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2A/3P which is the brand name for this SELF-ACTUALIZATION Model simply means “African Assertiveness / Provoking Positive Perceptions”. African Assertiveness implies believing that you have ‘answers’ to the problems besetting you, and assuming total responsibility for the sacrifice required in order to arrive to the solution. This is a purely individual enterprise which can only be achieved only if you Provoke Positive Perceptions.

Clearing the rubbish heap of all those valuations that makes you a weakling and despicable, and entering the treasure house where all great, unselfish and heroic motives of human beings abode, should be the supreme goal of any Assertive African.

A fundamental ‘existential’ fact is that in the back of your mind, in the album of your consciousness, there is a page which when keenly looked at may reveal various answers to most of your problems. Your only difficulty is identifying the page. So you are called upon to seize the moment and take an inventory and a catalogue of yourself by outlining and striving to fight those obstacles which stand on your road towards attaining your essential nature and prevent you from living up to your basic and real humanness.

As a human being, you have an inherent self-actualizing tendency, which assists you to meet your needs, develop a positive view about yourself and interact effectively with others.

Identifying and naming all the negative forces in your LIFE, is the springboard upon which you can liberate yourself from the bondage of their inhibitive, as well as downgrading influence. Listen to Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950): “If a person cannot look evil in the face without illusions, he or she will never know what it really is or how to combat it effectively”.

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Personality Pathway


S E L F H O O D _ S T E P _ # 5
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ESTABLISHINGLY ENTITLING your ‘Personality Pathway’ MUST be your fifth major ‘Mortal Mission’. This is gorgeously grounded on your distinguished ‘Divine Duty’, to Harness Holistic BEHAVIOUR. As an ennobling encouragement to you ......., to ‘channel your immense gifts and vent out your pent-up energies towards productivity’, BEYONDISM reflectively seeks to “RESTATE” your response to the PROMPTINGS (not really questions) No. 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, (38, 39, 40, 41) & 1.vi consecutively.

The THERAPEAUTIC TARGET here is: To help you to have a complete and profound understanding of your personality; flooding yourself with the self-belief that, nobody can beat you at being your REAL SELF.
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Your PERSONALITY PATHWAY should teach you the value of DEATH.

SEVEN ways on how to unconditionally utilise your PRESENT PRODUCTIVELY:

THERAPEAUTIC TREASURE #5

“Death is not the greatest loss in life...is what dies inside while still alive.”
- American rapper and actor Tupac Amaru Shakur, alias Makaveli ( 1971 – 1996)
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1. Precisely apprectiating DEATH, is to live fully:--->

DEATH is categorically what the living carries with them anytime, anywhere.
DEATH is in all dimensions, just an extended version of LIFE in another form.
DEATH is manifested in all the facets of our very LIFE; it forms an integral part.
DEATH crowns our LIFE; it is upon it that our deeds are illumined and clarified.
DEATH borders upon our birth; in grave therein lies the fulcrum, or the bridge.
DEATH being a very dreary affair, we should appreciate and give no damn to it.
DEATH is in some paradoxical way, very likely the best creative outcome of LIFE.

2. Reality of DEATH gives MEANING to LIFE:--->

All human drama is, to a great extent, a story of coping with the terror of death.
Nothing in LIFE can really prepare us for the inevitable and singular event of death.
The human mind is not capable of comprehending the full enormity of finally dying.
The horror of biting the dust after a lifelong struggle to make LIFE enjoyable is fatal.
But, we begin to understand the meaning of LIFE, if we stare at death unflinchingly.
Shattering the delusion of the fear of death does not mean the denial of death.
Acceptance of a possible DEATH can save us by honest assertion of present LIFE.

3. Entertain the idea of DEATH as holding key to LIFE:--->

DEATH annihilates the old, in order to facilitate the emergence of new things.
In a strange way, we cannot truly live without awareness of LIFE’s inevitable end.
How can we live fully and vitally, if we spend a LIFE time running away from death?
LIFE is defined by its fragility and finiteness, and death holds the key to real living.
Fools think they can avoid death anxiety by immersing themselves in pleasures.
Death is like an unfathomable black hole, capable of destroying all our happiness.
The idea of death challenges us to fill the huge void by living a LIFE of significance.

4. Soaring higher and being heroic in our mortality:--->

Human civilisation, is a defense mechanism against the knowledge of our mortality.
This acts as the emotional and intellectual response to our basic survival mechanism.
The authentic person is able to transcend the dilemma of mortality through heroism.
By embarking on ‘immortality project’, one creates something which will last forever.
In this way the person becomes ‘heroic’ and, henceforth, part of something eternal;
Something that will never die compared to one’s physical body that will die one day.
This in turn gives one the feeling that one’s LIFE has meaning, purpose and significance.

