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2A/3P which is the brand name for this SELF-ACTUALIZATION Model simply means “African Assertiveness / Provoking Positive Perceptions”. African Assertiveness implies believing that you have ‘answers’ to the problems besetting you, and assuming total responsibility for the sacrifice required in order to arrive to the solution. This is a purely individual enterprise which can only be achieved only if you Provoke Positive Perceptions.

Clearing the rubbish heap of all those valuations that makes you a weakling and despicable, and entering the treasure house where all great, unselfish and heroic motives of human beings abode, should be the supreme goal of any Assertive African.

A fundamental ‘existential’ fact is that in the back of your mind, in the album of your consciousness, there is a page which when keenly looked at may reveal various answers to most of your problems. Your only difficulty is identifying the page. So you are called upon to seize the moment and take an inventory and a catalogue of yourself by outlining and striving to fight those obstacles which stand on your road towards attaining your essential nature and prevent you from living up to your basic and real humanness.

As a human being, you have an inherent self-actualizing tendency, which assists you to meet your needs, develop a positive view about yourself and interact effectively with others.

Identifying and naming all the negative forces in your LIFE, is the springboard upon which you can liberate yourself from the bondage of their inhibitive, as well as downgrading influence. Listen to Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950): “If a person cannot look evil in the face without illusions, he or she will never know what it really is or how to combat it effectively”.
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S E L F H O O D _ S T E P _ # 4
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TAPPINGLY THRILLING in your ‘Random Relationships’ MUST be your fourth major ‘Mortal Mission’. This is gorgeously grounded on your distinguished ‘Divine Duty’, to Craft Captivating PROPENSITIES. As an ennobling encouragement to you ......., to ‘being a captain of your LIFE’s ship, and curve out your niche in this world’, BEYONDISM reflectively seeks to “PARAPHRASE” your response to the PROMPTINGS (not really questions) No. 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30 & (31,32) consecutively.

The THERAPEAUTIC TARGET here is: Nonjudgmental recognition of who you are and perhaps what you want to be, by realising that it is only you, who can carry a task uniquely and successfully. --->

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22. A statement which deeply or remotely REFLECTS you.

23. A MENTAL state which may adversely affect you.

24. A ‘Corrosive Comrade’ you are ENCOUNTERING.

25. TRAIT of a ‘Cherished Comrade’ to have a GLIMPSE.

26. Indicate the RELATIONSHIP amongst your Comrades.

27. Describe your ATTITUDE toward your Social Group.

28. What you do consider as a ‘COOL BEHAVIOUR’.

29. Reaction in the face of an ADVERSE circumstance.

30. IMPULSES preventing you from optimal functioning.

31. What your partner (or potential-mate) TALKS about.

32. How your partner (or potential-mate) often ACTS.

31,32. The EROTIC needs of your partner you must meet.

Your RANDOM RELATIONSHIPS should arouse the art of SEDUCTION

Here are SEVEN ways of cultivating the CONCENTRATED CONCERN to others:

THERAPEAUTIC TREASURE #4

“I won’t be afraid just as long as you stand, stand by me.”
- American soul and R&B singer Benjamin Earl King (1938 – 2015)
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1. Consider SEDUCTION as the most persuasive weapon:--->

SEDUCTION is utilising your inherent sexual energy without indulging in sexual act.
SEDUCTION covers all areas where persuasion is required including leadership skills.
SEDUCTION is selling yourself; trying to convince others that you are a “hot product”.
SEDUCTION is making others want more and more as they never get enough of you.
SEDUCTION is knowing that people never get enough of pleasure; are yearning for it.
SEDUCTION offers pleasure and thrill in adventurous feeling of being overwhelmed.
SEDUCTION is knowing that people are craving to let go of their usual stubbornness.

