There are several ways to break up a relationship.
Experience show alternative strategies:
Positive tone: ‘I still like you, but…’
Verbal de-escalation: ‘I do not love you anymore.’
Behavioural de-escalation: Avoiding contact. Seeing him or her less often.
Negative identity management: ‘We each should volitionally see other people…’
Justification: ‘This relationship is not giving me what I want or what I had expected.’
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Terminating Relationships or rather relationships break down unfolds in FIVE stages.
Distinguished Developers: Cody (1982), Duck (1982).

1. USUAL Relationship phase, means that the partnership is fairly healthy, but dissatisfaction builds up.
2. PROFUSE Intrapsychic phase is where nothing much is said, but the focus is on the faults of the other.
3. GRANTED, in the Dyadic phase, the breakdown comes out into the open, with one saying ‘I am leaving’.
4. REALITY must be faced by both partners and intensive discussions ensue, focusing on the partnership.
5. ACTUALLY, in the Social phase, the focus turns outwards to the perceptions of the significant people.
6. DULY, friends may be recruited to camps or break into battles of who is to blame and what to be done.
7. EXPLANATIONS all in place, the relationship now get its official BURYING, the Grave-dressing phase.
   Timely Therapy: - It takes two to tango; if your partner is pulling the plugs, just get out with your dignity.

Ignorance is a killing poison.
When LOVERS do not contentedly communicate,
They are doomed to remain detached from each other’s inner world.
If LOVERS do not qualitatively get together and share views and exchange ideas,
They remain erotically unconscious and unaware of other’s motives and desires.
A LOVE world without decisive dialogue is precisely a universe of darkness.
SEVEN ways to cultivate and irrigate ENDURING EROTISM in your PSYCHE:

1. Essentially, do not mistakenly believe that, what will make you desirable and seductive is physical beauty, elegance or overt sexuality. The secret of your astounding success in your relationship is your spirit and attitude that will enthrall your partner.
2. Radiate a powerful air of independence. This will make your partner to want to posses you, to tame you. People are drawn to the high-spirited, who expect a lot out of LIFE, whereas they tend to disrespect those who are fearful and undemanding.
3. Offer your partner an infantile pattern to be imitated, psychologically infecting him or her with infantilism and thereby drawing him or her into the “golden age” of the infantile paradise of childhood, where all humans yearn to return to.
4. The more absorbed you seem in your own joy filled world, the more seductive you become. Do not go half-way: make the fantasy you inhabit as radical and erotic as possible, and you will attract attention like a magnet.
5. Intentionally get under your partner’s skin, agitate his or her senses, raising his or her temperature. Lead him or her to the moment – an intensified present in which morality, judgement, and concern for the future all melt away and the body succumb to pleasure.
6. Successful erotism is a matter of rooting out the fear and awkwardness that have built up in you over the years; it is becoming more graceful with your approach, and being less defensive when your partner seems to resist.
7. Maintaining a relationship with hook or crook, is the most rewarding challenge in LIFE. Beware of any thing that can break the spell you create in your relationship. Remember that those who LOVE MOST are the ones who LOATH MOST, in the event of a breakdown. Beware of a flagging of energy, a creeping of familiarity that may spoil the erotic fantasy.

LOVE CAN BE VIEWED AS A FORM of transference whereby one person puts a part of him or herself into another person and then feeling lost without that part, and subsequently feeling whole again when he or she relates to that person. Listen to American psychologist Erich Fromm (1900 - 1980): “Love is often nothing but a favourable exchange between two people who get the most of what they can expect, considering their value on the personality market.”

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. An erotic relationship, is basically a commitment to extend from ‘myself’ to ‘ourselves’ in form of family, and then to a larger society. It therefore follows that, ignorance in EROTIC affairs, is a luxury that any serious individual with an inquiring mind cannot afford, especially at this time when this hectic LIFE calls for everyone’s alertness at all times. We all need as few problems in LIFE as possible, in order to completely pursue our LIFE’s goals.

