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2A/3P which is the brand name for this SELF-ACTUALIZATION Model simply means “African Assertiveness / Provoking Positive Perceptions”. African Assertiveness implies believing that you have ‘answers’ to the problems besetting you, and assuming total responsibility for the sacrifice required in order to arrive to the solution. This is a purely individual enterprise which can only be achieved only if you Provoke Positive Perceptions.

Clearing the rubbish heap of all those valuations that makes you a weakling and despicable, and entering the treasure house where all great, unselfish and heroic motives of human beings abode, should be the supreme goal of any Assertive African.

A fundamental ‘existential’ fact is that in the back of your mind, in the album of your consciousness, there is a page which when keenly looked at may reveal various answers to most of your problems. Your only difficulty is identifying the page. So you are called upon to seize the moment and take an inventory and a catalogue of yourself by outlining and striving to fight those obstacles which stand on your road towards attaining your essential nature and prevent you from living up to your basic and real humanness.

As a human being, you have an inherent self-actualizing tendency, which assists you to meet your needs, develop a positive view about yourself and interact effectively with others.

Identifying and naming all the negative forces in your LIFE, is the springboard upon which you can liberate yourself from the bondage of their inhibitive, as well as downgrading influence. Listen to Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950): “If a person cannot look evil in the face without illusions, he or she will never know what it really is or how to combat it effectively”.

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Temporary Turmoil


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THOROUGHLY TRANSCENDING your ‘Temporary Turmoil’ MUST be your third major ‘Mortal Mission’. This is gorgeously grounded on your distinguished ‘Divine Duty’, to Yearn YES-saying MOTIVATIONS. As an ennobling encouragement to you ......., to ‘dig deep into the wells of your individuality, and to unleash your immense creative abilities’, BEYONDISM reflectively seeks to “PARAPHRASE” your response to the PROMPTINGS (not really questions) No.11, 1.v, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20 & 21 consecutively.

The THERAPEAUTIC TARGET here is: To help you to be fully aware and participate in your inner and personal world; to enter the room of your unique skills, and dine at the table of greatness.
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Your TEMPORARY TURMOIL should illumine you about LIFE

SEVEN ways of cleansing your PSYCHE, to be a VERITABLE VERSION of THYSELF:

THERAPEAUTIC TREASURE #3

“The beauty of life is to make it last for the better. Cuz nothing lasts forever.”
- American rapper Nasir bin Olu Dara Jones, alias Nas (b. 1973)
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1. Various conceptions abide, but none can define LIFE:--->

LIFE is not a crude raw material to be ennobled or massaged by our touch.
LIFE defies any idea of a single fundamental explanation or clear analysis.
LIFE is infinitely BEYOND our obtuse theories, concepts and formulas about it.
LIFE turns against and really rebuffs all conceptualisations and abstractions.
LIFE is extensive, intensive, larger, surer, profounder than our syllogisms.
LIFE is fluent, changeful, and surprises all ideologies, doctrines and philosophies.
LIFE in its very essential implicit and explicit nature, is a delicious ambiguity.

2. Existentially, the entreatment of LIFE is subtle:--->

LIFE has no discernibly definite and thoroughly clear beginning, middle or end.
LIFE’s each and every moment is integrated with the whole of your existence.
LIFE is a seamless and inseparable succession of various spontaneous moments.
LIFE is a solitary cell where everything in your personal experience is reflected.
LIFE is froth and bubble where our essence stands out like the cinders of Lebanon.
LIFE is essentially a principle of perpetual self-renewal as well as self-advancement.
LIFE is constantly remaking and transfiguring itself, without the individual effort.

3. Resolving to face LIFE resolutely, is blessedness:--->

LIFE is basically WHAT IT IS; to be observed and to be aware of in all its actuality.
Look unto LIFE without giving it any slant, without giving it an iota of interpretation.
It needs an extraordinarily astute mind to be aware and be conscious of WHAT IS.
It needs an extraordinarily pliable heart to follow and be committed to WHAT IS.
WHAT IS, is constantly moving and constantly undergoing a great transformation.
If the mind is tethered to belief, and fixed to theories it ceases to pursue WHAT IS.
If the heart is dry and prejudiced, it ceases to follow the swift movement of WHAT IS.

4. Spontaneity in all aspects of LIFE, is Godliness:--->

Sometimes you have to shake yourself up, break free from the hold of the past.
This can take the form of reversing your course, doing the opposite of the normal.
Put yourself in some unusual circumstance, or situation of literally starting over.
In those situations the mind has to deal with a new reality, and it snaps to LIFE.
The change may be alarming, but it is also refreshing – even radically exhilarating.
Attack problems from new angles, adapting to the landscape and what is given.
Stay in constant motion; exploit the chaos of the world instead of succumbing to it.

