YOU MAY HAVE BEEN EXPERIENCING thoughts and feelings which you find unable to explain logically. Sometimes you find yourself drifting into perceptions which seem MEANINGLESS, but have a high emotional toll on you. These are basically sensations which stream from your subconscious mind, but which the conscious mind finds itself unable to make sense of. Before those haunting imageries turns into hallucinations, here is an intervention measure.

CAUTION: This part needs a thorough concentration and perhaps assistance from your Institution-Based Counsellor or a trained psychotherapist.

“Properly speaking, the unconscious is the real psychic; its inner nature is just as unknown to us as the reality of the external world, and it is just as imperfectly reported to us through the data of consciousness as is the external world through the indications of our sensory organs,” so illumined Sigmund Freud. According to this father of psychoanalysis, individual needs, irrational forces and unconscious motivations determine a person’s behaviour. BEYONDISM takes upon itself a very daring attempt of penetrating into the deepest layers of your personality. The aim is to unearth and expose your individual history and to rediscover, in your unconscious, the hidden tendencies which guide you without your knowledge, and which influence the actual contents of your consciousness.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BASIC, unresolved conflicts that occurred during childhood, may dictate the direction of our future LIFE. The first five years of LIFE are crucial to the formation of adult personality.
2. ESSENTIAL manifestation of LIFE, is being built around tension and pleasure. All tension is due to the build-up of libido (sexual energy), and all pleasure come from its discharge.
3. AFFIRMATIVELY, in describing human personality development as psychosexual, we mean to convey that, what develops is the way in which sexual energy slowly accumulates.
4. READILY, we further explain how this energy is discharged as we mature biologically. (The term ‘sexual’ is used in a very general way to mean all pleasurable actions and thoughts).
5. IN Freudian terms, the child, actively seeking pleasure from many areas of body, is a polymorphous perverse; differs in many respects from normal reproductive sexual activity.
6. NO wonder then, the sexual activity of children is essentially autoerotic. In other words, children seek pleasure from their own bodies rather than from the body of another person.
7. GAINING pleasure in sucking thumbs, or exploring genitals, only in the course of a long history of development do kids progress towards mature, heterosexual, reproductive activities.

BEYONDISM hereby seeks to outline the journey upon which the libido invest itself in various erogenous zones (areas of body that provide pleasure). From birth to 18 months, we have the Oral Stage, whereby a child focuses on its lips and mouth and derives a lot of pleasure from feeding and eating. In the Anal Stage (18 months – 3 years) a child’s erogenous zone is the anus and the rectum, as it derives a lot of pleasure in expelling and retaining feaces. In this second stage, toilet training may be a source of conflict because it coincides with this stage of development. In the third Phallic Stage (3 - 6 years), the erogenous zone is the genital, and the child derives a lot of pleasure in fondling genitals. Freud suggested that, children develop incestuous wishes towards the opposite sexed parent, and murderous impulses toward the same sexed parent.

Each of the psychosexual stages is associated with a particular conflict, that must be resolved before the individual can successfully advance to the next stage. The resolution of each of these conflicts requires the expenditure of sexual energy, and the more energy that is expended at a particular stage the more the important characteristics of that stage remain with the individual, as he or she matures psychologically. To explain this, we use the analogy of military troops on the march. As the troops advance, they are met by opposition or conflict. If they are highly successful in winning the battle (resolving the conflict), then most of the troops (libido) will be able to move on to the next battle (stage). But the greater the difficulty encountered at any particular point, the greater the need for troops to remain behind to fight, and thus the fewer that will be able to go on to the next confrontation.

Some people do not seem to be able to leave one stage and proceed on to the next. One reason for this may be that, the needs of the developing individual at any particular stage may not have been adequately met, in which case there is frustration. Or possibly the person’s needs may have been so well satisfied, that he or she is reluctant to leave the psychological benefits of a particular stage in which there is overindulgence. Either outright or subtle tendency of frustration or overindulge, may lead to what psychoanalysts call fixation at a particular psychosexual stage.

Fixation refers to the theoretical notion that, a portion of the individual’s libido has been permanently ‘invested’ in a particular stage of his or her development. As such, each person will behave in some ways that are characteristic of infancy, or early childhood. Again, here we use the analogy of an advancing army. If an army tends to leave behind groups of soldiers at various bases along the line of march, it will have less strength for the real battle — in this case, the battle against cruel reality and the ordinary miseries of LIFE. Some amount of fixation is inevitable; all of us will develop fixations to some degree. In short, people are constitutionally predestined to be always somewhat immature and attached to childish things.

