PROBABLY YOU HAVE BEEN held back by drives and compulsions which you find yourself somehow helpless to dispel. You may be possessing the most updated and necessary knowledge about the wrongness or destructiveness of a certain habit, but you find yourself lacking the required will-power to release yourself from its grip. Why? Here is the recipe.

It was German psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud (1856 - 1939) who taught: “Happiness in the reduced sense in which we recognise it as possible, is a problem of the economics of the individuals ‘libido’…A person should not strive to eliminate his or her complexes, but to get into accord with them; they are legitimately that directs his or her conduct in the world”. Libido is precisely the undifferentiated emotional, LIFE and PSYCHIC energy.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BEYONDISM is a living power, and prime agent of all progressive human aspirations, and a reiteration of your mortal prerogative, in the context of your divine dedication.
2. ENDEAVOURING to be insightful on the functioning of your personality is vital, in reconciling your complexes (repressed feelings, wishes or impulses that influence thought and behaviour).
3. AS human beings, we are not always able to cope with our situations. Each individual SELF consists of many diverse forces, in inevitable conflicts (the ID, the EGO, and the SUPEREGO).
4. RECENT studies have diligently shown that, a human being is to a certain reasonable extent, driven by these unconscious motivations and irrational forces dating back to childhood.
5. IN a nutshell, the ID is the first to develop. Being the oldest, it represents basic instincts, reflexes, drives and needs. The EGO develops to realistically meet the wishes of ID.
6. NOTABLY, the SUPEREGO represents internalised values, ideals and moral standards. The ID, EGO, and SUPEREGO cannot be freezed into subsystems as they mingle together.
7. GET it: The personality is created by these dynamic forces, that can be divided against themselves at many levels. In this tension lies the ground of the SELF and its development.

As you divinely strive without denials or shifting blames for personal adjustment and emotional maturity, in the direction of SELF-ACTUALIZATION, your EGO will tend to maintain balance between your ID and your SUPEREGO.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION,
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Gaining insight on handling deep-rooted drives and compulsions.

1. FUNDAMENTALLY, the PSYCHE is an iceberg; it floats with only 17 percent of its bulk above water.
   Core Choice #19: The conscious psyche may basically be compared to a fountain playing in the sun.
   Sure Score #19: It falls back into the great subterranean pool of subconscious from which it rises.
2. ON fairly tales: They offer examples of both temporary and permanent solutions to pressing difficulties.
   Solid Stance #19: They are a paradoxical ways of assisting the unconscious to be conscious of itself.
   Catalysing Consideration #19: They are vital in unraveling the tangled skeins of the unconscious mind.
3. RARELY does creativity improve after FORTY; if little has been accomplished by then, little will ever be.
   Mighty Mission #19: It is easier to fight for one’s core principles, than to live up to them.
   Vivid Vision #19: Start now, whatever the starting point and however tortuous the road.
4. MOST important, BEYONDISM makes freedom possible; it teaches you to think of freedom concretely.
   Gaining Ground #19: To perceive freedom as a creative expression of your consciousness.
   Capturing Clouds #19: It exhorts you to always, in retrospect, be faithful to your ‘being’.
5. UNDAUNTED, with magnificent inflexibility resist every temptation to magical thought, but be a believer.
   Lofty Leap #19: The true believer is in a high degree protected against the danger of neurotic afflictions.
   Merry Momentum #19: Accepting the universal neurosis spares one the task of forming a personal neurosis.
6. LIFE as we find it is too hard for us; it means too much pain, many disappointments, or impossible tasks.
   Holy Hearken #19: Some LIFE’s conflicts cannot be resolved by rational decision; a cathartic release is key.
   Divine Distinction #19: We cannot make it without finding ways of soothing most of our intense emotions.
7. A large part of the persuasiveness of BEYONDISM, emanates from its being a sublimated spiritualism.
   Prudent Planting #19: It is a secular, and a scientific way of affirming the primacy of ‘spirit’ over matter.
   Hoped Harvest #19: It teaches: Experience lies in experiencing that which you do not wish to experience.

