EVOLUTION IN ANIMALS IS CHIEFLY BIOLOGICAL – it concerns the growth of new organs. But evolution in human beings is social – it concerns the increasing transmission of an accumulating heritage of technology and culture from generation to generation.

In the first years of LIFE we are sponges, absorbing deeply the energy, style, and ideas of our parents and teachers. We learn language, certain essential values, ways of thinking, and how to function among people. We are slowly inculcated with the culture of the time. Our minds are supremely open at this moment, and because of this our experiences are more intense and bound with strong emotions.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BASIC unit of society can precisely be traced to the family. In the family you are taught progressive beliefs, ideals, values and attitudes which guide you in the general society.
2. ESSENTIALLY, the origin of the human family concisely lies in the invaluable helplessness of the child, in its increasing susceptibility to development and training after birth.
3. ACTUALLY, upon this helplessness of the child, lies the prerogative of the parent to inculcate positive percepts that will enable the child in his or her adulthood to face this world.
4. REAL materials to handle this enigmatic, unpredictable, irrational and ambiguous world with confidence and creativity are to be derived or cultivated from the family background.
5. INDEED, this moulding process is neither perfect, nor imperfect (an imperfect family would produce an imperfect individual who is always at war with oneself, and the society).
6. NOW, after realising the effect of this moulding, it is also imperative to understand that there are some hurdles which you have to deal with if you have to activate your SELFHOOD.
7. GAINFUL appreciation of the shortcomings affecting your particular family, is the most important step in arousing the inner personal resources vital in dealing with them.

It has been observed that there is a generation gap which seem to create misunderstanding between the two generations. One explanation for this is that some parents do not change their attitudes towards the growing YOUTH, instead treat them as children and this may lead to rebellion. Successful parenting requires adaptation to maturational changes of YOUTHS. Parents with Young Adults can no longer look down when communicating with them.

It is natural for those older in the society to be critical of the younger one’s and vice versa. Those who assume many of the leadership positions in society, begin to take notice of a younger generation that is fighting for its own power and position. Its members are now judging them and finding their own style and ideas rather irrelevant. They begin to judge them in return, describing them as immature, unsophisticated, soft, et cetera. They might begin to entertain the notion that the world is heading downhill fast, the values they find so important no longer mattering to this youthful set.

When they judge YOUTHS this way, they are not aware that they are reacting according to a pattern that has existed for at least three thousand years. There is an inscription on a Babylonian clay tablet that dates from around 1000 BC that reads, “Today’s youth is rotten, evil, godless and lazy. It will never be what youth used to be, and it will never be able to preserve our culture.” This complain cuts across all cultures and in all time periods.

These older folks may think they are judging the younger generation in an objective manner, but they are merely succumbing to an illusion of perspective. It is also true that they are probably experiencing some hidden envy of their youth and mourning the loss of their own.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Handling the hurdles in your family reasonably and responsibly.

1. FOLLOW the strategist’s method of challenging the prevailing problems with a single question: Why?
   Core Choice #5: No clear solutions? Work at them, even when there is not much to work with.
   Sure Score #5: The distance does not matter; it is only the first step that is the most difficult.
2. OPULENCE in the family entails being each other’s business; and each other’s magnitude and bond.
   Solid Stance #5: Respect those who resist you, and tolerate those who criticise you.
   Catalysing Consideration #5: A wise sibling understands one’s own family members.
3. RESPECT your little kingdom (family); with kindness, love and inspiration, you will handle all hurdles.
   Mighty Mission #5: Always spread your wings pretty far to see what will work now.
   Vivid Vision #5: Never flee from LIFE’s challenges into the quiet recesses of the soul.
4. MOTIVATED fully; you will do the DIFFICULT problem at once; the IMPOSSIBLE will take a bit longer.
   Gaining Ground #5: The worst thing you can do to an important problem is to discuss it.
   Capturing Clouds #5: You must strive to handle the problem you think you cannot solve.
5. UNBURY yourself from the deep pits of habitual routines labeled: ‘I have always done it that way.’
   Lofty Leap #5: Maybe one day you shall be glad to remember even the worst hardships.
   Merry Momentum #5: Never ascribe to an opponent motives meaner than your own.
6. LIVE only in the present; as a healthy, mature adult individual, you should not be bound to the past.
   Holy Hearken #5: Count all the family challenges just as stuff to try the soul’s strength on.
   Divine Distinction #5: Be free to live in the present and future unencumbered by the past.
7. AFTER walking the long problem-solving road to the top of the hill, do not sit down to admire the view.
   Prudent Planting #5: For a bold, adventurous traveller like you, the journey is never complete.
   Hoped Harvest #5: A person of destiny knows that BEYOND this hill lies another and another.

#3. In as much as I desire to overcome the challenge in my FAMILY,
Which are the indispensable measures to develop SELF-ESTEEM?

Your low self-esteem strips you of the self-confidence, and self-worth.
This robs you the essential ability to make even the smallest of decisions.
Improving self-esteem is a vital step in finding happiness and a better life.
Never criticise people at the face value, but always compliment them.
Break the cycle of negativity by getting in the habit of praising other people.
In this basic process, you will become well liked and build self-confidence.
By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

#2. I, ___________________________, committed to overcome the challenge I am encountering in my FAMILY, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, as the cornerstone of building my self-esteem, I should practice good posture. I have realised that, people with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self-confidence. They often are unenthusiastic and do not consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, I will automatically feel more confident. I will always stand up straight, keep my head up, and make eye contact. I will make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, I will work out regularly. I understand that, physical fitness has a huge effect on my self-confidence. If I am out of shape, I will feel insecure and unattractive. By working out, I will improve my physical appearance and do something constructive with my time. If I work out in the morning, it also creates positive momentum that I can build on the rest of the day. Eventually, I will give back to others, by volunteering someplace in my community. If I may stop thinking about myself and concentrate on the contribution I may be making to the rest of the world, I will not worry as much about my own flaws. This will increase my self-esteem.