It is the basis of commerce and markets. It is also a basis of relationships, even though there may not be overt discussion of what is being exchanged or given. All other forms of dependency can be seen as forms of supply, even though the traditional idea of market supply is of physical goods.

ii. ACTUALLY, children are dependent on their parents or caregivers for support. They are unable to support themselves, so must have somebody else provide their basic physical and emotions needs. This gives parents significant power, which hopefully they will use in raising their children to become well-adjusted and contributing citizens. Support is also a critical aspect of societies, where people in need can depend on others to help them. There is always a price for this and social support is given on the understanding of obedience to social rules and returning support given. It is not uncommon for people to take the opportunity when others ask for help to seek something in return. Support can also be commercial (and a highly profitable business too), where you are dependent on companies to help you when you have problems and they have the power to help you quickly and effectively or keep you hanging until they give an inadequate response. Sadly, the common occurrence of the latter shows the immature state of many support businesses.

iii. CATEGORICALLY, a simple thing that we often seek is that others approve of us, believing that what we do is right and important. Children need approval from their parents and teachers, facing punishment if they do not comply. Friends have a different role as one of the purposes of having friends is that they approve of us, especially when others disapprove. Yet friends also may not approve of us, in which case we may have to seek others who will be kinder. Approval is particularly critical in the workplace where maintaining one’s job may depend on approval from one’s manager. The higher level of power associated with such approval means people have to be particularly compliant, agreeing to work even when they do not want to do as they are told.

iv. HAVE it that in purchase situations, the buyer typically has greater power than the seller as the seller depends on customers for their living. Much of the action of sales people is to redress this imbalance, for example by claiming product scarcity, offering discounts and otherwise using psychological and social methods that give them greater power and consequent control over the sale.

v. IINDEED, dependency is the very basis of power. When one person is dependent on another for something, then that second person has power over the dependent person, and Dependency Theory is an elaboration of this. Dependency in a relationship can lead to attachment, where a person bonds their identity with that of the more powerful person, in an unconscious attempt to secure what they need and prevent the supplier from leaving. Love can be seen as nature’s way of creating attachment, especially where a person is dependent for their survival on others (even in such cases as the Stockholm Syndrome). In the Dependent Personality Disorder, dependence becomes dysfunctional as a person attaches themselves so strongly with others they damage themselves and the people around them.

vi. NOTE that sometimes dependency is balanced, with each needing something of equivalent value from the other, even though what is sought may be different for each person. However, this is not always the case and power becomes unbalanced when power is asymmetrical. In other words when one person is more dependent than the other, the person with the least dependency has the greatest power. Dependency power increases when there are no options and that you must interact with the powerful person in order to get what you need. This makes it a common act to gather power by eliminating alternatives (an extreme example is drug dealers who kill off one another). Monopolies and dictatorships work through this principle as when you have no alternative, you become more dependent.

vii. EEFFETE dependency also increases when the level of need is greater, particularly in the short term when alternatives cannot be found. Other forms of dependency can also be created, such as the addiction that results from the use of drugs. Dependency power decreases when the dependent person finds way of reducing the dependency, either by finding alternatives of simply by deciding that they do not want what they have requested enough to debase themselves before the powerful supplier.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
If you want to increase your power, seek to increase dependency, either by increasing the level of need or by reducing the alternatives the person can choose. You can do this physically or through the elegance of your words. When you are dependent and find this to your disadvantage, then you may seek to increase the number of alternatives you can choose. This is a common activity within negotiation where you may particularly spend time developing your walk-away solution (what you will do if you cannot agree).

14. HOW POWERFUL PEOPLE BEHAVE: THINGS THEY DO AND WHY--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MOST powerful people act either to get what they want or simply to sustain and enhance their power. They often use the symbols of power to demonstrate to others that they are powerful. They dress in expensive clothes, drive new and powerful cars. They have powerful friends and let others know this. Power is often illusory, and is as much about confidence as anything else, with power being ceded by those who believe they have less. Symbols are consequently a part of the toolkit that ‘powerful’ people use to persuade others that they have more real power than they perhaps have. Truly powerful people are often understated in how they dress and how they use symbols. By an almost reverse psychology, they say ‘I do not need symbols’ and they live more by their reputation and the quiet knowledge that they can get everything they need. The symbols of power are still significant but in their absence rather than their presence.

ii. AFFIRMATIVELY, depending on whether they have a psychological need to be heard or not, powerful people will speak more or less. The more extraverted people will take the stage and pronounce for a long as they like, quite possibly in a louder voice. Others will wait quietly then speak briefly but forcefully. Speaking at the end, after others speak is a distinct technique as it allows the person to take account of the useful information gained by listening to others. It also allows the powerful person to praise or criticise other speakers. As others have already spoken, it also allows the powerful person to close the conversation or change topic.

iii. CONCISELY, when speaking, powerful people will interrupt more. When they want to speak, they will speak rather than waiting politely for others to end. Speaking when they want is an example of how powerful people will break rules. Powerful people will also touch others, breaking rules of ‘no touch’. This needs to be done with care and within stricter cultural rules, for example touching only on the arm, back and shoulders. Stronger rule-breaking may include patting on the head and gripping the other person.

iv. HONESTLY, rule-breaking may be deliberate, to demonstrate the person’s power. It may also enhance power, for example when they interrupt another person, thus showing they are more powerful, pushing themselves up the hierarchy and the other person down. Rule-breaking may also be unthinking as the powerful person is so accustomed to getting what they want that without criticism, they may act like a bull in a china shop, damaging all around them. On the other hand, they may use it as a spare and deliberate signal, showing that by breaking a rule once they can choose to do it at any time they like.

v. IN all measures and perspectives, when less powerful people trust more powerful people they may be putting themselves in danger, and if conflict arises between them the powerful person will likely win. Less powerful people consequently are less trusting of more powerful people. In the reverse case, powerful people know they punish others if they are not trustworthy and that they have the means to extricate themselves from a damaging situation. In consequence there is less risk for them to trust and so they trust more.

vi. NOTABLY, people with less power may be harmed by people with power so they think carefully before speaking to powerful people. And because powerful people do not have to worry about what others might think about them, they think less before speaking. Also, because they have the power to change decisions, they often think less before making decisions. On the other hand, if the decision might affect their power then they will be more cautious. For example a rich person will spend a smaller sum (which seems large to the average person) with impunity, whilst they will be more cautious spending large sums.

vii. ESSENTIALLY, people with a focus on power may also think more, deliberately using the methods in this article in order to signal that they are powerful. Power is often ceded by those who perceive they are less powerful, and this response may be purposely prompted.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
If you want to be seen as powerful, try using some of the above methods. Also watch for others who are playing power games and seek to avoid or handle those who would use you to boost their power.

15. WE TALK ABOUT ‘WILL’ AND ‘WILL POWER’, BUT WHAT IS IT?--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MUNIFICENTLY, will is about consciously choosing something. It is a thoughtful act. The act of conscious will is often in contradiction to subconsciously-driven urges, such as the addictive need to smoke. Free will is the principle that everyone has the potential to make their own decisions and believe whatever they wish, no matter what state of subjugation they are in or what little other power they have.

ii. ARDENT individual will implies motivation. A person with strong self-will can do things that in other ways they do not want to do, for example giving up smoking. It is about determination, persevering in the face of adversity.

iii. CONSIDER will as domination. When two people argue or differ in some way, in particular when one is seeking to control another, then will appears as a conflict, whereby the person with the greatest will-power wins (for example getting the other to change or refusing to change). This is often talked about as a ‘battle of wills’ and may be compared with the internal battle of will as individual motivation.

iv. HAPPILY, will is conscious choice. True, some people find it more easy to be determined than others, yet it is still possible to increase or strengthen your will-power. In the first place treat your body well. Research has linked blood glucose to self-control. Levels of this is related to diet and times of the day, so eat well and notice when you are tired and more energetic. Use things like energy drinks to boost your glucose when you want to be more wilful. Research has also shown that meditation helps develop the parts of the brain that deal with decision-making and confidence.

v. INDULGE in enhancing your self-esteem. The place to start is inside. Understand what you think about yourself. Know that you are equal under the heavens to all other people. Respect yourself in the way that all people deserve. Find ways to show yourself that you are worthy. Even great people need to know this. Do small things and bigger things, from meditation to helping others. Find ways just to be happy.

vi. NURTURE to begin with yourself by practicing on yourself using will power. Think positively. Decide to do something or not do something and then doggedly stick to it. Make it small, for example going to bed or getting up at certain times. Start easy and move on up. When you are going to procrastinate, pause and act now. Laugh and feel good immediately. If you are trying to avoid something, it can be helpful to find some distraction. If you are seeking to give up smoking, put the packet away. Better: do not buy cigarettes in the first place. A great exercise is to open the packet and break them all into little pieces.

vii. EVENTUALLY move on and practice on other people. Start small, for example in training the dog or by asking people for small things. Feel good whenever it works and ignore it when it does not. Persist in this. Gradually ask for bigger things and do not give in easily. Make bolder demands rather than timid requests. Enjoy each challenge as it comes along.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
To develop your will-power, work on yourself first and then practice, practice. With success, your confidence will grow. And do remember to focus on success - it is a trap to take failure as evidence that you can never succeed. You only fail when you stop, and you can always persist.

16. HARDLY NOTICED WORDS - STAND OUT - HAVE SPECIAL POWER--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MASTERING God words. Sometimes words arise in a society or even across societies which, like a God, demand absolute obedience. When they are invoked, you rebuke them at your peril. If I say ‘Racial equality is important’ then you will be taking your LIFE in your hands to say ‘No, racial equality is not important’. God words often indicate beliefs, attitudes and values, which can be utilised by the attentive persuader. For example if I hear you talking about people being hurt, I might deduce that you have a strong value about safety and hence sell you a car based on its airbags and crumple zones. There is even a word for it: when words become ‘canonised’, they become unchallengeable, in a similar way that a particularly good person is canonised into sainthood. What about ‘In’ words? Within companies and specific social groups, if I say ‘this is profitable’ to an executive, he or she will be hard put to turn me down. God words can indicate attitude and can even take the form of apparently meaningless utterances. ‘Yo!’ can invoke (and even demand) a positive can-do excitement. Here now flows God talks jargon. These are words which can very often be God words, as they have special meaning to closed groups. Invoking them both has a special meaning and tells others you are a member of the group. As a policeman walks past a group of youths, one might mutter ‘Pig’ under his breath. This sends a strong signal to the others, reminding them of their ‘outlaw’ attitude, binding them more closely together and raising the utterer’s standing within the group for risking the ire of the lawman (for whom ‘Pig’ may be a devil word).

ii. ABOUT awful Devil words! Just as God terms give you power, there are also words which will sap your power. Using these in a positive sense is taking your LIFE in your hands as they may well provoke others to anger. Saying ‘sexual harassment is not that important’ may well make you a subject of attack (and even people who agree with you will quietly distance themselves from you). Devil words are so repulsive and so scary, people will quickly turn away from them. The mere thought of being associated with them (or, worse, being seen to be associated with them) is enough to make most people run a mile in record time. These words are thus useful for attaching to the things which you want people to avoid. If I say ‘Brown is so unfashionable’ to my daughter who is looking at an expensive brown dress, she will almost immediately drop the dress and move away.

iii. CONSIDER non-PC words. Non-Politically-Correct words were once quite acceptable, but as society’s values changed and people realised that they were using something unacceptable, it made them run even harder away from them. BEYOND non-PC words, variations can easily become pejorative and intended to insult, denigrate and belittle. Such words are even more emotionally charged and will provoke others into strong reaction - which may be the intent of those using the words. Insults are considered to be less socially acceptable when they are targeted at lower status and vulnerable people. This is one reason why words associated with ethnicity can cause a significant response, particularly from those who consider themselves defenders of the vulnerable. Words may even be invented or subverted with the deliberate purpose of insult. Paradoxically, words that have been originated or subverted as insults to particular social segments may be used within that segment in a jokey way, while the same people would be horrified if an outsider used the same word. This both neutralises the power of the word to some extent and also sends an in-group confirmation message. Further, when we want to talk about socially unacceptable words we often use euphemisms or other oblique references that let us indicate but not say the prohibited word. A common approach is to use the initial letter, for example when we talk about the ‘n-word’ or the ‘c-word’.

iv. HOVERING between God and Devil words are words that invoke particular effects on other people and can make you appear to have a mystical persuasive charisma. Call them Charisma words. Sales books are full of these words and each list is different. They are sold as magical sales secrets based on years of research, but you can easily invent your own. All you do is take a basic need and find words which trigger the need (the stronger the better) in the person to who you are talking. Thus, for example, you can use:
===>Safety-oriented words: guaranteed, safe, secure, sound, healthy, strong.
===>Greed-oriented words: cash, deserve, money, more, free.
===>Control-oriented words: easy, quick, discover, proven, best, grab.
===>Belonging/Identity-oriented words: you, love, good, approved, favorite, new.
===>Trust-oriented words: certain, good, proven, real, right, scientific, sure, truth.

v. IT is recommended here to notice how these are all positive words, as they aim to invoke good feelings. They are, as such, God-Charisma words. Words also can address more than one need (and most do). For example ‘easy’ also triggers greed and safety needs. You can also leverage negative emotions to scare people into action with Devil-Charisma words such as only (as in ‘only two days left!’) risky and dark. Moreover, the power effect of the words you use depend on the context within which you use them. ‘Profit’ is very likely to be a God word in most companies, yet in the public services it may well be a Devil word, being taken as an indication of all that is bad about our selfish society. Words also sit within the context of other words within the sentence. Thus ‘This is profitable’ is nowhere near as powerful as ‘How much more profit will this make you?’ Craft your speech with care and place your power words with even more care and you will become more and more persuasive!

vi. NOTABLE LISTS. Several lists have been given over the years which are interesting, although never ultimately definitive. One of the dilemmas of such lists is that without context, it is not clear where these are most powerful - in advertising, one might reasonably assume. They certainly seem to be able to add power, though the truth of being the most powerful words, as they are often quoted, is perhaps doubtful. Think of the Yale list. An oft-quoted set of power words is commonly attributed to a study at Yale, Duke or California Universities, although it was noted early in the Vidette Messenger in 1963: Easy, Results, Save, Discover, Guarantee, Safety, Health, Love, Money, Need, Proven, You.

vii. ESTEEM the Ogilvy’s advertising list. Advertising guru David Ogilvy gave a list that appeared in his book “Confessions of An Advertising Man”: Suddenly, Now, Announcing, Introducing, Improvement, Amazing, Sensational, Remarkable, Revolutionary, Startling, Miracle, Magic, Offer, Quick, Easy, Wanted, Challenge, Compare, Bargain, Hurry. Wells’ children’s list is also persuasive. Controversially, researcher William Wells identified words and phrases in 1965 that were most effective with children: Free, Remarkable, Offer, Hurry, New, Revolutionary, Quick, Advice to, Suddenly, Startling, Easy, The truth about, Now, Miracle, Wanted ,Last chance, Announcing, Magic, Challenge, It’s here, Introducing, Improvement, Compare, Just arrived, Sensational, Amazing bargain, Important development.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
In practice, of course, there is no real magic. The words may well influence others, but just by uttering or writing them you are not guaranteed that they will make any difference. If you are going to use power words effectively, then they should have a subtle effect. Look at the following sentence: “Our new and exclusive products give instant, proven results and come with a free, money-back guarantee, strongly recommended by TVI. Apply now for this limited offer to discover these amazing benefits.” Overloading sentences with power words is like a teenage boy spraying on large amounts of scent in the hope of attracting more girls. The main effect on most people is that it is so obvious that it engenders either scorn or anger. The ultimate measure of power words is the intentional depth of emotion they trigger, typically in feelings that drive action, such as desire, greed and fear.

17. QUESTIONS TO ASK TEAM MEMBERS TO KEEP THEM FOCUSED--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MANY are times when we are encouraged to “lead by example,” and that through your explanations of various tasks at hand or answers to conundrums, your team members will grow. While good leaders may voice a solution when a problem rears its ugly head, great leaders ask their teams how to solve it.

ii. ARDENTLY, by framing a problem around appropriate questions, your team will discover the right answers on its own terms, rather than simply being told. This fosters ownership, autonomy, and feelings of success – all crucial ingredients toward a healthy and productive group.

iii. CANDIDLY, but interestingly enough, the act of asking (as opposed to answering) questions is more difficult and requires a tremendous amount of logical, tactical thinking on your part. It is often said that while anyone can notice wrong answers, it takes the creative person to notice the wrong questions.

iv. HAVING positioned a challenge in a way that your employees have a chance to figure it out on their own terms, you will have gifted them the ability to truly absorb the information for next time. Days, months, or even years from now, those employees will then be able to recall events from this problem-solving experience as a pattern to repeat as needed.

v. IN order to get started ask: What is everyone thinking, but nobody has the courage to say? If this venture/project/new hire turns out to be a failure in a year, what will be the root cause? If we were going to take that up an order of magnitude, then what would it look like? If someone was going to come along and put us out of business, what would he or she do? What if we did the opposite?

vi. NOTABLY take your biggest concern. Ask “why.” Then repeat asking “why” four more times. If we were not going to behave, what would we do? What are the three things that are holding us back right now? If there were zero chance of failure, what would we do? What if it was an AND, and not an OR?

vii. ESSENTIALLY are we focusing on preserving the problem to which we are a solution? Or are we innovating our way to success? If we could start over with a blank slate, what would we do differently? What do you need from me in order to help you reach your full potential?

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
In this way, it is no different than the age-old parable that if you give a person a fish, he or she will eat for the day, but if you teach him or her to fish, you have fed him or her for a lifetime. If it is the case for our basic survival mechanisms – that we must learn to do something on our own – it is clearly applicable with our creativity, innovation, and problem-solving abilities. By involving your team members they will absorb the same skill sets needed later in their careers, no different than fishing.

18. STRATEGIES TO INSPIRE AND BUILD TRUST WITHIN YOUR TEAM--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MEANINGFUL trust is flexibility. Trust allows you to achieve more than you ever thought you could. Trust lubricates relationships and provides freedom of movement necessary for great team achievements. Without trust, just like the moving parts of a car, your team will either break down or rust.

ii. ACTUALLY, if you continue to attempt great achievements, friction between members will cause the team to overheat and lock up. If you give in to the inertia, your team will simply coast until it stops and begins to rust. Either way, achievements will just become too difficult. At critical moments, someone will not be available or misfortune will mysteriously occur. To avoid either the breakdown or the rust out, you must do things to keep the parts working together and maintain flexibility.

iii. CREATIVELY, give win first. No one ever created a win-win relationship without letting the other person win first. If you refuse to let the other person win, you force everyone to contract and withdraw. Listen and learn. Attention, focus and time are scarce commodities. Consider how much (or little) time you spend focused on a single activity or person. Actively listen to others and work to understand them twice as long as normal today.

iv. HONESTLY appreciate and value others. Simply forcing yourself to listen and focus does not mean you will learn. Appreciation is the point at which you engage. Bring energy to maintain the connection with others out of your own internal desire. Appreciating and valuing another person builds trust. Remember what you hear and see. If you appreciate something, you will process and consider it in a way that will help you remember. As you remember what you hear and see, others rest more in their understanding of you, and that builds trust.

v. INCISIVELY trust others. Nothing betrays trust more than the lack of trust. Most often, people who will not trust others do so because they can not be trusted either. If you would never steal from someone else, why are you always afraid the other person will steal from you? Trust first. Find solutions. Begin with the belief that the other person can succeed. Do not tell them their idea will not work. Help create ways to make them successful.

vi. NOURISHINGLY make a sacrifice. Sometimes the solution to someone else’s problem is a sacrifice on your part. Be willing to be the solution to your teammate’s problems. Learn from your mistakes. Do not make the same mistake twice. People will forgive errors made by genuine people attempting to do the right thing. Work hard to avoid repeat mistakes.

vii. ENDEAVOR to make it right. Even though errors can erode trust, you build trust when you fix a mistake well. Be proactive and do the right thing. Give generous credit and praise. People want to matter. If you help people be important and valuable, you become valuable. Do what you say. It all comes down to this. If you are not capable of delivering, people will like you but not trust you to lead.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Act like an owner and take care of your team. If you do not do the routine maintenance, your team will not be able to perform when the opportunity arises.

19. PLEASING EVERYONE, BUT MAKING CRITICISM CONSTRUCTIVE--->

“If you are getting kicked in the rear it means you are out front.” What is meant by this phrase is that if you are going to be a leader, you are going to be criticized. So get used to it. The price of leadership is criticism. No one pays much attention to the last-place finishers. But when you are in front, everything gets noticed. So it is important to learn to handle criticism constructively.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MERRILY know yourself. Aristotle said, “Criticism is something you can avoid easily — by saying nothing, doing nothing and being nothing.” You should realise that if you are going to lead, there would be tough decisions that are going to make some people upset. Ask yourself: Do I want to make people happy or do I really want to lead? Understand clearly that you have to begin to know who you are. You should know that when people tell you that they have something for your own good they have nothing good to tell you! Yet, it is these conversations that may help you learn much about yourself, including your weaknesses. You ought to realise that what you need to hear most is what you want to hear the least. And some of the best people who ever entered your LIFE to teach you something may be your critics, not your friends.

ii. ASSERTIVELY change yourself. In the process of handling criticism effectively, you not only need to know yourself but you have to change yourself. Aldous Huxley said, “The truth that makes you free is, for the most part, the truth we would prefer not to hear.” The John Maxwell translation of this is simple: You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you mad. Here are the questions to ask yourself to determine whether criticism is constructive or destructive. Who criticized me? Adverse criticism from a wise person is more desirable than the enthusiastic approval of a fool. How was it given? Were the words judgmental or did they give me the benefit of the doubt? In other words, what was the spirit in which the criticism was given? Why was it given? Was it given to inflict a personal hurt or for my benefit?

iii. CONSIDER Jonas Salk, who discovered the polio vaccine. He had many critics in spite of his grand accomplishments. He once made this interesting observation: “People will tell you that you are wrong. Then they will tell you that you are right, but what you are doing is really not important. Finally, they will admit that you are right and what you are doing is very important. But after all, they knew it all the time.” Regardless whether the criticism was legitimate or not, your attitude toward words you do not want to hear determines whether you will grow from them or groan beneath them. Therefore, you should be determined to not be defensive when criticized, to look for the grain of truth, make the necessary changes and take the high road.

iv. HONESTY accept yourself. Listen to this lovely definition of maturity by Dear Abby, “Maturity is the ability to stick with the job until it is finished, the ability to do the job without being supervised, the ability to carry money without spending it, and the ability to bear an injustice without wanting to get even.” Maturity also enables you to accept yourself, which is a critical step in becoming a better person.

v. IT was Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Leo Buscaglia counselled, “The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be.” If you worry about what people think of you, it is because you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own. Judith Bardwick said, “Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself — your strengths and limitations — in contrast to depending on affirmation from others.”

vi. NURTURE forgeting yourself. While we are growing up, a lot of us spend a good deal of time worrying about what the world thinks of us. By the time we reach 60, we realise the world was not paying much attention. Secure people forget themselves so they can focus on others. This allows us to be secure enough to take criticism and even serve the critic. Secure people know who they are. They know they make mistakes and have weaknesses, but they do not have to lower themselves to the level of what is being said about them. Secure people do not have to defend themselves. And those who have reached this fourth stage also find it easy to laugh at themselves.

vii. ENTERTAIN yourself humorously by making fun of yourself. There is a Chinese proverbs which says, “Blessed are those who can laugh at themselves. They shall never cease to be entertained.” As everyone knows, the size of the crowd the day they bury you will be dependent on the weather. Next, what do they do after they put you in the ground? Yes, 30 minutes after you are buried, the biggest question on the minds of your family and friends is how to get to the community center the fastest to make sure they get some potato salad.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
When it comes to criticism, it is important to first understand that half of the stuff people say about you is true. So just take inventory, suck it up and change yourself. And the other half they say about you is not — they are just revealing issues in their own lives. If you know yourself, you will know what you are good at and what you are not. Start changing the things that are real and forget yourself so that you can focus on others. Because the criticism will never stop. If you are able to accept yourself, criticism will not have a negative effect in your LIFE.

20. PSYCHOLOGY OF PERSUASION: THE SIX LAWS OF INFLUENCE--->

Diplomacy is the art of letting someone have his or her own way. There are three sides to any argument: your side, my side and the right side. ALWAYS and NEVER are two words you should ALWAYS remember NEVER to use. “You can close more business in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you”, so said Dale Carnegie.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MASTER THE LAW OF SCARCITY. Availability gets limited if items becomes more valuable to us. Scarcity determines the value of an item. For example if a customer is told that an item is in short supply which will soon run out they are more likely to buy it. Time also works here. A time limit is placed on the customers opportunity to buy something. Customers are told by the seller that unless they buy immediately, the price will increase next week.

ii. AUCTIONS such as ebay create a buyer frenzy often resulting in higher prices than the object’s value. If something is expensive, we tend to assume that it must be of high quality because it is in demand: one jewellery shop doubled the priced of its items and were surprised to find that sales increased! For example, if you let an interviewer know that you have other interviews coming up, they will be more interested in you as you are perceived as a sought after candidate.

iii. CHANNEL THE LAW OF RECIPROCITY. If you give something to people, they feel compelled to return the favour. People feel obliged to return a favour when somebody does something for them first. They feel bad if they do not reciprocate. “You scratch my back and I will scratch yours”. After someone has turned down a large request, they are very likely to agree to a smaller request. This is why shop staff are trained to show the most expensive item first. A salesman who suggested a 3 year warranty costing USD100 found that most customers refused but were then happy to buy 1 year warranty costing USD30.

iv. HONOUR THE LAW OF AUTHORITY. We are more likely to comply with someone who is (or resembles) an authority. In other words, people prefer to take advice from “experts”. There is a deep seated duty to authority within us learned from parents, school, religious authorities etc.

v. INTERNALIZE THE LAW OF LIKING. We are more inclined to follow the lead of someone who is similar to us rather than someone who is dissimilar. We learn better from people who are similar to us. We are more likely to help people who dress like us, are the same age as us, or have similar backgrounds and interests. We even prefer people whose names are similar to ours. For this reason, sales trainers teach trainees to mirror and match the customer’s body posture, mood and verbal style. Research has found that people more easily remember faces of their own race, age group or gender than those of others. It is also very important to remember and use people’s names. Others are much more likely to like you and respond to you if you say “Hello Sarah” rather than just “Hello”.

vi. NOTE THE LAW OF SOCIAL PROOF. We view a behaviour as more likely to be correct, the more we see others performing it. We assume that if a lot of people are doing the same thing, they must know something that we do not. Especially when we are uncertain, we are more likely to trust in the collective knowledge of the crowd. This explains herd or lemming behaviour. For example when there is panic in the stock market everyone follows everyone else and sells, however great investors such as Warren Buffett, know that this is the time when the best bargains are to be had, and instead, buy.

vii. EMULATE THE LAW OF COMMITMENT AND CONSISTENCY. Consistency is seen as desirable as it is associated with strength, honesty, stability and logic. Inconsistent people may be seen as two-faced, indecisive and “butterflies”: never committing themselves for long enough to complete tasks. People will do more to stay consistent with their commitments and beliefs if they have already taken a small initial step. If you can get someone to do you a small favour, they are more likely to grant you a larger favour later on. If someone does you a favour, let them know afterwards what happened: they will appreciate your feedback and may be able to help you further in future. We evaluate a university more positively when we have got into it or a car we have bought when we own it. We look for the good points in the choice we have made or items we have bought as this justifies to ourselves our consistency of choice.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Learn to internalise these laws and make them a part of your PSYCHE and you will be comfortable in this world.

21. HEIGHTENING YOUR RESPECT AND RESPONSIBILITY AT WORK--->

Most of us strive to become leaders. We want to do something great, be respected by our comrades, make more money and acquire more responsibility. Overall, we want to make a difference at our job. However, most of us simply do not know the proper way to gain heightened respect, confidence and admiration from those whom we work with. In reality, there is no simple answer to leadership. It takes devotion, time and patience. BEYONDISM outlines traits that many sales and marketing headhunters look for in leaders, along with some exercises to enhance your influence and responsibility at work.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MOST importantly, it takes knowledge. Without a firm understanding of what makes someone more influential, you cannot begin to alter your beliefs, and practices accordingly. Though, once aware of the traits that make someone more authoritative, you can formulate a plan to improve upon lacking areas and alter the behaviours preventing you from achieving management and executive status.

ii. ACCUMULATE strength. Begin to carry yourself with poise and confidence. People are drawn to confidence and shy away from nervousness, lack of authenticity and insecurity. How you feel about yourself will dictate your ability to lead and command authority. Essentially, if you do not feel you are important and deserving, do not expect your co-workers to. If you have come across as anxious and unassertive with your co-workers in the past, do not focus on these shortcomings. Your co-workers, like anyone else will have a short memory and so should you. From now on, think of the prior experiences as a learning tool rather than a future forecaster.

iii. CHALLENGE the negative beliefs you have about yourself. Instead of focusing all your energy on what you do not like about you, give equal weight to all your positive qualities. Focus on past successes rather than failures. Do not mull over what you have done incorrectly. It is more productive to think about all the things you have done right in the past. Reinforce these thoughts repeatedly. Stop always needing to be right. Understand there is nothing shameful about past work mistakes. Stop looking to others for acceptance and happiness. Learn that you do not need anyone’s approval for your own self-confidence. Let go of any anger that you are holding on to. Anger and resentment will prove a significant barrier to you becoming a leader at work.

iv. HONE positive energy. Leaders show positive energy and optimism, showering their people with a can-do attitude. This outlook draws co-workers to them and paves the way for influence, respect and admiration from others. In terms of leadership, positive energy has a multitude of benefits and is nothing short of a crucial component. When you are positive, you think in terms of solutions, not problems, you inspire risk taking, tend to be more resilient and think more clearly. Moreover, you are more assertive and your candor allows for quicker, more open communication amongst the other employees. This is the foundation of strong leadership.

v. INSPIRINGLY being passionate about your job means possessing a heartfelt, deep and authentic excitement about work. This excitement is infectious and naturally will draw others to your way of thinking. People follow positivity, effectiveness, intelligence and resiliency. All of which are byproducts of loving what you do. Until you learn to love work, you can not hope to display the necessary positive energy leadership requires. Either proactively search for the perfect employment or train yourself to become more passionate in your current job. Regardless, make a firm decision to stay or leave and follow through with it.

vi. NOTABLY increase your performance. Leaders do everything possible to increase the effectiveness of their work. They put in the extra time and sincerely enjoy what they do partly because others admire their efforts. Think about what is going right rather than obsessing about your problems. Understand that no job is going to be perfect and create a reality that is more upbeat and success focused. Stop focusing on what people “owe” you and begin focusing on what you can do to standout.

vii. EFFECTIVE leaders are selfless. They are more interested in group achievements as opposed to chasing their own goals. By consistently pouring out encouragement, caring and recognition, your co-workers will become more drawn to you. Regardless of whether or not you are management, take every opportunity to inject self-confidence into those who earned it.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Most significant things at work and in LIFE require work, study and most important, practice. Leadership is no different. Understand that no one is born a leader. Rather, they decide to mould themselves into one.

22. MOVING FROM BEING COMPETENT, TO BECOMING REMARKABLE--->

To motivate your team to achieve the highest levels of performance (and create an extraordinary organisation in the process) here are the qualities you should model every day. Many leaders are competent but few qualify as remarkable. If you want to join the ranks of the best of the best, make sure you embody all these qualities all the time. It is not easy, but the rewards can be truly phenomenal. At the core center of leadrship is awareness. There is a difference between management and employees, bosses and workers. Leaders understand the nature of this difference and accept it; it informs their image, their actions, and their communication. They conduct themselves in a way that sets them apart from their employees - not in a manner that suggests they are better than others, but in a way that permits them to retain an objective perspective on everything that is going on in their organisation.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MUNIFICENT decisiveness. All leaders must make tough decisions that goes with the job. They understand that in certain situations, difficult and timely decisions must be made in the best interests of the entire organisation, decisions that require a firmness, authority, and finality that will not please everyone. Extraordinary leaders do not hesitate in such situations. They also know when not to act unilaterally but instead foster collaborative decision-making.

ii. AFFLUENT empathy. Extraordinary leaders praise in public and address problems in private; a genuine concern. The best leaders guide employees through challenges, always on the lookout for solutions to foster the long-term success of the organisation. Rather than making things personal when they encounter problems, or assigning blame to individuals, leaders look for constructive solutions and focus on moving forward.

iii. CONCISE accountability. Extraordinary leaders take responsibility for everyone’s performance, including their own. They follow up on all outstanding issues, check in on employees, and monitor the effectiveness of company policies and procedures. When things are going well, they praise. When problems arise, they identify them quickly, seek solutions, and get things back on track.

iv. HEIGHTENED confidence. Not only are the best leaders confident, but their confidence is contagious. Employees are naturally drawn to them, seek their advice, and feel more confident as a result. When challenged, they do not give in too easily, because they know their ideas, opinions and strategies are well-informed and the result of much hard work. But when proven wrong they take responsibility and quickly act to improve the situations within their authority.

v. INSURMOUNTABLE optimism. The very best leaders are source of positive energy. They communicate easily. They are intrinsically helpful and genuinely concerned for other people’s welfare. They always seem to have a solution and always know what to say to inspire and reassure. They avoid personal criticism and pessimistic thinking, and look for ways to gain consensus and get people to work together efficiently and effectively as a team.

vi. NOURISHING honesty. Strong leaders treat people how they want to be treated. They are extremely ethical and believe that honesty, effort, and reliability form the foundation of success. They embody these values so overtly that no employee doubts their integrity for a minute. They share information openly and avoid spin control.

vii. ENTRENCHED focus. Extraordinary leaders plan ahead and they are supremely organised. They think through multiple scenarios and the possible impacts of their decisions, while considering viable alternatives and making plans and strategies-all targeted toward success. Once prepared, they establish strategies, processes, and routines so that high performance is tangible, easily defined, and monitored. They communicate their plans to key players and have contingency plans in the event last-minute changes require a new direction (which they often do).

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Put it all together and what emerges is a picture of the truly inspiring leader: someone who communicates clearly, concisely, and often, and by doing so motivates everyone to give their best all the time. They challenge their people by setting high but attainable standards and expectations, and then giving them the support, tools, training, and latitude to pursue those goals and become the best employees they can possibly be.

23. DEFTLY MOTIVATING SOMEONE USING ‘REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY’--->

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MOTIVATING someone to do something by telling him or her to do the exact opposite of it, is using reverse psychology. For example telling your friend “I bet you can not arrive before 6” might motivate him or her to do the opposite just to prove you wrong. Reverse psychology is a dangerous weapon because if the person you are dealing with realised that you were trying to manipulate him or her, he or she might not be able to trust you again.

ii. ACTUALLY, that is why reverse psychology should only be used on the person’s subconscious mind and not his or her conscious mind. Thus in order for reverse psychology to be used properly, you must 1) make that person think that you really believe in your words, and 2) let him or her understand that you are not saying anything to manipulate him or her.

iii. CRITICALLY, when do you use reverse psychology? Let us suppose that you got bad grades. If your parents tell you something like “You will never get higher grades” might ruin your self confidence, make you believe that its really impossible and create a new false belief in your mind that affects your personality. After all if you kept telling someone that he or she is bad or dishonest you might program his or her mind to believe that these traits are parts of his or her personality and that he or she can not do any better.

iv. HONESTLY, reverse psychology must only be used when the person knows the actions he or she should take in order to reach the goals that you want him or her to reach. Telling a child something like “I bet you can never finish your homework tonight” is much more effective and healthier than telling him “you will never get good grades”.

v. INTRICATELY, how do you use reverse psychology on people? Not every person will respond to reverse psychology, for example, those who lack self confidence might actually take your defeating statements and make from them new limiting beliefs that makes them become even worse. Reverse psychology should be used with narcissists, stubborn people, Type A personalities and those who have inflated egos.

vi. NOW, you can for instance use reverse psychology against those types of people who can help you in preserving your relationship with them and even in making them love you. By simply telling a lover or a spouse that people are anticipating that you both are going to breakup, you will ignite his or her fighting spirit and one will do one’s best to keep you.

vii. EVENTUALLY, once you have managed to challenge someone’s dormant ego, without letting him or her notice that you are doing it on intention, you will be able to make that person do whatever you want.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Using Reverse Psychology requires a deeper understanding of the person you are targeting, and the prevailing situation. Use it awkwardly and it will turn against you. You will demotivate other than motivating.

24. HOW TO CONVINCE ANYONE OF ANYTHING, MOST OF THE TIME--->

Developing the powers of persuasion, will help you get ahead in business and personal relationships. Whether you want to convince a client to make a big purchase or convince your parents to let you stay out later on the weekends, learning to construct a solid argument, style that argument, and understand the person you are arguing with, you can learn to convince anyone of anything.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MAKING Good Arguments implies first you do your homework. Make sure you understand your own viewpoint, whether it is a subjective issue like whether you are trying to convince your parents to let you stay out later, or whether you are arguing about a moral issue, like capital punishment. Find out the facts first, without making any assumptions about the other person’s point of view. If you are selling something, like a car, you will need to know all there is to know about the car you are selling. Likewise, you will need to know all about the other cars that are in competition with your vehicle. Second, define the terms of the discussion. For certain arguments you may need to know more than just the facts. Do not waste time arguing about whether or not the Eiffel tower is pretty if you are trying to establish that it is iconic. Define your terms. Is it a moral issue? An aesthetic issue? An issue of personal rights and freedoms? For example, if you wanted to convince somebody that the Statue of Liberty was prettier than the Eiffel Tower, you will need to know enough of about architecture and aesthetics to argue about that subject, as well as the facts, like how tall each structure is, who designed each, and what set of criteria should be used to weigh the options.

ii. AFFIRMATIVELY develop your reasoning. Making a good argument is like building a table - you want the main point to be held up by supporting reasoning like a table being held up by its legs. If you do not have that supporting reasoning and evidence, your table is just a piece of wood. Just as in an essay you would craft a thesis statement, you need to define and articulate the main point you are trying to make and assemble supporting evidence that backs it up. If your main point is “Modern art is boring,” what are your reasons for this proclamation? Are you basing your argument on the motivation of the artists? The inscrutability of the work? On the lack of popularity among “regular” people? Come up with your reasons and your point will be stronger.

iii. COMPELLINGLY back up your reasoning with vivid examples and evidence. You need to use memorable and striking details that will illustrate your points for you. If you want to convince someone the Beatles are the greatest band of all time, it will be tough going if you can not remember the name of “that one album” you like, or if you can not listen to any of the music to provide a common reference while you are having the discussion. Give an inch and gain a mile. Accepting one lesser point from the other person and showing that you can change your mind, and that you have mutual agreements in the matter will open up the other person to your side of things. If you are willing to concede certain points in the discussion to win the overall argument, you have the stronger position. The difference between discussions and arguments is that an argument has escalated past rationality and is driven by ego. One of you does not want to be wrong and you have decided you are going to keep pissing on the other’s feet until one of you slips.

iv. HAPPILY Styling Your Argument entails being as confident as you are assertive. We are drawn to confidence, and there is nothing you can do to bolster your point of view more than presenting it with conviction and the presumption of proof. No matter what you are trying to prove, if you believe it, you will help your cause. Being assertive does not mean being unwavering and aggressive. Let yourself be confident in your side of the argument, but be open to alternatives. Cast yourself as an expert in the subject by using good examples and solid reasoning and make it easy for the other person to believe you. To convince someone that your perspective about the Beatles is valid, you are going to have to first make it seem as if you know what you are talking about when it comes to music.

v. INDEED make it personal. While anecdotal evidence can be considered a logical fallacy, appealing to someone’s sense of empathy and pathos by telling a personal anecdote related to the topic can be quite convincing. It does not necessarily “prove” what you are saying, but it might be enough to be convincing. If you want to convince someone that the death penalty is “wrong,” you are going to have to appeal to their sense of morality, an inherently emotional argument. Learn stories of wrongfully-imprisoned people on death row and tell their story in a harrowing way, emphasising the inhumanity of the system. Stay calm. Raving like a lunatic is a poor way to convince anyone you are right. Being confident in the facts that you are presenting, in the evidence you are using to support your claims, and in the perspective you are bringing to the table will make it easy for anyone to be convinced of your points.

vi. NOTABLY Understanding Your Opponent means shutting up and listening. The person who talks the most does not necessarily win an argument, or convince anyone of anything. Learning to listen courteously is the most underutilised way of constructing arguments. While it may not seem like an active way to be convincing, taking the time to learn someone else’s points will allow you to convince them of alternatives. Learn to recognise their goals, beliefs, and motivations that guide their point of view. Engage the person politely. Maintain eye contact, use an even tone of voice, and remain calm throughout the discussion. Ask questions and practice active listening while the other person is talking. Never interrupt them in the middle of a sentence and always be courteous. Establishing mutual respect is critical. You will never convince anybody of anything if they believe you do not respect them, so show the person you respect them and be good enough to gain their respect.

vii. EMPATHETICALLY identify the other person’s objections and motivations. If you know what another person wants, you are more likely to be able to give it to them. When you have identified the motivations behind their point of view, rephrase your beliefs in a way that the other person is better able to understand. An argument about gun control may be focused on larger issues of freedom and personal responsibility. Discuss those issues instead of the particular. Ask questions of your opponent to get them to see the same gaps in thinking that you are noticing.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Empathise and relate to their point of view, conceding points where necessary, but keeping your eye on changing their mind. If you work them into a corner of logic they can not escape from, you will have convinced them, and they will have accepted that it is ok to agree with you and change their mind, if you are a courteous conversationalist.

25. SWAYING FOLKS TOWARDS A NEW BELIEF OR UPDATED WISDOM--->

Convincing someone to believe you is all about convincing him or her to either accept a new belief or update his or her knowledge or beliefs about an existing idea. Not all people will accept your ideas from the first attempt but the good news is that there are rules that can increase your chance of convincing other people to believe you. If the person you want to convince has prior knowledge or experience about what you are trying to convince him or her with, then your primary goal is to shake his or her beliefs and to prove him or her wrong. After doing that you can present him or her with your own idea. If the person does not have a previous idea about that thing then you can just start by telling him or her about your beliefs right away.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MEANINGFULLY, before learning how to convince someone to believe in something or to accept your idea you should first know the reasons that generally make people oppose ideas and new beliefs. The first critical factor is belief conflict. If one of your friends told you that the earth does not orbit the sun, what will be your response? Of course you will not believe him or her since you already know that all nine planets orbit the sun. You already have an opposing belief and that is why you did not believe him or her. So the first obstacle that faced your friend when he or she tried to convince you to believe in his or her idea was your belief system.

ii. ASTUTELY, the greater a person’s knowledge about something the harder will it be to convince him or her. What do you think will happen if you tried to convince an astronomy professor that the sun is only 1000 km away from the earth? He will never believe you because he already has deep knowledge about the subject and he might provide you with scientific proofs that go against your claims. Thus the second obstacle to convincing people is their level of knowledge about the topic. As you may have already noticed, the first two obstacles (old beliefs and knowledge) can be grouped under one thing which is having another belief that contradicts with yours. As you prepare your attack weapons, be aware of skeptics. These are people who doubt almost everything and everyone. They never accept anything unless they are sure of it. If you are dealing with a skeptical person then this will add further difficulties.

iii. CONVINCING someone to believe in something is precisely in your power. Based on the previous obstacles we can come up with counter techniques that can increase the probability of your success when trying to convince someone. A vital technique is shaking his/her existing belief. The more assertive and confident you sound while talking about your belief the higher will be the possibility of shaking the other person’s belief about that thing (provided that he or she does not have much knowledge about it). Speak in a confident way, use confident body language gestures, use a confident tone of voice and you will find that the person is starting to doubt his or her own beliefs.

iv. HORRENDOUSLY undermine his/her knowledge base. Even if you were confident while talking, the person’s knowledge base could act as a barrier to convincing him or her with your ideas. That is why convincing a person that you know more than him or her is more important than convincing him or her with your idea itself. If you managed to convince the person that you know more than him or her then you will become a trusted source for his or her subconscious mind. As a result it will become much easier for you to program him or her (see subconscious mind programming for more information on this). You do not need magic to do this, you just have to be ready with proper documentation and solid facts. The more clear your evidence is and the more you will be able to undermine his or her own knowledge base the easier will it become to convince him or her with your point of view.

v. IDEALLY provide proofs for the skeptic. Contrary to common beliefs, skeptics can believe in anything provided that you give them clear evidence to support your idea. The more clues you can provide to strengthen your argument the less skeptic the other person will be and the easier will it be to convince him or her.

vi. NOTABLY program his/her subconscious mind. This can be done by repetition: the more a statement is repeated the more it can shake an already existing belief provided that 1) either the conscious mind is absent or 2) that the source of the idea is trusted. You can even program someone to fall in love with you, by repeating certain words or phrases. It is no magic, beliefs are formed by repetition and if you managed to repeat a certain belief enough times a person may actually start to believe in it too.

vii. ESSENTIALLY believing in your idea. Did you notice that when a person strongly believes in an idea he or she usually manages to convince others to believe in it too? The entrepreneur who believes that his or her idea is worthy usually succeeds in building a very good business. The more you believe in your idea the more confident and convincing you will sound when talking about it.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
You can program someone’s mind over time. Each time you meet him or her talk a little about your idea then leave him or her. The phrases you have said to him or her will not be removed by his or her subconscious mind but instead they will be stored until something reinforces them. For example, if you kept telling your friend that he or she is a poor driver, he or her may not believe you until he or she happens to have an accident. When this happens he or she will remember all of your comments about his or her driving skills and he or her will be convinced that you are right.

26. PHRASES THAT SHOULD ROLL OFF YOUR LIPS EVERY SINGLE DAY--->

People judge you by what you do - and by what you say. Your words are among your greatest tools. They are a window into your vision, your values and your abilities. So, whether you are running a giant organisation or just trying to herd a group toward a certain outcome, there are messages you need to communicate constantly in order to lead effectively. As a potent trigger, the most vital phrase is: “This is the situation.” People want to know what is going on. Odds are, they will find out anyway, or worse, fill in the gaps with conjecture. When you keep important things excessively close, you sap morale, rob yourself of your team’s insights, and make people feel undervalued. Start every day planning to say each of these things to at least one person, and watch the results.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MINCE these words regularly: “Here is the plan.” A leader is supposed to lead. People will offer great suggestions, especially if you are saying and doing everything else on this list, but you need to be able to make decisions and stand behind them. Your team needs to know where you are trying to take them, and how. Also, do not forget the crucial corollary: You need to be able to say “no,” especially to moves that would be inconsistent with your plan.

ii. ASK them frequently:“What do you need?” This is crucial for two reasons. First, people need to know that you care about them on personal and professional levels, and that you want them to succeed. Second, if you have put together a great plan, you need to leverage every person’s abilities to the maximum extent possible. If they are not able to give it their all, you want to know why.

iii. CONSTANTLY invoke them: “Tell me more.” Let people know you are more interested in finding good answers than hearing yourself speak. Give others implicit permission to share their opinions - or heck, invite them explicitly, if you have to. Staying quiet is an invitation for others to offer ideas and insights.

iv. HONESTLY prevail upon them: “Remember our values.” You can not possibly stare over the shoulder of every person making decisions that affect your organisation, but you can remind them to make choices that the rest of their team will be proud of. Reminding people of your values requires, of course, that you can actually articulate shared values.

v. IN various scenarios let them hear from you: “I trust you.” If you can not trust the people on your team, then they should not be on your team. You need to trust their integrity, their judgment, their confidence and their passion - and you need to ensure that they understand how much you depend on them.

vi. NOW and then remind them: “You can count on me.” The flip side of that last point is true as well. If your team can not trust you, they should not do you the great honour of letting you lead them. So tell them you have got their back, and then work like hell to fulfill the promises you make.

vii. ENDLESSLY tell them: “We can do better.” One of the toughest, most crucial parts of leadership is to push your team to a higher standard than they might set for themselves. That means congratulating them when they do well, but also not coddling them when they do not live up to their potential. It also means admitting when you fail to live up to those standards, too.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Do not create a culture in which the only reward for great work is more work. Instead, make it a practice to celebrate your wins, both large and small. This can mean big parties and bonuses, but it can be just as important to call people out for great work and congratulate them for their milestones - both professional and personal.

27. PERSUADIING MOST PEOPLE WITH SUBCONSCIOUS TECHNIQUES--->

Persuasiveness is an important skill everyone should learn because it is useful in countless situations. At work, home, and in your social life, the ability to be persuasive and influence others can be instrumental for achieving goals and being happy. Learning about the tricks of persuasion can also give you insight into when they are being used on you. The biggest benefit of this is that money will stay in your pocket as you realise just how sales people and advertisers sell you products that you do not necessarily need. Here are several techniques that work on a subconscious level.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MASTER the use framing to influence thought. “The glass is half empty.” That is how a pessimist would “frame” the objective fact of a half a glass of water. Framing is simply a way to alter how we will sort, categorise, associate and ultimately give meaning to events, objects or behaviours. The headline “FBI agents Surround Cult Leader’s Compound” creates a mental picture vastly different than “FBI agents Raid Small Christian Gathering of Women and Children.” Both headlines might be accurate but the words used alter the associated internal images and feelings and thereby change or alter the meaning that a person will give to the objective events. Framing is frequently used by skillful politicians. For instance, politicians on both sides of the abortion debate cite their positions as “pro-life or pro-choice” because “pro” has better connotations than “anti.” Framing subtly uses emotionally charged words to shift people towards your point of view. To frame a persuasive argument, select words that conjure images (positive, negative or neutral) in the minds of your audience. Even with other words nearby, a single framing word can still be effective. Another example is illustrated by the difference between saying “Having a cell phone will keep me out of trouble” and “Having a cell phone will keep me safe”. Ponder which word is more effective for your message: “trouble” or “safe”.

ii. AMORUOS mirroring is the practice of mimicking the movements and body language of the person you are trying to persuade. By acting as the person listening does, you create a sense of empathy. You can mirror hand gestures, leaning forward or away, or various head and arm movements. We all do this subconsciously, and if you pay attention you will probably notice yourself doing it. Be subtle about it and delay 2-4 seconds between the other person’s movement and your mirroring. Mirroring is also known as “the chameleon effect”.

iii. CONCISELY promote the scarcity of something. Scarcity is frequently used by advertisers to make opportunities seem more appealing because they have limited availability. The assumption is that if a product is scarce, there must be a ton of demand for it! (Buy one now because they are selling out fast). Be aware that this is a technique of persuasion to which you are frequently exposed and take it into account when you make your purchase decision. Use reciprocation to create an obligation. When someone does something for us, we feel compelled to return the favour. So, if you want someone to do something nice for you, why not do something nice for them first? In a business setting, maybe you pass them a lead. At home, you might offer to lend your lawnmower to a neighbour. It does not matter where or when you do it, the key is to complement the relationship.

iv. HONE the use of timing to your advantage. People are more likely to be agreeable and submissive when they are mentally fatigued. Before you ask someone for something they might not readily agree to, consider waiting until they have just done something mentally taxing. This could be at the end of the work day when you catch a co-worker on their way out the door. Whatever you ask, a likely response is, “I will take care of it tomorrow.” Use congruence to obtain a wanted outcome. We all try, subconsciously, to be consistent with previous actions. A technique used by salespeople is to shake your hand as he or she is negotiating with you. In most people’s minds, a handshake equates to a closed deal, and by doing this before the deal actually closed, the salesperson is more likely to actually close it. A good way to use this yourself is to get people acting before they make up their minds. For example, if you were out and about with a friend and you wanted to go see a movie but the friend was undecided, you could start walking in the direction of the theatre while they are considering it. Your friend is more likely to agree to go once he or she is walking in the direction you set.

v. IMPLICITLY use fluid speech. When we talk, we often use little interjections and hesitant phrases such as “ummm” or “I mean” and of course there is the ubiquitous “like”. These little conversation fillers have the unintended effect of making us seem less confident and sure of ourselves, and thus less persuasive. If you are confident in your speech, others will be more easily persuaded by what you have to say. Get or borrow a Person’s best friend. To give people the impression that you are loyal, and to inspire them to be loyal to you, put up a picture of you with a dog (it does not even have to be your own dog). This can make you seem like a team player, but do not go overboard; putting up too many pictures can make you seem unprofessional.

vi. NOBLY use herd behaviour to influence a decision. We constantly observe to those around us to determine our actions; we have the need for acceptance. We are far more likely to follow or be persuaded by someone we like or by someone who we see as an authority. An effective way to use this to your advantage is to be seen as a leader - even if you do not have the official title. Be charming and confident and people will place greater weight on your opinion. If you are dealing with someone who is not likely to see you as an authority (such as a superior in the workplace, or your significant other’s parent) you can still take advantage of herd behaviour. Casually praise a leader who that person admires. By triggering positive thoughts in that person’s mind about a person they look up to, they will be more likely to associate those qualities with you.

vii. EFFECTIVELY offer a drink. Give the person who you are persuading a warm drink (tea, coffee, hot cocoa) to hold while you are talking to them. The warm sensation of the drink in their hands (and their body) can subconsciously make them feel like you are an emotionally warm, likable and welcoming person. Giving them a cold drink can have the opposite effect! In general, people tend to feel cold and crave warm food or drinks when they are feeling socially isolated, so fill that need in order to make them more receptive. Ask “Yes” Questions. Begin the conversation with questions that generate a “Yes” response. “Nice day today, is it not?” “Your friend looks great, does she not?” “You are looking for a great deal on a car, are you not?” Once you get someone saying yes, it is easy to get them to continue, up to and including “Yes, I will buy it.” The best counter to this is to make non-committal answers.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Break the touch barrier. Whether you are closing a deal or asking someone on a date, touching them (in a subtle and appropriate way) can improve your chances by subconsciously activating the human desire to bond. In a professional way it is usually best to ‘touch” someone verbally by offering reassurance or praise, as a physical touch can be interpreted as sexual harassment. In romantic situations, any soft touch from a woman will usually be taken well; men will require more caution in order to avoid making a woman feel uncomfortable.