5. Eventual DEATH is what informs human evolution:--->

Without the DEATH of our ancestors, we would not have found ourselves on earth.
Without DEATH, the human being’s emancipation from Dark-Age would be null.
If humanity in its present state would be informed that DEATH will catch upon none,
The result would be pathetic, disillusioning, and degeneration into utter carelessness.
Existence would lack the power that draws humans to one another, and the world.
The conviction of ‘Being-unto-death’ illumines our essential ‘Being-in-the-world’.
The anticipation of possibility of DEATH makes the human evolution an actuality.

6. Never fearing DEATH is the best reason to LIVE:--->

The only positive and healthy fear of death would be the fear of dying unprepared.
DEATH inspires us to make the most of our very precious LIFE instead of wasting it.
The worst misfortune which can afflict a human being is dying with utter regrets.
To avoid a sad and meaningless end to our LIFE, we need to use our LIFE wisely.
There is no use in being afraid when we are on our deathbed and about to die.
The time to fear death is while healthy; when we are in the vitality of our youth.
Living productively and meaningfully is the key to dying merrily as well as joyfully.

7. Taking the bull that is DEATH on its horns:--->

You only soundly live twice; when you are born and when you look death to the face.
Once you accept your own death, all of a sudden you are free to live LIFE in its entirety.
You no longer care about your reputation, about how people will say about your acts.
You no longer care except as your LIFE can be used to promote a cause you believe in.
Productive labour extends our ‘I’ BEYOND the limits of our narrow fleeting existence.
This is what BEYONDISM feels honoured to categorically crown as ‘Mortal Immortality’.
Do not fear death so much, but rather the inadequate, a hopeless, and an empty LIFE.









Here now flows (hover below) the BEYONDISM distilled definition of:--->
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esigning our destiny without any sort of hesitation.
Ennobling our evolution through daily creative tasks.
Abandoning all fears in regard to cessation of LIFE.
Transcending our historical and situational barriers.
Holistic reaction to all conditions of LIFE we encounter.


The human race is the only one that knows it must die, and it knows this only through its experience. A child brought up alone and transported to a desert island would have no more idea of death than a cat or a plant.
- Voltaire (1694 - 1778)

“You only live twice. Once when you are born and once when you look death to the face”.
- British novelist Ian Fleming (1908-1964)

“And yet what if it is for life’s sake that we must die? In truth we are not individuals; and it is because we think ourselves such that death seems unforgivable. We are temporary organs of the race, cells in the body of life; we die and drop away that life may remain young and strong. If we were to live forever, growth would be stifled and youth would find no room on the earth. Death, like style, is the removal of rubbish, the excision of the superfluous. Through love we pass our vitality on to a new form of us before the old form dies; through parentage we bridge the chasm of the generations, and elude the enmity of death…in the midst of death life renews itself immortally…The individual fails, but life succeeds. The individual dies, but life, tireless and undiscourageable, goes on, wondering, longing, planning, trying, mounting, attaining, longing”.
- American philosopher and historian Will Durant (1885-1981) in Pleasures of philosophy (1953)

SELFHOOD RATING
29,30,31,32,33,34,35.

“Death is a great revealer of what is in a man, and in its solemn shadow appear the naked lineaments of the soul… Death is the condition of higher and more fruitful life”.
- American preacher and editor, Edwin Hubbell Chapin (1814-1880)

“When death comes
To fetch you
She comes unannounced,
She comes suddenly
Like the vomit of dogs,
And when she comes
The wind keeps blowing
The birds go on singing
And the flowers
Do not hang their heads.”
- Ugandan poet, writer, anthropologist and dancer, Okot p’ Bitek (1931-1982) in Song of Lawino (1966)
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R#29. On SELF-RIGHTEOUSLY proclaiming: “I cannot be a hypocrite”.
O thee TAO, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to STOP SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS.--->

  1. SURELY, neither human nor angel can discern hypocrisy; the only evil that walks invisible, except to GOD.
  2. USUALLY, the fact that one may smile and be a villain, is one of the dark rooms in the mall of Humanity.
  3. MANY VICES have wreaked havoc to mankind, but hypocrisy is the homage paid by VICE to VIRTUE.
  4. MOST critical, hypocrisy is the most DIFFICULT and nerve-racking VICE that any individual can pursue.
  5. ATTENDED in all moments, hypocrisy needs an unceasing VIGILANCE and a rare detachment of spirit.
  6. REALLY, hypocrisy cannot, like adultery or gluttony, be practised at spare moments; it is a whole-time job.
  7. YES, IMMORALITY is the wild word we use to describe people that are not sinning the same way we are.

