THERE IS PLEASURE IN SELF-KNOWLEDGE, and even in the mirages of daily LIFE, which every YOUTH feels until the course necessities of physical existence drag him or her from the heights of thought into the mart of economic strife and gain. As a BLESSED BEYONDIST continue the LOVE of modestly elusive TRUTH about yourself, which is more glorious, incomparably, than the lust for the ways of the flesh and the dross of the world.

After criticising the “idea of being unconsciously possessed by one’s body instead of owning it by choice and using it with deliberation”, self-educated American psychologist Erick H. Erickson (1902 – 1994) maintained that both men and women need to be liberated from reciprocal roles that have exploited them both. This is not to underscore the fact that, your destiny to a reasonable extent depend on what you can make of the fact that you have a specific kind of body in a particular historical setting, as Sigmund Freud noted: “Anatomy is destiny”, and as Napoleon Bonapate said: “History is destiny”. Erickson places destiny in a triangular configuration of “anatomy, history and personality”, and stresses that “each sex can transcend itself to feel and to represent the concerns of the other”.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BY nature, all of us have masculine and feminine qualities—some of this is genetic, and some of it comes from the profound influence of the parent of the opposite sex.
2. ENMESHED in the need to present a consistent identity in society, we tend to repress these qualities, overidentifying with the masculine or feminine role expected of us.
3. AND we pay a price for this. We lose valuable dimensions to our character. Our thinking and ways of acting become rigid. We become victims of gender stereotyping.
4. READILY, our relationships with members of the opposite sex suffer tremendously as we project onto them our own unconscious fantasies and subtle hostilities.
5. IN all practical measures, you must become aware of these lost masculine or feminine traits and slowly reconnect to them, unleashing creative powers in the process.
6. NO wonder then, you will become more fluid in your thinking: in bringing out the masculine or feminine undertone to your character, you will be more conscious of yourself.
7. GENERALLY, you will fascinate people by being authentically yourself. In this reference, do not play the expected gender role, but rather create the one that suits you.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Arousing ambition and greatness, in the most dignified manner.

1. FOR you to achieve great things and leave a legacy, you must live as though you were never going to die.
   Core Choice #2: The web of your LIFE is of a mingled yarn, good and ill together.
   Sure Score #2: LIFE is a funny thing that happens to you on the way to the grave.
2. ORDERLY, rich, lovable, eloquent, gallant, a little lower than the Angels — all these gifts you can acquire.
   Solid Stance #2: You may be quixotic in an anomalous case, but to be so as a general rule is absurd.
   Catalysing Consideration #2: Noble deeds, fueled by noble intentions are the best source of contentment.
3. REALISTIC existence IS affirming that everything happens as if you were compelled to be responsible.
   Mighty Mission #2: To err is essentially human; to forgive, divine.
   Vivid Vision #2: Rich gifts wax poor when givers prove unkind.
4. MOST boys plan for WHAT they will achieve and attain, girls plan for WHOM they will achieve and attain.
   Gaining Ground #2: Have full appreciation of your highest gender-based qualities.
   Capturing Clouds #2: Be guided by accurate perception of your defects and foibles.
5. USE BEYONDISM as the valuation of your age; the torch of the future; the guiding star of the present.
   Lofty Leap #2: We have heard of renaissances before; but this one is ours, not somebody else’s.
   Merry Momentum #2: You are in the throe of a cultural renaissance of a historical importance.
6. LIVING with Angels, is constantly showing them that your soul is satisfied with what is assigned to you.
   Holy Hearken #2: Happiness in this world is closely related to accepting WHOM YOU ARE.
   Divine Distinction #2: A LIFE of ‘constant comparison’ with others is the most unbearable.
7. A person with ambition and love for one’s blessings here on earth is ever so alive and ever felicitious.
   Prudent Planting #2: A person without ambition is absolutely dead.
   Hoped Harvest #2: A person with ambition but no love is half awake.

