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2A/3P which is the brand name for this SELF-ACTUALIZATION Model simply means “African Assertiveness / Provoking Positive Perceptions”. African Assertiveness implies believing that you have ‘answers’ to the problems besetting you, and assuming total responsibility for the sacrifice required in order to arrive to the solution. This is a purely individual enterprise which can only be achieved only if you Provoke Positive Perceptions.

Clearing the rubbish heap of all those valuations that makes you a weakling and despicable, and entering the treasure house where all great, unselfish and heroic motives of human beings abode, should be the supreme goal of any Assertive African.

A fundamental ‘existential’ fact is that in the back of your mind, in the album of your consciousness, there is a page which when keenly looked at may reveal various answers to most of your problems. Your only difficulty is identifying the page. So you are called upon to seize the moment and take an inventory and a catalogue of yourself by outlining and striving to fight those obstacles which stand on your road towards attaining your essential nature and prevent you from living up to your basic and real humanness.

As a human being, you have an inherent self-actualizing tendency, which assists you to meet your needs, develop a positive view about yourself and interact effectively with others.

Identifying and naming all the negative forces in your LIFE, is the springboard upon which you can liberate yourself from the bondage of their inhibitive, as well as downgrading influence. Listen to Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950): “If a person cannot look evil in the face without illusions, he or she will never know what it really is or how to combat it effectively”.
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Leadership Leverage


S E L F H O O D _ S T E P _ # 7
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NURTURINGLY NOURISHING your ‘Leadership Leverage’ MUST be your seventh major ‘Mortal Mission’. This is gorgeously grounded on your distinguished ‘Divine Duty’, to Conjure Creative ASPIRATIONS. As an ennobling encouragement to you ......., to ‘formidably fire your propensities, and shield yourself from negative social contaminations (or cleanse them)’, BEYONDISM reflectively seeks to “CLARIFY” your response to the PROMPTINGS (not really questions) No. 37, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55 & 56 consecutively.

The THERAPEAUTIC TARGET here is: An incitement to launch yourself into an “enriching”, “exciting” and “rewarding” process of LIFE; amassing the responsibility to not merely be a possessor of a knowledge, but being knowledgeable. --->

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37b. LEADERSHIP as a function of your TENDENCIES.

48. Your major role in the context of GROUP leadership.

49. Utmost DEPLOYMENT of your persuading POWERS.

50. Leadership ORIENTATION in TEAM-MANAGEMENT.

51. An OUTLINE of your cherished LEADERSHIP TASK.

52. Seeing through the mist of current Africa’s DARKNESS.

53. Riding on the speedy wheels of our African HISTORY.

54. Fighting the negative forces against Africa’s GROWTH.

55. The breed of a leader to be in order to LIGHT-UP Africa.

56. Adding your fuel to the fire of an African RENAISSANCE.

Your LEADERSHIP LEVERAGE should lead you to HAPPINESS.

SEVEN ways on how to MERRILY MANAGE your LIFE operations::

THERAPEAUTIC TREASURE #7

“True happiness is not acquired, and you won’t find it on sale.”
- Outkast, an American hip hop duo formed in 1992
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1. Mounting the creative carriage of HAPPINESS:--->

HAPPINESS is the meaning and the purpose of LIFE; the ultimate end of existence.
HAPPINESS is a mystery like religion, and should never be put under rationalisation.
HAPPINESS comes from within, and nobody has the power to deny or to confer it.
HAPPINESS is a subjective condition, a state of mind to be corely cultivated within us.
HAPPINESS is anchoring that quality in us; no objective situation can deprive it from us.
HAPPINESS depends on your internal dispositions, not on your external circumstances.
HAPPINESS is having something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

2. Enduring HAPPINESS is not pursued, but ensues:--->

HAPPINESS can only be found in the thrill of LIFE-enriching and productive pursuits.
No human being is really happy who does not think or perceive him or herself to be so.
HAPPINESS brings to mind a relative state of cheerfulness, pleasure and contentment.
HAPPINESS is the subjective state of absence of sullenness, dolefulness and insecurity.
HAPPINESS is levered by good mental and body health, supportive family and friends.
HAPPINESS is based on a promising future and lack of threats, ill-fortunes or enemies.
To be HAPPY is essentially more exciting than to be either rich or to be highly educated.

3. Render unto painting your HAPPINESS everywhere:--->

HAPPINESS does not mean momentary well-being precipitated by material things.
HAPPINESS does not mean pleasures of the moment evoked by external stimulus.
HAPPINESS is the subjective balance between your aspirations and your achievements.
HAPPINESS is an inner state of mind or feeling characterised by love, satisfaction or joy.
HAPPINESS is a broad measure of psychological well being; an aggregate of self-esteem.
HAPPINESS is based on social interest, sense of humour as well as aesthetic appreciation.
HAPPINESS colours your interpersonal relationships; it is really living within your means.