5. In as much as relationships should not be a burden:--->

Relationships with your peers often develop a certain tiresome predictability.
You do what you usually do, and other people respond the way they usually do.
If you reverse the course, act in a novel manner, you alter the entire dynamic.
Do this every so often to break up the relationship’s stale and expired patterns.
In this way you will be opening up new possibilities, and LIFE will be more enriching.
Apply no tactic rigidly; do not let your mind settle in static positions and formulas.
Do not defend any particular idea or theory, or repeat the same lifeless maneuvers.

6. On revelling at the bossom of LIFE:--->

LIFE is an endlessly decisive and creative experience, towards self-actualisation.
LIFE is getting what you want at times and enjoying it maximally most of times.
LIFE entails boldly meeting and creatively overcoming obstacles and rebuffs.
LIFE entails worshipping in the temple of liberty, at the altar of illumination.
LIFE entails fighting darkness by lighting a virtual flame in all our wakefulness.
LIFE is a continual struggle at attaining our personal objectives, goals and aims.
LIFE entails being purposive and never tiptoeing unconsciously upon the earth.

7. Natively capturing what is unfleeting:--->

LIFE implies absolute acceptance of our individual responsibility and choices.
LIFE entails confidently moving forward in the face of all overwhelming odds.
LIFE is assuming our essential freedom by breaking all the chains of certitudes.
LIFE is always appreciating and looking at the worst as well as best case scenario.
LIFE is really assessing how our present actions will impact on our future thrive.
LIFE is a stream with no beginning, which ultimately empties into cosmic ocean.
LIFE’s bodily vehicle eventually ages, disintegrates and faces an inevitable DEATH.









Here now flows (hover below) the BEYONDISM distilled definition of:--->
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etting nature to unfold without your preconceptions.
Incensing all your impulses toward self-actualisation.
Freeing your PSYCHE of all infantilism and fanaticism.
Engaging in pursuits that reflect your real personality.

BEYONDISM affluently awakens you to the SEVEN SUMMARY SINS:
  1. Sumptous PLEASURE without CONSCIENCE is fleeting.
  2. Unrivalled KNOWLEDGE without CHARACTER is nagging.
  3. Merchandise COMMERCE without MORALITY is thuggery.
  4. Meticulous SCIENCE without HUMANITY is destructive.
  5. Accumulative WEALTH without WORK is unfulfilling.
  6. Robust WORSHIP without SACRIFICE is decadent.
  7. Yearning POLITICS without ALTRUISM is charlatanic.

SELFHOOD RATING
15,16,17,18,19,20,21.

“The basic nature of the human being, when functioning freely is constructive and trustworthy. For me this is an inescapable conclusion from a quarter-century of psychotherapy . . . We do not need to ask who will socialise him, for one of his own deepest needs is for affiliation and communication with others. As he becomes more fully himself, he will become realistically socialised. We do not need to ask who will control his aggressive impulses; for as he becomes more open to all of his impulses, his needs to be liked by others and his tendency to give affection will be as strong as his impulses to strike out or to seize for himself. He will be aggressive in situations in which aggression is realistically appropriate, but there will be no runaway need for aggression . . . The only control of impulses which would exist, or which would prove necessary, is the natural and internal balancing of one need against another, and the discovery of behaviours which follow the vector most closely approximating the satisfaction of all.”
- American psychologist Carl Rogers (1902 - 87)
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R#15. On giving the excuse: “I lacked the ENTHUSIASM to complete that project”.
O thee TAO, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to ELECTRIFY ENTHUSIASM.--->

  1. SECRET of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age; it is never losing your enthusiasm.
  2. UNDERSTAND that any progressive EDUCATION is basically about being excited about something.
  3. MEANINGFUL enthusiasm is an immortal crown. It must be taut and vibrating like a guitar string.
  4. MOST vital, today is the only LIFE you are sure of. Shake yourself awake. Live today with gusto.
  5. AWAKE, my soul! Stretch every nerve, and press with vigour on; a heavenly race demands thy zeal.
  6. REALLY, nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.
  7. YEARS may wrinkle the SKIN, but to give up enthusiasm and the zest for LIFE wrinkles the SOUL.

R#16. On tending to say: “If only I had more time I would ACCOMPLISH that”.
O thee BB, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to AFFIRM ACCOMPLISHING.--->

  1. SIMPLY put, everything you accomplish in LIFE is determined by the amount of responsibility you take.
  2. UNLEASH from within yourself the potential and the capability of accomplishing extraordinary things.
  3. MEANINGFUL goals give you a clear picture of what you really want to accomplish in the near future.
  4. MAKE sure to clearly define your PASSION and dream, then start thinking about your present situation.
  5. A sense of accomplishments gives you a joyful sense of confidence, as well as ennobling encouragement.
  6. REASONABLE and solid success is related to all the areas of your LIFE, it is not just one-dimensional.
  7. YOU definitely have to critically analyse your victory because it will give you the base for future success.