2. Orchestrated creative call to seduce is very natural:--->

Sometimes others resistance to us is a way of saying, Please Seduce Me.
Seducers know that the possibility of pleasure will make a person follow,
And the experience of it will make someone open up, weak to the touch.
They also train themselves to be sensitive to pleasure, and joyfulness.
They know that the inner feeling of pleasure, will then radiate outward,
Making it that much easier for them to infect the people around them.
A seducer sees all of LIFE as theater, everyone taking it easy as an actor.

3. Nourishing others souls and making them feel happy:--->

The feeling of having constricted roles in LIFE makes many people unhappy.
Seducers, on the other hand, can be anyone and can assume many roles.
Seducers take pleasure in performing; not weighed down by their identity.
They are also not limited by some need to be themselves, or to be natural.
This freedom, this fluidity in body and spirit, is what makes them attractive.
What people lack in LIFE is not more reality but illusion, fantasy, and play.
Supply these in moderation and most people behave as if under a “spell”.

4. Commitment to being theatrical without self-deception:--->

Seduction in its essential manifestation is a kind of theater in real LIFE.
Seduction in its most purified sense is the meeting of illusion and reality.
All the clothes that seducers wear, spits out the spirit of an adventure.
Where they take you to, their words and actions, are slightly heightened.
Although not overly theatrical but with a delightful edge of unreality,
As if the two of you were living out a piece of fiction, very intensely.
As if both of you are watching a film in which you are main characters.

5. Endeavouring to understand yourself and the target is vital:--->

Seduction has two elements that you must analyse and understand:
First, yourself and what is inherently seductive in your core character,
This is the basic building block of any successful seductive maneuver.
Second, your target and the actions that will penetrate their defenses;
What will really create a spell and break down resistance in your target;
What gives impetus and force to your seduction, and induce surrender.
The two sides are equally important; they are absolutely inseparable.

6. Reasonably trying to fill a void in the other person:--->

If you strategise without paying attention to your overt and covert traits,
To the parts of your character and behaviour that draw people to you,
You will be seen by many, as a mechanical seducer, slimy and manipulative.
If you rely on your seductive personality, not paying attention to the other,
Without focusing on what is missing in their lives, the emptiness you can fill,
You will make terrible mistakes and limit your potential, or be repulsive.
Being absolutely aware of yourself and the target gives you an upper hand.

7. No external decoration is required for one to SEDUCE:--->

As human beings, we all have the innate power of attraction,
This is the ability to draw people in and hold them in our thrall.
Far from all of us, though, are aware of this inner potential,
And we imagine attractiveness instead as a near-mystical trait,
That a select few are born with and the rest will never command.
All we need is understand what it is in a person’s that is exciting,
And endeavour on developing these latent qualities within us.









Here now flows (hover below) the BEYONDISM distilled definition of:--->
See Envelop Dedicate Unravel Cultivate Trust Induce Own NurturE


Seeing LIFE as a game, an arena for play, where all is fluid and pliant.
Enveloping yourself in mysterious aura and being superbly ethereal.
Dedicating to play with your image, thus creating a striking allure.
Unraveling your ability to please, by being a strategic social creature.
Cultivating a deep charisma and having unusual confidence in yourself.
Trusting your self-sufficiency, alternating heat and coldness to ensnare.
Inducing your mind with the pragmatic art of war in these delicate times.
Owning the ability to develop and improve on your powers of attraction.
Nurturing to become a grand individual, the type people will fight over.

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SELFHOOD RATING
22,23,24,25,26,27,28.

“One God, one law, one element,
And one far-off divine event,
To which the whole creation moves.”
- British poet Alfred Tennyson (1809 - 1892)

“If you would hit the mark, you must aim a little above it;
Every arrow that flies feels the attraction of earth.”
- U.S. poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807 - 1882)
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R#22. On confidently claiming: “I am not INTERESTED in other people’s misfortunes”.
O thee TAO, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to INDUCE INTEREST.--->

  1. SHEER sense of buoyancy, victory and exaltation of the soul is what we feel upon changing others’ lives.
  2. USUALLY helping others without expecting a reward is definitely important in living an optimistic LIFE.
  3. MIRACLE happens through deep awareness of the need to serve God and to serve others in your actions.
  4. MAKE each new day compulsively count by passionately helping someone or just making someone smile.
  5. AS you age you discovers that you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
  6. REACHING out and helping other people, accrues to us a lot of benefits. Each one of us OWES SOMEONE.
  7. YOUR diligent duty of helping yourself in the highest sense, duly involves the helping of your neighbours.

