Prompting 32 _ Constants

“Contempt, farewell! and maiden pride, adieu!
No glory lives behind the back of such.
And, Benedick, love on; I will requite thee,
Taming my wild heart to thy loving hand.”
- English poet and playwright William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616), in Much Ado About Nothing, Act 3, Scene 1
Here are SEVEN ways on how to ULTIMATELY UPGRADE your awareness on this matter!
Matching Hypothesis or Matching Phenomenon explains attractiveness in romantic partners.
Distinguished Developers: American social psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues in 1966.

USUALLY, people who become romantic partners tend to have a similar level of physical attractiveness.
PURPOSIVELY, this does not work optimally well when one person has particularly low SELF-ESTEEM.
GENERALLY, if I do not LIKE myself, then it is likely that I will not LIKE other people who are like me.
REALLY, other matching VARIABLES may be used to compensate for the difference in attractiveness.
ACTUALLY, wealthy men, goes for attractive women; attractive women, goes for wealthy status men.
DECISIVELY, BEYONDISM prevails upon you to look BEYOND attractiveness! Beauty is only skin deep.
ESSENTIALLY, find out those other things which are important before making any lasting commitment.
Timely Therapy: - We adjust our expectation of a partner in line with what we believe we have to offer.

LOVE USED TO BE SEEN AS THE ANSWER to human problems. Now LOVE itself has become the problem. The real problem is that of being able to LOVE. Our world is schizoid, out of touch, unable to feel or to enter into a close relationship. Affectlessness and apathy are predominant attitudes toward LIFE, forms of protection against the tremendous overstimulation of modern society.

Our highly vaunted sexual freedom has turned out to be a new form of puritanism in which emotion is separated from reason and the body is used as a machine. Commecialisation of SEX destroys true feelings as badly as traditional taboos once did. We have set SEX against EROS, the drive to relate and create new forms of LIFE. It is now socially sanctioned to repress EROS, and we rush to the sensation of SEX in order to avoid the PASSION, INTIMACY and RESPONSIBILITY that EROS commands. The sexual freedom established during the past few decades has not led to the increase in HAPPINESS that many thought would follow a freeing of sexual mores. In the midst of wide availability of information and birth control, unwanted pregnancies are on the rise. Why? The real issue is not on the level of conscious rational intentions, but in the deeper realm of intentionality where a deeper defiance mocks our withdrawal of feeling.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

BARE bottom line of LOVE is the deep desire for possession. Besides being a subtle will-to-LIVE, it is a secret will-to-POWER. Courtship is combat and mating is MASTERY.
ESCHEW imagining that you are unselfish in LOVE. You seek the advantage of another ‘being,’ often in opposition to your own. And in so doing you want to own the other ‘being.’
AFFLUENT TRUTH of LOVE, is the desire to posses the other person. Even in the LOVE of TRUTH is the desire to posses it, perhaps to be its first possessor, to find its virginity.
REAL LOVE is a universal EMOTION that has become the basis of MARRIAGE for many societies. LOVE has always been since the dawn of history, the basic bond between families.
IN ROMANTIC LOVE, we get a kind of LOVE that is supposed to stand the test of time, enduring all hardship; it emphasises being in love with a certain individual, “the one.”
NURTURED well, it leads to CONFLUENT LOVE that is more flexible with the roles that individuals play, and it emphasises a relationship in which mutual growth is important.
GENERATIVE process of two individuals connecting in a MEANINGFUL way is fascinating. LOVE and attraction is foundational to the formation and continuation of human species.

While inhibitions kills LOVE, irresponsible sex, makes it tasteless. Responsible freedom is what makes LOVE to be truly therapeautic. “Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness,” so lamented British philosopher and mathematician Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970). English poet and dramatist Samuel Daniel (1562 - 1619) also complained:

Love is a sickness full of woes,
All remedies refusing;
A plant that with most cutting grows,
Most barren with best using.
Why so?
More we enjoy it, more it dies;
If not enjoyed, it sighing cries,
Hey ho.

BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALISATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
LOVING devoid of infantilism, fantasies and strings attached.