R#17. On swearing: “I will never do it”? And find yourself REPEATING the same acts.
O thee TAO, behold, Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to RESIST REPETITIONS.--->

  1. SEEKING and striving, characterises your Human Nature. Just keep going, you will make it one day.
  2. USUALLY, the least expected things have a tendency to happen at your least expected time in LIFE.
  3. MEANINGFUL LIFE affirms: You just cannot have the same thing twice without being disappointed.
  4. MOVING pretty fast, is LIFE. If you do not stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
  5. ASPIRE not to get stuck in your own little world; the PURPOSE of LIFE is to explore and experience.
  6. REALLY past experiences are valuable lessons. The past can hurt; either run from it, or learn from it.
  7. YOU keep getting older; no efforts can succeed in reversing this process; you die, every single time.

R#18. On tending to blame others for your actions, to ESCAPE feeling guilty.
O thee BB, behold, Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to ESCHEW ESCAPING.--->

  1. SHINNING in LIFE is a function of being Thyself. Try not so hard to ‘fit in’; you were born to ‘stand out.’
  2. UNDERSTAND this: ‘Do, or do not’. There is no “try”. Be determined. Instead of intending to try, DO it.
  3. MEANINGFUL LIFE affirms: There is no perfect TIME for anything, do it NOW or you will regret later.
  4. MIGHT is weakness, devoid of action. It is not our abilities that show what we truly are, it is our choices.
  5. ACTUALLY, do not let anyone ever make you feel like you do not deserve what you are passionate about.
  6. REALLY you deserve what you want when you are trying your best, no one can take that right from you.
  7. YOU cannot live your LIFE for others. Do what is RIGHT for you, even if it hurts some of those you love.

R#19. On saying, in the event of being overtaken by TIME: “I intended to do it”.
O thee TAO, behold, Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to TAP TIME.--->

  1. SEE birth and death as grave events. LIFE is transient! Use every minute. TIME waits for no one.
  2. UNDERSTANDING TIME, is explaining it easily and briefly: Irretrievable TIME is always flying.
  3. MORE critical: TIME is a created thing. To say “I do not have time” is to say “I do not want to”.
  4. MOST precious resource we have is TIME. It is like the wind; lifts the light and leaves the heavy.
  5. ACUTE control of the past, is controlling the future: one who controls the present controls the past.
  6. REALISTICALLY, the only radical reason for TIME is so that everything does not happen at once.
  7. YOU must be vigilant and TIMELY; there is never enough TIME to do all the NOTHING you want.

R#20. On having the habit of saying: “I was UNABLE to accomplish the task”.
O thee BB, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to INDICT INABILITY.--->

  1. SUCCESS which is self-initiated and enduring, is like swimming under water, and holding your breath.
  2. UNHAPPINESS is best defined as the YAWNING difference between our talents and our expectations.
  3. MEANINGFUL patience is not simply the ability to wait – it is how we behave while we are waiting.
  4. MERRILY, it is always pleasant to be urged to do something on the GROUND that one can do it well.
  5. ABILITY is what you are capable of. Motivation determines what you do; attitude, how well you do it.
  6. REAL tragedy of LIFE is not in our failure, but in our complacency; in our living below our capacities.
  7. YOUR Human Spirit is the ability to FACE the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism.

R#21. On finding it difficult to APOLOGISE, in the event of making a mistake.
O thee TAO, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to APOLOGISE AMIABLY.--->

  1. SEE an apology as a lovely perfume, which can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.
  2. UTILISE the NINE most vital words of any family - I love you. You are beautiful. Please forgive me.
  3. MEANINGFUL apologising does not always mean you are WRONG and the other person is RIGHT.
  4. MOST of amiable apologies just means you heartily value your RELATIONSHIP more than your EGO.
  5. APOLOGISING breaks all the vestiges of self-denial; cleanses the PSYCHE and enlarges the future.
  6. REDEMPTIVE as it is, an apology is the superglue of LIFE! It can really repair just about anything!!
  7. YES, apologising is hard, but vital if we want to remain connected to friends, family and community.


THERAPEAUTIC TEACHING #3:


#I. The 3rd AFRICAN AFFIRMATION:

  1. “The reddish-brown biting ant that breaks away from the trail is the one that turns into the big blant ant”.
    - Buganda (Uganda) proverb

  2. “Water flows the slope”.
    - Shubi (Tanzania) proverb

  3. “Arguments are a source of strife”.
    - Kikuyu (Kenya) proverb


  4. “When the crocodile jumps around, he ends up receiving the spear.”
    - Subi (Tanzania) proverb


  5. “When a palm-branch reaches its height, it gives way for fresh one to grow”.
    - Yoruba (Nigeria) proverb