28. STREAMLINED SUBTLE SECRETS BEHIND STRIKING BEST DEALS--->

Almost every aspect of the business landscape is negotiable. In recessionary times, this can work in your favour, as the pressure to get the most out of relationships and realise value from deals is higher than ever. So whether you are faced with suppliers looking to hike prices, clients extending their payment terms, fixing a price for new business or dealing with an employee’s request for a pay rise, understanding the art of negotiation will considerably increase your chances of a positive outcome. There is a lot more to negotiation than open-ended questioning and other sales tricks, and a few key principles will stand you in good stead no matter what you are bartering over. Following is a distillation of the advice of a number of experts into tips for perfecting this crucial, and sometimes undervalued art.

BEYONDIST MERITORIOUS MACHINE for harnessing Imperial Imaginations:

i. MERIOLATING preparation is everything. The first step is to understand what is driving the party you are negotiating with, and where their priorities really lie. Then tailor your response. Figure out what type of individuals you are dealing with and talk to them in a language they recognise. In short, find out how to push their buttons. Once you have determined who you are dealing with, adapting your approach will make negotiation easier. However, it is important to understand what type of person you are, too. Listen carefully. Nature gave us two ears and one mouth, and in LIFE – generally, you have got to use them in that proportion. This is the best way to understand who you are up against. Ask the other party what they want to get out of the negotiation. Organise an initial face-to-face meeting to discuss this before getting into the specifics. Knowledge is power. The more you say, the more you give away. Exercise control, be quiet. Ask lots of open questions. Let them talk, listen and take notes.

ii. ACCENTUATE mental preparation. We give 55% of what is going on in our head away through our body, and face-to-face is usually the preferred medium for negotiation. So you need to take the right mental approach. If you feel subordinate, it will be hard to cover this up and will set the wrong tone from the outset. Even your most junior staff should be encouraged to think of negotiation as a business-to-business discussion. Instead, those entering into negotiations should think: “We all need each other.” Know the value of what you are offering, and how it helps the other party. Once your head is clear, you will feel in control and can take the lead through questioning.

iii. CANDIDLY discuss, do not sell. Negotiation should be a discussion of how to achieve a mutually agreeable outcome, not a selling exercise. The classic sales pitch is ‘look what we can do for you’. What you should be saying is: ‘This is what we do and what we can offer. How can it help you?’ This gives you something to negotiate with, as they are telling you why they want your product or service. Also try to identify trade-offs – things you can offer that are of a low cost to you, but high value to them, or “coinage”, according to Jacobs. Let us say you are selling IT systems, and part of the offering is two days’ on-site help from your engineer. You could give them three days, because you already pay for that person, so a day here or there does not cost you much. But if you usually charge your engineer out at USD500 a day, that is valuable to them. In other words, how can you help them to help you? If it is your product or service on the table, the key issue is trying not to move on price. So what can you agree to give them that means they still buy at the original price?

iv. HONESTLY take some time out. Do not be afraid to ask for a break in negotiations to collect your thoughts. You need time to go away and reconsider. Unless you are up against an absolute fixed deadline, be prepared to ask for time out, and use this to recalibrate your thought processes.

v. IMPLICITLY understand your position. Before you enter negotiations, form three positions in your head: what you could get away with – which is usually your opening bid; what you expect to get, based on a knowledge of your market; and your deal breakers. In other words, know your “mega win”, your “expected win” and your “walk away”. In the heat of the battle, it is easy to give more away than you want to. It is quite an emotional thing. So it is vital to work out these positions in advance. Be extreme, but realistic with your opening bid. Move from this position to give them the satisfaction of winning. This helps them become more agreeable. You need trust for collaboration to work. Unrealistic positions damage relationships.

vi. NOTABLY get to know their position. One of the biggest mistakes negotiators make, is failing to uncover their opponent’s position. When selling, for example, if a potential customer does not want to pay your asking price, ask them what they do want to pay. A lot of people miss that bit out. They will say OK, ‘we will give you 10% off’, and the client will say: ‘That is not enough,’ and then the salesperson will offer more. We call that ‘ringing the dishcloth’. When do you stop doing it? When the drops stop coming out. Once they have told you what they are willing to pay, you have two positions and there is scope for negotiation.

vii. EVERYONE’S a winner. If you are going to have an ongoing relationship with the other party, negotiation needs to be win-win. Negotiation should always be about understanding how we are solving people’s problems, and what pain we are taking away. Once more, with feeling. Whether it is an employee asking for more holiday or you are agreeing the price for a product, emotions are usually involved in negotiations. Talks often fail due to communication problems, even when an agreement is not far away. So, you can go a stage further than simply finding out about who you are negotiating with – and a step closer to success – by carefully assessing how sensitive the subject is and the level of emotion involved, and taking this into account.

Powerful Pointer to being and becoming a BLESSED BEYONDIST:
Knowing how to handle objection is very vital. There is always a reason why someone is saying NO. If you find out what this is, everyone can be a winner.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #19
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#19 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Now, what you want in our TIMES is Facts...Facts amongst other things are wanted (or needed?) in LIFE.

“Some circumstantial evidence is very strong, as when you find a trout in the milk.”
- U.S. writer Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862)
“Skepticism about what is unproven can easily turn into a prohibition upon thinking.”
- German philosopher, sociologist, and musicologist Theodor Adorno (1903 - 1969)
“Where there is no evidence, there is no history.”
- U.S. historian Oscar Handlin (1915 - )
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Story Model is how we piece together complex situations into stories to build understanding.
Distinguished Developer: Nancy Pennington and Reid Hastie.

ULTIMATE determination of the verdict chosen by the jurist in any trial is based on the story constructed.
PRECISELY, jurors organize concrete evidence they hear during trial in a NARRATIVE, story-like format.
GENERALLY, the story model has three steps; story construction, learning verdict and rendering a verdict.
REASONABLY, jurors actively place the evidence at the trial into “story” using three fundamental things.
ACTUAL evidence presented, in the manner of the information gained from witnesses, is the first step.
DILIGENT personal knowledge of similar events, as gained from personal experiences is the second step.
EXPECTATIONS for what makes a complete story (actions are usually preceded by intentions) is the third.
Timely Therapy: - Take care of your intentions and core convictions; your confidence will take care of itself.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Perhaps the biggest responsibility of an individual, or any corporation is to own up when a mistake is made.

“The cause of schizophrenia is variously attributed to society, to psychiatrists or to the family. This scapegoat tendency...illustrates the harmful effects of labelling quite as well as the misuse of diagnosis does.”
- British psychiatrist John K. Wing (1923 - )
“If the first way of evading responsibility is not to recollect at all, the second and most widespread way of silencing the voice of memory is to embellish and streamline one’s recollections...The operation can be performed on an individual life history, or on the past of a whole nation.”
- Russian writer Nadezhda Mandelstam (1899 - 1980).
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Scapegoat Theory: We like having someone else to blame.
Distinguished Developers: French sociologist David Émile Durkheim (1858 – 1917)
and American literary theorist, poet, essayist, and novelist Kenneth Duva Burke (1897 – 1993)

USUAL Scapegoat Theory refers to the tendency to blame someone else for PERSONAL PROBLEMS.
PROFUSELY, this results in feelings of PREJUDICE toward the person or group that one is BLAMING.
GOING through negative experiences, may lead to blaming an innocent individual for the experience.
RETROACTIVELY, this offten serves to explain one’s failure, while maintaining one’s positive self-image.
ACTUAL Scapegoating can take place between individuals and groups, or an individual and a group.
DISTRESSING event triggers Scapegoating which may serve as a means to justify even mass-murder.
EVERY event (as Émile Durkheim believed) that generates negative emotions must have a Scapegoat.
Timely Therapy: - The audacious human being who smiles in the face of adversity clearly has a scapegoat.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
To be understood is a nourishing affair; being misunderstood by someone is vexation, by everyone is tragedy.

“Does the Eagle know what is in the pit?
Or wilt thou go ask the Mole?
Can Wisdom be put in a silver rod?
Or Love in a golden bowl?”
- British poet, painter, engraver, and mystic William Blake (1757 - 1827).
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Theory of Mind (ToT): Guessing what they are thinking.
Distinguished Developer: British clinical psychologist Sir Simon Philip Baron-Cohen (b. 1958)

UNDERSTAND: In clinical psychology, a Theory of Mind refers to the capacity to comprehend others.
PRECISELY, this is by ASCRIBING mental states to them (surmising what is happening in their mind).
GAINGFULY, it allows us to know that others have unique beliefs and desires different from our own.
REALLY, such mental states ARE distinct from one’s own states (intentions, emotions, and thoughts).
ARDENT possession of a functional Theory of Mind is crucial for success in daily human interactions.
DECISIVELY, all people use such a Theory when analysing, judging, and inferring others’ behaviours.
EXHIBITING a deficit in Theory of Mind are those with autism, schizophrenia, depression, or anxiety
Timely Therapy: - Behaviour is unpredictable as an adaptation, making it harder for others to outguess us.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
The prejudicial, thoughtless, habitual resort to stereotype is the first refuge and chief strategy of the bigot.

“History subverts the stereotype of science as a precise, heartless enterprise that strips the uniqueness from any complexity and reduces everything to timeless, repeatable, controlled experiments in a laboratory.”
- U.S. geologist and writer Stephen Jay Gould (1941 - 2002)
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Dilution Effect: Information about others reduces stereotyping.
Distinguished Developers: Nisbett, Zukier and Lemley (1981), Hilton and Fein (1989)

UNDERUTILISING diagnostic information when nondiagnostic one is present, is the Dilution Effect.
PRACTICAL diagnostic information is knowledge that is USEFUL in making a particular vital judgment.
GENERAL nondiagnostic information is knowledge that is NOT RELEVANT to the judgment being made.
ROGUE stereotyping falsely leads people to show bias and inaccurate judgment towards other people.
ACTUALLY, this effect can be reduced or eliminated when information is given about the stereotyped.
DILUTION fades by reducing reliance on assumption that a person in an out-group is much like others.
EFFECTIVELY tell others seemingly-irrelevant personal details about those you want them to like more.
Timely Therapy: - Beware of your own stereotypes; also beware of people bending your views about others.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
Success is sweet in anticipation; but once we find the fruits of success, the taste is nothing like we had imagined.

“Gallop apace, you fiery-footed steeds,
Towards Phoebus’ lodging; such a waggoner
As Phaethon would whip you to the west,
And bring in cloudy night immediately.
Spread thy close curtain, love-performing night!
That runaway’s eyes may wink, and Romeo
Leap to these arms, untalk’d of and unseen!
Lovers can see to do their amorous rites
By their own beauties; or, if love be blind,
It best agrees with night. Come, civil night,
Thou sober-suited matron, all in black.”
- English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Romeo and Juliet, Act 3, Scene 2
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Expectancy Violations Theory (EVT): We have expectations of others’ behaviour, eg. body space.
Distinguished Developer: Communication expert Judee K. Burgoon (b. 1948)

UNANTICIPATED violations of social norms and expectations, and our response, is analysed by (EVT).
PURPOSIVELY, one individual’s behaviour can be used to VIOLATE the expectations of another person.
GENERAL participants in communication will PERCEIVE the exchange either positively or negatively.
REAL dependence is on existing personal relationship or how favourably the violation is PERCEIVED.
ACTUALLY, the theory predicts: Expectancies influence the outcome of the communication interaction.
DUE positive violations increase the attraction of the violator; negative one’s decrease the ATTRACION.
EVT asserts: We reciprocate others unexpected behaviour; they also counteract by doing the OPPOSITE.
Timely Therapy: - We presume our expectations will be met; feel disgusted when reality falls short of them.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Never be carried away or be verily mesmerised by mere appearances; things are not always what they seem.

“Old ideas give way slowly; for they are more than abstract logical forms and categories. They are habits, predispositions, deeply engrained attitudes of aversion and preference.”
- U.S. philosopher and educator John Dewey (1859 - 1952).
“Things and actions are what they are, and the consequences of them will be what they will be: why then should we desire to be deceived?” - British philosopher and theologian Joseph Butler (1692 - 1752)
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Halo Effect/Error: We generalize judgment across traits.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Edward Lee Thorndike (1874 – 1949)

UNDERLYING Halo Effect is the tendency for swaying impressions of a person, company or product.
POSITIVE impression in one area is used to INFLUENCE a person’s opinion or feelings in other areas.
GHASTLY, this cognitive bias can possibly prevent an individual from accepting a person, or a product.
RETROGRESSIVELY, one can decide based on the idea of an unfounded belief on what is good or bad.
ADVERTISING in one channel has been shown to have a Halo Effect on advertising in another channel.
DECISIVE Halo Effect with regard to health, dubbed a “health halo”, is craftily used in food marketing.
ESSENTIALLY, it can result in increased consumption of the product in the halo which may be unhealthy.
Timely Therapy: - If people are failing, they look inept; if they are succeeding, they look strong and good.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
You cannot lure, prevent or expect people not to judge by appearances; first impressions are the most lasting.

“We have no other notion of cause and effect, but that of certain objects, which have always conjoin’d together, and which in all past instances have always been found inseparable.”
- Scottish philosopher and historian David Hume (1711 - 1776)
“In nature one thing just happens after another. Cause and effect have their place only in our imaginative arrangements and extensions of these primary facts.” - British philosopher A. J. Ayer (1910 - 1989)
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Implicit Personality Theory: We generalise expectation from a few central traits.
Distinguished Developer: Polish-American Gestalt psychologist and pioneer in social psychology Solomon Eliot Asch (1907 – 1996)

USUALLY, Implicit Personality Theory describes the patterns and biases used in forming impressions.
PRECISELY, this is done based on a LIMITED amount of initial information about an unfamiliar person.
GENERALLY, each individual approaches the task of impression formation in his or her own unique way.
REALLY, these processes occur automatically, without one’s intention or awareness of their occurrence.
ACUTE tendency is to infer favourable or unfavourable traits to those who have already exhibited them.
DEFINING feature of a CENTRAL trait plays a significant role in determining the function of other traits.
ESSENTIALLY, good moods facilitate positive impressions and bad moods facilitate negative impressions.
Timely Therapy: - Truly, first impressions carry more weight in making judgments than the subsequent ones.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #8:--->
“Too much agreement kills a chat,” so taught U.S. writer and civil rights activist Eldridge Cleaver (1935 - 1998)

Perhaps, your dad was a member of the Parents Association at the local school you attended.
He knew many teachers there and spent many hours helping out the school.
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Group Locomotion Hypothesis explains how members are motivated to achieve group goals.
Distinguished Developers: Insko and Schopler (1972)

UNINTERRUPTED members of a particular group are motivated to help achieve the goals of the group.
PURPOSIVE conformity is where the individual replaces his or her own desires with the greater good.
GAINFULLY, a member of the group believes that going along with the group will help to achieve goals.
ROBUSTLY he or she is motivated to conform, and as a member one will want to keep moving ahead.
ASPIRING to join a group? Find out their goals and decide whether these make practical sense to you.
DUE susceptibility to a strong culture is when one begins to completely identify with the group’s values.
ENSURING the group goals are aligned with your goals, is to ensure others in the group know the goals.
Timely Therapy: - Do not focus on reaching consensus that you refuse to disagree even when necessary.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #9:--->
“The great consolation in life is to say what one thinks.” - French writer and philosopher Voltaire (1694 - 1778)

Can you recount the instances where a lecturer asks a class ‘Any questions?’
And there is often a deafening silence, even if nobody understands?
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Pluralistic Ignorance is when most people disagree with a group norm, but nobody speaks out.
Distinguished Developers: Allport (1933), Prentice and Miller (1993)

USUALLY, the minority position on a given topic may be wrongly perceived to be the majority position.
PROFUSELY, the majority position on an issue may also be wrongly perceived to be the minority position.
GRANTED this is, “an individual who does not believe, but that individual thinks that everyone believes”.
REALLY, one may misjudge overall perceptions of a topic due to fear, embarrassment, or social inhibition.
ANY of these can lead to incorrectly perceiving the proportion of those who share same beliefs to oneself.
DESCRIBED is the coincidence of a belief with inaccurate perceptions, but not the process to get to them.
ESSENTIAL is the worry that one will receive backlash on one’s belief as one think it differs from society’s.
Timely Therapy: - Adopting group norms is a part of the sacrifice we accept as a price of sure membership.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #10:--->
“When a thing has been said and said well, have no scruple. Take it and copy it.” - Anatole France (1844 - 1924)

“Truth often suffers more by the heat of its defenders than from the arguments of its opposers.”
- English preacher and colonialist William Penn (1644 - 1718)
“A tolerant scepticism, an ability to doubt one’s own ideas as well as those of other people, is a good test of maturity: fanaticism, insanity, and an infantile attitude to others are closely related.”
- British writer and psychiatrist Anthony Storr (1920 - 2001)
“Where some people are very wealthy and others have nothing the result will be either extreme democracy or absolute oligarchy, or despotism will come from either of those excesses.”
- Greek philosopher Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC)
“I would remind you that extremism in the defense of liberty is no vice. And let me remind you also that moderation in the pursuit of justice is no virtue!” - U.S. politician Barry Goldwater (1909 - 1998)
“A gloomy, hare-brained enthusiast, after his death, may have a place in the calendar; but will scarcely ever be admitted, when alive, into intimacy and society, except by those who are as delirious and dismal as himself.”
- Scottish philosopher and historian David Hume (1711 - 1776)
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Group Polarisation Phenomenon outlines how groups are more extreme in decisions.
Distinguished Developer: Stonor (1961), Moscovici and Zavalloni (1969), Myers and Arenson (1972).

UNDERLYING Group Polarisation is the tendency for a group to make decisions that are too extreme.
PRECISELY, this is in critical comparison to the initial decision stance or prior inclination of its members.
GRANTED you want to make a solidly strong point and separate what you have to say from other people.
REALLY, you may EXAGGERATE your position somewhat, even if you THINK it actually is a bit extreme.
ALL people taking risky decisions will make riskier decisions in a group as the risk is shared (risky shift).
DERIVATIVELY, people who are more conservative will often tend to make very conservative decisions.
ESSENTIAL taking on the PERSONA of the group, protects them from the effects of any risky decisions.
Timely Therapy: - When a group you are in makes a decision, highlight the real risk vs. the assumed risk.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #11:--->
Conformity among the members of a group, especially an unthinking acceptance of majority opinions is lethal.

“Company, villainous company, hath been the spoil of me.”
- Shakespeare in Henry IV, Part 1, Act 3, Scene 3
“Misery acquaints a man with strange bedfellows.”
- Shakespeare in The Tempest, Act 2, Scene 2
“When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle.” - Irish-born British statesman and political philosopher Edmund Burke (1729 - 1797)
“When great changes occur in history, when great principles are involved, as a rule the majority are wrong. The minority are right.” - U.S. labor leader, socialist, and pacifist Eugene Victor Debs (1855 - 1926), from a speech at his trial for sedition in Cleveland, Ohio.
The most famous example of Groupthink, is the presidential advisory group who almost led John F. Kennedy into invading Cuba and potential nuclear war in the Bay of Pigs tragedy.
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Groupthink is where maintenance needs, leads to limited or blinkered decisions.
Distinguished Developers: American urbanist, sociologist, organisational analyst, journalist
and people-watcher William Hollingsworth “Holly” Whyte, Jr. (1917 – 1999)

USUAL groups sometimes fall into a style of thinking where the maintenance of cohesion is paramount.
PROFUSELY, this sense of togetherness becomes all-important and results in very bad decision-making.
GROUPTHINK is a way of deliberating that group members are obsessed by a deep desire for unanimity.
ROGUERY, this dogmatically overrides their essential motivation to assess all available PLANS of action.
AS a result, specific groups ‘suffering’ from Groupthink, are more likely to JUSTIFY irrational decisions.
DULY, this happens when the group is isolated from conflicting opinions and the leader is very directive.
EVENTUAL decisions are often based on incomplete information; fails to consider alternatives and risks.
Timely Therapy: - Outside opinions must be taken seriously or even have new people included in meetings.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #12:--->
“In the following him, I follow but myself,” so said William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Othello, Act 1, Scene 1

“The struggle must go on… to make the opportunity for the building to begin. The struggle will go on…God giving me strength and courage enough, I shall die, if need be, for this cause. But I do not want to die until I have seen the building begun.” - Rhodesian-born South African nationalist leader Albert Luthuli (1898 - 1967)
“I think continually of those who were truly great—
The names of those who in their lives fought for life,
Who wore at their hearts the fire’s centre.”
- British poet and critic Stephen Spender (1909 - 1995)
“The love of liberty is the love of others; the love of power is the love of ourselves.”
- British essayist and critic William Hazlitt (1778 - 1830)
“You think that people give out of the goodness of their hearts? Not at all. They give out of an instinct for self-preservation.” - Senegal novelist Aminata Sow Fall (1941 - )
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Social Identity Theory explains how we merge our personal self-interest with group’s values.
Distinguished Developer: Polish social psychologist Henri Tajfel (1919 - 1982)
and British social psychologist John Charles Turner (1947 – 2011)

UNIMPENDED, we are intrinsically motivated to achieve positive distinctiveness, or positive self-concept.
PRECISELY Social Identity Theory says that we strive to achieve or to maintain positive social identity.
GENERAL position is that social behavior will want a person to change their behaviour while in a group
REAL choice of any behaviour is posited to be dictated largely by the perceived intergroup relationship.
ACTUAL permeability of group’s boundaries allows one to pursue goals rather than that of one’s ingroup.
DUE impermeable boundaries allows one to engage in social CREATIVITY behaviours within the group.
ESSENTIALLY here, low-status ingroup members are still able to increase their positive distinctiveness.
Timely Therapy: - People to varying degrees are defined or informed by their respective social identities.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #13:--->
It does not matter how you guard against anyone stealing honor and dignity from you; history will absolve you.

“The old repeat themselves and the young have nothing to say. The boredom is mutual.”
- French journalist and historian Jacques Bainville (1879 - 1936)
“If there is one general law of communication it is that we never communicate as effectively as we think we do.” - Irish-born British management educator and writer Charles Handy (1932 - )
“If you can tell...and show...let them see and feel...taste or smell the evidence, then you will reach the jury.”
- U.S. lawyer Melvin Belli (1907 - 1996)
“It is better not to express what one means than to express what one does not mean.”
- Austrian writer Karl Kraus (1874 - 1936)
“It is generally better to deal by speech than by letter.”
- English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626)
“It’s easy to get people’s attention, what counts is getting their interest.”
- U.S. labor leader and civil rights activist A. Philip Randolph (1889 - 1979), 1970
In a review of Italian reports, researchers Riva and Giuseppe found differences, where Berlusconi (head of the right-wing coalition) said: “Previti [a member of his coalition] asked the Rome judge for a suggestion.” Referring to the same event, a sample of out-group discourse followed. Rutelli (head of the left-wing coalition) said: “When Previti intended to bribe the Rome judge, he invited him in[to] his office.”
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Linguistic Inter-group Bias outlines the varying abstraction in communication.
Distinguished Developers: Maass, Ceccarelli and Rudin (1996)

UNCENSORED, positive ingroup descriptions and negative outgroup descriptions are abstract and vague.
POTENTLY, negative ingroup descriptions and positive outgroup descriptions are specific and observable.
GENERAL abstract statements are vague and harder to prove wrong, while concrete ones are SPECIFIC.
REALLY, they are very easy to brush off as exceptions to the rule, therefore keeping stereotypes intact.
ACTUALLY, this bias occurs when outgroup members are performing a STEREOTYPIC consistent action.
DULY, when an item is communicated abstractly, it may be followed up with more DETAIL, to explain it.
ESSENTIAL implication is: Linguistic Intergroup Bias is a cognitive process requiring little motivation.
Timely Therapy: - To be established in a group, show positive regard for it and lower regard for outgroup.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #14:--->
“Democracy substitutes election by the incompetent many for appointment by the corrupt few.” - G.B. Shaw.

“A democracy is a state which recognizes the subjecting of the minority to the majority.”
- Russian revolutionary leader Vladimir Ilyich Lenin (1870 - 1924)
“The minority, the ruling class at present, has the schools and press, usually the Church as well, under its thumb. This enables it to organize and sway the emotions of the masses, and make its tool of them.” - German-born U.S. physicist Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955), in a letter to Sigmund Freud.
“What characterizes a member of a minority group is that he is forced to see himself as both exceptional and insignificant, marvelous and awful, good and evil.” - U.S. novelist and journalist Norman Mailer (1923 - 2007)
“It is impossible that the whisper of a faction should prevail against the voice of a nation.” - British prime minister Lord Russell (1792 - 1878), 1831. Reply to an address from a meeting of 150,000 persons at Birmingham on the rejection in the House of Lords, the upper chamber of the British Parliament, of the electoral Reform Bill.
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Minority Influence explains how groups tolerate minorities, who should stick together.
Distinguished Developers: Moscovici and Nemeth (1974)

USUALLY, one person has little influence on a group, and so a stranger will have very little influence.
PURPOSIVELY, if that lone voice is joined by another strong laud one, they now form a minority group.
GAINFULLY their confidence and ability to influence jumps provided that they are in clear agreement.
RELATIVELY high is the social cost of holding a view that is so much different from that of the majority.
AFFIRMATIVELY, this then means that minorities often hold their well-considered views more strongly.
DULY, their passion often leads them to acquire significant expertise in their specific areas of interest.
ENTRENCHED well in a certain field this increases their ability to persuade from a position of authority.
Timely Therapy: - For minorities to be taken seriously, they must be tight knit, and consistent in opinions.

Loaded Laws

R#69. On tending to think in a FOGGY manner and have no idea about human situation.

BQ#20. What density of CONCISENESS is critical in FIGHTING FOGGYNESS, as a function of purposively promulgating LOADED LAWS?--->

“Contradictions if well understood and managed can spark off the fires of invention. Orthodoxy is the graveyard of creativity.”
- Nigerian novelist, poet, and essayist Chinua Achebe (1930 - )

“Without Contraries is no progression. Attraction and Repulsion, Reason and Energy, Love and Hate, are necessary to Human existence.”
- British poet, painter, engraver, and mystic William Blake (1757 - 1827)

“Three-fourths of philosophy and literature is the talk of people trying to convince themselves that they really like the cage they were tricked into entering.”
- U.S. poet, essayist, and translator Gary Snyder (1930 - )

“In seeing ourselves from outside we find it difficult to take our lives seriously. This loss of conviction, and the attempt to regain it, is the problem of the meaning of life.”
- Yugoslavian-born U.S. philosopher and educator Thomas Nagel (1937 - )

“It is pictures rather than propositions, metaphors rather than statements, which determine most of our philosophical convictions.”
- U.S. philosopher Richard Rorty (1931 - 2007)

“Disraeli lacked two qualities, failing which true eloquence is impossible. He was never quite in earnest, and he was not troubled by dominating conviction.”
- British journalist Henry Lucy (1843 - 1924), referring to Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881), British writer and prime minister (1868 and 1874-1880)

“He believes, with all his heart and soul and strength, that there is such a thing as truth; he has the soul of a martyr with the intellect of an advocate.”
- British economist and journalist Walter Bagehot (1826 - 1877), referring to William Gladstone (1809-1898), four times prime minister of Britain (1868-1874, 1880-1885, 1886, and 1892-1894), and one of the dominant political forces in Victorian England.

“I would rather be an opportunist and float than go to the bottom with my principles round my neck.”
- Attributed to British prime minister Stanley Baldwin (1867 - 1947)

“Nobody ever did anything very foolish except from some strong principle.”
- Lord Melbourne (1779 - 1848), English statesman, who was prime minister during the early years of Queen Victoria’s reign and initiated her in the ways of statecraft.

“If I had heard that as many devils would set on me in Worms as there are tiles on the roofs, I should none the less have ridden there.”
- German theologian and religious reformer Martin Luther (1483 - 1546), in a speech to the princes of Saxony, referring to the Diet of Worms (April 18, 1521)

“We must say that the same opinions have arisen among men in cycles, not once, twice, nor a few times, but infinitely often.”
- Greek philosopher Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC)

“Vain is the word of a philosopher which does not heal any suffering of man. For just as there is no profit in medicine if it does not expel the diseases of the body, so there is no profit in philosophy either, if it does not expel the suffering of the mind.”
- Greek philosopher Epicurus (341 - 270 BC)

“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism.”
- Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Gustav Jung (1875 - 1961)

“Customs and convictions change; respectable people are the last to know, or to admit, the change, and the ones most offended by fresh reflections of the facts in the mirror of art.”
- U.S. writer John Updike (1932 - )

“Repentance is the virtue of weak minds.”
- English poet, playwright, and literary critic John Dryden (1631 - 1700)

“Every man, wherever he goes, is encompassed by a cloud of comforting convictions, which move with him like flies on a summer day.”
- British philosopher and mathematician Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970)

“Do you believe in fairies? Say quick that you believe. If you believe, clap your hands!”
- British playwright and novelist J. M. Barrie (1860 - 1937)

“Here stand I. I can do no other. God help me. Amen.”
- Attributed to German theologian and religious reformer Martin Luther (1483 - 1546), in speech at the Diet of Worms

“If God be for us who can be against us?”
- South African clergyman and civil rights activist Desmond Tutu (1931 - ) in African Forum, Nobel Peace Prize speech of acceptance

“It’s only a paper moon,
Sailing over a cardboard sea,
But it wouldn’t be make-believe
If you believed in me.”
- U.S. librettist and lyricist E. Y. Harburg (1896 - 1981), in Song lyric, The Great Magoo, “It’s Only a Paper Moon”

“A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it.”
- Irish poet, playwright, and wit Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900)

“There is an impressive consensus that 7+5=12; and, when we rise above the individual level and look for the explanation of the whole consensus, only one explanation will measure up to the task. There is nothing else to think that seven and five add up to.”
- British philosopher David Wiggins (1933 - )
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EMBRACE SELF-ACTUALIZATION, or leave the arena of LIFE before it is too late. The one who is inept and faint-hearted only gets in the way and messes up the tournament ground with his or her splintered weapon and sorry carcass. The primary role of ACTIVATION of SELFHOOD is the severe self-discipline as alloyed to focused dedication and a sense of destiny. If you fail this first test, go no further. Melt into the acquiescent herd. All the while, endure the ghetto deprivations, enjoy the backstreet food remnants. SELF-ACTUALIZATION is not your cup of honey. The lyric of BEYONDISM, is only filthy noise in your darkened PSYCHE. But should you feel that you are indeed of the ‘fiber to stretch your reach’ (a BLESSED BEYONDIST), assert your Will, and proclaim your Consciousness, then pay close attention to your SELFHOOD. Be the steely WILLFUL WARRIOR, through and through. For total unfolding of TRUTH, REALITY, WISDOM, HAPPINESS and consequently SELF-ACTUALIZATION, we have to first free our instincts of all the fetters of dogmas, so that they may be allowed all the growth and flowering possible. BEYONDISM entails focusing on what “rings true”, which represents the “soul of the thing.” Opening yourself up to its influence should become part of your mental habits, allowing you to better understand things, even to criticise them properly. Sometimes, however, that “soul” will move you as well and gain some influence, enriching your mind in the process. Upon occasion it is good to let go of your deepest set of rules and restrictions. These LOADED LAWS are simply machines or instruments. Like an image at a cross-roads BEYONDISM points the way but it is upon you to travel it. It therefore follows that, optimal churning of value from these LOADED LAWS is an individual enterprise which calls for concentrated effort and dedicated individual initiative, as Nietzsche noted: “Everyone who wishes to become free must become free through his own endeavour, and that freedom does not fall into any man’s lap as a miraculous gift”.--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of LOADED LAWS thus:

LIFE is loving all aspects of yourself and also working to improve on them.
Orienting your PSYCHE to the struggles, bustles and hustles of the world.
Affirming your quest for your individual TRUTH as the sovereign ‘good’.
Discovering real MEANING behind the veil and BEYOND actualities of LIFE.
Envy must be diffused by concealing your charisma, success and smartness.
Desisting from believing much on the word of mouth and looking for actions.

Loving your partner in a manner that bypasses his or her consciousness.
All eyes must be on you; revelling in the dignity of mode of expression.
Worthy of purposiveness (not self gratification) determines your LIFE.
Submitting yourself (creatively) to the cultural imperatives of your society.

“Ya’ll don’t want me to win. I’m tryna follow dreams, You want me to follow trends.”- American rapper Kendrick Lamar Duckworth (b. 1987). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: NURTURING the CONCISENESS for FIGHTING FOGGYNESS, about the human situation.--->

Each one of us knows that knowledge is power. However, there is a kind of valuable, if not sensitive information which being in possession of will eventually separate you from the ‘common herd’. Happy is you who is driven by an endeavour to learn and propagate the best that is known and thought in the world, for the most fateful gift you will bestow upon our TIMES is ‘wisdom with insight’.

Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to FIGHT FOGGYNESS.
SUBLIME moments, heroic acts, are rather the deeds of an exalted intelligence than of the will.
UPWARD yourself. Keep your mind receptive. This is the ointment for your perpetual evolution.
MOST important thing in LIFE is that if you keep an open mind, too much is likely to fall into it.
MORE beneficial TOOL than intelligence? None. More harmful ENEMY than ignorance? None.
A really intelligent person feels what other people only know. Has an expanded view of reality.
REAL difference between intelligence and education is: intelligence will make you a good living.
YE shall never be a heretic, ye may err in dispute; but do not wish to decide anything absolutely.

PREPARE yourself to diligently NURTURE the creative ‘capacity’ for FIGHTING FOGGYNESS.

Progressive, distinct qualities of human beings are choices, creativity, valuation, dignity and worth.
Rational, socialised, forward-moving, and realistic are positive attributes to be esteemed by people.
Emotions which are antisocial, such as lust, jealosy, greed, or even hostility should not be IGNORED.
Psychologically, these are not spontaneous impulses, which must be CONTROLLED or REPRESSED.
Antisocial behaviour are REACTIONS to the frustrations of impulses for love, belonging and security.
Realistically (under good conditions), people are social creatures who are lively, and TRUSTWORTHY.
Existentially, when you are free from defensiveness, your reactions are positive and CONSTRUCTIVE.

REALISE that NURTURING your innate ‘quest’ for FIGHTING FOGGYNESS is in your ‘power.’

Reasonably, there is no need to be concerned about others AGGRESSIVE and anti-social impulses.
Enabled to fulfill basic impulses, one becomes self-regulatory, balancing all needs against each other.
A person’s nourishing need for affection and companionship, will counterract any aggressive reaction.
Lost alike to seeds of nobility and ignomy, we strive to overcome contradictions at the heart of LIFE.
Irrational forces which shapes, drives and binds individual’s PSYCHE, MUST be subtly sublimated.
Soundly, individuals posses the ability to experience in awareness the factors in their maladjustment.
Everyone has the capacity and the tendency to move away from maladjustment towards adjustment.

EMPOWER yourself to NURTURE your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for FIGHTING FOGGYNESS.

External control and regulation of a person is only necessary in the absence of definable conditions.
Motivated and provided with reasonable conditions for growth, individual’s potentials develops fully.
Progressive growth of an individual is persuing personal interests, in the interest of societal growth.
Overgeneralisation, abstraction from reality, and rigidity are the worst obstacles of human growth.
Wantonness, absolute and unconditional evaluation of experience, leads one into a defensive state.
Extensionality, is the perception which is differentiated, and dominated by facts rather than concepts.
Reality, entails awareness of the space-time anchorage of facts and of different levels of abstraction.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to NURTURE the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of FIGHTING FOGGYNESS.

Maturity implies perceiving ideas realistically in an extensional manner without being defensive.
Evaluating experience in terms of the evidence coming from your own senses is a PSYCHIC strength.
Distinct as you believe yourself to be, accept others distinctiveness; prize others as you prize yourself.
Intimately CHANGE your evaluation of experience, on the solid basis of new ennobling experiences.
Accepting the responsibility to be different from others, amounts to assuming personal responsibility.
Thrilling in self-experience of another simply makes a positive difference in one’s experiential field.
Esteem of self, results in a feeling of warmth, liking, respect, sympathy, and acceptance of others.

INDULGE yourself in NURTURING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards FIGHTING FOGGYNESS.

In an EFFORT to make sense out of, predict and control the world, we create our own CONTSRUCTS.
No moral ideal is rigid, or works in all circumstances always; everything is in a state of continual flux.
Discovering, innovating, inventing and creating is what will enable you to curve a niche in this world.
Use all the means at your disposal to defend your basic beliefs against any dire dilution by the crowd.
LIFE is esteeming the religious rituals of your culture and absolutely shunning superstitious dogmas.
Gainful WISDOM is seeing yourself and others without screensaver; avoiding prejudices and bigotry.
Everyone is judged by appearance; never let yourself get lost in the crowd, or be buried in oblivion.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for NURTURING the ‘compulsion’ of FIGHTING FOGGYNESS.

Understand that POWER is the only virtue that defies gravity; it flows from lower to higher levels.
Temper your existence with creative ceremonies; LIFE without them is like a gift without wrapping.
Insist on shunning regrets, they will make you lose present flavour, and be grounded on your past.
Liking and being thankful of small things in LIFE will go along way in determining your happiness.
Intimacy is putting oneself in the partner’s shoes, sharing ideals and seeing differences as strengths.
Strengthening and changing your expectations will creatively catapult your Self-ACTUALIZATION.
Ethearise yourself, through dramatic expressions, so as to have an ENDURING IMPACT on people.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to NURTURE FIGHTING FOGGYNESS.

Moving out voluntarily, freely, responsibly towards the fulfilment of one’s ordered sequence of LIFE.
Opulently playing a vital part in a world whose determined events move through your choice and will.
Nurturing the freedom in thinking your own thoughts, choosing what you want, living your own LIFE.
Individuals differ in the extent which they are FREE from influence and control by others and events.
True conformists lack in openness and freedom in emotional processes; have inadequate spontaneity.
On the other hand, most nonconformists are self-contained, autonomous, competent and ADEQUATE.
Revel in following the course of action which is the most economical vector in relation to all stimuli.

“We must not make a scarecrow of the law,
Setting it up to fear the birds of prey,
And let it keep one shape, till custom make it
Their perch and not their terror.”
- Shakespeare in Measure for Measure, Act 2, Scene 1

“Wrest once the law to your authority:
To do a great right, do a little wrong.”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice, Act 4, Scene 1

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on promulgating purposively the LOADED LAWS:
Unmistakably you are NURTURING your ennobling exertion to FIGHT FOGGYNESS.
The accumulated energy of CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
And PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
Will ultimately propel you to REAP your lively labour.

“Still you keep o’ th’ windy side of the law.”
- Shakespeare in Twelfth Night, Act 3, Scene 4

ONE HUNDRED AND FIFTY FOUR
THERAPEAUTIC THUNDERING THOUGHTS

O_#1. Truly KNOWING THY Public as well as Private Self.--->

Opulently controlling the way you express yourself publicly, is an art you should never neglect. The Public Self is the part of ourselves that we are happy to share with others and discuss openly. Thus you and I both see and can talk openly about this ‘me’ and gain a common view of who I am in this element. On the other hand, nurturing your private LIFE is the fount of self-confidence.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THERE are often parts of our selves that are too Private to be really shared with any other individual.
HIDING these away and also refusing to expose or discuss them with others in any way is what we do.
ONE key thing about these Private elements is that they may be embarrassing or shameful in some way.
UNCOMFORTABLY, they may be fearful or seek to avoid being discussed for reasons of vulnerability.
GRANTED, they must be held in secrecy, as their exposure will damage our self-esteem in a big way.
HOVERING in between the public and private, are partly private, partly public aspects of our selves.
THESE are basically aspects that we are duly prepared to share only with trusted and significant others.

N_#2. KNOWING THY Blind, Undiscovered and Open Self.--->

Never fall into the trap of assuming that public and private selves are all that YOU ARE. However, the views that others have of YOU may be different from those YOU have of YOURSELF. For example, a person who considers themself as intelligent may be viewed as an arrogant and socially ignorant by others. Our Blind Selves may remain blind because others will not discuss this part of us for a range of reasons. Perhaps, they realise that we would be unable to accept what they see. Perhaps, they have tried to discuss this and we have been so blind that we assume their views are invalid. They may also withhold this information as it gives them power over us. Moreover, harness to dig deep into the treasures of your hidden personality. This is the self which neither us nor other people see. This Undiscovered Self may include both good and bad things that may remain forever undiscovered or may one day be discovered, entering the private, blind or maybe even public selves.

Between the Blind and Undiscovered selves are partly hidden selves that only some people see. Psychologists and those who are more empathic, for example, may well see more than the average person. It is also very critical that you usurp the duty to electrify your presence amongst people. Someone with an Open Persona is both very self-aware (with a small blind self) and is quite happy to expose their self to others (a small private self). The Open person is usually the most ‘together’ and relaxed of the personas. They are so comfortable with their self that they are not ashamed or troubled with the notion of other people seeing them as they really are.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRULY, people with a small Blind Self, often make less social ERRORS and tend to cause less embarrassment.
HAVING a more powerful position in negotiations is a credit, where they have less weaknesses to be exploited.
OPULENTLY becoming an Open Persona, plumbing the depths of the undiscovered self, takes time and effort.
UNLESS they were apparently blessed with a wonderful childhood and grew up well-adjusted from the beginning.
GREAT courage is what is required to prudently accept others’ honest views and also to share your deeper self.
HONING the weaker side of the Open Persona manifests in understanding themself, but not understanding others.
THEY may hence dump shameful information from their Private Selves onto others who are not ready to accept it.

E_#3. KNOWING THY Naive, Secret and Mysterious Persona.--->

Enlivening our Naive Self is vital for a well-adjusted LIFE. Naive personality entails having a large Blind Self that others can see. You thus may make significant social gaffes (clumsy blunders, mistakes or breach of etiquette, e.g. an insensitive remark) and not even realise what you have done or how others see you. You hides little about yourself and are typically considered as harmless by others, who either treat you in kind and perhaps patronising ways (that go unnoticed) or take unkind advantage of your naivety. The Naive Persona may also be something of a bull in a china shop, for example using aggression without realising the damage that it does, and can thus be disliked or feared. They may also wear their heart on their sleeves and lack the emotional intelligence to see how others see them.

Distance and secrecy is what characterises a person who has a large Private Self. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of time ensconced in their own private world. In conversations they say little and, as a result, may not pay a great deal of attention to others. Having a smaller Blind Self (often because they give little away), the Secret Persona may well be aware of their introverted tendencies, but are seldom troubled about this. Where they are troubled, their introversion is often as a result of personal traumas that have led them to retreat from the world. Rid yourself of those aspects which makes you a social underling and a PSYCHIC weakling.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE this not literary: sometimes sane people are ambiguously simply a mystery to themselves as well as to other people.
HORRENDOUSLY, they often may act in strange ways and do not notice it; they may be very solitary, yet not introverted.
ONEROUSLY, the Mysterious Persona knows relatively little about themselves and may be of low Emotinal Intelligence.
USUALLY, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others they may alternatively prefer to live in the MOMENT.
GRANTED, some forms of ESOTERIC (secretive and confidential) self-development seek to cleanse one of self-concerns.
HOPEFULLY so as to achieve a higher state of being, as they take each day as it comes and never seek real self-awareness.
THEY may deliberately enter states of non-thinking and revel in such intuitive paradoxes as knowing through not knowing.

H_#4. Showing People That You Respect Their Due Intelligence.--->

Hardening people’s opinions is what you do when you argue with them. When you disagree with another person and impose your contrary opinion, you are implying that you know better, that you have thought things through more rationally. People challenged in this way will then naturally become even more attached to their opinions. You can prevent this by being more neutral, as if this opposing idea is simply something you are entertaining and it could be wrong. But better still, you can go much further: you see their point of view and agree with it. (Winning arguments is rarely worth the effort.)

With their intelligence flattered, you now have some room to gently alter their opinion or have lowered their defenses for a request for help. The nineteenth-century British prime minister and novelist Benjamin Disraeli (1804 - 1881) conceived of an even cleverer ploy when he wrote, “If you wish to win a man’s heart, allow him to confute you.” “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you,” thus illumined U.S. writer and speaker Dale Carnegie (1888 - 1955).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO really win over a target you do this by beginning to disagree with him or her about a subject.
HONE your point even with some vehemence, and then slowly come to seeing their point of view.
OUTRIGHTLY, this confirm not only their intelligence but also their own POWERS of influence.
UNDETERRED, they will feel ever so slightly superior to you, which is precisely what you want.
GRANTED, in this mental state they will now be doubly vulnerable to a countermove of your own.
HAVE it that you can strategically create a similar effect by overtly asking people for their advice.
THE implication is that you immplictly or explicitly respect their expansive wisdom and experience.

U_#5. Arousing the People’s Inner Need to Verily Look Good.--->

Under no circumstances do people entertain the feelings that they are not good. In our daily thoughts, we constantly comfort ourselves as to the moral nature of our actions. If we are employees of a company, we see ourselves as good team members. If we are bosses, we treat people well, or at least we pay and support them well. We help the right causes. In general, we do not like to see ourselves as selfish and narrowly focused on our own agenda. Just as important, we want others to see us in this light. Look at social media and how people will make a display of supporting the best causes. Few people give to charities anonymously — they want their names loudly advertised. You must never inadvertently cast doubts on this saintly self-opinion.

To make positive use of this trait in people, frame what you are asking them to do as part of a larger cause that they can participate in. They are not merely buying clothes but helping the environment or keeping jobs local. In taking these actions, people can feel better about themselves. Keep it subtle. If you are trying to get recruits for a job, let others spread the message about the cause. Make it appear prosocial and popular. Make people want to join the group, instead of having to plead with them.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO prudently pay great attention to the words and labels you use, is an art you must diligently practice.
HAVE it that it is far much better, for instance, to call someone a team member than just an employee.
OPULENTLY put yourself in the inferior, one-down position, or commit something relatively harmless.
UNDERSTANDABLY this is faux pas (simply an embarrassing mistake that breaks a social convention).
GOODLY, you can even OFFEND people in a more pronounced way, and then ask for their forgiveness.
HONESTLY, by asking for this, you imply their moral superiority, a position all people love to occupy.
TRULY appeal to their deeply ingrained love instincts, and they are duly vulnerable to your suggestion.

N_#6. Subtly Allaying or Getting a Bead on Their Insecurities.--->

Note that, everyone has particular insecurities — about their looks, their creative powers, their masculinity, their power status, their uniqueness, their popularity, et cetera. Your task is to get a bead on these insecurities through the various conversations you draw them into. Once you have identified them, you must first be extra careful not to trigger them. People have grown sensitive antennae for any words or body language that might cast doubt on their physical appearance or their popularity, or whatever their insecurity may be.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO prevail over and to draw people on your side, be aware of and be on guard to never pick holes in them.
HARNESS it as the best strategy to praise as well as flatter those qualities that people are most insecure about.
ON all occassions, we all crave adoration, even if we somehow see through the person who is acclaiming us.
USUALLY, that is because we live in a tough world in which we are continually disapproved and reproached.
GENERALLY speaking yesterday’s gains and triumphs are easily followed by tomorrow’s failure and letdown.
HOWEVER economically, politically or socially elevated we may seem, as humans we never really feel secure.
THE flattery, if it is done right, we feel that the flatterer likes us - and we tend to like those people who like us.

D_#7. Reassuring Those Key Qualities They are Uncertain About.--->

Directing your flattery in a manner that makes it successful, is to make it strategic. If I know that I am particularly awful at basketball, praising me for my basketball skills in any way will ring false. But if I am uncertain about my skills, if I imagine I am perhaps not really so bad, then any flattery on that score can work wonders. Look for those qualities people are uncertain about and offer reassurance. This is the incense which to give him or her, the smoke of which would turn his or her head in your favour.

If your targets are powerful and quite Machiavellian (cunning and unscrupulous), they might feel somewhat insecure about their moral qualities. Flattering them about their clever manipulations might backfire, but obvious praise of their goodness would be too transparent, because they know themselves too well. Instead, some strategic flattery about how you have benefited from their advice, and how their criticisms helped improve your performance, will appeal to their self-opinion of being tough yet fair, with a good heart underneath the gruff exterior.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be precise, it is always better to praise people for their sheer effort, and not their talent.
HAVE it that, when you extol individuals for their talent, there is a slight deprecation implied.
OF course, it sordidly sounds as if they were simply lucky for being born with a natural skill.
UNDERSTAND: Everyone likes to feel that they earned their good fortune through hard work.
GIVEN, that is where you must aim your praise: with equals, you have more room to flatter.
HOWEVER with superiors, it is best to agree with their opinions and validate their wisdom.
TOO transparent it is to flatter your lecturer, administrator or boss; this may simply backfire.

R_#8. Never Following Up Your Praise with a Request for Help.--->

Realise that upon giving a praise, you should not directly or immediately show whatever it is you are after. Your flattery is a setup and requires the passage of some time.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY as much as it is in your power to not appear too ingratiating in the first encounter or two.
HAPPILY, it is much better to show even a little coldness, which will give you room to warm up.
OPERATIONALLY, it will surface out that after a few days you have grown to like this person.
USUALLY, a few flattering words aimed at their insecurities will begin to melt their resistance.
GETTING third parties to pass along your compliments - if possible - will have a wonderful effect.
HAVING hastened not, this will subtly and naturally come out as if they had just overheard them.
THE most sure road to achieve your ends is to never be too lavish in your praise or use absolutes.

E_#9. You Really Become Who You Sincerely Aspires To Become.--->

Existence precedes essence. This is the fundamental situation of us human beings, as proclaimed by French philosopher, novelist and playwright Jean-Paul Sartre (1905 - 1980). Sartre has the following to say in Being and Nothingness (1943): “What is meant here by saying that existence precedes essence? It means that first of all, man exists, turns up, appears on the scene and only afterwards he defines himself. If man, is undefined, it is because at first he is nothing. Only afterward will he be something and he himself will have made what he will be…Not only is man what he conceives himself to be, but he is also what he wills himself to be after his thrust towards existence. Man is nothing but what he makes himself”.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE most uncontestable situation of us humans is that we must exist if we are to be anything at all.
HAVING affirmed this TRUTH, it therefore goes that we owe nothing to nature but our existence.
ONTOLOGICALLY, our existence does not make us - for existing, we make ourselves - this is LIFE.
UNHINDERED the ego-strengths of authenticity and genuineness consist in this radical recognition.
GUIDING or sanctifying our core conduct? There are no ideal, rigid, universal natural principles.
HONESTLY, therein lies our integrity and robust reward in an admittedly unique sense of the word.
TRULY irreversible and acutely adorable consequence is that we will not at all suffer self-alienation.

D_#10. Letting People Feel Autonomous; Not Being Manipulated.--->

Due diligence must be taken if you aspire to move people in your direction. No attempt at influence can ever work if people feel in any way that they are being coerced or manipulated. They must choose to do whatever it is you want them to do, or they must at least experience it as their choice. The more deeply you can create this impression, the greater your chances of success. Your attempts at influence must always follow this logic: how can you get others to perceive the favour you want to ask for as something they already desire? Framing it as something pleasurable, as a rare opportunity, and as something other people want to do will generally have the proper effect.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO appeal directly to people’s competitive instincts is another subtle variation on the above strategy.
HOPING to give people gifts or rewards as a possible means of WINNING them over to your side?
ONE important consideration is always SEEKING to give smaller gifts or rewards than larger ones.
UNUSUAL large gifts looks as if you are buying their loyalty; offends their sense of independence.
GIFTS (large) might be accepted by some out of need, but later they will feel resentful or suspicious.
HAVING a better effect are smaller gifts — tells themselves they deserve and are not being bribed.
TIDBITS, smaller rewards, spread out over time, binds people to you in a greater way than lavishness.