“Puberty is the cradle of love, senility its cremation,” so noted Nigerian novelist and playwright Obi Egbuna (1938 - ). It is unfortunate that, many marry because they feel madly in love; and nothing could be more dangerous since “madly” is the operative word. Those in this state see each other through rose-tinted spectacles, which dim all faults and blemishes. It also means that, they are less likely to recognise the danger and obstacles, which are inevitably mounted further along the road. It is therefore imperative that, problems that are almost sure to arise in marriage, should be considered before not after the wedding ceremony (formal or informal). In other words, they should be boldly faced at the start.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BASIC manifestation of LOVE is in arousing mutual devotion. It has potential to overcome the natural antagonism in the world. Devoid of LOVE, one’s soul wanders in sorry incompleteness.
2. EVER witnessed a pathetic a figure, other than a man whose LOVE has been betrayed? There is also no wretched a soul, other than a woman whose sweet scent of LOVE has finally gone sour.
3. A good, well-nourished LIFE (if not a perfect one) is inspired by LOVE, and subtly guided by knowledge. We should learn to face LOVE boldly, with fullness; for to fear LOVE is to fear LIFE.
4. REALLY, those who fear LOVE (and also LIFE) are already three parts dead. Nuptial LOVE makes mankind, friendly LOVE perfects it. But wanton LOVE corrupts and destroys civilisation.
5. INDEED to fall in LOVE is a natural inclination of mankind. Anyone who has never been touched by LOVE walks in darkness. In true LOVE, the boundary between ego and object melts away.
6. NOW, LOVE is above all laws, and abstract opinions; it is the TRUTH, the flame, and primary driving idea of moral world. LOVE is the most persuasive adhesive force in the society.
7. GENERAL knowledge on the matters of this universe is barren without LOVE. The bond of union in society and the state is not judicial law, but LOVE. No cord can hold so fast, as LOVE can do.

Intelligent indulgence in your first DATE!

There are a lot of guides and proposals to dating out there.
But very few based on personality traits and temperament.
Here is how to make a good impression on your first date.
Know some general important secrets to a good first date,
In view of the type of the person you will be going out with.
Know the best triggers that will make your partner scintillated.
Hopefully you have a rough idea of your date’s temperament.

If she talks about facts, figures, work, play, home, family, news, sports, weather, and does what effectively gives results, then thinks about rules later, it implies that she is an ARTSAN.

This is how to treat her, according to her TRAIT.

DO:

• Relax and go with the flow.
• Ask for stories about risks that paid off, sports, or any other exciting events.
• Feel free to engage in some debating.
• Play to win if you are competing, but be a good winner and do not always win.
• Express admiration for her gracefulness or daring.

DO NOT:

• Try to plan every single minute.
• Try to impress her with esoteric theories and goals or your cautiousness.

If she talks about facts, figures, work, play, home, family, news, sports, weather, and does the right thing, then gets concerned with effectiveness later, it implies that she is a GURDIAN.

This is how to treat her, according to her TRAIT.

DO:

• Plan ahead.
• Ask about family and stories of past achievements.
• Avoid excessive competition.
• Be on time.
• Express admiration for her dependability or common sense.

DO NOT:

• Try to shock her yet.
• Forget to call (or whatever) when you said you would.

If she talks about theories, conjecture, dreams, philosphies, beliefs, fantasies, and does what effectively gives results, then thinks about rules later, it implies that she is a RATIONAL.

This is how to treat her, according to her TRAIT.

DO:

• Avoid excess emotion.
• Ask about her theories, thinking, and ideas.
• Express yourself clearly and logically.
• Engage in debate.
• Express admiration for her incisive thinking.

DO NOT:

• Suggest that she is incompetent or foolish.
• Become too mushy and sentimental.

If she talks about theories, conjecture, dreams, philosphies, beliefs, fantasies, and does the right thing, then gets concerned with effectiveness later, it implies that she is an IDEALIST.

This is how to treat her, according to her TRAIT.

DO:

• Whatever is romantic.
• Ask her about her family and people she has helped.
• Feel free to share some emotion.
• Ask questions about what is important to her.
• Express admiration for her caring and sympathy.

DO NOT:

• Get into an argument (debates can sometimes seem like arguments).
• Suggest that she is irrational or enabling.

Intelligent indulgence in your first DATE!

There are a lot of guides and proposals to dating out there.
But very few based on personality traits and temperament.
Here is how to make a good impression on your first date.
Know some general important secrets to a good first date,
In view of the type of the person you will be going out with.
Know the best triggers that will make your partner scintillated.
Hopefully you have a rough idea of your date’s temperament.

If he talks about facts, figures, work, play, home, family, news, sports, weather, and does what effectively gives results, then thinks about rules later, it implies that he is an ARTSAN.

This is how to treat him, according to his TRAIT.

DO:

• Relax and go with the flow.
• Ask for stories about risks that paid off, sports, or any other exciting events.
• Feel free to engage in some debating.
• Play to win if you are competing, but be a good winner and do not always win.
• Express admiration for his gracefulness or daring.