To clarify more on fixation, let us further compare the process to the flow of fluid under pressure. Water or some other fluid will naturally flow from higher to lower pressure. However, if openings occur along the path of flow, the fluid will collect in or leak through those openings. The fluid in this metaphor is the libido. Should some of a person’s LIFE energy be diverted into an opening (fixation) associated with a particular stage, it will collect there until it is released (in this case treatment).

Significance:

As you continue to mature physically, you may be having a heavy residue of negative attitudes and emotions which may prevent you from functioning optimally and dealing adequately with stress and anxiety. No wonder then, you may be somehow bound to your unhappy past which to a certain measure may make you respond in emotionally immature ways. Being unrealistic, these ways may not be helpful to you in the everyday world.

BEYONDISM teaches you that, there is no way you can repress or bury your past into oblivion; it will continue to haunt you, some times in a very unbearable way. This means that to come into terms with your unconscious past, is the only sure antidote to curing the scars affected upon your childhood fragile ego – which continue to irrationally influence your present motivations. This realisation of the root cause of your maladjustment is THERAPEUTIC ENOUGH!

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Dealing with the effect of unconschious childhood experiences, consciously.

1. FOR Sigmund Freud the ultimate psychological reality, is the subtle system of attractions and tensions.
   Core Choice #30: These attaches the child to parental images.
   Sure Score #30: And then through these to all other persons.
2. ONE little thing with a meaning is worth more in LIFE, than MANY great things without meaning at all.
   Solid Stance #30: We begin LIFE (without our consent) in the madness(?) of carnal desires of our parents.
   Catalysing Consideration #30: We end in the dissolution of all our parts, and the musty stench of corpses.
3. RESIST being bogged down by past actions of omission or commission, or your unconscious childhood.
   Mighty Mission #30: Success depends in a very large measure upon individual initiative and exertion.
   Vivid Vision #30: Putting your footprints on history, cannot be achieved except by dint of hard work.
4. MOVE with the faith that all things are possible to God—a spiritual awareness of Him, a selfless love.
   Gaining Ground #30: The prayer that reforms the sinner and heals the sick, is based on deep self-belief.
   Capturing Clouds #30: It is indeed high time for the clergyman, and the psychotherapist to join forces.
5. UNDERSTAND: Analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts; LIFE is a very effective therapist.
   Lofty Leap #30: It is not the chief task of psychoanalysis to save the world; it is precisely your core task.
   Merry Momentum #30: Psychoanalysis is a theory, a technique, a language, an ethos, an ethic, a climate.
6. LIBIDO (Latin libido, “pleasure” or “lust”), is the unconscious sex instinct responsible for acts of creation.
   Holy Hearken #30: The force behind drives to act and create is an expression of the general Will-to-Live.
   Divine Distinction #30: Artistic creation is an expression of the sex instinct, that has been rechanneled.
7. AVOID being a sexual exile; wandering the earth seeking LUST, craving and despising, never content.
   Prudent Planting #30: There is nothing in that anguished motion, for any person to envy.
   Hoped Harvest #30: Jumping from bed to bed, is a manifestation of a psychological disorder.

#30. In as much as I aspire to fight all IMPULSES against my optimal LIFE,
Which indispesable weapons must I amass, utilise and dispense?

Being a trusting person is a good quality, but only to a very limited extent.
You do not want to let your trust in other people get you into a dicey situation.
It is important to become a more critical thinker if you want to be less gullible.
Rushing to make a big decision may lead to consequences you might regret later.
This is the tact some people use to lure others into making a blind commitment.
This is without fully considering the ramifications, or the long term consequences.
An impulsive, or rather a spontaneous decision often is a poorly considered one.

In the jovial journey of LIFE, there are times when you just grow and excel.
You are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get your goals and ideals.
Then there are times when you stagnate; you feel uninspired and unmotivated.
You keep procrastinating on your plans; you basically keep on marking your time.
More often than not, you get out of a rut, only to get back into another one.
Stagnation is an indication that your vital energies are not being utilised well.
When you stagnate it means you are not moving in direction of actualisation.

The words headstrong and unwilling to change have been used to describe you?
Standing your ground is vital, but so are compromise, cooperation, and collaboration.
Your obstinacy may be the reason you may be losing friendships and life prospects.
If you put your foot down and refuse to budge on anything, then it is time for change.
Taking charge of your stubbornness involves using practical intervention measures.
It means developing negotiation skills and analysing the reasons for your stubbornness.
It entails being open to ‘existence’ and allowing your LIFE to unfold without being rigid.

The term “chronically disorganised” is essentially NOT a “diagnosis” or an “illness”.
It is a term used to indicate that conventional organising methods fails to work on you.
There is an ongoing undermining of your current quality of LIFE due to disorganisation.
A history of disorganisation in which efforts to get organised have not been maintained.
The most key issue is: there is an expectation that you will continue to be disorganised.
Healing and recovery will require custom designed organising strategies and solutions.
Tailored to the individual’s needs, learning style, and traits to become more organised.