R#23. On refusing to deal with a person, if you do not LIKE him or her.
O thee BB, behold, Critically CULTIVATE your sincere strive to LEVERAGE LIKING.--->

  1. SIMPLY having a deep concern for other people’s likes and taste is an effortless way of winning over them.
  2. USUALLY, when people believe that what you believe, is what they believe, they turn you into a BELIEF.
  3. MUST NEVER wait for others to become agreeable, or acutely attractive before you begin to like them.
  4. MOTIVATE yourself to give people a cold charity and you will not have trouble in empathising with them.
  5. AFFLUENT liking implies an efficacious will to find some good in other people to which we can respond.
  6. REALLY liking other people is an ILLUSION we have to CHERISH if we are to live harmoniously in society.
  7. YOU help others become what they are capable of, by treating them as if they were what they ought to.

R#24. On frequently saying: “I just cannot SOCIALISE with those people”.
O thee TAO, behold, Intimately IRRIGATE your hallowed hope to SOCIALISE SUBTLY.--->

  1. SELF absorption leads to suffocation; you must roam in the vastness of Creation, to be fully creative.
  2. UNDERSTAND: The world is a jungle echoing to the calls of vicious jealousies and ruthless combat.
  3. MOVING in these jungles as a warrior and fighting tooth and nail will come as a relaxation for you.
  4. MOST critical, the only thing you can do to the society in which you were born, is to be affectionate.
  5. ACTUALLY, one of the problems of social LIFE is to know what to say to one another when we meet.
  6. REALLY, everyone’s desire is to appear sympathetic and clever, and this makes conversation difficult.
  7. YES, the talk taking place around you, is less interesting than the dialogue going on inside your head.

R#25. On tending to wait for someone to INTRODUCE him or herself first.
O thee BB, behold, Proactively PROPAGATE your awakened aspiration to INITIATE INTRODUCTIONS.--->

  1. STATE what it is you esteem or disdain, and how it should be executed in the most realistic manner.
  2. USUALLY, what you should be confident you can do very well is an introduction to WHO YOU ARE.
  3. MEDIOCRITY is characterised by sitting around lazily. Take a critical challenge to make you GREAT.
  4. MOVE away from the old saying “well begun is half done”, towards “not begun at all until half done.”
  5. ALL spirituality is being conscious of the Divine within us; thereby contacting the Divine without us.
  6. READILY, the charming challenge with being an initiator of projects is that you are never, ever done.
  7. YOUR strength of character, is an internal alchemy to turn something rotten and horrible into gold.

R#26. On being the type who LAMENTS: “Situations or people are not friendly”.
O thee TAO, behold, Natively NURTURE your wondrous wish to LOATH LAMENTATIONS.--->

  1. SURELY, you may not be a celebrity, but you reserve the right to celebrate and sing the joy of your LIFE.
  2. UNINHIBITED, all the HIGHS of your LIFE must be COLOURED, and all the LOWS should be LIFTED up.
  3. MOVING past all barriers, your LIFE must be preserved and appreciated in full-scale AUTHENTIC copy.
  4. MAKING yourself realistically relevant is one way of espousing a personal philosophy of IMMORTALITY.
  5. ASSUREDLY, we live in a world that is BEYOND our control, and LIFE is in a constant flux of CHANGE.
  6. READILY, lamentations are manifestions of our incapacity to comprehend the march of modern history.
  7. YOU should not CRY over the shots you have missed, but WEEP over the ones you have not taken at all.

