THE VERY NATURE OF YOUTH compels you to keep a close eye on your comrades. You are struggling to define your own identity, and because you are not yet sure who you are, you are self-conscious and curious about how other people behave. It is natural for you to try to understand yourself by looking at your friends to see how others are resolving the same issues. Even little kids worry about making friends and being liked, but during YOUTH, these fears intensify. YOUTH brings with it so much awkwardness and uncertainty, as you find your body, interests, and priorities all changing at once. Belonging to a group of friends affirms your self-worth and supports you, as you negotiate the rocky path toward adulthood. As you distance yourself from your parents, you increasingly use your friends as your primary confidants and rely upon their advice and support.

Naturally, close friends are well suited to this role because those are the people most likely to rubber-stamp your feelings and patiently listen to your ruminations on LIFE. In a normal situation, a close group of friends offers a sounding board as well as camaraderie and solace. In a bad situation, you may adhere to your friends’ bad or ignorant advice and opinions instead of thinking for yourself or seeking a more informed opinion. Some YOUTHS fail to realise when they have become excessively dependent on their friends in a way that robs them of their independence and individuality. In these cases their friends have become a crutch — a way for YOUTHS to avoid making their own decisions and developing their own personality and tastes.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BEST comradeship changes your LIFE for the better, as friendship is a special kind of unconditional love. As a special kind of relationship, it requires certain efforts to maintain it.
2. EXPRESS yourself clearly, let your close friend know how essential he or is to you. You can tell your friend about it or text. There are a lot of touching paragraphs, on the Net, to send.
3. APPRECIATION and spending quality time together is vital: of course, you are busy, but despite that, you must find time to plan activities together and do not forget to show gratitude.
4. REVEALING your secrets and always keeping in touch even if you are apart is indispensable to comradeship. If you allow him or her to be aware of your LIFE, it makes him or her feel special.
5. IF you have a person close to you with these ever-important traits, know this is your great good friend: honesty, empathy, humor, support, reliability, loyalty, thoughtfulness and respect.
6. NO person other than your friend has a positive effect on your health (mental and physical). When you feel his or her support it is easier for you to handle any illness or fight diseases.
7. GOOD if not perfect comradeship lies in the one who wipes your tears when you cry, supports you when you fall, offers the shoulder to cry on and encourages you if you are down.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Dealing with inherent forces which may affect your relations with comrades.

1. FEELINGS about the past that are not fully expressed, amount to the Unfinished Business of your LIFE.
   Core Choice #26: They lead to resentment, rage, hatred, pain, anxiety, grief, guilt, abandonment.
   Sure Score #26: They linger in the background and interfere with effective contact with others.
2. ONLY by letting go of your pretenses that you will then release the energy that you have been holding in.
   Solid Stance #26: Pay special attention to how your PSYCHIC energy is used, and how it can be blocked.
   Catalysing Consideration #26: Be aware of any kind of resistance which is experienced in your PSYCHE.
3. RESISTANCE to contact, is developing defenses to prevent yourself from experiencing the present fully.
   Mighty Mission #26: It implies reacting to others, in stereotypical and inauthentic ways.
   Vivid Vision #26: It means avoiding the emotional pain, that you would prefer to deny.
4. MOVE BEYOND any impasse: BEYOND the point where you MAY BE stuck in your own maturation.
   Gaining Ground #26: Stop falsely thinking that you cannot be able to succeed.
   Capturing Clouds #26: Fully experience your deadness instead of denying it.
5. UNDERSTANDING the Contact Cycle will go a long way in living well with yourself and your comrades.
   Lofty Leap #26: You will jolt yourself into a higher level of awareness of SELF, and relationships.
   Merry Momentum #26: Contact Cycle = Increase awareness-->excitement-->contact-->action.
6. LIVED past events have a very important influence on a person’s present attitudes, as well as behaviour.
   Holy Hearken #26: But what is in the past should be brought into the HERE and NOW.
   Divine Distinction #26: Bring the past into the present by reenacting it in the moment.
7. ALWAYS ask questions such as: “What is happening NOW?” or “What am I feeling in this moment?”
   Prudent Planting #26: These questions intensifies the experience of the present and create awareness.
   Hoped Harvest #26: At bottom, they basically serve to promote a deeper awareness of the moment.

#26. In as much as I want to oil the RELATIONSHIP with my comrades,
Which is the simplest guide to augment SELF-BELIEF?

Self-belief enhances human accomplishment and personal well-being.
Self-belief will arm you with high assurance in your core capabilities.
With self-belief, you approach difficult tasks as challenges to be mastered.
You conceive setbacks productively rather than as threats to be avoided.
An efficacious outlook fosters intrinsic interest and deep engrossment.
You set challenging goals and maintain strong commitment to them.
You will eventually heighten and sustain your efforts in the face of failure.

#26. I, ___________________________, exercising my right to a deep SELF-BELIEF, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I will quickly recover my sense of self-belief after failures or setbacks. I will attribute failure to insufficient effort or deficient knowledge and skills which are acquirable. I will approach threatening situations with assurance that I can exercise control over them. I am convinced that such an efficacious outlook will produce personal accomplishments, reduce stress and lower vulnerability to depression.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, my successful experiences will boost my self-belief, while failures will erode it. This is the most robust source of self- belief. I am convinced that, observing a peer succeed at a task can strengthen my beliefs in my abilities. I have realised that, a positive mood can boost my self-belief, while anxiety can undermine it. A certain level of emotional stimulation can create an energising feeling that can contribute to strong performances.