THERE IS CHAOS WHERE there is no thought, and an individual who decides in haste and ignorance, will repent at leisure and in desolation. Shunning stupid shortcuts and warming up for the wise wide way, is the sound stimulus of BEYONDISM.

What exactly are the psychological structures that should be in place in order to negotiate YOUTH successfully? Foremost is the emotional stability gained from having parents who have been consistent and adequate providers of both the physical and emotional needs of the growing child. In other words, dependency needs must have been satisfactorily met. This is critically important, because one of the essential conflicts of YOUTH concerns the bipolar tension between your wishes to regress and be dependent, and your wishes to be absolutely grown up and free of any dependency on your parents. The more adequately earlier dependency needs have been met, the better you will be prepared to struggle through this Dependency-Independence Crisis and emerge as a relatively well-functioning adult.

Where there has been significant early deprivation, however, and the dependency needs are intense (because they really reflect the needs of a much earlier developmental stage), you may be vulnerable to acting out behaviours that, while playing out those needs, deceptively give you the illusion of adult behaviour. For example, becoming pregnant offers that “opportunity” in almost a perfect manner. Engaging in what seems like “adult” behaviour (such as having sexual intercourse) is appealing and has the capability of temporarily gratifying the earlier childhood dependency needs for physical closeness and perceived caring. In an intriguing way, having unprotected sex - that is, not using any contraceptive method - further plays out, and simultaneously meets, your conflicting psychological needs. While having sex may be “acting grown up,” to go all the way and plan to do so (as an responsible adult who takes control of your fertility) would be acting too much like an adult and would allow no room for the “irresponsible child” to do its (unconscious) acting out. Additionally, the normal tendency of YOUTHS to engage in impulsive behaviour, simply by reason of their developmental stage, only further facilitates risky sexual activity.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BOLDLY, we must assert that almost every mainstream movie has a love story in it, usually with the male hero finding some beautiful woman for a quick snuggle in between adventures.
2. EXCELLENT family units of all compositions are hard to find in certain types of media. The most undoing aspect of modernity is portraying SEX in a very unrealistic manner in the media.
3. ADVERTIZING is strongly slanted to have a highly SEXUAL component (buy this material or product and you will become irresistible and have lots of presumably consequence-free sex!).
4. REALLY, there are plenty of people fighting against these messages, but their voices are often drowned in the huge flood of money going towards selling as much of a product as possible.
5. IN all disguises, there seems to be a general fear of speaking out or doing anything that might offend anyone. Once that kind of moral fortitude was considered a high virtue.
6. NOTABLY, the past generation of parents were willing to stand up against all evils at the cost of being ostracised by the general society and suffering hardships and perhaps even death.
7. GIVEN the current treacherous trends and tastes, there seems to be undue attention given to political correctness: that no one should say anything that could possibly offend anyone.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Taking a solid stand against any force that may threaten to crush you.

1. FUNDAMENTALY, the human person is a spirit that has a mind and a body (a PSYCHE and a SOMA).
   Core Choice #22: The mind possesses free will; the body is subject to the laws of biology and psychology.
   Sure Score #22: The mind is the seat of human existence; the body is the home of physical functioning.
2. ONTOLOGICALLY, the unpredictable quality of being human is “the defiant power of the human spirit.”
   Solid Stance #22: The “spirit” represents those attitudes and behaviours that are not shared with animals.
   Catalysing Consideration #22: Those characteristics that are not be predicted from biology and psychology.
3. REGARDLESS of its cause, the human spirit is able to take a defiant stance toward the DEPRESSION.
   Mighty Mission #22: Depression may be seen as a deficiency of a chemical neurotransmitter.
   Vivid Vision #22: Or it may be seen as a set of cognitive self-statements learned in childhood.
4. MEANINGFULNESS entails considering (now) how a given behaviour may be viewed at a future point.
   Gaining Ground #22: Live candidly now as if you were already living for the second time.
   Capturing Clouds #22: And had acted as wrongly the first time as you are about to act now.
5. USUALLY, spiritual unconscious allows the spirit to remain free and open to the noetic (spirit) dimension.
   Lofty Leap #22: Deterministic principles operate within the closed systems of biology.
   Merry Momentum #22: But freedom is found in the open system of the human spirit.
6. LOGOTHERAPY is choosen as treatment when symptom’s cause is a conflict in the spiritual unconscious.
   Holy Hearken #22: This is in the difference between what the person is and what one may become.
   Divine Distinction #22: Logotherapy (Latin, logos, “meaning”) entails finding meaning in one’s LIFE.
7. AS a function of the human spirit, conscience, remains free to take a stand for or against any MORAL.
   Prudent Planting #22: Conscience informs one of the right thing required by any unique situation.
   Hoped Harvest #22: It is as a “pull” from a deeper awareness where one perceives one’s potentials.

#22. To the extent I desire to bury the trenches of my ugly PAST,
How should I rock my character through INTEGRITY?

Character defines you and guides your actions, hopefully in a positive way.
Integrity is steadfast and volitional adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
Integrity is being unimpaired, sound, whole and undivided; it is completeness.
Integrity can be summed up simply as doing the right thing for the right reason.
Choices are set of rules, morals, or principles that you believe will lead to happiness.
Choices are decision that lead to satisfying, and righteous life, and a better world.
You should slowly develop your own code of ethics, based on your experiences.

#22. I, ___________________________, enacting my conviction to rock my character through INTEGRITY, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I will be illumined by the words of William Shakespeare (1564-1616): “To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man”. I have realised that, the wonderful thing about character and integrity, which are intimately related, is that they are one of the few things in LIFE that no one will ever be able to forcefully take away from me. My choices are my own. Even if someone can take my LIFE, they cannot force me to make a choice that I believe is wrong.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, the best way to have a good character is to maintain the one I have because starting over is never easy! My character is unique. It may not match with anybody else. I will build it based on my own aptitude and inner light within. I have understood that, self-assessment, self evaluation, introspection etc. work well, but never are disheartened by petty failures and criticism revolving around failures. I will stand firm on my convictions. I am bound to succeed. I will beware of people who will try to convince me to give up on my character or integrity, saying that nobody’s perfect, and taunting me for being such an idealist. Nobody’s perfect does not mean violating what I believe is right. It is good to learn from my mistakes, but I do not always need to make mistakes to learn. I will remember that striving to be perfect and being perfect are two different ideas; the former is integrity, the latter is futility.