DO NOT:

• Try to plan every single minute.
• Try to impress him with esoteric theories and goals or your cautiousness.

If he talks about facts, figures, work, play, home, family, news, sports, weather, and does the right thing, then gets concerned with effectiveness later, it implies that he is a GURDIAN.

This is how to treat him, according to his TRAIT.

DO:

• Plan ahead.
• Ask about family and stories of past achievements.
• Avoid excessive competition.
• Be on time.
• Express admiration for his dependability or common sense.

DO NOT:

• Try to shock him yet.
• Forget to call (or whatever) when you said you would.

If he talks about theories, conjecture, dreams, philosphies, beliefs, fantasies, and does what effectively gives results, then thinks about rules later, it implies that he is a RATIONAL.

This is how to treat him, according to his TRAIT.

DO:

• Avoid excess emotion.
• Ask about his theories, thinking, and ideas.
• Express yourself clearly and logically.
• Engage in debate.
• Express admiration for his incisive thinking.

DO NOT:

• Suggest that he is incompetent or foolish.
• Become too mushy and sentimental.

If he talks about theories, conjecture, dreams, philosphies, beliefs, fantasies, and does the right thing, then gets concerned with effectiveness later, it implies that he is an IDEALIST.

This is how to treat him, according to his TRAIT.

DO:

• Whatever is romantic.
• Ask him about his family and people he has helped.
• Feel free to share some emotion.
• Ask questions about what is important to him.
• Express admiration for his caring and sympathy.

DO NOT:

• Get into an argument (debates can sometimes seem like arguments).
• Suggest that he is irrational or enabling.

Unconditional love is rare and hard to find, yet it is what we all crave, since we either experienced it once or wish we had. You do not have to stretch yourself so much to achieve this; the mere hint of devoted attention, of accepting your lover for who she is, of meeting her needs, will place her in an infantile position. A sense of dependency may frighten her a little, and she may feel an undercurrent of ambivalence, a need to assert herself periodically. But her ties to you will be strong and she will keep coming back for more, bound by the illusion she is recapturing the parental-love she had seemingly lost forever, or never had.

As adults we tend to overvalue our childhood. In their dependency and powerlessness, children genuinely suffer, yet when we get older we conveniently forget about that and sentimentalise the supposed paradise we have left behind. We forget the pain and remember only the pleasure. Why? Because the responsibilities of adult LIFE are a burden so oppressive at times that we secretly yearn for the dependency of childhood, for that person who looked after our every need, assumed our cares and worries. This daydream of ours has a strong erotic component, for the child’s feeling of being dependent on the parent is charged with sexual undertones. Give her a sensation similar to that protected, dependent feeling of childhood and she will project all kinds of fantasies onto you, including feelings of love or deep intimate attraction that she will attribute to something else. She will not overtly admit it, but as human beings we long to regress, to shed our adult exterior and vent the childish emotions that linger beneath the surface.

The key here is to lavish your lover with attention. When together, she will feel like she has returned to the womb. In your presence, in fact, she will be more of a little girl than ever. How could she refuse you a favour, disobey you or ever leave you?

BEYONDISM hereby seeks to outline an EROTICA PROCESS; as a function of arousing deep intimate feelings of attraction in your partner. The word erotica is an extension of the word erotic which is derived from the word Eros. In psychoanalytic theory, Eros is the instincts for self-preservation, pleasure, and procreation. In its real psychological implication erotica means arousing feelings of intimate romantic desire. Consequently, our EROTICA PROCESS is based on the premise that, to forge an enduring, mutually enriching and LOVELY relationship is an art, a science and a philosophy. It is a skill you should learn and commit yourself to and integrate it in your PSYCHE, if you are to be a romantic and a successful LOVER, who enters and captivates the spirit of your partner.