R#30. On tending to say: “I do not have the morale to INDULGE myself in doing it”.
O thee BB, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to INDULGE INSPIRINGLY.--->

  1. SURELY, to immerse fully in the necessary affairs of this generation, learn first to perceive with TRUTH.
  2. UNLESS you are acutely assertive, creative and progressive-minded, you will never become number ONE.
  3. MATERIAL considerations - or simply the Love of MONEY - should not overlap the Love of Innovation.
  4. MERRILY, keep your sunny side up, keep yourself beautiful, and indulge yourself in soul-nourishing tasks.
  5. ASPIRE to forget your sadness, anger, grudges and hatred. Let them pass like smoke caught in a BREEZE.
  6. REALISE that overthinking about problems and being pitiful is not the answer to get through tough times.
  7. YES, cowards are those who let fear overcome their sense of duty. Diligent duty is the essence of nobility.

R#31. On having the tendency of seeking ASSURANCE from others for your actions.
O thee TAO, behold, Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to ABSCOND ASSURANCES.--->

  1. SOUND thinking is essentially social; it occurs not only in specific situations, but in a given cultural milieu.
  2. UNIQUE and universal, a person is as much a product of society, as society is a product of the person.
  3. MANNERS, conventions, customs, and traditional ideas lies ready to pounce upon every new-born CHILD.
  4. MOULDING this new entity into the image of the people among whom it has appeared, is a vital necessity.
  5. ACTUAL and rapid is the operation of this social heredity that it is often mistaken for biological heredity.
  6. REAL purpose, boldness and energy of will are roused by the conviction that we are doing our social duty.
  7. YES, assurances are unsustainable tricks; lead to narcissism in good times and depression in hard times.

R#32. On apologising with: “I am unable to make a sound DECISION on this issue”.
O thee BB, behold, Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to DECIDE DARINGLY.--->

  1. SOBERLY speaking, Creative Consciousness is proportionate to the living being’s power of choice.
  2. UNDETERED in its luminousity, it LIGHTS up the zone of potentialities that surrounds any ACTION.
  3. MOUNTING the realms of WILL, it fills the interval between what is done and what might be done.
  4. MASTERY mind is a vivid theatre of imagination, where alternative responses are pictured and tested.
  5. ALL moments of decision, requires you to do the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing.
  6. ROBUSTLY embrace decision. The road rarely rises up to meet you until you have BEGUN walking.
  7. YOU must rejoice in challenges; say YES or NO to decisions that will set off chains of consequences.

R#33. On thinking material gifts can create strong friendships without AFFECTION.
O thee TAO, behold, Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to AFFIRM AFFECTION.--->

  1. SEEK to be certain of nothing but the holiness of the heart’s AFFECTIONS and the TRUTH of imagination.
  2. USUALLY, what the imagination seizes as BEAUTY must be TRUTH — whether it existed before or not.
  3. MAINLY, desiring the HAPPINESS of others without any selfish intention is what we may call AFFECTION.
  4. MARKEDLY, when the idea of a right LIFE and of fixed HOPE is dried, the result is the worst nightmare.
  5. ANNULED thus, though a person may be in sound HEALTH, it makes one feel symptoms of every disease.
  6. ROCKED in a sort of walking dream, though innocent, one’s mind is filled with blackest horrors of guilt.
  7. YOU must nurture AFFECTION in you, so as to be nourished by the freely available THERAPY in relations.

R#34. On finding it hard to AROUSE joyous feelings in other people.
O thee BB, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to AROUSE ANYONE.--->

  1. SUBSTANTIALLY, the gust of painting the vices and follies of HUMANITY, in a comical manner, is GODLY.
  2. USUALLY, the ability to tell TRUTH laughingly implies transforming others without incurring their wrath.
  3. MOST effective humour is done in one’s native language; it is the first gift to perish in a foreign tongue.
  4. MERRILY kindling LIGHT in the darkness of the HEARTS of others, is to arouse VALUE into their LIVES.
  5. ACCRUING events as comedy, feeling LIFE as a tragedy, laughing at our follies, is to be a magnet for all.
  6. ROBUSTNESS of spirit, CHARISMA in action and CHARM in words, are TRAITS one should verily LEARN.
  7. YOU laudably laugh, and the world loftily laughs with you; you willfully weep, and you wildly weep alone.