4. Refuse to allow any sort of darkness to assail you:--->

HAPPINESS emanates from keeping off all insults that may knock the sail out of your LIFE.
HAPPINESS is cultivating the ability to churn out the value from what we have NOW.
HAPPINESS emanates from cultivating and solidifying social networks that emit joy,
Every happy person in your social network increases your own chance of cheer by 9%.
HAPPINESS is escaping anything that yields minimal on your emotional wellbeing.
HAPPINESS is balancing your work and your leisure; ensuring that nothing predominates.
HAPPINESS emanates from consciously improving on your ‘set point’ or ‘basic outlook’.

5. Indulge in putting the necessary mental condition:--->

HAPPINESS is endeavouring to reform the wheel of your LIFE and make it well polished.
HAPPINESS is always raising your expectation about the pleasure of your achievement.
HAPPINESS is always lowering your expectation about pain we will get from any failure.
HAPPINESS is channeling one’s behavioural attitudes towards one’s esteemed goals.
HAPPINESS may call forth for always changing and refining one’s modes of valuation.
HAPPINESS is pursuing the secret idol of one’s soul, the person one would like to be.
When we are stuck in attaining HAPPINESS, it is less about insight than will power.

6. Love your mortality and be grateful to other mortals:--->

Finding HAPPINESS within, makes one divine and attains to the beatitude of God.
How to gain, to keep, as well as to recover HAPPINESS is secret motive of all actions.
People are willing to endure almost everything to secure and retain HAPPINESS.
HAPPINESS is always amplifying within us reasons to keep upbeat, and well boosted.
HAPPINESS being grateful for what is in your LIFE, and those who have enriched you.
HAPPINESS is appreciating the people from whom shoulders we stand taller upon;
Former Titans who have bequeathed to us the present scientifc and cultural gifts.

7. Your HAPPINESS is a function of your desire to be so:--->

HAPPINESS emanates from striving for ‘mindfulness’, and revelling in the moment.
HAPPINESS is appreciating the beauty in yourself, your companions and Nature.
HAPPINESS is magnifying the positive aspects and demagnifyng the negative ones.
HAPPINESS is involving in activities that produce an experience of ‘flow’ or ‘zoning’.
HAPPINESS implies total immersal and engagement; losing yourselves in an issue.
HAPPINESS is intensification of any experience to the degree that there is loss of self.
HAPPINESS is where an individual experiences a sense of unity and transcendence.









Here now flows (hover below) the BEYONDISM distilled definition of:--->
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Heightening by your own efforts your overall propagation.
Actualising a wider range of discernible daily possibilities.
Patterning your mind and soul always for joyous mood.
Preserving your inner calm in the midst of a rough world.
Indulging in daily pursuits that gives a sense of meaning.
Nourishing yourself always with creative positive ideals.
Ever adjusting, modifying and correcting your perceptions.
Sense of self-sufficiency even in the midst of all aridity.
Spreading your sails in pursuit of all that is empowering.

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SELFHOOD RATING
43,44,45,46,47,48,49.

“Hereditary bondsmen! know ye not
Who would be free themselves must strike the blow?”
- British poet Lord Byron (1788 - 1824)

“I hold it as certain, that no man was ever written out of reputation but by himself.”
- English classical scholar Richard Bentley (1662 - 1742), referring to Alexander Pope.

“Not to go back, is somewhat to advance,
And men must walk at least before they dance.”
- English poet Alexander Pope (1688 - 1744)

“Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly.
- British writer and poet G. K. Chesterton (1874 - 1936)
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R#43. On saying to yourself: “If only I had this, I could have DONE that.”
O thee TAO, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to DISTINGUISH DOING.--->

  1. SURELY, in LIFE, there is nothing like wise, mastery inactivity. You ought not to be idle. It is ANTI.
  2. UNDERSTAND that, the triple common curses of today’s society are laziness, boredom and idleness.
  3. MAINLY, LAZINESS may be subtly seen as: That indolent but agreeable condition of doing nothing.
  4. MORE critical, BOREDOM may be diligently defined as: The dreadful burden of having nothing to do.
  5. ACTUALLY, IDLENESS may be categorically construed as: The insupportable labour of doing nothing.
  6. REALITY is: Killing time is only the name for another of the multifarious ways by which Time kills us.
  7. YOU must not allow SLOTH to drive you in a corner, do nothing but sit and growl. Come out and bark.

R#44. On feeling NEEDY and expecting all significant people to like you.
O thee BB, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to NULLIFY NEEDINESS.--->

  1. SOCIALLY, a human being cannot live or thrive in isolation. No one is an island, as the old saying goes.
  2. USUALLY, when this ‘need to belong’ is not fully met, one may sink in a pathetic state of despondence.
  3. MOST debilitating sort of SOLITUDE, regrettably results from being destitute of SINCERE friendship.
  4. MERELY clinging to a person hoping that all your problems will be solved, finally ends in frustrations.
  5. AS a SUPERIOR person, what you should seek is in yourself; what the MEAN person seeks is in others.
  6. REFUSE the feeling that anyone can help you without strings attached. Be in arms against dependence.
  7. YOU must radically resist to be a destitute, a needy, hollow-eyed, awful-looking wretch; a living-dead.