#19. In as much as I aspire to heal my INTERPERSONAL weaknesses,
Which SELF-IMPROVEMENT skills must I build and nurture?

There are no magic or simple answers when it comes to developing self-control.
There is no short-cut to manage your impulses and behaviour change in general.
While it is easy to say that impulse control is good, it is harder to actually do it.
Before doing anything ask whether it will further your self-interests in the long run.
Self-control as manifest in patience will protect you from making moronic blunders.
The epitome of wisdom is to avoid an emotional response to a situation or people.
Emotions cloud reason, curtailing the ability to tactfully respond and be in control.

The ability to come alongside someone, and see a person’s point of view is Empathy.
It is the highly humanistic effort to enter into experience of the other person’s pain.
You really go beyond feeling sorry for that person, since that would be sympathy.
You go deeper, seeking to understand that person’s pain untill you feel the hurt.
This moves you to a comforting response; empathy soothes, heals and fills the gap.
In fact, empathy is basically like the “Super Glue” of distant and hurting relationships.
It can pull you tightly to your partner and keep you together in all kinds of trouble.

When dealing with others, it is all too easy to find fault, to criticise and to condemn.
How often do criticisms or direct advice lead to actual change and improvement?
99 times out of a 100, people do not self-criticise, despite how wrong they might be.
Criticism is futile, because it puts one on the defensive and cause him or her to justify.
Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s pride and arouses resentment.
Criticism is vain, for in judging others, you regard yourself as more righteous than they.
To obtain cooperation from others and win over them, abstain from direct criticisms.

#19. I, ___________________________, fully focused on managing IMPULSES TO MAXIMISE LIFE SATISFACTION and SUCCESS, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that I will assess what areas of my LIFE have caused troubles for me as it relates to impulse control. I may have trouble with procrastination. Or I may have problems with eating too much. I may also be “hot tempered” and have trouble controlling my anger. Can I identify the areas of my LIFE where impulse control gets me into trouble? Better yet, ask someone who knows me well to answer this question. They may have a better perspective on my issues with impulse control than I do. In fact, they likely do. Once I have identified my particular impulse control risks, I can better plan for them and develop a productive problem solving action plan. Let social engineering help me. For example, if eating too much is a problem for me, then I will consider way to keep problematic foods out of my environment. If shopping is a problem, consider avoiding the mall. If friends, family, or associates encourage me in a negative way, I will consider altering who I spend time with or how I spend time with these individuals or groups. Social engineering is very helpful if I take it seriously. I will alter my environment to help me cope better with impulse control. I will not merely repress impulses or to deny them. Rather, I will learn to better manage them in a productive and healthy way by managing my environment better.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, I will learn to develop personal checklists for anything I may desire. For example, I will ask myself some pertinent questions about myself that are extremely personal and only myself have the answer to. I also have to be very honest with myself about my situation in my LIFE. Am I going to be in a good emotional state and are the people around me going to be in a good emotional state when I pursue this decision or am I going to have feelings of regret and eventually resent my decision thereby undermining my own self-confidence? What are my personal feelings on the matter and will they still be the same if I stopped and thought about my decision for a while? Am I educated enough about the situation, item, matter or subject at hand to make an informed decision or do I need to research and consult an authority to form an educated opinion before making my decision? How do I handle a stressful situation if I make an incorrect decision and how will I react to a stressful situation? Will I become frustrated, angry, snappish, mean, vitriolic or any other negative aspect that may affect my interpersonal relationships due to mental stress or overload when trying to sort through data and figure out viable solutions? I will take the time to make it work for me. It can be tailored to my specific needs as I see fit. The time I take as my personal time can be utilised effectively and productively by using checklists. Most importantly though time is key to my decision to delay gratification. I can make it work for me. I will have to practice for a long time. Practice means repetition of the same thing again and again and again to form a strong habit. Habits are motivation in life. If I do not have determination to attain that which should be attained, if I am not constantly aware of the Reality, how can I practice? I will feel lazy and I will not be able to sit in meditation.