IT IS TRUE THAT YOU are not the moody kind of a person who is on top of the world sometimes, then down in the dumps a bit later. You are also not one who might well treasure up anything which proves a source of instant amusement. A serious account of the emotions which are sapping your effort at Activating your SELFHOOD is a monumental step in the direction of SELF ACTUALIZATION.

“Normal YOUTH behaviour” can appear to be anything - but to parents and other bystanders. However, new research reveals that patterns of brain development during these formative years play a significant role in shaping your personality and actions as a YOUTH.

The parts of your YOUTH brain that handle planning and impulse control does not completely mature until about the age of 25 years. This means you are sometimes more likely than adults to make quick decisions without always thinking through the consequences. And sometimes you make decisions about potentially risky things to fit in with a group.

As a YOUTH you need to explore your own limits and abilities, as well as the boundaries set to you by parents and teachers. You need to responsibly express yourself as an individual. It is all part of your path to becoming an independent young adult, with your own identity.

At other times, your OVERREACTION to issues may stem from the fact of being ignored by older societal members. It may be a form of overcompensation. However, American futurist author Alvin Toffler (1928 - ) sympathises with you:

The secret message communicated to most young people today by the society around them is that they are not needed, that the society will run itself quite nicely until they — at some distant point in the future — will take over the reigns. Yet the fact is that the society is not running itself nicely… because the rest of us need all the energy, brains, imagination and talent that young people can bring to bear down on our difficulties. For society to attempt to solve its desperate problems without the full participation of even very young people is imbecile.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BASICALLY, your LIFE, time, and brain should belong to you. There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.
2. EDUCATION should not be the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire. Students should not only be trained to live in a democracy when they grow up; they should have the chance to live in one today.
3. ANY situation in which some individuals prevent others from engaging in the process of inquiry is one of violence. To alienate human beings from their own decision-making is to change them into objects.
4. RADICALLY, this continent demands the qualities of YOUTH: a temper of the will, a quality of imagination, a predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the love of ease.
5. IT is because modern education is so seldom inspired by a great hope that it so seldom achieves great results. The perpetual wish to preserve the past rather than the hope of creating the future is lethal.
6. NOW, your deepest fear is not that you are inadequate; it is that you are powerful BEYOND measure. It is your light, not your darkness that most frightens you. You ask yourself, Who am I to be fabulous?
7. GREAT changes in the destiny of mankind, reaching real progress can be effected only in the minds of YOUTHS. This is a time for bold measures. This is the Continent, and you are the generation.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Utilising school holidays in a productive and enriching manner.

1. FOCUS not on your past mistakes, and stop engaging in endless resolutions and plans for the future .
   Core Choice #11: Beware at any time, never to lose ‘the power of the present’.
   Sure Score #11: Live the moment rather than try to describe it in a detached way.
2. OWN up to your shortcomings: diverting people’s attention or criticism away from you, is cowardly.
   Solid Stance #11: Personal experimentation is the cornerstone of ‘experiential’ learning.
   Catalysing Consideration #11: Take an active role in your process of SELF-exploration.
3. RESIST directing a difficult emotion (e.g. anger) at yourself rather than at the one who has provoked it.
   Mighty Mission #11: Being fearful of expressing an emotion results in injuring the SELF.
   Vivid Vision #11: Bottling emotions is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die.
4. MATURITY will only arrive when you become the controller of, and protagonist in, your own maturity.
   Gaining Ground #11: A struggle to have the last WORD on your intrinsic motivations is a divine duty.
   Capturing Clouds #11: Only then will you really curb the turbulent waves of the ‘murmur of impulses’.
5. UNDESIRABLE personal thoughts, feelings, or impulses, MUST be faced resolutely and dealt with.
   Lofty Leap #11: Stop disowning certain aspects of yourself, by assigning them to the environment.
   Merry Momentum #11: By blaming issues on others, you avoid responsibility for WHO YOU ARE.
6. LIVING in a spirit of genuineness, is much better than being frozen in the ice of personal indifference.
   Holy Hearken #11: The TRUE authentic individual, is the TRUE king.
   Divine Distinction #11: SELF-awareness is the stepmother of genius.
7. ADOPTING others ideals, values or attitudes so as to impress them or be accepted by them, is anti-life.
   Prudent Planting #11: This makes you to never know what you want or need.
   Hoped Harvest #11: This makes you to lose a sense of direction and destiny.

#11. In as much as I desire to be well and at PEACE in society,
Which SAFETY measures must I learn and put in place?

Other people are mostly the cause of many day-to-day annoyances.
So, set boundaries and clearly convey those boundaries to them.
You will therefore, help yourself limit or cope with irritating people.
Make your feelings clear, on an annoying issue, and then move on.
We are often irritable when we feel overwhelmed and worn down.
This tends to happen when we are too busy, mentally or physically.
Say a soft ‘NO’ when asked to do something you have no time for.

#11. I, ___________________________, acknowledging my Irritability, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, when I am impatient, I am more likely to feel irritable, overwhelmed, and stressed. I will try to practice patience in my everyday life. It is not easy, but it will have positive benefits for my overall mood. I will also try to be flexible. It is important to know that things will not always go my way. I will be prepared for things to go wrong or take longer than expected. I will allow for the unexpected. I have realised that, anxiety is one of the primary reasons I become irritable. Often, unexpected events can cause that anxiety, leading to an overall irritability. I cannot stop the unexpected from happening, but I can definitely take steps to handle surprises better.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, I will surround myself with positive people. It is possible that I am irritable because I am surrounded by people who are negative. Moods are contagious. If I want to be in a good mood, one of the best things you can do is surround yourself with those people who make me happy and relaxed. I realise that I cannot always choose who I spend time with, but I can, however, make a conscious choice to not allow my mood to be affected by others negative attitude. I can also limit my interactions with them as much as possible. I will think positive thoughts, and throughout the day, take some time to focus on something good.