R#45. On expecting never to be CHALLENGED, rebuffed, or rejected.
O thee TAO, behold, Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to CHANNEL CHALLENGES.--->

  1. SEE LIFE as appreciating with a new RICHNESS, what the past was, and how it ceased to be what it was.
  2. USUALLY, what was, was the product of what had been, and developed into what you had not anticipated.
  3. MENTAL posture of this configuration allows you to face any kind of challenge, with a TACTFUL approach.
  4. MERRILY challenging the status quo is the starting point for anything going under the label of STRATEGY.
  5. AT any single moment, you should count any LIFE’s encounter just a stuff to try the SOUL’S STRENGTH on.
  6. REAL GREAT things are done when Men & Mountains Meet. This is not done by JOSTLING in the STREET.
  7. YOU must duel with calamities and seek to subdue them. This is what makes you, a WORTHY human being.

R#46. On BOASTFULLY asserting: “I do not need anyone’s help.”
O thee BB, behold, Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to BANISH BOASTING.--->

  1. SUBSTANTIALLY, the DESIRE for APPROVAL and RECOGNITION is a supremely healthy human MOTIVE.
  2. UNLIMITED craving to be recognised as better, leads to an excessively egoistic psychological adjustment.
  3. MOST of the time, this becomes injurious for the individual PSYCHIC growth and for the entire community.
  4. MERE boasting is the desire to be the reason for everything; the reverse effect is being cause for nothing.
  5. A VAIN person considers oneself an entire volume in the book of ‘existence’, and others a mere chapter.
  6. ROGUE VANITY, corrupts one to want to be the bride at every wedding, and the corpse at every funeral.
  7. YES, fall not into this treacherous, debilitating force which functions on the oxygen of personal delusions.

R#47. On finding it hard or offensive to take or utilise a CRITICISM.
O thee TAO, behold, Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to CONTAIN CRITICISMS.--->

  1. SIR Walter Scott cursed: “And better had they never been born, who read to doubt, or read to scorn.”
  2. USUALLY, the critics are disillusioned and envious people who fail to see their projections in your ideas.
  3. MOST attacks betray a bitter sense of self-absorption. It is losing touch with ‘empathetic understanding.’
  4. MAINLY, a person criticising you is only expressing a different point of view, which should not bother you.
  5. A great deal of criticism reads like: ‘Of course I do not like green cheese: I am very fond of brown sherry.’
  6. REALLY appreciating the uniqueness of others in tastes and in ideas will send critics the way of dinosaurs.
  7. YOU must learn and propagate the best that is known and thought in the world, unhindered by any critics.

R#48. On finding it scaring to go on a RETREAT or to indulge in inner reflection.
O thee BB, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to RETREAT REALISTICALLY.--->

  1. SUBSTANTIALLY, in LIFE you will never find a COMPANION that is so companionable as SOLITUDE.
  2. UNLEASHING all your propensities you will never be less ALONE, than when you will BE by yourself.
  3. MOVEMENT and change characterises you. You often need solitude to recharge and rejuvenate yourself.
  4. MAKE the effort to trample the fear of solitude or the wish to be alone, and acquire the ability to be alone.
  5. ACTUALLY in solitude there is unimaginable HAPPINESS, in retreating there is unexplainable contentment.
  6. RETREATING in solitude is what you must hope for – and love - in the tumult of great historical events.
  7. YOU must teach yourself to fondly feel - even perhaps too much - the self-sufficing power of SOLITUDE.

R#49. On being the kind of a person who says: “I will be HAPPY if I get that”.
O thee TAO, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to HARNESS HAPPINESS.--->

  1. SUITABLY, HAPPINESS is not a LAUGHING matter; it is not an IDEAL of reason, but of imagination.
  2. UNFORTUNATELLY, the state of HAPPINESS is not best achieved by those people who seek it directly.
  3. MERRY HAPPINESS is like coke — which is got as a by-product in the process of making something else.
  4. MERE GOODNESS does not more certainly make people HAPPY, than HAPPINESS makes them GOOD.
  5. ANY human being is HAPPY so long as he or she chooses to be HAPPY and NOTHING can stop him or her.
  6. REAL humour is a state of mind which says to Nature: We take you no more SERIOUSLY than you takes us.
  7. YEARN to curve thy HAPPINESS out of the rock of thy experience. DO anything, BUT let it produce JOY.