  6. “A tender bamboo cannot be eagerly desired”.
    - Chewa (Malawi) proverb

  7. “When a person regrets endlessly, he gets to pay more for what he regrets”.
    - Yoruba (Nigeria) proverb

#II. The 3rd SACRED STANDING:

  1. “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of the time, because the days are evil”.
    - BIBLE, Ephesians 5:15-16

  2. “It is an honour for a man to keep aloof from strife; but every fool will be quarrelling”.
    - BIBLE, Proverbs 20:3

  3. “Whoever does good, it is for his own soul and whoever does evil, it is against himself.”
    - QURAN, Al-Jasiyah 45:15

  4. “Follow not the vain desires of those who do not know”.
    - QURAN, Al-Jasiya 45:18

  5. “And mankind was one humanity but later differed”.
    - QURAN, Yunus 10:19

  6. “Enjoin the good and forbid the evil and be patient against what befalls you; surely this is the task of steadfastness”.
    - QURAN; Luqman 31:17

  7. “From the mode of goodness, real knowledge develops; and from mode of passion, greed develops; and from the mode of ignorance develop foolishness, madness and illusion”.
    – BHAGAVAD-GITA, The Three Modes of Material Nature, XIV: 17
#III. The 3rd ASSERTIVENESS ARITHMETIC:

You have a _______ preference of SOLUTIONS over DESPERATION (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

You have a _______ preference of SOLUTIONS over DESPERATION (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

GRACE + STRATEGY = SOLUTIONS

GRACE is a measure of staying calm under pressure. It is that fixed state of mind, which seemingly carries you effortlessly through problems, obstacles and difficult negotiations in LIFE. It is that quality when LIFE is booming and things are flowing effortlessly, you show no EGO. STRATEGY is a measure of how you get to those higher aims in your LIFE, under the umbrella of uncertainty. Intelligent strategies must be attuned to patterns of behaviour, and known ways to get to what you want. Desperation kills STRATEGY, and eliminates solutions. When you approach uncertainty with GRACE and an awareness of what actions need to be applied to gain solid ground, SOLUTIONS and success are your result.



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TOP UP your SOLUTION-ORIENTATION. Your Specific Score in regard to your Valiant Voyage in the SELFHOOD-SEARCH SEA, towards the Holy Harbour of your Active SELFHOOD stands at ____ points out of 49 points.

HASTEN your ANSWER-SEEKING. This parameter entails acceptance of yourself in spite of weaknesses and deficiencies. A high score means that you see yourself and human nature in a positive light; a low score is being essentially negative.

EXISTENTIALLY, this is the essential extent to which you will be aware of your thoughts, impulses, feelings and motivations.

READILY, it is the meritorious measure of how you will be able to operate as a free choice agent, who does not feel compelled by others or by some alien aspects of yourself.

APPARENTLY, though behaviour is largely determined by genetic make-up, past experiences and social forces, this is the diligent degree you will subjectively feel free to be aware of your needs and to respond accordingly.

PRUDENTLY, when you will have passionately travelled this road you will be able to appreciate WHO YOU ARE. In this world everything is in a state of flux and to seize opportunities as they arise is an essential tool to achieve success.

YOUR categorical compass to Locate your BEARING here is ‘Moving forward traversing all Scrupples’. Let the SELF emerge. Try to shut out the external clues as to what you should think, feel, say, and so on, and let your experience enable you to say what you truly feel.






Successful Studentship #3:

Steer clear of outdated and old information, and always seek to do your research well.
Do your study on your assignments by looking at various sources of information.
By possessing true problem solving abilities you will be a rare gem that teachers love.
You can be used as a resource to help develop others into becoming problem solvers.
Always strive to seize the current opportunity and maximise your learning potential.
As one of the best students, take advantage of the opportunities you are afforded.
Induce your psyche to value the education that you have an opportunity to receive.

The underlying 3rd Perceptive Principle is based on the analogy of an Eagle:
EAGLES HAVE A FRESH LOOK


  • Eagles do not eat dead things. Eagles feed on fresh prey. Vultures eat dead animals but not eagles.

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#IV. The 3rd POTENT POWER:

i. MONK MODE #3--->

These “junk activities” are distractive or masturbatory; they do not benefit you.
Sitting around idly, playing video games, watching marathons of television movies.
Watching porn, or refreshing in whatever social network it is you are hooked on.
Procrastinating on the internet, sitting around drinking alcohol/doing drugs.
Entertainment is necessary to cool off from protracted periods of hard work.
But leading a LIFE of continuous instant gratification is a path that leads to failure.
Such a banal lifestyle achieves nothing other than casual fleeting bemusement.

ii. WITTY WARFARE #5--->
Throwing off the filthy cap of DISCONTENT and STRIKES in SCHOOLS.