The words ‘I LOVE YOU’ divinely resurrect millions, in less than a second.
INFANTILE LOVE follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.”
MATURE LOVE follows the principle: “I am loved because I love.”
IMMATURE LOVE says: “I love you because I need you.”
MATURE LOVE says: “I need you because I love you.”
Our EROTICA PROCESS unfolds in 7 x 2 = 14 ways thus:

1. Endeavour to be a man who is a BLESSED BEYONDIST in matters of LOVE, who is unlike normal males by being delightfully unrestrained, a strategic slave to your love of your woman.
2. Release your woman’s repressed longings by adapting a subtle mix of pleasure and adventure. Let her feel desired and appreciated, through careful use of soul-soothing words.
3. Orchestrate the energy of your sensual desire, by showering your woman with LOVE which makes her feel that the whole of her womanhood is valued and supremely respected.
4. The reaction to your gigantic passion will beautify your woman, who will flush in illumining beauty by your reflection. By firing her with seductive splendour you will transfigure her.
5. Inflame your woman and let her glow with an all-consuming desire. With an uncontrollable libido show her that you can ardently brave all dangers and obstacles to posses her.
6. Completely show no hesitation, abandon all self restraints and let yourself go. Show her that you are a slave to her charms, and she will essentially not think of the aftermath.
7. Aspire to conquer your woman by an exceptional bewitching verbal seductive power, alloyed to the musical timbre of your voice, put to the service of an exceptional eloquence.
   
   
8. Promiscuous with your words, choose them for their ability to suggest, hypnotise, elevate, infect and offer a powerful distraction, a narcotic. Use language not to communicate or convey information, but to persuade.
9. Rock the spirit of your lover by using words as a subtle poison with infinite application; concentrate more on the form and less on the content. Give your words a lofty, spiritual, literary flavour, which insinuates desire.
10. Offer pleasure for its own sake, desire with no strings attached. From the time you cross her path, she is all you think about. Your desire for her should be so powerful that you give her no time to think or worry about consequences.
11. Concentrate on touching your woman’s unconscious, those repressed desire that cry for liberation. Suggest to her that she is participating in something rare and thrilling – a chance to play out her romantic orientations.
12. Esteem in drawing her into a kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. By abandoning yourself to the moment, you will make her feel that you exist for her alone, that she is the one you truly love.
13. Strive to be a BLESSED BEYONDIST, who goes further than anyone else. In demonstrating your audacious desire, you will make yourself stand out from the crowd. Your relationship will be a shining star in a cloudy night.
14. Seek to be polite and civil. Do not leave your reputation to chance or gossip; being a good and responsible lover, is your LIFE’s artwork, and so craft it, hone it, and display it with the care of an artist.

Unconditional love is rare and hard to find, yet it is what we all crave, since we either experienced it once or wish we had. You do not have to stretch yourself so much to achieve this; the mere hint of devoted attention, of accepting your lover for who he is, of meeting his need, will place him in an infantile position. A sense of dependency may frighten him a little, and he may feel an undercurrent of ambivalence, a need to assert himself periodically. But his ties to you will be strong and he will keep coming back for more, bound by the illusion he is recapturing the parental-love he had seemingly lost forever, or never had.

As adults we tend to overvalue our childhood. In their dependency and powerlessness, children genuinely suffer, yet when we get older we conveniently forget about that and sentimentalise the supposed paradise we have left behind. We forget the pain and remember only the pleasure. Why? Because the responsibilities of adult LIFE are a burden so oppressive at times that we secretly yearn for the dependency of childhood, for that person who looked after our every need, assumed our cares and worries. This daydream of ours has a strong erotic component, for the child’s feeling of being dependent on the parent is charged with sexual undertones. Give him a sensation similar to that protected, dependent feeling of childhood and he will project all kinds of fantasies onto you, including feelings of love or deep intimate attraction that he will attribute to something else. He will not overtly admit it, but as human beings we long to regress, to shed our adult exterior and vent the childish emotions that linger beneath the surface.

The key here is to lavish your lover with attention. When together, he will feel like he has returned to the womb. In your presence, in fact, he will be more of a little boy than ever. How could he refuse you a favour, disobey you or ever leave you?

BEYONDISM hereby seeks to outline an EROTICA PROCESS; as a function of arousing deep intimate feelings of attraction in your partner. The word erotica is an extension of the word erotic which is derived from the word Eros. In psychoanalytic theory, Eros is the instincts for self-preservation, pleasure, and procreation. In its real psychological implication erotica means arousing feelings of intimate romantic desire. Consequently, our EROTICA PROCESS is based on the premise that, to forge an enduring, mutually enriching and LOVELY relationship is an art, a science and a philosophy. It is a skill you should learn and commit yourself to and integrate it in your PSYCHE, if you are to be a romantic and a successful LOVER, who enters and captivates the spirit of your partner.