FINDING insignificant things become treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever, is LOVE.
Core Choice #32: Vulnerability becomes the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.
Sure Score #32: You think of the person you LOVE on every occasion and in everything you do.
ORDAIN LOVE as that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
Solid Stance #32: You are not LOVED for your perfectness, but in spite of the fact that you are not.
Catalysing Consideration #32: A true LOVER is a mirror, which shows you all that is holding you back.
RECEIVING deep love from someone gives you strength, while loving deeply gives you courage.
Mighty Mission #32: No matter what, you are going to mess up sometimes, it is a universal truth.
Vivid Vision #32: But the good part in love is, you get to decide how you are going to mess it up.
MOSTLY there is no a time or place for true LOVE; it happens in a heartbeat, in a flashing moment.
Gaining Ground #32: Just because you fail once, does not mean you will fail at everything.
Capturing Clouds #32: Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself.
UNINTERESTING things now become fascinating as they are important to the one who is special to you.
Lofty Leap #32: Laughter seems part of daily LIFE where before it was infrequent or did not exist at all.
Merry Momentum #32: A phone call helps to get you through day’s work and brings a smile to your face.
LIFE’s opposite is not death, it is indifference, so the opposite of LOVE is not hate, but indifference.
Holy Hearken #32: Never open up your heart, allow someone inside to mess you up.
Divine Distinction #32: Love one or two people deeply, trust a few, do wrong to none.
ASPIRE to keep your head high, your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because LOVE is LIFE.
Prudent Planting #32: It is not a lack of LOVE, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy relationships.
Hoped Harvest #32: Simply LOVE without problems or pride; in this way there is no YOU nor THE OTHER.

Therapeautic Takeaway #32
Cardinal Concept #32: As substantially scribed FOR YOU. .............
Move BEYOND offering special attention to showering him or her with unwavering consideration.
Critical Canon #32: As candidly cracked BY YOU. .............
To BECOME a romantic lover driven by unflinching impulse to enter my partner’s spirit at all cost.
Renaissance Rehearsal #32: As purposively partook BY YOU. .............
REFUSE antagonism and unresponsiveness, by COMPREHENDING the essential importance of LOVE.

#32. In as much as I aspire to open up emotionally to be glimpsed by my PARTNER,
Which is the essential importance of LOVE must I really COMPREHEND?

True love is forever trustworthy, eternally loyal, and has no strings attached.
It makes no demands, imposes no obligations; offers only constructive criticism.
It always hope for the best, is faithful and unchanging no matter what happens.
Naturally, there may arise some occasions of misunderstanding and disagreements.
These are amicably solved as soon as it is reasonably and humanly possible.
In Shakespeare words “love is not love which alter when it alteration finds.”
Because it is selfless, and utterly non-conditional, for it asks nothing back.

#32. I, ___________________________, opening up myself emotionally to be glimpsed by my PARTNER, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, I will allow my lover know my innermost self- to know me completely inside out. I need to let my lover know my strengths and weaknesses. My hates and likes, what makes me tick, my whole LIFE including those children experiences I want forgotten. My selfish self and my loving self, my fears and expectations, and every shadow that stalks me from behind. I need to get the skeletons out of the cupboard and let my lover see them. It is after I have laid myself bare to my lover that I will be able to see all the ways I can grow to become a good lover. It is also the only time I can expect to be loved deeply and honestly. I am informed that, committing myself to love somebody and not just be in a good relationship is a great challenge. It calls for self-evaluation and most people have a problem with this. Few people feel comfortable looking themselves in the mirror and saying; “Hey, there are a few kilos that I should get rid of”. They feel uncomfortable when their flaws are brought to light. They would prefer that nothing is said about the bad part of them, even when the reason for saying it is to help them improve. Yet to be able to love deeply, I must bring all my flaws to light as a starting point. This can be quite uncomfortable and at times it can hurt.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, to be able to love deeply, I must stress myself to the hurting point, BEYOND the boundaries of my ego. It is after this that I can see my weakness and bad points about myself, be able to get rid of what is not loving in myself and open the doors for deep love. Deep love calls for commitment and honesty. If there is no truth in my LIFE, then I am incapable of loving. And when I cannot love, I cannot be loved. I have learnt that, only people who are incapable of loving deeply avoid holding those deep conversations that challenge them. Conversations that do not just praise me but also tell me of areas I can improve myself. To love deeply, I require courage to open up completely to my lover and show my emotional nakedness. When I am stark naked (emotionally) it means I have nothing to hide as I will have laid it bare for my lover to see. To open-up emotionally means letting my lover know all my inner fears, my weaknesses, my suspicions and my anger. It also means putting my past life in a platter for my lover to see. When my emotional walls are down, my lover can see much more, as much as I would like him or her to see. The more I become capable of deeply loving him or her, the more he or she is able to love me. If I can trust my innermost secrets and feelings with somebody, then it means I am in love with them.