Engaging in school rebellion is an overcompensation of feeling of unworthiness.
The only way to mitigate the feelings of inferiority is to awaken a success attitude.
Your supreme goal in school is to cultivate a noble goody-goody persona all the time.
Juicy gossip can be hard to resist spreading, but you definitely should avoid doing so.
In order to get a reputation, groom yourself so that you look as clean-cut as possible.
Display maturity as well as restraint by ignoring any insults that might come your way.
Staying in the administration’s good graces, can be a godsend if you get in real trouble.


iii. WITTY WARFARE #6--->
Using ENVY to spur you to become BETTER.

Envy can trigger us to feel who we are and what we have is in some way lacking.
But the emotion (in its more benign form) can actually spur us to better ourselves.
Realise that, other people do not necessarily have everything you think you want.
Figure out what is it you really envy. A cousin’s job, or a sense of accomplishment?
A sister’s buddy, or a sense of belonging? An uncle’s schedule, or a sense of adventure?
You can have everything you want if you identify specifically what those things are.
And accept they may just look different for you than they do for someone else.


iv. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #5--->
MORAL MORONISM: - Being or slightly above an idiot with regard to moral conscience.

Having a bad conscience, is basically a torture which is the hell of a living soul.
An individual who loses his or her conscience has nothing left worth keeping.
Be ‘Empathic’ by identifying with and understanding another person’s feelings.
Moreover, be ‘Sympathetic’ by entering into, and sharing other people’s feelings.
Sympathy respects the unique subjectivity of the other in the personal encounter.
It is the source of range feelings, which provide the central block of ‘Conscience’.
At bottom, it gives rise to our inner notions of the merit or demerit of any action.


v. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #6--->
ENDANGERING EGOISM: - Inability to organise one’s desires BEYOND narrow contentment.

The vocation to be human implies the acknowledgement of others vocational claims.
He or she who bears the interest of humanity in his or heart, that person is blessed.
In this vast, ageless universe your LIFE will be justified by the measure of your sacrifice.
The greater your development, the more able you will connect positively with others.
The greater your ability to connect with others, the more you will learn from them.
Your service to others is a discipline which will free your soul from the bonds of flesh.
The path of salvation leads through the unceasing tribulation in the service of others.


vi. STOUT SPIRIT #5--->

An individual without self-MASTERY is like a house that has been broken into.
See your emotional responses to events as a kind of disease to be remedied.
Fear will make you overestimate any conflict and make you act too defensively.
Anger and impatience will draw you into rash actions that will cut off your options.
Overconfidence, particularly as a result of success, will make you go too far.
Love and affection will blind you to the treacherous maneuvers of your friends.
Success in modern LIFE demands the utmost in realism; seeing things as they are.

vii. STOUT SPIRIT #6--->

It is unfortunate that, people for the most part tend to be negative.
They really need delusion and escapism to keep them preoccupied.
In their absence they find themselves existing in a state of scarcity.
These are the people who live their lives feeling powerlessness.
Feeling their ambition for power is lacking, they hide in fantasy.
They basically avoid REALITY and TRUTH rather than accepting it.
They fail to use the awareness to build a foundational power base.

#V. The 3rd SURVIVAL SKILLS:

i. POLISHED PERSUASION #5--->

The mode of PERSUASION is to pamper people’s desire to be great.
The key to PERSUASION is to feed people’s longing to feel important.
The music of PERSUASION is to satisfy people’s craving to be listened.
The sun of PERSUASION is to enter other people’s spirit and act like them.
The thunder of PERSUASION is to arouse in people the latent eager want.
The way of PERSUASION is to open in people an avenue for self-expression.
The lure of PERSUASION is igniting the ability to be interested in people.

ii. POLISHED PERSUASION #6--->

As a persuader you should develop a kind of a warrior’s outlook on LIFE.
Seeing each person as a walled castle to which you are laying siege.
Persuasion is a well-orchestrated and tactful process of penetration.
Initially, it is penetrating the target’s mind, their first point of defense.
Once you penetrate the mind, you make the target fantasise about you.
It becomes very easy to lower resistance and create physical surrender.
Eventually this person will be a willing object of your manipulation.

iii. AMICABLE APPROACH #7--->

Strive to make your partner to transfer his or her deep repressed feelings to you.
Play the therapist, by encouraging your partner to talk about his or her childhood.
Most of us are only too happy to oblige; our memories are so vivid and emotional.
A subconconscious part of us regresses just in talking about our early years.
In the course of talking, little secrets slip out: revealing valuable information,
On his or her weaknesses and mental makeup, details you must attend to and remember.
Be the one to satisfy these needs and you will creat a deep emotional attachment.

iv. AMICABLE APPROACH #8--->

Take not your partner’s words at face value; one will often sugarcoat childhood events.
But closely pay attention to their tone of voice, to any nervous tics as they talk.
And particularly to anything they do not want to talk about, anything they deny.
Many statements actually mean their opposite: hatred may imply frustrated attention.
Listen closely for recurring themes and stories, or that makes him or her emotional.
Be caring yet distant — somewhat blank — and he or she will project fantasies onto you.
The trusting bond you have forged, will endure many turbulences and dispel all doubts.

