MANKIND IS AN ABSTRACTION; all that exist is a vast ant-hill of individuals. Society is an instrument for the enhancement of the power and personality of the individual; the group is not an end in itself.

No influence in your LIFE as a YOUTH is as powerful as peer pressure. At its best, it can mobilise your energy, motivate you to strive for success, and encourage you to conform to a healthy group norm. At its worst, peer pressure can impair good judgment and fuel risk-taking behaviour, drawing you away from the family and positive influences and lure you into dangerous activities.

No matter what kind of peer pressure you face, you must learn how to balance the value of going along with the crowd against the importance of making your own decisions. You must ensure that you are comfortable with yourself so that you will be able to achieve that balance. More important, you MUST position yourself, amongst your comrades, as a magnet of attraction.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BOOMING with an extremely impressive personality, let those who come into contact with you feel that their most personal feelings are instantly and absolutely understood.
2. ESCHEW the words of Nikos Kazantzakis in Zorba the Greek: “Man is a brute…if you are cruel to him, he respects and fears you. If you are kind to him, he plucks your eyes out.”
3. ACCEPTED and unequivocally welcomed rather than judged, is what anyone – and more particularly those who you esteem as significant others – should feel in your presence.
4. RADIATE electrified energy which awakens hidden possibilities in those who come into contact with you. Let those who hear your wondrous words simply “fall in love with you.”
5. INTIMATELY meeting the other person will leave him or her with a sense that far more than words have passed between both of you: no invasion of privacy, and basically no alarm.
6. NOTHING should barricade your deep-rooted communication, it should be as if your soul is slowly slipping inside him or her, and in a split second transferring vital information.
7. GUIDE yourself with the basic psychological fact that, everything that irritates you about others should be the meritorious mirror, which should lead you to an understanding of yourself.

The more comfortable as a youth you are with your identity, the less susceptible you will be to negative peer pressure — a force that almost always leads you to some form of trouble. Peer pressure usually depends on the kind of peer group you hangs out with — or the one you aspire to.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Steering the vehicle of your LIFE devoid of external influences.

1. FIGHT with all necessary PSYCHIC effort, being gullible, or obeying your comrades’ requests blindly.
   Core Choice #27: As a pragmatist, know that doubt is an art which has to be acquired with difficulty.
   Sure Score #27: Question the motive behind any suggestion forwarded to you; be slow to SAY YES.
2. OPULENT comradeships consist not in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.
   Solid Stance #27: Friends should not at all put anything new in your PSYCHE.
   Catalysing Consideration #27: They should only arouse what is deep inside you.
3. READ the differences in interests of your comrades, in your relationship; some are either cats or dogs.
   Mighty Mission #27: If a dog jumps onto your lap it is because he is fond of you.
   Vivid Vision #27: But if a cat does the same thing it is because your lap is warmer.
4. MAINTAIN your individuality even in the midst of the most electrifying or overly charged relationships.
   Gaining Ground #27: In this way familiarity will not in any manner breed contempt.
   Capturing Clouds #27: Every encounter with each other will be a refreshing moment.
5. UNLEASH every idea or issue by the question: ‘What sensible difference to anybody will its truth make?’
   Lofty Leap #27: Tailor your words and expressions to suit the character and temperaments of your friend.
   Merry Momentum #27: Influence them by appealing to their self-interests; not what you had done to them.
6. LET all the moments of your interactions with your comrades be experiments, towards more maturity.
   Holy Hearken #27: They must be carried out in a context that offers a balance between support and risk.
   Divine Distinction #27: Experiments should be spontaneous as well as relevant to a particular moment.
7. AVOID using language that denies you power - by adding qualifiers or disclaimers (i.e. “but”, “I guess”).
   Prudent Planting #27: Notice what is in the foreground and the background in your interactions.
   Hoped Harvest #27: Pay more attention to your comrades’ body languages, than their words.

#27. To the extent as I aspire to polish my ATTITUDE towards my comrades,
Which are the vital means to cultivate a positive SELF-CONCEPT?

Self-concept is how you know and understand yourself, your self-image.
It is how you positively see yourself and how you think others see you.
A healthy image of self—attracts good things into your LIFE much more easily.
Your thoughts, beliefs and actions are affected by how you view yourself.
Your self-esteem (how you feel about yourself), also affects your self-concept.
Your self-concept is developed through your positive interactions with others.
Your social environment affects your self-concept; so seek a reinforcing one.

#27. I, ___________________________, exercising my duty to have a positive SELF-CONCEPT, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I concur with the saying: “Nothing attracts success like success itself!” When I believe I am successful, everything I will say and do will be based on the success principles which will only attract more success! When the self-image is hurt, then all I attract is what my low self-image allows me to. Lack, fear, limitation, jealousy and negativity to name a few are classic symptoms of low self-image. The first step to correct my self-image is to talk to myself and find out what it is that is suppressing my self-worth to bloom. So the first thing therefore would be to accept my self 100%. This includes all the bad or ugly traits of self that I do not like. I am convinced that, my self-concept will improve dramatically if I only increase the level of self acceptance.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, I will accept myself just as I am. I will love what I have and promote my great attributes. I will concentrate more on what I have than what I wish I did. I will eliminate guilt from my LIFE. I am entitled to give myself a little “me” time every day (yes every day!). I will stop beating myself for taking time to enjoy little pleasures. I will enjoy myself – guilt free, as long as I am not breaking any law. This will only enhance my mood and will help brighten my personality! I will squash negative feelings, negative self-talk from my LIFE. I will get rid of every limiting belief and habit out of my LIFE and replace them with positive and empowering ones. I will learn to use my inner compass! I will get to know my inner self. I will listen to my heart. It is a great tool as humans we have but very few people maximise its use.