The words ‘I LOVE YOU’ divinely resurrect millions, in less than a second.
INFANTILE LOVE follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.”
MATURE LOVE follows the principle: “I am loved because I love.”
IMMATURE LOVE says: “I love you because I need you.”
MATURE LOVE says: “I need you because I love you.”
Our EROTICA PROCESS unfolds in 7 x 2 = 14 ways thus:

1. Endeavour to be a woman who is a BLESSED BEYONDIST, who has laid off timidity which wears down many women, and be proactive and assertive in matters of LOVE.
2. Remember that most men grow bored with a woman, no matter how beautiful. So turn this dynamic around by creating the idea of supplying variety and adventure.
3. Offer a total release from limitations of your man’s LIFE. In your presence which must always be heightened and romantically charged, let him feel transported to a world of pure pleasure.
4. Take control of his male libido (the secret oppression of having to be responsible, in control and rational), by embodying his fantasy. Let your tactful praise of his ideals intoxicate him.
5. If you make your encounters to be high-spirited and soul-nourishing, in your absence he will pursue you energetically, whereby he will lose control over himself, something he yearns to.
6. Cultivate a particular appearance and manner which will make you the ultimate male fantasy figure, a mirage. Let your PSYCHE ooze the sweet music to infiltrate his PSYCHE.
7. Always give the impression that you live for pleasure; that your time never seem taken up by work or chores; that there is always a consummation between your work and play.
   
   
8. Practice your role properly of stirring your man’s basic emotions; calling upon pure physical pleasure because many men’s LIFE lacks it. Shower him with high degree of enthusiasm.
9. Rock his spirit by making him feel as ‘Born Again’ in your presence. Each occasion you meet should be an invigorating experience; make him feel an awakening of new wave of ideas.
10. Organise your LIFE such that you emit a languorous air, as if you have all the time in the world for love and pleasure. Your gestures should suggest ambiguity and eroticism.
11. Conjure a touch of innocence and vulnerability. This mix is perversely satisfying: it gives him the conviction that he is a protector, the father-figure; although it is you controlling the dynamic.
12. Enjoy yourself in being distinct from other women, be a rare gem, a mythic figure, a valuable prize to be wrestled away from other men, and to be kept in a queenly manner.
13. Sweet-sounding voice is delightful, insinuating and mesmerising. It has suggestive regressive power, recalling mother’s voice to calm her child, even before the child understands language.
14. Strive to never speak quickly, aggressively, or in high pitch. Your voice should be calm and unhurried, as if you had not quite waken up, or have not yet left your bed.

BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALISATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
LOVING devoid of infantilism, fantasies and strings attached.

1. FINDING insignificant things become treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever, is LOVE.
   Core Choice #31,32: Vulnerability becomes the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.
   Sure Score #31,32: You think of the person you LOVE on every occasion and in everything you do.
2. ORDAIN LOVE as that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
   Solid Stance #31,32: You are not LOVED for your perfectness, but in spite of the fact that you are not.
   Catalysing Consideration #31,32: A true LOVER is a mirror, which shows you all that is holding you back.
3. RECEIVING deep love from someone gives you strength, while loving deeply gives you courage.
   Mighty Mission #31,32: No matter what, you are going to mess up sometimes, it is a universal truth.
   Vivid Vision #31,32: But the good part in love is, you get to decide how you are going to mess it up.
4. MOSTLY there is no a time or place for true LOVE; it happens in a heartbeat, in a flashing moment.
   Gaining Ground #31,32: Just because you fail once, does not mean you will fail at everything.
   Capturing Clouds #31,32: Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself.
5. UNINTERESTING things now become fascinating as they are important to the one who is special to you.
   Lofty Leap #31,32: Laughter seems part of daily LIFE where before it was infrequent or did not exist at all.
   Merry Momentum #31,32: A phone call helps to get you through day’s work and brings a smile to your face.
6. LIFE’s opposite is not death, it is indifference, so the opposite of LOVE is not hate, but indifference.
   Holy Hearken #31,32: Never open up your heart, allow someone inside to mess you up.
   Divine Distinction #31,32: Love one or two people deeply, trust a few, do wrong to none.
7. ASPIRE to keep your head high, your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because LOVE is LIFE.
   Prudent Planting #31,32: It is not a lack of LOVE, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy relationships.
   Hoped Harvest #31,32: Simply LOVE without problems or pride; in this way there is no YOU nor THE OTher.