v. AMICABLE APPROACH #9--->

Listen closely, learn to analyse emotional responses and see what lies behind them.
While he or she talks, maintain the therapist’s pose—attentive, quiet, and nonjudgmental.
Everyone has unfinished business from childhood—disappointments, lacks, painful memories.
Finish what is unfinished; take over the role of what affected him or her so powerfully.
Discover what your target never got; the basic ingredients for a deep-rooted romance.
Uncover the parent-child attachment which basically casts a shadow over the present life.
Replace the original neglect with the attention and affection that the parent never supplied.

vi. INDOCTRINATION INNOCULATION #3--->

Those who attempt to brainwash others tend to prey upon the weak and vulnerable.
A skillful manipulator targets those who are going through a difficult period in their life.
Break through the hidden hype, which attempts to scare you into believing something.
Do not buy into scare tactics, which tries to conform to the purpose of the larger whole.
Follow your gut/intuition, and if you think something is shady, chances are that, it is.
Do not let someone else’s high enthusiasm or certainty, force you to make a choice.
Avoid groupthink; stop following the group because you are afraid of standing out.

vii. TOXIC TRAIT #3--->
The Moraliser

Moralisers are rigid, follow fixed ideas, and they try to make you bend to their standards.
Their dominance is masked by desire to change you, are hell bent to make you better.
So they endlessly tend to criticise and judge you, which becomes their pleasure in LIFE.
In truth, their moral ideas and their proselytising, stems from deep rooted unhappiness.
Their inability to adapt and to enjoy basics of LIFE makes them very easy to recognise.
Their mental rigidity and emotional callowness, may also involve a physical stiffness.
It is hard not to take their criticisms personally, so it is better to avoid their presence.



#VI. The 3rd SELFHOOD SERMON:

This then is the 3rd VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualize.--->

This then is the 3rd VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualize.--->

You must develop your own path, regardless of how borrowed it may be and make a commitment to stand by it for LIFE. To be an individual, who is determined to live a fully functional LIFE, you have to develop the capacity and ability to believe in LIFE without reservations. If you have your eyes set on ACTIVATING your SELFHOOD, you have to conceive that each day that has dawned as your last (thereby utilising it to the maximum), and that the present hour is the most lovely and enriching.



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#3.1. PRAY
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHICH must be your PERPETUAL PRAYER?

Verily, verily, your momentous, persuasive, ‘Perpetual Prayer’;
Affluently, should be that those vices of fear and cowardice,
Laudably, may never find a place in the arena of your soul.
Unlimitedly, for a coward is incapable of exhibiting any love;
Audaciously, as this virtue is the prerogative of the brave.
Tenaciously, moreover, cowards living in an inglorious state,
Efficaciously, die very many times before their actual death.

#3.2. BELIEVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHAT ought to be your BASIC BELIEFS?

Verily, verily, your guiding generalisations and ‘Basic Beliefs’;
Affluently, should be, to never ever lose faith in the humanity.
Laudably, for humanity is tantamount to a capacious ocean;
Unlimitedly, if a few drops falling into the ocean may be dirty,
Audaciously, the Ocean does not, and can never become dirty.
Tenaciously, you should surely know that, any chaotic situation,
Efficaciously, will finally crystallise, into a new form of existence.

#3.3. INTERACT
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHO should be your CHARMING COMPANIONS?

Verily, verily, your LIFE-advancing ‘Charming Companions’;
Affluently, are all those who are ennobled and uplifted,
Laudably, by the thrills and the adventures of the NOW,
Unlimitedly, and formidably fired by the dreams of future.
Audaciously, not conservatives stagnating on past glories.
Tenaciously, for a conservative is a man with two good legs,
Efficaciously, who has never learned how to walk forward.

#3.4. WORK
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
HOW should you go about your DAILY DUTIES?

Verily, verily, the modalities of going about your ‘Daily Duties’;
Affluently, is doing all what you should and what you must,
Laudably, in spite of any personal and social consequences,
Unlimitedly, in spite of all obstacles, dangers and pressures.
Audaciously, in as much you are illumined and fired by love,
Tenaciously, and following the strictures of your conscience,
Efficaciously, and that forms the basis of all human morality.

#3.5. PENETRATE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHERE can you find a PENETRATING PATH?

Verily, verily, you can only find your sure ‘Penetrating Path’;
Affluently, by strongly bearing in your consciousness,
Laudably, that your own resolution to really triumph,
Unlimitedly, is vitally important than any other option.
Audaciously, for most folks in this world are as happy,
Tenaciously, as they make up their minds to be joyful.
Efficaciously, everything seems impossible until it is tried.