You believe you are strong and you can handle anything that comes your way.
You need no help in dealing with your problems, anyway, no one could help you.
You feel like a million bucks; there is nothing you can say or do to change that.
You think that no priest, psychologist or doctor can tell you how to live your LIFE.
You are convinced that everyone around is stupid, incompetent and ineffectual.
You cannot stand having to repeat yourself for people; why can they not get it?
You believe that life owes you a living; everyone and the world owe you a living.

Shyness does not necessarily equate to being introverted or not liking yourself.
It means that for some reason you get embarrassed when the spotlight hits you.
Many people suffer from mild to extreme shyness and are struggling to overcome it.
Remember that breaking out from that shell does not magically happen overnight.
To overcome shyness you must be comfortable with it and embrace it totally.
The more you will resist it unconsciously or consciously, the longer it will prevail.
This could be done by saying to yourself repeatedly ‘Yes I am shy and I accept it’.

#30. I, ___________________________, strictly dedicated to stop being STUBBORN, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I will not always assign people less value than myself. I will think about everyone as being equal. It is okay to be confident and have healthy self-esteem, but over doing it can make me appear stubborn and closed-minded, not to mention snobby, self-centered and even mean. To be humble I need to approach every situation from the perspective that I am grateful for what I have. I will not boast about my accomplishments. Be appreciative for what I have and for the people in my LIFE. If I never lose sight of this and uphold a high level of care for others, I will see my stubbornness decrease. Humility requires me to hold a modest opinion of myself rather than an inflated one. I will not use stubbornness to get what I want, instead learn the essentials of negotiation so I can compromise, cooperate and collaborate. I will get what I want in a more effective and professional manner. Building rapport is the first step. People tend to let down their guard with those who share common interests. If I put my stubbornness aside and relate to people, they will respond in a positive way. I will decrease misunderstandings to increase resolution. I will make it my goal to understand what the other person is saying and what they want. If something does not make sense to me, I will ask for clarification. Next, I will express my desires in a way that will help the other person understand what I want. Once both parties understand each other, it will be easier to mould a positive outcome. My stubborn demands have probably lacked rational support if stubbornness has been my main tactic for controlling a situation. Others have probably given up trying to resolve an issue with me because I continually force my position on to them. Saying, “Because I said so,” in a negotiation is not acceptable and works against reaching an agreement. I will need to support my position with evidence that will help justify what I want. I will facilitate and celebrate agreements. If I approach every situation with the intent of saying “no,” it will hinder an agreement. Conflicts are resolved much quicker if I start with an attitude of, “How can we make this work?” I am not giving up any power by using this approach. In fact, arriving at a solution in an expedient manner is a powerful accomplishment.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, there will be times when I will not be able to resolve a conflict. If I make every effort to fully participate, then that is all that I can do. I may want to make additional attempts at a resolution. Unfortunately, there are times when I must accept it and move on. I can always take a break from the action to allow myself and the other person to think, cool down, and process the potential outcomes. Sometimes the best outcome is to understand that I will never understand. This will help me mentally get past the issue. I will explore and identify the losses of my LIFE. Stubbornness can be a reaction to losing someone or something in my LIFE. I may be self-protecting against any further loss because the initial loss was extremely painful. Things, people, or family status may have been pulled out from under me. Subconsciously I think if I hold my ground on everything, I will not get hurt. The root of stubbornness include: feelings of inferiority; there may be a secret being protected; a desire to get attention from others; a person is afraid to give up power. The world filled with stubbornness I am trying to create is not healthy. I will eventually end up feeling isolated, depressed and may suffer other psychological challenges. When I feel myself starting to resist, I will stop and say, “I am not going to be stubborn. I am going to be open to the possibilities.” When I feel the threat of losing the things that matter, there is a tendency to clinch tightly to prevent them from being taken away. I will learn to let things go. I will be brave in the face of stubbornness. It is trying to stop me from living fully. If I want to stop being stubborn, I will pick one day to commit to it to see how it feels. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but I will eventually feel the freedom it can bring. I will respect other’s beliefs along with my own. I will accept advice from other people. I will love others and allow others to love me. Apologising for my stubbornness can win me friends and influence others. I will develop a habit of apologising when I hurt someone, or tried to defend an errant cause. I should get warned that being stubborn can cost my schooling, relationships, opportunities and even my LIFE if I refuse to seek medical treatment when it is necessary. I must gain perspective about the consequences of my behaviours before I can change. My behaviours affect other people and I have a responsibility to treat others in the way and manner I expect to be treated. It is never too late to apologise to get myself out of a predicament caused by my unwillingness to bend.