A_#11. The Cohesive Glue in Society is Self-interest as well as Fear.--->

Any ambitious human being is conscious of the central role played by self-interest in all human interactions. Self-interest as the propelling forces of development and the essence of civilisation was well articulated by Scottish philosopher and economist Adam Smith (1723 - 1790) in An Inquiry into the Nature and Causes of Wealth (1776): “It is not from the benevolence of the butcher, the brewer or the baker, that we expect diner, but from the regard to their own self-interests. We address ourselves not to their humanity but their self-love.”

English philosopher and political theorist Thomas Hobbes (1588 - 1679) argued that, a human being is not naturally a social being, recognising the claims of the community upon him and sharing in its prosperity, but a purely selfish creature, seeking only his or her advantage, and resisting the competing claims of others. In Leviathan (1651) [Latin for sovereign power] he writes: “Whatsoever therefore is consequent to a time of war, where every man is enemy to every man; the same is consequent to the time, wherein men live without other security, than what their own strength, and their own invention shall furnish them withal. In such condition, there is no place for industry; because the fruit thereof is uncertain…no knowledge of the face of the earth; no account of time; no arts; no letters; no society; and which is worst of all, continual fear, and danger of violent death; and the LIFE of man, solitary, poor, nasty, brutish and short”.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be precise, Nature has implanted upon every human being his or her ability to look at and further his or her own ideals.
HOBBES adds an element of awe: Society originates out of self-interest and fear, not out of natural feeling for other people.
OUTRIGHTLY, Hobbes duly defended as natural and reasonable the interest one takes in one’s own welfare and hapinness.
UNRIVALLED, the first and only rule of LIFE is self-protection; we have a natural RIGHT to do anything serving this end.
GNAWINGLY, in as much as this happens in “state of nature”, Hobbes says that the result is “contention, enmity, and war”.
HE did not claim that the “state of nature” existed historically; it exists in any time where civil society is not functioning.
THE “state of nature is one of general war”, and “the notions of right and wrong, justice and injustice, have there no place”.

N_#12. Cleansing Your Mind of All Prejudices and Preconceptions.--->

Nietzsche, on his philological grounding argued: “Thus, the strength of knowledge does not depend on its degree of truth [as we suppose] but on its age, on the degree to which it has been incorporated, on its character as a condition of LIFE…A thinker is now that being in whom the impulse for truth and those life-preserving errors clash for their first fight, after the impulse for truth has proved to be also a life-preserving power. Compared to the significance of this fight, everything else is a matter of indifference: the ultimate question about the conditions of LIFE has been posed here, and we confront the first attempt to answer this question by experiment. To what extent can truth endure incorporation? That is the question; that is the experiment.” But how do we ensure our PSYCHE receive and send the correct signal and therefore give us the correct picture of REALITY?

In the first instance, as Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626) informs us, in his Novum Organum (1620), [latin meaning ‘new instrument’] all prejudices and preconceived attitudes, which he called idols, must be abandoned: “The idols and false notions which are now in possession of the human understanding, and have taken deep root therein, not only so beset men’s minds that truth can hardly find entrance, but even after entrance obtained, they will again in the very instauration of the sciences meet and trouble us, unless men being forewarned of the danger fortify themselves as far as may be against their assaults”. He called upon dismantling these idols whether they be the common property of the race due to common modes of thought (idols of the tribe), or the peculiar possession, constitution and circumstaces of the individual (idols of the cave); whether they arise from too great a dependence on language, or rather verbal fictions and confusions which have crept into the understanding as a result of associations of humans with one another (idols of the marketplace) or from tradition and philosophical systems, which like so many stage-plays represents worlds of their own creation after an unreal and scenic fashion (idols of the theater).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRULY, truly our conception of TRUTH must be ardently appreciated as the accuracy of description of REALITY.
HOWEVER, it is TRUE that owing to their unreliability, our sense organs are totally incapable of fixing REALITY.
ONE indubitable factor is that, only by INTUITION that our success in this direction can be made a pure possibility.
UNDENIABLY, this is the sure springboard to having a glimpse of TRUTH (full discovery is beyond mortal grasp).
GAINING insight of the secret of Cosmic Consciousness; total, honest immersal and surrender unto ‘EXISTENCE’.
HASTENING our evolution by accruing those LIFE-enhancing nuggets; clearing all obstacles to growth is our IDEAL.
THIS is in order to allow NATURE and her DIVINE plan to lead us towards the full unfoldment of our POTENTIALS.

D_#13. Designing Your Own Realistic Pattern of Seeing the World.--->

Discoveries in psychology have served to illumine the manifestation of human motivations. Lativian born philosopher Isaiah Berlin (1909 - 1997) taught: “Men cannot live without seeking to describe and explain the universe to themselves.” Each person views the world through sunglasses of his or her own choosing. During the course of our lives, we are compelled to develop many different constructs. Further, we engage in the process of continually testing, revising, and modifying them. As none of our constructs are ultimate, alternative constructs that we could choose from are always available. Thus, a person is free to change his or her constructs in an effort to make sense out of, predict, and control the world. Thus our position in the world should be one of what American psychologist George Kelly (1905 - 1967) referred to as Constructive Alternativism, as we change or revise our construct to understand it more accurately.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE world is essentially not a fixed given that can be immediately comprehended and understood.
HAVING duly appreciated that, the world in and of itself does not automatically make sense to us.
OUTRIGHT consequence is that we have to develop constructs or the WAY of perceiving the world.
UNHINDERED by anything, we have to create our own ways of understanding the events that happen.
GROOMED well by only our clear PSYCHE anyone event is thus open to a variety of interpretations.
HONEST to only GOD and PRESENT, in effect there is no REALITY outside our interpretation of it.
THROUGH transparent patterns or templates of our own creation, is how we truly look at the world.

F_#14. Your Basic Motivations are in a Continual State of Change.--->

Flexibility in beliefs and motives is what defines an authentic human being. American psychologist Gordon Allport (1897 - 1967) taught that our present motivations are not necessarily tied to the past. A given behaviour may become a goal in itself regardless of its original intention. Adult motives are not necessarily related to the earlier experiences in which motive or activity initially appeared. For example, let us imagine young Otieno’s father was a chess fan. During his spare time, Otieno played chess to gain his father’s attention and to please him. Otieno went further to play chess in his school teams and he is now a professional chess player.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TODAY, does it make sense to insist, that Otieno’s motive for amorously playing chess,
HAS not changed and rigidly continues to be that of fundamentally pleasing his father?
ONE reasonable suggestion is that he plays because he passionately ENJOYS the game.
UNCOMPROMISED, he is also glad and grateful for the financial rewards that it brings.
GRANTED, his present motives are entirely different and free from his original motives.
HIS present purpose, and intention is in the words of Allport ‘Functionally Autonomous.’
THERE may be an apparent historical TIE, but there is no substantial FUNCTIONAL TIE.

I_#15. Morality is the Substantial Basis of All Ethical Behaviour.--->

Immersing yourself in the moral codes of your culture is what will define you as an ethical person. Morality in origin is adherence to those customs which are considered essential to the health and preservation of the group. Some customs are mere conventions, like the ritual of knife (circumcision). But certain customs, like monogamy or polygamy, endogamy or exogamy, abstention from murder within the tribe, and willingness to kill outside it, come to be looked upon as vital to the common good. They develop in Categorical Imperatives - commands not to be questioned - and are defended by passionate prohibitions, exhortations and excommunications. Conventions are customs which are more practised than preached; morals are customs which are more preached than practised. They are duties which we require of our neighbours.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THIS is notable: If an action is a necessity, then it is not a SIN; if it is optional, then it can be AVOIDED.
HOLY public show which is not customary, either is wrong or, if it is right, is a dangerous PRECEDENT.
ON all matters of convinience, it follows that nothing new should ever be done openly for the first TIME.
UNDERSTAND this well: Somewhere between your ambition and ideals, never lose your ethical compass.
GENERAL morals are an acquirement — like music, like a language, like piety — none is born with them.
HARDLY prefer convenience to liberty, and also a pleasant temperature to the deathly inner consuming fire.
TEACH yourself to always think like other people? Oh, my God, teach yourself rather to think for yourself!

F_#16. Suitable Morality is Essentially in a State of Continual Flux.--->

Feel free to dig into the origin of a moral sanction. Morality changes due to change in material condition arising during various phases in the historical evolution. That is why every vice may once have been a virtue, and may become respectable again, as hatred becomes respectable in war. For instance, brutality and greed were once necessary in the struggle for existence, and are now ridiculous atavisms. Yearn for a balanced existence, by keeping off any sort of obsession. The ideal career is that which combine physical and mental activity in unity or in alteration. True morality, consist in giving due satisfaction to the different elements in us, and preventing any of them domineering at the expense of the others. Physical desire, ambition, and intellect for instance must have their due and proper fulfilment, and find their proper place in a good LIFE.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRUST in all basic perspectives any moral law only upon its practicability in handling a social dilemma.
HISTORICALLY, a moral law like a law in physics is not something to swear by and stick to at all hazards.
ON a deeper analysis, it is a formula of the way to respond when specified conditions present themselves.
UPON acting on it and testing what happens, is the only realistic way to prove its soundness and pertinence.
GRANTED, its prudent claim or authority rest finally only upon the imperativeness of the situation at hand.
HANDLING or dealing with a certain issue determines its degree of utility; not upon its own intrinsic nature.
THIS is tantamount to how any tool achieves dignity or derives value from the measure of needs served by it.

T_#17. Making Criticism Subtle Without Triggering Any Insecurity.--->

Temptation to criticise or praise other people is overriding. A clever way to cover your tracks is to mix in some small criticisms of the person or their work, with nothing that will trigger insecurities but enough to give your praise a more realistic hue: “I loved your screenplay, although I feel act two might need a little work.” Do not say, “Your latest book is so much better than the last one.” Be very careful when people ask you for their opinion about their work or something related to their character or their looks. They do not want the truth; they want support and confirmation given as realistically as possible. Be happy to supply this for them. You must seem as sincere as possible.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY your level best to choose those qualities to praise that you actually admire, if at all this is possible.
HAVE it that, what gives people away is the nonverbal cues — praise along with STIFF body language.
OR a fake smile or eyes glancing elsewhere. To surface out as a charlatan or a hypocrite is utterly lethal.
USUALLY, feel some of the good emotions you are expressing so any exaggeration will seem less obvious.
GEAR yourself towards positivity; keep in mind that your target must have a relatively high self-opinion.
HOWEVER if low, the flattery will not jibe with how they feel about themselves and will ring HOLLOW.
TO be precise, in any event for those of high self-opinion it will seem only natural and superbly appealing.

Y_#18. Using People’s Key Resistance and Stubbornness Proactively.--->

You will always be encountering people who are doubters and skeptical to the core. These are folks who are particularly resistant to any form of influence. They are most often people with deeper levels of insecurity and low self-opinion. This can manifest itself in a rebellious attitude. Such types feel as if it is them against the world. They must assert their will at all costs and resist any kind of change. They will do the opposite of what people suggest. They will seek advice for a particular problem or symptom, only to find dozens of reasons of why the advice given will not work for them.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE best thing to do here is to purposivelly play a game of mental judo (a Japanese martial art) with them.
HONING judo style entails not countering directly people’s energetic moves with a THRUST of your own.
ONLY seek to ENCOURAGE their aggressive energy (resistance) in order to make them fall on their own.
USUAL way to put this into practice in everyday LIFE is never trying COUNTER people’s strong emotions.
GRAVITATE towards trying to MOVE with them and find a way to channel them in a productive direction.
HASTE here is key: At the same time when you use people’s words BACK at them, it has a hypnotic effect.
TACTFULLY used, how can they not follow what you suggest when it is exactly the words they have used?

F_#19. Environment and Individual Beliefs Guides Basic Behaviour.--->

Free-will finds its utmost manifestation, only in a favourable environment. In his Social Learning Theory (1977), American psychologist Albert Bandura (b.1925), maintained that human behaviour is due to a ‘Reciprocal Determinism’ that involves behavioural, cognitive and environmental factors. According to this concept, although environmental stimuli influences our behaviour, individual personal factors such as beliefs and expectations also influence how we behave. This is to mean that although actions are regulated by their consequences, external stimuli affect behaviour through intervening, cognitive process.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be precise, while we are consciously behaving, we are also thinking about what we are duly doing.
HOW our behaviour is really affected by the environment is fundamentally influenced by our thoughts.
OUR cognitive process determines which stimuli we recognise, how we will perceive and act upon them.
USE of symbols in order to engage in a certain type of thinking is permited by basic cognitive processes.
GIVEN, this type of situational thinking enables us to affirmatively anticipate different courses of action.
HERE, by acting reflectively rather than automatically we are able to change our immediate environment.
THIS then goes that, in so doing, we arrange reinforcements for ourselves and influence our behaviour.

O_#20. Solid Inventions and Innovations Influences Modern Progress.--->

Objective appreciation of our conditions is what determines our success in LIFE. This is all about positionng yourself for opportunity and taking action. Climate, food, soil and the general aspects of nature (environmental factors) have affected the life-story of every race since antiquity. Before Industrial Revolution and in most pre-mechanised societies, Geography provided and still provides limiting conditions, but seldom decisive forces. It was and is the charmed circle within which other forces lift a nation to leadership or drag it down to extinction. Will Durant in Pleasures of Philosophy (1954) summed this in three formulas:

Everywhere the culture of the soil precedes and condition the culture of the soul…Coal is king, oil is his heir apparent, and the electric power is pretender to the throne…It is commerce rather than industry that has stimulated life and thought and produced the supreme epochs of European culture.

But in this age of IT Revolution the economic as well as political progression of every country is to be explained by the nature of its intellectual progress (cognitive level). Listen to American futurist Alvin Toffler in his book The Third Wave (1974):

So profoundly revolutionary is this new civilisation that it challenges all our old assumptions. Old ways of thinking, old formulas, dogmas, and ideologies, no matter how cherished or how useful in the past, no longer fit the facts. The world that is fast emerging from the clash of new values and technologies, new geopolitical relationships, new lifestyles and modes of communication, demands wholly new ideas and analogies, classifications, and concepts. We cannot cram the embryonic world of tomorrow into yesterdays conventional cubbyholes. Nor are the orthodox attitudes or modes appropriate.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRUE progress is affluently achieved by lessening the dependence of people upon natural conditions.
HISTORICAL factors aside, this is facilitated by the introduction and multiplication of INVENTIONS.
ONCE people’s MASTERY of the environment increases, objective and physical forces decreases impact.
UNDER all manifestations, these conditions lose more of their potent POWER in determining EVENTS.
GIVEN the environment, there must come to it, for the purposes of CIVILIZATION, creative characters.
HARNESSING development, squarely lies in the hand of a population gifted with initiative and VIGOUR.
THIS is what LIFE requires, in order to win over a wilderness and mould a milieu to growing PURPOSES.

U_#21. Suitable Reasons for Acting are Derived from our Conditions.--->

Understand that avoiding being pure inwardness or pure externality, neither escaping from the sensible world nor being engulfed in it, yielding not entirely to eternity or enclosing ourselves in the pure moment, is your key prerogative. This further implies that our strength to live and our reasons for acting are drawn from the genuine conditions of our moral LIFE. The supreme end of our LIFE should be to live at the highest level of masterful intellectual morality in the name of honesty and accuracy.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO uproot ourselves from petty everyday self-betrayal and GAZE upon LIFE in its entirety is GODLY.
HOURLY, we are called upon to GRASP the possibility of our situation as a challenge to our POWER.
OUT of bounds of social scruples, this entails becoming all what we are FREELY capable of becoming.
UTILIZING our immense abilities, this means reaching BEYOND ourselves and aiming at what is not yet.
GROOMED BEYOND negation, self-transcendence and self-projection are temporariry rooted in futurity.
HEARING not the false voices of doomsayers, we will move into a FUTURE that is personally controlled.
TOWARDS that period of time in which our affairs prosper, friends are true and our happiness is assured.

R_#22. Fondly Making the Ultimate Utility of Your Social Environment.--->

Realise that, as humans we are not revealed or given as islands isolated from the world, but we discover ourselves as already immersed in a world of preoccupation with utensils and of concern for others. Being in the world implies being involved, being creative, questioning, observing, inquiring, applying, fostering, producing, sacrificing, undertaking, being active, being preoccupied and being concerned. We are not self-enclosed egos, neither are we abstract subjects, besides being ‘open’ to other individuals and to the world. We are being-in-the world, starting out from the background of the world, and capable of taking our destiny in our hands and shaping it with authentic freedom.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO one of woman born, is that which you must not YIELD, for you bear a NOBLE and a charmed LIFE.
HOPE means shooting an ARROW of your aspirition into the air, even not knowing where it will FALL.
OWN your VISION: If you do not know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.
UNINHIBITED, our time has come! All obstacles are falling. We must occupy a PSYCHIC high ground.
GAIN NOW, soon the WHEEL will come full circle, for every human meets his or her Waterloo at LAST.
HAVING your own destiny, the only imperative is to follow it, to accept it, no matter where it leads you.
TIMES go by turns, and chances change by course, revolving from foul to FAIR, from BETTER to worse.

O_#23. Shunning Rogue Inhibitions so as to Overcome any Impediment.--->

Openness to experience, being free from prejudices and preconceived ideas will determine and propel your personal growth. Starkly naked, one finds entry into the world, and starkly naked (of one’s consciousness) shall one exit the world. So starkly naked of all inhibitions and confronting oneself without excuses shall one sail through the stream of LIFE unto tranquility. Ennobling independence of mind does not mean inaction in the face of disaster. It means taking up arms to defend sanity as well as taking up arms to fight insanity. No one was more independent than Jesus Christ, but when he found the sanctity of the Holy Temple being violated by the money changers, he cast off all humility and became violent, turning over the tables on which the violators of the temple’s sanctity were transacting their dirty business.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRUE humanness entails stoutly negating anything that waters down your will-to-live and will-to-power.
HUMAN BEINGS are duly trapped between two accidents; the accident of birth and the accident of death.
ONTOLOGICAL accident of birth because no human consciously contemplates beforehand his or her birth.
UNTOLD accident of death? No human can consciously foresee the time and circumstances of one’s death.
GRANTED, between the two accidents, every human is faced with the mission of courageous organisation.
HONING one’s LIFE towards fulfillment is ascertaing that primal simplicity in every maker since ADAM.
TO be one is greatness and animal fused together: None of your acts is pure charity; none is pure bestiality.

N_#24. Using Their Rigidity so as to Alter Their Behavioral Tendencies.--->

Note that, when people are rigid in their opposition to something, it stems from deep fear of change and the uncertainty it could bring. They must have everything on their terms and feel in control. You play into their hands if you try with all your advice to encourage change — it gives them something to react against and justifies their rigidity. They become more stubborn. Stop fighting with such people and use the actual nature of their rigid behavior to effect a gentle change that could lead to something greater. On their own, they discover something new, and on their own they might take this further, all set up by your judo maneuver.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRULY keep in mind the following: In the absence of taboos or violent coercion humans are hard to influence.
HUMANS are rebellious by nature: They will readily rebel either for change or they will rebel against change.
OFTEN people will not necessarily do what others ask them to do, because they just want to assert their WILL.
UTILIZE this by heartily agreeing with their rebellion; telling them to keep on DOING what they are DOING.
GREASED well, it now means that if they do so they are following your ADVICE, which is distasteful to them.
HAVING felt their WILL diluted, they may very well rebel again and assert their WILL in the opposite direction.
THIS is what you wanted all along — the essence of reverse psychology- to let them revel in a sense of freedom.

E_#25. Duly Having Some Ironic Distance From Your Own Self-Opinion.--->

Entrenched in you, is an opinion of YOURSELF. So, when it comes to your own self-opinion, try to have some ironic distance from it. Make yourself aware of its existence and how it operates within you. Come to terms with the fact that you are not as free and autonomous as you like to believe. You do conform to the opinions of the groups you belong to; you do buy products because of subliminal influence; you can be manipulated.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE most difficult SECRET for a human to keep is his or her own OPINION of oneself.
HAVE it as well that you are not as GOOD as the idealized image of your self-OPINION.
OBSESSED with your own agenda and like everyone else, you can be quite self-absorbed.
UNVEILING this with awareness, you will not feel the need to be VALIDATED by others.
GENERATIVELY, you will diligently work at making yourself a truly independent person.
HONEST and altruistic, you will be VERILY concerned with the general welfare of others.
THIS is as opposed to staying attached to the irresponsible illusion of your self-OPINION.

H_#26. Creativity is Decisively Combining Experiment and Rationality.--->

H istory has shown that people of experiment are like ant; they collect and use. Thinkers resemble spiders; they make cobwebs out of their own substance. The bee takes the middle course, for it gathers its material from the flowers of the garden and field, and transforms and digest it by a power of its own, then excretes the sweet honey. Not unlike this, is the true business of scientific spirit of inquiry; for it neither relies solely or chiefly on the powers of the mind, nor does it take the matter which it gathers from natural history and mechanical experiments and lay up in the memory whole, as it finds it, but lays up in the understanding altered and digested. Therefore, from a closer and purer league between two faculties, the experimental and rational, much may be hoped in regard to arousing and unleashing your inherent creative powers.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TODAY many inventors, diplomats, financiers are sounder philosophers than experimental psychologists.
HE or she was a bold human being that first ate an oyster; you must be really willing to taste any drink once.
OBSERVATION discloses numerous phenomena existing side by side, interconnected, indirect and accidental.
USUALLY confronted with a multitude of assumptions the MIND must guess the real nature of this connection.
GREAT theories when crafting them? Always keep a window open so that you can throw one out if necessary.
HASTEN not to despise empiric truth: Lots of things work in practice for which the lab has never found proof.
TRULY, truly, all of us humans are guinea pigs in the laboratory of GOD: Humanity is just a work in progress.

U_#27. Being Such an Intimate Friend of the Past and Present Geniuses.--->

Unravel the fact that, in the aridness, narrowness and parochialism which LIFE may tend to constrict you, a sincere strive for ‘Active SELFHOOD’ should drive you in the direction of making friends of genius of the past. For a few coins you can buy their counsel and listen familiarly to their speech and by learning from them, mould yourself in the clear air which runs about them. Opening yourself to the slow influence of books, is what American historian and philosopher Will Durant (1885 - 1981) likened to “a flowing water curving out a canyon.” In the companion of these past sages and heroes, sitting at the breakfast table with Aristotle, being accompanied on a journey by Freud or lying on a coach together with Rollo May, you will not escape being lifted up a notch or two by their refreshing enrichment, to a higher level of ‘Realisation’. Listen to Italian writer and literary scholar Umberto Eco (1932 - ): “The good of a book lies in being read. A book is made up of signs that speak of other signs, which in their turn speak of things. Without an eye to read them, a book contains signs that produce no concepts; therefore it is dumb.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE this to the bank: A nourishing good book is absolutely the best of friends, the same today and for ever.
HEAR this: A truly great book should be seriously read in youth, again in maturity and once more in old age.
OPULENTLY, this act is like a fine building which should be seen by morning light, at noon and by moonlight.
UNDESERVEDLY forgotten are some books; in all academic disciplines none are undeservedly remembered.
GENERALLY speaking all worthy good books are alike in that they are truer than if they had really happened.
HONESTLY, after you are finished reading one you will feel that all that happened to you all belongs to you:
THE good and the bad, the ecstasy, the remorse and sorrow, the people and the places and how the weather was.

N_#28. Meaningful LIFE Entails Perpertual Struggle and Potent Hustle.--->

Nothing in this world is given on a silver plate. If the immediate and direct purpose of our LIFE is not struggling and hustling then our existence is the most ill-adapted to its purpose in the world. It is absurd to suppose that the endless affliction of which the world is everywhere full, and which arises out of the need and distress pertaining essentially to LIFE, should be purposeless and purely accidental. Each individual misfortune, to be sure seems an exceptional occurrence; but misfortune in general is the rule.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE world of the future will precisely be an ever more demanding struggle against the limits of our intelligence.
HOPE not that it will be a comfortable hammock in which we can lie down to be waited upon by our robot slaves.
ONE British poet and critic Stephen Spender (1909 - 1995) vowed: “Never being, but always at the edge of Being”.
USUAL, reciprocal struggle of discordant powers (action and counteraction) draws out the harmony of the universe.
GOOD after bad, sleep after toil, port after stormy seas, ease after war, death after life - this does greatly PLEASE.
HISTORY (its essence and drama) lie in the active and continuous relationship between the underlying conditions,
THAT set the boundaries of human existence and the everyday problems with which people consciously struggle.

D_#29. Usual Misfortunes Comparatively Impacts More on Our Minds.--->

Dangerous things seems to impact so much on our minds than free flowing ones. Just as a stream flows smoothly on as long as it encounters no obstruction, so the nature of humans and animals is such that we never really notice or become conscious of what is agreeable to our will; if we are to notice something, our will has to have been thwarted, has to have experienced a shock of some kind. On the other hand, all that opposes, frustrates and resists our will, that is to say all that is unpleasant and painful, impresses itself upon us instantly, directly and with great clarity. Just as we are conscious not of the healthiness of our whole body but only of the little place where the shoe pinches, so we think not of the totality of our successful activities but of some insignificant trifle or other which continues to vex us. On this fact is founded what German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer (1788 - 1860) drew attention to: The negativity of well-being and happiness, in antithesis to the positivity of pain. “But what do I get from existence? If it is full I have only distress, if empty only boredom. How can you offer me so poor a reward for so much labor and so much suffering?” so asked Schopenhauer.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THESE words of poet William Shakespeare are therapeutic: “O, how full of briers is this working-day world!”
HONOUR, grace we all cling these, but nothing so saps the profound resources of life as finding life too easy.
O you who have borne even heavier things, God will grant an end to these too: Roman poet Virgil (70 - 19 BC).
UNEASY than pain of body is the pain of mind. But pain is LIFE — the sharper it is, the more evidence of LIFE.
HOW is your pain is self-chosen? It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
GREATLY pained are we at how little we are pained by the events that happens in our daily socio-political arena.
TRULY, in our mind is seated wisdom, understanding, and the knowledge of value of pain as a LIFE’s stimulant.

R_#30. Deftly Diluting Your Misfortune by Observing Others’ Calamities.--->

Read about the unfortunate things that have affected people (and perhaps how they have endured them), and you stop being disturbed by the negative occurences which you may be encountering. The most effective consolation in every misfortune and every affliction is to observe others who are more unfortunate than we: and everyone can do this. “If you choose to represent the various parts in life by holes upon a table, of different shapes, — some circular, some triangular, some square, some oblong, — and the persons acting these parts by bits of wood of similar shapes, we shall generally find that the triangular person has got into the square hole, the oblong into the triangular, and a square person has squeezed himself into the round hole,” so preached British clergyman, essayist, and wit Sydney Smith (1771 - 1845).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THY flocks feed not, thy ewes breed not, thy rams speed not, all is amiss: But your neighbour has none.
HOW a lamenter thou tend to be? When as a Crier you cry, ‘O No!’ listen to those who cries, ‘O No No!’
ORDERLY or disorderly your love is dying, faith is defying, heart is denying, but someone is in a comma.
USING one’s imagination avoids many misfortunes; one who anticipates one’s own death rarely kills self.
GENERAL calamities are of two kinds: misfortune to ourselves, which translate into good fortune to others.
HARDEN your heart, for misfortunes ceases not: Everything is funny, as long as it is happening to another.
TROUBLED? In the misfortune of our best friends, we always find something which is not displeasing to us.

E_#31. Being Prepared to Face Adverseries and Challanges Everywhere.--->

Engage LIFE with boldness, and you will cleanse yourself of all defeatist attitude. History shows us the LIFE of nations and finds nothing to narrate but wars and tumults. The peaceful years appear only as occasional brief pauses and interludes. In just the same way the LIFE of the individual is a constant struggle, and not merely a metaphorical one against want or boredom, but also an actual struggle against other people. Every human being discovers adversaries everywhere, lives in continual conflict and dies with sword in hand. “Man is the most vicious of all animals. And LIFE is a series of battles ending in victory or defeat,” so said president Donald Trump in a 1981 People interview. Listen to Chinese statesman Mao Zedong (1893 - 1976): “You must despise your enemy strategically, but respect him tactically.” “It takes your enemy and your friend, working together, to hurt you to the heart; the one to slander you and the other to get the news to you,” so illumined U.S. writer and humorist Mark Twain (1835 - 1910).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRINIDADIAN writer, and political theorist C. L. R. James (1901 - 1989) said: “Eminence engenders enemies.”
HUMANITY alternates between conflicts and reconciliation: We have no eternal allies and no perpetual enemies.
OUR interests as political animals are eternal and perpetual, and those interests it is our deliberate duty to follow.
UNLEASH your actions diligently. Never explain. Your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe it.
GIVE without chaining people in debts: A small debt makes a man your debtor, a large one makes him your enemy.
HEARKEN not to those infernal creatures; the curse of mankind; they become every day more and more abominable.
TO be precise, you can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he or she uses to frighten you.

D_#32. Inevitable Conflicts and Crisis are Sharpening Tools for the Mind.--->

Depression, stress, worry, anxiety and trouble serves to sharpen our insticts for survival. Just as our body would burst asunder if the pressure of the atmosphere were removed from it, so would the arrogance of human being expand, if not to the point of bursting then to that of the most unbridled folly, indeed madness, if the pressure of want, toil, calamity and frustration were removed from their LIFE. One can even say that we require at all times a certain quantity of care or sorrow or want as a ship requires ballast, in order to keep on a straight course. “When you’re caught in the turbulence of a strategic inflection point, the sad fact is that instinct and judgment are all you’ve got to guide you through,” thus encouraged Hungarian-born U.S. business executive Andrew S. Grove (1936 - ).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TEMPER your spirit with the words of poet George Chapman (1559? - 1634): “Danger, the spur of all great minds.”
HAVING possesed the sure secret of joy will solidly sustain us through any spiritual or moral or physical devastation.
OUR education should INSPIRE us to live more abundantly, to learn to face LIFE as we found it and make it better.
UTILITY means stressing the oneness of our resources and the live-and-help-live logic of the great chain of LIFE.
GNAWINGLY, it is obvious that the best qualities in individuals must atrophy in a standing-room-only environment.
HUMAN BEINGS mostly in their youth go through periodic crises in which they feel an urge to destroy themselves.
THIS is very important, because if we succeed in mastering the crisis we rise again, as if reborn, from our own ashes.

A_#33. Being Ardently Active is What Solemnly Sweetens LIFE’s Buffets.--->

Activity, work and even toil are indeed the lot of almost all people their whole LIFE long. And yet if every desire were satisfied as soon as it arose how would people occupy their lives, how would they pass the time? Imagine this human race transported to a Utopia where everything grows of its own accord and turkeys fly around ready-roasted, where lovers find one another without any delay and keep one another without any difficulty. In such a world some people would die of boredom or hang themselves, some would fight and kill one another, and thus they would create for themselves more suffering than nature inflicts on them as it is. Thus for humanity in this stage of evolution, no form of existence is suitable other than the one it already possesses. This is what Welsh poet and mystic Henry Vaughan (1622 - 1695) affirms:

Man is the shuttle, to whose winding quest
And passage through these looms
God order’d motion, but ordain’d no rest.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE intellect of human beings is duly disposed (if not forced) to choose perfection of the LIFE, or of the WORK.
HOLISTIC LIFE is a short day; but it is a working day. Activity may lead to evil, but inactivity cannot lead to good.
ONWARD we match, fighting, never ending, still beginning: If the world be worth our winning, it is worth enjoying.
UNLIMITEDLY blessed are horny-handed sons of toil, for their hands shall never be dishonoured by begging bowls.
GAINFULLY work to nourish yourself, to propagate your destiny: Waste not your toil for the vain tribute of a smile.
HIM Winston Churchill, when becoming a prime minister: “I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears and sweat.”
TO toil and not to seek for rest; to labor and not ask for any reward, save that of knowing that we do GOD’S WILL.

N_#34. We Should Boldly Break the Walls We Set Up Around Ourselves.--->

Notably, from early on in LIFE we humans develop a defensive and self-protective side to our personality. It begins in early childhood as we cultivate a sense of personal physical space that others should not violate. It later expands into a feeling of personal dignity — people should not coerce or manipulate us into doing things we do not want to. We should be free to choose what we desire. These are necessary developments in our growth as socialised humans. As we get older, however, these defensive qualities often solidify into something much more rigid, and for good reason. People are continually judging and appraising us — are we competent enough, good enough, a team player? We never feel quite free of this scrutiny. One noticeable failure in our lives, and people’s scrutiny will turn into negative judgments that can cripple us for a long time. Furthermore, we have the feeling that people are always trying to take from us — they want our time, our money, our ideas, our labour. In the face of all of this, we naturally become more self-absorbed and defensive — we have to look after our own interests, since nobody else will. We set up walls around ourselves to keep out intruders and those who want something from us. Spanish dramatist and poet Pedro Calderón de la Barca (1600 - 1681) alludes:

He dreams who thrives and prospers in this life.
He dreams who toils and strives. He dreams who injures,
Offends, and insults. So that in this world
Everyone dreams the thing he is, though no one
Can understand it.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THERE are several good protections against temptations, but the surest is cowardice (to withdraw from LIFE).
HIDE not from LIFE’s peril: Neither our principles, nor our freedom to determine our own future are for SALE.
ON planning for freedom? Not only for security; no other reason than that only freedom can make security secure.
UNHINDERED let LIFE flow and let it defend itself, it will do more than if you paralyze it by encumberances.
GENTLY swimming for one’s LIFE, many people do not see much of the country through which the river winds.
HONE objectivity: Sometimes you have to treat everything with some irony, especially the things you hold dear.
THAT is perhaps one of the greatest secrets of our LIFE, for there is more of a chance then that they will survive.

D_#35. What Surely Makes Inner Virtual Walls to Come Tumbling Down.--->

D eveloping strong systems of defense, is what we do by the time we reach our twenties. But in certain circumstances our inner walls can come tumbling down. For instance, during a night of revelry with friends, perhaps after some drinking, we feel bonded with others and not judged by them. Our minds loosen up, and suddenly new and very interesting ideas come to us, and we are open to doing things we would normally never do. In another instance, perhaps we attend some public rally and hear an inspiring speaker advocating for a cause. Feeling on the same page as hundreds of others, caught up in the group spirit, we suddenly feel called to action and to work for the cause — something we might normally resist. The most telling example, however, occurs when we fall in love and the feeling is reciprocated.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE moment the other person appreciates and reflects back to us our most positive qualities is DIVINE.
HABITUAL stubbornness and our ego is what we let go under such a spell; we feel worthy of being loved.
OVER our willpower is what we give the other person unusual sway; the feeling of catharsis is redeeming.
UNCONDITIONALLY accepted, not judged by friends, the group, or a loved one, we feel inwardly secure.
GROOMED well, we see a reflection of ourselves in others. We can thus relax. At our core we feel validated.
HARBOURING pure positivity; not needing to turn inward and defensive, we can direct our minds outward.
TRANSCENDING ourselves BEYOND our ego, we dedicate to a cause, a new idea, or happiness of the other.

F_#36. Nothing is Supremely Enthralling Than the Exercise of Influence.--->

Formidable influence over people and the power that it brings are gained in the opposite way from what you might imagine. Normally we try to charm people with our own ideas, showing ourselves off in the best light. We hype our past accomplishments. We promise great things about ourselves. We ask for favors, believing that being honest is the best policy. What we do not realize is that we are putting all of the attention on ourselves. In a world where people are increasingly self-absorbed, this only has the effect of making others turn more inward in return and think more of their own interests rather than ours. The true spirit of conversation lies in bringing out the cleverness of others; and concealing it yourself. He or she who goes away pleased with oneself and one’s own wit is also greatly pleased with you. “Applause is a receipt, not a note of demand,” so noted Austrian pianist and composer Artur Schnabel (1882 - 1951). Referring to concentrating on economic growth over other concerns Malaysian prime minister Mahathir bin Mohamad (1925 - ) cautioned: “It’s no use if we win the applause but lose the fight.” “I want to thank you for stopping the applause. It is impossible for me to look humble for any period of time,” thus requested German-born U.S. politician and diplomat Henry Kissinger (1923 - ).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be praised and applauded (we cannot gauge sincerity) is what we seek, other than to be instructed, or to be amused.
HOWEVER dimly it may, there is something terribly enthralling in the exercise of influence. No other activity is like it.
OPENLY, to project one’s soul into some gracious form, and let it tarry there for a moment, is superlatively ennobling.
UPWARDLY is to hear one’s own intellectual views echoed back to one with all the added music of passion and youth.
GISTLY real joy lies in conveying one’s temperament into another as though it were a subtle fluid or a strange perfume.
HAPPILY, perhaps this is the most satisfying joy (however fleeting) left to us in an age so limited and vulgar as our own.
THIS may be crowned as the soul stimulant in an age so grossly carnal in its pleasures, and grossly common in its aims.

I_#37. Duly Supplying the Ardent Attention Which People are Hungry For.--->

Indeed the royal road to influence and power is to put the focus on others. Let them do the talking. Have them be the stars of the show. Their opinions and values are worth emulating. The causes they support are the noblest. Such attention is so rare in this world, and people are so hungry for it, that giving them such validation will lower their defenses and open their minds to whatever ideas you want to insinuate. Your first move then is always to step back and assume an inferior position in relation to the other. Make it subtle. Ask for their advice. People are dying to impart their wisdom and experience. Once you feel that they are addicted to this attention, you can initiate a cycle of favors by doing something small for them, something that saves them time or effort.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THEY will instantly want to reciprocate and will return the FAVOR without feeling manipulated or pushed.
HAVING made a commitment, and once people do favors for you, they will continue to work on your behalf.
OBEDIENTLY and volitionally, in doing something for you, they have basically judged you WORTHY of this.
UNINHIBITED, to stop helping you would mean to call into question or water down their original judgment.
GAMBLE not that this may make a black spot on their intelligence, which most people are very reluctant to do.
HUMBLY working slowly this way in a group, you will expand your influence without its seeming aggressive.
THIS is the ultimate disguise for your ambitions: You will not surface out as a person who is overly purposeful.

F_#38. Creating Feeling of Validation in order to Unlock People’s Defenses.--->

Factually, creating the feeling of validation is the golden key that will unlock people’s defenses. And we cannot survive and thrive in this highly competitive world without possessing such a power. We continually find ourselves in situations in which we need to move people from their resistant positions. We need their assistance, or we need the ability to alter their ugly behaviour. If we flail about, improvising in the moment, trying to plead, cajole, and even make people feel guilty, we are more than likely only making them more defensive. If we somehow succeed in getting what we want through these methods, their support is thin, with an undercurrent of resentment. We have taken from them — time, money, ideas — and they will close themselves off to further influence.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TROUBLING is it to go through long stretches of time continually butting up against people’s resistance, getting nowhere.
HOPELESS, we can face a very dangerous dynamic in LIFE — mounting frustration at the apparent indifference of people.
ONE defeat after another, one failure after another is very devastating, and consequently, this subtly INFECTS our attitude.
UGLILY, when we find ourselves in situations needing to influence people, they SENSE our dire neediness and insecurity.
GHASTLY, we try too hard to PLEASE, to crudely persuade: We seem ever so slightly desperate, defeated before starting.
HORRENDOUSLY, this can turn into a negative self-fulfilling dynamic, that will spiral and limit any attempt at maneuver.
THIS will keep us marginalized without ever being aware of the source of the problem; so seek to stroke their feelings first.

T_#39. Basic Universals of Self-Opinion as Key to Personal Worthiness.--->

Think about this. People have a perception about themselves that we shall call their self-opinion. This self-opinion can be accurate or not — it does not matter. What matters is how people perceive their own character and worthiness. And there are three qualities to people’s self-opinion that are nearly UNIVERSAL: “I am autonomous, acting of my own free will”; “I am intelligent in my own way”; and “I am basically good and decent.” When it comes to the first universal (I am acting of my own free will), if we join a group, or believe something, or buy a product, it is because we choose to do so. The truth might be that we were manipulated or succumbed to peer pressure, but we will tell ourselves something else. If we ever feel consciously coerced — as in having to obey a boss — we either tell ourselves we have chosen to obey or we deeply resent being forced and manipulated. In the latter case, we might smile and obey, but we will find a way to secretly rebel. In other words, we feel the need to continually express and assert our free will. With the second universal (I am intelligent), we may realise we are not on the level of an Einstein, but in our field, in our own way, we are intelligent. A plumber revels in his superior knowledge of the inner workings of a house and in his manual skills, which are a form of intelligence, as he sees it.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THINKING (the plumber) of his political opinions as coming from solid common sense, is another sign of intelligence.
HARDLY are individuals generally comfortable with the thought that they could be GULLIBLE and less than intelligent.
ONLY they may admit they are not SMART in the conventional way, but will at least think they are cleverer than others.
UNAMBIGUOSLY, with the third universal (I am a good person), we like to see ourselves as supporting the right causes.
GENEROUS, kind, is what we portly ourselves or would wish to perceived. We treat people well. We are a team player.
HAPPEN to be the boss and we like to instill discipline in the troops? We call it “tough love.” We are open, big-hearted.
TIME freely is what we give. We are always acting for the good of others. We are lavish, liberal, caring giving, plentiful.

Y_#40. Self-Opinions That Perpetually Regulate Particular Insecurities.--->

You will find that in addition to the UNIVERSALS, people have more PERSONALIZED self-opinions that serve to regulate their particular insecurities. For instance, “I am a free spirit, one of a kind” or “I am very self-reliant and do not need anybody’s help” or “I am good-looking and I can depend on that” or “I am a rebel and disdain all authority.” Implied in these various self-opinions is a feeling of superiority in this one area: “I am a rebel and you are less so.” Many of these types of self-opinions are related to developmental issues in early childhood. For instance, the rebel type had a father figure who disappointed him; or perhaps he suffered from bullying and cannot bear any feeling of inferiority. He must despise all authority. The self-reliant type may have experienced a very distant mother, be haunted by feelings of abandonment, and have crafted a self-image of rugged independence. Our self-opinion primarily determines so much of our thinking and our values.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKEN as being true to ourselves, we will not entertain ideas that clash with our SELF-OPINION.
HONESTLY, let us say we perceive ourselves as particularly TOUGH, self-sufficient and self-reliant.
OPULENTLY, we will then gravitate toward those IDEAS and philosophies that are simply realistic.
UNFORGIVING of others’ weaknesses and being hard-core, is what we will tend to PROSELYTIZE.
GRANTED, we will choose to belong to groups that validate our feeling of being noble and SMART.
HOWEVER, we might think we have particular set of ideas or values that solidly stand on their own.
THE contrary is what is true; in fact they are relatively or remotely dependent on our SELF-OPINION.

F_#41. Fondly Fulfilling One of Human Being’s Greatest Emotional Needs.--->

Faced by a situation in which you try to convince people of something, one of three things will happen. First, you might inadvertently challenge a particular aspect of their self-opinion. In a discussion that might turn into an argument, you make them feel stupid or brainwashed or less than good. Even if you are subtle in your arguments, the implication is that you know better. If this happens, you make people even more defensive and resistant. Walls go up that will NEVER come down. Second, you can leave their self-opinion in a neutral position— neither challenged nor confirmed. This often happens if you try to be reasonable and calm in your approach, avoiding any emotional extremes. In this scenario people remain resistant and dubious, but you have at least not tightened them up, and you have some room to maneuver them with your rational arguments. Third, you can actively confirm their self-opinion. In this case you are fulfilling one of people’s greatest emotional needs. We can imagine that we are independent, intelligent, decent, and self-reliant, but only other people can truly confirm this for us.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THRIVING are we in a harsh and competitive world whereby we are prone to continual SELF-DOUBT.
HAVING to do battle with many personal issues, we almost never get the VALIDATION that we crave.
ONCE you give this validation to people, you will have made a perversive MAGICAL effect on them.
ULTIMATE feeling is like when you yourself were at a rally, or in love; you will make people RELAX.
GENTALLY aroused, they are no longer consumed by insecurities, and can direct their attention outward.
HUMSTRUNG in this way, their minds open up, making them susceptible to suggestion and insinuation.
THEY feel like they are doing any task out of their own free WILL; when they really decide to help you.

O_#42. Potently Generating an Amorous Atmosphere of Mutual Warmth.--->

One of the most vital task in regard to winning over people, is to instill in them a feeling of inner security. Mirror their values; show that you like and respect them. Get them to laugh along with you, instilling a feeling of rapport. All of this works best if the feelings are not completely faked. By exercising your empathy, by getting inside their perspective, you are more likely to genuinely feel at least a part of such emotions. Practice this often enough and confirming people’s self-opinion will become your default position—you will have a loosening-up effect on almost everyone you encounter. One caveat: most people have a relatively high self-opinion, but some people have a low opinion of themselves. They tell themselves, “I am not worthy of good things” or “I am not such a nice person” or “I have too many problems and issues.” Because they generally expect bad things to happen to them, they often feel relieved and justified when bad things do happen. In this way their low self-opinion serves to calm their insecurities about ever getting success in LIFE.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE humanistic approach of Unconditional Positive Regard applies, if your targets have a low self-opinion.
HAMMERING the idea of easily bettering their lives by following your advice clashes with their BELIEF.
ONE major conviction is that the world is against them and that they really do not deserve such good things.
UNABATED, they will discount your ideas and resist you; so you must work from within their self-opinion.
GENUINELY seek to EMPATHIZE with the injustices in their LIFE and the difficulties they have FACED.
HAVING their feeling well validated and mirrored gives you some persuasive latitude and laudable leverage.
THIS further allows you to make gentle corrections on their views and even apply some reverse psychology.

U_#43. Truly Trampling Cultural Prejudice against the Idea of Influence.--->

Understand that the greatest obstacle you will face in developing persuasive powers comes from a cultural prejudice against the very idea of influence: “Why can’t we all just be honest and transparent with one another, and simply ask for what we want? Why can’t we just let people be who they are and not try to change them? Being strategic is ugly and manipulative.” First, when people tell you such things, you should be on guard. We humans cannot stand feelings of powerlessness. We need to have influence or we become miserable. The honesty mongers are no different, but because they need to believe in their angelic qualities, they cannot square this self-opinion with the need to have influence. And so they often become passive-aggressive, pouting and making others feel guilty as a means of getting what they want.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRUST not or never take people who say such things (advocating lack of influence or powerlessness) at face value.
HUMAN BEINGS are by nature condemned to be power-seekers, and cannot really avoid trying to influence others.
OUR intentions (and clues for them) are apparently examined and interpreted by others in everything we say or do.
UNUSUALLY silent? Perhaps it is because we are angry or upset and want to make this clear to the other individual.
GENUINELY listening as a way of trying to impress others with our politeness, may also be another strategic reason.
HAVE it: No matter what we do, people will read into it an attempt at influence - and they are not wrong in doing so.
TANGIBLY, as social animals we cannot avoid constantly playing the game, whether we are conscious of this or not.

R_#44. Bare Boldness is Very Vital in Creating High Emotional Effects.--->

Readily, most people do not want to expend the effort that goes into thinking about others and figuring out a strategic entry past their defenses. They are lazy. They want to simply be themselves, speak honestly, or do nothing, and justify this to themselves as stemming from some great moral choice.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE game being unavoidable, it is much better to be skillful at it than be in denial or merely improvising in the moment.
HAVE it that in the end, being good at influence is actually more socially beneficial than taking any blatant moral stance.
OPERATIONALLY, by having the power of persuasion, we can influence people who have dangerous or antisocial ideas.
USUAL proficient at persuasion requires that we immerse ourselves in the perspective of others, exercising our empathy.
GUIDED, we might abide by the cultural prejudice and nod our heads in agreement about the need for complete honesty.
HONE this? Inwardly we must fully realise that this is nonsense and practice what is necessary for our own well-being.
TRUE virtue? It is discernible that fine words (or flaterry) and an insinuating appearance are seldom associated with it.

O_#45. Deliberately Transforming Yourself Into a Sure, Deep Listener.--->

Often, in the normal flow of a conversation, our attention is divided. We hear parts of what other people are saying, in order to follow and keep the conversation going. At the same time, we are planning what we will say next, some exciting story of our own. Or we are even daydreaming about something irrelevant. The reason for this is simple: we are more interested in our own thoughts, feelings, and experiences than in those of the other person. If this were not the case, we would find it relatively easy to listen with full attention. The usual prescription is to talk less and listen more, but this is meaningless advice as long as we prefer our own internal monologue. The only solution is to somehow be MOTIVATED to reverse this dynamic. Think of it this way: You know your own thoughts only too well.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TENDING to circle obsessively around the same subjects is what your mind does; thus you are rarely surprised.
HABITUAL friends aside, each new person you encounter represents an undiscovered country full of surprises.
ON imagining for a moment that you could step inside people’s minds. What an amazing journey that could be?
UNDERSTAND that, people who seem quiet and dull often have the strangest inner lives for you to EXPLORE.
GAINFULLY, even with boors and fools, you can EDUCATE yourself as to the origins and nature of their flaws.
HASTEN to prometheously transform yourself into a deep listener; see how this experience will prove amusing.
TRULY opening your mind to their mind will also provide the most invaluable lessons about human psychology.

N_#46. Seeking to Potently Pay Affluent Attention to Nonverbal Cues.--->

Now, once you are motivated to listen, the rest is relatively simple. You cannot make the strategic purpose behind your listening too obvious. The other person has to feel it is a lively exchange, even though in the end they may do 80 percent of the talking. For this purpose, you must not barrage them with questions that make it feel like a job interview. Instead, pay attention to their nonverbal cues. You will see their eyes light up when certain topics are mentioned—you must guide the conversation in that direction. People will become chatty without realizing it. Almost everyone likes to talk about their childhood, their family, the ins and outs of their work, or some cause that is dear to them. An occasional question or comment plays off something they have said. You are deeply absorbed in what they say, but you must feel and appear relaxed in being so. You convey that you are listening by maintaining relatively consistent eye contact and nodding as they talk. The best way to signal how deeply you are listening is to occasionally say something that mirrors what they have said, but in your own words and filtered through your own experience.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE more they talk, the more they will reveal about their insecurities and their deeply unmet desires.
HARNESS your goal as to make them come away from the encounter feeling better about themselves.
ONCE you have subtly faded in the background, you will also have let them be the STAR of the show.
UPON doing this, you have drawn out of them the WITTIER, more fun-loving side of their personality.
GOODILY, they will lucidly love you for this and will proactively look forward to the next encounter.
HIGH spirited than ever before, on cloud nine, they will become increasingly relaxed in your presence.
TRAVELLING this journey, you will have great latitude for planting ideas and influencing their behavior.

E_#47. Subtly Infecting People with the Proper and Munificent Mood.--->

Extremely susceptible to the moods of other people, is what characterizes us as social animals. This gives us the power to subtly infuse into people the appropriate mood for influencing them. If you are relaxed and anticipating a pleasurable experience, this will communicate itself and have a mirror-like effect on the other person. One of the best attitudes to adapt for this purpose is one of complete indulgence. You do not judge other people; you accept them as they are. A variation of this is to infect people with a warm feeling of rapport through laughter and shared pleasures. Many studies on nonverbal cues have demonstrated the incredible power that a simple touch of people’s hands or arms can have in any interaction, making them think positive things about you without their ever being aware of the source of their good opinion. Such gentle taps establish a feeling of visceral rapport, as long as you do not maintain eye contact, which will give it too much of a sexual connotation.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TACTFULLY keep in mind that your expectations about people are communicated to them nonverbally.
HEADILY, it has been practically demonstrated that teachers who expect greater things from their pupils,
OPULENTLY can, without ever saying anything, have a positive effect on their academic work and grades.
UPON feeling excited when meeting someone, you will communicate this to him or her in a powerful way.
GENERALLY speaking, if there is a person of whom you will eventually ask a favor, visualization is key.
HONE highly imagining him or her in the best light — generous and caring — if that is humanly possible.
TO get great results by simply thinking the other person is handsome or good-looking is what justly happens.