#3.6. LIVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHY are you in this WONDERFUL WORLD?

Verily, verily, you are rightfully in this ‘Wonderful World’;
Affluently, to solidly augment your self-love and self-affection.
Laudably, for you can search throughout the entire universe,
Unlimitedly, for anyone who is more deserving of these virtues,
Audaciously, and that human being is never to be found anywhere.
Tenaciously, you yourself, as much as anybody else has the key,
Efficaciously, to unlock and shower yourself with infinite blessings.

#3.7. ACTUALISE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHEN are you really HOLISTICALLY HUMAN?

Verily, verily, you are at the citadel of ‘Holistic Humanness’;
Affluently, when others, in arrogance cannot recognise you,
Laudably, basking in vanity they may be disdainful of you,
Unlimitedly, in total unawareness of your immense potential.
Audaciously, first in their spiritual blindness they ignore you,
Tenaciously, then in their wanton egoism, they laugh at you,
Efficaciously, but even if they fight you, you will eventually win.














#VII. The 3rd ESTEEMED EXPLORATION:

TRUST-WALKING--->

with someone gives you a very good chance to subjectively explore your current feeling of TRUST.

HAVE a partner--->

to blind fold you around an area in which there is plenty of space and a number of objects to investigate by smelling, touching, hearing, or tasting.

ESSENTIALLY,--->

at one point, he or she might permit you to take a few steps by yourself. After about fifteen minutes, switch roles.

REASONABLY,--->

when you have finished, discuss with your partner what it felt like to have to depend on someone else to take care of you.

ASK yourself:--->

Have your feelings toward your partner been changed by the experience?

PROBE further--->

by asking: What were some of the ways in which you and your partner facilitated the development of trust or made it more difficult?

YOU can work--->

on improving your current feelings of trust and lay a strong foundation for your future, in this way.



THERAPEAUTIC TRANSACTION #3:

“You may say I’m a dreamer. But I’m not the only one.” - English singer and songwriter John Lennon (1940 – 1980). Here are SEVEN ways on how to churn out a MEANINGFUL MESSAGE:--->

“You may say I’m a dreamer. But I’m not the only one.” - English singer and songwriter John Lennon (1940 – 1980). Here are SEVEN ways on how to churn out a MEANINGFUL MESSAGE:--->

GAINING SUITABLE GUIDANCE FROM YOUR DREAMS:

Dreams, those wild, fantastic and definitely uncensored jumbles of images that bombard us in our sleep, could help you figure out your magic formula for solving problems. When you are dreaming, the bits and pieces that you overlook during the daytime, are put together. Your subconscious synthesises them, to make them more understandable to your brain. It could also mean that, you are looking for some sort of guidance in your LIFE, and your dreams then, provide you with some sort of reassurance.



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i. Most of your DREAMS are a ‘royal road’ to your unconsciousness. They reveal how you would like to cope with issues, besides expressing your unsatisfied wishes. We all dream at night. Maybe you will remember your dreams once you wake up, or maybe not. You actually have about 4 to 5 dreams per night. The one(s) you might remember are most often the ones you dream right before you wake up. DREAM is one simple word that encompasses a vast universe of experience, purpose and meaning. There are many reasons for which dreams which are recalled come to us. Any one dream can have layers upon layers of meaning and it may be weeks, months.... even years, before the full meaning of a dream is revealed. Dreams can be therapeutic, cathartic, predictive, cleansing, healing, inspiring, rebuilding and processing. BEYONDISM helps you to make sense of these multi-faceted, multi-purposed, multi-layered and multi-platinum gifts that you awaken with each morning. In fact, there are telltale signs within each dream to help you discern whether it is helping you process information, release negativity, embrace your shadow side, break through limitations, predict the future, receive inspiration from your higher self, or create a LIFE, well, of your dreams. DREAM tries to hammer unto you a very important message. If you just become aware of your deepest impulses, you may with conscious intent create your own personality and LIFEstyle that will achieve your highest goals.

ii. Essentially, there are two elements in a dream: manifest content and latent content. The former is the dream as it is remembered the next morning, while the latter is the real meaning or motive underlying the manifest content. Feeling helpless or being utterly paralysed in a dream suggests a style of playing helpless in the face of pressing demands, imperative assignments and daunting tasks. Your ‘Dream’ is a clarion call to discard all ‘Denials’. Denial is basically overcompensation or an exaggerated effort to cover up a weakness and distorting or refusing to accept the real situation. To the extent there is a gulf between your real self and your excessively high LIFE goals, and you feel highly inadequate you may be suffering from ‘Inferiority Complex’, or you may be drifting towards this unfortunate edge. In this type of dream you were in or near a car or some other type of vehicle which is out of control or has other problems that seem insurmountable. For example, the brakes may have failed, you may have lost control of the steering, or be heading over a cliff or crashing. You can either be the driver or the passenger. This is a very common type of nightmare and it occurs in all people – not just those who can drive. This dream usually means that you are feeling powerless over something in your LIFE – or that you are heading for a crash (metaphorically speaking).

