YOU MAY HAVE WASTED a good portion of your time looking for the MEANING of your own LIFE in other peoples’ patterns. From today onwards start laying great store on BEYONDISM as a great revealer of your personality.

SEVEN therapeautic tonics to loftily LOCATE your LIFE’s BASIC BEARING:

1. BUILDING a sound sense of self is creating an image of ourselves that comforts us and makes us feel validated from within. This self is composed of our tastes, opinions and values.
2. ENDANGERED, we cannot go too far in this, for if our self-image is too divorced from reality, other people will make us aware of the discrepancy, and we will doubt ourselves.
3. ALTERNATIVELY, if it is done properly, in the end we have a solid self that we can love and cherish. Our energy turns inward. We become the center of our individual attention.
4. REALLY, when we experience those inevitable moments when we are alone or not feeling appreciated, we can retreat to this self and soothe ourselves. It is a source of nourishment.
5. IF we have moments of doubt and depression, armed with a self that we can hold on to and appreciate, our self-love raises us up, makes us feel worthy and even superior to others.
6. NOW, this self-image operates as a thermostat, helping us to regulate our doubts and insecurities. No longer dependent on others for attention and recognition, we have self-esteem.
7. GENERALLY, we take this self-image completely for granted, like the air we breathe. It operates on a largely unconscious basis. We do not feel or see the thermostat as it operates.

Psychologists have unearhted the wisdom that, physical changes do not directly affect the psychological state of ‘YOUTHS’. Rather, the psychological effects result from the responses to the changes of puberty, or young adulthood by parents, peers and YOUTHS themselves. For instance, not everyone goes through puberty, or young adulthood at the same time. You are apt to experience the effects of socio-cultural reactions to physical changes in a pronounced way. Moreover, gender differences have been noted in terms of its effect on you as a YOUTH.

Here is BEYONDISM FORMIDABLE FORMULA for SELF-ACTUALIZATION
(The ‘head’ and ‘tail’ of Activating your SELFHOOD) in regard to:
Working on improvable SELF image, and being content with the unchangeable.

1. FEAST in having a very good opinion of yourself when you ask other people to leave their own fireside.
   Core Choice #8: Nobody holds a good opinion of a person who has a low opinion of oneself.
   Sure Score #8: As for an imaginative idea, no one will do any good who is not creatively witty.
2. OFTEN nothing profits more than well managed self-esteem, solidly grounded on justice and rightness.
   Solid Stance #8: You must wish to be just as it pleased your Creator to have made you to be.
   Catalysing Consideration #8: To wish to be like any other person is to be dreadfully deceived.
3. RECENT fashions are dictated in particular by sexual politics, racial prejudices, neuroses and fantasies.
   Mighty Mission #8: To be fashionable is to show that you have a refined taste for the sense of TIME.
   Vivid Vision #8: It is to show that you are prepared to immerse yourself in the struggles of your AGE.
4. MOTIVATION keeps your feathers well oiled, that the water of criticism runs off as from a duck’s back.
   Gaining Ground #8: To be fully fashionable is to be fully aware, which is to live in the here and now.
   Capturing Clouds #8: By reliving the past or worrying about the future, you lose terms with who you are.
5. UTTER VANITY, the fount of all ugliness, has replaced PRIDE, which was once the beauty of mankind.
   Lofty Leap #8: Bragging and arrogance are not confidence, but its opposite.
   Merry Momentum #8: Confidence is a plant of slow growth in an aged bosom.
6. LIFE’s most indispensable need is your dignity; you must prefer freedom in poverty to riches in slavery.
   Holy Hearken #8: The first great consolation in LIFE is to say what one really thinks and feels.
   Divine Distinction #8: The second is to live your feelings rather than simply talk about them.
7. A sense of being well-dressed gives a feeling of inward tranquility which religion is powerless to bestow.
   Prudent Planting #8: In this world an important thing you have is yourself.
   Hoped Harvest #8: YOU ARE the vital instrument that you must care for.

#8. To the extent I aspire to have a positive view of my BODY,
How will I boost my PERSONAL as well as PUBLIC IMAGE?

You may prefer the back of a classroom for fear of being noticed.
By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear.
It will slowly build your self-confidence and boost your self-image.
You will also be more visible to the teacher and communicate more.
Speak up. Do not be afraid at all that people will judge you negatively.
Always make an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion.
You will become a better speaker, and recognised as a leader by your comrades.

#8. I, ___________________________, combating the negative view about my body, do DECISIVELY DECLARE that, if I am not satisfied with my looks, I will usually become obsessed with my external appearance when being present with people. This obsession may result in two major problems. The first problem is that I may find it hard to concentrate during conversations with strangers which may affect my social performance and deteriorates my self-confidence even more. The second problem is that when I believe that something is wrong about my looks I usually incorrectly interprets the facial expressions and the gestures of others to further solidify my false beliefs about my appearance.

In this reference, as a BLESSED BEYONDIST, I hereby, make an ABSOLUTE AFFIRMATION that, having self-image problems may make me have a different mental image of myself than the image other people see. It is not usual for a handsome or beautiful person like me to believe that I look ordinary or even ugly under the effect of my self-image problem! One of the symptoms of self-image problems is feeling attractive one day then feeling ugly the other day. This happens because at the first day I might have come across a good mirror that reflected my real looks while in the other day I might have recalled my imaginary image from my mind before interacting with people. I will therefore start looking myself positively, all in the knowledge that I am a unique person, with unique features. I should not compare myself with anybody. Height or body size is not a determinant of handsomeness or beauty.