H_#48. Never Ever Equating Logical Complexities With Happiness.--->

Happiness when equated to logical complexities, leads us to distancing ourselves from TRUTH. Consequently, we become more and more disoriented. Moreover, the greatest stumbling block on our way towards TRUTH is essentially an exaggerated expectancy and reliance upon stipulated statistical proof, laid down objective data and stated explicable principles to convince us of most things which may have bearing upon our immediate ‘existence’. This most trended upon path leads to the most disillusioned destination; failure to comprehend that LIFE may have reasons which logic cannot understand. But what is the relation between logic and imagination? U.S. poet Wallace Stevens (1879 - 1955) has the answer: “It may be that the imagination is a miracle of logic and that its exquisite divinations are calculations beyond analysis, as the conclusions of reason are calculations wholly within analysis...The imagination is the only genius. It is intrepid and eager and the extreme of its achievement lies in its abstraction. The achievement of the romantic, however, lies in minor wish-fulfillments and it is incapable of abstraction.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE last scientific ingredient of Philosophy is Logic; its extraction leaves behind only a confusion of pseudo problems.
HASTEN not to discard logic entirely: Logic, like whiskey, loses its beneficial effect when taken in too large quantities.
ON being told to be sure of your meaning before you speak, just say: ‘How can I know what I think till I see what I say?’
U.S. mathematician Morris Kline (1908 - 1992) defined logic thus: “Logic is the art of going wrong with confidence.”
G. K. Chesterton (1874 - 1936) once said: “You can only find truth with logic if you have already found truth without it.”
HERE the core rule is, jam tomorrow and jam yesterday — but never jam today: The world is everything that is the case.
TRUE union of the mathematician with the poet, fervor and measure, passion with correctness, this is the BEYONDIST.

U_#49. Logic May Awfully Impede Our Full Appreciation of LIFE.--->

Understanding that, in nature, things simply happen, but our logic imposes on nature the ‘necessary’ laws of affirmation and denial, cause and effect and so forth, is very vital. By failing to appreciate the ambiguousness of human situation, ‘logic’ is a critical block to one’s appreciation of the frequency of statistically highly improbable events on whose very improbability the numinous sight of the fingerprints of God becomes clear. In most instances, the nature’s whim, in defiance of all ‘logic’ and in her sovereign fancy, creates something absolutely incredible to human mind. By a miraculous challenge to probability, she gives a new and furious impetus to social displacements and paves the way for new combinations and social graftings. If we break the chains of ‘logic’, of being prisoners of our thoughts and language, we can call a spade a spade if we want to and can consider it an implement for digging, but we are neither under any compulsion to call a spade a spade, nor must we confine our conception of it to that of a tool. “Reason is only one out of a thousand possibilities in the thinking of each of us. Who can count all the silly fancies, the grotesque suppositions, the utterly irrelevant reflections he makes in the course of a day?” so asked U.S. psychologist and philosopher William James (1842 - 1910). Listen to British writer and mathematician Lewis Carroll (1832 - 1898):

‘Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRANSCENDENTAL, or holistic THOUGHT is only a flash between two long nights, but this flash is everything.
HOMELY, no longer can we be satisfied with a LIFE where the Heart has its Reasons which Reason cannot know.
OUR Hearts must amorously know the world of Reason, and Reason must be robustly guided by an informed Heart.
UNCENSORED, in everything that is supposed to be SCIENTIFIC, Reason must be awake and reflection applied.
GUIDED well, one who looks at the world rationally the world looks RATIONALLY back: The relation is mutual.
HOW is British scholar Benjamin Jowett (1817 - 1893) correct? “Logic is neither a science or an art, but a dodge.”
T. H. Huxley (1825 - 1895) said: “Logical consequences are the scarecrows of fools and the beacons of wise men.”

N_#50. Logic Can Never Answer the Noble Question About TRUTH.--->

Nurture the idea that, logic or ordinary objective intellectual deduction cannot fully answer any essential question about TRUTH. Any answer will do, provided that it comes from one’s innermost being; an answer which is always an absolute affirmation that goes BEYOND the logical antithesis of assertion and denial. Intellect is not intelligence, and happiness, like beauty and perfection, lies in the fulfillment of our natural selves; in ACTUALIZATION of all of our physical and PSYCHIC potentialities. “We should take care”, said German-born American physicist Albert Einstein “not to make intellect our god; it has, of course, powerful muscles, but no personality.” The words of French novelist playwright, philosopher, autobiographer, and essayist Simone de Beauvoir (1908-1986) are very inspiring, “I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth; and truth rewarded me.” “‘Logic,’ ‘ethics,’ and ‘physics’ begin to flourish only when original thinking has come to an end...the Greeks thought without such headings. They did not even call thinking ‘philosophy’,” so taught German philosopher Martin Heidegger (1889 - 1976).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THINGS necessarily are or not, and will be or will not be; one cannot divide and say that one or the other is necessary.
Horney Karen (1885 - 1952), U.S. psychoanalyst affirms: “Neurotic conflicts cannot be resolved by rational decision.”
ONTOLOGICALLY, the whole wide world is but a vast place for people to yearn for their hearts’ impossible desires.
UPON entrenchment in defiance of logic, even the passage of time, the desires become as eternal as polished marble.
GIVING no answer to philosophical questions; instead rejecting all philosophical questions is the concern of Logic.
HIM Plato means by ‘myth’ a form of expression to which one turns, after exhausting the resources of the intellect.
TIP from French writer and philosopher Voltaire (1694 - 1778): “All is for the best in the best of all possible worlds.”

D_#51. There is Surely No Absolute Certainty About Absolute TRUTH.--->

Do we have anything like ‘absolute TRUTH’. The TRUTH of our human situation is that, our categorical conviction as regarding ‘Truth’ is simple: All that we can ascertain with absolute certainty is that there is no absolute certainty in the manner of absolute ‘Truth’.The world being infinite in scope, it becomes clear that the search for Truth is also infinite, making the ideal of Absolute Truth to be BEYOND the grasp of us mortals. If we are to wash our faces with morning fresh water of realism, warmed to a reasonable temperature by heat of idealism, it will dawn upon us that the most tenable ground for Truth is simply to strive for a psychic refinement. These are the words of Scottish philosopher and historian David Hume (1711 - 1776): “Our reason must be consider’d as a kind of cause, of which truth is the natural effect...Reason is nothing but a wonderful and unintelligible instinct in our souls, which carries us along a certain train of ideas, and endows them with particular qualities, according to their particular situations and relations.” Listen to U.S. poet Walt Whitman (1819 - 1892):

“Logic and sermons never convince,
The damp of the night drives deeper into my soul.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE TRUTH is that there are no whole TRUTHS; all TRUTHS are half-truths.
HORRIBLY, it is trying to treat them as whole TRUTHS that plays the devil.
ONLY two kinds of TRUTHS abides: truths of reasoning and TRUTHS of fact.
USUAL TRUTHS of reasoning are necessary and their opposite is impossible;
GRANTED, those of fact are contingent and their opposite is very much possible.
HARDY faith consists in believing when it is BEYOND the power of reason to.
TO be pragmatic, it is not enough that a thing be possible for it to be believed.

R_#52. TRUTH is the Clarion Call to Be An Authentic Human Being.--->

Radical TRUTH implies believing that, there is nothing that can shut up one in oneself, that there is not a grain of dust one does not share with God entirely. Fortified by this conviction, one strives for that Divine vastness. Like the salt which gives up its saltiness to become one with the ocean, so when one is free from all conceptual superstitions and logical futilities that clouds one, one unites with the absolute source of LIFE. One’s individual ‘being’ coalesce with the supreme ‘Being’. Consequently one’s vital powers are absolutely released to the overflow. TRUTH as a call to be authentically human, implies striving BEYOND the horizon of what one already knows. It is rising above the level of rational animality at which we have already arrived and immersing one’s whole being into the stream of reality. The measure of our extent towards attaining to our individual TRUTH is the degree to which our wholesome intellectual activity attempts to become conscious of itself. “Let’s break away from rationality as out of a horrible husk...Let’s give ourselves up to the unknown, not out of desperation but to plumb the depths of the absurd,” thus illumined Italian writer, poet, and political activist Filippo Tommaso Marinetti (1876 - 1944). English courtier and poet John Wilmot Rochester (1647 - 1680) has a point here:

Huddled in dirt the reasoning engine lies,
Who was so proud, so witty, and so wise.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKEN from a philosophical perspective MAD people do not appear to have lost the faculty of REASONING.
HAVING naivelly joined together some of the illusory ideas very wrongly, they falsely mistake them for TRUTH.
OUT of the violence of their imaginations, taking their fancies for realities, they make right deductions from them.
UNFORTUNATELY, in the real world you will never meet the famous Rational Economic Man theorists describe.
GENERAL people have always done inexplicable things from time to time, and they show no sign of STOPPING.
HAVING painted the picture of what we want to create (vision), Systems Thinking reveals how we have done it.
TOTALLY, when you have excluded the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the TRUTH.

E_#53. TRUTH is Superb Identification With the Cosmos and GOD.--->

Exemplifying your spirit by growing towards self-understanding, in the direction of self-identification with Cosmos, is what we may call TRUTH. In his highly intuitive mind, French philosopher Henri Louise Bergson (1859 - 1941) was able to differentiate between what he construed as “flowing irreversible ongoing reality of beings existing in continuous state of coming to be other than they were” and the “viewpoint of mathematical-physico sciences of a series of discrete entities, conceptualized in static intellectual ideas”. He saw mathematical ‘time’ as a spatial representation or model of time represented as an extended homogeneous medium capable of division into standard units of measurement, such as months, hours and seconds. He taught that this physical theory of time, like other physical theories of light, heat or the atom, is useful, picturesque fiction, or imaginative model which enables the mind to correlate a large number of observations into a schematic, logical synthesis. According to Bergson ‘Real Time’ is intuited directly in one’s own lived experiences of duration in being. It is ‘known’ in the sensed ‘flow’ of LIFE as a primary inner experience. “Truth should not be forced; it should simply manifest itself, like a woman who has in her privacy reflected and coolly decided to bestow herself upon a certain man”, so noted US writer John Updike (1932 -).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIME or duration which is lived on a daily basis is actual becoming which is intuitively EXPERIENCED.
HOLISTICALLY it is being-in-becoming, reality; encountered in intuition, not in spatialised abstractions.
ONE fundamental test for intellectual integrity, is an acknowledgement that, no one can teach one a TRUTH.
UNCENSORING Gurus, can only suggest it with a brief gesture, which starts as an ideal trajectory in the air.
GLIDING on one’s own (a student) until one may find for oneself at the feet of the new individual TRUTH.
HONESTLY, in the Babel of all our intellectual THIRSTS we should strive to look for a philosophical edge.
THOUGH not absolute, this edge of awareness makes our quest for TRUTH more conceptual and perceptive.

D_#54. TRUTH Can Never be Solidly Categorized or even Classified.--->

Deplore any attempt to classify TRUTH. This is the apex of intellectual laziness, one of the dumbest lapses in judgment in the history of thought, at worst a superstition. “The chief danger to our philosophy, apart from laziness and woolliness, is scholasticism, the essence of which is treating what is vague as if it were precise and trying to fit into an exact logical category,” so said British mathematical logician Frank Ramsey (1903 - 1930). It would be appropriate to say that TRUTH is neither a mechanistic standard premised upon any scientific law, nor a legal provision pursuant to any article in any constitution. “When truth is discovered by someone else, it loses something of its attractiveness”, so noted Russian novelist Alexander Solzhenitsyn (1918 - ). There is also no universal laid down rigid pattern or path towards TRUTH. “It is an indication of Truth’s jealousy that it has not made for anyone a path to it”, thus noted Egyptian author Naguib Mahfouz (1911 -).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE way to the TRUTH is just like the sky; the bird flies but leaves no footprints; you cannot just follow.
HAVING no footprints, the inner sky is exactly the same, and everybody has to find ones own unique way.
ONE does not move on a ready-made way. The real seeker superbly steps from all those ready-made ways.
UNKNOWN (the) is where one moves into. It is a great excitement, great ecstasy and supreme enthralment.
GAINFULLY, every step brings you love and compassion that are very new and absolutely unknown to you.
HOLILY you start feeling a new music, dance, a new poetry, and a new song arising out of your own heart.
TRULY, your very heartbeat becomes music; you can assert you have now attained to your spiritual destiny.

A_#55. Seeing Yourself as well as Other Folks Without a Screensaver.--->

Avoid bigotry as well as misconceived pride and prejudice. Bigotry is the incapacity to seriously conceive the alternative to a proposition. Misconceived pride is the unfounded belief in one’s superiority, while prejudice is the unfounded belief in another’s unworthiness. The remedy for bigotry, misconceived pride and prejudice is cultivating sense and sensibility. Sense here means the objective and reasoned discernment of everyone’s fallibility, while sensibility means the expressive response to the recognised worth in every person. These words of German poet, playwright, and scientist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 - 1832) needs no further elaboration: “Shakespeare enjoyed the advantage of living in a creative age in a vigorous Protestant country where the madness of bigotry was silent for a while.”

“A man has no reason to be ashamed of having an ape for his grandfather. If there were an ancestor whom I should feel shame in recalling it would rather be a man — a man of restless and versatile intellect — who…plunges into scientific questions with which he has no real acquaintance, only to obscure them by an aimless rhetoric, and distract the attention of his hearers from the real point at issue by eloquent digressions and skilled appeals to religious prejudice,” so affirmed British biologist T. H. Huxley (1825 - 1895), replying to Bishop Samuel Wilberforce in the debate on Darwin’s theory of evolution at the meeting of the British Association at Oxford, June 30, 1860. The version above is commonly quoted. After hearing Wilberforce’s speech (“...And, in conclusion, I would like to ask the gentleman...whether the ape from which he is descended was on his grandmother’s or his grandfather’s side of the family...”), and before rising himself, Huxley is said to have remarked, “The Lord has delivered him into my hands!”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE crude idea of implanting dogmatic beliefs, is, or should be, entirely foreign to the SCIENTIFIC spirit of INQUIRY.
HONESTLY defined in psychological terms, a FANATIC is a person who consciously over-compensates a secret doubt.
ONTOLOGICAL concepts, weakened and banalized, have lost their enigmas and furnish the themes of a new dogmatism.
U.S. writer, poet, and wit Dorothy Parker (1893 - 1967) affluently affirmed: “You can’t teach an old dogma new tricks.”
GODLY is it to have a tolerant scepticism, an objective ability to doubt one’s own ideas as well as those of other people.
HONED, it is a good test of essential maturity: Fanaticism, insanity, and an infantile attitude to others are closely related.
THINK deeply of these words of German philosopher G. W. F. Hegel (1770 - 1831): “Everything that is, is reasonable.”

N_#56. Have Some Philosophers Been That Fanciful About TRUTH?--->

Nietzsche, Friendrich Wilhelm (1844 - 1900), German philosopher, poet, and classical philologist was seriously perturbed by the questions: “Granted that we want truth? Why not rather untruth? And uncertainty? Even ignorance?” He was however quick to answer himself that, it is only in the light of a ‘faith’ that the philosophers reach their ‘knowledge’, reach something that is solemnly baptised as ‘truth’. This faith is ‘the faith in antithetical values’ especially the basic antithesis between good and evil, true and false, arguing that ‘these are precisely what we are bound to doubt’. Nietzsche further complained on how philosophy has been a stumbling block against the essential needs of LIFE. In The Will-to-Power (published 1901), in his characteristic temper, Nietzsche castigated and ridiculed philosophers and scientists:

The history of philosophy is the story of a secret and mad hatred of the prerequisites of LIFE, of the feelings which make for the real values of LIFE, and all partisanship in favour of LIFE. Philosophers have never hesitated to affirm a fanciful world, provided it contradicted this world, and furnished them with a weapon wherewith they could calumniate this world. Up to the present, philosophy has been the grand school of slander: and its power has been so great, that even today our science, which pretends to be the advocate of LIFE, has accepted the fundamental position of slander…What is the hatred which is active here? I fear that it is still the Circe of Philosophers – morality, which plays them the trick of compelling them to be ever slanderers.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO a very great extent, appearances are not held to be a clue to the truth. But in all disguises we seem to have no other.
HUMAN BEINGS may be cheated (or seduced) into passion sometimes, but they must always be reasoned into truth.
ONE may say, ‘From now on I’m going to speak the truth.’ But the truth hears and hides before one is done speaking.
UNTEMPERED, a human being may be in as just possession of truth as of a city, and yet be forced to really surrender.
German writer Thomas Mann (1875 - 1955) solemnly said: “A great truth is a truth whose opposite is also a great truth.”
Herbert Samuel (1870 - 1963), British statesman and philosopher quiped: “A truism is on that account none the less true.”
THAT the mind has added nothing to human nature, is it a violence from within that protects us from a violence without?

D_#57. TRUTH Superlatively Lies in the Security of Our Wisdom.--->

Directing one’s mind in search for TRUTH implies taking as data all of one’s conscious activities, grasping of intelligible relations and recurrent operations that yield ongoing and cumulative results. This is as a result of observation, description, discovery, understanding, commonsense, inquiry, adequate formulation of solutions, reflection, testing, checking, verifying, judging and commitment. Upon solidification of this infrastructure in consciousness, TRUTH is the ability to attend to one’s attending, adverting to one’s intelligence, relating to one’s own reasonableness and participating in one’s responsibility. In this way we will realise like Chinese philosopher and educator Confucius (551 or 552 - 479 BC) that: “Truth is the law of God…Truth means the realisation of our being; and moral law means the law of our being. Truth is that by which things outside of us have existence.”

According to Canadian economist, philosopher and theologian Fr. Bernard J. F. Lonergan (1904 - 1984) when attention to understanding ranges over all areas in which understanding is operative, then the overall enterprise arrives at an adequate viewpoint. In his Method in Theology (1972) Lonergan writes:

Thoroughly understanding what it is to understand and not only will you understand the broad lines of all there is to be understood but also you will posses a fixed base, an invariable pattern opening all further development of understanding.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRUTH is inner conviction of the security of our WISDOM; it is being attentive, intelligent, reasonable and responsible.
HOPEFUL without being fallacious, this is a fruit of self-realisation, self-transcendence and SELF-ACTUALIZATION.
OPULENTLY, it is the sincere and passionate belief that the above norms of attentiveness, intellige...have been satisfied.
UNMATCHED, it is through insight into insight that we approach ‘an ever more adequate formulation of the objective’;
GIVEN, TRUTH is the individual’s total perspective, which entails seeing all temporal things under a form of Eternity.
HARMONIOUS union of the individual consciousness with the Cosmic consciousness is the utmost manifestation of this.
THIS is why instead of using TRUTH as spring-board into space, we should use it as a foothold on our return from flight.

F_#58. Diligent Quest for TRUTH as the Soverign Good of Humans.--->

Francis Bacon (1561 - 1629) in his Essays (published sporadically between 1597 and 1625), stated the importance of TRUTH on humans:

‘What is truth?’ said jesting Pilate, and would not stay for an answer…Yet truth, which only doth judge itself, teacheth that inquiry of truth, which is the love-making or wooing of it, the knowledge of truth, which is the presence of it, and the belief of truth, which is the enjoying of it, is the sovereign good of human nature…No pleasure is comparable to the standing upon the vantage ground of truth (a hill not to be commanded and where the air is always clear and serene), and to see the errors, and wanderings and mists, and tempests, in the vale below; so always that this prospect be with pity, and not with swelling, or pride. Certainty it is heaven upon earth to have a man’s mind move in chastity, rest in providence, and turn upon the poles of truth.

Pouring his insight on this nourishing issue, Irish-born British writer Cecil Day-Lewis (1904 - 1972) affirmed:

It is the logic of our times,
No subject for immortal verse —
That we who lived by honest dreams
Defend the bad against the worse.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY to be true! Be true! Show freely to the world, if not your worst, yet some trait whereby the worst may be inferred.
HONESTLY, before you tell the ‘truth’ to any person, be sure you know the ‘truth,’ and that the person wants to hear it.
ONLY mathematics and mathematical logic can say as little as the physicist means to say: Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970).
UNCONTESTED principles of logic and metaphysics are true simply because we never allow them to be anything else.
GROOMED reason must sit at the knee of instinct and learn reverence for the miraculous instinctual capacity for creation.
HOLY concepts central to the search for Truth: Do well, do better, and do best. One searching for Pearls must dive below.
TRUTH is what stands the test of experience, which yields practical results. For great is truth, and shall always prevail.

I_#59. TRUTH Entails Verily Venturing BEYOND Bare Actualities.--->

It was Saint Augustine of Hippo (354 - 430 AD) who asserted: “Everyone who observes himself doubting observes a truth, and about that which he observes he is certain; therefore he is certain about a truth…hence one who can doubt at all ought not to doubt about the existence of truth,” “He who never ventures beyond actuality will never win the prize of truth”, so maintained Friendriche von Schiller (1759 - 1805). And as Plato argued: “The true lover of knowledge naturally strives for truth, and is not content with common opinion but soars with undimmed and unwearied passion till he grasps the essential nature of things”. But John Wesley Powell (1834-1902) warned: “In the production of philosophy phenomena must be discerned, discriminated, classified…A philosophy will be higher in scale, nearer the truth, as the discernment is wider, the discrimination nicer, and the classification better”.

British novelist Charles Dickens (1812 - 1870) has a point here: “‘Mind and matter,’ said the lady in the wig, ‘glide swift into the vortex of immensity. Howls the sublime, and softly sleeps the calm Ideal, in the whispering chambers of Imagination.’” Listen to English poet Alexander Pope (1688 - 1744):

All nature is but art, unknown to thee;
All chance, direction, which thou canst not see;
All discord, harmony, not understood;
All partial evil, universal good;
And spite of Pride, in erring Reason’s spite,
One truth is clear, ‘Whatever IS, is RIGHT.’

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY to think of this vague question: What could an entirely rational being speak of with another entirely rational being?
HUMAN beings are capable of action and observation, being born into, and moving among, a world of persisting objects.
ONTOLOGICALLY, this is embedded in our human nature; it is a logical necessity and not a contingent matter of fact.
UNDERSTANDING this is very redeeming: Philosophical knowledge is the knowledge gained by reason from concepts.
GENERALLY speaking, Mathematical knowledge is the knowledge gained by reason from the construction of concepts.
HAPPEN to be so deep-seated in your way of looking at the WORLD? Beware then of assuming a superstitious character.
TRULY, truly, a cleric who loses his faith abandons his calling; a philosopher who loses his faith REDEFINES his subject.

F_#60. Seeing Clearly the Hidden Meaning Behind the Veil/Mask.--->

Fully utilising your years of YOUTH, entails extending the horizons of your mind and perspective by acquiring the necessary theories. But this book knowledge is only helpful to you if you can decipher the rites in the chamber of deed: discerning the meaning behind surface manifestation of things. SELF-ACTUALIZATION establishes its own legitimacy; not to grow in this direction is to succumb to a meaningless and worthless LIFE. Seeking and striving to grow in POTENTIAL and ‘developing some more’ is BEYONDISM. A voice within you whispers: What next? Now, it is your turn, with infinite majesty and calm, to obey it and hasten with an unlimited resolve.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIME is now ripe to really know what LIFE is: LIFE is what we MAKE IT, always has been, and always will be.
HOLISTIC LIFE is a partial, continuous, progressive and multiform interactive self-realization of potentialities.
ON self-deliverance, a rebellious SPIRIT demands a strong authority, a worthy opponent, GOD to one’s Lucifer.
U.S. actor and comedian Mae West (1892 - 1980): “When I’m good I’m very good, but when I’m bad I’m better.”
GOD has created you with a potential to be fulfilled in yourself, a full human being and not anybody’s appendage.
HUMAN’S motive as active and intervening participants in their behavior is an ideal becoming increasingly clear.
Tolstoy Leo (1828 - 1910), Russian writer: “Pure and complete sorrow is as impossible as pure and complete joy.”

T_#61. Seeking to Conceal Your Covert Intentions, to Divert Envy.--->

The most appropriate shield against being taken advantage of, by the ruthless in our midst is to never be an open book, saying what you feel, blurting out your opinions at every moment, and constantly revealing your plans and actions. Straighforwdness is a blunt instrument which bloodies more than it cuts. Your forthrightness is likely to offend people; it is much more prudent to tailor your words.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TELL people what they want to HEAR rather than the course and ugly truth of what you FEEL or think.
HAVE it: Never arbitarily squander the treasures of your words; always be in command of what you say.
ONE vital virtue which will make you to be worthy of respect is the verbal self-control (or Tongue-Fu).
UNSHAKABLE patience (ability to endure waiting, delay) will protect you from making moronic blunders.
GENTLENESS, tactical thinking and constant vigilance is what can be diligently defined as Civilised War.
HONESTY is the basic ointment which will make you seem noble, magnificent, good hearted and selfless.
TEMPERED impressively (moral high ground), it is a form of persuasion, even a subtle form of coercion.

Y_#62. Behaving Like a Superior Person to be Treated Like One.--->

Your style of actions, will determine to a very good extent, how others will view you. People bet on winners and sacrifice much for glory-reflected-off-champions. Act like one: high official with milling entourage, bishop with sacred robes, general with shining stars. Impart a matter-of-factness to your accomplishments, a verve to your attributes, a grandeur to your forgiveness of some petty assailant. Everything is judged on its appearance, what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colourful, more mysterious than the bland and timid masses. The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated: In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKING the case of a KING: He robustly respects himself and INSPIRES the same SENTIMENTS in others.
HONOURABLY, acting regally and confident of your powers, you seem yourself destined to wear the crown.
OUTSHINING the BIG BOSS is a MUST NOT: This applies in all working, social or political environments.
UNCONDITIONALLY - with no strings attached - always make those above you feel comfortably SUPERIOR.
GRAVITATING or having a desire to please or impress them? Do not go too far in displaying your TALENTS.
HARBOUR no intention of showing off, or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire FEAR and insecurity.
THE heights of POWER will be attained, only if you make your MASTERS appear more brilliant than they are.

F_#63. Asserting the Prerogative of Interpretation and Execution.--->

From an intellectual perspective, let the scholars argue over the authorship of grand principles. World peace? – Yes, but on whose terms? Agreements? – yes, but in whose records? Progress? – Yes, but by whose definition? God’s word? – yes, but through whose book? Assert the prerogative of interpretation and execution. The power of the prophet lies not in his bringing the word of God to mankind but in his interpretation as to what the purported word of God means. TRUTH, it seems, does not determine what the prophet says; instead, what the prophet says determines what the TRUTH is. The fight then is over the priviledge of interpretation. In this war we must be wary of being too polite or fearful or too overzelous to notice a disrupting darkness before our eyes. “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so,” thus taught English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Hamlet, Act 2, Scene 2. British poet, painter, engraver, and mystic William Blake (1757 - 1827) affirmed:

Both read the Bible day & night
But thou read’st black where I read white.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE the mantle of making your SIGNS certain, of conferring a strong symbolic order in your expression.
HISTORY, in illuminating the past, illuminates the present; in illuminating the present, illuminates the future.
ONWARD be like a historian who is scientific in technique but artistic in interpretation, objective in analysis,
UPWARDLY subjective in perception, logical or systematic in structure, but intuitive or imaginative in outlook.
GUIDED submissively or not, at least be sure that you go to authors to get at their meaning, not to find yours.
HONE this as a sound truth: To treat your facts with imagination is one thing, to imagine your facts is another.
THE pleasure of having your ideas accepted, as the ancients knew, is one of the most innate in the human spirit.

O_#64. Getting Not Drunk by Success and Planning Proactively.--->

Only when you conform your appetite to your capacity to digest, will you be able able to avoid constipation. As a BLESSED BEYONDIST, regroup, consolidate, and reassess after every victory. Delay further forays and conquests until you feel well refreshed and fully energised. The moment of victory is often the time of greatest peril. In the heat of success, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow a sense of invincibility to go to your head. Listen to British short-story writer Saki (1870 - 1916): “In baiting a mouse-trap with cheese, always leave room for the mouse.” There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop. The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end, you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop.

Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead. Always remember these words of U.S. writer Alvin Toffler (1928 - ): “A corporation without a strategy is like an airplane weaving through stormy skies, hurled up and down, slammed by the wind, lost in the thunderheads. If lightning or crushing winds don’t destroy it, it will simply run out of gas.” “High tech is embedded in the texture of industrial history; it needs to be planned into existence. Otherwise...it will become the same sort of jolting, humanly wasteful leap from one economic stage to another that produced the worst hardships of the first industrial revolution,” so taught U.S. writer and editor Theodore Roszak (1933 - ). But Scottish poet and songwriter Robert Burns (1759 - 1796) cautioned:

The best laid schemes o’ mice an’ men
Gang aft a-gley,
An’ lea’e us nought but grief an’ pain
For promis’d joy.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE finest plans (even by Emperors) have always been spoiled by the littleness of those that should carry them out.
HALF a victory is the advantage of time and place in all practical actions; which being lost is IRRECOVERABLE.
Ortega y Gasset (1883 - 1955), Spanish philosopher said: “Thinking is the desire to gain reality by means of ideas.”
U.S. business executive Michael Dell (1964 - ) prudently taught: “Ideas are a commodity. Execution of them is not.”
GET on with a new IDEA and see if it works; do not simply study the IDEA to death with experts and committees.
Hungarian business executive Grove (1936 - ): “Columbus didn’t have a business plan when he discovered America.”
TEMPER swiftness like U.S. boxer Muhammad Ali (1942 - ): “I’m so fast I could hit you before God gets the news.”

U_#65. Being Bold and Perseverative, but Concealing Your Sweat.--->

Until when you are sure of an undertaking should you then indulge yourself in it. If you have doubts about a course of action, do not attempt it. Your hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter action with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more tenaciousness. Everyone admires the courageous; no one honours a coward. In the heat of persistence and perseverance your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, do it effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you. The words of British poet Robert Browning (1812 - 1889) are very encouraging:

But what if I fail of my purpose here?
It is but to keep the nerves at strain,
To dry one’s eyes and laugh at a fall,
And, baffled, get up and begin again.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THRIVING without one grain of sense is any timid, cunning knave; but good people starve for want of audacity.
HIGH extreme cowardice, that fear we tend to have of facing up to the real issues only leads to Self-destruction.
ONE bold bad person ends up being a Prince of darkness and dead night; a bold good one the LIGHT of Humanity.
ULTIMATELY a hero is a person who would argue with Gods, and dares or awakens devils to contest one’s vision.
Georges Danton (1759 - 1794), French revolutionary leader: “Boldness, and again boldness, and always boldness!”
HORRENDOUS, easy, tame, suffering, trampled things does that shoddy, little god of talking cowards make of us!
THE continuing unto the end (of any great matter well begun) until it be thoroughly finished yields the true glory.

R_#66. Seeking Not to Judge Things as either Too Good or Too Bad.--->

Reading the signs of the Times without preconceptions, will give you an undistorted image of the currents trends. Time was construed by Shakespeare as “Th’ inaudible and noiseless foot,” by German poet, playwright and historian Friedrich von Schiller (1759 - 1805) as “man’s angel,” by U.S. novelist John Steinbeck (1902 - 1968) as “the only critic without ambition.” As a BLESSED BEYONDIST, learn to see circumstances rather than as good or evil. Always wear the mask that the day and moment require, shedding heaviness that wears people down. However altruistic you are in your motives and undertakings, never waste valuable time, or mental peace of mind on the affairs of others - that is too high a price to pay. It will do you alot of justice to be guided by these words of French essayist and moralist Jean de La Bruyère (1645 - 1696): “Liberality lies less in giving liberally than in the timeliness of the gift.” Be stiffened by these words of British writern William Ernest Henley (1849 - 1903):

In the fell clutch of circumstance,
I have not winced nor cried aloud;
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIME waste differs from material waste in that there can be no salvage. - Car maker Henry Ford (1863 - 1947).
HUMAN VALUES are determined by systems, contexts and circumstances (however trifling, never too minute).
OTHER factors notwithstanding, MADNESS, may be duly defined as nobility of soul at odds with circumstance.
UNDERSTAND that no human being can be free if he or she does not know that he or she is subject to necessity.
GRANTED, freedom is always won in one’s never wholly successful attempts to liberate oneself from necessity.
Hurston Zora Neale (1891 - 1960), U.S. writer purely prayed: “I want a busy life, a just mind and a timely death.”
THE only way to be sure of catching a train is to miss the one before it. - Writer G. K. Chesterton (1874 - 1936).

O_#67. Respecting Old Ways, as well as Nurturing Common Touch.--->

On your way towards being a BLESSED BEYONDIST, your unconventional and revolutionary disposition may lead you to disdain the mores of your immediate community. This is not advisable. Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creature of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old ways of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past. BEYONDISM teaches that if you make a show of going against the TIMES, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who you are sure they appreciate your uniqueness. “In discussing extremes of unorthodoxy in science I consider it a waste of time to give rational arguments. Those who are in agreement do not need to be educated about such trivial matters, and trying to enlighten those who disagree is like trying to write on water,” thus discovered U.S. philosopher, mathematician, and writer Martin Gardner (1914 - ).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO you who is focused on changing the CURRENT systems, disguise it rather as if you are enhancing what is EXISTING.
Hebrews have this very soberly illuminating proverb: “If the wife wears the breeches, the husband must rock the cradle.”
OUTRIGHT morality in any given time or place is what the majority then and there happen to like; immorality opposite.
UNDERSTANDING the HEARTBEAT of the society and sharing the bright dreams determines whether you will be liked.
G. K. Chesterton (1874 - 1936) subtly said: “Evil comes at leisure like the disease; good comes in a hurry like the doctor.”
HUMBLY strike the right balance between the freedom innovations need to compete for a market share and social mores.
TRIGGERING revolutionary INITIATIVES while preserving family and community values has been adored in every era.

N_#68. Not Exposing Your Difference or Individual Spirit Too Overtly.--->

Negating the protocals and conventions of your immediate society will put you on the wrong side of social order. When people form groups of any type, a kind of organisational mind-set inevitably sets in. Although members of the group might trumpet their tolerance and celebration of people’s differences, the reality is that those who are markedly different make them feel uncomfortable and insecure, calling the values of the dominant culture into question. The culture will have unwritten standards of correctness that shift with the times we live. In some environments, physical appearance is important. But generally, the spirit of correctness runs deeper than that. Often unconsciouslly conforming to the spirit of the man or woman on top, members will share the same values about morals or politics. You can become aware of this group spirit by observing how much people feel the need to display certain opinions or ideas that conform to the standards.

There will always be a few within the group who are the overseers of correctness and who can be quite dangerous. If you have rebellious or naturally eccentric streak, as is often the case with those who are aiming for SELF-ACTUALIZATION, you must be careful in displaying your difference too overtly, particlarly in your early stages of training or learning a skill. Let your work subtly demonstrate your individual spirit, but when it comes to matters of politics, morals, and values, make a show of adhering to the accepted standards of your environment. Reserve your most interesting and colourful thoughts for your friends, and for those whom you can trust outside work.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THINK of any particular workplace as a kind of THEATER in which you are always wearing a MASK or the veil.
HONESTY aside, be careful in what you say - it is not worth the bother of FREELY expressing your core IDEAS.
OPINIONATED as you may be, if you are not WARY, people will not acknowledge the cause of their disaffection.
USUALLY, this because majority of the population do not want to think of themselves as rigid or CONFORMISTS.
GIVEN, they will find some other reason to ostracise or sabotage you; so deny them material for this kind of attack.
HOPEFULLY, later, as you proceed in your profession, and gain some MASTERY, you will have ample opportunity.
TO let your individuality SHINE through and to reveal your contempt for people’s correctness will be your chance.

E_#69. Studying Everyone Indiscriminately and Trusting People Less.--->

Encourage yourself to develop the ability to study and understand people. Recognise the motivation and see through the cloud of dust which people surround their actions. Never discriminate as to whom you study and whom you trust. Never trust anyone completely and study everyone, including friends, loved ones and foes. LIFE is short, opportunities are few, and you have only so much energy to draw on. “For what a man would like to be true, that he more readily believes,” so taught English philosopher, statesman, and lawyer Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626). Never take any position for granted and never let any favours you receive go to your head. Perhaps, this is a stab in your back with an iron hand inside a velvet glove and the sweetest of smile in the face. Perhaps, behind a mask of fairness, decency, congeniality, lies cunningness, deviousness and duplicity. Perhaps, underneeath the glittering surface of refinement is concealed greed, envy, lust and hatred. Perhaps, the other person is practicing the art of indirection, to unconsciously bend your will; for he or she may be wearing a mask and has kept a bag full of deceptive tricks.

Be forewarned that, those who make a show or display of innocence are the least innocent of all. King James Bible teaches in Micah 7:5: “Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom.” Listen to these words of Greek writer Aesop (620? - 560 bc): “The lamb that belonged to the sheep whose skin the wolf was wearing began to follow the wolf in the sheep’s clothing.” In a letter to Dr. Casper Wistar U.S. president Thomas Jefferson (1743 - 1826) wrote: “His mind must be strong indeed, if, rising above juvenile credulity, it can maintain a wise infidelity against the authority of his instructors, and the bewitching delusions of their theories.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE hidden state of things, the natural course of the human mind is certainly from CREDULITY to SKEPTICISM.
HITLER (German) showed surprising loyalty to MUSSOLINI (Italian), but it never extended to trusting him fully.
ONE who in sound sanity SURRENDERES all reality, all dread and fear, to another mortal must brace to be doomed.
U.S. activist and author Jerry Rubin (1938 - 1994) was basically blessed to realise: “Don’t trust anyone over thirty.”
HERE is the catch: Do not expect anyone to redeem you or humanity, but only inprint in you such childish illusions.
GRATIFYING as it is, the dispositions of humans is inability to tell whom one might trust or whom one might fear.
Thurber James (1894 - 1961), U.S. cartoonist humoured: “You can fool too many of the people too much of the time.”

H_#70. Being Noted as Authoritative by Wisely Quoting Authorities.--->

However original and creative you are, make it a habit of making your ideas look like a reflection or an extension of ideas propounded by recognised scholars and thinkers; past and present. People need buttressing in their beliefs by respected specialists. Quote concurring authorities. Assemble blue-ribbon committees. Carefully weigh their known leanings beforehand; publicise their independent judgement and thorough analysis thereafter. Introduce your major proposals through the ritual of objective expertise. The less legitimate your designs and actions, the more impressive must be the accompanying or follow-on ceremonies of legitimising. Although illegal power may be seized through force alone, it cannot be long sustained without the blessings of legitimacy. Moreover, words which acquire greater impact and directives elicit speedier execution when ascribed to higher echelons.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE more swift and drastic the move contemplated, the more imposing and explicit the ascription should be.
HONE it: The chief wants it done…The president has taken a personal interest in this…God has commanded…..
OUTRIGHTLY repeat the refrain with great solemnity, especially on your way up to the echelons of POWER.
UNDERSTANDING raised to a fine art is BEYONDISM; a Beyondist is, nothing but an artist at understanding.
GOODILY, as to the supposed ‘conflict’...between science and religion, no such conflict should be seen to exist.
HAVING a legitimate magisterium of teaching authority is each subject — and these magisteria do not overlap.
THE Book of Talmud authoritatively affirms: “A quotation at the right moment is like bread to the famished.”

U_#71. Being Subtly Motivated by Ardent Accumulation of POWER.--->

Under no circumstance can you creat or destroy power. Power is only transformed or transferred. The mysterious thing about power is that it does not proceed on its own from higher concentration to lower, from richer reserviour to poorer. As a BLESSED BEYONDIST, your determination MUST be to grab more power from those with more. Grab less from those with less. And counter-grab from those who grab from you. Why is this the core message of BEYONDISM? The feeling of having no power over people and events is generally unbearable to us – when we feel helpless we feel miserable. No one wants less power; everyone wants more. In the world today, however it is dangerous to seem power hungry, to be overt with your power moves. We have to seem fair and decent. Everything must appear civilised and democratic. But if you play by these rules too strictly, if we take them too literally, we are crushed by those around us who are not so foolish. As the great Italian Renaissance diplomat and courtier Niccolo Machiavelli (1469 - 1527) wrote, “Any man who tries to be good all the time is bound to come to ruin among the great number who are not good.” Our world today – as it has been since antiquity – imagines itself the pinnacle of fairness. Yet underneath the glittering surface a cauldron of dark and ugly emotions – greed, envy, lust, hatred – stirs, boils, and simmers within us, as they have been forever.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THIS is what you MUST do! Outwardly, you should seem to respect the niceties, and you learn quickly to be prudent.
HAVE the insight to do as Napoleon Bonaparte (1769 - 1821) advised: “Place your iron hand inside a velvet glove.”
OUTMANEUVERING your opponents will be by mastering the arts of indirection, learning to SEDUCE and charm.
UTILIZING this ability will enable you to make people bend to your will without their realising what you have done.
GUIDED in this soft manner, and if they are not aware of what you have done, they will neither resent nor resist you.
HARDENED in key matters you will be the sponge that will suck dry any torrent which many folks are unable to stem.
THE END will justify the MEANS as you inject into the blood of our people the virus of a new vigour (a renaissance).

N_#72. Penentrating BEYOND Ultrist Actions to Uncover Deceptions.--->

Nurturing your ability to enjoy the goodies of this world, entails being aware of those social vampires whose cunning lie in covering up what looks like cunning. These are people who are able to keep you off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind their actions. They may guide you far enough down the wrong path, and envelop you in enough smoke. They may throw you off the scent by dragging red herring across the path, using false sincerity, sending ambiguous signals, and setting up misleading objects of desire. They will pool the wool over your eyes. By seeming to believe what they say - the depth of their emotions - gives their words great weight. This may make you to follow them blindly and you will be utterly deceived by them. English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in The Merchant of Venice, Act 3, Scene 2 Shakespeare illumines:

Ornament is but the guiled shore
To a most dangerous sea; the beauteous scarf
Veiling an Indian beauty; in a word,
The seeming truth which cunning times put on
To entrap the wisest.

In Othello, Act 1, Scene 1, Shakespeare proceeds:

But I will wear my heart upon my sleeve
For daws to peck at: I am not what I am.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THESE words of English poet John Dryden (1631 - 1700) have resonance: “For every inch that is not fool is rogue.”
HERE is Machiavelli (1469 - 1527). Is he correct? “Cunning and deceit will every time serve a man better than force.”
ONE British judge and writer Charles John Darling (1849 - 1936): “Much truth is spoken, that more may be concealed.”
UNEXPOSED railing at those things which one wants, lecherous, covetous, proud, bloody, or envious, is our dark side.
GENEROUS red-herring speech, prolonged filibustering throws people off the scent, creates vanity and hope in others.
HOW is it that we hear the loudest yelps for liberty among the drivers of exploitation? Discern this as flat blasphemy.
TAKEN here is that you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be not wicked and being good all the time.

D_#73. Being Unpredictable and Unfamiliar so as to Inspire Respect.--->

Dare to be unpredictable and unfamiliar. It is only in this way that you will inspire fear and respect. Simply dangle an object you seem to desire, a goal you seem to aim for infront of people’s eyes and they will take the appearance for reality. Once their eyes focus on the decoy, they will fail to notice what you are really up to. Seem to support an idea or a cause that is actually contrary to your own sentiments. Hide your intentions not by closing up (with the risk of appearing secretive, and making people suspicious) but by talking endlessly about your desires and goals - just not your real one’s. You will kill three birds with one stone. You appear friendly, open and trusting; you conceal your intentions and you send your rivals in time consuming wild-goose chases. Listen to English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616) in Hamlet, Act 2, Scene 1:

And thus do we of wisdom and of reach,
With windlasses and with assays of bias,
By indirections find directions out.

In Macbeth, Act 1, Scene 3, Shakespeare says:

Oftentimes, to win us to our harm,
The instruments of darkness tell us truths;
Win us with honest trifles, to betray’s
In deepest consequence.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THIS is British novelist Evelyn Waugh (1903 - 1966): “We schoolmasters must temper discretion with deceit.”
HEAR Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626): “It is the wisdom of the crocodiles that shed tears when they would devour.”
OUTRIGHT murder, though it have no tongue, may speak with most miraculous organ; all is fair in love and war.
UNDERSTAND that in this world everybody is up to something, especially, of course, those who are up to nothing.
GOOD intentions can be turned evil, both hands can be full of grease; sometimes Satan comes as a man of peace.
HOW treacherous are some who stamps God’s own name upon a lie just made, to turn a penny in the way of trade?
TRULY disdain that glib and oily art to speak and purpose not; since what you well intend, do it before you speak.

R_#74. Shifting Your Obsolete Way of Viewing the Practical World.--->

Realistically learning the game of POWER requires a certain way of looking at the world, a shifting of perspective. It takes effort and years of practice, for much of the game may not come naturally. Certain basic skills are required, and once you master these skills you will be able to attain power without much hustle. The most important of these skills, and power’s crucial foundation, is the ability to master your emotions. An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings. Emotions cloud reason, and if you cannot see the situation clearly, you cannot prepare for and respond to it with any degree of control. Anger is the most destructive of motional responses, for it clouds your vision the most. It also has a ripple effect that invariably makes situations less controllable and heightens your enemy’s resolve.

If you are trying to destroy an enemy who has hurt you, far better to keep him off-guard by feigning friendliness than showing anger. Love and affection are also potentially destructive, in that they blind you to the often self-serving interests of those whom you least suspect of playing a power game. You cannot repress anger or love, or avoid feeling them, and you should not try. But you should be careful about how you express them, and most important, they should never influence your plans. Related to mastering is the ability to distance yourself from present moment and think objectively about the past and future. For the future, the motto is, “No days unalert.” Nothing should catch you by surprise because you are constantly imagining problems before they arise. Instead of spending your time dreaming of your plan’s happy ending, you must work on calculating every possible permutation and pitfall that might emerge in it.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE broader, deeper and the further you see, the more steps ahead you PLAN, the more powerful you become.
HALF of the game is learning how to forget some events in the past that eat away at you and cloud your reason.
ORIENTING to the past does not mean remembering past hurts or bearing grudges; this only curbs your power.
UNCONDITIONALLY, the real purpose of the backward-glancing eye is to basically educate yourself constantly.
GLANCING or looking at the past is with the fundamental intention of learning from those who came before you.
HAVING looked to the past, you are enabled to look closer at hand, to your own actions and those of your friends.
THIS is the most vital school you can learn from, simply because it comes from personal exposure and experience.

E_#75. Welcoming Fitting Ceremonies in Your Every Day Existence.--->

Every aspect of LIFE cannot be constricted to rational valuations. In some respects, living itself can be described as nothing more than a sustained succession of ceremonies. Society runs smoother when pleasing ceremonies prevail. Impatient amateurs often forget this essential facet in the scheme of power. LIFE without ceremony is like a gift without wrapping. Even brute force is often accompanied by a fitting ceremony. In the past wars were usually preceded by a formal declaration. Today, the last instruction by the referee to the boxers in the ring before the opening bell is: “now shake hands and come out fighting”. Listen to French writer Honoré de Balzac (1799 - 1850): “I should like one of these days to be so well known, so popular, so celebrated, so famous, that it would permit me...to break wind in society, and society would think it a most natural thing.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE your career, occupation and entire LIFE to be notable in a hundred ways and celebrated in thousand ways.
HAIL LIFE; to be solemnized with pomp, shows, bonfires and illuminations from this time forward, forevermore.
OUR core assigment as conscious human being is to transform LIFE from a predicament into a spectacle or a feast.
U.S. poet Walt Whitman (1819 - 1892): “I celebrate myself, and sing myself, and what I assume you shall assume.”
GREAT diarist Samuel Pepys (1633 - 1703): “Strange to see how a good dinner and feasting reconciles everybody.”
Henry Fielding (1707 - 1754), a British novelist and playwright wittily commented: “Enough is equal to a feast.”
Terry Nation (1930 - ), a British science fiction writer: “Who was it that said the living are the dead on holiday?”

D_#76. Guarding Your Core Reputation for Diligence and Credibility.--->

Diligence and credibility is the greatest obstacle to many an overture to power. Repeat your thesis often, for people tend to shun the unfamiliar and embrace the familiar. Use phrases mellifluous to the ear, for people like to identify with the pleasant. Make it sound vital, for people incline to align with the important. Announce your intentions to accomplish something, which is actually well on the way. Promise something that seems difficult but is within ready reach of your unseen reserves. Then let the people conclude for themselves that you are truly a person of your word. Your constituents must have faith in your credibility. They must not only believe your data, but they must also believe you. The greater the consequences of the issues under contention, the more urgent is the need for trust on the part of your followers. Your credibility requires concrete confirmation on a continuing basis. You have to produce convincing demonstrations. There are many ways of doing so. The best foundation on which to build, is absolute integrity on all matters not critical to your personal power. If at all possible, avoid pure fabrications. More important, the appearance of reasonableness renders an otherwise unacceptable demand rather palatable. Pay particular attention to your demeanour as the increments of your ambition increase significantly. Refer often to the suggestions of others and give credit to the value of their contributions.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRAIN your PSYCHE to accept the constituents’ preferences in matters of lesser value or consequence.
HARNESS your SPIRIT to be overtly generous in vital miscellaneous items of basic community interest.
OUTRIGHT reputation for being reasonable is essential when your acquisition of power is step by step.
USING subtle means other than brute force is the foundation of a long-term accumulation of increments.
GOALS or objectives can be efficiently gained through accommodating than through mutually damaging.
HOPE such an approach to go smoothly only if there is a modicum of respect for moderation on both sides.
TRULY, truly, do not ruin it all by blurting out some accusations or losing your temper even once in public.

A_#77. Being on the Look-out for Skillful Manipulators.--->

Anointed as you .............. are, it is worth noting that, this is the most important LOADED LAW, in this WEBSITE. Being the center of all LAWS, it is the Fulcrum Law. It is the fixed point in the pendulum of our human existence. It will aid you in smoking out all sorts charlatans in your midst. It will sharpen your mind to see through any one who purports to fall in love with you, but with ulterior motives of exploiting you, and then dump you. It will shield you from any person who might think of luring you into a cult or a gang. It will armour your PSYCHE from any salesperson who may think of siphoning your pocket. You will be able to distinguish the chaff from wheat amongst our politicians. The key here is to understand that all charlatans know the power of a noble gesture. They are aware that, people want to believe apparently good gestures are genuine, for the belief is pleasant; many rarely notice how deceptive these gesture can be. Charlatans know the lure of a pattern. They know that, the establishment of series of actions that seduce the victim into believing they will continue in the same way. The pattern is powerful in that it decieves the other person into not expecting the opposite of one is really doing. Charlatans are driven by the conviction that, the world want to be deceived. They are therefore able to throw dust in their victim’s eyes, distracting them with an air of moral superiority. They know how to seamlessly blend with those around them. The better they blend, the less suspicious they become. In the book “Yellow Kid” Weil: The Autobiography of America’s Master Swindler (1948), this famous American conman Yellow Kid “Weil” ( ) exposes his tricks to W. T. Brannon:

Lies were the foundation of my schemes. A lie is an allurement, a fabrication, that can be embellished into a fantasy. It can be clothed in the raiments of a mystic conception. Truth is cold, sober fact, not so comfortable to absorb. A lie is more palatable. The most detested person in the world is the one who always tells the truth, who never romances. If a lie is told often enough even the teller comes to believe it. It becomes a habit. And habit is like a cable. Each day another strand is added until you have woven a cable that is unbreakable...Man has all the bestiality of the animal, but is cloaked with a thin veneer of civilization; he is inherently dishonest and selfish; the honest man is a rare specimen indeed.

Referring to what can be achieved with flattery British entrepreneur Lord Hanson (1922 - 2004) affirms: “There’s so much more to be gained with honey, so much more.” Listen to English playwright and poet Christopher Marlowe (1564 - 1593):

I must have wanton poets, pleasant wits,
Musicians, that with touching of a string
May draw the pliant king which way I please.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THESE are words of Rudyard Kipling (1865 - 1936): “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.”
HOW does most of those people who are crafty and deceptive among us, do everything to cloak their roguish qualities?
ONEROUS manipulators employ persuasive means that are hidden from others or seek to bypass their conscious minds.
UNDER very subtle disguises they espouse believe in fairness, honesty and forthrightness as very important social values.
GENERALLY, they do this as openly and publicly as possible: If you are paranoid and wary, you will be easily deceived.
HIDEOUS skillful deceivers will win your trust in one area, and this will be a smokescreen to distract your ATTENTION.
THIS is from his real purpose, and blind your view in another; thus creeping up and levelling you with a devastating blow.

N_#78. Seeking to Diffuse Others’ Envy by Concealing Your Smartness.--->

No human being is exempt from constantly comparing him or herself to others - in terms of money, looks, coolness, intelligence, popularity, or any number of categories. If we are upset that someone we know is more successful than we are, we will naturally experience envy, but more often we will find a way to minimise it because it is an unpleasant emotion. We tell ourselves that the success of another person is a matter of luck or came through their connections, or that it will not last. But for some people it goes much deeper than this, usually because of the level of their insecurities. Seething with envy, the only way to discharge it is to find a way to obstruct or sabotage the person who elicited the emotion. If they take such action they will never say it is because of envy, but will find some other, more socially acceptable excuse. They often will not even admit their envy to themselves. This make it a quality very hard to recognise in people.