R#35. On feeling DESPERATE and helpless when in a pathetic situation.
O thee TAO, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to DARE DESPERATION.--->

  1. SURELY, in LIFE, it is possible to encounter an intervening period that may destroy almost all your hopes.
  2. UNFORESEEN factors may loosen your friendships, and break all the threads of your once sheltered LIFE.
  3. MAY be you suffer from the confusion natural to a person whose idealism is slipping into disillusionment.
  4. MANY ‘battering’ and ‘burdens’ may be demeaning your LIFE. But you are still interesting and worthwhile.
  5. AS a human being, you are not a passively adaptive MACHINE, submitting to the expertise of an operator.
  6. READILY, you are a concise creature, with the ability to candidly chart a compelling course for your LIFE.
  7. YOU are a focus of redirected force, a center of creative evolution. You can mow down any DESPERATION.


THERAPEAUTIC TEACHING #5:


#I. The 5th AFRICAN AFFIRMATION:

  1. “To stay long in water does not make you clean”.
    - Wolof (Senegal) proverb


  2. “Better a curtain hanging motionless than a flag blowing the wind”.
    - Swahili (East & Central Africa) proverb

  3. “The one who eats has tasted the hardship of your labour”.
    - Tembo (DRC) proverb

  4. “Too much shyness means miserliness”.
    - Kikuyu (Kenya) proverb

  5. “The good millet is known at the harvest time”.
    - Kikuyu (Kenya) proverb

  6. “Haste, before the trunk-bridge becomes slippery”.
    - Kikuyu (Kenya) proverb

  7. “What is in the stomach carries what is in the head”.
    - Bukusu (Kenya) proverb

#II. The 5th SACRED STANDING:

  1. “A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a downcast spirit dries up the bones”.
    - BIBLE, Proverbs 17:22

  2. “I will walk with integrity of heart within my house; I will not set before my eyes anything that is base”.
    - BIBLE, Psalms 101:3

  3. “And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit on all flesh; your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams.”
    - BIBLE, Joel 2:28

  4. “Go forth light and heavy and strive hard in God’s way with your property and your person”.
    - QURAN, Baraat 9:41

  5. “Whoever follows MY guidance, no fear shall come upon them nor shall they grieve”.
    - QURAN, Al-Baqarah 2:38

  6. “Be patient and excel in patience and remain steadfast and be careful of your duty to GOD, that you may be successful”.
    - QURAN, Al-Imran 3:200

  7. “In the material world, one who is unaffected by whatever good or evil he may obtain, neither praising it nor despising it, is firmly fixed in perfect knowledge”.
    – BHAGAVAD-GITA, Contents of the Gita Summarized, II: 57
#III. The 5th ASSERTIVENESS ARITHMETIC:

You have a _______ preference of FEARLESS over COWARDICE (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

You have a _______ preference of FEARLESS over COWARDICE (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

BELIEF + ACTION = FEARLESSNESS

A sound and innovative mind comes from believing in yourself, your purpose and the direction of your LIFE pursuits. BELIEF is similar to commitment, in that belief slices away all meandering. Firm belief is the great manager of the enemies of doubt and delay. The only time to delay in LIFE, is when delay is used as a strategy to obtain the desired goal, and in that case delay would be a measure of patience. When delay is coming from doubt, it is deadly to your success. There is no result without ACTION. Action can be summed up as the courage to create measurable movement towards a goal. It is the outward expression of your belief. For actions to be bold, beliefs must be strong and determined. This is FEARLESSNESS. Fearlessness in LIFE is your greatest asset.



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TOP UP your BOLDNESS. Your Specific Score in regard to your Valiant Voyage in the SELFHOOD-SEARCH SEA, towards the Holy Harbour of your Active SELFHOOD stands at ____ points out of 49 points.

HASTEN your AUDACITY. This parameter entails sensitivity to your feelings and needs; as a low scorer you will be out of touch with your emotional reactions to situations and events.

EXISTENTIALLY, this is the essential extent to which, you will recognise both negative and positive emotions and permits them to enter into your PSYCHE.

READILY, it is the diligent degree you will be aware of the inner rightness of yourself, of nature, and of peak experiences of LIFE.

APPARENTLY, it is the meritorious measure of your accuracy in perception of the world and being comfortable in it.

PRUDENTLY, when you will have passionately travelled this road you will be able to distinguish between the end goal that you will be striving for and the means of accomplishing it; enjoying the journey and appreciating it as well as the destination.

YOUR categorical compass to Locate your BEARING here is ‘Optimum Sensitivity’. When in doubt, be honest. If you look into yourself and are honest, you will also take responsibility. Taking responsibility is ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD.