THERAPEAUTIC TEACHING #7:


#I. The 7th AFRICAN AFFIRMATION:

  1. “A stubborn person sails in a clay pot”.
    - Haya (Tanzania) proverb

  2. “One who enters the forest does not listen to the breaking of the twigs in the brush”.
    - Bemba (Zambia) proverb

  3. “A farmer does not boast he has good harvest until his stock of yams lasts till the following harvest”.
    - Yoruba (Nigeria) proverb

  4. “If God breaks your leg, He will teach you how to limp”.
    - Dagbani (Ghana) proverb

  5. “He who is being carried does not realise how far the town is”.
    - Ibo (Nigeria) proverb

  6. “The frog that compared itself to the ox lost its buttocks”.
    - Kikuyu (Kenya) proverb

  7. “Look up, Tungu my child”.
    - Sukuma (Tanzania) proverb

#II. The 7th SACRED STANDING:

  1. “Make me to know thy ways, O LORD; teach me thy paths. Lead me in thy truth, and teach me, for thou art the God of my salvation”.
    - BIBLE, Psalms 25:4

  2. “My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast! I will sing and make melody! Awake, my soul! Awake O harp and lyre! I will awake the dawn!”
    - BIBLE, Psalms 57:7

  3. “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your lips”.
    - BIBLE, Proverbs 27: 2

  4. “And who despairs of the mercy of GOD except those who have gone astray”.
    - QURAN, Al-Hijr 15:56

  5. “And do not go about in the land exultingly, you cannot cut through the earth nor reach the mountains.”
    - QURAN, Bani Israel 17:37

  6. “Let him who has abundance spend out of his abundance, and whoever has his means of subsistence straitened for him, let him spend out of that which GOD has given him”.
    - QURAN, Talaq 65:7

  7. “Those who are beyond the dualities that arise from doubts, whose minds are engaged within, who are always busy working for the welfare of all living beings, and who are free from all sins achieve liberation in the Supreme”.
    - BHAGAVAD-GITA, Karma-Yoga – Action in Krsna Consciousness, V:25

#III. The 7th ASSERTIVENESS ARITHMETIC:

You have a _______ preference of LEADERSHIP over APATHY (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

You have a _______ preference of LEADERSHIP over APATHY (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

PEOPLE SKILLS + SELF-KNOWLEDGE = LEADERSHIP

At its core, LIFE is all about relationships. To be successful, master the art of charting your own path, while being open to listening and developing relationships which are mutually beneficial and based in integrity, at the same time. Further, to lead a team effectively, you have to be someone others are inspired to follow. To have a sound creative mind, be abundantly knowledgeable in your field. Never hold the belief that you know enough. For you to be the cause of your success, there is no such thing as enough knowledge. Knowledge is power. With knowledge you become smart to every new trend in your field, you consistently educate yourself, and choose to be ahead of the game. SELF-KNOWLEDGE coupled with proficient PEOPLE SKILLS, builds you into an unrelenting and inspiring LEADER. This allows you the opportunity to educate all those you lead, and the opportunity to lead all of those whom you partner with in LIFE.



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TOP UP your LEADERSHIP. Your Specific Score in regard to your Valiant Voyage in the SELFHOOD-SEARCH SEA, towards the Holy Harbour of your Active SELFHOOD stands at ____ points out of 49 points.

HASTEN your GUIDANCE. This parameter entails the ability to develop MEANINGFUL, contractual relationships with other human beings, and the ability to accept anger and aggression within yourself as natural.

EXISTENTIALLY, this is the essential extent to which, you have a high level of freedom in making decisions.

READILY, it is the meritorious measure of how you may be able to remain above the battle, calm and unruffled in the storm of things around.

APPARENTLY, it is the diligent degree which permits you to be detached from the chaos that surrounds others, but empathetic in helping them.

PRUDENTLY, when you will have passionately travelled this road you will be able to experience social interest or deep feeling of kinship with humanity.

YOUR categorical compass to Locate your BEARING here is ‘Progressive Character Structure’. Find out who you are, what you are, what you like and do not like, what is good and what is bad for you, where you are going, what your mission is. Opening yourself up to yourself in this way means identifying defenses - and then finding the courage to give them up.




Successful Studentship #7:

You should shed off old habits, things that burden you, or add no value to your LIFE.
The epitome of being your free true self is being a good leader amongst your comrades.
Teachers love good students; those who are natural leaders within their classroom.
Leadership skills are often innate. It is also a skill that can be developed over time.
Being trustworthy is a quality and a component that will endear you to your teachers.
Moreover, if your comrades do not trust you, then you will never be a successful leader.
You should have the responsibility to lead by example and the power to motivate others.

The underlying 7th Perceptive Principle is based on the analogy of an Eagle:
EAGLES SHED HABITS OF NO VALUE

  • When the Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast as he should.
  • When he feels weak and about to die, he retires to a place far away in the rocks.
  • While there, he plucks out every feather on his body until he is completely bare.
  • He stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, then he can come out.
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#IV. The 7th POTENT POWER:

i. MONK MODE #7--->

Denial for the sake of ego leaves you vulnerable to the potency of the truth.
Be harmonious with the truth so that the truth will be fighting on your side.
Relying upon lies, you will expend massive energy on maintaining the façade.
Living with truth, you need not expend such energy, giving you a further edge.
When one tries to use your weaknesses against you, truth will shield you.
The power of embarrassment will be absent and you will keep composure.
Without awareness and honesty with self you cannot hope to achieve success.

ii. WITTY WARFARE #13--->
Holding the bull called ‘BULLYING’ by its horns.