There are, however, few indications you can look for. People who praise you too much or who become overly friendly in the first stages of knowing you are often envious and are getting closer in order to hurt you. You should be wary of such behaviour. Also, if you detect unusual levels of insecurity in a person, he or she will be more prone to envy. Envy is very difficult to discern, and the most prudent course of action is to make sure your own behaviour does not inadvertently trigger it. If you have a gift for a certain skill, you should make a point of occassionally displaying some weakness in another area, avoiding the great danger of apperaring too perfect, too talented. If you are dealing with insecure types, you can display great interest in their work and even turn to them for advice. You must be careful not to boast of any success, and if necessary, to ascribe it to just good luck on your part.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO occasionally reveal your own insecurities is always wise - will humanise you in other people’s eyes.
HUMOUR which is self-depreciating will work wonders as well; poking fun at some of your actions is safe.
ONE important thing is: You must be particularly careful to never make people feel stupid in your presence.
UNLIMITED sense of intelligence (or having practical wisdom) is the most sensitive trigger point for envy.
GENERALLY, it is by standing out too much, being seen as superior that you will spark this ugly emotion.
HAVING said so, it becomes a suitable strategy to maintain an avarege (not above), nonthreatening exterior.
TRY to blend in seamlessly well with the group, at least until you are so successful that it no longer matters.

D_#79. Social Intelligence (Apart from Intellectualism) is Key to Thrive.--->

Developing social intelligence will not simply help you manage your relationship with other people - acquiring it will also have an immensily beneficial effect on your ways of thinking and your creativity in general. It is worth understanding that the human brain is an interconnected organ, which is in turn interconnected with our bodies. Our brains developed in tandem with our expanding powers as social primates. The refinement of mirror neurons for the purpose of better communication with people became equally applied to other forms of reasoning. The ability to think inside objects and phenomena is an integral part of scientific creativity. To be a BLESSED BEYONDIST, you MUST display a fluid, sensitive way of thinking that should develop along with your expanding social intelligence. Those who are more rigidly intellectual and inward can go far in their fields, but their work often ends up lacking a creativity, an openness, and a sensivity to detail that becomes more pronounced with time. In the end, the ability to think inside other people is no different from the intuitive feel Masters gain in relation to their field of study. To develop your intellectual powers at the expense of the social is to retard your own progress towards SELF-ACTUALIZATION, and limit the full range of your creative powers.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THEORISTS have proposed the existence of emotional intelligence that is complementary to one measured by IQ tests.
HAVE it that it was American psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer, who together introduced the concept in 1990.
ONLY they who defined emotional intelligence (EQ) as the ability to perceive, understand, express, and regulate emotions.
USING their emotions to GUIDE thoughts and behavior, Emotionally Intelligents can accurately READ others’ emotions.
Goleman Daniel, an American author and journalist, popularized the concept in his book Emotional Intelligence (1995).
HE construed Emotional Intelligence as carrying much more weight than IQ in determining who emerges as a LEADER.
THIS is a common core of personal and social abilities that has proven to be the critical ingredient in people’s SUCCESS.

F_#80. Respect Order by Never Introducing Your New Ideas Drastically.--->

Faced by situations that seems complicated makes us humans to resort to a kind of artificial simplicity, to create habits and routines that give us a sense of control. We prefer what is familiar - ideas, faces, procedures - because they are comforting. This extends to the group at large. People follow procedures without really knowing why, simply because these procedures may have worked in the past, and they become highly defensive if their ways are brought into question. They become hooked on a certain idea and they hold on to it, even if that idea has been proven repeatedly to be wrong. Look at the history of science: whenever a new idea or a way of looking at the world is introduced, despite all of the proofs behind it, those who are entrenched in the old ways will fight to the death to preserve them. It is often against human nature, particularly as we get older, to consider alternative ways of thinking or doing things. People do not advertise their rigidity. You will only trip up against it if you try to introduce a new idea or procedure. Some in the group - the hyper-rigid - will become irritable, even panicky at the thought of any kind of change. If you press your case with logic and reason, you will tend to make them even more defensive and resistant. If you are an adventurous, open-minded type, your very spirit will prove disruptive and upsetting.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THERE is a looming dire danger, if you are not aware of the perils of butting up against the FEAR of the NEW.
HIDDEN enemies of all sorts is what you will create; who will then resort to anything to conserve the old order.
ONE critical caution: It is useless to fight against people’s rigid ways, or to argue against their irrational concepts.
UNDERSTAND that by trying to change people, you will only waste time and make yourself rigid in the process.
GOOD strategy is to simply accept rigidity in others, by outwardly displaying deference to their NEED for order.
HAVE an appetite for new revolutionary ideas on your own; you must incessantly work to maintain an open spirit.
TAKE esteeming change and growth as your ideal; letting go of bad habits and deliberately cultivating new ideas.

I_#81. Appealling to Folks Solid Self-Interests When Seeking Their Help.--->

In day to day dealings with others, we almost inevitably think first and foremost of ourselves. Even when we act for the greater good, we are often unconsciously motivated by the desire to be liked by others and to have our image enhanced in the process. There is no shame in this. But because being self-interested does not make us feel or appear noble, many people go out of their way to disguise their self-interest. You must understand and accept the fact that when it is time to ask for a favour or help, you must think of appealing to peoples self-interest in some way. (You should apply this to everyone, no matter their level of self-obsessiveness.) Sometimes the chance to look good in doing you a favour or supporting a cause will suffice, but it is generally better to find something stronger than that - some concrete benefit they can foresee coming from you in the future. In general, in your interactions with people, find a way to make the conversations revolve around them and their interests, all of which will go far to winning them to your side. In other words, if you need a favour from people, do not remind them of what you have done for them in the past, trying to stimulate feelings of gratitude.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TENDING to remind us of our helplessness, our dependence on others is what makes gratitude to be rare.
HUMANS like to feel independent; so remind them of the good things they have done for you in the past.
ONCE you make them feel appreciated, this will help CONFIRM their self-opinion: “Yes, I am generous.”
UPON being reminded, they will want to continue to LIVE up to this image and do yet another good deed.
GRANTED, a similar effect can come from suddenly forgiving your enemies and forging a rapprochement.
HIGH opinion of themselves is what they will feel obligated to live up to, in the created emotional turmoil.
THIS is alloyed to what you have now shown them and will be extra motivated to prove themselves worthy.

F_#82. Securing Your Creativity From Being Taken Away by Plagiarists.--->

Few people have the audacity to follow their unique path. Most of us have the tendency to want to take the quickest, easiest path to our goals, but we generally manage to control our impatience; we understand the superior value of getting what we want through hard work. For some people, however, this inveterate lazy streak is far too powerful. Discouraged by the thought that it might take months or years to get somewhere, they are constantly on the lookout for shortcuts. Their laziness will assume many insidious forms. For example, if you are not careful and talk too much, they will steal your best ideas and make them their own, saving themselves all of the mental effort that went into conceiving them. They will swoop in during the middle of your project and put their name on it, gaining partial credit for your work. They will engage you in a “collaboration” in which you do the bulk of the hard work but they share equally in the rewards. English scholar and churchman Robert Burton (1577 - 1640) castigated these plagiarists: “They lard their lean books with the fat of others’ works.” “I will be sufficiently rewarded if when telling it to others you will not claim the discovery as your own, but will say it was mine,” so pleaded Greek philosopher Thales (625? - 546? BC). Your best defense is your prudence. Keep your ideas to yourself, or conceal enough of the details so that it is not possible for others to steal them. If you are doing work for a superior, be prepared for them to take full credit and leave your name out (this is a part of everyone’s apprenticeship and must be accepted as such), but do not let this happen with colleagues.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE least of an original emanation (inspiration giving birth to work) is better than the best of a borrowed thought.
Henry Wotton (1568 - 1639), an English poet was sincere: “I am but a gatherer and disposer of other men’s stuff.”
ON working with other people, seek to secure your CREDIT in advance as part of the terms of working together.
UNDER no duress, if people request or want you to do work for them, then pass it off as a “collaborative” effort.
GAUGE whether such work will add to your skill base, and examine their past record to measure their work ethic.
HEAVIER lifting for them is often what people who want to collaborate are trying to find someone to; so be wary.
TAKE care of those who invades creators like a monarch; what would be theft in others, is only victory in them.

T_#83. Not Believing Too Much on Promises or the Bare Word of Mouth.--->

Truly speaking, we like to make a show of how much our decisions are based on rational considerations, but the hard fact is that we are largely governed by our emotions, which continually colour our perceptions. What this means is that the people around you, constantly under the pull of their emotions, change their ideas by the day or by the hour, depending on their mood. You must never assume that what people say or do in a particular moment is a statement of their permanent desires. Yesterday they were in love with your ideas, today they seem lukewarm. This will confuse you and if you are not careful, you will waste valuable mental space trying to figure out their real feelings, their mood of the mommet, their fleeting motivations. It is best to cultivate both distance and a degree of detachment from other people’s shifting emotions that you are not caught up in the process. Focus on their actions, which are generally more consistent, and not on their words. Do not take so seriously people’s promises or their ardour in wanting to help you. If they come through, so much the better, but be prepared for the more frequent change of heart. Rely upon yourself to get thing done and you will not be disappointed. Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard (1813 - 1855) complained thus: “Each age has its own characteristic depravity. Ours is perhaps not pleasure or indulgence or sensuality, but rather a dissolute pantheistic contempt for the individual man.” “The only part of the conduct of any one, for which he is amenable to society, is that which concerns others. In the part which merely concerns himself, his independence is, of right, absolute. Over himself, over his own body and mind, the individual is absolute,” so affirmed British philosopher and social reformer John Stuart Mill (1806 - 1873).

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be whole is the fate of all great minds — deplored at times, but yet chosen as the less grievous of two evils.
HOLISTIC ethic of responsibility gains appeal upon solving a problem thyself; or accepting an unlikable fate.
OWNING a creative mind is like escaping death by drowning, a delightful sensation after you cease to struggle.
U.S. cartoon character The Tramp: “When you’re footloose and collar-free, well, you take nothing but the best.”
GAIN no effective action in a changing world devoid of freedom; only little knowledge creation or propagation.
HEAR British prime minister and biographer Lord Rosebery (1847 - 1929): “I must plough my furrow alone.”
TEMPER being an individualist — and sufficient: You will be amazed at how much faster you will get ahead.

Y_#84. Being on a Sustained Look-out for the Passive Aggressive Warriors.--->

You will always encounter conflicts in one way or the other. The root cause of all passive aggression is the human fear of direct confrontation - the emotions that a conflict can churn up and the loss of control that ensues. And so because of this fear some people look for indirect means of getting their way, making their way, making their attacks subtle enough so that it is hard to figure out what is going on, while giving them control of the dynamic. We are all passive-aggressive to some exent. Procrastinating on a project, showing up late, or making offhand comments designed to upset people are common forms of low-level passive aggression. When dealing with this low-level variety in others, you can call them on their behaviour and make them aware of it, which can often work. Or, if it is truly harmless, simply ignore it. But there are people out there seething with insecurities who are veritable passive-aggressive warriors and can literally ruin your LIFE. Your best defense is to recognise such types before you become embroiled in a battle, and avoid them like the plague. The most obvious clues come from their track record - they have a reputation, you hear stories of past skirmishess, and so on. Take a look at the people around them, such as assistants - do they act with unsual caution and terror in their presence? Sometimes you are confused because you suspect sabotage or obstruction, but they present such a friendly or benign exterior. Discard the exterior and focus only on their actions and you will have a clear picture.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THOSE evading you, delay necessary action on something important to you, or make you feel guilty and leave you unsure why?
HARMFULLY they so act, but make it seem like an accident? Then, it is most likely you are under a passive-aggressive attack.
OPTIONS? Either you swiftly get out of their way and leave their presence, or return the attack with something equally indirect.
UNCOMPROMISINGLY, signal in some subtle way that messing with you will come with a price - awakening the tiger in you.
GIVING them a rough idea of what may befall them, will often discourage them and ultimately make them find another victim.
HAVING discerned their ulterior motives, you then at all cost, avoid entangling yourself emotionally in their dramas and battles.
THEY are masters at controlling the dynamic, and you will almost always lose in the end. Be wise in this manner to stay SAFE.

F_#85. Always Shunning Gnawing Regrets in order to Live a Happy LIFE.--->

Feeling of being weighed down by most common regrets in LIFE affects most people, such that if they open up to you, some of their statements will make you feel very sorry about human nature, and human existence. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, and often it can lead to regret. Some people have the philosophy that everything happens for a reason, so there is no point in having regrets. However, for so many of us, looking back on our lives can lead us to linger on one sad and pitiful moment or period when we wish we had done things differently, and that nagging question — “What if ... ?” — plays on repeat in our heads. This may sound a little shocking. No matter how happy many people may look at the outset, their regrets are countless. When these people look back on their lives, what they see is doom and gloom. Perhaps they have made decades’ worth of little miscalculations they cannot completely erase from their memory, as well as a number of big mistakes that made LIFE permanently harder. There are two ways people frame their regrets: The things they did that they wish they had not, and the things they wish they had done but did not. The difference between the two is often a psychological one. We can frame the same regret either way — as regret about an action: “If only I had not dropped out of school,” or as a regret about an inaction: “If only I had stayed in school.” Despite the fact that, they are practically equivalent, regrets framed as laments about actions are more common and more intense than regrets about inactions, although inaction regrets tend to be longer lasting. We are all busy.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY closing your eyes and imagine that you are at your own funeral - a bit morbid we know, but there is a reason for it.
HAVE a thought about what you would like people to solemnly say about you: What kind of a LIFE do you want to lead?
ODDLY, people die with all kinds of regrets. Do not be one of them. Discard that hangover, start building a legacy NOW.
UNDERSTAND: Regrets that loom larger often grow out of a series of behaviours (or lack of) over a long period of time.
GET the example of continually neglecting the call (as a sibling) of the brother, or a sister you are holding a grudge against.
HUNDREDS of times (as a parent) you could have spent with your children but did not; came home late and left very early.
THINK of the thousands of times (as a student) you put off schoolwork to do something else, to spree with unhelpful peers.

O_#86. Personal Maladjustment as a BREEDER of Marital Maladjutment.--->

Only a person who has ACTIVATED one’s SELFHOOD, or is diligently working him or herself out in this direction, can be able to love in the true sense of the word. When one suffers from personal maladjustment, one does not view oneself positively. One grieves over one size and looks which one cannot change. Having capitalised on what seem to be negative aspects of oneself, everything else becomes secondary. This goes far to creating maladjustment in the relationship whereby one of the partner is not proud of the other and in extreme cases becomes an embarrassment. There is also the romantic maladjustment. That feeling of inferiority on the part of partner in a relationship, is very dangerous for one’s intimacy. This feeling, whether conscious or unconscious leads to failure of love. Life is like a journey which can be easily covered with a good partner. A perfect companion not only makes the whole ride of life enjoyable but meaningful as well. Adjustment is equivalent to adaptation. Adjustment is an active process that facilitate the individuals concerned in a proactive process to produce a win-win situation. It is again a moral quality which comprises faith, sympathy, compassion and consideration for each other in making a relationship workable between the two souls. Adjustment is generally the incorporation of a couple in a union in which the two not simply join each other, but cooperate to complement each other.

Marital adjustment is the state in which there is an overall feeling between husband and wife, of happiness and satisfaction with their marriage and with each other. Understanding the individual trait of the spouse is an ongoing process in marriage; because even if two people know each other before or at the time of marriage, there is a possibility that people change during the life cycle. Hence, marital adjustment calls for maturity from an individual and this process comprehends development, growth and change in the partner. If this progress is not grasped completely, then the demise in a marital bond is expected. Marital adjustment denotes a condition of accommodation which is usually attained in diverse parts where struggle may exist. Whenever any person has irrational fears or anxieties, these can be the sources of husband-wife fraction. Sometimes the cause lies deep within the psyche of the individual. These anxieties have origin in childhood experiences and early family relationships. Emotional illness is also a major cause of friction and arguments. mentally ill people often behave in disruptive, bizarre ways, due to which they are not well-adjusted in to the marital bond.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THOSE who failed to meet the societal expectations (of love, care and concern from each other) are more prone to violence.
HOPELESSLY, they were unable to get a good share of psychological, social and economic resources to meet up demands.
ONEROUS shortfalls lead them to take up violent behavior and cruelty as a means of coping with traumatic state of affairs.
UPON children in the socialization process, restraints are placed (in many cultures) leading to deprivation and frustrations.
GRUDGINGLY (but unconsciously), this sense of lack may be carried to adult life; hence adversely affecting an individual.
HAVING a lot of unresolved aggression which one knows not how to handle, is expressed in many complaints, resentments.
THIS aggression may find a vent in the form of verbal or physical attack towards the easiest available scapegoat, the partner.

U_#87. Maintaining the Laudable Spark of Attraction in Your Relationship.--->

Under no circumstance, can a relationship thrive, when the salt that flavours it (romance, intimacy and responsibility) loses its taste. Failure to maintain the spark of attraction, which leads to the relationship in the first instance, can end in disaster. This is essentially due to the fact that, without attraction, the flame of desire grows dimmer until eventually it is extinguished. The net result is that love can turn to hate. And those who love most intensely are likely to loathe most heartily if their romantic relationship is unsatisfactory. Indeed, in such cases repulsion and enmity seem to be appropriate to the strength of their former love. As soon as mutual attraction ceases and the old thrill is gone, monotony sets in. Then, what should bring ecstasy becomes more than a routine, and like all routines, a deadly dull. The consequence of this is sense of grievance over both parties. However, the most affected party is the woman because, she has fewer opportunities of expressing herself through other channels and so we have the beginning of the end.

LIFE goes on but we often take the most important thing in our LIFE for granted – our significant other. We forget to create special moments, do not feel butterflies in our stomach anymore, and believe our relationship has reached a stagnant point. Going from a passionate to a compassionate relationship can also begin to feel boring. Even resentment can creep in. Whether you are in a long-term relationship or a long-distance one, it is important to keep the attraction alive for years and make your love last.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO really rekindle the spark or keep it alive get out of your comfort zone and take risks to keep things riveting.
HAVE a glimpse of your partner’s wants and prioritise that go beyond daily events and build new experiences.
ON a deeper level communicate everything from your feelings and emotions to your past secrets and future plans.
USUALLY try a partner activity doing something you both enjoy. Be spontaneous – spend quality time together.
GENERAL talk is not just about having a chat for a few minutes; even a mere ‘I love you’ does not simply cut it.
HAPPINESS’S key is in keeping on adventuring and experimenting; to keep the relationship alive and buzzing!
TRY making him or her feel seen and loved – they will feel desired and will yearn for more time and time again.

R_#88. Admitting Guilt and Sincerely Apologising Fully Oils a Relationship.--->

Relationships which are worth the name, are devoid of denials. People in enduring relationship admit that they are limited beings who have as much capacity to hate or they have the capacity to love. They are aware that everyone has emotions like anger, fear, worry and frustrations that would be damaging unless given an outlet. Being human, we lack control over doing wrong. Admitting guilt and apologising is the closest we can get to perfection. It sets pace for recovery from a relationship’s conflict. Many times, simply changing your mind from stubborn stand can be an apology enough. Saying ‘sorry’ helps the individuals in a relationship to easily recuperate from a moment of grudge. Thereafter, a new revitalised union emerges.

Arguments seem to be nature’s ways of ensuring that feelings for one another do not fizzle out or get consumed by the monotony and boredom of laughing and hugging and kissing. After an argument, there is always the making up period and a yearning for romance. It is as if the relationship has just begun. Relationships can be wonderful buffers against stress, but relationship conflicts can also cause considerable emotional pain and stress. Knowing how to apologize — and when — can repair damage in a relationship, but if you are not sincerely apologizing, you can actually make things worse. A sincere and effective apology is one that communicates genuine empathy, remorse, and regret as well as a promise to learn from your mistakes. In other words, you need to really believe you did something wrong and feel sorry for the hurt you caused.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE responsibility, acknowledge mistakes you made that hurt the other; do not at all try to SHIFT the blame.
HONESTLY apologizing involves making it clear that you regret your actions and that you are truly SORRY.
ON learning how to apologize effectively, it is important to understand the VALUE of expressing deep regret.
UNINFLUENCED let the other person know that you feel bad about hurting him or her and wish you had not.
GRANTED he or she already feels bad, and would like to know that you feel bad about him or her feeling bad.
HAVE it that this is not easy, but it can be an important part of rebuilding, mending or maintaining a relationship.
THE steps needed to make a sincere and honest apology require empathy, an open heart, and a dose of courage.

O_#89. Sufficient Connection by Knowing Each Others Dreams and Hopes.--->

One should know each other’s dreams, aspirations, hopes and fears. Happy partners are sufficiently connected to one another inner lives to be able to negotiate their way around potential problems before they become major. When two of you are involved in an argument, you should make what psychologists call ‘repair attempts’ - to stop things getting out of control. You should come with ‘counter–actions’ to neutralise the situation. If you do, it is a good sign, so say yes to that reflective proposal. But if you are both stubborn, a long-term commitment is not possible here. There should be an inextinguishable fire, passion and romance in your relationship and a feeling of completeness. When you discuss your hopes and dreams as a couple you are creating a shared vision with each other on how you see the world and what is important to you. When you discuss your hopes and dreams it does not mean that you have to have the same hopes and dreams — just discussing them creates connection and a better understanding for how you both see the world.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TOGETHER, as we move through Life in relationships we grow and our perspective of our Life changes.
HOWEVER, we might need to remind ourselves of what brings aliveness and excitement into our lives.
OUR dreams, when discussed bring a deep sense of excitement and connectedness into our relationship.
UNFORTUNATELY, it is true that most couples get caught in a rut and feel like they are just being robots.
GNAWINGLY, they might unknowingly start to question things about themselves and the relationship also.
HASTEN to take time to nurture your relationship, to make it a priority and start discussing your dreams.
THIS is nourishingly enriching as it proactively bring LIFE back into the relationship and into yourselves.

N_#90. Physically or Psychologically Abusing Your Partner is Retrogressive.--->

Never resort to any action which is humiliating to your partner. In a relationship, learning not to go physical comes with a lot of patience. People get to the point of (physically) fighting when they do not end certain arguments early enough or when they fail to change the topic. Battering your partner can be a sign of cowardice. It indicates that you lack the capacity to hold a creative, hand’s free argument. Resorting to physical fight could mean that you do not trust your logic and your power to argue. When you beat up your mate, you instill fear in him or her. Thus, rather than respect you for your opinions the individual becomes afraid of you, while silently holding you and your beliefs in contempt and disdain. If abuse happens once, it can happen again. It can progress into a ‘cycle of abuse’ that may involve different phases.

First there is a build-up — tension starts to increase, with verbal, emotional or financial abuse occurring. The abuser may become moody and withdraw affection. The person being abused may feel that they have to check their behaviour to avoid triggering the abuser. Next comes the explosion. Things erupt, and this may result in violence. Afterwards, the abuser may feel remorse. This is when they are ashamed of their behaviour and try to justify it. The abuser may try to apologise and beg forgiveness. They may promise not to do it again, make excuses or pay more attention to the person they have abused. Both people then may enter a honeymoon phase, also known as ‘love bombing’. This is when the abuser may shower the person being abused with gifts and affection. After the honeymoon phase, the event may be forgotten. Both the abuser and the person being abused may try to justify the abuse or deny how bad it is. The cycle may then begin again.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE the case of psychological or emotional abuse which entails blaming or ignoring the person (‘sulking’).
HORRENDOUSLY treating the person as inferior and saying their behaviour is inappropriate is nother sign.
ONEROUSLY questioning the others sense of reality, emotional blackmail or suicide threats is also manifest.
UNRESTRICTED, the perpetrator might stalk, spy on, monitor emails or phone calls and use GPS tracking.
GNAWINGLY, the risk of developing mental health disorders such as depression, deliberate self-harm is high.
HOPELESSLY, the victim might find oneself changing behaviour or avoiding certain topics around the abuser.
THINK not (as a victim) that you deserve any abuse or you are to blame; be not guilty for abuser’s behaviour.

E_#91. A Genuinely Enriching Relationship is Based on Mutual Agreement.--->

Ennobling and progressive male-female relationship is not master-servant relationship where one party invariably has the final word. The relationship is based on mutual agreement where there can be no room for boss-subordinate mannerism. In every relationship’s argument, one of the partners stands to lose more, physically or emotionally. To win, each of the mates must learn to recognise who feels more strongly for the argument, then letting their side of bargain prevail. Women usually benefit more from winning arguments related to feelings. Men are happy to win disputes that are based on ego. In certain important arguments, nonetheless, when a lot stands to be lost by simply letting feeling or ego dominate, arguments should be judged according to their merit.

In a nutshell, every romantic relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. Part of what defines a healthy relationship is sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the relationship to be and where you want it to go. And that is something you will only know by talking deeply and honestly with your partner. You each make the other feel loved and emotionally fulfilled. There is a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone who truly gets you.

Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without the partners truly relating to each other emotionally. While the union may seem stable on the surface, a lack of ongoing involvement and emotional connection serves only to add distance between two people. You should not afraid of (respectful) disagreement. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to feel safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRULY “falling in love” does not just happen: It entails building a relationship and vowing to stay in love.
HONING that doubtless desire to preserve that “falling in love” experience requires commitment and work.
ONLY a nourishing, secure romantic relationship can serve as an ongoing source of support and happiness.
UNINHIBITED, this happens through good times and bad; so strengthening all aspects of your wellbeing.
GEARING to preserve or rekindle your “falling in love” experience, propagates a meaningful relationship.
HEALTHY relationship that lasts — even for a lifetime is ultimate rewards; which is well worth the effort.
TOTALLY fixing a small problem now can help prevent it from growing into a much larger one down road.

H_#92. Duly Nurturing Being Proactive and Attentive in Your Relationship.--->

Happiness, advancement, and growth in a relationship is to be found basically in our response. This is precisely due to the fact that, between stimulus and response, there is a space and in that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. Individuals should develop a pause button that allows one to act out of a deeper understanding rather than just reacting to another person’s behaviour. Being proactive requires making a commitment to choosing, to be kind, to apologise, to be loyal to those not present, to make and keep promises, to forgive and to LOVE. In the journey of life, marriage stands as one of the most significant relationships we embark upon. It is a bond that requires continuous nurturing, attention, and proactive effort from both partners to thrive.

In the hustle and bustle of daily LIFE, it is easy to let the demands of work, family, and other obligations overshadow the needs of our marriage. However, by embracing attentiveness and proactivity, couples can strengthen their bond and cultivate a deeply fulfilling partnership. Attentiveness in marriage goes BEYOND simply being physically present; it entails being emotionally and mentally present as well. It involves actively listening to your partner, understanding their needs, and being responsive to their concerns. In essence, attentiveness is the glue that holds a marriage together. It promotes understanding, trust, and appreciation, thereby creating a nurturing environment where love can flourish.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY prioritizing attentiveness in your relationship, and you invest in the long-term health and happiness of your spouse.
HARNESSING genuine attentiveness is the golden gate towards fostering a solid emotional connection between partners.
ONCE you pay attention to your spouse’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences, you demonstrate that you value and care.
UTILIZED in the environment of romance, this emotional connection forms the basis of a strong and resilient marriage.
GROOMED by effective communication it forms the cornerstone of a healthy marriage; it really builds trust and intimacy.
HAVING felt heard, seen, and understood, your partner is more likely to trust you with innermost thoughts and feelings.
THIS trust fondly sets the foundation of emotional intimacy, which is essential for a fulfilling and satisfying relationship.

U_#93. Creating or Writing a Clear Mission Statement in Thy Relationship.--->

Undeterred as you should be in your effort to make your relationship work, you should clearly chart the course which your relationship should follow. For the most part, partners do not have the kind of mission statement (that is) critical to organisational success. Yet a relationship (which is focused on creating a family) is the most important, fundamental organisation in the world. Create a clear, compelling vision of what you and your partner are all about. This would entail writing a mission statement expressing the principles governing your particular relationship. Mission statements help you determine together what your final destination will be. It helps you both get on the same page and determine what you want out of your relationship and life together. Stephen Covey, the author of Habits of Highly Effective Families, explained that even with a mission statement, even great families are off track 90 percent of the time. What makes them good families is that they have a clear destination; so they know how to get back on track. Writing a marriage mission statement does not have to be overwhelming.

Answering following vital questions might help define your mission statement: What kind of marriage partners do we want to be? How do we want to treat each other? How do we want to handle our finances? What kind of parents do we want to be? What principles do we want to teach our children to help them prepare for adulthood and lead responsible, caring lives? What matters most to you? What kind of spouse do you want to be? How do you want to resolve conflict? How do you want your partner to feel because of you? What traditions do you want as part of your family? What do you want your children to learn about relationships by watching you? Your marriage mission statement should impact your actions on a daily basis. These are not just good ideas to hang on the wall. These are core values and principles that you want to guide your life. Use it!! Life circumstances change. You get older and wiser. You learn from your mistakes and boil out the fluff to what matters most. It is okay for your marriage mission statement to change if necessary. Develop short-term goals based on your marriage mission statement.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TROUBLE free, set aside a special TIME for both of you to WORK on your marriage mission statement together.
HONESTLY ask questions and discuss what your family is all about. Make sure both partners get an EQUAL say.
ORDERLY, carefully listen and seek to understand each other’s perspective: Write down the things you DISCUSS.
UNCONVENTIONAL (and untraditional) as it seems, it is therapeuatic to envision yourself at the end of your life.
GIVEN, who do you want to be? What do you want said at your funeral? What marital legacy do you want to leave?
HAVE it: Many people write out their marriage mission statement and then TUCK it in a drawer and forget about it.
TRUTHFULLY, put yours in a prominent place in your home that you will see it often. Refer to it daily and USE IT.

N_#94. Purposively Doing Things to Improve and Enrich Your Relationship.--->

Narrowness, parochialism and passivity are the ‘slow killers’ in any relationship. Are you feeling tired and frustrated by the same relationship issues that may have come up throughout your marriage? Do you feel disconnected from your spouse or relationship partner and yourself, leaving you feeling lost and alone? Perhaps you are growing older and not experiencing the fulfillment you once had in your relationship. These circumstances can cause you to lose the motivation for living. Maybe you feel you are in the wrong marriage and do not know how to make sense of the conflicting thoughts in your head. Perhaps the reasons you married do not apply anymore and everything about how you dreamed it would be has left you in a state of confusion and disillusion.

You must be active and intentional about your relationship, and the key to this is deciding to steer as opposed to going where the river takes you. Far from creating organisational structures that help prioritise your relationship, you must purposively do things that will enrich the bond. This involves creating structures through observing a weekly ‘bonding session’. Strive for a win-win response, which is achieved by making what is important to another person as important to you as that person is to you. This requires one to shift from a ‘Me’ mentality to a ‘We’ mentality. However, win-win situations are not always agreeable but they should be in the best interest of the parties concerned.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THERE is optimism for anyone who desires to overcome the difficult aspects of marriage or relationship.
HOPE is duly abundant: It is possible to create a new relationship with yourself and your spouse or partner.
ONE thing is crystal clear: you can move from being a victim to a victor, from being stuck to fully thriving.
UNHINDERED, amass the vital tools and personal insights needed to be fulfilled in your marriage and LIFE.
GAINFULLY develop ways to stay true to yourself and your values in your marriage and every relationship.
HASTILY move from reactivity to intelligent, conscious response so you can communicate more effectively.
TRANSFORM and release the fear, guilt and shame that can keep you from living the LIFE you dream of.

D_#95. Putting Yourself and Comfortably Walking in Your Partners Shoes.--->

Distinguish between always wanting to be heard (or simply having your own way), and appreciating your partner in a nonjudgemental way. At the heart of relationship pain is misunderstanding. Most mistakes with partners are not the result of bad intent. It is just that we really do not understand. If we try to put ourselves into the other partner’s shoes and try to see the world using their spectacles, we could at least see into one another’s heart. Lovers must also learn to listen emphatically and give feedback. You may think that it is positive to try to see things from your partner’s perspective. The danger comes if you think that you know what your partner is thinking or how they are feeling. It is helpful to remember that we are not seeing things as they are; we are seeing things as we are. No matter how hard we try to imagine our partner reactions, thoughts or feeling, we are still looking through our own lens. Changing perspective can be difficult; putting yourself in your partner’s shoes may not be as easy as you think.

Some couples refuse to accept that their partner thinks or feels a certain way, because they would never feel or think that way. Their partner’s pleadings, “How would you feel if I did that to you,” fall on deaf ears. The response, “It wouldn’t bother me.” The assumption is that their partner should respond the same way they would respond. Jerry Belson accurately penned, “Never assume, because when you ASSUME, you make an ASS of U and ME.” To avoid the assumption trap, you can begin by practicing curiosity. Do not immediately discard your partner’s view or label it wrong. You can choose to be compassionate toward yourself and toward your partner. Can you take a step back and be open to influence from your partner? To hear their perspective from them, make your best effort to understand and validate their position? Always remembering that validation does not necessarily mean agreement. You can hear your partner and accept their thoughts, opinions and feelings without agreeing with them.

Recognize that it is okay for the two of you to have different opinions. You do not have to feel threatened if they do not agree with you, or do not think or feel the same way you do. Sometimes it is difficult to listen to what your partner has to say because you may feel criticized. It is helpful to look for the request or the unmet need under the criticism. If your partner says something like, “Why can’t you come home from work earlier.” Instead of launching into your defense, it helps to pause and hear the request, “please spend more time with me.” Or the unmet need, “I need to feel important and you spending time with me helps me feel important.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE as your munificent marital mission to focus on the request or need: This subtly softens your response.
HARNESS it as a wonderful relationship skill, the affluent ability to hear from your partner their perspective.
ORCHESTRATE to do your level best to concisely look through their lens and then rethink your real position.
UNVEIL this while remembering their position and making a solid decision that considers the needs of BOTH.
GET away from the false convinction that you know your partner better than the partner knows him or herself.
HASTEN not or keep off argueing with your partner about what the partner thinks or how they privately feel.
TRY to see from their perspective, clarify your assumptions with them. Ask, listen to accept, learn and validate.

R_#96. Seeing Differences in Goal Strategies as a Stregth, not a Weakness.--->

Reasonably appreciating your partner’s unique individuality, is the basis of a long lasting relationship. Love springs from feeling of dependency. And you cannot depend on each other if you share the same traits. The highest and most productive level of human interdependence is called synergy. This is a situation in which one plus one equals three. It represents the ultimate fruit on the tree. Celebrating differences, looking at the fact that you view things differently as a strength, not a weakness in the relationship is the key to creating synergy. It is not merely tolerating these differences but celebrating them. It is the things in common that makes relationships enjoyable, but it is the little differences that make them interesting. We have different goal strategies, or what researchers refer to as “regulatory focus.” In other words, even when we have the same goals, we frame those goals in very different ways.

Let us look at two types of individuals: Prevention-focused and Promotion-focused. Prevention-focused individuals tend to focus on losses and non-losses, and they aim for states of security. Individuals with a prevention focus are most upset when things get worse than they currently are, and they are quite happy when everything remains relatively stable and unchanged. They become upset because a major loss had occurred, as their focus is on not losing things in the first place. Promotion-focused individuals, are focused on gains and non-gains, and aim for states of improvement. They are happiest when moving forward, and unhappy when they feel like things are stagnated and cannot move forward. Focused on gaining a thing back, they quickly became inconsolable upon realizing that something cannot be retrieved. You might expect this difference between partners to cause problems in a relationship.

Don’t birds of a feather flock together? But in fact, two studies recently conducted by Vanessa Bohns and colleagues suggest that goal pursuit might be one area in which differences between romantic partners can nicely complement one another. Specifically, they hypothesized that as long as both partners are aiming for the same general result, it might be beneficial to have different strategies for achieving that result. In the first study, the researchers found that when couples did not have congruent goals, it did not much matter whether they were promotion- or prevention-focused. However, when couples did have congruent goals, couples who also had complementary goal strategies actually reported the highest relationship quality! In other words, as long as the couple was on the same page about what goals they wanted to pursue, the couple was happiest when one member of the couple was more promotion-focused, and the other member of the couple was more prevention-focused.

In the second study, when people have high self-other overlap with their partners, it means that they feel strongly connected with their partners, as though they and their partners are a team or a unit. In contrast, people with low self-other overlap tend to see their partners as being very separate or disconnected from themselves, as though they and their partners are “leading separate lives”. The researchers found that when couples had low self-other overlap, it did not much matter how promotion- or prevention-focused they were, just like the couples with incongruent goals in in Study 1. But when couples had high self-other overlap, then those with complementary goal strategies reported being happier with their relationships. Couples had the highest relationship quality when they had high self-other overlap, and when one member of the couple was promotion-focused while the other was prevention-focused.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE take-home message here is that prevention- and promotion-focused individuals complements each other.
HAVE it: They are often aiming for the same basic outcome; they are just framing that goal in different ways.
OVERALL, the research is a great example of how differences between romantic partners can be a good thing.
USUALLY, one person’s strengths can compensate for the other’s weaknesses, to the benefit of both partners.
GOODILY, these studies show that, as long as the couple is indeed operating as a team, the synergy is apparent.
HOLISTIC in their approach together, it is very helpful for the partners to have these different goal strategies.
TRULY, truly, different goal strategies can help couples to “cover all the bases” and achieve a better end result.

E_#97. Seeking a Constant Renewal of LOVE towards Positivity Resonance.--->

Essentially, LOVE is fleeting, but with practice, you can foster it anytime you wish — and in doing so, renew old bonds. Encourage youself to always try to attend regularly and consistently to renewal in all four dimensions of LIFE. This endeavour may be referred to as sharpening the saw so that it may cut well. The four dimensions are the physical, social, mental and spiritual. You could choose to create relationship traditions that reinforce the connection of the relationship. These could include dinners, vacations and worship time.

LOVE, as your body sees it, is the momentary upwelling of three tightly interwoven events: A sharing of one or more positive emotions between you and another; A synchrony between your and the other person’s biochemistry and behaviors; A reflected motive to invest in each other’s well-being that brings mutual care. The shorthand for this trio is positivity resonance. This back-and-forth reverberation of positive energy sustains itself—and can even grow stronger—until the momentary connection wanes — which is of course inevitable, because that is how emotions work. The good news is that LOVE is a renewable resource. That bond you share with your spouse forges a deep and abiding sense of safety within your relationship, a safety that tills the soil for frequent moments of LOVE. Knowing now that, from our bodies’ perspective, LOVE is positivity resonance — nutrient-rich bursts that accrue to make spouses, and the bond they share healthier — shakes them out of any complacency that tempts them to take LOVE for granted, as a mere attribute of their relationship.

LOVE, this BEYONDIST view tells us with some urgency, is something we should re-cultivate every morning, every afternoon, and every evening. Seeing love as positivity resonance motivates us to more often reach out for a hug, or share an inspiring or silly idea or image over breakfast. With practice, you can learn to generate LOVE anytime you wish, and in doing so, steer you and the one you love toward health and happiness. Consequently, BEYONDISM acknowledges that both of you can rise to the Godly Higher Ground (the pure citadel of your spiritualism). This explains how we can reinvigorate LOVE to be a Divine kind of a RELIGIOUS experience. You no doubt try to “stay connected” when physical distance keeps you and your loved ones apart. You use the phone, email, texts, or Facebook, and it is important to do so. Yet your body, sculpted by the forces of natural selection over millennia, was not designed for the abstractions of long-distance love, the XOXs and LOLs. Your body hungers for more. It hungers for moments of oneness. Feelings of oneness surface when two or more people “sync up” and literally come to act as one, moving to the same hidden beat. When you especially resonate with someone else, the two of you are quite literally on the same wavelength, biologically.

True connection is one of LOVE’s bedrock prerequisites — and a prime reason that LOVE is not unconditional. True connection is physical and unfolds in real time; it is neither abstract nor mediated. It requires a sensory and temporal co-presence of bodies. The main mode of sensory connection, scientists contend, is eye contact. Other forms of real-time sensory contact — through touch, voice, or mirrored body postures and gestures — no doubt connect people as well and at times can substitute for eye contact. Nevertheless, eye contact may well be the most potent trigger for connection and oneness. To be clear, the sensory and temporal connections you establish with others through physical contact, conversation, or other forms of behavioral synchrony are not, in and of themselves, LOVE. Even holding hands, after all, can become a loveless habit. Yet in the right contexts, meeting eyes or connecting in other ways can become a springboard for LOVE. The right contexts are those infused with safety and the emotional presence of positivity, which couples can cultivate over time and use to find new moments of LOVE.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY opportunities for cooperative silliness; engaging in childlike activity together duly deepens loving feelings.
HAVING fun-filled tasks jointly, amorously strengthens bonds, even within long-standing intimate relationships.
ONCE couples make it a habit of regularly doing new, exciting things together, they have better quality marriages.
UNLIKELY moments is where love may spring up - within safe environs of intimacy. Turn it into a shared history!
GENTLE intimates offer you history, safety, trust, and openness in addition to the frequent opportunity to connect.
HONING trust and openness with a lover? Consequently the more trusting and open that spouse becomes with you.
THE more points of connection each of you may find over which to share a laugh, or a common source of intrigue.

D_#98. When You Keep on Peeling Oranges and All You Get Are Lemons?--->

Decisively, it has been explored how kindness and appreciation flow back and forth within couples, creating tender moments of positivity resonance that also serve to nourish intimacy and relationship growth. Some people tend to say “thanks” better than others. Genuine feelings of appreciation or gratitude, after all, well up when you recognize that someone else went out of their way to do something nice for you. Another way to say this is that the script for gratitude involves both a benefit, or kind deed, and a benefactor, the kind person behind the kind deed. Whereas many people express their appreciation to others by shining a spotlight on the benefit they received — the gift, favor, or the kind deed itself — by contrast, the best “thank-yous” simply use the benefit as a spring- board toward shining a spotlight on the good qualities of the other person, their benefactor. Done well, then, expressing appreciation for your partner’s kindness to you can become a kind gesture in return, one that conveys that you see and appreciate in your partner’s actions their good and inspiring qualities.

Compared to expressions that merely focus on benefits, those that also focus on benefactors make the partner who hears that “thanks” feel understood, cared for, and validated. And this good feeling — the feeling that their partner really “gets” them and cherishes them — allows people to walk around each day feeling better about themselves and better about their relationship. Saying “thanks” well then is not just a matter of being polite, it is a matter of being loving, and becoming a stronger version of what together you call “us.”

Now, throughout your LIFE, you have been paralyzed by the fear of taking risks and when you finally summoned the courage to leap, you found yourself endlessly waiting for someone to catch you. In that freefall, you pondered on many thoughts: Was jumping the right decision? When will you stop falling? When will someone take the risk and catch you? Did you set your expectations too high? So high that you became utterly captivaed by the mere glance of the first person who acknowledges your vulnerability. Did they catch on to the fact that your heart could be so easily swayed into convincing your head that everything is in the right place at the right time? Maybe they did. Maybe that is the reason why you kept peeling oranges even though all you got were lemons. They say love compels a person to do all manner of things. Perhaps this is your way of responding to affection — offering everything you have until there is nothing left to give. You have recognized that this would eventually exhaust you. You still hold on to the hope that one day you will find someone who not only stops giving you lemons but also begins offering you peeled oranges. But in the meantime, perhaps you are dealing with a spouse who has for a protracted duration of time, proved him or herself - without any reasonable doubt - or has surfaced out to be THANKLESS BIGOT. Perhaps you have exhausted all available avanues for reconciliation. Then you have no option but trying to master the art of turning away the lemons, and learning the delicate skill of peeling your own oranges.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO quit or not, from an abusive relationship is a decision that must be made in a rational, cautious, but tough manner.
HAVING realised that one’s relationship is breaking, the hurt partner is faced with gnawing pain and dark disbelief.
OBNOXIOUSLY weeping, wailing and gnashing teeth in humiliation, one may plead for forgiveness and restoration.
UNBECOMINGLY, one promises to be a better lover, doing what is perceived to be missing by the disenchanted mate.
GRANTED, Psychologist James Dobson in his book Love must be Tough warns against stripping oneself of all dignity.
HE deftly deplores disrespecting oneself, crawling on one’s stomach like a subservient puppy just to retain one’s lover.
THAT, appeasement be not used in seeking reconciliation with the offending partner, is what Dobson ardently advises.

A_#99. The Most Regrettable Occurence in Any Marriage is Foul Infidelity.--->

Affairs, infidelity or straying reflects attempts on the part of men and women to realise and satisfy, unconsciously, all those impossible expectations that are missing in their marriages. Straying affairs are foolish attempts to find external solution to what are internal concerns such as problem of self-worth and self-respect. Various mistakes should be avoided which are the subtle indicators of infidelity. For instance, one partner fills in all the emotional blanks and gives more than they get. One partner fill in the romatic blanks and they are always the first one to reach out and give hug and so forth, besides initiating most of the physical and intimate contact. One partner is the one who initiate most of the communication in the relationship he or she talks more, ask more questions, give suggestions all the time. One partner fill in the creative blanks in the relationship and comes up with new ideas and concepts to try out, suggest new ways of doing things and introduce for instance to other partner to new books, places, food, and friends.

Wives and husbands have straying affairs when they reach a point where they see no hope of change in the relationship. While some individual cope with marital problems by becoming depressed or silently resigned, others seek external solutions to marital dilemma. Disenchantment causes them to lose faith in the promise that marriage might satisfy those needs. There are also individuals who may succumb to seduction even though they consciously feel relatively immune to such temptation. Anyone who uses denial as a way of dealing with unhappiness will eventually find out that LIFE often intrudes in shocking ways. A husband or wife could be so well insulated emotionally from his or her own dissatisfaction that vulnerability or receptivity to affairs come totally by surprise. The nature of those needs which are not met in the context of the marriage and which makes the one couple to stray determines the person who will be sought out or the person whom you will allow to seek out, the length and depth of the affair and even whether or not the affair will be disclosed to the spouse in one way or another.

When the problems within a marriage are consciously solved by infidelity outside, the net effect is overwhelmingly negative. The person engaging in the affair often wishes that he or she did not have to do it. The person may wish that instead of being in some apartment during the afternoon, he or she were back at work or at home. The necessary deception involved makes unfaithful spouses even angrier of their partners than they were before the affair began. Those vague resentments are invariably brought back into marriage and crop up as problems in many different ways, wrecking havoc to the marriage than they would before.

HOW DO WE SHIELD OR IMMUNIZE OURSELVES AND OUR SPOUSES FROM INFIDELITY? John Gottman, perhaps the world’s leading scientific expert on emotions within marriage, tells couples that they can “bank” their shared positive emotions to help them through later tough times. Through decades of meticulous research, Gottman discovered that couples who experience higher ratios of positive to negative emotions with each other, are better able to navigate disagreements and upsets. When discussing difficult topics, for instance, they tend to refrain from mirroring each other’s distress and negativity with their own. Instead, they de-escalate any conflict (or potential conflict) by meeting their partner’s negativity with something altogether different, often making some caring, affirming, or light-hearted comment or gesture that creates space for reflection.

Put differently, couples with rich recent histories of positivity resonance are better equipped to defuse the emotional bombs that threaten them both. You can “bank” positivity resonance and draw on it later because momentary experiences of love and other positive emotions build resources. In other words, the small investments you deposit in the so- called bank do not just sit there. They accumulate, earn interest, and pay out dividends in the form of durable resources that you can later draw on to face a new adversity. Moreover, just as money earned in one arena can be spent in other arenas, the positivity resonance that you create within certain relationships can build personal resources in you — values, beliefs, and skills — that help you navigate all manner of social upsets and difficulties. Having a loving marriage, then, can help you be more resilient within your work team.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TOUGH times will always be with us; sharing more moments of positivity resonance may help us to be more resilient.
HONING resilience matters NOW more than EVER; both your personal resilience, as well as the collective resilience.
OPULENTLY, this is what you are supposed to cultivate within your family, the community, the nation and our world.
UNDERSTAND that no matter how resilient you are today, higher levels of resilience are readily within your GRASP.
GENUINE positive emotions are available to you at any single time; and it is upto you to transmit them to your partner.
HAVING learnt to connect with others over these good feelings, you create that superbly energizing positivity resonance.
THIS strengthens the connective tissue that binds you. Bottomline: Love and resilience are forever renewable resources.

N_#100. Surprising or Overcoming Your Rivals With a Very Sudden Action.--->

Now more than ever, we find ourselves dealing with people who are defensive and cautious, who begin any action from a static position. The reason is simple: the pace of modern LIFE is increasingly growing faster, full of distractions, annoyances, and interruptions. The natural response for many is to retreat inward, to erect psychological walls against the harsh realities of modern LIFE. People hate the feeling of being rushed and are terrified of making a mistake. They unconsciously try to slow things down - by taking longer to make decisions, being noncommittal, defensive, and cautious. Acting with speed and decisiveness will garner you respect, awe, and irresistible momentum. War is such that the supreme consideration is speed. This is to take advantage of what is beyond the reach of the enemy, to go by way of routes where he least expects you, and to attack where he has made no preparations.

Blitzkrieg (lightining speed) warfare, adapted for daily combat, is the perfect strategy for these times. While those around you remain defensive and immobile, you surprise them with sudden and decisive action, forcing them to act before they are ready. They cannot respond, as they usually do, by being elusive or cautious. They will most likely become emotional and react imprudently. You have breached their defenses, and if you keep up the pressure and hit them again with something unexpected, you will send them into a kind of downward psychological spiral - pushing them into mistakes, which further deepens their confusion, and so the cycle goes on. In as much as we live in a world in which speed is prized above almost all else, acting faster than the other side has itself become the primary goal. But most often people are merely in a hurry, acting and reacting frantically to events, all of which makes them prone to error and wasting time in the long run.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO separate yourself from the pack, as a warrior in LIFE, you must ever be FLUID and DYNAMIC.
HARNESSING a speed that has devastating force, you must be well ORGANIZED and truly strategic.
OPULENTLY, first prepare yourself before any action, SCANNING your enemy for any weaknesses.
UNHINDERED, find a way to get your opponents to underestimate you, so as to LOWER their guard.
GIVE unexpected strike, they will FREEZE up; hit them again, it is from the side and out of nowhere.
HERE this from history’s strategists: It is the unanticipated BLOW that makes the biggest IMPACT.
TRUST yourself: Do not waste time on things you cannot CHANGE or influence. Just keep moving.

D_#101. Winning Others Through Charitableness, Nobility and Philanthropy.--->

Distressed as they are, few people can resist the power of strategic affection and calculated altruism. There is this much touted contemprory wisdom: “Everyone has his or her price”. This is not true. But there surely exists for everyone a bait he or she cannot help taking. Thus to win many people over to a cause one needs only to put on it a gloss of philanthropy, nobility, charitableness, self-sacrifice. These are the sweetmeats and dainties for their soul. Listen to Robert Green in his book The 48 Laws of Power (1998): “The recipients of gifts, financial or otherwise, are suddenly as vulnerable as children, especially when the gift comes from someone in authority. They cannot help opening up; their will is loosened. It is a case of loosening the soil before planting seeds.” While using this LOADED LAW, be wary if the dynamic is turned against you. “He who requires much from himself and little from others will keep himself from being the object of resentment”, thus noted Confucius. Robert Green advises us that, by paying the full price, and avoiding free things, we are able to protect our independence and room to maneuver, thus keeping off dangerous entanglements and worries. In an introduction to Law 40 (Despise the Free Lunch), Green cautions:

What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power. In a world where there is so much to be done, I felt strongly impressed that there must be something for me to do.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TEMPERING our will to choose, maintaining our freedom to maneuver is a virtue we should never compromise at all.
HUMAN beings have a deep-rooted emotional element in the ATTITUDE to gifts, an element going back to childhood.
OPULENTLY, when we were children, all kinds of complicated feelings about our parents concisely centered on gifts.
USUALLY, we see the giving of a gift as a sign of love and approval; an EMOTIONAL element that never goes away.
GAINFULLY, we should avoid any kind of dependence by avoiding free things; we should judge anything by its cost.
HONE it that what is duly offered for free or at bargain rates often comes with an enslaving psychological PRICE tag.
TOUCHY complicated feelings of obligation, compromise with quality, the insecurity those compromises bring abides.

