REBELLION IS THE JOB OF YOUTHS. It is called by psychologists, individuation. Individuation means trying to find out WHO YOU ARE separate from your parents. How can you find out if you do not question parental rules and values? We know many YOUTHS who did not rebel when they were at home, but “party” like crazy when they get into college or university. Others never rebel and become “approval junkies.” Approval junkies have lost their sense of self and spend their lives trying to prove their worth by pleasing others.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BOORISH to your parents, your teachers, and perhaps all other grown ups and authority figures? Perhaps you can justify this by pointing their shortcomings and weaknesses.
2. ESSENTIALLY, all people cannot be bad except you and your comrades. Your greatest danger here is your ego and how it makes you unconsciously maintain illusions about yourself.
3. ASSERTING your point of view in an aggressive manner, may be comforting in the moment, but in the long run this will make you defensive and unable to learn or progress.
4. READILY increase your reaction time. This power comes through practice and repetition. When some event or interaction requires a response, you must train yourself to step back.
5. IN case you feel like blurting out something sordid, hold. This could mean physically removing yourself to a place where you can be alone and not feel any pressure to respond.
6. NEVER make phone calls or communicate while feeling resentful. Cool the emotions down. Sleep on it for a day or two. The longer you can take the better; perspective comes with time.
7. GET to consider this like resistance training — the longer you can resist reacting, the more mental space you have for actual reflection, and the stronger your mind will become.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Being conscious of friction areas with your parent (s) and significant others.

1. FELLOWS, who say, ‘I am no troublemaker,’ should let it go at that, instead of giving a demonstration.
   Core Choice #13: With sincerity, what you lack in depth will make up to you in length - in future.
   Sure Score #13: Arrogance will neither save your face, nor make you esteemed by your comrades.
2. ORGANISING your rebellion to yield to nothing but the Declaration of Individuation, is very worthwhile.
   Solid Stance #13: Seek to change by conviction; avoid coercion which leads to destruction and violence.
   Catalysing Consideration #13: In the name of the Jehovah and Psychic Progress, crown all your actions.
3. RESIST boldly, biting the hand that feeds you, unless (and unless) it prevents you from feeding yourself.
   Mighty Mission #13: Never regard the world as a sort of metaphysical brothel for emotions.
   Vivid Vision #13: Watch out for anything which can temporarily undermine your self-control.
4. MOTIVATE yourself to resist all temptations; the only way to get rid of a craving is to never yield to it.
   Gaining Ground #13: No one who cannot limit oneself, has ever been able to advance in LIFE.
   Capturing Clouds #13: Deny yourself! You must deny yourself! That is the never-ending song.
5. USUALLY, those who are self-controlled (the rulers of their spirit) are better than the mighty conquerors.
   Lofty Leap #13: Subdue your fickleness, and you will have conquered the rogue human nature.
   Merry Momentum #13: Be swift to hear, slow to speak, never be capricious, quirky or whimsical.
6. LIVELY or however justified your reasons are, do not ever severe relationships, especially parental ones.
   Holy Hearken #13: The fruits are resoluteness; never frightened by the struggle with troubles.
   Divine Distinction #13: You will be a well balanced person of superior emotional make-up.
7. ADVANTAGE of parent(s): Age has taught them, how to put their impulses under guidance of reason.
   Prudent Planting #13: On this note alone should you bend your ear to them, even if your heart is scornful.
   Hoped Harvest #13: Impulsivity is a momentary madness, so control your fancies or they will control you.

#13. To the extent I aspire to mitigate CONFLICTS with my parent(s),
How should I augment and keep my SELF-CONFIDENCE at its apex?

Ignore any and all destructive criticism or insults, including any from your past.
Internalising abuse allows it continue to hurt you; that means the other person wins.
If you let go of the past, ignore all negativity and make yourself happy, then you win.
Tell yourself that you are a wonderful one; list all the things you like about yourself.
Relieve that guilt that prevent you from believing that you deserve to be happy.
Apologise to those you hurted, learn from those mistakes and forgive yourself.
Be your best and do not criticise yourself if you fall short of your expectations.

#13. I, ___________________________, arousing my ability to be supremely CONFIDENT, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, people who have a negative attitude which may rub off on me are not good for me. I believe that, I only fail when I do not make the best out of adversity. When something does not go the way I would like it to, there is something to be learned from that, which can be applied next time I am in a similar situation. I will get up and try again. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever I believe about myself, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If I constantly tell myself I am stupid or that I will never achieve success, I will in turn act as such. When negative thoughts come into my mind, I should speak to them. I will say ‘Stop’ or ‘No,’ and instantly replace that negative thought with a positive one. Using this method will help me to break the habit of repeatedly giving myself negative messages. Instead, I will make a habit out of saying positive things about myself and to myself, and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to my advantage.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, aiming for perfection in LIFE is a lost cause because the term means different things to different people. Nobody is perfect in the eyes of everyone else. Instead, I will seek to achieve goals. I will learn to appreciate myself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who they are and can make them distinctive. I will spend more time focusing on the qualities about myself that I like and less on the ones that I dislike. I can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that I can do which will make use of my strengths. Additionally, by starting on some projects that emphasise my good traits, it will keep me busy so I will end up spending less time thinking about my weaknesses. I will reward myself when I succeed; treat myself to something nice. I will bask in the glow of my successes. I will believe in myself completely and others will also believe and trust in me.