Successful Studentship #5:

Use the storms of LIFE (obstacles, trouble, etc) to rise to greater heights.
Achievers relish challenges and even crisis and seek to use them profitably.
Do not be those blessed with intelligence, but lack the self-discipline to hone it.
Teachers love students who work hard no matter what their level of intelligence.
The hardest working students will ultimately be the most successful in LIFE.
Learning to be strong and to work hard early on is an asset that will pay off.
Being a hard worker in school simply means completing assignments on time.

The underlying 5th Perceptive Principle is based on the analogy of an Eagle:
EAGLES LOVE THE STORM

  • The Eagle is the only bird that loves the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited.
  • The eagle uses the wings of the storm to rise and is pushed up higher.
  • Once it finds the wing of the storm, the eagle stops flapping and uses the pressure of the raging storm to soar the clouds and glide. This gives the eagle an opportunity to rest its wings.
  • In the meantime all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees.
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#IV. The 5th POTENT POWER:

i. MONK MODE #5--->

You cannot hope to have high social value without investing in yourself.
Cutting your social time to a bare minimum is incredibly important.
It is very hard to stay focused when always discussing nonsense gossip.
It is all too easy to get caught up in a distracting storm of banality.
There will be no feedback loops in your LIFE to give you self-esteem.
Take a break from mundane company, to get your own house in order.
Focus your will into real LIFE gains by having a plan and implementing it.

ii. WITTY WARFARE #9--->
Steer away from, or shed off the wrinkled skin of LESBIANISM or HOMOSEXUALITY.

There is no biological or even psychological justification of being a lesbian or a gay.
The number of homosexuals/lesbians diagnosed with HIV, overtakes that of others.
Married gays and lesbians have a shorter lifespan than others by about 24 years!
Rates of homosexual sexual abuse reported by homosexual adults is very high.
Children raised by homosexual parents experience more problems than others.
There is nothing genetic that is deterministic of the homosexual/lesbian orientation.
Homosexual sex is often associated with dangerous behaviour, use of deadly drugs.


iii. WITTY WARFARE #10--->
Working through SHAME to cultivate COMPASSION.

Shame is deadly, and it is unfortunate that most people are swimming in it deep.
Shame is basically that painful and uncomfortable feeling of humiliation or distress.
Rooted in the belief of our deficiency, it causes us to avoid connecting with others.
We shy from interactions for fear that they will see the flaws we are trying to hide.
But the one upside of shame is that just ‘calling it by NAME’ you can overcome it.
Through empathy you can build greater and enriching relationships with others.
In this way you may become more compassionate towards yourself and others.


iv. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #9--->
FOCUSLESS FEAR: - Coiling away in the face of inevitable daily challenges.

Courage belies success; LIFE shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s boldness.
Courage is a core human quality; it is the ladder on which all other virtues mount.
The only thing we have to fear is fear itself, that unreasoning, and unjustified terror.
Courage is the indispensable key to graduate with distinction in this ‘varsity of LIFE’.
In the grand school of ‘Hard Knock’, outside of academics, ‘guts’, ‘bravado’ are vital.
Being ‘daring’ and ‘tenacious’ will decide your future much more than school grades.
In the real world, it is not the ‘smart’ that get ahead but the ‘audacious’ and ‘bold’.


v. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #10--->
INSTITUTIONALISED IDLENESS: - Failure to exploit our vast inherent potential.

Flesh and blood is not like steel and needs to shed its weight from time to time.
But this does not mean always sitting passively and waiting for miracles to happen.
Idleness is the mother of adultery; and to be virtuous, and happy one must be busy.
When we are poor, it is only a defect in ourselves and not a limitation to possibility.
What we just require is that ‘little extra’ to enable us wake from our mental stupor.
And arise to the fact that, it is we alone who can change our pathetic situation.
It is always a possibility to arouse the larger capabilities than we are conscious of.


vi. STOUT SPIRIT #9--->

True strength is psychological, it is a matter of intelligence, not material force.
Everything in LIFE can be taken away from you and generally will be at some point.
Your wealth vanishes, the latest gadgetry suddenly becomes passé, allies desert you.
But if your mind is armed with the art of managing conflicts, nothing can take it away.
In the middle of a dangerous crisis, your mind will find its way to the right solution.
Having superior strategies at your fingertips will give your maneuvers irresistible force.
As the Chinese philosopher Sun-Tzu says, ‘Being unconquerable lies with yourself’.

vii. STOUT SPIRIT #10--->

The quantity of people in your LIFE is irrelevant to the energy you carry.
The quality of people in your LIFE is what should be relevant and matter.
It is whether you possess a positive or negative aura about yourself.
Every person should have a purpose and they should all add something.
The no gooders should basically have no place in the lives of great people.
They are a faceless audience, hating, criticising and also sabotaging you.
Spectators (neither supporters, nor players) are unworthy of companionship.