F_#102. Stirring Anger to Know a Rival’s Motives and Power of Resistance.--->

Frustrations makes people to lower their defense mechanisms, and in the heat of fury they will utter what they may not under normal circumstances.The point underscored here is that, anger is a very effective spy. Anger empties out the soul and brings even its dregs to light. That is why, if you know no other way of discovering the truth of the matter, you must know how to put your acquaintances, your adherents and opponents, into a rage, so as to learn all that is really being thought and undertaken against you.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE aggression as deceptive and it inherently hides weakness - for aggressors cannot control their emotions.
HONE it as a critical part of understanding people, as that of concisely gauging their basic powers of resistance.
OVER - or underestimating them, depending on your own levels of fear and confidence, is what its lack amounts.
UNDERSTANDING arouses the need to know how much aggression or the formidable fight people have in them.
GIVEN, one hiding his or her cowardice and lack of resolve can be made to surrender with a single violent push.
HAVE an awareness of the level of desparaton: a desperate folk who has little to lose will fight to the bitter end.
TACTICALLY, instead of internalizing a bad situation, externalize it and face your enemy; it is the only way out.

I_#103. Developing an Analytical Mind that Subdues Feelings with Thought--->

IN the inevitable POWER GAME of LIFE, one should possess an analytical mind; a mind that not only thinks more than it is feels, but can subdue feelings with thought. It is imperative that your primary mode of operation is dominated by logic rather than emotion. This is vital if you are to adequately discern, deduce and calculate. Emotive reasoning encourages fallibility, naivette and self-exposure. Women in particular find this incredibly difficult to master because in essence it is something which goes against the very basis of their nature. Emotional reasoning leads to incorrect deductions, poor judgement and a loss of self-control as the ire of an emotive surge takes hold.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be precise, EMOTIONALISM robs us our vitality, clouds judgement and makes us erratic at the worst.
HAVE it that EMOTIVE reasoning is inward (solipsistic) whilst LOGICAL reasoning is outward (abstract.)
OUTWARD looking is what is necessary if not persuasive, in order to analyse and duly contectualize issues.
UNDERSTANDING entails comprehending the outward with as little confusion from the inward as possible.
GRANTED, when this is achieved one will be able to analyse (discern and deduce) with marked precision.
HORRENDOUSLY in analysis, one’s own emotions serve as nothing other than an unwelcome distraction.
THOROUGH analysis of the emotions of others is crucial, if we are to penentrate the castle of their PSYCHE.

F_#104. Conjuring Difficulty to be Read, while Honing Ability to Cold Read.--->

Formlessness and being difficult to be fathomed, should be your Guiding Star as much as possible, even as you work to know your enemies or rivals. Since people really only have appearances to go on, they can be readily deceived. Act unpredictably now and then. Throw them some golden nugget of your inner self - something fabricated that has nothing to do with who you really are. Be aware that they are scrutinising you, and either give them nothing or feed them with misinformation. Keeping yourself formless and inscrutable will make it impossible for people to defend themselves against you and render the intelligence they gather on you useless. In the introduction to Law 48 (Assume Formlessness) in his book The 48 Laws of Power (1998) Robert Green affirms:

By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.

As your nurture your ability to not be barely comprehended, you must also develop the ability to cold read other people’s motives and intentions. Cold reading is the ability to detect, comprehend and decipher subtle non-verbal cues such as vocal tonality, posture or body language, eye or facial movements, choice of clothing or accessorization, accent or lingual register among others.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TEMPERED cold reading allows you to deduce someone’s state of mind and make appropriate inferences.
HARNESSED is glimpsing what they are thinking or immediately prioritising without directly enquiring.
OVERTLY knowing how people feel about you regardless of what they say is an invaluable art of LIFE.
UTILIZE this ability to make accurate generalisations about a person without needing to implicitly probe.
GAINING a massive advantage over those untalented in the discernment of non-verbal cues is the prize.
HAPPILY, well entrenched cold reading is undoubtedly a prerequisite for any budding POWER GAMER.
THIS concisely contributes vastly to the effectiveness, as well as sharpness of one’s deductive capabilities.

T_#105. Not Being Misled by an Intimidating or Dazzling Exterior of a Rival.--->

The key in analysing your rivals force is to determine its centers of gravity. In looking for those centers, it is crucial not to be misled by the intimidating or dazzling exterior, mistaking the outward appearance for what sets it in motion. You will probably have to take several steps, one by one, to uncover this ultimate power source, peeling away layer after layer. To find a group’s center of gravity, you must understand its structure and the culture within which it operates. If your enemies are individuals, you must fathom their psychology, what makes them tick, the structure of their thinking and priorities. Strike at the center, and the whole thing would fall apart. Your rival’s center of gravity can be something abstract, like a quality, concept, or aptitude on which he or she depends: his or her reputation, his or her capacity to deceive, his or her unpredictability. But such strengths become critical vulnerabilities if you can make them unattractive or unusable.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO find a rival’s center of gravity, you have to erase your own tendency to think in orthodox conventional terms.
HOLD not any view that what is seen is the real, or assume that the other side’s center is the same as your own.
OFTEN we hide our sources of power from view; what most people consider a center of gravity is often a front.
UNINHIBITED, a rival will subtly reveal his or her center of gravity by what he or she protects the most fervently.
GENERALLY, in any group, power and influence will naturally devolve to a handful of people behind the scenes.
HIDEOUSLY and in a disguised manner, that kind of power works best when it is not exposed to the light of day.
THE truth of the matter manifests once you discover this coterie holding the strings; simply seize it and win it over.

Y_#106. Not Defensively Reacting to People, but Making Them React to You.--->

Your habitual reaction to others behaviours and action, will end up cultivating a defeatist attitude in you. Above anything else, remember that being attacked is a sign that you are important enough to be a target. Everything in this world conspires to put you on the defensive. At work, your superiors may want the glory for themselves and will discourage you from taking the initiative. People are constantly pushing and attacking you, keeping you in react mode. You are continually reminded of your limitations and what you cannot hope to accomplish. You are made to feel guilty for this and that. Such defensiveness on your part can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Before anything, you need to liberate yourself from this feeling. By acting boldly, before others are ready, by moving to seize the initiative, you create your own circumstances rather than simply waiting for what LIFE brings you. Your initial push alters the situation, on your terms.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO start with, do not be lured by the deceptive need to be liked, for it is better to be respected, even feared.
HAVING a lasting victory over your rivals (or enemies) is what will bring you a more enduring popularity.
ONCE you make people to react to you, they make you seem larger and more powerful than may be the case.
UNSHAKABLE respect and fear you inspire translates into offensive power; a reputation that precedes you.
GOODLY, you must have a touch of madness (psychologically speaking); this makes you a warrior in LIFE.
HONE the readiness to disorient and confuse for its own sake, to keep advancing no matter the circumstance.
TRULY, truly, it is up to you as a POWER GAMER - to be constantly defensive or make others feel it instead.

F_#107. Amicably Avoiding the Debilitating Emotions of Fear and Cowardice.--->

Fear and cowardice are some of the worst curses of mankind. To control the dynamic of LIFE, you must be able to control yourself and your emotions. Getting angry and lashing out will only limit your options. And in conflict, fear is the most debilitating emotion of all. Even before anything has happened, your fear puts you on your heels, cedes the initiative to the enemy. The other side has endless possibilities for using your fear to help control you, keep you on the defensive. Those who are tyrants and domineering types can smell your anxiety, and it makes them even more tyrannical. Before anything else you must lose your fear - of death, of the consequences of a bold maneuver, of other people’s opinion of you. That single moment will suddenly open up vistas of possibilities. And in the end whichever side has more possibilities for positive action has greater control.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be extremely careful is not what we need; that is just a screen for our fear of conflict and of making a mistake.
HONESTLY needed is double the resolve — an intensification of confidence - that will serve as a counterbalance.
OWNING your LIFE, means accepting that you yourself are largely the agent of anything bad that happens to you.
USING innate potential, with more prudence, wiser policies, and greater vision, you could have avoided the danger.
GUIDED by no one but yourself, your convictions and ideals, when something goes wrong, look deep into yourself.
HASTEN into the depth of your being, not in an emotional way, to blame yourself or indulge your feelings of guilt.
THIS is precisely with an aim of making sure that you start your next campaign with a firmer step and greater vision.

O_#108. Strategically Knocking Out at an Opponent’s Key Sources of Power.--->

Opponents and rivals will drive you to madness if you do not craft a stratagen to neutralise them. But the most important step is to know that power is essentially deceptive. If we imagine the enemy as a boxer, we tend to focus on his punch. But still more than he or she depends on his or her punch, he or she depends on his or her legs; once they go weak, he or she loses balance, he or she cannot escape the other fighter, he or she is subject to grueling exchanges, and his or her punches gradually diminish in force until he or she is knocked out. When you look at your rivals, do not be distracted by their punch. To engage in any exchange of punches, in LIFE, as in war, is the height of stupidity and waste. Power depends on balance and support; so look at what is holding your enemy, opponent or rival up, and remember that what holds him or her up can also make him or her fall. A person, like an army, usually gets his or her power from three or four simultaneous sources: money, popularity, skillful maneuvering, or some particular advantage he or she has fostered. Knock out one and he or she will have to depend more on the others; knock out those and he or she is lost. Weaken a boxer’s legs and he or she will reel and stagger, and when he or she does, be merciless. No power can stand without its legs.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIME and again, it is not what you have that brings you victory, what counts is how you utilise it to the maximum.
HAVING less, or finding yourself at a disadvataged point from your opponent, makes you naturally more inventive.
OUTRIGHT economy, does not mean hoarding your resources; that is not economy but stinginess — deadly in war.
UTILITY economy means finding a golden mean, a level at which your blows really count but do not wear you out.
GAINING and reaping more and more in LIFE, compels you to be a WARRIOR, and war prudently requires realism.
HISTORY shows that while others may find beauty in endless dreams and fantasies, WARRIORS do find it in reality.
TEMPERED by an assertive awareness of their limits, they are therefore wise in making the most of what they have.

U_#109. Attacking, Neutralizing and Destroying a Rival’s Center of Gravity.--->

Unravelling the hidden nature of POWER will arm you with an invisible hand in dealing with rivals and opponents. The most visible thing about POWER is its outward manifestation, what its witnesses see and feel. An army has its size, its weaponry, its shows of discipline, its aggressive maneuvers; individuals have many ways of showing their position and influence. It is the nature of POWER to present a forceful front, to seem menacing and intimidating, strong and decisive. But this outward display is often exaggerated or even downright deceptive, since power does not dare show its weaknesses. And beneath the display is the support on which POWER rests - its “center of gravity.” The phrase is by Prussian soldier and military theorist Karl von Clausewitz (1780 - 1831), who elaborated it as “the hub of all power and movement, on which everything depends.” This is the part that governs the whole, a kind of nerve center. To attack this center of gravity, to neutralise or destroy it, is the ultimate strategy in war, for without it the whole structure will collapse. The enemy may have great generals and strong armies, but without a center of gravity those armies cannot move and have no force or coherence.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE enemy’s center of gravity is where an injury will hurt him or her most, his or her point of greatest vulnerability.
HITTING your opponent or rival there is the best and appropriate way to end a conflict definitively and economically.
OUTRIGHT conventional generals look at the physical aspect of the enemy army, fondly focusing on its weaknesses.
UNINHIBITED they exploits them. By contrast superior strategists look behind and BEYOND, to the support system.
GRANTED, warriors focus on what they do have, the strengths that they do possess and that they must use creatively.
HITTING the center have devastating psychological effects; throws the enemy off balance; induces a creeping panic.
TRULY knowing when to slow down, to renew, to retrench, warriors outlast their rivals; they play for the long term.

R_#110. Changing People by Appealing to Their Self-Interests and Emotions.--->

Rational arguments go in one ear and out the other. No one is changed; you are preaching to the converted. “Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you,” thus wrote Robert Green. In LIFE, to win people’s attention and influence them, you must first separate them from whatever ties them to the past and makes them resist change. You must realise that these ties are generally not rational but emotional. By appealing to people’s emotions, you can make your targets see the past in a new light, as something tyrannical, boring, ugly, immoral.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO infiltrate new ideas, shifting people’s vision, making them responsive, is the room you NOW have.
HEARTEN them to a new sense of their self-interest, and sow the seeds for a new cause, and a new bond.
ORDAINING or inspiring people to join you in a unique mission, entails separating them from their past.
UPON seizing up your targets, look for what they cherish, the source of their resistance to the new IDEA.
GENERALLY, what emotionally connects them to the past, like a joint is the weakest part of any structure.
HEARTILY break it and you divide people internally, making them vulnerable to suggestion and change.
TAKE it as a strategy in WAR (Divide and Rule) as in LIFE: Divide their minds in order to conquer them.

O_#111. Alienating Rivals to Conquer Them: Being Not Vulnerable Yourself.--->

One thing stand out starkly clear: Lurking deep in even the most civilised among us is the same basic fear of being alone, unsupported, and exposed to danger. People today are more dispersed and society is less cohesive than ever before, but that only increases our need to belong to a group, to have a strong network of allies-to feel supported and protected on all sides. Take away this feeling and we are returned to that primitive sensation of terror at our own vulnerability. The divide-and-conquer strategy has never been more effective than it is today: cut people off from their group - make them feel alienated, alone, and unprotected - and you weaken them enormously. That moment of weakness gives you great power to maneuver them into a corner, whether to seduce or to induce panic and retreat. On the other hand, be wary on how this law can be used against you. Simply know how to turn tables. “Your enemies, those you stand sharply against, will help you to forge a support base that will not desert you. Do not crowd into the center, where everyone else is; there is no room to fight in a crowd. Polarize people, drive some of them away, and create a space for battle,” thus writes Robert Greene in The 33 Strategies Of War

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TURN the dynamic to your favour: Know that what you want in WARFARE as in LIFE is a room to maneuver.
HARRASSMENT by rivals must be avoided. While tight corners spell death, having enemies gives you options.
ONCE in a while play them off against each other, make one a friend as a way of attacking the other, on and on.
USEFUL to have an enemy at their gates in times of trouble, is what leaders have always found throught history.
GENTALLY, this is used to distract the public from their difficulties; enemies are also used to rally one’s troops.
HAVING polarized the troops as far as possible, they will fight the more fiercely when they feel a little hatred.
TAKE this as a matter of fact: Exaggerate the differences between you and the enemy — draw the lines clearly.

N_#112. Letting Them Expose Weaknesses, but Ardently Armouring Thyself.--->

Normally, individuals often show their flank (side), signal their vulnerability, by its opposite, the front they show most visibly to the world. This front can be an aggressive personality, a way of dealing with people by pushing them around. Or it can be some obvious defense mechanism, a focus on keeping out intruders to maintain stability in their lives. It can be their most cherished beliefs and ideas; it can be the way they make themselves liked. The more you get people to expose this front, to show more of themselves and the directions they tend to move in, the more their unprotected flanks will come into focus - unconscious desires, gaping insecurities, precarious alliances, uncontrollable compulsions. Once you move on their flanks, your targets will turn to face you and lose their equilibrium. All enemies are vulnerable from their sides. There is no defense against a well-designed flanking maneuver. At the same time it is worth remembering that, without enemies you will not know how or where to maneuver, and you will lose a sense of your limits, of how far you can go. The more we lose ourselves in predigested theories and past experiences, the more inappropriate and delusional our response.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO keep experimenting must be our renewable policy, and when we are tired, it is often because we are bored.
HARDENING our spirit is continual: When no real challenge faces us, a mental and physical lethargy sets in.
ONCE, the military genius Napoleon (1769 - 1821) said: “Sometimes death only comes from a lack of energy.”
USUALLY, lack of energy comes from a lack of challenges; when we have taken on less than we are capable of.
GROOMED, what you know must translate into robust action, and action must translate into more knowledge.
HAVING esteemed trials and stouted our egos with combat, in this way strategy becomes a lifelong challenge.
THE source of constant pleasure will lie in dueling and surmounting difficulties, as well as solving problems.

E_#113. Patience and Indirection (Disguised Intentions) in Influencing Folks.--->

Endless conflicts and struggles are what we go through today. They are more astounding and far greater than those faced by our ancestors. In war the passages of armies were marked with arrows on maps. If we had to map the battles of our own daily lives, we would draw thousands of those arrows, a constant traffic of moves and maneuvers - not to speak of the arrows actually hitting us, the people trying to persuade us of one thing or another, to move us in a particular direction, to bend us to their will, their product, their cause. Because so many people are constantly shifting for power, our social world becomes blanketed in barely disguised aggression. In this situation it requires time and patience to be indirect; in the daily rush to move and influence people, the subtle approach is too difficult and time-consuming, so people tend to take the direct route to what they want. To convince us of the correctness of their ideas, they use argument and rhetoric, growing ever louder and more emotional. They push and pull with words, actions, and orders. Even those more passive players who use the tools of manipulation and guilt are quite direct, not in the least subtle, in the paths they choose; witness a few of their maneuvers and they are rather easy to figure out.

The result of all of this is twofold: we have all become more defensive, resistant to change. To maintain some peace and stability in our lives, we build our castle walls ever higher and thicker. Even so, the increasingly direct brutality of daily LIFE is impossible to avoid. All those arrows hitting us infect us with their energy; we cannot help but try to give back what we get. Reacting to direct maneuvers, we find ourselves dragged into head-to-head arguments and battles. It takes effort to step away from this vicious arena and consider another approach. You must ask yourself this question: what is the point of being direct and frontal if it only increases people’s resistance, and makes them more certain of their own ideas? Directness and honesty may give you a feeling of relief, but they also stir up antagonism. As tactics they are ineffective.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THOSE who are able to win true POWER in the difficult modern world, are people who have learned indirection.
HONED by them is the suitable knowledge of the value of approaching at an angle and disguising their intentions.
ORCHESTRATED is the lowering of enemy’s resistance, hitting the soft, exposed flank instead of butting horns.
UNHURRIED, rather than trying pushing or pulling people, they coax them to turn in the direction they DESIRE.
GENERALLY, this maneuver takes effort but pays dividends down the road in reduced conflict and greater results.
HIDE your initial intentions or true line of attack; then first hit them directly, to hold their attention to the FRONT.
TRICK them to come at you mano a mano; an attack from the side now will be unexpected and hard to COMBAT.

H_#114. Using Charm, Pleasant Conversation, Humour to Influence People.--->

However smart or witty you might take yourself to be, in your attempts at persuasion, never reveal your intentions or goals; instead use charm, pleasant conversation, humour, flattery - whatever works - to hold people’s attention to the front. Their focus elsewhere, their flank is exposed, and now when you drop hints or suggest subtle changes in direction, the gates are open and the walls are down. They are disarmed and maneuverable. Think of people’s ego and vanity as a kind of front. When they are attacking you and you do not know why, it is often because you have inadvertently threatened their ego, their sense of importance in the world. Whenever possible, you must work to make people feel secure about themselves. Again, use whatever works: subtle adulation, a favour, a gift, an unexpected promotion, an offer of alliance, a presentation of you and they as equals, a mirroring of their ideas and values.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE above things will make them feel deftly anchored in their frontal position relative to the world.
HAPPILY, without sensing they will have volitionally lowered their defenses; making them like you.
OPULENTLY unaware, while secure and comfortable, they are now set up for a flanking maneuver.
UNDERSTAND that, this is particularly devastating with a target whose EGO is fragile and delicate.
GETTING your rivals to expose themselves on a weak salient, is using the flanking maneuver in war.
HAVING done so, this means maneuvering them onto ground or luring them to advance in a clear way.
THAT fondly ensures their front is narrow and their flanks are long - a delicious target for a side attack.

U_#115. Giving Rivals Time to Hang Themselves by Concealling Thy Moves.--->

Uunderstandig how people project their wishes and desires unconsciously - and inciting them to proceed in this direction - will give you an upper hand in any conflict. When people present their ideas and arguments, they often censor themselves, trying to appear more conciliatory and flexible than is actually the case. If you attack them directly from the front, you end up not getting very far, because there is not much there to aim at. Instead try to make them go further with their ideas, giving you a bigger target. Do this by standing back, seeming to go along, and baiting them into moving rashly ahead. (You can also make them emotional, pushing their buttons, getting them to say more than they had wanted to.) They will expose themselves on a weak salient, advancing an indefensible argument or position that will make them look ridiculous.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TOWARD more and more indirection, is essentially the ultimate evolution of strategy.
HATE letting your rival know your intentions and the strategies you are apt to employ.
OPPONENTS who cannot duly see where you are heading are at a severe disadvantage.
USE more ANGLES - like a cue ball in billiards caroming off several sides of the table.
GNAWINGLY, the harder it will be for your enemies to defend themselves against you.
HAVE as your aim if possible, to calculate your moves to produce this caroming effect.
THE key is never to strike too early; and this is the perfect disguise for your aggression.

N_#116. Piercing People’s Words (Subtext) and Actions on Multiple Levels.--->

Notably master the subtextual communication. Your mind’s perception for the unseen must be sharp. You must develop the muscle of your wit. You should understand people’s words and actions on multiple levels. Discern an innuendo (an indirect remark or gesture that usually carries a suggestion of impropriety). Fathom the puns (humorous use of words that involves a word or phrase that has more than one possible meaning). They are the language of rhetoric and subtext. You must be fluent in this language. If you cannot pierce the realm of subtext, you cannot hope to be a successful POWER GAMER. If you cannot understand the subtleties and nuances of a person’s character then you cannot hope to ever truly comprehend them. The complete nature of their being will fall beyond the limits of your mind’s capacity to understand them. Subtext is a realm of communication all of its own. If you are blind to it, it will become your Achilles’s heel (a weakness that seems small but makes you fatally vulnerable) and your obliviousness will reduce your overall effectiveness. In as much as communication is multi-layered, you should always understand what is being said, what is truly meant and what may possibly be implied. Do threat or reward assessment and measure the likelihood of each. Balance all three possibilities in your mind, attributing methods of likelihood to each variable based upon the data available to you.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIMELY calculate likelihood, incentive and threat, and make your move only when it serves your interests.
HOW advantageous (when you will make a net gain) is it to you? Or what is its necessity (to prevent loss?)
OFTEN, you will not make correct choices in your interactions, but you will reduce the number of blunders.
UPON failure you will proactively assess the damage of a poor choice and adapt a new approach in response.
GAINFULLY, you are allowed to make social mistakes; for making mistakes is how we refine our methods.
HOWEVER, damage control should be thy top priority whenever ye make any socially dangerous blunders.
TRULY, truly, ardently assuming of course, forfeiture of the relationship is inconsequential and thus viable.

D_#117. Mastery of Language is a Weapon, and the Voice, a Delivery System.--->

Decisively become eloquently articulate. Your quickness of mind must manifest itself through the smooth fluency of your speech. You need the competency to verbally riposte (smartly or wittily react). This skill is incredibly important, especially as a means of defence to aid with deflection and pressure reversal. It may also however be used as a tool of interrogation should that be one’s proclivity (a natural tendency to behave in a particular way). Eloquent articulacy is particularly useful when one finds themselves caught off-guard in a psychological ambush. For example, say you are psychologically tested in full-view of an observing audience where there is surmounting social pressure for you to respond or otherwise incur social penalty.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be proactive in such a dire situation, quick wits will safeguard your social status from being soiled.
HORRENDOUSLY, an inability to pass the TEST will lower your station by damaging your reputation.
OCCUPYING a MORAL high ground, is prudently knowing how to be a successful POWER GAMER.
UNDERMINE not youself, and be sufficiently able to defend yourself from the crude devices of others.
GLARINGLY, in a world where physical violence is legally unlawful and socially abhored, be civilized.
HAVE your aim as prioritising the composition of your well-being’s defence via psychological ASSETS.
TEMPERED well and utilized fully, such a weapon is a talent to be used to influentially persuade others.

R_#118. Being Fluid, then Denying Them Hope Before Encircling Their Mind.--->

Rigidity of mind is the worst detractor in this modern world. In a society full of attrition fighters (addicts of outright face to face confrontation), you will gain an instant advantage by converting to maneuver. Your thought process will become more fluid, more on the side of LIFE, and you will be able to thrive off the rigid, battle-obsessed tendencies of the people around you. By always thinking first about the overall situation and about how to maneuver people into positions of weakness rather than fight them, you will make your battles less bloody - which, since LIFE is not long and conflict is endless, is wise if you want a fruitful and enduring career. And a war of maneuver is just as decisive as a war of attrition. Think of weakening your enemies as ripening them like grain, ready to be cut down at the right moment. We humans are extremely clever creatures: in disaster or setback, we often find a way to adapt, to turn the situation around. So it is upon you to drive your enemies, rivals or opponents, deep into situations where they will have no options.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THRIVING on hope, craftiness, and will - when cornered - we look for any gap and often find it.
HONED in the abstract space of social and political warfare, encirclement is a prudent maneuver.
OPPONENTS or rivals are given or tricked with the foul feeling of being attacked from all sides.
UPON being pushed into a very tight corner, they are denied any hope of making a counterattack.
GROUNDED, harrassed, feeling surrounded, with minimal options left, their willpower weakens.
HAVE a force in reserve - you hit them with these forces when you sense their weakness growing.
TRIVIALIZED, troubled and powerless, let the hopelessness of their situation encircle their minds.

E_#119. Besieging and Shrinking Your Opponent’s Possibilities of Any Action.--->

Enclose your opponent by denying him or her any space to operate. The feeling that we have options in a situation, a future with prospects, translates into something like the feeling of open space. Our minds thrive on the sense that there is possibility and strategic room to maneuver. Conversely, the sense of psychological enclosure is deeply disturbing to us, often making us overreact. When someone or something encircles us - narrowing our options, besieging us from all sides - we lose control of our emotions and make the kinds of mistakes that render the situation more hopeless. In history’s great military sieges, the greater danger almost always comes from the panic and confusion within. Unable to see what is happening BEYOND the siege, losing contact with the outside world, the defenders also lose their grip on reality. An animal that cannot observe the world around it is doomed. When all you can see are dangers closing in, you succumb to panic and confusion. The battles of daily LIFE occur not on a map but in a kind of abstract space defined by people’s ability to maneuver, act against you, limit your power, and cut into your time to respond.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THEY (your opponents) will exploit any ROOM given by you, in this abstract or psychological space.
HOWEVER powerful you are, or no matter how brilliant your strategies - make them feel surrounded.
OVERTLY, if not covertly, seek to shrink their possibilities of action and close off their escape routes.
UNDER siege and threatened from critical angles, the inhabitants of a city may slowly lose their minds.
GHASTLY, your opponents will likewise be maddened by their lack of room to maneuver against you.
HAVING tried various moves to envelop your opponents, the strategy of enclosure becomes persuasive.
THE simplest way perhaps, is to put whatever strength or advantage you naturally have to maximum use.

D_#120. Tricking Your Opponents into Thinking They Control the Situation.--->

Declare outright war on your opponents at your own peril. The hothead, contemptuous, impetuous, violent, and arrogant are particularly easy to lure into the traps of envelopment strategies: play weak or dumb and they will charge ahead without stopping to think where they are going. But any emotional weakness on the opponent’s part, or any great desire or unrealised wish, can be made an ingredient of encirclement. In luring your enemies into such a trap, always try to make them feel as if they are in control of the situation. They will advance as far as you want them to. Never allow your enemy or rival know your motives. Almost all of your opponents are likely to be clever and resourceful; if your maneuvers simply present them with a problem, they will inevitably solve it. But a dilemma is different: whatever they do, however they respond - retreat, advance, stay still - they are still in trouble. Make every option bad: if you maneuver quickly to a point, for instance, you can force your enemies either to fight before they are ready or to retreat.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY constantly to suitably put your opponent in positions that seem alluring but are substantiated traps.
HIDEOUSLY, your enemy depends on being able to read you, to get some sense of your core intentions.
ONE goal of your maneuvers should be to make that impossible, to send the rival on a wildgoose chase.
USUAL search for information is meaningless; creates ambiguity as to which way you are going to jump.
GOLDENLY breaking down people’s ability to reason about you, injects utter disorder into their system.
HAVE this as your secret weapon: The disorder you create is controlled and purposeful, at least for you.
THE more disorder you unleash, the more the suffering of the enemy is duly debilitating and destructive.

A_#121. Analyzing Not With Emotion: Communicating and Inspiring With It.--->

Affirmatively, you must develop sophisticated emotional intelligence and infiltration. This does not mean you should analyse with emotion but rather that you must be capable of communicating with it and inspiring with it. There is no charm in robotic behaviour. You must understand the relationship between emotions by learning how they invoke and relate to neighbouring emotions. Likewise to be capable of this you should have an intricate grasp of the characteristics and depth of each emotion. You need to understand the nature of each individual emotion so that this can be leveraged to influence people into predictable outcomes. If you can feel as others feel you will be able to glean intimate knowledge on how to best influence them. Do not act out of constraint instinctually to the shared emotion your feelings will demands of you. Instead, use this emotion and all that pertains to it as a data point. Data that is vital in understanding how best to influence the individual you are dealing with; who unlike yourself is constrained by the imperative of their emotional state.

To better summarise: you must experience how others feel and feel how they feel, whilst being detached from how the imperative of that emotion would typically compel a lesser mind to behave. You must feel as others feel but unlike them you must not instinctually act upon your feelings. With this knowledge you can strategise in many ways. For example with an understanding of what emotionally propels a person you can fill their emotional void by reshaping yourself into the source of their desires (much like water changes shape to fill a certain volume). Not only that, but shared emotions build both trust and rapport.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THOROUGH and enough knowledge of a particular character can be a source of emotional sustenance for another.
HAVING the ability to fluidly transform into an emotional object of desire allows for an emphatic social influence.
OPULENTLY, and in all circumstances, the importance of this point is most emphatically not to be underestimated.
UNDERSTANDING of a person’s social relationships as aided by concise emotional intelligence is a pervasive tool.
GENUINELY, it can be utilised to identify an individual’s emotional weak spots regardless of their wealth or status.
HONING this skill well can be leveraged for social and self-gain should you opt for a more aggressive approach.
TRULY, truly, no limit exist as to what you can achieve in the world upon using these “newfound powers” wisely.

N_#122. Constant In-Field Analysis, Ample Socialization and Building Trust.--->

Nourish every interaction you have, to have some meaning to it. Entertain no empty or petty talk. In your conversations you should be summing people up and collecting information on them so that you may better understand their nature. If you can do this you can calibrate your demeanour to their tastes and successfully socialize with a diverse range of characters. Likewise in the process of doing so you may also happen upon valuable information which has the potential to grant you power over said people (e.g.: secrets, admissions in confidence etc.) We live in a time where the average man and woman will greet you with an inauthentic version of themselves, their fabled social representative. It is this learned defence mechanism people commonly employ that you will need to overcome in order to become properly acquainted. In light of this one should realise that POWER GAMING is executed best with an air of charm and humour. Mentally, charm is the anaesthesia of suspicion.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO probe deeply into the PSYCHE of others without causing pain or paranoia, is what charm amicably allows.
HAVE the analogy of physical nature: SEDATIVES allow doctors to operate on a patient in much the same way.
OPULENTLY, here the internal adjustment being made to “the patient” is COGNTIVE rather than mechanical.
USUALLY, if people do not feel they can TRUST you because you lack the ability to make them feel comfortable,
GHASTLY and awfully then, the interrogative nature of POWER GAMING can result in ill-feeling and alienation.
HAPPILY, for best results one should always apply charm; for suitably unleashed charm is necessary for comfort.
TRULY, truly, comfort is necessary to TRUST; for without trust, your options for mutual co-operation are limited.

D_#123. Never Saying You Are Strong, but Showing Your Opponents You Are.--->

Dangers and conflicts are bound to face you anytime anywhere. The way you will be able to handle them will determine your fate. Maneuver warfare, when incorporated to the daily LIFE, begin by taking a position of strength, that leaves you with open options and room to operate. Then let your rivals show their direction. Once they commit to a position, let them hold it - in fact, let them trumpet it. Now that they are fixed in a place, maneuver to the side that will crowd them, leaving them only bad options. Everything is political in the world today, and politics is all about positioning. In any political battle, the best way to stake out a position is to draw a sharp contrast with the other side. If you have to resort to speeches to make this contrast, you are on shaky ground: people distrust words. Insisting that you are strong or well qualified rings as self-promotion. Instead make the opposing side talk and take the first move. Once they have committed to a position and fixed it in other people’s minds, they are ripe for the sickle. Now you can create a contrast by quoting their words back at them, showing how different you are - in tone, in attitude, in action. Make the contrast deep.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRAPPED, if they commit to some radical position, respond not by being moderate (moderation is generally weak).
HASTELY, audaciously and fluently attack them for promoting instability, for being powerhungry revolutionaries.
ONEROUSLY, if they respond by toning down their appeal, nail them for being inconsistent, for being hypocritical.
UNABLE to make any solid move or critical decision, if they opt to stay the course, their message will wear thin.
GNAWINGLY, if they become more strident in self-defense, make your point about their instability and weakness.
HONE this strategy in the battles of daily LIFE, letting people commit to a position you can turn into a dead end.
TRULY, truly, show your strength, by making a contrast between you and your inconsistent or moderate opponents.

F_#124. In Any Conflict, Seeking to Confuse Rivals About Your Key Intentions.--->

Face any challenging situation with an open, but strategic mind. The greatest power you can have in any conflict is the ability to confuse your opponent about your intentions. Confused opponents do not know how or where to defend themselves; hit them with a surprise attack and they are pushed off balance and fall. To accomplish this you must maneuver with just one purpose: to keep them guessing. You get them to chase you in circles; you say the opposite of what you mean to do; you threaten one area while shooting for another. You create maximum disorder.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO really pull this most practical strategy off, you really need a flexible room to maneuver.
HATE crowding yourself with alliances or groupings that foully force or just tie your hand.
ONE particular stance is fundamentally never taking positions that box you into rigid corners.
UNDERMINE verily commiting yourself to defending one fixed or solid immobile position.
GHASTLY losing the power of basic maneuver, makes you to become sheepishly predictable.
HEATHENLY moving in straight lines in defined areas, ignores the vast desert around you.
TAKE people who fight in this wierdly weak way, as deserving the bloody battles they face.

I_#125. Entering Any Negotiation Well Prepared; Duly Persuing Thy Interests.--->

In the crafty business of LIFE, you must be a chess player on the grand-master level. Success in negotiation depends on the level of preparation. If you enter with vague notions as to what you want, you will find yourself shifting from position to position depending on what the other side brings to the table. You may drift to a position that seems appropriate but does not serve your interests in the end. Unless you carefully analyse what leverage you have, your maneuvers are likely to be counterproductive. Before anything else you must anchor yourself by determining with utmost clarity your long-term goals and the leverage you have for reaching them.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THAT clarity will keep you patient and calm; it will also let you toss people meaningless concessions.
HAVE these yieldings look generous but actually come cheap, for they do not hurt your real GOALS.
OPPONENTS must be objectively studied as much as possible before the negotiations begin, not after.
UNCOVERING their core weaknesses and unfulfilled desires will give you a different kind of leverage.
GENERATE the ability to confuse them, make them emotional, besides seducing them with pieces of tile.
HONE it, if possible, playing a bit of the fool: the less people understand your motives the better for you.
THE less they comprehend where you are headed, the more room you have to maneuver them into corners.

F_#126. Keeping Thy Maneuvres Controllable, while Making Rivals Befuddled.--->

From all perspectives, the goal of maneuver is to give you easy victories, which you do by luring opponents into leaving their fortified positions of strength for unfamiliar terrain where they must fight off balance. Since your opponents’ strength is inseparable from their ability to think straight, your maneuvers must be designed to make them emotional and befuddled. If you are too direct in this maneuvering, you run the risk of revealing your game; you must be subtle, drawing opponents toward you with enigmatic behaviour, slowly getting under their skin with provocative comments and actions, then suddenly stepping back.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TROUBLE them incessantly until you really feel that their emotions are fully engaged.
HAVING triggered anger in them, you can now speed up the tempo of your maneuvers.
ONCE properly set up, your opponents will leap onto the island and strand themselves.
UNEASE and their frustration mounting, this will definitely give you the easy victory.
GIVEN, the only apparent danger in maneuver is that you give yourself so many options.
HONE unto yourself the restriction of freedom of choice, so as to avoid getting confused.
TRY as much as possible to keep it simple - limit yourself to the options you can control.

T_#127. Describing Your Visions Vividly, Confidently, with an Air of Authority. --->

These are scientific times and you may not believe in miracles. But anything that hints at strange, unworldly, even supernatural powers will make you a mover and a shaker. The psychology is the same: you have visions of the future, and of the wondrous things you can accomplish.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THOROUGHLY describe these things in great detail, with an air of authority, and suddenly you may stand out.
HONED audaciously, clearly and fluently, your prophecy-of-prosperity, may be just what people want to hear.
OPULENTLY, they are likely to fall under your spell and see later events as a confirmation of your predictions.
UNHINDERED, exhibit remarkable confidence and folks will think your sureness comes from real knowledge.
GENUINELY propagated as solution to current menacing problems, you will create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
HAVING aroused the people’s deep belief in you, this will translate into actions that help realise your visions.
TRULY, truly, any hint of success will make them see miracles, uncanny powers, the gainful glow of charisma.

Y_#128. Occuppying the Strongest Position in Negotiations to Secure Interests.--->

You must see any negotiating situation in which your vital interests are at stake as a realm of pure maneauver, warfare by other means. Earning people’s trust and confidence is not a moral issue but a strategic one: sometimes it is necessary, sometimes it is not. People will break their word if it serves their interests, and they will find any moral or legal excuse to justify their moves, sometimes to themselves as well as to others. Just as you must always put yourself in the strongest position before battle, so it is with negotiation. If you are weak, use negotiations to buy yourself time, to delay battle until you are ready.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TENTATIVELY, when weak be conciliatory, not to be naive or nice, but to maneauver.
HOWEVER, if you are strong, take as much as you can before and during negotiations.
OPULENTLY, but strategically, then later you can give BACK some of what you took.
UNINFLUENCED, concede the things you least value to make yourself look generous.
GIVING out is nobleness: Do not worry about your reputation or about creating distrust.
HOW quickly people will forget your broken promises when you are strong, is amazing.
TO be in a position to offer them something in their self-interest, makes you honourable.

F_#129. Charisma Entails Being Magnetic (Unbriddled, Genuine and Authentic).--->

For most people a mix of the devil and the saint, the noble and the ignoble, is apparent. Many people spend their lives trying to repress the dark side. Few of us can give free rein to both sides, but we can create charisma to a smaller degree by ridding ourselves of self-consciousness, and of the discomfort most of us feel about our complicated natures. You cannot help being the way you are, so be genuine. That is what attracts us to animals: beautiful and cruel, they have no self-doubt. That quality is doubly fascinating in humans. Outwardly people may condemn your dark side, but it is not virtue alone that creates charisma; anything extraordinary will do. Do not apologise or go halfway. The more unbridled you seem, the more magnetic the effect. You will surface out as Hugh MacDiarmid who was depicted by Scottish poet Norman McCaig (1910 - 1996) thus:

When he speaks a small sentence
he is a man
who presses a plunger that will
blow the face off a cliff
...When he goes hunting
he aims at a bird and
brings a landscape down.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO inspire hope and passion should be your destiny: you will flavour everything; you will be the vanilla of society.
HAVING been recognized by art critics as early as 180 AD, charisma as a psycho-physical quality, is stage presence.
OPULENTLY, it generally refers to the actor’s ability to influence, or to emotionally CONNECT with the spectator.
UNCENSORED, which elements are crucial for this actorly presence vary considerably depending on culture and era.
GLARINGLY the following characteristics determine ‘a radiant presence’: interesting vocal mannerisms and qualities.
HONED also are unusually striking facial or bodily appearance, alloyed to kinesthetic (visually appealing) movement.
TRANSCEDENTALLY self-confident (ironic or humorous) approach to the character, and a full range of EMOTIONS.

O_#130. Accessing Thy Unconscious and Arousing Other’s Repressed Excitement. --->

Opulence in the sense of having a strong following, is an art everyone can learn. A crowd or group of any sort has a unique energy. Just below the surface is desire, a constant sexual excitement that has to be repressed because it is socially unacceptable. If you have the ability to rouse those desires, the crowd will see you as having charisma. The key is learning to access your own unconscious. You are full of an excitement that seems to come from some mysterious inner source.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THY uninhibitedness will invite other people to volitionally open up, thus sparking a chain reaction.
HAPPILY, their excitement, exhilaration, elation, joy and delight in turn will animate you still more.
ONTOLOGICALLY, the fond fantasies you bring to the surface do not have to be explicitly sexual.
USUALLY, anything social taboo, anything repressed and yearning for an outlet, will justly suffice.
GLARINGLY, make this formindably felt in your recordings, your artwork, your books, everything.
HORRENDOUSLY, social pressure, dull workdays, routine family chores keeps people so repressed.
THAT is why they will be duly attracted to your charisma before they have even met you in person.

U_#131. Deftly Expressing Calmness, Resolution and Clear Minded Practicality. --->

Ultruistic motives aside, there all kinds of misconceptions about charisma, which, paradoxically, only add to its mystique. Charisma has little to do with an exciting physical appearance or a colourful personality, qualities that elicit short-term interest. Particularly in times of trouble, people are not looking for entertainment — they want security, a better quality of LIFE, and social cohesion. Believe it or not, a plain-looking man or woman with a clear vision, a quality of singlemindedness, and practical skills can be devastatingly charismatic, provided it is matched with some success. Never underestimate the power of success in enhancing one’s aura. But in a world teeming with compromisers and fudgers whose indecisiveness only creates more disorder, one clear-minded soul will be a magnet of attention — will have charisma.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THRILLING charisma is not a mysterious quality that inhabits you outside your control.
HONE it is an illusion in the eyes of those who see you as having what they simply lack.
ONCE in while, and particularly in times of trouble, you can justly enhance that illusion.
UNLEASH this Godly power through calmness, resolution, and clear-minded practicality.
GIVEN, it also helps to have a seductively simple message. Call it the Saviour Syndrome.
HAVE people imagine you can save them from chaos, and they will fall in love with you.
THIS is like a person who melts in the arms of one’s rescuer. Mass love equals charisma.

R_#132. Emittting Confidence, Contentent, Joy and Acting in a Fulfilled Manner. --->

Radiate confidence and contentent in your interactions with people. The aura you should be after is not the fiery one, but one of incandescence, enlightenment. An enlightened person has understood something that makes him or her content, and this contentment radiates outward. That is the appearance you want: you do not need anything or anyone, you are fulfilled. People are naturally drawn to those who emit happiness; maybe they can catch it from you.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE less obvious and palpable you are, the more ambiguous you are, the better.
HAVE people conclude that you are holily happy, rather than hearing it from you.
OPENLY let them see it in your unhurried manner, gentle smile, ease and comfort.
UNINHIBITED, keep your words vague, letting people imagine what they just will.
GAINFULLY remember: being aloof, reserved and distant only stimulates the effect.
HOPEFUL and expectant, individuals will fight for the slightest sign of your interest.
THINK of a guru: He is content and detached — a deadly Charismatic combination.

O_#133. Penentrating Their Souls by Appealling to Emotions, but Not to Reason.--->

Orchestrate your mode of expression to penentrate the souls of your listeners. Most of us live in a semi-somnambulistic state: we do our daily tasks and the days fly by. The two exceptions to this are childhood and those moments when we are in love. In both cases, our emotions are more engaged, more open and active. And we equate feeling emotional with feeling more alive. A public figure who can affect people’s emotions, who can make them feel communal sadness, joy, or hope, has a similar effect. An appeal to the emotions is far more powerful than an appeal to reason. Your every public act should be framed in dramatic and religious motifs. Drama is condensed emotion, and religion is a force that reaches into your childhood, hits you where you cannot help yourself. Your staged acts of charity, your sacrifices for the common folk — all this will go straight to the heart. It is not your goodness alone that is charismatic, although the appearance of goodness is alluring enough. It is your ability to dramatise your goodness.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be precise, good heartedness (charity) devoid of good deeds (drama), is just dull and dismal.
HONE the learning of fully exploiting the two great purveyors of emotion: drama and religion.
ON drama: It cuts out the useless and banal in LIFE, thus focusing on moments of pity and terror.
UNINTELLIGIBLE matters of LIFE and death are ontologically dealt by any redemptive religion.
GIVING your loving words religious import, and making your charitable actions dramatic is key.
HARNESS in all public actions to bathe everything in rituals and myths going back to childhood.
TRULY caught up in the emotions you stir, people will see over your head the halo of charisma.

N_#134. Saying What the People are Afraid to Say; What They Want but Cannot. --->

Now that you want everyone to conceive you as a deliverer, you must be seen as a living example of personal redemption. The essence of charisma is an overpowering emotion that communicates itself in your gestures, in your tone of voice, in subtle signs that are the more powerful for being unspoken. You feel something more deeply than others, and no emotion is more powerful and more capable of creating a charismatic reaction than hatred, particularly if it comes from deeprooted feelings of oppression. Express what others are afraid to express and they will see great power in you. Audaciously, authenically and laudably say what they want to say - but due to their mass defeatism or timidity - cannot.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRAMPLE down any hesitation not as a sin, but a blasphemy: Never be afraid of going too far.
HAVING vowed to represent a release from oppression, you have the leeway to go still farther.
ONE example, the Biblical Moses spoke of violence, of destroying every last one of his enemies.
UNINHIBITED language like this brings the oppressed together and makes them feel more alive.
GUIDED by an innate system, this is not, however, something that is uncontrollable on your part.
HOPEFULLY, nothing is more charismatic than the sense that someone is struggling and plodding.
THIS becomes more exhilirating when it is with a great emotion, rather than simply giving in to it.

E_#135. Radiating Superlative Calmness and Superb Serenity when on the Camera.--->

Exposing yourself to the public using Television may serve to enhance your image. However, how you behave and the tone of your voice should be so caricatured that you do not arouse bad sentiments from your admirers. The world has grown more fractured. A nation no longer gathers together on the streets or in the squares; it is brought together in living rooms, where people watching television all over the country can simultaneously be alone and with others. Charisma must now be communicable over the airwaves or it has no power. But it is in some ways easier to project it on television, both because television makes a direct one-on-one appeal (the Charismatic seems to address you) and because charisma is fairly easy to fake for the few moments you spend in front of the camera.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIMELY, when appearing on television it is best and such prudent to radiate calmness and control.
HAVING to use dramatic effects? This must be done sparingly; and must be carefully orchestrated.
OWN punctuating your calmness with due surprises; rise to a climax; keep things short and terse.
UNDERSTANDING that the only thing that cannot be faked is self-confidence, is truly persuasive.
GAINFULLY, this is the key component to charisma for all great leaders since the days of Mosess.
HONE coolness, composure, serenity; being relaxed, let the camera lights not betray your insecurity.
TRIP badly on this lane and all the tricks in the world will not put your charisma back together again.

H_#136. Mastering and Managing Charisma; Keeping it Under Conscious Control.--->

Having charisma is a potent weapon in leadership. But knowing how to master and manage it, is more vital. Charisma is as volatile as the emotions it stirs. Most often it stirs sentiments of love. But such feelings are hard to maintain. Psychologists talk of “erotic fatigue” — the moments after love in which you feel tired of it, and you become resentful. Reality creeps in, love turns to hate. Erotic fatigue is a threat to all Charismatics. The Charismatic often wins love by acting the saviour, rescuing people from some difficult circumstance, but once they feel secure, charisma is less seductive to them. Charismatics need danger and risk. But people tire of this, and at your first sign of weakness they turn on you. The love they showed before will be matched by their hatred now. The only defense is to master your charisma. Your passion, your anger, your confidence make you charismatic, but too much charisma for too long creates fatigue, and a desire for calmness and order. The better kind of charisma is created consciously and is kept under control. When you need to, you can glow with confidence and fervor, inspiring the masses.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TIMELY, when the adventure is over, you can SETTLE into a routine, turning the heat, not out, but down.
HAVING toned down your electrifying enthusiasm, people will admire your self-control and adaptability.
OPULENTLY, their love affair with you will move closer to the habitual AFFECTION of a man and wife.
UNCONDITIONALLY, you will even have the leeway to look a little boring, a little dull, or a little simple.
GROOMED without hypocricy, this is a realistic ROLE that can also seem charismatic, if played correctly.
HOPEFULLY remember: charisma depends on success, on ability to be a problem solver, to be innovative.
THE best way to maintain success, after the initial charismatic RUSH, is to be practical and even cautious.

U_#137. Playing the Armed Prophet; Often Using a Forceful Side of Thy Character.--->

Uninhibited you should work in propounding your prophetic vision. But you also need physical power to enforce your ideals. This is borne of the historical fact that, although a prophet may acquire power through his charismatic personality, he cannot long survive without the strength to back it up. He needs an army. The masses will tire of him; they will need to be forced. But first listen to U.S. anthropologist Margaret Mead (1901 - 1978): “The prophet who fails to present a bearable alternative and yet preaches doom is part of the trap that he postulates.” How is this prophecy by British poet, writer, and historian John Addington Symonds (1840 - 1893) true?

These things shall be! A loftier race
Than e’er the world hath known shall rise,
With flame of freedom in their souls,
And light of knowledge in their eyes.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO be a successful prophet, a hopeful disposition is not the sole qualification.
HEAR this well: Being an armed prophet may not literally involve real arms.
ONCE in a while this may superbly demand a forceful side to your character.
UNDERLYING this is a sound backing by a solid and well calculated action.
GNAWINGLY and as unfortunate as it may be, this may mean being merciless.
HARD with your enemies is what you should, for as long as you retain power.
TRULY, truly, no individual creates more bitter enemies than the Charismatic.

N_#138. Upon Succeeding a Charismatic, Change Direction by Being So Practical.--->

Never try to imitate or copy the image of a successful person in your field of command; whether social, academic, economic or political. In the introduction to Law 41 (Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes) in his book The 48 Laws of Power (1998) Robert Green affirms:

What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THERE is nothing more dangerous than succeeding the creator of an original idea or a Charismatic.
HAPPILY or not, these characters are unconventional, and their flambouyant rule is personal in style.
OFTEN they leave chaos in their wake, upon being stamped with the wildness of their personalities.
USUALLY, the one who follows after a Charismatic is left with a mess, which the people do not see.
GENERATIVELY, they miss their inspirer and blame the successor; avoid this situation at all costs.
HOWEVER, if unavoidable, try not to continue what the Charismatic started; go in a new direction.
TRY practicality and plain-speaking; you can generate a strange kind of charisma through contrast.

D_#139. Becoming an Object to be Fetishised (Obsessive, Revered or Worshiped).--->

Drawing people to your attention, would entail fetishism. The fetish is an object that commands an emotional response and that makes us breathe LIFE into it. Because it is an object we can imagine whatever we want to about it. Most people are too moody, complex, and reactive to let us see them as objects that we can fetishise. Your enthralling power will come from an ability to become an object, and not just any object but an object people fetishise, one that stimulates a variety of fantasies. You will act in perfect manner, like the statue of a Greek god or goddess. The effect is startling, and seductive. Its principal requirement is self-distance. If you see yourself as an object, then others will too. An ethereal, dreamlike air will heighten the effect. You are a blank screen. Float through LIFE noncommittally and people will want to seize you and consume you. Of all the parts of your body that draw this fetishistic attention, the strongest is the face.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TUNING your face like an instrument, is an art you should seek to learn.
HONE an ability of making it radiate a fascinating vagueness for effect.
ONLY you have commited yourself to stand out from other Stars in the sky.
UPON this dedication, you will need to develop an attention-getting style.
GOODLY, your own image and presence are materials you can fully control.
HAVE a deep enjoyable sense that you are duly engaged in this kind of play.
THIS will eventually make people see you as superior and worthy of imitation.

R_#140. Seeking for a Distinctive Style, Cool, Visually Arresting - a Mythic Figure.--->

Rated, as perhaps the most powerful character is the Mythic Star. People are divided by all kinds of consciously recognised categories — race, gender, class, religion, politics. It is impossible, then, to gain power on a grand scale, or to win an election, by drawing on conscious awareness; an appeal to any one group will only alienate another. Unconsciously, however, there is much we share. All of us are mortal, all of us know fear, all of us have been stamped with the imprint of parent figures; and nothing conjures up this shared experience more than myth. The patterns of myth, born out of warring feelings of helplessness on the one hand and thirst for immortality on the other, are deeply engraved in us all. Mythic Stars are figures of myth come to LIFE. To appropriate their power, you must first study their physical presence — how they adopt a distinctive style, are cool and visually arresting. Then you must assume the pose of a mythic figure: the rebel, the wise patriarch, the adventurer. (The pose of a Star who has struck one of these mythic poses might do the trick.) Make these connections vague; they should never be obvious to the conscious mind. Your words and actions should invite interpretation BEYOND their surface appearance.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TEMPER seeming to be deftly dealing not with specific, nitty-gritty issues and details.
HONE duly dueling with matters of LIFE and death, love and hate, authority and chaos.
OUTRIGHTLY, your opponent, similarly, should be framed not merely as an ENEMY.
UTILIZE this not for any reasons of ideology or competition, but as a villain, a demon.
GROUPS are hopelessly susceptible to myth, so make yourself the hero of a great drama.
HAVING conjured this image, let folks identify with you without being able to touch you.
THIS will be well facilitated by keeping your distance — they can only watch and dream.