Therapeautic Takeaway #31,32

Cardinal Concept #31,32: As substantially scribed FOR YOU. .............
Move BEYOND offering special attention to showering him or her with unwavering consideration.
Critical Canon #31,32: As candidly cracked BY YOU. .............
To BECOME a romantic lover driven by unflinching impulse to enter my partner’s spirit at all cost.
Renaissance Rehearsal #31,32: As purposively partook BY YOU. .............
REFUSE antagonism and unresponsiveness, by COMPREHENDING the essential importance of LOVE.

BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALISATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
LOVING devoid of infantilism, fantasies and strings attached.

1. FINDING insignificant things become treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever, is LOVE.
   Core Choice #31,32: Vulnerability becomes the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.
   Sure Score #31,32: You think of the person you LOVE on every occasion and in everything you do.
2. ORDAIN LOVE as that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
   Solid Stance #31,32: You are not LOVED for your perfectness, but in spite of the fact that you are not.
   Catalysing Consideration #31,32: A true LOVER is a mirror, which shows you all that is holding you back.
3. RECEIVING deep love from someone gives you strength, while loving deeply gives you courage.
   Mighty Mission #31,32: No matter what, you are going to mess up sometimes, it is a universal truth.
   Vivid Vision #31,32: But the good part in love is, you get to decide how you are going to mess it up.
4. MOSTLY there is no a time or place for true LOVE; it happens in a heartbeat, in a flashing moment.
   Gaining Ground #31,32: Just because you fail once, does not mean you will fail at everything.
   Capturing Clouds #31,32: Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself.
5. UNINTERESTING things now become fascinating as they are important to the one who is special to you.
   Lofty Leap #31,32: Laughter seems part of daily LIFE where before it was infrequent or did not exist at all.
   Merry Momentum #31,32: A phone call helps to get you through day’s work and brings a smile to your face.
6. LIFE’s opposite is not death, it is indifference, so the opposite of LOVE is not hate, but indifference.
   Holy Hearken #31,32: Never open up your heart, allow someone inside to mess you up.
   Divine Distinction #31,32: Love one or two people deeply, trust a few, do wrong to none.
7. ASPIRE to keep your head high, your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because LOVE is LIFE.
   Prudent Planting #31,32: It is not a lack of LOVE, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy relationships.
   Hoped Harvest #31,32: Simply LOVE without problems or pride; in this way there is no YOU nor THE OTher.

Therapeautic Takeaway #31,32

Cardinal Concept #31,32: As substantially scribed FOR YOU. .............
Move BEYOND offering special attention to showering him or her with unwavering consideration.
Critical Canon #31,32: As candidly cracked BY YOU. .............
To BECOME a romantic lover driven by unflinching impulse to enter my partner’s spirit at all cost.
Renaissance Rehearsal #31,32: As purposively partook BY YOU. .............
REFUSE antagonism and unresponsiveness, by COMPREHENDING the essential importance of LOVE.

BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALISATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Acquiring the requisite attributes to be LOVED by your WOMAN.

1. FONDLY wanting a desirable woman, entails cultivating core femininity and desirability into her.
   Core Choice: Avoid lethargy in matters of LOVE; intimacy requires much mental investment.
   Sure Score: If you decide, “yes such a woman is worth it,” you have a project on your hands.
2. ONLY those who lie completely outside LOVE are ill, even if they remain capable of normal LIFE.
   Solid Stance: Much more genius is needed to make LOVE than to command great armies.
   Catalysing Consideration: Whatever is done from LOVE always occurs BEYOND all virtues.
3. REAL ladies require vast reservoirs of patience and LOVE to counteract their erratic emotionalism.
   Mighty Mission: Inclination to practice patience will mitigate her ‘ever demanding’ propensity.
   Vivid Vision: Good women are trained by men; they are not magically born out of the womb.
4. MOST high quality women are raised and overseen by men of value, integrity and intelligence.
   Gaining Ground: Whether that man is her father or later on, a serious boyfriend.
   Capturing Clouds: She is trained and maintained by men to be a quality woman.
5. UNDERSTAND that happiness is the feeling that power increases — that a resistance is overcome.
   Lofty Leap: Bad is that which proceeds from weakness; the inability to LOVE.
   Merry Momentum: Good is that which heightens the feeling of power in man.
6. LIFE’S disaffection and frustration, essentially comes from being unable to LOVE or to be LOVED.
   Holy Hearken: Anguish simply comes from being unable to give or take pleasure.
   Divine Distinction: Radical disenchantment comes from seduction and its failure.
7. Awoman who is destined to be “wife/mother material” to your perception, is a work in progress.
   Prudent Planting: Basically, she is guided by a social network of traditionally minded matriarchs.
   Hoped Harvest: She obeys the desires and authority of the man she has pledged her allegiance to.