R#27. On tending to find yourself ASSOCIATING with questionable characters.
O thee BB, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to ASSOCIATE ASSERTIVELY.--->

  1. SELECTING those who can further your interest, as they also improve themselves, is an ‘existential’ need.
  2. USUALLY, what makes friendship therapeautic? A good friend is one where one pours out one’s miseries.
  3. MANY things have been said, but nothing is there more friendly to an individual than a friend in NEED.
  4. MIGUEL de Cervantes affirmed: “Tell me what company thou keepest, and I will tell thee what thou art.”
  5. A decent boldness makes relationships, a balanced act of ‘give and take’, of ‘scratch me, I scratch you’.
  6. REAL friends are God’s apology for relations. A Friend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of Nature.
  7. YOU choose friends; Fate chooses relations. Friends and good manners carry you where money will not.

R#28. On feeling comfortable following or CONFORMING to the opinions of many.
O thee TAO, behold, Reverentially REAP your deep desire to CURB CONFORMITY.--->

  1. SORROWFULLY, the rogue reward for conformity is that everyone seemingly likes you EXCEPT yourself.
  2. UNDERSTAND: If you really want to get more out of Nature, you must adopt a helter-skelter style of LIFE.
  3. MAKE a radical change in your LIFE, and begin to boldly do things which you may never have thought of.
  4. MANY people live within unhappy circumstances; yet will not take the initiative to change their situation.
  5. ACTUALLY, there is nothing more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a human than a secure future.
  6. REALLY, there is no sure joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new sun.
  7. YOUR solid achievement, is to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else.


THERAPEAUTIC TEACHING #4:


#I. The 4th AFRICAN AFFIRMATION:

  1. “If one imitates the upright, one becomes upright, if one imitates the crooked, one becomes crooked”.
    - Yoruba (Nigeria) proverb

  2. “If you get a fine harvest of maize, do not break your local brotherhood and sisterhood”.
    - Bemba (DRC) proverb

  3. “A tree on a hill in the savannah is a meeting place for birds”.
    - Bembe (DRC) proverb

  4. “It is better to give than to receive”.
    - Malagasy (Madagascar) proverb

  5. “Alive, we live in the same house or under the same roof. Dead, we rest in the same tomb”.
    - Malagasy (Madagascar) proverb

  6. “When a fowl eats your neighbour’s corn, drive it away; another time it will eat yours”.
    - Oji (West Africa) proverb

  7. “A person is a person because of other persons”.
    - Sotho (South Africa) proverb

#II. The 4th SACRED STANDING:

  1. “Do not be deceived: ‘bad company ruins good morals’. Come to your right mind and sin no more”.
    - BIBLE, Corinthians 15:33

  2. “Pleasant words are like honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body”.
    - BIBLE, Proverbs 16:24

  3. “Give to everyone who begs from you; and him who takes away your goods do not ask them again. And as you wish that men would do to you, do so to them”.
    - BIBLE, Luke 6:30-31

  4. “If you obey the disbelievers, they will make you turn on your heels so as to be among the losers”.
    - QURAN, Al-Imran 3:148

  5. “And you did not veil yourselves lest your ears and your eyes and your skins should bear witness against you”.
    - QURAN, Ha Mim 41:22

  6. “And WE gave them clear arguments in the affair, but they did not differ until after knowledge had come to them out of envy among themselves”.
    - QURAN, Al-Jasiyah 45:17

  7. “As a lamp in windless place does not waver, so the transcendental, whose mind is controlled, remains steady in his meditation on the transcendental self”.
    – BHAGAVAD-GITA, Dhyana-Yoga, VI: 19
#III. The 4th ASSERTIVENESS ARITHMETIC:

You have a _______ preference of REPUTATION over DISDAIN (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

You have a _______ preference of REPUTATION over DISDAIN (____%). N.B. To get your REAL RATING, you MUST respond to SELFHOOD RATING in the BEYONDIST SELFHOOD CODE. SO WHAT? Here is your TIMELY THERAPY.--->