PROPOSE: - To be deeply loved by my partner, I must sacrifice myself most of the time. I must be the one who initiate most of the contacts and conversation.
OPPOSE: - Loving, like all other things in LIFE, must be performed in a balanced manner. I must first fulfill my own needs and ensure that I am not compromising myself while making an effort to love my partner. I should never bring myself to a situation where I am the only one giving. A deeply loving relationship is one where both partner choose to love and they do not wait for their partner to love them first before they too can love them. They choose to love the other in the believe that their love is reciprocated. A loving relationship is one that is cultivated. It takes two to cultivate this relationship. I must do my bit before I can expect my partners to do his or hers.
DISPOSE: - I have learnt from psychlogists that, the worst situation of a marriage is when some spouses agreeably bring into marriage warped ideas that defeat the common good, like for instance seeing it as their duty to ‘cut’ the other ‘down to size’. Marriage to such a spouse is unfortunate enough, mainly because violence is viewed as a part of the functional family. But even spouse who compare favourably in terms of personal maturity and childhood background can be led to violence by a marriage environment that is emotionally stifling. Many confess to feeling guilty after striking out their mates but insinuate that there was little they could have done under the circumstances. Researchers contend that, emotional violence, however is as rampant as physical abuse and involves name calling, shouting, constant criticism and degrading insults whereby one feels just scared and helpless and in just as much pain. Unfortunately, some individuals who do not resort to the physical violence – become experts at belittling, humiliating and intimidating their spouses. Because they know each other too well, spouses can hit hard when they choose to. Their secret knowledge of each other - what analysts call ‘psychological hostages’ - can be used to devastating effect. And that is precisely what some do – hit below the belt, literally and with bare knuckles. Counsellors are convinced that successful resolution of conflicts depends to a degree on the ability to leave each other’s personality and self-esteem intact. Unfortunately when the problems arises most spouses chooses to attack each other rather than the problem and in ways that are hardly enduring. And because wedding union is not a permanent weld joint, at other times separation or divorce becomes the solution of the last resort, as English poet, dramatist and critic John Dryden (1631 - 1700) in a comedy Marriage –a- la mode (1673), notes:

“Why should a foolish marriage vow,
Which was long ago made,
Oblige us to each other now
When passion is decayed?”

Most people understand that, certain actions on their part will have a pleasing and seductive effect on the person they would like to seduce. The problem is that, they are generally too self-absorbed: They think more about what they want from others, than what they could want from them. I may occasionally do something that is seductive, but often I follow this up with a selfish or aggressive action (I am in a hurry to get what I want); or, unaware of what I am doing, I show a side of myself that is petty and banal, deflating any illusions or fantasies a person might have about me. My attempts at seduction usually do not last long enough to create much of an effect. It has come to my intimate awareness that, I will not seduce anyone by simply depending on my engaging personality, or by occasionally doing something noble or alluring. I have known that, seduction is a process that occurs over time — the longer I take and the slower I go, the deeper I will penetrate into the mind of my victim. It is an art that requires patience, focus, and strategic thinking. I need to always be one step ahead of my victim, throwing dust in their eyes, casting a spell, keeping them off balance.

“Your hands in mine when we’re intertwined everything’s alright.”— American singer and actress Miley Ray Cyrus (b. 1992)--->

“Your hands in mine when we’re intertwined everything’s alright.”— American singer and actress Miley Ray Cyrus (b. 1992)--->

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