E_#141. Persuading by Bypassing Consciousness; Stimulating Unconscious Mind.--->

Enter any discourse where persuasion is required by seeking to bypass consciousness, stirring the unconscious mind instead. The reason for this is simple: we are so surrounded by stimuli that compete for our attention, bombarding us with obvious messages, and by people who are overtly political and manipulative, that we are rarely charmed or deceived by them. We have grown increasingly cynical. Try to persuade a person by appealing to their consciousness, by saying outright what you want, by showing all your cards, and what hope do you have? You are just one more irritation to be tuned out.

To avoid this fate you must learn the art of insinuation, of reaching the unconscious. The most eloquent expression of the unconscious is the dream, which is intricately connected to myth; waking from a dream, we are often haunted by its images and ambiguous messages. Dreams obsess us because they mix the real and the unreal. They are filled with real characters, and often deal with real situations, yet they are delightfully irrational, pushing realities to the extremes of delirium. If everything in a dream were realistic, it would have no power over us; if everything were unreal, we would feel less involved in its pleasures and fears. Its fusion of the two is what makes it haunting. This is what Freud called the “uncanny”: something that seems simultaneously strange and familiar. We sometimes experience the uncanny in waking life — in a déjà vu, a miraculous coincidence, a weird event that recalls a childhood experience. People can have a similar effect. The gestures, the words, the very being evoke both the real and the unreal: we may not realise it (and how could we, really), but they are like dream figures to us. They have qualities that anchor them in reality — sincerity, playfulness, sensuality — but at the same time their aloofness, their superiority, their almost surreal quality makes them seem like something out of a movie.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THEY seduce us, in public or in private, making us want to possess them both physically and psychologically.
HOW can we possess a person from a dream, or a movie star or political star, or religious star, or military star?
OR even one of those real-life fascinators, like a Warhol, a Elon Musk who may just happen to cross our path?
UNABLE to have them, we become obsessed with them — they haunt our thoughts, our dreams, our fantasies.
GLAMOLOUSLY, these types have a hypnotic, obsessive effect on us; and so we imitate them unconsciously.
HAVE this as “introjection”: another person becomes part of our ego, we intimately internalise their character.
TRY making yourself into a cipher, a mix of the real and the unreal. People are hopelessly banal; far too real.

D_#142. Etherealizing Thyself (Dramatic Expression) to Have an Impact on Folks.--->

Dramatic expression is what you should aim for. This implies that your words and actions should seem to come from your unconscious. They should have a certain looseness to them. You hold yourself back, occasionally revealing a trait that makes people wonder whether they really know you. You must have such a large presence that you can fill your target’s mind the way a close-up fills the screen. You must have a style or presence that makes you stand out from everyone else. Be vague and dreamlike, yet not distant or absent — you do not want people to be unable to focus on or remember you. They have to be seeing you in their minds when you are not there. Cultivate a blank, mysterious face, the center that radiates Starness. This allows people to read into you whatever they want to, imagining they can see your character, even your soul. Instead of signaling moods and emotions, instead of emoting or overemoting, strive to draw in interpretations. This creates an obsessive power. A living thing is dynamic and changing while an object or image is passive, but in its passivity it stimulates our fantasies.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TANGIBLE power can be gained by becoming a kind of object (and a glittering one to say the least).
HONESTLY, you must audaciously stand out, and this may diligently involve a certain dramatic flair.
OPULENTLY haunting, dreamlike effect can be duly created by subtle touches: like a vocal inflection.
USUALLY, it is often the little things that really get under people’s skin, and make them imitate you.
GOODILY strange, these nuances (even a way of walking) may barely register to the conscious mind.
HOWEVER, sublimally they can be as attractive as an object with a striking shape or an odd colour.
TO things that have no meaning BEYOND their fascinating appearance, we are unconsciously drawn.

A_#143. Making People Want to Know More About You; Stirring Their Curiousity.--->

Amicability in your character will manifest itself in your ability to stir people’s curiousity, by letting them glimpse something in your private LIFE, something that seems to reveal an element of your personality. Let them fantasise and imagine.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRIGGERING a positive reaction is a hint of spirituality; a trait which can be attractive and magnetic.
HINTS of big-heartedness are OK. You are like the gods on Mount Olympus, who live for love and play.
OUTRIGHTLY, the things you LOVE reveal the kind of moral beauty, that people will like to see in you.
UTILISE this desire by exposing peaks of your private LIFE (hobbies, lover), or the causes you fight for.
GENERATIVE, electric seduction lies in making people relate with you, giving them a vicarious thrill.
HOPING to identify with you, and share your joy or pain, people of all type will easily gravitate to you.
THE attraction must be unconscious; be conveyed not in your words but in your pose, in your attitude.

N_#144. Arousing Folk’s Desire to Identify With You, by Being Easy to be Imitated.--->

Now more than ever, people are insecure, and their identities are in flux. Help them fix on a role to play in LIFE and they will flock to identify with you. Simply make yourself dramatic, noticeable, and easy to imitate. The power you have in influencing people’s sense of self in this manner is insidious and profound. Remember: everyone is a public performer. People never know exactly what you think or feel; they judge you on your appearance.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TAKE yourself without any iota of doubt or any grain of uncertainty to be an amorous ACTOR.
HAVING built this identity, remember that, the most effective ACTORS have an inner distance.
ONLY they who can MOULD their physical presence, as if they perceived it from the outside.
UNDERLYING this is the fact that, this inner distance fondly fascinates or mesmerizes people.
GENTALLY seek to be playful about yourself, adjusting your image; adapting it to the TIMES.
HEAR this: Nothing is ignoble than an image that was fashionable ten years ago, but is no more.
TRULY, as a Star, you must always renew your luster or face the worst possible fate: OBLIVION.

D_#145. Cultivating a Transcendent Beauty, so that All Eyes Shall Be Verily on You.--->

Dignity in your behaviour and mode of expression, is a virtue you should revel in. In as much as you will be able to create illusions that are pleasurable to see, the danger is that people tire of them — the illusion no longer fascinates — and turn to another person. Let this happen and you will find it very difficult to regain your place in the galaxy. You must keep all eyes on you at any cost. Do not worry about notoriety, or about slurs on your image; people will remarkably forgive you.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRANSCENDENT beauty must ooze from you; for too much human frailty will eventually disillusion people.
HAVING BAD publicity, is less of a DANGER than awfully disappearing for too long, or growing too distant.
ONTOLOGICALLY, you cannot haunt people’s dreams if they never see you, or you are absent in their minds.
UNCENSORED, at the same time, you should not let the public get too familiar, or much accustomed with you.
GRANTED that familiarity simply breeds contempt, never let your image become too customary or predictable.
HORRENDOUSLY, people will violently turn against you in an instant if you begin to windbag or BORE them.
TRULY, truly, boredom which leads to mind-numbing experience among the people is the ultimate social EVIL.

F_#146. Developing a Kind of Distance From Thyself; Suitable Strategic Objectivity.--->

Facing our LIFE with strategic objectivity eases alot of burdens from us. Perhaps the greatest danger you are apt to encounter as an individual who has PROVOKED POSITIVE PERCEPTIONS is the endless attention you will elicit. Obsessive attention can become disconcerting and worse. Seeing yourself as an objective outside observer would transforms your LIFE from a tragedy into a comedy, as U.S. writer Susan Sontag (1933 - 2004) affirms: “If tragedy is an experience of hyperinvolvement, comedy is an experience of underinvolvement, of detachment.” What did British poet William Wordsworth (1770 - 1850) meant in the following peom?

But for those obstinate questionings
Of sense and outward things,
Fallings from us, vanishings;
Blank misgivings of a Creature
Moving about in worlds not realised,
High instincts before which our mortal nature
Did tremble like a guilty Thing surprised.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRY sometimes to duly see yourself objectively, with the cold neutrality of an impartial judge.
HAVE any attractive woman honestly attest to you: It is very tiring to be gazed at all the time.
OCCUPATIONALLY, the effect of being stared with unwavering attention can be destructive.
UPON sensing this, the sure strategic solution is to develop the kind of distance from yourself.
GOODILY take the idolatry with a grain of salt, and maintain a certain detachment from them.
HONE approaching your own image playfully and humorously; seek being a jest unto yourself.
TRULY, truly, never ever become obsessed with the obsessive quality of people’s interest in you.

I_#147. True HAPPINESS Lie Latently Within: It is ONLY in the HERE and NOW.--->

It was German-born U.S. philosopher and historian Hannah Arendt (1906 - 1975) who noted: “The human condition is such that pain and effort are not just symptoms which can be removed without changing life itself…For mortals, the ‘easy LIFE of gods’ would be a lifeless one”. Our lives may be a string of events; one piece of perceived misfortune following another. We do not have to wait for everything to be perfectly straightforward out in our LIFE for us to be happy. “Pardon me, my friends, I have ventured to paint my happiness on the wall”, so exclaimed Nietzsche. HAPPINESS is not something that will happen in the future, maybe someday after accomplishing some ends. True HAPPINESS lie within us and so we should waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy from others.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE most appropriate time to be happy is NOW, and the place to be happy is HERE.
HAVING appreciation of what we have right NOW, we do not require any outside aid.
OPULENTLY, even our daily tribulations are vital, for they help us build our character.
UNHINDERED HAPPINESS is HERE and NOW, doing the things we are doing NOW.
GNAWINGLY, in the instance whereby we may perceive the people we are often with,
HORRENDOUSLY are sucking our energy, becomes impediments to our HAPPINESS,
THEN, the therapeutic solution is cut and dry; either quarantine or quitting their circle.

F_#148. HAPPINESS Should Not be Awaited to Accrue to You; You MUST Grab It.--->

Facts sorrounding the attainment of HAPPINESS are infinite, but in this complex, incomprehensible, irrational, even enigmatic world, one law reigns supreme: THERE IS NO GENERAL FIX FOR HAPPINESS. NO STRAIGHT LINE PATH TO BLISS; but it is WITHIN THE REACH OF EVERYONE. HAPPINESS should not necessarily be awaited to affluently accrue to us, it should be generously grabbed - and with all essential gusto. If we aspire to be HAPPY, we ought to proceed NOW, through our innate creative efforts. “It is by losing himself in the objective, in inquiry, creation, and craft, that a man becomes something,” so taught U.S. writer, teacher, and psychotherapist Paul Goodman (1911 - 1972). No deceit or force should propel us in this direction, as British poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge (1772 - 1834) warned:

‘Alas!’ said she, ‘we ne’er can be
Made happy by compulsion!’

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TALKING to a folk and you feel that happiness is no longer a possibility, simply walk away.
HUMAN beings are happy so long as they chooses to be happy and nothing can STOP them.
OPULENCE does not more certainly make people happy than happiness makes them opulent.
UPON asking yourself whether you are happy, be quite sure that you abruptly cease to be so.
GENUINE serenity is the holy herald of joy: So be a little happy if you could say how much.
Henry Miller (1891 - 1980), U.S. novelist joyfully said: “Do anything, but let it produce joy.”
THOU only Bliss Of Paradise, that will survive any storm, stress and fall is thy innerr peace.

T_#149. Cultivating Happiness Within Yourself; It is a Quality and a State of Mind .--->

The most enduring conception of HAPPINESS, is that it is not a destination but a journey to be travelled with utmost curiousity. It is taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily LIFE and elevating them into an art. HAPPINESS is never to be found in the objective world, nowhere we can see it, nowhere we can feel it, nowhere we can hear it. It is a subjective condition, an attitude, a quality and a state of mind to be cultivated within us, such that, when it anchored in us, no external circumstance can deprive it from us. Simply stated, the fact that, circumstances never create character but only reveal it, likewise happiness depends on our dispositions, not on our circumstances. This means that a happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes. Listen to Hungarian-born U.S. psychiatrist Thomas Szasz (1920 - ): “Happiness is an imaginary condition, formerly often attributed by the living to the dead, now usually attributed by adults to children, and by children to adults.”

Happiness is simply a product of our hustles, as British philosopher and mathematician Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970) noted: “Happiness is not best achieved by those who seek it directly.” “Happiness is like coke — something you get as a by-product in the process of making something else,” so taught British novelist and essayist Aldous Huxley (1894 - 1963). LOVE is the irreducible minimum of HAPPINESS, and hatred its greatest detractor, as U.S. writer and speaker Dale Carnegie (1888 - 1955) affirms: ““Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember ‘Life is too short to be little’...When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE most tragic things about human nature is that most people often tend to put off real living.
HUMANS are trapped in the maze of dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon.
ODDLY, this ensues instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.
UPON gaining the whole world, what shall it profit an individual if he or she loses one’s health?
GET up, do the thing you dread to do and keep on doing it; fear exist nowhere, but in the mind.
HONE boldness as the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer awful cowadice.
TRULY, truly, you can conquer almost any fear if you will simply make up your mind to do so.

Y_#150. Having Fidelity to a Worthy Cause, Underlies the Relativity of Happiness.--->

Your HAPPINESS, in the true sense of the word will be to a very good extent determined by fidelity to a worthy purpose; not through self-gratification. In other words, we do not find happiness; we make happiness, we choose happiness. Towards this end, we have to avoid burdening ourselves with too lengthy meditations on what we could have done but never did, having learned the mistakes of the past, being driven by the words in Talmud: “A person will be called to account on Judgment Day for every permissible thing he might have enjoyed but did not.”

How then is HAPPINESS relative? First, in the sense that one may be probably happier making KSHS 25,000 a month in Mombasa where neighbours are making KSHS 15,000 a month, than one will be making KSHS 50,000 a month in Nairobi where ones neighbours are making KSHS 80,000 a month. Second in regard to one’s expectations, whereby, owing to our inherent weaknesses at predicting the strength of our emotional reactions to future events, we for instance fall into the trap of overestimating the misery we are expecting to experience after for instance the death of a sibling, a preeminent break up, failure to get a promotion, or even contacting an illness. Conversely, we also overestimate the pleasure we will get from buying a car, having a home, getting a promotion, or moving to a lovely mountain lounge. Listen to Indian theosophist Jiddu Krishnamurti (1895 - 1986)

As the maker of images
Carves the human shape
Out of granite,
So, out of the rock
Of thine experience,
Hew thine eternal happiness.

“For when a person has glad thoughts, his heart-blood is red like a banyan fruit, when sad thoughts, it is black like a ripe rose-apple, when neutral thoughts, it is clear like sesamum oil,” so goes an Anonymous proverb. Sharing is a key prerequisite of happiness, as British poet Lord Byron (1788 - 1824) taught:

All who joy would win
Must share it,— Happiness was born a twin.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THINK of your LIFE as an hourglass; there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass.
HOW these grains of sand all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck in the middle, is a lesson.
ONE grain of sand passing through this narrow neck without impairing the hourglass? An impossibilty.
UPON not taking [tasks] one at a time, letting them pass slowly, we are bound to break our own structure.
GIVEN the best way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all our intelligence and enthusiasm.
HONE doing today’s work superbly today, for that is the only possible way we can prepare for the future.
TRULY, truly, be wiser than other people if you can (the real citadel of happiness), but do not tell them so.

F_#151. Being Thankful for the Small Things: Strengthening, Changing Expectations.--->

Fondly being thankful for all the little special natural things which happen around us every day, is what qualifies us to be HAPPY. This means having a lighthearted perspective when things look dark, seeing the gifts which are always there though seemingly hidden from our sights, having fun and being cheerful enjoying the constant feast that is LIFE. HAPPINESS, which is the deeper realisation that we ought to be joyful, is distinct from the momentary pleasure in the life we lead. So we have to keep always rolling with punches, always entertaining ourselves with the laugh at the ridiculousness of our human situation, and taking the oath of Ella Wheeler Wilcox (1850-1919): “I am going to be happy today, though the skies be cloudy and gray, no matter what may come my way.”

“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all,” so tuaght U.S. writer and speaker Dale Carnegie (1888 - 1955). Upgrading and striving to strengthen our characters, as well as changing our expectations, is what HAPPINESS entails; for we will never be happier than we expect. “Often people attempt to live backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier”, so noted American filmmaker and author Margaret Young (1891 - 1969). How insightful was Austrian psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud (1856 - 1939) when he illumined? “Happiness is the deferred fulfilment of a prehistoric wish. That is why wealth brings so little happiness; money is not an infantile wish.”

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THE most important thing in LIFE is not to capitalize on your current gains; any fool can do that.
HAVE it as your guiding policy that, the really most important thing is to profit from your losses.
OUTSTANDING success is getting what you want; enduring happiness is wanting what you get.
UNABATED discouragement and failure are two of the surest solid stepping stones to SUCCESS.
GENERALLY speaking, people rarely succeed unless they have real fun in what they are doing.
HONOURABLY, it is not what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing.
THAT is not what makes you fundamentally happy or unhappy; it is what you truly think about it.

O_#152. Was Niccolò Machiavelli’s The Prince an AMBITION or an ABORTION?--->

O penly rejecting the classical model of politics as essentially moral, Italian historian, statesman, and political philosopher Niccolò Machiavelli (1469 - 1527) believed politics are confined strictly to the methods of acquiring and maintaining power. His most famous work, The Prince (1532; trans. 1640), has often been regarded as a defense of the despotism and tyranny. It is based on the belief that a ruler is not bound by traditional ethical norms. In his view, a prince should be concerned only with power and be bound only by rules that would lead to success in political actions.

During his times, as leaders rapidly rose and fell, Machiavelli observed traits that, he believed, bolstered power and influence. In 1513, after being expelled from political service with the takeover of his home city-state Florence by the Medici family, Machiavelli started penning his outline of what makes an effective leader. Unlike the noble princes portrayed in fairy tales, a successful ruler of a principality, as described in Machiavelli’s writings, is brutal, calculating and, when necessary, utterly immoral. Because people are “quick to change their nature when they imagine they can improve their lot,” he wrote, a leader must also be shrewd. “The fact is that a man who wants to act virtuously in every way necessarily comes to grief among so many who are not virtuous. Therefore, if a prince wants to maintain his rule he must be prepared not to be virtuous, and to make use of this or not according to need.” He used the phrase “out of bare necessity.”

And so we ask ourselves, for example, what does human nature look like when looked at from a demoralized or hard-nosed realist point of view? We get an unambivalent answer to that question in chapter 17 of The Prince. In this passage, Machiavelli is addressing the typically Machiavellian question of whether it is better for a prince to be feared or to be loved:

But since it is difficult for a ruler to be both feared and loved, it is much safer to be feared than loved, if one of the two must be lacking. For this can generally be said of men: that they are ungrateful, fickle, liars and deceivers, avoiders of danger, greedy for profit; and as long as you serve their welfare, they are entirely yours, offering you their blood, possessions, life and children...when the occasion to do so is not in sight; but when you are faced with it, they turn against you. And that prince who lays his foundations on their promises alone, finding himself stripped of other preparations, falls to ruin... For men are less concerned with hurting someone who makes himself loved than one who makes himself feared, because love is held by a link of obligation which, since men are wretched creatures, is broken every time their own interests are at stake; but fear is held by a dread of punishment which will never leave you.

In sum, human beings are wretched creatures, governed only by the law of their own self-interest. It is better for a prince to be feared than loved, because love is fickle, while fear is constant. Cruelty can be better than kindness, he argued, explaining that “Making an example of one or two offenders is kinder than being too compassionate, and allowing disorders to develop into murder and chaos which affects the whole community.” Keeping one’s word can also be dangerous, he said, since “experience shows that those who do not keep their word get the better of those who do.” Moreover, Machiavelli also believed that when leaders are not moral, it is important they pretend they are to keep up appearances. “A prince must always seem to be very moral, even if he is not,” he wrote.

Leaders must not rely on luck, Machiavelli wrote, but should shape their own fortune, through charisma, cunning and force. As Machiavelli saw it, there were two main variables in life: fortune and virtù. Virtù (not virtue) meant bravery, power and the ability to impose one’s own will. Fortune, he wrote, was like a “violent river” that can flood and destroy the earth, but when it is quiet, leaders can use their free will to prepare for and conquer the rough river of fate. An effective leader, Machiavelli wrote, maximizes virtù and minimizes the role of fortune. This way, “fortune favors the brave.”

One of the real-life models Machiavelli took inspiration from when writing The Prince was Cesare Borgia (1476? - 1507), a crude, brutal and cunning prince of the Papal States whom Machiavelli had observed first-hand. Borgia was an Italian soldier, politician, and ecclesiastic, born in Rome, an illegitimate (or biological?) son of Rodrigo Borgia (circa 1431 - 1503), later Pope Alexander VI (1492 - 1503). Borgia tried to establish a hereditary monarchy in central Italy after his father died in 1503. But Borgia’s treacherous dealings made many enemies, and he failed. During a visit with Borgia to discuss relations with Florence, Machiavelli witnessed as Borgia lured his enemies to the city of Senigallia with gifts and promises of friendship and then had them all assassinated. Let us read a passage from the text in which Machiavelli gives an example of Cesare Borgia. The episode occurs after Borgia has conquered the region of Romagna, and now his task is to set the state in some kind of order. How does a prince who has just conquered a state gain the obedience of his subjects if those subjects are characterized by a human nature governed by fickleness, greed, fear, and the law of self-interest? Well, this is how Borgia went about it:

First, to bring about “peace and obedience,” he put in place a cruel and efficient minister. Later, Borgia decided that such excessive authority was no longer necessary, for he feared that it might become odious…. He had the minister placed one morning in Cesena on the piazza in two pieces with a block of wood and a bloodstained knife alongside him. The atrocity of such a spectacle left those people, at one and the same time, satisfied and stupefied.

What is brilliant about this action for Machiavelli is the way Borgia manages not only to exercise power but also to control and manipulate the signs of power. One of the great insights of The Prince is that to be an effective ruler you must learn how to orchestrate the semiotics of power, so as to place yourself in a position where you do not actually have to use power to achieve your aims. One is left wondering at the prodigious irony of Machiavelli’s treatise, which proposes as the supreme exemplar of virtù the one protagonist in contemporary Italian politics who was most beaten down and overcome by the forces of fortuna. Borgia’s life ended ignominiously, in poverty, with scurvy. He died a few years after his father’s death, at the age of 32, in a street brawl in Spain. Despite Borgia’s premature demise, Machiavelli believed that a strong leader like Borgia was just what Florence needed to raise morale, unite the people and raise the city state’s prominence to its former glory.

Machiavelli, did not operate by his own cynical rule book. Rather, his shrewd guidelines to power in the 16^th century, he was an exiled statesman angling for a post in the Florentine government. It was his hope that a strong sovereign, as outlined in his writing, could return Florence to its former glory. But Machiavelli would not find an audience for his work before his death and Florence was not restored to its former glory in his lifetime. France, then Spain and Austria, invaded Italy and its warring city-states were unable to defend themselves, leading to nearly 400 years of dominance by outside rulers.

Eventually, The Prince was published five years after Machiavelli’s death. Over the centuries that followed, the principles it espoused would trigger outrage as well as admiration and establish Machiavelli as a controversial and revolutionary political thinker. In 1559, all of Machiavelli’s works were placed on the Catholic church’s “Index of Prohibited Books.” The recently formed Protestant Church also condemned The Prince, and it was banned in Elizabethan England. Nonetheless, the book was widely read, and its author’s name became synonymous with cunning and unscrupulous behavior.

Although The Prince was not read by the person to whom it was dedicated, Lorenzo de Medici, Machiavelli would be blamed for inspiring Henry VIII (1491-1547), king of England (1509-1547) to defy the pope and seize religious authority for himself. William Shakespeare would cite Machiavelli as “the murderous Machiavel” in Henry VI, and many of his characters would embody Machiavellian traits. Philosopher Edmund Burke would describe the French Revolution as bearing evidence of the “odious maxims of a Machiavellian policy.” In the 20th century, some would point to Machiavelli as playing a role in the rise of dictators like Adolf Hitler and Joseph Stalin. Hitler kept a copy of The Prince by his bedside and Stalin was known to have read and annotated his copy of the book. Business leaders have looked to the work as a cutthroat approach to getting ahead, and the book has been called the “Mafia Bible” with gangsters, including John Gotti, quoting from its pages. Kissinger and Nixon preferred it as their bedtime reading.

Some scholars have questioned whether Machiavelli intended that readers take him at his word. Instead, they propose that The Prince was actually a satirical work and intended as a warning of what could happen if power is left unchecked. But most take it at face value as a cold-blooded blueprint for how to gain and hold onto power. Francis Bacon, the English statesman-scientist-philosopher, was among those who appreciated Machiavelli’s frank reflections early on, writing in 1605, “We are much beholden to Machiavel and others that write what men do and not what they ought to do.”

It is as if Machiavelli’s treatise is saying, almost against its own doctrine, that this vision of the world, this sort of radical political realism, where any means are justified if they serve the securement and consolidation of power, is doomed never really to flourish. Would BEYONDISM be justified to assert that The Prince was doomed from the beginning to the same sorry failure as Borgia’s political career. By that we mean that it is not by chance that the unredeemed realism of The Prince has not had any direct, concrete effect on political history. If its AMBITION was to be a handbook by which rulers could advance their own agendas, if its AMBITION was to instruct a prince who could one day unify Italy and throw out the foreigners, if its AMBITION was to found a school of political theory or promote some kind of trans-formation in the history of nation states, or even if its AMBITION was much more modest, namely to ingratiate its author with the Medici rulers of Florence, then we have no choice but to conclude that as a political treatise The Prince was an ABORTION. It failed to achieve its ends.

The abortive fate of The Prince makes you wonder why some of the great utopian texts of our tradition have had much more effect on reality itself, like The Republic of Plato, or Rousseau’s peculiar form of utopianism, which was so important for the French Revolution. Christianity itself— its imagination of another world BEYOND the so-called real world — completely transformed the real politics of Europe. Or Karl Marx, for that matter. It is not the realism of the Marxian analysis, it is not his critique of capitalism’s unsustainable systemic contradictions — it is more his utopian projection of a future communist state that inspired socialist movements and led to political revolutions throughout the world. You cannot get reality to bend to your will, you can only seduce it into transfiguration. And the fact remains that reality cannot be seduced by realism, only by trans-realism, if we may use a word that denotes more than fantasy, utopianism, intuitionism, or religious supernaturalism. Trans-realism refers to something that neither resists nor escapes reality but calls on reality to transcend itself, and to turn its prose into poetry.

What is suggested is that realism itself is doomed to a kind of fecklessness in the world of reality, while the real power — the real virtuous power — seems to be aligned with the faculty which Machiavelli held most in contempt, namely the imagination. It is the human imagination that in the long run proves itself the truly efficacious and revolutionary force.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

THIS is Niccolo: “The first method for estimating the intelligence of a ruler is to look at the men he has around him.”
HEAR the man himself as he duels with Titles and Honors: “It is not titles that honor men, but men that honor titles.”
ONCE he said: “Whoever believes that great advancement and new benefits make men forget old injuries is mistaken.”
UPON the LOVE of the masses you are proctected from those who threatens your power: “The best fortress is to be found in the love of the people, for although you may have fortresses, they will not save you if you are hated by the people.”
GREATNESS is the fodder feed for Machiavellianism: “Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great.”
HAVE a recipient mind and people will not deceive you (a recipe for minimizing hypocrites in your midst): “There is no other way to guard yourself against flattery than by making men understand that telling you the truth will not offend you.”
TRY in all situations to conjure your appearance: “Every one sees what you appear to be, few really know what you are.”

U_#153. Unveiling the Tragic Ambiguity of HUMAN Nature, Condition and Destiny!!!--->

Uncontestably, Thales (625? - 546?bc), a Greek philosopher, born in Miletus, Asia Minor was the founder of Greek philosophy. René Descartes (1596 - 1650), French philosopher, scientist, and mathematician, is sometimes called the father of modern philosophy. He is credited as the chief proponent of Rationalism (Latin ratio, “reason”). In philosophy, this is a system of thought that emphasizes the role of reason in obtaining knowledge, in contrast to Empiricism. Descartes believed that geometry represented the ideal for all sciences and philosophy. He held that by means of reason alone, certain universal, self-evident truths could be discovered, from which the remaining content of philosophy and the sciences could be deductively derived. He assumed that these self-evident truths were innate, not derived from sense experience. This type of rationalism was developed by other European philosophers, such as the Dutch philosopher Baruch Spinoza (1632 - 1677) and the German philosopher and mathematician Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz (1646 - 1716).

Empiricism in philosophy, is a doctrine that affirms that all knowledge is based on experience, and denies the possibility of spontaneous ideas or a priori thought. Until the 20th century the term empiricism was applied to the view held chiefly by the English philosophers of the 17th, 18th, and 19th centuries. Of these the English philosopher John Locke (1632 - 1704) was the first to give it systematic expression, although his compatriot, the philosopher Francis Bacon (1561 - 1626), had anticipated some of its characteristic conclusions.

The Age of Enlightenment is a term used to describe the trends in thought and letters in Europe and the American colonies during the 18th century prior to the French Revolution (1789-1799). The phrase was frequently employed by writers of the period itself, convinced that they were emerging from centuries of darkness and ignorance into a new age enlightened by reason, science, and a respect for humanity. The period also often is referred to as the Age of Reason. The precursors of the Enlightenment can be traced to the 17th century and earlier. They include the philosophical rationalists René Descartes and Baruch Spinoza, the political philosophers Thomas Hobbes and John Locke, and various skeptical thinkers in France such as Pierre Bayle. Equally important, however, were the self-confidence engendered by new discoveries in science—by Nicolaus Copernicus and Galileo, for example—and the spirit of cultural relativism encouraged by the exploration of the non-European world.

Idealism in philosophy, is a theory of reality and of knowledge that attributes to consciousness, or the immaterial mind, a primary role in the constitution of the world. More narrowly, within metaphysics, idealism is the view that all physical objects are mind-dependent and can have no existence apart from a mind that is conscious of them. This view is contrasted with Materialism, which maintains that consciousness itself is reducible to purely physical elements and processes — thus, according to the materialistic view, the world is entirely mind-independent, composed only of physical objects and physical interactions.

Idealism is opposed to realism, the view that mind-independent physical objects exist that can be known through the senses. Metaphysical realism has traditionally led to epistemological skepticism, the doctrine that knowledge of reality is impossible, and has thereby provided an important motivation for theories of idealism, which contend that reality is mind-dependent and that true knowledge of reality is gained by relying upon a spiritual or conscious source. In the 5th and 4th centuries bc, Plato postulated the existence of a realm of Ideas that the varied objects of common experience imperfectly reflect. He maintained that these ideal Forms are not only more clearly intelligible but also more real than the transient and essentially illusory objects themselves.

Generally regarded as the founder of the modern school of Idealism, Irish philosopher and clergyman George Berkeley (1685 - 1753) speculated that all aspects of everything of which one is conscious are actually reducible to the ideas present in the mind. The observer does not conjure external objects into existence, however; the true ideas of them are caused in the human mind directly by God. considered by many the most influential thinker of modern times German philosopher Immanuel Kant (1724 - 1804) greatly refined idealism through his critical inquiry into what he believed to be the limits of possible knowledge. Kant held that all that can be known of things is the way in which they appear in experience; there is no way of knowing what they are substantially in themselves. He also held, however, that the fundamental principles of all science are essentially grounded in the constitution of the mind rather than being derived from the external world.

German idealist philosopher Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel (1770 - 1831) who became one of the most influential thinkers of the 19th century, disagreed with Kant’s theory concerning the inescapable human ignorance of what things are in themselves, instead arguing for the ultimate intelligibility of all existence. Hegel also maintained that the highest achievements of the human spirit (culture, science, religion, and the state) are not the result of naturally determined processes in the mind, but are conceived and sustained by the dialectical activity of free, reflective intellect. Further strains of idealistic thought can be found in the works of German philosopher and educator Johann Gottlieb Fichte (1762 - 1814) and German philosopher Friedrich Schelling (1775 - 1854), English philosopher Francis Herbert Bradley (1846 - 1924), American philosopher and physicist Charles Sanders Peirce (1839 - 1914), American philosopher and teacher Josiah Royce (1855 - 1916) and Italian philosopher, historian, and political leader Benedetto Croce (1866 - 1952).

Dialectic in philosophy, is a method of investigating the nature of truth by critical analysis of concepts and hypotheses. One of the earliest examples of the dialectical method was the Dialogues of Greek philosopher Plato, in which the author sought to study truth through discussion in the form of questions and answers. Another noted Greek philosopher, Aristotle, thought of dialectic as the search for the philosophic basis of science, and he frequently used the term as a synonym for the science of logic. In applying the term dialectic to his philosophic system Hegel believed that the evolution of ideas occurs through a dialectical process — that is, a concept gives rise to its opposite, and as a result of this conflict, a third view, the synthesis, arises. The synthesis is at a higher level of truth than the first two views. Hegel’s work is based on the idealistic concept of a universal mind that, through evolution, seeks to arrive at the highest level of self-awareness and freedom. German political philosopher and revolutionary Karl Marx (1818 - 1883) applied the concept of dialectic to social and economic processes. Marx’s so-called dialectical materialism, frequently considered to be a revision of the Hegelian system, asserts that ideas can arise only as a result of a material condition.

Existentialism is a philosophical movement or tendency, emphasizing individual existence, freedom, and choice, that influenced many diverse writers in the 19th and 20th centuries. Elements of existentialism can be found in the thought (and life) of Greek philosopher Socrates (469 - 399bc), in the Bible, and in the work of many premodern philosophers and writers. The first to anticipate the major concerns of modern existentialism was the 17th-century French philosopher French philosopher, mathematician, and physicist Blaise Pascal (1623 - 62) who is considered one of the great minds in Western intellectual history. Pascal rejected the rigorous rationalism of his contemporary René Descartes, asserting, in his Pensées (1670), that a systematic philosophy that presumes to explain God and humanity is a form of pride. Like later existentialist writers, he saw human life in terms of paradoxes: The human self, which combines mind and body, is itself a paradox and contradiction.

Danish religious philosopher Søren Kierkegaard (1813 - 1855) generally regarded as the founder of modern existentialism, reacted against the systematic absolute idealism of Hegel, who claimed to have worked out a total rational understanding of humanity and history. Kierkegaard, on the contrary, stressed the ambiguity and absurdity of the human situation. The individual’s response to this situation must be to live a totally committed life, and this commitment can only be understood by the individual who has made it. The individual therefore must always be prepared to defy the norms of society for the sake of the higher authority of a personally valid way of life. Kierkegaard ultimately advocated a “leap of faith” into a Christian way of life, which, although incomprehensible and full of risk, was the only commitment he believed could save the individual from despair.

German philosopher, poet, and classical philologist Friedrich Nietzsche (1844 - 1900) who was one of the most provocative and influential thinkers of the 19th century, and who was not acquainted with the work of Kierkegaard, influenced subsequent existentialist thought through his criticism of traditional metaphysical and moral assumptions and through his espousal of tragic pessimism and the life-affirming individual will that opposes itself to the moral conformity of the majority. In contrast to Kierkegaard, whose attack on conventional morality led him to advocate a radically individualistic Christianity, Nietzsche proclaimed the “death of God” and went on to reject the entire Judeo-Christian moral tradition in favor of a heroic pagan ideal.

Phenomenology is a 20th-century philosophical movement dedicated to describing the structures of experience as they present themselves to consciousness, without recourse to theory, deduction, or assumptions from other disciplines such as the natural sciences. Its founder war German philosopher Edmund Husserl (1859-1938). German philosopher Martin Heidegger (1889 - 1976) who developed existential phenomenology and is widely regarded as the most original and influential 20th-century philosopher, like Pascal and Kierkegaard, reacted against an attempt to put philosophy on a conclusive rationalistic basis — in this case the phenomenology of Husserl. Heidegger argued that humanity finds itself in an incomprehensible, indifferent world. Human beings can never hope to understand why they are here; instead, each individual must choose a goal and follow it with passionate conviction, aware of the certainty of death and the ultimate meaninglessness of one’s life. Heidegger contributed to existentialist thought an original emphasis on being and ontology as well as on language.

French philosopher, dramatist, novelist, and political journalist Jean-Paul Sartre (1905-1980) who was a leading exponent of existentialism first gave the term existentialism general currency by using it for his own philosophy and by becoming the leading figure of a distinct movement in France that became internationally influential after World War II. Sartre’s philosophy is explicitly atheistic and pessimistic; he declared that human beings require a rational basis for their lives but are unable to achieve one, and thus human life is a “futile passion.” Sartre nevertheless insisted that his existentialism is a form of humanism, and he strongly emphasized human freedom, choice, and responsibility. He eventually tried to reconcile these existentialist concepts with a Marxist analysis of society and history. Humanism in philosophy is an attitude that emphasizes the dignity and worth of the individual. A basic premise of humanism is that people are rational beings who possess within themselves the capacity for truth and goodness.

Utilitarianism (Latin utilis, “useful”) is the doctrine that what is useful is good, and consequently, that the ethical value of conduct is determined by the utility of its results. The term utilitarianism is more specifically applied to the proposition that the supreme objective of moral action is the achievement of the greatest happiness for the greatest number. This objective is also considered the aim of all legislation and is the ultimate criterion of all social institutions. The utilitarian theory of ethics is generally opposed to ethical doctrines in which some inner sense or faculty, often called the conscience, is made the absolute arbiter of right and wrong. Utilitarianism is likewise at variance with the view that moral distinctions depend on the will of God and that the pleasure given by an act to the individual alone who performs it is the decisive test of good and evil. Utilitarianism was enunciated in its most characteristic form by the British theologian, clergyman, and philosopher William Paley (1743-1805) and by the British philosopher, economist, and jurist Jeremy Bentham (1748 - 1832). British philosopher-economist John Stuart Mill (1806-1873) systematized the utilitarian doctrines of his father British philosopher-economist James Mill (1773 - 1836) and Bentham, basing knowledge upon human experience and emphasizing human reason.

Egoism is the doctrine or attitude that one’s own interests are of greater importance than any other consideration or thing. In contrast, Altruism is devotion to the welfare of others. It is the English form of the French word altruisme created by the 19th-century French philosopher and sociologist Auguste Comte from the Italian word altrui, meaning “of or to others.” The word has gradually come into more general use. In philosophy altruism describes a theory of conduct that aspires to the good of others as the ultimate end for any moral action.

Naturalism in philosophy, is a movement affirming that nature is the whole of reality and can be understood only through scientific investigation. Denying the existence of the supernatural and deemphasizing metaphysics, or the study of the ultimate nature of reality, naturalism affirms that cause-and-effect relationships, as in physics and chemistry, are sufficient to account for all phenomena. Teleological conceptions, which suggest design and metaphysical necessity in nature, while not necessarily invalid, are excluded from consideration. The ethical implication, since the naturalist denies any transcendent or supernatural end for humankind, is that values must be found within the social context. It is impossible to determine what is best in an ultimate context, because the ultimate is beyond discovery. Values, therefore, are relative, and ethics is based on custom, inclination, or some form of utilitarianism, the doctrine that what is useful is good. Naturalism is rooted in British empiricism, and in European positivism, the doctrine that denies any validity to metaphysical speculation. It came to full flower in the late 19th- and 20th-century works of the American philosopher, poet, and novelist George Santayana (1863-1952), American philosopher, psychologist, and educator John Dewey (1859-1952), and their followers.

Developing his politics and ethics from a naturalistic basis of self-interest, English philosopher and political theorist Thomas Hobbes (1588-1679) held that since people are fearful and predatory they must submit to the absolute supremacy of the state, in both secular and religious matters, in order to live by reason and gain lasting preservation. Within psychology, he proposed that all human actions are caused by material phenomena (see Materialism), with people motivated by what he termed appetite (movement toward an object; similar to pleasure) or aversion (movement away from an object; similar to pain).

American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842 - 1910) is credited for developing the philosophy of pragmatism. Pragmatism is a philosophical movement that has had a major impact on American culture from the late 19th century to the present. Pragmatism calls for ideas and theories to be tested in practice, by assessing whether acting upon the idea or theory produces desirable or undesirable results. According to pragmatists, all claims about truth, knowledge, morality, and politics must be tested in this way. Pragmatism has been critical of traditional Western philosophy, especially the notion that there are absolute truths and absolute values. Although pragmatism was popular for a time in France, England, and Italy, most observers believe that it encapsulates an American faith in know-how and practicality and an equally American distrust of abstract theories and ideologies.

Wilhelm Wundt (1832 - 1920), is a German psychologist, generally recognized as the founder of scientific psychology as an independent discipline. He was professor of philosophy at the University of Leipzig from 1875 to 1917. Wundt offered in 1862 the first academic course in psychology and established the first laboratory for experimental psychology in 1879. In the United States, Harvard University professor William James observed the emergence of psychology with great interest. Although trained in physiology and medicine, James was fascinated by psychology and philosophy. In 1875 he offered his first course in psychology.

During the first decades of psychology, two main schools of thought dominated the field: structuralism and functionalism. Structuralism was a system of psychology developed by Edward Bradford Titchener, an American psychologist who studied under Wilhelm Wundt. Structuralists believed that the task of psychology is to identify the basic elements of consciousness in much the same way that physicists break down the basic particles of matter. For example, Titchener identified four elements in the sensation of taste: sweet, sour, salty, and bitter. The main method of investigation in structuralism was introspection. The influence of structuralism in psychology faded after Titchener’s death in 1927.

In contradiction to the structuralist movement, William James promoted a school of thought known as functionalism, the belief that the real task of psychology is to investigate the function, or purpose, of consciousness rather than its structure. James was highly influenced by Darwin’s evolutionary theory that all characteristics of a species must serve some adaptive purpose. Functionalism enjoyed widespread appeal in the United States. Its three main leaders were James Rowland Angell (1869 - 1949), a student of James; John Dewey (1859 - 1952), who was also one of the foremost American philosophers and educators; and Harvey A. Carr (1873 - 1954), a psychologist at the University of Chicago.

Alongside Wundt and James, a third prominent leader of the new psychology was Austrian physician, neurologist Sigmund Freud (1856 - 1939) and founder of psychoanalysis. In contrast to Wundt and James, for whom psychology was the study of conscious experience, Freud believed that people are motivated largely by unconscious forces, including strong sexual and aggressive drives. He likened the human mind to an iceberg: The small tip that floats on the water is the conscious part, and the vast region beneath the surface comprises the unconscious. Freud believed that although unconscious motives can be temporarily suppressed, they must find a suitable outlet in order for a person to maintain a healthy personality.

From the start of psychoanalysis, Freud attracted followers, many of whom later proposed competing theories. As a group, these neo-Freudians shared the assumption that the unconscious plays an important role in a person’s thoughts and behaviors. Most parted company with Freud, however, over his emphasis on sex as a driving force. For example, Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung (1875 - 1961), who founded the analytical school of psychology, theorized that all humans inherit a collective unconscious that contains universal symbols and memories from their ancestral past. Austrian physician Alfred Adler (1870 - 1937), who founded the school of Individual Psychology, theorized that people are primarily motivated to overcome inherent feelings of inferiority. He wrote about the effects of birth order in the family and coined the term sibling rivalry. Karen Horney (1885 - 1952), a German-born American psychiatrist, argued that humans have a basic need for love and security, and become anxious when they feel isolated and alone.

No psychologist or personality theorist can avoid being a philosopher of sorts. The science of personality theorizing has its origins in philosophy. The very act of theorizing or thinking about what we see, entails making certain assumptions about the world and human nature. Consequently, many of the differences among personality theorists can be attributed to differences in philosophical assumptions.

As the above mentioned philosophers and psychologist could not agree among themselves on various critical issues about HUMAN NATURE, it is the chief concern of BEYONDISM to put these differences in their right perspective.

The first issue is that of freedom versus determinism. Theorists vary as to whether they believe that people basically have control over their behaviors and understand the motives behind them or whether they believe that the behavior of people is basically determined by internal or external forces over which they have little, if any, control. Most of us experience a subjective sense of freedom when we make a decision, but some theorist, such as American psychologist B.F. Skinner (1904 - 1990), would suggest that our experience of freedom is delusive. Theorists also differ in the extent to which they would like their theories to be used to cultivate freedom in HUMAN NATURE or to exercise greater control over it. American psychologist Carl Rogers (1902 - 87) seeks to increase a client’s sense of freedom and responsibility, whereas Skinner aims to develop a technology to control human behavior.

A second dimension is that of constitutional versus situational factors in personality. Theorists differ over whether inherited and inborn characteristics or factors in the environment have the more important influence on a person’s behavior. Some theorists, such as American behaviorist psychologist Raymond Cattell (1905 – 1998), stress the role of long-term personality traits in predicting behaviors; others, such as Canadian-American psychologist Albert Bandura (b.1925), emphasize situational variables.

A third major issue is that of uniqueness versus universality. Some theorists believe that each individual is unique and cannot be compared with other. Others contend that people are basically very similar in nature. American psychologist Gordon Allport (1897-1967) developed some research techniques precisely to explore the uniqueness of individuals. Eastern theories on the other hand, tend to point toward the universality of HUMAN NATURE.

Proactive versus reactive is a fourth dimension that influences personality theories. Proactive theories view the human being as acting on his or her initiative rather than simply reacting. The sources of behaviour are perceived as lying within the individual, who does more than just react to stimuli from the outside world. Humanistic theorist like American psychologist Abraham Maslow (1908-70) judged orthodox behaviorism and psychoanalysis to be too rigidly theoretical and concerned with illness, and so he developed a theory of motivation describing the process by which an individual progress from basic needs such as food and sex to the highest needs of what he called self-actualization—the fulfillment of one's greatest human potential. Other theorists like John Dollard (b.1990) and Neat Miller (b.1909), suggest that HUMAN NATURE seeks primarily to maintain an internal state of equilibrium and balance through drive reduction. Such a state of balance is known as homeostasis as compared with heterostasis.

Finally, personality theorists can be compared as to whether they are optimistic or pessimistic about the possibility of change. Do significant changes in personality and behavior occur throughout the course of a lifetime? If an individual is motivated can he or she effect genuine changes in his or her personality? Can we help others change by restructuring their environment? Some personality theorist are decidedly more optimist and hopeful others concerning these possibilities. Freud, for example, is generally seen as a pessimist because he believed that early childhood experiences firmly shape an individual’s personality. Behavior and learning theorists, on the other hand are usually very optimistic concerning the possibility of change.

In his book The Challenge Modernization (1963) the 20^th century political scientist I. R Sinai advocates for a mode of valuation which accepts the ‘tragic nature of human destiny’, by appreciating the ‘tragic ambiguity of human condition’. Sinai called for a mode of thought which can understand human history in all it is incongruities, paradoxes and overpowering grandeur:

The concept of man as an animal guided by reason ignores the deeper, irrational forces which shape, drive and bind the individual to their peremptory demands…Civilization is an ambivalent precarious organization, and that the tragic ‘dialectic of civilization’ is the result of this interaction. Faith in the perfectibility of Man and society, belief in progress, in the furtherance of humanity, is rather naïve and shallow. On the other hand man is not an imperfect creature because an imperfect man can only create an imperfect society, a parody of soaring expectations, always at war with itself, always reaching out for ideals which ineluctable reality snatches from its grasps. Every form of society is thus a painful and antagonistic process, never a harmonious or finished conclusion…Man is not born absolutely good and he is not everywhere in chains, only because of his environmental situation, or because of any particular system of property relations. He is on the contrary a divided and fallible creature, divided in the deepest layers of his unconscious, as he is on the highest levels of consciousness, tainted with and ruled by blind necessity…Man is both creative and destructive, swayed both by love and hate. He is as much moved by his passion for creation, for justice, for truth, for the fulfillment of an ideal as he is by his greed for power, domination and gain. Man is both imperfect and imperfectible, an eternal battleground, between conflicting urges and impulses, lost alike to seeds of nobility and ignominy. Man tends to be intoxicated by power. Man’s ambitions and lusts enter into every relationship and every institution, distorting and corrupting his most generous aspirations, overseeing the powerful strength of forces of habit, custom, tradition, and inertia which are both form of human society. The world inhabited by man is not as tractable as the philosophers of the enlightenment, of liberalism and of socialism in all its forms imagined….Viewed in this light, history is then a permanent, an eternal, conflict between man, driven by sublime discontents and aspirations, and the inherent limitations of his own nature and of his environment, unable to transcend the antagonisms at the heart of the world. All mans bravest efforts, all his quests, all his discoveries, can never really eliminate or overcome the primordial pain and contradiction at the heart of things.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TO know a uniquely human kind of happiness, emanates from accepting the limits of human reason and LIFE.
HUMAN beings are not ABSURD, and the world is not absurd, but for humans to be in the world is ABSURD.
ORDER, clarity, meaning, and eternal LIFE, is what we yearn for; that is why we feel not at home in the world.
UNDERLYING is the fact that the world is chaotic, obscure, indifferent and offers only suffering and DEATH.
GIVEN estrangement or alienation from the world? We must recognize the limitations implied in being human.
HONING integrity and dignity is facing our human condition as it is; find purely human solutions to our plight.
THE revolution needed is to collectively build a society nourished by the values of moderation and social justice.

R_#154. The TEN AFRICAN Commandments: Cultural and Psychological Significance.--->

Respecting the cultural compulsions of your society, goes along way in cultivating your inner peace. It may also be persuasive, in being taken seriously by the society you live in. In this way, you will find that, you are being influential without making so much effort. “Custom, then, is the great guide of human life,” wrote Scottish philosopher David Hume.

Culture is the patterns of behavior and thinking that people living in social groups learn, create, and share. Culture distinguishes one human group from others. It also distinguishes humans from other animals. A people’s culture includes their beliefs, rules of behavior, language, rituals, art, technology, styles of dress, ways of producing and cooking food, religion, and political and economic systems.

Culture developed together with the evolution of the human species, Homo sapiens, and is closely related to human biology. The ability of people to have culture comes in large part from their physical features: having big, complex brains; an upright posture; free hands that can grasp and manipulate small objects; and a vocal tract that can produce and articulate a wide range of sounds. These distinctively human physical features began to develop in African ancestors of humans more than four million years ago. The earliest physical evidence of culture is crude stone tools produced in East Africa over two million years ago.

Some scholars have invested their precious time in unveiling what CULTURE really is. U.S. author, editor, playwright, and political activist Imamu Amiri Baraka (1934 - ) had his idea: “‘Culture’ is simply how one lives, and is connected to history by habit.” “Culture is the passion for sweetness and light, and (what is more) the passion for making them prevail,” so taught British poet and critic Matthew Arnold (1822 - 1888). British poet and critic Matthew Arnold (1822 - 1888) illumined: “Culture, the acquainting ourselves with the best that has been known and said in the world, and thus with the history of the human spirit.”

The outlined TEN AFRICAN COMMANDMENTS, are not cast in stone as in those which were give to Mosess, in Mt. Sinai by YAWHEH. They can change in the future evolution of our society. But not NOW.

Get Married.

Marriage demonstrates caring for another person, good character, hard work, companionship and in the long-run parental responsibility. A person can remain irresponsible, selfish, lazy and reckless as long he or she does not get married. The maxim is: “Get married first, and other things will follow”.

Bear Children.

Get Completeness.

Without marriage a man or a woman is a human being minus. Once a person marries the feeling is that he or she is complete and responsible, for he or she has extended the circle of LIFE. Even if a spouse may prove a headache, she or he gives one a bonus in one’s LIFE expectancy.

Be a link.

Marriage serve as a link between the past, present and future generations. The past generations are represented by one’s parents and grandparents, the present generations is represented in the couple (one’s own LIFE), and the future generation comes in through couple’s childbearing.

Build a family.

Marriage is not simply for self-gratification or just bearing children, but extending the LIFE and handling it down the living torch of human existence.

Widen Family Relationship.

Marriage provides for new family relationships by creating in-laws and other relatives on both sides. It extends the web of kinships such that the children in the new family have many relationships.

Remember the Departed.

Through marriage and childbearing the parents are remembered by their own children, when they die. Hope that these words of U.S. writer Jack London (1876 - 1916) shall be used to describe you after your death: “He was older than the days he had seen and the breaths he had drawn. He linked the past with the present, and the eternity behind him throbbed through him in a mighty rhythm to which he swayed as the tides and seasons swayed.”

Regain Lost Immortality.

Through marriage and childbearing the departed are in effect, ‘reborn’, not in total being, but by seeing physical features in children. This becomes a counter-measure against the lost immortality.

Bring People Together.

The purpose of marriage and childbearing is to reverse the trend of death, by bringing the past generations together. This is both a symbolic and realistic act because children representing the departed are born and in this way past, present and future generation live together.

Get status in the Society.

The individual is extended BEYOND death by children who survive him or her. They remain constant evidence that their father and mother once existed. The children keep the memory of their parents.