Therapeautic Takeaway #31,#32

Cardinal Concept #31,#32: As substantially scribed FOR YOU. ..............
Move BEYOND lusting shallowly for ‘convenience’, to loving deeply out of ‘bare necessity’.
Critical Canon #31,#32: As candidly cracked BY YOU. ..............
To BECOME ROMANTICALLY realistic in erotic matters, by never falling blindly in LOVE.
Renaissance Rehearsal #31,#32: As purposively partook BY YOU. ..............
REFUSE erraticism and capriciousness, by developing cohesion to an enduring FRIENDSHIP.

BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALISATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Positioning yourself to be an object of LOVE to your MAN.

1. FEMINISM is yielding (submitting) to a higher power; stepping out of the way so that he can step up.
   Core Choice: Abscond dominance and control within a relationship; allow your man to lead.
   Sure Score: Say yes more; be open and flexible to his ideas; be more generous; give more.
2. ON a daily basis you should offer positive encouragement; build him up with your supportive words.
   Solid Stance: Do not keep score of who is doing what for whom, simply focus on enhancing his LIFE.
   Catalysing Consideration: Let your LOVE motivate you to assist, surprise, and satisfy him regularly.
3. RECEPTIVENESS is vital: Do not shoot down his statements or insist that your way is the best way.
   Mighty Mission: Keep in mind that you do not know everything -- humility is key.
   Vivid Vision: Create situations where he can share something he enjoys with you.
4. MUSTER speaking highly of him; in his presence or absence; never whine; entitlement is unattractive.
   Gaining Ground: Learn open body language (hands facing outward, no crossing arms, no frowning).
   Capturing Clouds: Be enjoyable and agreeable; smile, tell jokes; do not take everything so seriously.
5. UNDERSTAND empathetically: identifying with and vicariously experiencing his emotions and motives.
   Lofty Leap: Consider (without projection) how he would want you to respond, act, or treat him.
   Merry Momentum: Know where he is coming from and allow this to shape your assessment of him.
6. LEARN to carry yourself with purpose and distinction; poised, composed, dignified and self-assured.
   Holy Hearken: Good manners: have proper posture, always present yourself well.
   Divine Distinction: Speak clearly and in a light tone, and not chattering aimlessly.
7. AUTHENTIC transformation can only occur if you really want to improve, and put in the requisite effort.
   Prudent Planting: Take the time to develop new traits, never get frustrated if it seems difficult.
   Hoped Harvest: You will attract a gentleman of high value, only by being a lady of high value.

Therapeautic Takeaway #31,#32

Cardinal Concept #31,#32: As substantially scribed FOR YOU. ..............
Move BEYOND lusting shallowly for ‘convenience’, to loving deeply out of ‘bare necessity’.
Critical Canon #31,#32: As candidly cracked BY YOU. ..............
To BECOME ROMANTICALLY realistic in erotic matters, by never falling blindly in LOVE.
Renaissance Rehearsal #31,#32: As purposively partook BY YOU. ..............
REFUSE erraticism and capriciousness, by developing cohesion to an enduring FRIENDSHIP.

#31,32. To the exent I aspire to commit to the irrigation of the SEED of my LOVE,
How will I develop the preliminary attraction to an enduring FRIENDSHIP?

It is anonymously said that physical beauty is on the eyes of the beholder.
Surface attraction is superficial and is often mistaken for real perfect love.
People get married on it and wake up to find themselves wedded to a stranger.
The bitter truth is that no relationship will endure (and will simply fail).
Where preliminary attraction has not developed into an enduring friendship.
Quite often, a passing friendship in formed by this deceptive magnetic power.
But it is easily broken and simply dissolved, at the first serious difference.

Discern all factual facets LOVE!

Scholars continue to wrestle with the question of defining LOVE.
Reaping from years of research, BEYONDISM gives the answer.
LOVE is a complex emotion, which involves feelings of cognitions,
And motivations that contribute to the positive sense of closeness.
LOVE is the most intense form of attraction between individuals.
LOVE’s essential inducement is making us feel alive and awake.
It is a healing, saving and a redeeming force in a dangerous world.