#2. To the extent I aspire to be held in high ESTEEM by others,
How should I carry, conduct, behave or EXPRESS myself?

Value yourself, your ideals and opinions; they are as important as anyone else’s.
Learn to express your needs and wants without infringing on the rights of others.
Express negative thoughts in a positive way; convey your anger in a respectful way.
Accept compliments graciously, learn from your mistakes, ask for help when needed.
Learn to say “no”; know your limits and do not let others take advantage of you.
In a conflict, look for alternatives so that everyone feels good about the outcome.
Be empathetic by recognising others feelings, then stating your needs or opinion.

#2. I, ___________________________, arousing my intention to act as a royalty, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I will develop EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS with EVERYBODY, ANYWHERE. I will become an engaged listener. People often focus on what they should say, but effective communication is less about talking and more about listening. Listening well means not just understanding the words or the information being communicated, but also understanding the emotions the speaker is trying to communicate. There is a big difference between engaged listening and simply hearing. When I really listen — when I am engaged with what is being said — I will hear the subtle intonations in someone’s voice that tell me how that person is feeling and the emotions they are trying to communicate. When I am an engaged listener, not only will I better understand the other person, I will also make that person feel heard and understood, which can help build a stronger, deeper connection between us. By communicating in this way, I will also experience a process that lowers stress and supports physical and emotional well-being. If the person I am talking to is calm, for example, listening in an engaged way will help to calm me, too. Similarly, if the person is agitated, I can help calm them by listening in an attentive way and making the person feel understood. If my goal is to fully understand and connect with the other person, listening in an engaged way will often come naturally. If it does not, I will try focus fully on the speaker, his or her body language, tone of voice, and other nonverbal cues. Tone of voice conveys emotion, so if I am thinking about other things, checking text messages or doodling, I am almost certain to miss the nonverbal cues and the emotional content behind the words being spoken. And if the person talking is similarly distracted, I will be able to quickly pick up on it. If I find it hard to concentrate on some speakers, try repeating their words over in my head — it will reinforce their message and help me stay focused.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, I will favour my right ear. The left side of the brain contains the primary processing centers for both speech comprehension and emotions. Since the left side of the brain is connected to the right side of the body, favouring my right ear can help me better detect the emotional nuances of what someone is saying. I will try keeping my posture straight, my chin down, and tilting my right ear towards the speaker—this will make it easier to pick up on the higher frequencies of human speech that contain the emotional content of what is being said. I will avoid interrupting or trying to redirect the conversation to my concerns, by saying something like, “If you think that is bad, let me tell you what happened to me.” Listening is not the same as waiting for my turn to talk. I cannot concentrate on what someone’s saying if I am forming what he or she is going to say next. Often, the speaker can read my facial expressions and know that my mind is elsewhere. I will show my interest in what is being said. I will nod occasionally, smile at the person, and make sure my posture is open and inviting. I will encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like “yes” or “uh huh.” I will try to set aside judgment. In order to communicate effectively with someone, I do not have to like them or agree with their ideas, values, or opinions. However, I do need to set aside my judgment and withhold blame and criticism in order to fully understand a person. I will provide feedback. If there seems to be a disconnect, I will reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. “What I am hearing is,” or “Sounds like you are saying,” are great ways to reflect back. I will not simply repeat what the speaker has said verbatim, though — I will sound insincere or unintelligent. Instead, I will express what the speaker’s words mean to me. I will ask questions to clarify certain points: “What do you mean when you say...” or “Is this what you mean?” I will strive to hear the emotion behind the words by exercising my middle ear muscles. By increasing the muscle tone of the tiny middle ear muscles (the smallest in the body), I will be able to detect the higher frequencies of human speech that impart emotion and be better able to understand what others are really saying. As well as by focusing fully on what someone is saying, I can exercise these tiny muscles by singing, playing a wind instrument, and listening to certain types of music (high-frequency Mozart violin concertos and symphonies, for example, rather than low-frequency rock or rap music).