#V. The 5th SURVIVAL SKILLS:

i. POLISHED PERSUASION #9--->

Trust is the basic unit of social glue that enables us to interact without fear.
If they trust you, they will accept what you say as true, which is persuasive.
Show that you are true to your values and follows common social norms.
Do no harm and actively seek to protect people, caring about them personally.
Make others feel safe around you by doing what you say you are going to do.
Seek to fulfill expectations of others and always be keeping your promises.
In all instances tell the truth and actively maintain your reputation for integrity.

ii. POLISHED PERSUASION #10--->

What will persuade a person is the effort we expend on their behalf.
Showing how much we care for them, how much they are worth.
In persuasion, leaving things to chance is a sure recipe for disaster.
And reveals that we do not take power and romance very seriously.
Ability to persuade is really a matter, not of magic but of psychology.
Once you know your target’s psychology, you strategise to suit it.
You will be in a position to better able to cast a “magical” spell.

iii. AMICABLE APPROACH #13--->

Some people see life as a game, and courtship is an especially fun one.
They tend to appreciate the here-and-now of their relationships.
They carefully decide the goals and determine how to achieve them.
Others view courtship as the most precise way to find a partner in LIFE.
Someone who will work with them to carry out LIFE’s important tasks.
Finding a life-long partner who one can commit to is serious business.
As they enjoy the process, the goal is never too far out of their minds.

iv. AMICABLE APPROACH #14--->

Disagreements are a natural and indispensable part of healthy relationships.
It is vital that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something.
Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way; seek a win-win situation.
Be supportive, and offer sound reassurance and encouragement to your partner.
Also, let your partner know the areas which, and when you need their support.
A healthy relationship is building each other up, not putting each other down.
Work on improving his or her weaknesses; use them not as a way of humiliation.

v. AMICABLE APPROACH #15--->

Let your partner know that you will stand for him or her in good and bad times.
Analyse your major point of differences and subject them to an open discussion.
Use these differences as strong points in your relationship, not as weaknesses.
Understand that a strong bond lies not on being a fine photocopy of each other.
Appreciate that having different view points is what nourishes your relationship.
You become a good lover if you see a weaknesses and be the one to fill or mitigate it.
Always learn from your mistakes and use them as levers to a sound relationship.

vi. INDOCTRINATION INNOCULATION #5--->

Watch for attacks which are subtly or clearly targeted to have a blow on your self-esteem.
Brainwashing only works when the brainwasher is in a superior position to the victim.
This means breaking down the victim; then rebuilding him or her in brainwasher’s image.
This can be done through all means to physically and emotionally wear down the victim.
Indoctrination process may begin with lying to the victim, then progresses to intimidation.
This can be done with words or gestures, focused on invading the victim’s personal space.
Emotional tortures involve verbal insults, disapproval, spitting, or even stripping the victim.

vii. TOXIC TRAIT #5--->
The Windbag

A windbag has no tact in the use of his or her tongue; knows not how to use words.
With their too much talk without considering others views they break any seductive spell.
Language alone serves to heighten surface differences, eventually weighing things down.
People who talk a lot most often talk about themselves; have a deep-rooted selfishness.
They have never acquired that inner voice that wonders: Am I relevant? Am I boring you?
Never interrupt or argue with these types; it only fuels and ignites their windbaggery trait.
At all costs learn to listen what others are saying, and above all control your own tongue.



#VI. The 5th SELFHOOD SERMON:

This then is the 5th VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualise.--->

This then is the 5th VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualise.--->

This SELFHOOD SERMON entails viewing existence as a continuous healing process, as though you are newly reborn from mortal illness in every dawning day of LIFE. It implies appreciating the fact that NOW, is the most appropriate time for SELF-ASSERTION, not tomorrow, not some more conventional season. It is NOW that your best work can be done, not some future time or future day. It is NOW that you strategically fit yourself for the greater enterprises of next time. This SELFHOOD SERMON means developing the conviction that NOW is the seed of time. NOW are the working hours and next time comes the harvest and playtime, believing like Albert Einstein: “I never think of the future. It comes soon enough”.



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  • BELIEVE
  • INTERACT
  • WORK
  • PENETRATE
  • LIVE
  • ACTUALISE

#5.1. PRAY
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHICH must be your PERPETUAL PRAYER?