Here are SEVEN soulful sounds of BEYONDIST THUNDERING THOUGHT:

TRADITIONS and social rules of your community is what you must accommodate your actions to.
HORRENDOUS disapproval by your custom or culture is as lethal and trenchant, as sanction by law.
OUTRIGHT questioning or criticizing your cultural ideals is to foolishly invite even greater hostility.
USUALLY, when the bulk of the population duly accepts a body of notions, it becomes consecrated.
GAINFULY, a knowledge of your society’s thought and LIFE is essential to high standard of ettiquete.
HAVING not this knowledge, one remains ignorant of the best moral achievements of one’s heritage.
TAKE care of our culture never to perish in an avalanche of words, or in the madness of Globalization.

BEYONDISM BACKUP #20
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#20 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
Entertain no scapegoats, tolerate no excuses, so as to immerse your PSYCHE fully in your immediate world!

Behaviour dysfunction or mental disturbance is caused by a threat, which is the awareness of a menace to your SELFHOOD. If you react appropriately to the threat, PSYCHIC health is preserved. If not, the threat leads to defenses, neurotic and psychotic symptoms, and even criminal behaviour. BEYONDISM as a THERAPY narrows down on freeing you from inappropriate perceptions. Also behaviours, cognitions, and emotions you may have set up to protect yourself from threat.
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Phenomenal Field Theory emphasises seeing the world through a clear eyes and mind.
Distinguished Developers: American teacher, scholar, and successful basketball and football coach Donald Snygg (1904 – 1967)
and American teacher, consultant, and psychologist Arthur W. Combs (1912 – 1999)

UNDETERRED, all behaviour is determined by the conscious self, known as “the phenomenal field”.
PRECISELY, the Phenomenal Field (or Self) is our subjective reality, all that we are timely aware of.
GENERALLY, it is the “field” of our experiences, behaviours, thoughts, images, and ideas like justice.
ROBUST motivation is the basic need of everyone to preserve and enhance the PHENOMENAL self.
AFFIRMATIVELY, the substantial characteristics of all parts of the field are governed by this need.
DILIGENT and pogressive learning is simply a matter of improving the quality of one’s experiences.
ESSENTIALLY, this is done by extracting some meaningful detail from the confusion that surrounds us.
Timely Therapy: - You cannot understand people until you have walked a meter or more in their shoes.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Happiness is an inner state of well being, that enable us to profit from our highest thought and solid values.

Economic growth does not in itself increase happiness in the long-term.
This is because of the prevalence of social comparison in people’s evaluations of their income.
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Easterlin Paradox posits that happiness does not increase, once basic needs are fulfilled.
Distinguished Developer: American economist Richard Ainly Easterlin (b. 1926) in 1973.

UNLIMITED increase in wealth, DOES not lead to an improvement in Subjective Well Being (SWB).
PRECISELY, this is because, economic development induces changes, in critical, intermediate factors.
GIVEN so, these factors triggers some psychological mechanism, that lessen the improvement of SWB.
RELATIVE income level is what determines an individual’s SWB, as opposed to general income level.
ACTUALLY, it is common for people to compare themselves to others in a particular economic class.
DUE general increase of income, makes people not to see income as increasing at the personal level.
EXPLAINED then, is why a rapidly developing economy, does not result in an improvement to SWB.
Timely Therapy: - It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes for real HAPPINESS.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
Grow up to be a dedicated fellow, but be cautious of pouring your mind in a certain cause and over-valuing it!

“Behold, I do not give lectures or a little charity,
When I give I give myself.”
- U.S. poet Walt Whitman (1819 - 1892)
“Catholics and Communists have committed great crimes, but at least they have not stood aside, like an established society, and been indifferent. I would rather have blood on my hands than water like Pilate.”
- British novelist Graham Greene (1904 - 1991)
“If you’ll be my voice today, I’ll be yours for the next four years.”
- U.S. president Bill Clinton (1946 - ). Election day, while suffering from laryngitis.
“It isn’t until you begin to fight in your own cause that you (a) become really committed to winning, and (b) become a genuine ally of other people struggling for their freedom.” - U.S. writer Robin Morgan (1941 - )
“I’ve never worked for prizes...I’m as ready to receive prizes as I am to be thrown into prison, not that I’m ungrateful for this honor; it’s just that neither the one nor the other could ever divert me from the course I’ve set myself.” - Polish labor leader and president Lech Walesa (1943 - ). When awarded the Nobel Peace Prize.
Look at the people who volunteer to help a certain political party. They will obviously tend to over-estimate their chances of winning. Upon making a public or private decision to act, we often feel bound to follow through on it. We will not change our minds very easily, especially if that decision was public. This is due to fear of social rejection or simply the threat of cognitive dissonance.
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Commitment entails public or private decision to act.
Distinguished Developers: Knox and Inkster (1968)

UNWAVERING willingness, to invest one’s time and energy, in a cause or action, is productive.
PERSONAL sacrifice prudently shows others that, you are not just acting out of self-interest.
GAINFULLY building trust in any relationship, goes towards strengthening the particular bond.
ROMANTIC relationships require more mutual and unwritten understanding, than friendships.
ALWAYS seek to stick to what you have signed up to do or not to do, through thick and thin.
DESIRING to be a BLESSED BEYONDIST? So never break promises, or even betray any friend.
ENTRENCH your mind and spirit fully in BEYONDISM, through all the changing scenes of LIFE.
Timely Therapy: - The quality of your LIFE is in direct proportion to your keen focus on excellence.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
Appreciating duality is very liberating, for in order to really know love you must accept sorrow and risk grief.

A mother is asked to imagine how she would feel seven years after the death of her child. She is likely to focus exclusively on that tragedy, and fail to consider the many other events that will happen over that time period, capture her attention, require her participation, and hence influence her general emotional state.
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Focalism (focusing illusion) entails thinking that an emotion is driven by a single event.
Distinguished Developers: Erber and Tesser (1992), Wilson, Wheatley, Meyers, Gilbert and Axsom (2000)

USUAL focalism is the tendency to place too much emphasis on a single factor when making predictions.
PEOPLE tend to overwhelmingly believe that, being richer moneywise would surely make them HAPPIER.
GENERALLY, nothing in LIFE is quite as important as you THINK it is, while you are THINKING about it.
RESEARCH shows that on a large scale, average increases in income do not lead to enduring well-being.
ALWAYS thinking about how money might impact our level of HAPPINESS, is part of our Human Nature.
DULY, we are likely to focus on the possibility of engaging in more pleasurable pursuits (e.g., relaxing).
ESSENTIALLY, we ignore the time spent working, or engaged in other activities less related to happiness.
Timely Therapy: - You cannot protect yourself from sadness, without protecting yourself from happiness.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
You should evaluate a person authentically, or to a little extent by one’s foes, one’s friends, and circumstance.

“My friend, judge not me,
Thou seest I judge not thee.
Betwixt the stirrup and the ground
Mercy I asked, mercy I found.”
- English antiquary and historian William Camden (1551 - 1623)
“Why was it that everybody would always judge one black person by the way another black person behaved. As long as you are black, any other black person is ‘your people.’”
- Nigerian novelist and publisher Buchi Emecheta (1944 - )
“It is obvious that ‘obscenity’ is not a term capable of exact legal definition; in the practice of the Courts, it means ‘anything that shocks the magistrate.’” - British philosopher Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970)
“When it comes to interpreting other people’s behavior, human beings invariably make the mistake of overestimating the importance of fundamental character traits and underestimating the importance of the situation and context. We will always reach for a ‘dispositional’ explanation for events, as opposed to a contextual explanation.” - British-born U.S. author Malcolm Gladwell (1963 - )
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Ultimate Attribution Error (UAE): We assume broad groups have similar disposition.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Thomas Fraser Pettigrew (b. 1931)

ULTIMATE Attribution Error is likely to happen to individuals who possess negative prejudices.
PREJUDICED individuals are more likely to attribute an outgroup member’s negative behaviours to:
GENERAL dispositional, INTERNAL (personality based, or possibly genetically determined) causes.
REALLY, these same people are more likely to attribute outgroup member’s positive behaviours to:
ADVANTAGED treatment, exceptional case, high levels of motivation, or simply situational causes.
DISSOCIATING a positive behaviour from an outgroup individual and their group is what is done.
EXTERNAL causes are attributed to negative ingroup behaviours and positive ones to dispositional.
Timely Therapy: - In judging others, value the role of character traits and the importance of the situation.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Many of us carry a burden of subjective baggage planted in childhood, nurtured through taboos and myths.

“I swear to the Lord
I still can’t see
Why Democracy means
Everybody but me.”
- U.S. novelist, playwright, and short-story writer Langston Hughes (1902 - 1967)
“The historian must not try to know what is truth, if he values his honesty; for if he cares for his truths, he is certain to falsify his facts.” - U.S. historian Henry Adams (1838 - 1918)
“Oh, who is that young sinner with the handcuffs on his wrists?
And what has he been after that they groan and shake their fists?
And wherefore is he wearing such a conscience-stricken air?
Oh they’re taking him to prison for the colour of his hair.”
- British poet and classicist A. E. Housman (1859 - 1936)
“Ignorance, arrogance, and racism have bloomed as Superior Knowledge in all too many universities.”
- U.S. novelist and poet Alice Walker (1944 - )
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Bias Blind Spot affirms how we do not compensate enough for our own bias.
Distinguished Developers: Pronin, E.; Lin, D. Y.; Ross, L. (2002)

UNDERSTAND: Bias Blind Spot is the bias/error of seeing the impact of biases on others’ judgment.
PROACTIVELY, this happens while failing to recognise the impact of biases on one’s own judgment.
GOODLY, we are convinced of ‘how’ and ‘why’ we make decisions, and ignore the role played by bias.
REALLY, many of our decisions are formed from cognitive shortcuts, which are unconscious processes.
ACTUAL unawareness of unconscious processes, shields us from seeing their influence in the decision.
DULY made aware of biases acting on our decisions, or judgments, we are still unable to control them.
EVEN if we are truly told that we are biased, most often, we are unable to alter our biased perception.
Timely Therapy: - False belief: People have a right to their own opinion but not a right to their own facts.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
Two things that must matter to you - the only motivation points for living - are communication and empathy.

Take the case of a junior employee in an organisation.
Assume that he or she is talking to a higher level employee.
Both individuals will practically tend to accommodate each other,
By realising their differences in social status and rankings or positions.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Communication Accommodation Theory (CAT) links language, context, and identity.
Distinguished Developer: British-American social psychologist Howard Giles (b. 1946)

USUAL CAT concerns the behavioural changes we make to attune our communication to our partner.
PAIRED here is the extent to which people perceive their partners as appropriately attuning to them.
GRANTED, CAT lies in the idea that people adjust (or accommodate) their style of speech to others.
REALISTICALLY doing this helps the message sender to gain affirmative approval from the receiver.
ALSO it increases efficiency in communication, and helps the sender maintain a positive social identity.
DUE accommodation is corely considered to be between the message sender and the message receiver.
ESSENTIALLY, the communicator also often accommodates to people that are watching the interaction.
Timely Therapy: - We should vary our communicative styles in ways that reflect our differing relationships.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #8:--->
Abetting the unequal access to opportunities and unfair distribution of resources, is dancing on a volcano.

Have you heard in the media of a common situation where jobs are scarce?
And an extremist group blames immigrants for “taking the food out of our children’s mouths”?
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Realistic Conflict Theory (RCT) explains how limited resources leads to conflict.
Distinguished Developer: Turkish-American social psychologist Muzafer Sherif (1906 – 1988)

UNDERSTAND: Realistic Conflict Theory (RCT), is also Realistic Group Conflict Theory (RGCT).
PROFUSE intergroup hostility is as a result of conflicting goals and competition over limited resources.
GROUPS may be in competition for a real or perceived scarcity of resources such as money or power.
RESENTMENT is in cases where groups see the competition over resources as having a zero-sums fate.
ACUTELY, this is when only one group is the winner (obtains the needed resources) and the other loses.
DUE length and severity of the conflict is based upon the perceived value and shortage of the resource.
ESTEEMEED relations can only be restored if superordinate goals (requiring joint effort) are put in place.
Timely Therapy: - Pre-empt conflict on resources by setting up joint councils, to decide fairly on allocation.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #9:--->
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist; one who subdues by force hath overcome but half his or her foe.

Perhaps you are a Kikuyu and you hold negative stereotypes about Luos. These stereotypes can be reduced by having you interact with Luos, in a supportive, friendly environment.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Contact Hypothesis explains how bringing enemies together, increases understanding.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Gordon Willard Allport (1897 – 1967)

USUAL Contact Hypothesis suggests that interpersonal contact between groups can reduce prejudice.
PREJUDICE can be mitigated under: equal status, common goals, cooperation, and institutional support.
GHASTLY contact in which members of one group are treated as subordinates cannot reduce prejudice.
REALLY, this could make things worse. Also the members of the two groups should have shared ideals.
ACTUALLY, when two groups work or do things together, this is likely to result in changed attitudes.
DUE support of the contact from group leaders or other authority figures is a very indispensable factor.
ESSENTIAL increase in empathy helps those in a group to see things from the other group’s perspective.
Timely Therapy: - Contact with outgroup members allows us to sense how they feel and view the world.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #10:--->
Beauty is a social necessity; the greatest challenge of our Time is to ally beauty, fairness and lust for learning.

Have you seen individuals who have been pulled away from their family by their work?
You have witnessed them trying to even the scales with expensive holidays overseas.
They are trying to trade (short-term value) money for (long-term value) emotion.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Equity Theory affirms that we are happiest where the give and take is about equal.
Distinguished Developer: Belgian workplace and behavioural psychologist J. Stacy Adams (b.1925)

USUAL Equity Theory determines whether resources distribution is fair to both relational partners.
POTENT Equity is measured by comparing the RATIO of contributions and benefits for each person.
GENERALLY, if one person is getting too little from a relationship, then one is going to be unhappy.
REALLY, the person getting the lion’s share will also be feeling rather GUILTY about this imbalance.
ACTUALLY, in short-term relationships people tend to trade in things, such as giving out small sums.
DUE to a higher level human need, in longer-term relationships the trade is often more EMOTIONAL.
EQUITY Theory is also Inequity Theory as it is the unequal difference that is the area of interest.
Timely Therapy: - If you are getting the best from a relationship, resist attempts to change the balance.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #11:--->
We were united by one common bond of interest, for we speak each other’s language of an African Awakening.

You want to send a package to a named person in Nairobi but do not know his address. So you send it to a friend there, asking him just to forward it to anyone in the region, who might know of someone who knows of the target person, with a request to keep forwarding the package until it reaches its destination. In a few weeks you will hear from the target person that he has received the parcel!
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Small World Theory or Six Degrees of Separation outlines how we are connected by six hops.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Stanley Milgram (1933 — 1984)

USUALLY, in a world of over 7 billion people, it seems hard to believe the Six Degrees of Separation.
POSITED by this theory is that we are all CONNECTED to each other by SIX or fewer acquaintances.
GENERALLY, we all have unique friends and they have further friends who have friends again and so on.
REALISTICALLY, there are, at most, SIX people STANDING between you and President Uhuru Kenyatta.
ASSUME that you know 50 individuals or have 50 friends and these 50 friends of yours know 50 others.
DULY repeating this for SIX HOPS, over 15.62 billion people will have been reached by the FINAL HOP.
ESSENTIAL surprise is how often you can meet a stranger and find you have acquaintances in common.
Timely Therapy: - When seeking to build trust with someone, see if you can find a common acquaintance.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #12:--->
The whole of our sermon is to connect empathy and passion; and love will be exalted and seen at its height.

It has been noted that during the early ‘honeymoon’ period of a romantic relationship, the balance of exchange is largely ignored. Only later are costs related to satisfaction in the relationship taken into consideration.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Social Exchange Theory focuses on rewards received proportional to costs and investments.
Distinguished Developers: American social psychologists John W. Thibaut (1917 – 1986) and Harold H. Kelley (1921 –2003),
the American sociologists George C. Homans (1910 – 1989), Peter M. Blau (1918 – 2002),
Richard Marc Emerson (d. 1982), and Claude Lévi-Strauss (1908– 2009)

UNILATERALLY, an individual can affect his or her outcomes in a relationship through chosen behaviours.
PRACTICAL outcomes received in a relationship could define an individual’s attraction to a relationship.
GAINFUL percept is on the balance between what we put into the relationship and what we get out of it.
REALISTIC kind of relationship we deserve and the chances of having a better one is a key consideration.
ACTUAL comparison level is against the give-and-take ratio and also for the ALTERNATIVE relationships.
DUE high comparison level, may make us believe the world is full of LOVELY people waiting to meet us.
ESSENTIAL low level, make us stay in a high-cost relationship by believing we could not find any better.
Timely Therapy: - When people call in favours, think of the reasonability of exchange you have with them.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #13:--->
There is enough magic in our hearts to forge irrevocable bonds: we are each other’s business and magnitude.

Suppose that you were walking down the street in the city of Nairobi? You hear a scream coming from behind you. You turn around and see a woman collapse on the ground. How would you respond in this scenario? Your response is heavily dependent upon whether you live in a city or in a small town. If you live in a small town, you would likely stop and offer help to the woman. City-dwellers, on the other hand, are more likely to walk by and ignore the woman’s pleas.
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Urban-Overload Hypothesis focuses on why living in a city makes it likely for one to help less.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Stanley Milgram (1933 — 1984)

URBAN Overload Hypothesis explains difference in ultruism for people in cities and in small towns.
PEOPLE who live in cities are in most cases constantly being EXPOSED to a large amount of stimuli.
GRUELING stimuli in the city environment often becomes too much for a person to process at once.
RESULT of bombardment with stimuli, is experiencing overload and we must adapt to these demands.
ACTUALLY, we set priorities that involve choosing which stimuli to process and which one’s to ignore.
DUE consequence of this adaptation includes not getting involved in situations where we should help.
ESSENTIALLY this is not being cold or evil, but to keep off from overwhelming environmental stimuli.
Timely Therapy: - If you are feeling anxious in the city, beware of the sharks who will prey on your fears.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #14:--->
Global connectivity is the current technological breakthrough; the outburst of innovation is just beginning.

“Practical men, who believe themselves to be quite exempt from any intellectual influences, are usually the slaves of some defunct economist. Madmen in authority, who hear voices in the air, are distilling their frenzy from some academic scribbler of a few years back.” - British economist John Maynard Keynes (1883 - 1946)
“Just as ‘location, location, location’ defines value in real estate, in business today it’s connectivity that equals competitiveness.” - U.S. author Mary J. Cronin
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Weak Ties Theory answers the question: How far does influence go?
Distinguished Developer: American sociologist Mark Sanford Granovetter (b. 1943)

USUALLY, we have buddies who are a part of a close-knit (strong ties) group; largely know one another.
PATTERNED to this, is our acquaintances, who are far less likely to know one another (are weakly tied).
GAUGED in terms of importance, the WEAK TIES with our acquaintances, paradoxically reigns supreme.
REALLY, the inwardly-focused conversation with our closer friends, is implicit and often taken for granted.
ACTUALLY, the more weak ties we have, the more in touch (connected) to the outer world we are apt to.
DISCERNIBLY, the more we are likely to receive vital information about ideas, threats or opportunities.
EVENTUALLY, we have more scope for creativity (mental stimulation) which makes innovation more likely.
Timely Therapy: - Strong ties make us feel good, feel that we belong, but they also constrict our worldview.

Robust Renaissance

R#70. On believing that an African RENAISSANCE is a pipe dream unrealisable in all ways.

BQ#21. What density of MUTATION is required for ROCKING REDEMPTION, as a function of fondly following the ROBUST RENAISSANCE?--->

“The world should not pass judgment upon the Negro, and especially the Negro youth, too quickly or too harshly. The Negro boy has obstacles, discouragements, and temptations to battle with that are little known to those not situated as he is. When a white boy undertakes a task, it is taken for granted that he will succeed. On the other hand, people are usually surprised if the Negro boy does not fail.”
- U.S. educator and political activist Booker T. Washington (1856 - 1915)

“I must own, to the shame of my own countrymen, that I was first kid-napped and betrayed by some of my own complexion, who were the first cause of my exile and slavery; but if there were no buyers there would be no sellers.”
- Ghanaian freed slave and abolitionist Ottobah Cugoano (1757? - 1803?)

“What is Africa to me?
Blackness, deep, deep fathomless darkness.
Africa, idle giant basking in the sun, sleeping, snoring
Twitching in dreams;
Diseased with a chronic illness;
Chocking with black ignorance.
Chained to the rock of poverty,
And yet laughing, always laughing and dancing
The chains on his legs jangling…
Stuck in the stagnant mud of superstitions,
Frightened by the spirits of the bush, the stream, scared of corpse.
Child lover of toys,
Look at his toy weapons, his utensils, his hut.
Toy garden, toy chickens, toy cattle, toy children.
Timid, unadventurous, scared of the unbeaten track,
Unweaned, clinging to mother’s milkless breasts,
Clinging to brother, to uncle, to clan, to tribe,
To blackness,
To Africa.
Africa, this rich granary of taboos, customs, traditions…”
- Ugandan poet, dancer, novelist and social anthropologist Okot p’ Bitek, in Song of Ocol (1969)

“Some view our sable race with scornful eye;
Their color is a diabolic dye.
Remember, Christians, Negroes, black as Cain,
May be refined, and join th’ angelic train.”
- West African-born U.S. poet Phillis Wheatley (1753? - 1784)

“I entered the old castles of the heart.
Pulled out wishes and longings that lay dead,
or wriggled half-dead, or danced
wild on the stage,
and threw them all out
for dogs, foxes, crows and vultures
to peck at and live on.”
- Indian poet Chandrashekhara Patil (1939 - )
--->

THIS PATHETIC PICTURE PAINTED by one of the best thinkers in our motherland, about half a century ago has tremendously changed to the positive. But it is only in this generation that the stars of emanicipation and liberation, will shine in the hearts of majority of Africans. Like the mariners after a long voyage in a tempestuous sea, at this juncture we should say that we now hail the sight of the destination or new land. We are blessed to understand the true nature of our psychological situation. Unlike the ancient mathematician Archimedes (287 - 212 BC), who in his impatient idealism asked for one fixed and immovable point (a point which is non-existent) so as “to move the whole earth from its place and turn it upside down”, we have stood on the earth itself and gone with her at her pace. We have persisted in an undaunted search for hope amidst various signs of despair and in the direction of finding an unshakably certain African Answer, to turn our society “upside down and inside out”. In this fathomless ocean, we have decided not to twirl around aimlessly but to strive towards dropping our anchor in the new banks of new lands. As it is not hankering for the sea that urges us on or propels us forward, in this long voyage towards SELF-ACTUALIZATION, we wish and have to land in the new land, for it is to this end that the voyage had been undertaken. Resolutely we will have to throw our anchor, and this anchor is AFRICAN RENAISSANCE; which is an all-powerful, an all-uniting ideal in which the whole stream of full heartfelt desires and passions shall be poured out. A new AFRICAN CIVILIZATION is the safe harbour for the restless wanderer. It is the light lighting the night of endless longing. It is the concept whose redeemed Africans shall proclaim from out the fullness of Continental heart. It is the ideal which we set forth as crown upon the summit of ‘existential’ tone. Listen to Nigerian novelist, playwright, poet, and lecturer, Wole Soyinka (1934 - ): “There is only one home to the LIFE of a tortoise; there is only one shell to the soul of man: there is only one world to the spirit of our race. If that world leaves its course and smashes on the boulder of the great void, whose world will give us shelter?” BLESSED IS YOU .............. WHO PRONOUNCES THE GREATNESS OF THESE TIMES!--->

Without further, or so much ado, BEYONDISM hereby consolidates,
The definition of ROBUST RENAISSANCE thus:

Revel in merrily melting in the expansive and redeeming ocean of LIFE.
Orderly dealing with the negative and dark powers of the PSYCHE.
Banishing the disgusting mixture of stupidity, lethargy and impulsivity.
Unchecked feelings culminate in the vices of voluptuousness and cruelty.
Savagery of any nature must be exorcised at any cost and with all energy.
To harness destructive powers, and to transmute them into creative art.

Resisting mightily to be subdued by the dark and surging forces of LUST.
Entrenching yourself with a relevant and workable standard of behaviour.
Nurturing moral valuation with a compelling vision for African destiny.
Affluently riding on the implicit and the explicit rhythms of your era.
Indulging in the process of individuation by developing self-awareness.
Slowly cultivating the power that controls the dynamic process of LIFE.
Sublimating negative impulses in order to create a controlled character.
Arousing the capacity to deal with the powerful surge of vital energy.
Never missing to see where prevailing wind blows and points towards.
Capturing the boat of current CIVILIZATION as it leaves the harbour.
Entreating your PSYCHE fully with the subtle ‘spirit of the TIMES’.

“Life is a movie, pick your own role, climb your own ladder or you dig your own hole.”- German-born American rapper Jermaine Lamarr Cole, alias J. Cole (b. 1985). Here is BEYONDISM PREMIUM Premises for SELF-ACTUALIZATION (Soulfully Signing a Therapeautic Treaty with THYSELF) in regard to: REAPING the MUTATION for ROCKING RENAISSANCE to realise the Pan-African dream.--->

However noble our efforts shall be, if the socio-political situation remains suffocating, then we shall remain stunted. An AFRICAN RENAISSANCE is the only sure recipe, which will raise the general level of social and political consciousness. It will remove all social and political scrupples which impedes us, in our journey towards the ultimate goal of SELF-REALISATION and SELF-ACTUALIZATION. It is an instructive and a chastening experience, to seek out a ‘Mode of Valuation’ (in the name of BEYONDISM), that will lie beneath our day to day ideals, as well as inform our beliefs upon which to judge ours and other peoples’ actions and characters. This will light up all the aspirations which we strive to realise; and have a clear concept of the best way to conduct our daily affairs, private or public.

Reverentially REAP your deep desire to ROCK RENAISSANCE.
SYMPATHETIC kindness presupposes the faculty of imagining as one’s OWN, the suffering of others.
USEFUL altruism and empathy goes together. They are the loftiest marks of a PSYCHIC PRECISION.
MINDING of the poorest person you have ever seen, is asking if your next act will be of any use to him.
MOST confuse altruism with cowardice. Relinquish not your courage in promoting our RENAISSANCE.
ASPIRE to face a possible annihilation, so that RENAISSANCE may cast its eternal brilliance over Africa.
RECEIVE BEYONDISM as a matter of LIFE and DEATH; you will amass the guts to be its ambassador.
YE shall die better, only by facing fearful odds, for the ashes of your ancestors, and the temples of GOD.

PREPARE yourself to diligently REAP the creative ‘capacity’ for ROCKING RENAISSANCE.

Precisely, the mere contemplation of past and present Africa’s state of affairs retards our digestion.
Really, when Slave Trade descended upon Africa it was disastrous to our people’s sense of security.
Essentially, in that state of continued fear and confusion Africa’s progressive industry began to wane.
Practically speaking, when Colonialism fell upon our people, their self-esteem was seriously injured.
As we began to worship the “foreigner’s untried and untested ideals,” we forgot any positivity in us.
Redeeming ourselves is based on the subtle seriousness and dire depth that gives ground for hope.
Enabled as we are, we have more of the virtues that make other continents to think about us in awe.

REALISE that REAPING your innate ‘quest’ for ROCKING RENAISSANCE is in your ‘power.’

Reasonably, our perseverance, patience and our industry is far much BEYOND the normal threshold.
Entirely immersing ourselves in LIFE, the stolidity of our minds equals the solidity of our character.
Affirmatively starting to consider psychological and artistic questions with subtlety and thoroughness.
Long accumulated energy now threatens to find release - so we are on our way to social salvation.
It is in the African continent where we have the finest, most vigorous existing people in the world.
Stubborn and resigned fatalism is giving way to FORCE of WILL; towards full flowering of potential.
Essentially, the human plant having geminated here (in East Africa), it will also grow strongest here.

EMPOWER yourself to REAP your deep-rooted ‘freedom’ for ROCKING RENAISSANCE.

Experiencing a break from past convictions (moral or spiritual), is what is haunting the present age.
Most people are undergoing deep emotional struggle, as RELIGIOUS faith seems to be evaporating.
Potent mental transition and readjustment means spiritual suffering as well as broken ‘relationships’.
One thing: The present humans are engulfed in a series of harrowing scenes and sad reconciliation.
We are now witnessing almost the end of traditional ideals, until new patterns of LIFE can be woven.
Endlessly, the world is going through changes that are not so impersonal as history presents them.
Radically, they unsettle the minds and morals of people by uprooting cherished customs and beliefs.

MEDIATE your ‘choice’ to REAP the inescapable ‘prerogative’ of ROCKING RENAISSANCE.

Much of political and economic decay of Africa brought a weakening of African mind and character.
Encircling social dogmas, puerile ideologies and empty morality, made the African PSYCHE sterile.
Decisively, BEYONDISM trains the intellect of adolescent Africa to reason with calculated subtlety.
Indeed, it constructs the terminology of modern discourse, and lays the basis of PSYCHIC maturity.
Aspiring to outgrow and overthrow the very systems and method which gave it birth and sustenance.
The supreme guiding goal of BEYONDISM is to COOL the FIRES of your budding PSYCHIC volcano.
Endeavour to continue loathing all inflexible individuals, hostile to invention and jealous of change.

INDULGE yourself in REAPING your unexplored ‘ability’ towards ROCKING RENAISSANCE.

Immerse in all conditions and people, so as to test your learning against the teeming, careless world.
No time, will your emotional sky drastically change, and precipitate a storm in your peaceful LIFE.
Doing things one is passionate about, one does not have to have a master plan on how things work.
Uncontestable TRUTH comes from an interplay between relaxed and leisured discourse on IDEAS.
Lasting WISDOM is borne out of a deeper AWARENESS of the prevailing socio-political conditions.
Generally, all past and present intellectual theories, and ideological systems are shining mirages.
Encroached in them, is not the long-sought TRUTH, but the reflection of desires of their proponents.

UTILISE your infinite ‘potential’ for REAPING the ‘compulsion’ of ROCKING RENAISSANCE.

Understanding your inner most feeling and the subtle dynamism of the world is Robust Renaissance.
Tender feelings and most cherished beliefs are analysed by BEYONDISM with surgeon’s ruthlessness.
Indeed, your FORMULA for GREATNESS is not only to bear up under any hardship, but to LOVE it.
Learn in all circumstances, to happily welcome challenges and discomforts, as sharpeners of your wit.
Illumination of Nietzsche: “He who strideth across the highest mountains, laugheth at all tragedies.”
Solemn speech to you, however bad it is: To be silent is worse; all unuttered Truths turns poisonous.
Essentially, and in all shades, to be blind is worst, because all adulterated Truths becomes deathly.

MONITOR those ‘forces’ that militate against your ‘will’ to REAP ROCKING RENAISSANCE.

Most lethal and worst condemnation, is to pronounce a statement without examining its basic nature.
On all accounts we are very sorry to see how that most precious jewel, the Word of God, is abused.
No other books other than the scriptures (Bible, Koran and Gita) are disputed, and poorly rhymed.
In every ale-house and tavern, they are sung and jangled contrary to their true doctrinal meaning.
TRUST the BELIEFS of your culture, learn the scriptural precepts and much more TRUST in GOD.
On the ground of leisure and security triggered by basic wealth, so research and speculation thrives.
Realistically and boldly SUBPOEN every CREED to appear before the judgement of BEYONDISM.

“Dreams indeed are ambition.
For the very substance of the ambitious is merely the shadow of a dream.”
- Shakespeare in Hamlet, Act 2, Scene 2

LADY MACBETH: I have given suck, and know
How tender ‘tis to love the babe that milks me:
I would, while it was smiling in my face,
Have plucked my nipple from his boneless gums,
And dash’d the brains out, had I so sworn as you
Have done to this.
MACBETH: If we should fail—
LADY MACBETH: We fail!
But screw your courage to the sticking-place,
And we’ll not fail.
- Shakespeare in Macbeth, Act 1, Scene 7

“Full fathom five thy father lies;
Of his bones are coral made;
Those are pearls that were his eyes;
Nothing of him that doth fade
But doth suffer a sea-change
Into something rich and strange.
- Shakespeare in The Tempest, Act 1, Scene 2

Our THERAPEAUTIC TOKEN, obligatorily opens the sacred seal,
Of our THERAPEAUTIC TOPIC on following fondly the ROBUST RENAISSANCE:
Noticeably you are now ripe to REAP your lively labour to ROCK RENAISSANCE.
Blessed is you who has transcended CULTIVATING your affluent attempts,
IRRIGATING your dauntless determination,
PROPAGATING your solid struggle,
And NURTURING your ennobling exertion.

“If to do were as easy as to know what were good to do, chapels had been churches, and poor men’s cottages princes’ palaces.”
- Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice, Act 1, Scene 2

“Reputation, reputation, reputation! O, I have lost my reputation! I have lost the immortal part of myself, and what remains is bestial.
- Shakespeare in Othello, Act 2, Scene 3

“‘Tis a common proof,
That lowliness is young ambition’s ladder,
Whereto the climber-upward turns his face;
But when he once attains the upmost round,
He then unto the ladder turns his back,
Looks in the clouds, scorning the base degrees
/By which he did ascend.”
- Shakespeare in Julius Caesar, Act 2, Scene 1

The manifestation of BEYONDIST extensive exposure is clearly evident: When the pipeline of our general ‘Societal Sorrowful Scenario’ is followed keenly, it ultimately leads back to individual’s ‘Psychic Purge’; the sum total of our warped thought forms, inclinations, predispositions and perceptions.

Irrespective of our religious realization, social standing, economic elevation, academic authenticity and professional penetrability we cannot fail to note how ‘Psychic Purge’ ‘ferociously facilitates’ the ‘current conspicuously conspiratory’ state of our African society. To transform the sordid song of our ‘Societal Sorrow’ into a sweet song of our ‘Psychic Precision’, is what we should diligently learn and tenanciously apply in our LIVES.

Never settle for anything less than your best.
Be the most enthusiastic and positive person you know.
LIFE is too short not to do some things you LOVE; what energizes you and keeps you passionate?
We are the only ones responsible for what goes on in our LIVE.
We can make excuses and blame others, but we are responsible to and for ourselves.
Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
“Enjoy what you have rather than desiring what you do not have…” - Ecclesiastes 6: 9.

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BEYONDISM BACKUP #21
Relevant (or somehow) Therapeautic Theories as bounteously based on ROBUST RESEARCH
We ONLY use this BQ#21 as a REFERENCE POINT to shed more light on HUMAN NATURE

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #1:--->
We seldom attribute common sense except to those folks who agree with us, or are on our side in any discourse.

“If all the world and love were young,
And truth in every shepherd’s tongue,
These pretty pleasures might me move
To live with thee, and be thy love.”
- British explorer, courtier, and writer Walter Raleigh (1554 - 1618)
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Outcome Dependency: We are optimistic about others when we need them to cooperate.
Distinguished Developers: Berscheid, Graziano, Monson, and Dermer (1976).

USUALLY, when we have something we are trying to achieve, then we will tend to bias our judgments.
PRECISELY, this is about the people around us to make the achievement of that goal more believable.
GENERALLY, this works positively or negatively: we like our potential friends and dislike our enemies.
ROBUSTLY, this is a form of OPTIMISM, preparing us give the situation the best chance to SUCCEED.
ASSUMING we are on the same team, I will believe that you are likable, competent and cooperative.
DEDICATED as you are to spread the gospel of an African Renaissance, poach in your midst the best.
ENDEAVOUR to find an IDEA to share with the other person; they will automatically like you more.
Timely Therapy: -TASKS must be done by you (not for you); fail to decide and others will decide for you.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #2:--->
Castles in the air (equivalences of a paradise) — they are so easy to take refuge in — and so easy to build, too.

“Now we are engaged in a great civil war, testing whether that nation or any nation so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure. We are met on a great battle-field of that war. We have come to dedicate a portion of that field as a final resting place for those who here gave their lives that that nation might live. It is altogether fitting and proper that we should do this...But, in a larger sense, we cannot dedicate—we cannot consecrate—we cannot hallow—this ground. The brave men, living and dead, who struggled here, have consecrated it, far above our poor power to add or detract. The world will little note, nor long remember what we say here, but it can never forget what they did here. It is for us the living, rather, to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they who fought here have thus far so nobly advanced. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us—that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause for which they gave the last full measure of devotion—that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain—that this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom—and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth.”
This is Abraham Lincoln’s “Gettysburg Address” delivered on November 19, 1863, at Gettysburg, Pennsylvania. He presented it at the dedication of the Gettysburg National Cemetery, honoring those who died in the Civil War Battle of Gettysburg earlier that year. Here Lincoln seeks to cover fantasy theme by bringing the idea of true equality to all citizens.
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Symbolic Convergence Theory (SCT) dwells on seeking communities of agreement.
Distinguished Developer: America speech-communication expert Ernest G. Bormann (1925 – 2008)

USUAL SCT: Holding of fantasies in common, transforms collections of individuals into cohesive groups.
PRUDENT appearance of a group’s cohesiveness, manifest in shared emotions, motives, and meanings.
GIVEN, we builds a group consciousness which grows stronger by sharing a cluster of fantasy themes.
REAL fostering of cohesion, symbolising or using narrative stories are types of communication involved.
ACTUALLY, we try to make sense out of a common experience through symbols, fantasies and values.
DYNAMIC tendencies within systems of interaction, cause communicative practices and forms to evolve.
EVENTS are understood in terms of traits of those involved; who have influence over how events unfold.
Timely Therapy: - Fantastic and creative interpretation of events fulfills a psychological or rhetorical need.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #3:--->
We wholeheartedly call upon the New Africa into existence, so as to radically redress the balance of the Old.

Is it true that when you are with your lecturer you show positive face?
And when with the watchman (who seems pretty harsh) you show negative face?
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Politeness Theory affirms that we act politely or rudely depending on whether we care.
Distinguished Developers: American anthropological linguist Penelope Brown (b. 1944)
and British social scientist Stephen C. Levinson (b. 1947)

UNDERLYING Politeness Theory, is politeness, hereby construed as efforts on redressing affronts.
PARTAINED is people’s self-esteems of effectively claiming positive social values in social interactions.
GIVEN, such self-esteem is referred as the sociological concept of face (as in “save face” or “lose face”).
REAL FACE is the positive consistent self-image or desire to be appreciated and approved of by others.
ACTUAL negative face is the want of every competent adult that one’s actions be unimpeded by others.
DESIRE for connection with others is positive face; negative face needs, includes desire for autonomy.
EFFETE Face Threatening Act (FTA) damages the face of others by acting in opposition to their desires.
Timely Therapy: - During any social interaction, FULL cooperation is needed to maintain each other’s face.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #4:--->
There is no such thing as conversation - it is an illusion - there are only intersecting monologues, that is all.

You have recurring interactions and connections with various people, is it not?
Have you ever pondered how these social relationships make your life meaningful?
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Social Relation is derived on social interactions, which emanates from social contacts.
Distinguished Developer: German sociologist, historian, jurist, and political economist Maximilian Karl Emil Weber (1864 – 1920)

UNDERSTAND: Social Relation is any interpersonal relationship between individuals or groups.
POTENT groups can be a language, a social institution, an economic class, a nation, or a gender.
GAINFUL social interactions form the basis of social relations, which are defined by SYMBOLS.
REALLY without SYMBOLS, our social life would be no more sophisticated than that of animals.
ABSENCE of symbols would make us have no aunts or uncles, employers or teachers or siblings.
DUE SYMBOLIC integrations analyse how social life depends on defining ourselves and others.
EXAMINED is how we make sense out of life, determine relationships or face-to-face interaction.
Timely Therapy: - People will forget what you said or did, but remember how you made them feel.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #5:--->
We are unable to influence events in the way we want because we do not have the vital power or will to do so.

“To be a catalyst is the ambition most appropriate for those who see the world as being in constant change, and who, without thinking that they can control it, wish to influence its direction.”
- British historian Theodore Zeldin (1933 - )
Can you recall how being watched by one person made you feel awkward?
But when you were being watched by two, did it make you twice as awkward? NO!
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Social Impact Theory outlines how individuals can be sources or targets of social influence.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Bibb Latané (b. 1937)

UNDERLYING Social Impact is any INFLUENCE on individual feelings, thoughts or behaviour.
PURPOSIVELY, this is created from the real, implied or imagined presence or ACTIONS of others.
GENERAL application varies from diffusion of responsibility, to social loafing, to persuading skills.
READILY, four basic RULES considers how individuals can be sources or targets of social influence.
ACTUAL social impact is the result of social forces including the strength of the source of impact.
DECISIVELY, the immediacy of the event, and the number of sources exerting the impact are vital.
EVENTUALLY, the more targets of impact that exist, the less the impact each individual target has.
Timely Therapy: - View yourself as a Cause Artist: using your creative skills for the good of the world.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #6:--->
Ask no one’s view but your’s: any stigma will do to beat a dogma: every intellectual attitude is latently political.

Assume that you were on a long bus journey.
And a person next to you starts to discuss growing bhang.
Would you join in the conversation, speaking your true opinion?
What if this matter was controversial with many people against it, what then?
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Spiral of Silence Theory illumines on how we keep quiet if we are in the minority.
Distinguished Developer: German political scientist Elisabeth Noelle-Neumann (1916 – 2010)

UNDERSTAND: Spiral of Silence Theory is a key political science and mass communication theory.
PERCEPTION of the distribution of public opinion influences one’s willingness to express one’s own.
GENERALLY, people influence each other’s willingness to express opinions through social interaction.
ROBUST confidence with one’s opinion is when one notices that they are shared throughout a group.
ACTUALLY, if a person notices unpopularity with the group one will be more inclined to remain silent.
DIVISIVENESS, a public interest issue, and fear of isolation are components of the spiral of silence.
ENTRENCHED belief that a minority (or different) opinion isolates oneself from others is also vital.
Timely Therapy: - The willingness of people to express their own opinions is healthy in social growth.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #7:--->
“Money cannot buy friends, but you can get a better class of enemy.” - British writer S. Milligan (1918 - 2002)

“O let us love our occupations,
Bless the squire and his relations,
Live upon our daily rations,
And always know our proper stations.”
- British novelist Charles Dickens (1812 - 1870)
“All service ranks the same with God—
With God, whose puppets, best and worst,
Are we: there is no last or first.
- British poet Robert Browning (1812 - 1889)
“The heavens themselves, the planets, and this centre,
Observe degree, priority, and place,
Insisture, course, proportion, season, form,
Office, and custom, in all line of order.
- William Shakespeare in Troilus and Cressida, Act 1, Scene 3
Assume that you pride yourself as being an expert on cycling. You are discussing cycling in a group and one person turns out to be the daughter, of a famous trainer and shows an even deeper understanding of cycling than you. You now have to diligently figure out how to really react to her.
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Self-Evaluation Maintenance Theory (SEM) explains how to react to threat of others.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist Abraham Tesser (b. 1941).

UNDERSTAND: SEM concerns itself with discrepancies between two people in a relationship.
PEOPLE will maintain as well as enhance their self-esteem via a social comparison to the other.
GAINFULLY, self-evaluation refers to the self-perceived social ranking one has towards oneself.
REALLY, it is determining personal growth, which can be raised or lowered by others behaviour.
ACTUALLY, you have several choices when a friend says something that you find uncomfortable.
DULY, you can distance yourself from them, or reduce the relevance of their behaviour to you.
ESSENTIALLY, you can try and improve yourself, and consequently reduce the level of threat.
Timely Therapy: - Know yourself; notice how you react to others who threaten your self-concept.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #8:--->
What is past your help is past your care, but never regard others with an indifference bordering on aversion.

“Then none was for a party;
Then all were for the state;
Then the great man helped the poor,
And the poor man loved the great:
Then lands were fairly portioned;
Then spoils were fairly sold:
The Romans were like brothers
In the brave days of old.”
- British politician, historian, and writer Thomas Babington Macaulay (1800 - 1859)
Have you ever heard of a young woman called Kitty Genovese? This lady was mercilessly murdered in Queens, New York, in 1964, while her neighbours looked on and no one intervened until it was too late.
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Bystander Effect/Apathy affirms that, the more bystanders, the less likely it is one will help.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologists John M. Darley and Bibb Latané in 1968.

USUAL Bystander Effect states: One is less likely to offer help to a victim when others are present.
PURELY, before helping another, a bystander progresses through a five-step decision-making process.
GIVEN, one must notice that something is amiss, and define the emergency as requiring assistance.
REALLY one decides whether one is responsible to act, chooses how to help, and implements this.
ACTUALLY failing to notice, define, decide, choose, and implement leads a bystander not to offer help.
DULY, one may fail to grant help when others who are viewed as more capable of helping are present.
EVENTUALLY, bystanders are presumed to weigh the implications, costs as well as rewards of helping.
Timely Therapy: - Positive moods duly encourage bystanders to notice emergencies and provide assistance.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #9:--->
Democracy is the superior form of government, because it is based on respect for humans as reasonable beings.

“O, when degree is shak’d,
Which is the ladder of all high designs,
The enterprise is sick!
Take but degree away, untune that string,
And hark what discord follows! Each thing meets
In mere oppugnancy.”
- Shakespeare in Troilus and Cressida, Act 1, Scene 3
“Democracy is a difficult kind of government. It requires the highest qualities of self-discipline, restraint,
a willingness to make commitments and sacrifices for the general interest, and it also requires knowledge.”
- U.S. president John Fitzgerald Kennedy (1917 - 1963)
Have you noticed how politicians and journalists regularly create new words? Which they seek to insert into the language? These may well be intended to trigger emotional states and specific reactions.
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Social Representation Theory (SRT) focuses on the impact of new words used to influence.
Distinguished Developer: Romanian-born French social psychologist Sergi Moscovici (1925 – 2014)

UNDERLYING Social Representations are a system of values, ideas, metaphors, beliefs, and practices.
PURPOSSIVELY, they SERVE to establish social order, orient participants and enable communication.
GLOBALLY, two processes abides for making the unfamiliar into familiar: anchoring and objectification.
REALISTIC Anchoring is ascribing of meaning to new phenomena – objects, relations or experiences.
ACTUAL integration is into existing worldviews, so it can be interpreted and compared to the KNOWN.
DECISIVELY, in this way, the THREAT that the strange and unfamiliar object POSES is being ERASED.
ESSENTIAL Objectification is whereby something abstract is turned into something almost concrete.
Timely Therapy: - To get an idea accepted, create a model and discuss it to embed the common concept.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #10:--->
Better the faults of living in a spirit of pure charity, than the omissions of being frozen in the ice of indifference.

Ever asked yourself why we empathise with distinct individuals,
Who are suffering far more than a large number of anonymous people?
This works because we truly connect with one person as opposed to a faceless mass.
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Identifiable Victim Effect entails empathising with one, more than many.
Distinguished Developer: American economist Thomas Crombie Schelling (1921 – 2016).

USUAL Identifiable Victim Effect is the endency to offer greater aid to a specific, identifiable person.
PURELY, this is when one is observed under hardship, as compared to a large, vaguely defined group.
GENERALLY, the effect is also observed when subjects administer PUNISHMENT rather than REWARD.
RESEARCH shows that people are more likely to METE out PUNISHMENT, even at their own EXPENSE.
ACTUALLY, this HAPPENS when they are PUNISHING specific, identifiable individuals (“perpetrators”).
DULY, CONCRETE images are often more powerful sources of PERSUASION than are abstract statistics.
ESSENTIAL epitomisation is by the phrase: “A single death is a tragedy; a million deaths is a statistic.”
Timely Therapy: - When you are referring to a large number of people, just select one to represent the mass.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #11:--->
An African Renaissance Dream? In place of the ideal of the Power-State we are led to that of the Welfare-State.

“The work of man is only just beginning and it remains to conquer all the violence entrenched in the recesses of his passion. No race holds the monopoly of beauty, of intelligence, of strength and there is place for all at the rendezvous of victory.” - Martiniquan poet, teacher, and political leader Aimé Césaire (1913 - 2008)
Does evidence abounds of people helping others?
Do they do this purely without asking for anything in return?
Is this basically not the whole principle of charity in its essentiality?
Is their rationale for helping others often not out of Intrinsic Motivation?
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Prosocial Behaviour implies helping people with no thought of reward.
Distinguished Developer: American social psychologist C. Daniel Batson (b. 1943)

UNDERSTAND: Prosocial Behaviour, is behaviour that benefit[s] other people or society as a whole.
PROSOCIAL Behaviour or intent to help others is sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering.
GENERALLY obeying the rules and conforming to accepted behaviours are also Prosocial Behaviours.
REALISTICALLY, these actions may be motivated by concern about the WELFARE and rights of others.
ANOTHER motive is EGOISTIC concerns, such as one’s social status, reputation or hope for reciprocity.
DUE PRO SOCIALITY is central to the well-being of groups across a range of scales, including schools.
EMPATHY is a strong MOTIVE in eliciting Prosocial Behaviour, and has deep evolutionary ROOTS.
Timely Therapy: - Help others out of fullness of your heart; this is pure altruism; but beware of vampires.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #12:--->
You will receive immense love and appreciation for a heart that is kind — not for the knowledge in thy mind.

Ever heard of a bank robbery in Stockholm, Sweden?
Where bank employees were held hostage for six days in 1973.
Authorities were surprised when the hostages showed attachment to their captors.
Even defending the captors’ actions and would not agree to testify in court against them.
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Stockholm Syndrome is a coping mechanism to a captive or abusive situation.
Distinguished Developer: Bejerot, N. (1974). The six day war in Stockholm, New Scientist, 61, no. 886, 486-487.

UNUSUALLY, when hostages are taken, some may develop positive feelings towards their captors.
POSITIVE emotional bonds may be formed which include love and adoption of the captors’ beliefs.
GAINFUL reasons for hostages to act this in way may start with them acting in a sympathetic way.
REASONABLY, upon sustaining human contact, this is in order to seek mercy from their captors.
ALSO, they may change their beliefs, to sustain internal consistency between actions and beliefs.
DUE support is if the captors reciprocate civil behaviour, or at least do not abuse or threaten them.
EXPLAINED is an abusive relationships where the abused person will still stand up for the abuser.
Timely Therapy: - Try to act in a sympathetic way towards your captors to get a reciprocal kindness.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #13:--->
You live fully and perform optimally, only if you take yourself serious, even if the rest of the world does not.

Perhaps you had been involved in a certain contest match. Did you notice that you felt you could perform better when watched? As compared to when you were not being watched? Yerkes-Dodson law states that “the mere presence of other people will enhance the performance in speed and accuracy of well-practiced tasks, but will degrade in the performance of less familiar tasks.”
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Social Facilitation is how others presence helps the competent and hinders the unskilled.
Distinguished Developer: American psychologist Norman Triplett (1861 – 1934)

UNHINDERED Social Facilitation is improving task performance when in the presence of others.
PEOPLE do better on tasks when they are with other people rather than when they are doing it alone.
GAINFULLY, this occur during performing a task in the presence of others, performing a similar task.
REALISTICALLY, this occurs while not necessarily engaging in DIRECT interactions with each other.
ARDENT Social Facilitation has been known to occur when performing a task in front of an audience.
DECISIVELY, this occurs during periods of OBSERVATION, sometimes referred to as audience effects.
ESSENTIALLY, simple tasks result in Social Facilitation within group; more complicated tasks do not.
Timely Therapy: - Presence of others betters performance on simple tasks and worsens on complex ones.

AMOROUS ASSIMILATION #14:--->
An African Renaissance is an urge to work harder and more efficiently; to duly cut out loafing on any TASK.

“This innocent word ‘Trimmer’ signifies no more than this, that if men are together in a boat, and one part of the company would weigh it down on one side, another would make it lean as much to the contrary.”
- English politician and pamphleteer Sir George Savile (1633 - 1695)
Have you ever attended an entertainment ceremony?
Did you hear the entertainer asking an audience to scream?
As you add more people to a group, the total group effort declines.
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Social Loafing explains how we hide in a crowd, using others to conceal laziness.
Distinguished Developer: French professor of agricultural engineering Maximilien Ringelmann (1861 – 1931)

UNDERLYING Social Loafing is exerting less effort to attain a goal when in a group than when alone.
POSITED is why groups tend to be less productive than the combined performance of specific members.
GENERAL cause stem from individual members’ feeling their personal effort will not matter to the group.
REAL distinction should be from the accidental coordination problems that groups sometimes experience.
ACTUAL motivational origin of Social Loafing is the lack of an understanding of individual contribution.
DUE factors are unchallenging tasks, low personal satisfaction from the task, and lack of a united group.
ENDEARING support to the uncommitted and creating options for independence lowers Social Loafing.
Timely Therapy: - Supporting weaker members improves their standing while benefiting the entire team.

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