#1. A Potent Percentage of our Counselling services, are invested by charlatans, who confuses giving advise, with facilitating a conducive psychological environment, for the client to generate solution to his or her maladjustment.
Hence the myriad malaise stunting our growth.
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Counselling is NOT advising: telling the other person what TO DO or NOT.
Counselling is NOT directing, leading, JUDGING, evaluating or diagnosing.
It is NOT moralising, PREACHING, patronising, labelling, or interrogating.
It is NOT giving unwarranted reassurance, or accepting the client’s feelings.
Counselling is concerned WITH addressing and resolving specific problems.
It helps the client to make decisions, cope with crisis, work through feelings.
The aim of counselling is to help a client to live a more full, satisfying LIFE.
#2. A Potent Percentage of our Teachers in ignorance of student’s needs, fail to arouse in the young minds a sense of success, MASTERY, curiousity, understanding, originality, self-expression and relationships.
Hence the loathsome lethargy amongst our young scholars.
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Cooperative learning strategies improves both self-efficacy and academic achievement.
Students working together and helping one another, promotes self-evaluation of ability.
This guarantees higher academic attainments than do individualistic or competitive ones.
Students should be helped to establish specific, attainable, challenging short-term goals.
Performance in and out of class must be compared to the goals set for a specific student.
Comparing one student against another, or to the rest of the class should be discouraged.
Self-efficacy is the key to academic success, other activities and peace within the student.
#3. A Potent Percentage of our Elders are incompetent in arming youths with the requisite energy to deal with complexity, confusion, repetition, uncertainties and ambiguities of daily LIFE.
Hence the low level of the drive towards SELF-ACTUALISATION.
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Elders should do all they can, and provide youths with tools to be better than them.
Should be heroes who teach lessons, enhance active and positive emotional interaction.
Should teach youths to understand face reading and differentiate various emotional states.
Avoid instilling fear or ridicule which results in youngsters with inadequate ‘conscience’.
Be nonrestrictive, open, appreciative; lead by example, and be unconditionally accepting.
Inculcate competence, adventurousness, skills and confidence in expressing opinions.
Be loyal, pillars of strength, support and discipline, in order to raise well-adjusted youths.
#4. A Potent Percentage of our Administrators are unable to build the necessary motivation and engagement that is essential for removal of all scrupples, to enable a complete and productive LIFE (either for the individual or society).
Hence the daunting detachment amongst our people.
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Administration ought to be focused on benefit, protection and security of the people.
The best one is which is capable of producing the greatest degree of happiness and safety.
Administrations must be built upon the rights of the people, and be entrusted to experts.
The only yardstick by which to test every major problem is: Is it good for the people?
No administration can be progressive when the future sits in the judgment of the past.
Ability to solve and deal with problems as they arise is the only measure of distinction.
Officials must be held accountable as dupes, fools, or traitors for policies that goes wrong.
#5. A Potent Percentage of our Parents use punishments which produce bitter children and unconsciously condition them to use the same mechanistic and counterproductive methods on those who may anger them.
Hence the raft rebellion amongst our adolescents.
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‘Poor Parenthood’ fails to differentiate between ‘discipline’ and ‘punishment’.
Punishment creates fear, but if the fear is diminished the behaviour will recur.
Beating is for lazy parents as it takes less creativity; needs only anger and strength.
The word ‘beat’ implies that you are dealing with an object which does not think.
Children require sound discipline which has two components; affection and control.
Control needs to be consistent if it is to contribute to a stable character structure.
Discipline as an important element in affection is fondly based on mutual respect.
#6. A Potent Percentage of our Families authoritatively imposes their convictions and ideals (though positive in their view) devoid of unconditional positive regard, empathy and consultation.
Hence the mounting meaninglessness of our interactions.
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To draw honesty from our kids, we must be honest ourselves, even when it hurts.
Barking to these little evolving creatures rather than softly talking to them, is lethal.
We tend to use strong, emotionally charged language when under great provocation.
This is to set up in them, for unconscious imitation, the memory of violent speech.
If we want children to be polite, we have to be polite; to be neat we have to be neat.
Positive responses can be inculcated to children only by ‘patiently persistent’ example.
This task involves almost the re-education, re-phasing and re-evaluation of our motives.
#7. A Potent Percentage of our Correctional Institutions (Prisons) have become colleges where minor delinquents graduates into hardcore criminals, or in one way or the other, vacation resorts for social outcast and psychopaths.
Hence the compounded crimes in our society.
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All sorts of CRIMINALISM cannot be controlled simply by imposing harsh legal penalties.
DEVIANCY implies some kind of DEPRIVATION within the home or social environment.
Rather than stigmatising victims as social misfits who should be subjected to incarceration,
We should put them in environments where their DEFICIENCIES can be compensated for.
We should embark on a large scale to prevent criminogenic situation from developing.
By building in the society, services classified in the medical sphere as ‘good sanitation’.
This is by creating a more just society in which people connect with each other humanly.