Bullying underlies a feeling of powerlessness; one harasses and humiliates to get noticed.
Bullies may seem confident, but they are usually insecure and feels inferior to others.
Bullies torments and treats their peers like dirt as a way to make themselves feel better.
In order to keep the feeling of prestige, the perpetrator has to continue the behaviour.
Bullies are impulsive and hot headed; thrives when their victims cower in their presence.
Lacks empathy or relish seeing others in pain; have no sense of what the victims is feeling.
So boost your self-esteem and self-efficacy, and the temptation to bully will just fade away.


iii. WITTY WARFARE #14--->
Using LOSS to lead you towards GRATITUDE.

It may take losing something important to us to feel grateful for what we still have.
But in the long term, overwhelming loss other than being devastating can be positive.
It can become a powerful catalyst and motivation for deep, LIFE-affirming gratitude.
Loss teaches you to respect your possession NOW, for next time it may not be yours.
To appreciate the gifts, both big and small, that stem from every relationship in LIFE.
Another vital gift and lessons from loss, is to be inspired by sprinkles of sadness.
You feel blessed for the moments you have and the unexpected help from others.


iv. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #13--->
ESCAPIST EVILISING: - Vindicating the successful as aided by ‘powers of darkness’.

Attributing others creativity, or power, to ‘satanic forces’ is the worst escapism.
In this way one finds a kind of temporary solace for one’s despicable situation.
One is burdened by the consciousness of being ‘battered, botched and bungled’.
One is utterly weighed down by the subtle valuation: ‘I am not worth much’.
One is bludgeoned by the feeling of impotence, of lack of self-asserting impulses.
One finds oneself lionising past heroes and casting doubt on the living legends.
So seek to know yourself better and utilise personal power and all will be OK.


v. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #14--->
HOPELESS HERODISM: - Having an appetite to attain power with hook or crook.

Self-interest is the propelling force of development and the essence of civilisation.
This self-interest is negative when it degenerates into an uncontrolled lust for power.
It mutates into greed, and becomes an all-encompassing, all-consuming obsession.
Like Herod who was a savage iconoclast driven by a murderous appetite for power.
This appetite is insatiably counterproductive as one never reaches satisfaction.
It is a bottomless pit which exhausts one in an endless effort to satisfy the need.
So be conscious of your personal feelings and also be considerate of others feelings.


vi. STOUT SPIRIT #13--->

The world is harsh and competitive place, and we must look after our own interests.
Those who are the most self-absorbed will surround their actions with a moral aura.
Confused by appearances, in asking for help, you appeal to their sense of gratitude.
You are then frustrated and disappointed when they politely decline to help you.
When asking for a favour, you must think first of appealing to people’s self-interest.
You must look at the world through their eyes, getting a real sense of their needs.
Always give them something valuable in exchange for assisting you – a return favour.

vii. STOUT SPIRIT #14--->

It is far LIFE-enhancing to have an absence of negative people in your LIFE.
The toxic people will basically sap your spirit; they are walking danger signs.
Concentrate on harnessing your own energy into a default positive state.
The pronounced difference between scarcity and abundance is liberation.
Those who basically view the world through scarcity are mentally imprisoned.
They oppress themselves with percepts that lead to negative feedback cycles.
Those with an abundance mindset are doing well to improve their situation.

#V. The 7th SURVIVAL SKILLS:

i. POLISHED PERSUASION #13--->

The sophisticated art of persuasion is the ultimate form of power.
Its formula is working on mind first, and then stimulate fantasies.
Our personal and social life is relatively saturated in the seductive.
But even if much of dynamics have changed in degree and scope.
The essence of persuasion is constant: never be forceful or direct.
Instead, use pleasure as bait, tactfully playing on people’s emotions.
Stirring desire and confusion, thus inducing psychological surrender.

ii. POLISHED PERSUASION #14--->

Successful persuasions which creates a real hypnotizing pull,
Rarely begin with an obvious maneuver or strategic device.
That is certain to arouse suspicion, and create defensiveness.
Success lies on radiating some quality that attracts people,
And stirs their emotions in a way that is beyond their control.
Your victims will not notice your subsequent manipulations.
It will then be like a child’s play to influence and seduce them.

iii. AMICABLE APPROACH #19--->

In these TUMULTOUS TIMES, it is vital to be sensitive to sign of an abusive relationship.
In the early stages you may not think your partner’s unhealthy behavious are a big deal.
Possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing,
Or other negative, abusive behaviours, are at their root exertions of power and control.
Remember that torelating abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected.
There is no excuse for abuse; no cultural, legal or social justification for abuse of any kind.
Even if you feel deeply in love, let not your partner take you for granted in any way.

