LIFE HAS MEANING UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. To find this treasure MUST be your meat and drink. So much of our lives is MEANINGLESS, a self-cancelling vacillation and futility; we strive with chaos about us and within. BEYONDISM exhorts you to believe all the while that there is something vital and significant in you, could you but decipher your soul. LIFE means for you constantly to transform into light and flame all that you ARE, or meet with. You must seize the value and perspective of passing things, so as to pull yourself up out of the maelstrom of daily circumstance. You MUST learn to laugh in the face of the inevitable, to smile even at the looming death. You MUST want to be whole, to coordinate your energies, to channel and harmonise your desires.

The meeting of our own parents and our birth hung on a series of chance encounters that were equally unlikely. This causes us to view our present existence as an individual, something we take for granted, as a most IMPROBABLE occurrence, considering all of the fortuitous elements that had to fall into place. But the most PROBABLE thing - after being born without giving out your prior permission thereof - is to KNOW THYSELF in the context of your family, or siblings relations.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BIRTH ORDER explains WHY, there is a marked difference in temperament, orientations and beliefs between you, and your brothers and sisters (if you have any).
2. EVEN though you belong to the same family and therefore, as a matter of fact you share the same genetic make-up, your modus operandi in dealing with people may be different.
3. A considerable number of recent researches have confirmed this hypothesis which was originally forwarded by Austrian psychologist and psychiatrist Alfred Adler (1870 - 1937).
4. REAL PERSONALITIES of children in a family (what Adler referred to as ‘Family Constellation’) are apt to be more dissimilar simply by virtue of difference in experiences.
5. INDEED, each child has unique encounters, as a particular member of the family. As such, if children are spaced several years apart, they have more of the characteristics of only children.
6. NO wonder then, the ‘Constellation’ gets complicated in consideration of additional possibilities such as the only brother among sisters, only sister among brothers, or twins.
7. GUIDED so, it is the hope of BEYONDISM that questions about sibling differences has been quelled and you will be aware of yourself from the standpoint of your ‘Birth Order.’

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Appreciating your position in the family for self-advancement.

1. FULLY immerse yourself in a hard-fighting struggle to fiscally beat your parent(s); and to run the world.
   Core Choice #3: Work out diligently to be the strongest branch in the tree of your ancestors.
   Sure Score #3: Care less about who your grandfather was, but who your grandson will be.
2. ONWARD, I vow to my beloved parent (s) to be a restorer of their LIFE and a nourisher of their old age.
   Solid Stance #3: I hereby cheerfully resolve to unconditionally love all my siblings.
   Catalysing Consideration #3: I will obey my parent(s) in the Lord: for this is right.
3. RIVALRY in the family must be discouraged; there is no friend like a sibling, in calm or stormy weather.
   Mighty Mission #3: To cheer one on the tedious way, to fetch one if one goes astray.
   Vivid Vision #3: To lift one if one totters down, to strengthen one whilst one stands.
4. MOTIVATE family cohesion; you will never be divided; be swifter than sr2s; be stronger than lions.
   Gaining Ground #3: Being born in any family counts for nothing where virtue is absent.
   Capturing Clouds #3: Deeply believe in God and family; for these are essentials of LIFE.
5. UNCOUTH birds in their nests agree; it is a shameful sight, when family members fall out, and fight.
   Lofty Leap #3: Common genetic background should be the key source of emotional consensus.
   Merry Momentum #3: Different temperaments should be the foundation of democratic debates.
6. LOATH to say to your brother(s) or sister(s) ‘Worthless,’ and never condemn and rage against them.
   Holy Hearken #3: Honestly invite a lousy tramp sibling and set him or her down at your table.
   Divine Distinction #3: Swear to keep a league with your sibling(s) till DEATH do you APART.
7. ALL family members vary through time and opportunity; differing in particulars of form, gift and feature.
   Prudent Planting #3: But alike in soul and the possibility of infinite development.
   Hoped Harvest #3: Each should follow one’s path without conflicting the others’.

#3. In as much as I desire to be in tune with my BIRTH ORDER,
Which are the basic EGO-STRENGTHS to work on?

Seek challenges that stretch your mind beyond your comfort level.
Have a curiosity and never be satisfied with the ordinary and mundane.
Keep achieving more and more, and never fear taking calculated risks.
Have the drive and passion to accomplish goals, and excel in all you do.
Always strive to improve your work, be more efficient and be successful.
Seek to see results through feedback on specific and measurable outcomes.
Set high but realistic goals and standards, and work hard to achieve them.

#2. I, ___________________________, ascertaining my irreversible birth order of being the ----- ONLY CHILD ----, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I may be avoiding adventure due to a fear of uncertainty. I must tip the scales from certain toward uncertain to remove mental obstacles preventing me from being adventurous. For example, if I avoid or procrastinate participating in events because I do not know what is going to happen, then I should set up small excursions that slowly build a tolerance. I will muster my adventurous feelings. I have realised that being adventurous entails feeling mentally free, open and willing to experience life. Opening my heart by being kind to myself will help me build personal strengths.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, If I need to feel safe before I am comfortable doing something new, I will use meditation and yoga to calm me and relieve stress. Once I establish a sense of safety and calm I will be more open to adventure. I will give myself a push toward feeling free. It can be helpful to say self-affirmations like, “Everything is going to be okay; I am ready to get started; or this change is going to be good for me!” Being vocal helps as well. Simply yelling at that moment works to expend the energy to move me forward. I will take safety precautions. Being adventurous does not mean that I do things that are unsafe. Physically demanding adventures must include a deliberate evaluation of the dangers involved. For example, if I want to learn to race a boat, I must research the safety requirements. I will take seriously the advice of consulting with a professional.