Verily, verily, your momentous, persuasive, ‘Perpetual Prayer’:
Affluently, “Grant that I may not pray alone with the mouth;
Laudably, that, I may pray from all the depths of my heart”.
Unlimitedly, for it is better to pray with a heart without words,
Audaciously, than with bare and empty words, without a heart.
Tenaciously, praying is better when spontaneous and individual,
Efficaciously, than indulging in hollow, and ceremonial rituals.

#5.2. BELIEVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHAT ought to be your BASIC BELIEFS?

Verily, verily, your guiding generalisations and ‘Basic Beliefs’;
Affluently, should be the ideal that, all the present empires,
Laudably, and those of the future will be located in the mind.
Unlimitedly, your thinking is the only potent tool of conquest,
Audaciously, and the most persuasive weapon of domination.
Tenaciously, if you take that, you are the head and not the tail,
Efficaciously, and be loyal to your mission, you will be through.

#5.3. INTERACT
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHO should be your CHARMING COMPANIONS?

Verily, verily, your LIFE-advancing ‘Charming Companions’;
Affluently, should be all those optimistic individuals,
Laudably, those who see chances and opportunities,
Unlimitedly, in every failure, hardship or even difficulty.
Audaciously, but categorically keeping off the pessimists,
Tenaciously, and all those who sees difficulty and doom,
Efficaciously, in every breakthrough, chance or opportunity.

#5.4. WORK
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
HOW should you go about your DAILY DUTIES?

Verily, verily, the modalities of going about your ‘Daily Duties’;
Affluently, is always experimenting with issues and ideas,
Laudably, for an ounce of practice well managed and done,
Unlimitedly, is worth more than tons of talking and preaching.
Audaciously, always take a method and do not hesitate to try it,
Tenaciously, if it fails, go on, admit it frankly and try another.
Efficaciously, continual trying will ultimately yield good results.

#5.5. PENETRATE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHERE can you find a PENETRATING PATH?

Verily, verily, you can only find your sure ‘Penetrating Path’;
Affluently, in those intuitive moments when you are able,
Laudably, to see each and every misfortune or danger,
Unlimitedly, not as an end, or even the beginning of the end,
Audaciously, but perhaps as the crude end of the beginning.
Tenaciously, knowing that, you can surmount all challenges,
Efficaciously, by being in touch and using all your strengths.

#5.6. LIVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHY are you in this WONDERFUL WORLD?

Verily, verily, you are rightfully in this ‘Wonderful World’;
Affluently, so live well as if you were to die tomorrow.
Laudably, and learn fully as if you were to live forever.
Unlimitedly, for people are never prisoners of their fate,
Audaciously, but only the captives of their own cognitions.
Tenaciously, so keep dreaming and reaching for the star;
Efficaciously, if you miss the star, grab a handful of cloud.

#5.7. ACTUALISE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHEN are you really HOLISTICALLY HUMAN?

Verily, verily, you are at the citadel of ‘Holistic Humanness’;
Affluently, when you surely find yourself by any cause or reason,
Laudably, in circumstances when certain malicious individuals,
Unlimitedly, may be driving nails into your personality’s structure,
Audaciously, and to ensure they are irremovable, cut off the heads,
Tenaciously, but using the teeth of your insight, you pull them out.
Efficaciously, this makes you serenely feel as invisible as an angel.














#VII. The 5th ESTEEMED EXPLORATION:

THROUGH a strategy of--->

Behavioural Programming, you can gradually eliminate inappropriate behaviours and substitute more desirable ones.

HONEST and careful--->

observation of your behaviour and the factors that lead to it, can make you begin to see how you can influence an undesired activity and change it. The environment can often be varied so that either the stimuli that precede the activity or the consequences that follow it are changed.

ENDEAVOURING to develop--->

a program of self-control, entails first deciding on a particular behaviour pattern that you would like to modify. Carefully monitor and observe that behaviour so that you can determine the conditions under which it is likely to occur.

REALISTIC and specific--->

is what your observation should be. You need to count, chart, and evaluate each instance. It is helpful to keep a behavioural diary or chart. Next, make a list of graduated objectives that would shape you in developing a more appropriate behaviour.

AN important factor--->

to consider is that you should not be overambitious. Select only one problem area and break it down into small, manageable steps. Consider the techniques that would help you achieve your objectives. Are there any factors in your environment that you would change in order to facilitate the development of more appropriate behaviours?

PROBABLY you have--->

difficulty studying, you might consider the time and place that you normally studies. Is it an area and time that is free from distractions and interruptions? Perhaps you would study more effectively in the library. Are there any models whose behaviour you could emulate?