iv. AMICABLE APPROACH #20--->

If you think your relationship is unhealthy, it is important to think about your safety now.
Understand that a person can only change if he or she want to, and is committed to do so.
You cannot force him or her to alter one’s behaviour if he or she does not believe one’s wrong.
Focus on your own needs. Are you taking care of yourself? Your wellness is always important.
Watch your stress levels, take time to be with friends, get enough sleep, and exercise well.
If you find that your relationship is draining you, and making you unhappy consider ending it.
Connect with your support systems. Remember: Often, abusers try to isolate their partners.

v. AMICABLE APPROACH #21--->

Talk to friends, family members, teachers and professional helpers like counsellors.
Do not isolate yourself, but make sure you are getting the emotional support you need.
Our BEYONDIST team of counsellors are always ready to talk if you need a listening ear.
Think about breaking up? Remember: you deserve to feel accepted in your relationship.
Though you cannot change your partner, you can make changes in your LIFE to stay safe.
Consider leaving your partner before the abuse gets worse, or your LIFE is endangered.
Whether you decide to leave or stay, make sure you make a decision that is rational.

vi. INDOCTRINATION INNOCULATION #7--->

Look out for those who emphasises the attractiveness of being “part of the group”.
Avoid those who purport to provide a better alternative to what you had known before.
Learn to discern the following signs used by all brainwashers to achieve blind obedience:
Creating a form of peer pressure that encourages one to be accepted by the new group;
Repetition of the message emphasising certain key words, through singing or chanting;
Never letting the victim time to think by use of vague words while discouraging questions;
Presenting an “Us vs. Them” mentality, the group is right and the outside world is wrong.

vii. TOXIC TRAIT #7--->
The Vulgarian

Vulgarians are inattentive to the key details, and clues that are so important in LIFE.
You can see this in their personal appearance; their clothes are tasteless by any standard.
Their actions are rude in all measures, as they will nag others without ever sensing it.
They do not know that it is sometimes better, to control one’s actions and expressions.
Utterly unable to give in to their impulses, Vulgarians will blab, saying anything in public.
They are crude people with no sense of timing; they are rarely in harmony with your tastes.
Indiscretion is a sure sign of the Vulgarian (talking to others of your privacy, for example).



#VI. The 7th SELFHOOD SERMON:

This then is the 7th VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualize.--->

This then is the 7th VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualize.--->

What is apparently called the secret of happiness is no more than an individual’s total immersal in the world, which is also the willingness to choose LIFE in its entirety. The ‘existential’ fact that the past is gone and the future is not yet HERE goes to teach us that, if we do not assert ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with eternal deliciousness of LIFE. At the bottom of this SELFHOOD SERMON is appreciating that, NOW is the ‘Greatest Time’, the most exciting times in the history of our world to be alive. It is loaded with the message that, this is the dawn of a new generation, wholly interested and driven by the conscious choice for growth and desire for real change and real transformation. It incites you to be fully creative, health seeking, prosperity attracting, relationship blessing and world transforming. You are then fired by an inspiration for furthest reach of your LIFE, making it Great and maximal.



  • PRAY
  • BELIEVE
  • INTERACT
  • WORK
  • PENETRATE
  • LIVE
  • ACTUALIZE

#7.1. PRAY
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHICH must be your PERPETUAL PRAYER?

Verily, verily, your momentous, persuasive, ‘Perpetual Prayer’;
Affluently, is that, you should in all measures conquer yourself,
Laudably, for it is better to develop that superb self-efficacy,
Unlimitedly, than to dominate lands or to win a thousand battles.
Audaciously, then, the victory will be solid and permanently yours.
Tenaciously, tt cannot be snatched, stolen or taken away from you,
Efficaciously, not by angels or devils, neither in heaven nor in hell.

#7.2. BELIEVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHAT ought to be your BASIC BELIEFS?

Verily, verily, your guiding generalisations and ‘Basic Beliefs’;
Affluently, should be knowing that, idleness is a road to death,
Laudably, and to be diligent is a noble way to a luminous LIFE.
Unlimitedly, foolish people are idle, wise people are diligent.
Audaciously, idleness is a blasphemy on Almighty benevolence.
Tenaciously, for God has not failed to give you enough wisdom,
Efficaciously, to find ways to make improvements in your LIFE.

#7.3. INTERACT
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHO should be your CHARMING COMPANIONS?

Verily, verily, your LIFE-advancing ‘Charming Companions’;
Affluently, should be the buoyant and the virtuous people.
Laudably, always associate with people of good quality,
Unlimitedly, if you esteem the reputation of your character.
Audaciously, for it is better to be alone and remain clean,
Tenaciously, than soil your name and slow your evolution,
Effetely, in the presence of bad, and retrogressive toxic traits.

