IT REALLY MATTERS TO KNOW other people’s personalities. But most critical and rewarding, is to know to a certain reasonable level, the personality of our significant friend. Each of us has our zone of comfort and a zone of ability in which we can engage. By knowing our own zones of comfort and our own zones of challenges — what we are able and not able to do — we can guide ourselves. And then if we know that about an important person in our LIFE, we also can help guide ourselves amidst him or her.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BELIEVE it or not, you can never know yourself fully. Consequently, in daily LIFE we never understand each other; neither complete clairvoyance nor complete confessional exists.
2. EXTERNAL signs are what enables us to know each other approximately (we cannot enter the core of others), and these serve well enough as a basis for society and even for intimacy.
3. ACCEPT the crude fact that only the people in a novel can be understood completely by the reader, if the novelist wishes; their inner as well as their outer LIFE can be exposed.
4. READING fiction is comforting, because its characters often seem more definite than characters in history, or even our own friends; we have been told all about them that can be told.
5. INDEED, even if they are imperfect or unreal they do not contain any secrets, whereas our friends do and must, mutual secrecy being one of the conditions of LIFE upon this globe.
6. NOW and then, it takes concentrated emotional investment to genuinely appreciate a person. This explains why hatred is prevalent on this earth because it requires no real effort.
7. GAINING a deep, precise knowledge of others is impossible. It is not the words we speak that make us who we are. Or even the deeds we do. It is the secrets buried in our hearts.

Illumined as you are in this manner, you are hereby called upon to build up the necessary WILL which shall propel you to the luminous summit of facing your future resolutely. This is the well-spring of our individual HAPPINESS:

Like the river water which always flows downwards
From the high levels through gravity to the ocean
And cannot reverse its direction under any attempt,
HAPPINESS cannot be barely pursed; it must ensue.
It is an unintended side-effect of personal dedication,
To a sublime intentional cause, Greater than oneself;
Never losing a sense of the wonder in LIFE’s mysteries.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Harnesing the inner resources, so as to utilise all our immense propensities.

1. FATHOMING the will to meaning is distinguishing ultimate meaning from the meaning of the moment.
   Core Choice #25: Ultimate meaning exists, but is largely unknown or unknowable; it is the area of faith.
   Sure Score #25: The meaning of the moment is knowable; it is appreciating any given moment in LIFE.
2. OPERATION of conscience, is what really discerns, the rightness or wrongness, of any particular issue.
   Solid Stance #25: Each combination of person and situation is unique.
   Catalysing Consideration #25: Each issue demands a unique response.
3. RECENT times, is an Age in which the Ten Commandments seem to lose their unconditional validity.
   Mighty Mission #25: You must learn more than ever to listen to the innate Ten Thousand Commandments.
   Vivid Vision #25: Obey the exhortations of the Ten Thousand unique situations of which your LIFE consists.
4. MEANINGLESSNESS (frustration of the will to meaning, purposelessness) leads to ‘existential vacuum.’
   Gaining Ground #25: It results in living in a world in which traditional values no longer provide guidance.
   Capturing Clouds #25: It is a world in which one often does not even know what one may wish to do.
5. UNIVERSAL values and religions originates from the discovery of similar meanings and similar situations.
   Lofty Leap #25:This does not excuse you from choosing what a unique, specific situation may demand.
   Merry Momentum #25: Even if it should be in opposition to the superego or to culturally accepted values.
6. LACK of meaning makes one to do what others do (conformism) or do what others tells (totalitarianism).
   Holy Hearken #25: Manifestations of the existential vacuum include boredom and apathy.
   Divine Distinction #25: Or noogenic neurosis (caused by moral and spiritual conflicts.)
7. ACTUALISING one decision by timely action, makes it realised for ever and can never be destroyed.
   Prudent Planting #25: Decisions are final; the only really transitory aspects of LIFE are the potentialities.
   Hoped Harvest #25: Once a concrete action is taken in time, one cannot then go back in time and undo it.

#25. To the extent I want to have a GLIMPSE of my CHERISHED COMRADE,
Which are the core fundamentals to augment my WILL-POWER?

Will-power is the key to getting out of nasty mental habits that keeps you miserable.
It is a very simple fact of LIFE that the more you practice anything, the easier it gets.
Your brain is eager to learn whether you are trying to write something into its circuitry.
The more often you choose the right thing, the easier it will be to do next time.
The more you practice will-power, the more will-power you have to actualise things.
The more power you have to influence the course of your LIFE, the happier you will be.
Will-power is a skill you can learn, not something you are born with or without.

#25. I, ___________________________, enacting my potential to augment my WILL-POWER, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I will reward myself, if I succeed in eliminating a bad habit. I am doing something that will change my LIFE, and I need to give myself recognition. I might want to give myself a gift or a trip when I have conquered the problem. I will give myself smaller daily indulgences as tokens for progress. I have understood that my brain is constructed so that I cannot force myself not to think about something, especially a worry or a temptation. I cannot make a self- destructive impulse disappear by wishing it away, but I can think about something else. I will make a list of pleasant activities I can use as distractions: talking with a friend, a walk, turning the music up loud and dancing by yourself.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, I will not let a slip kill my resolve. If I cannot be totally perfect, it does not mean I am hopeless; nor does it give me an excuse for giving up. I will savour the positive results. I will pay attention to my feelings as I get out from under that burden I have been carrying around. I will feel less misery, freer, stronger, and proud of yourself. I will look better, have more time, and get more done. I will let myself savour those feelings mindfully, with focus and pleasure.