Psychology of relationships has developed the triangular theory of love.
Composed of intimacy, passion and decision/commitment components.
INTIMACY is the emotional component encompassing feelings of closeness.
It is characterised by feelings of attachment, connectedness and bondedness.
PASSION is the motivational component that underlies physical attraction.
It is characterised by feelings of arousal, and sexual desire or behaviour.
The COMMITMENT pole reflects your decision to stay in the relationship.

People who are strongly committed to their relationship make a vow,
To invest all efforts so as to stay in that relationship through thick and thin.
Willing to work hard to keep it going even if the thin outweighs the thick.
As relationship ripens, passionate love mellows into companionate love.
If the flames of passion remain alive, you experience consummate love.
Strong emotional attraction in any marital relationship helps spice things up,
But more important for relationships to last are commitment and intimacy.

The feelings of sharing, having mutual goals, and enjoying time together,
In a quiet and more reflective ways is what builds lasting emotional bonds.
All components of LOVE, interact with each other in a very intricate manner,
So as to form, seven different kinds of distinct and unique love experiences.
We have friendship, Infatuated love, Romantic relationships, Empty love.
We also have Companionate love, Fatuous love and Consummate love.
Tantamount to infatuated love is a kind of love referred to as Limerence.

Liking/friendship refers to the set of feelings one experiences in relationships.
That can just be characterised as casual feelings of closeness, or warmth.
It also entails bondedness without intense passion or long-term commitment.
Infatuated love, results from the experiencing of deep passionate arousal,
In the absence of intimacy aspect and decision/commitment component.
Limerence relationship results from a romantic attraction to another person,
And combined with an obsessive need to have one’s feelings reciprocated.

Romantic relationships in most instances often start out as infatuated love.
And become romantic love as intimacy is cultivated and develops over time.
Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear.
Empty love is characterised by commitment without intimacy or passion.
With time a stronger love may deteriorate into empty love, or the vice versa.
As in the case of an arranged marriage, where the relationship may improve.
Romantic relationship derives from a combination of the intimacy and passion.

You MUST be investing in intimacy or you will simply suffer isolation.
It is important to know what you will really want in a serious relationship.
You MUST truly gauge your desires as function of your unique traits.
Some want a work mate, to face LIFE’s trials together with fortitude.
Others want a play mate, to share the joy of the sweet buffet of LIFE.
Others want a mind mate, to wittily listen to one’s ideas and debate.
Others want a soul mate, to share deep desires, dreams and fears.

Some people see LIFE as a game, and courtship is an especially fun one.
They tend to appreciate the here-and-now of their relationships.
They carefully decide the goals and determine how to achieve them.
Others view courtship as the most precise way to find a partner in LIFE.
Someone who will work with them to carry out LIFE’s important tasks.
Finding a LIFE-long partner who one can commit to is serious business.
As they enjoy the process, the goal is never too far out of their minds.

Still others see courtship as a means to get to know the opposite sex.
To find out if a particular person is “the one”, most suited to them.
They are out to poach for a person who will be the joy of their hearts.
Some people are gullible and so most likely to believe one Mr/s.Right.
They hope to find one with whom they can bare their intimate secrets.
Someone who will understand them deeply and also respond in kind.
Others find courtship to be artificial and annoying, or difficult to navigate.

#31,32. I, ___________________________, committed to cultivate and irrigate the SEED of my LOVE, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, the scales are easily tipped between attraction and revulsion and therefore to make my relationship less of gamble - and to prevent bad sentiments associated with it, we have to spend most of our free times together, and not simply together but get maximum satisfaction from it. I have learned that, among various factors, which can lead to marital disharmony, are idiosyncrasies of temperament or even main characteristics and mannerisms. Therefore it is well worthwhile for us, as a partners who intend to marry to get to know as much as possible as each other, apart from the setting in which our love has blossomed.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, in most cases a couple who have known each other for a reasonable duration, and whose style exactly harmonises may well assume that they will find their partnership equally suitable in all other activities. However, on the contrary, with time they come to discover that the man or the woman’s personality does not augur well with ones personality. This is because many who enter into a lifetime union have known each other almost entirely as business friends, with the office as a background. Others have ‘hiked’ together for miles, and feel that they are ideally suited to each other as partners for the long hike through life, others were propelled by material considerations and others by physical appearance. Transcending all superficial considerations is the fact that, the more opportunities we have of knowing and seeing each other in different surrounding situations and circumstances; the easier it is to make a reasonable judgement in my choice of partner for life. It is also very important to observe my partner when he or she is off-guard or when there are no social imperatives to make him or her act in a socially acceptable way. We should try to observe each other when the individual and social masks are off.