iii. Substantially, in the faulty machinery dream you were trying to operate an electronic, or electrical or mechanical equipment which either fails to work, or fails to work in the way that you expect it to. The vast majority of these dreams involve a telephone – either trouble dialing, losing a connection, or dialing a wrong number. It can involve a lost Internet connection, or something manual like a jammed or broken machine. This dream often means that you feel you are losing touch with reality, or that a part of your body or mind is not functioning as it should. It can also occur when you are feeling anxious about making a connection with another person in real LIFE. Dreaming about being lost or trapped and trying to find the way out is very common and will usually occur when you are having conflict in deciding how to react in a situation in real LIFE. In the dream you were trying to find your way out of an area – such as a forest, city streets, a large building, or other maze-like structure. Another way this dream plays out involves you being trapped, buried alive, caught in a web, or unable to move for some other reason. This is often accompanied by a feeling of terror. This dream usually means that you are trapped in real LIFE – unable to make the right choice.

iv. Situationally, in this type of dream you were rushing to catch a bus, train, plane, or other type of public transport – but you missed it – usually by a fraction of a second. Rather than feeling fear in this dream, you felt frustration. This dream can also occur in a different form, in which you arrived late for an important performance or sporting event that you were supposed to participate in, only to find that the event has already begun. This dream usually means that you feel that you have missed out on an important opportunity in your real LIFE. It will often occur when you are struggling over an important decision. The dream of being prevented from passing a test in different possible scenarios usually manifests itself in people who have been out of school for a long time. In the dream you were prevented from passing a test in a variety of different possible scenarios. In one scenario you found that you were unable to make it to the test on time, often through being unable to find the test room. In other versions you were unprepared (either through lack of study) or you were missing an equipment. This dream usually means that you are feeling tested in some way in your real LIFE. You may feel that you are unprepared for something or playing the wrong part in LIFE.

v. Assuming you had the dream, whereby you (or a loved one) were ill, injured, or dying. It is a moderately common dream and, not surprisingly, occurs often at the onset of an illness. Aside from becoming ill, this dream can mean that you are emotionally hurt or are afraid of becoming hurt. The dream may also be warning you of an upcoming physical risk to yourself or a loved one. When it is someone else in the dream that dies, it can mean that you feel that part of yourself (that you see represented by that person) is dead. It may also mean that you wish the person would go away, or that you fear losing them. Dreaming of being chased, or running away from a dream monster, can be a truly horrifying experience. Most often the chaser is a monster or some person that is frightening, and occasionally it may be an animal. You may be surprised to know that this is the most commonly experienced nightmare theme. The meaning of these dreams is that someone, something (possibly something as obscure as an emotion) is making you feel threatened. One way to determine the root of the threat is to ask yourself who or what in your real LIFE most closely resembles the “creature” or circumstance in your dream. It is also worth noting that sometimes this dream is a replay of an actual event in your LIFE. Moreover as far as you are concerned, running from a dream monster may be an indicative of the desire to run away from current problems, pressing issues, or personal responsibilities.

vi. Generally, teeth dreams are fairly common and they usually involve the discovery of extremely decayed or missing teeth in your own mouth. Sometimes you will dream that you open your mouth and your teeth begin to fall out. The fact that the majority of people today have reasonable teeth, It is not surprising that we feel so emotionally disturbed by these dreams. So, what does it mean when we dream about missing teeth? At the most basic level it means that we are afraid of being found unattractive. At a deeper level, it can signify a fear of embarrassment or a loss of power in real LIFE. In this type of dream you were in a state of undress, partial undress, or inappropriate dress (for example wearing pajamas to work). Occasionally you were the witness of another person who is naked while you were clothed. This was accompanied by feelings of embarrassment and shame, but occasionally with the feeling of pride or freedom. The meaning of this dream is that you are feeling exposed, awkward, or vulnerable, or you are afraid that you have revealed too much of yourself (such as a secret or a very personal feeling) in a real LIFE situation. An interesting fact about this type of dream is that it occurs much more frequently in people who are involved in a wedding ceremony in their real LIFE.

vii. Eventually, we have all had falling dreams; falling through the air or sinking in water and frightened. It is such a common dream, in fact, that myths have arisen over them; the most common myth is, of course, that you will die if you hit the ground in the dream. In the falling dream you were usually falling through the air and frightened. You also may have been sinking in water (and in danger of drowning). Typically having this dream implies that you are feeling insecure or lacking in support in your waking LIFE. These dreams often occur when you are overwhelmed in LIFE and feel ready to give up. If you have this dream you should evaluate your current situation and try to locate the problem that is overwhelming you. Deal with it and this dream should go away.

















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