YOU should finally--->

develop a systematic schedule of reinforcements for appropriate behaviours that lead toward your objectives. Make sure that the reward is something that you value and are willing to work for. And then be sure that you employ it as a means of reinforcement.



THERAPEAUTIC TRANSACTION #5:

“You have to keep your vision clear, ‘cause only a coward lives in fear.” - American rapper and entrepreneur Nas (b. 1973). Here are SEVEN ways on how to TRULY TRANSIT to the next level of LIFE:--->

“You have to keep your vision clear, ‘cause only a coward lives in fear.” - American rapper and entrepreneur Nas (b. 1973). Here are SEVEN ways on how to TRULY TRANSIT to the next level of LIFE:--->

EXPOSING AND TRAMPLING DOWN COGNITIVE BIASES:

As human beings, there is no way we can be supremely perfect and superbly clear in our decisions and conclusions. In order to process information more efficiently, we need to be aware of those mistakes and errors, we are prone to make in our endeavour at having accurate understanding of the issues we are exposed to, and the immediate world in which we live.



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i. The human brain is capable of 1016 processes per second, which makes it far more powerful than any computer currently in existence. This does not mean our brains do not have major limitations. The lowly calculator can do math thousands of times better than we can, and our memories are often less than useless — plus, we are subject to cognitive biases, those annoying glitches in our thinking that cause us to make questionable decisions and reach erroneous conclusions.

ii. Radically important is to distinguish between cognitive biases and fallacies of relevance. A fallacy of relevance is an error in logical argumentation. A cognitive bias, on the other hand, is a genuine deficiency or limitation in our thinking; it describes the inherent thinking errors that humans make in processing information. These thinking errors prevent one from accurately understanding reality, even when confronted with all the needed data and evidence to form an accurate view.

iii. Apparently, psychologists believe our cognitive biases help us process information more efficiently, especially in dangerous situations. Still, they lead us to make grave mistakes. We may be prone to such errors in judgment, but at least we can be aware of them. In your social interactions, you spend a great deal of time and effort trying to understand why people do or fail to do certain things. When you assign causes to behaviour, these references are referred to as ‘Attributions’. To have solid attributions, you need to rely on three basic considerations: Consistency, Distinctiveness and Consensus. In ‘Consistency’, you need to establish whether the change in behaviour occurs regularly when suspected causal event is present. In ‘Distinctiveness’ you need to establish if the change in behaviour occurs uniquely in the presence of the suspected causal event. You establish ‘Consensus’ by examining whether other people show similar reactions when they are exposed to the same causal event.

iv. Now, have you ever attributed success to your own character and failure to external factors? This is the Self-Serving Bias. When you over-emphasise personality-based explanations for behaviours observed in others, while under-emphasising the role and power of situational influences on the same behaviour, then you have drifted to Fundamental Attribution Bias. The tendency to engage in behaviours that elicit results which will (consciously or subconsciously) confirm your beliefs is called Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. If you find yourself referencing only those perspective that fuel your pre-existing views, then you are using the Confirmation Bias.

v. Sometimes you overestimate the values of your immediate group, at the expense of others. This is the In-group Bias. When you tend to put a tremendous amount of weight on previous events, believing that they will somehow influence future outcomes, then you have drifted to Gambler’s Fallacy. If you happen to feel better after making crappy decisions or making a costly purchase, then you are using Post-Purchase Rationalisation. Your inability to properly grasp a proper sense of peril and risk — which often leads you to overstate the risks of relatively harmless activities, while forcing you to overrate more dangerous ones, is called Neglecting Probability.

vi. In most instances, the effect of suddenly noticing things you did not notice that much before — but you wrongly assume that the frequency has increased, is Observational Selection Bias. We humans tend to be apprehensive of change, which often leads us to make choices that guarantee that things remain the same, or change as little as possible. This is Status-Quo Bias. If you tend to perceive or pay more attention or give more credibility to bad news, then you are a victim of Negativity Bias. Though we are often unconscious of it, we love to go with the flow of the crowd and follow majority opinions. This is the Bandwagon Effect.

vii. Thoughtfully, when you assume that most people think just like you - without any justification – then you are using the Projection Bias. Do you have a really hard time imagining yourself in the future and altering your behaviour and expectations accordingly? Would you rather experience pleasure in the current moment, while leaving the pain for later? Then you have drifted towards The Current Moment Bias. If you have the tendency of comparing and contrasting only a limited set of items, then you are a victim of Anchoring Effect. If you easily forget information that can be found readily online on the internet, then you are the victim of Google Effect.












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