#7.4. WORK
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
HOW should you go about your DAILY DUTIES?

Verifiably, the modalities of going about your ‘Daily Duties’;
Affluently, is knowing that, it is better to create than to learn,
Laudably, for creating is the core and the well spring of LIFE.
Unlimitedly, always utilise your time wisely and productively,
Audaciously, realising that, the time is always ripe to do good.
Tenaciously, and when you get to the end of your work’s rope,
Efficaciously, do not hesitate to tie a knot and to boldly hang on.

#7.5. PENETRATE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHERE can you find a PENETRATING PATH?

Verily, verily, you can only find your sure ‘Penetrating Path’;
Affluently, after learning through trial and error that courage,
Laudably, is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.
Unlimitedly, the brave person is not one, who does not feel afraid,
Audaciously, but the one, who conquers that LIFE suffocating fear.
Tenaciously, courage is what it makes you to stand up and speak:
Efficaciously, courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.

#7.6. LIVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHY are you in this WONDERFUL WORLD?

Verily, verily, you are rightfully in this ‘Wonderful World’;
Affluently, to be an optimally, self-actualised individual.
Laudably, there is no passion to be got in playing small,
Unlimitedly, or in settling for a LIFE that is apparently less,
Audaciously, than the one you are really capable of living.
Tenaciously, it is even a sin to be contented with tidbits,
Efficaciously, when you can enjoy more in this ‘existence’.

#7.7. ACTUALIZE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHEN are you really HOLISTICALLY HUMAN?

Verily, verily, you are at the citadel of ‘Holistic Humanness’;
Affluently, only upon abhorrence of spiritual barrenness.
Laudably, for, it is better to be gnawing and to be violent,
Unlimitedly, if there is violence and storming in your heart,
Audaciously, than to put on the fragile cloak of nonviolence,
Tenaciously, to cover impotence and the sense of hollowness.
Efficaciously, acting from your ‘being’ informs your Godliness.














#VII. The 7th ESTEEMED EXPLORATION:

TO be sincere, most of us--->


only become aware of a part of our body when it malfunctions. Then we say, “I got sick,” as if my body is something outside that happens to me.

HOW can you become--->

aware of your body? This is by frequently asking yourself how different parts of your body feel to you at any given moment. What sensations and feelings are you receiving from your leg, your ring finger, your head, and so forth? Learn to feel what is happening as you walk or as you rest.

EXPERIENCING your body--->


as an aspect of your acting self, and an expression of yourself in unity is very important. It is also important to learn to encounter and enrich your understanding of a neglected aspect of yourself.

REALLY, place two chairs--->


opposite one another so that they are about four feet apart. Sit in one of the chairs and then begin a significant other in your LIFE or an aspect of yourself that you can personalise in the other chair.

ACTUALLY, try to visualise--->


the person in the empty chair as vividly as possible. How tall is he or she? What is he or she wearing? What is his or her posture? What do you imagine he or she is feeling? Say something to the person in the empty chair about your relationship. Then reverse roles.

PRECISELY, get up and go--->

and sit in the other chair and pretend that you are the other person or the other aspect of yourself. Respond to yourself as fully and completely as you possibly can. When you have finished, return to the original chair and say a final word as yourself to other person in the empty chair.

YOU will find that this--->


experience is very helpful in getting you to see things from a different perspective.



THERAPEAUTIC TRANSACTION #7:

“Whatever you love can be taken away, so live like it’s your dying day.”– American rapper and actor Machine Gun Kelly (MGK) (b. 1990). Here are SEVEN ways on how to POTENTLY PROCEED with your LIFE:--->

“Whatever you love can be taken away, so live like it’s your dying day.”– American rapper and actor Machine Gun Kelly (MGK) (b. 1990). Here are SEVEN ways on how to POTENTLY PROCEED with your LIFE:--->

DILIGENTLY DEALING WITH LOSS, DEATH AND GRIEVE:

There is nothing devastating to the LIFE of a YOUTH, than losing something. Even losing a seemingly small thing like a pen, may be very disturbing. Of utmost important, if the YOUTH loses a loved one, a parent, or a sibling, or a close relative, the experience may be unbearable. You are hereby taught how to always hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.



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i. Precisely, neurologists have discovered that, ‘thoughts of death’ triggers a heightened activity in brain region such as the right amygdala, which is associated with fear and anxiety. Those who study the surroundings and inner experiences of persons near death –Thanatologists - have identified several stages through which dying persons go and which may be intermingled with feelings of hope, anguish and terror. There are five discrete stages, a process by which those faced by the stark reality of ‘Death’, cope and deal with grief and the imminent tragedy especially when diagnosed with a terminal illness. However, the reactions are individually unique, everyone does not experience all the stated stages, and they do not necessarily occur in any predictable order, with some victims getting stuck in one stage. These stages and which are popularly known by the acronym DABDA includes; Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

ii. Reaction (initial) to the news of an impending ‘Death’ is the negation of this reality; ‘I feel fine’, ‘this cannot be happening to me’, ‘it cannot be true’, temporary defenses which may prompt people to request for more medical test from other doctors in the hope that they may get a more favourable prognosis. Whereas this ‘Denial’ may cushion the individual from shocking news, this feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of possessions and individuals who will be left behind after death. In unsuccessfulness of denial, feelings of ‘Anger’, rage, envy and resentment, reigns upon the individual; ‘why me?’, ‘why not someone else?’, ‘It is not fair’, ‘who is to blame?’ Due to these misplaced feelings, particularly towards others, the person becomes very difficult to care for, which calls for a lot of empathic caring from family members and medical staff.

iii. Only in ‘Bargaining’ stage, that patients accepts and hopes for postponement or delay of death. They strive for this through pleading for more time, negotiating for an extended LIFE to initiate a reformed lifestyle; ‘I will do anything for a few more years’, ‘I will give my life saving if ..’, ‘I will dedicate my life to God’. The underlying psychological message becomes; ‘I understand I will die, but if I could just do something to buy more time…’ In the ‘Depression’ stage, the dying person come face to face with the inevitability and certainty of death, and may disconnect him or herself from things of love and affection, refuse visitors and spend so much of the time crying and grieving; ‘I am so sad, why bother with anything?’ ‘I am going to die soon so what is the point?’ The ensuing sorrow prepares the individual for the final stage of dying, that is ‘Acceptance’, which is neither a happy one nor a sad one and is almost devoid of feelings; ‘It is going to be okay’, ‘I can not fight it, I may as well prepare for it’.

iv. Categorically, the paradox of ‘DEATH’ is that, for those who have been promoted to glory, perhaps to them, in that other world, nothing but exalted bliss. However for the bereaved, the emotional response following the loss of loved one, may manifest itself in grieving which may involve painful emotions and psychological suffering; though also an important step in the recovery from the bereavement. However, individuals who had the advantage of foreseeing the loss of a loved one, experiences an anticipatory grief, which prepares and helps them in adjustment during the bereavement period. Though there is no common denominator in the way individuals experience grief, seven reactions stands out clear. These include: sensations of somatic distress occurring in waves lasting from 20 minutes to an hour at a time; an intensive subjective distress described as pain or tension; a feeling of tightness in the throat; chocking and shortness of breath; a need for sighing; an empty feeling in the abdomen; lack of mascular power.

v. Essentially, it has been an established fact that, the trauma of bereavement can mean an increased risk of heart attacks and strokes in the months immediately following the death of a close relative. In a recent study by University of Sydney which monitored 78 bereaved spouses and parents, researchers found that, the average heart rate following bereavement was 75 beats per minute compared to 70.7 in unaffected volunteers. Lead researcher Dr. Thomas Buckley cautioned: “While the focus at the time of bereavement is naturally directed toward the deceased person, the health and welfare of bereaved survivors should also be of concern…some bereaved, especially those already at increased cardiovascular risk, might benefit from medical review, and they should seek medical assistance for any possible cardiac symptoms”. While the study found that, six months after bereavement, the heart had returned to normal, before the time has elapsed, during the high risk time, the bereaved are advised to pay visit to doctor – having their blood pressure taken and looking for other illness problem – and should try to take moderate exercise beside seeking social support.

vi. Eventually, besides focusing on the physiological implications of bereavement, it would be worth noting that, grief is not a static state, but a process which the emotional reactions of the bereaved wanes off over time, through four stages which were concisely identified by British psychiatrist Colin Murray Parkes (b.1928) after investigating grief of various widows. Upon receiving the news of loss, individuals experience Numbness and a little feeling; a short duration that may be followed by shock, disbelief and confusion. In the second stage, individuals may Yearn and Protest the loss of loved one; reactions which are expressed through crying and weeping, relieving old memories and heightened anxiety about living on their own. A year after bereavement, Disorganisation and Depression creeps in whereby individuals become apathetic and lack interest in LIFE; a period which call forth for social support of friends and relatives. During the final stage of Recovery which begins in the final two years of death, individuals resolve their loss, and are able to talk about and express emotions such as anger, anxiety, and guilt; memories of the loved one evoke pleasant feelings and the bereaved make decision to move on with their LIFE, by initiating new relationships and activities.

vii. Death of others and in particular our close relatives or friends puts on us the notice of reality of DEATH. A point of caution here is that, shattering the delusion of the fear of death does not mean denial of death, but acceptance of a possible DEATH which goes towards the honest assertion of present LIFE. The words of British poet and painter, David Harkins (b.1958) may be a source of infinite consolation:

“You can shed tears that she is gone,
Or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can not see her,
Or you can be full of love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her only that she is gone,
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
Be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what she’d want;
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on”.


















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