HONESTY + PROFESSIONALISM = REPUTATION

HONESTY is a measure of integrity to do what you say you are going to do, when you say you are going to do it, and to follow through on any delays or quicker advancements by informing all involved. False information is never given as it destroys the integrity of the LIFE equation. PROFESSIONALISM is a measure of competency and skill in your LIFE dealings with others, and how your know-how is executed through subsequent action in a reliable way. When honesty and professionalism are combined, you naturally develop a stellar reputation. Because word of mouth is everything in LIFE, there is nothing which can supersede a great REPUTATION. The successful understand that reputation has more value to others than their actual undertakings. In this way, if people like and respect you, they will like and respect your ideas. To be successful you must embrace the idea that you are your most important product.



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TOP UP your REPUTATION. Your Specific Score in regard to your Valiant Voyage in the SELFHOOD-SEARCH SEA, towards the Holy Harbour of your Active SELFHOOD stands at ____ points out of 49 points.

HASTEN your PSYCHIC STATUS. This parameter entails your ability to express feelings of your awareness in spontaneously robust action.

EXISTENTIALLY, it is the essential extent to which you will be stimulated to be free and to be independent.

READILY, it is the diligent degree to which you will be motivated by growth other than deficiency.

APPARENTLY, it is the meritorious measure of how you will be creative, improvising and innovative in all facets of your social and academic life.

PRUDENTLY, when you will have passionately travelled this road you will be conscious of all experiences, not defensive and need not deny or distort experiences; recognising feeling even if it is inappropriate to act on it.

YOUR categorical compass to Locate your BEARING here is ‘Solemn Spontaneity’. Listen to your own tastes. Be prepared to be unpopular for the sake of your authenticity. Use your intelligence, work to do well the things you want to do, no matter how insignificant they seem to be.




Successful Studentship #4:

You should test commitment of people intended for partnership.
Do not be lured into believing what people tell you about themselves.
Go the extra mile in investigating who they really are; what they hide.
Be a skeptic when it comes to intimate relationship in and out of school.
Most people are vampires who will misuse you and then dump you.
Most people will tend to capitalise on your gullibility for selfish gains.
Most people will let you do the hard work and eventually take the credit.

The underlying 4th Perceptive Principle is based on the analogy of an Eagle:
EAGLE TESTS BEFORE IT TRUSTS

  • When a female eagle meets a male and they want to mate, she flies down to earth with the male pursing her and she picks a twig. She flies back into the air with the male pursuing her.
  • Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she lets the twig fall to the ground and watches it as it falls. The male chases after the twig. The faster it falls, the faster he chases until he reaches it and has to catch it before it falls to the ground, then bring it back to the female eagle.
  • The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a much higher altitude, and then drops the twig for the male to chase.
  • This goes on for hours, with the height increasing until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of picking the twig which shows commitment, then and only then, will she allow him to mate with her! --->


#IV. The 4th POTENT POWER:

i. MONK MODE #4--->

Surround yourself with funny people, who can take a joke and are not overly defensive.
Make it a habit to talk to people with a keen wit or a sophisticated sense of humour.
Comedy should be important to you; as comedy is medicine for the soul and mind.
Comedy can stop a human being in pain from turning insane, or just collapsing.
Immerse yourself in comedy, and comedy will surely do your state of mind wonders.
Not taking matters too seriously is a great coping mechanism for mental endurance.
Always use comedy as a painkiller to aid you in your journey of self-improvement.

ii. WITTY WARFARE #7--->
Clear off the garbage of predisposition to INTERNET addiction.

The inescapable truth of our modern times is that ‘the Cyberspace is the King’.
Its possibilities are mind-boggling; it has spurred trade, democracy, and knowledge.
Internet is rapidly transforming the very social nature and structures of humanity.
But it severe ties with reality, fuelling hallucinations, delusions and genuine psychosis.
We are thus, being remodeled into cyborgs and rapidly becoming ‘couch potatoes’.
Wasting time online pouring a barrage of unprintables, simply sullies one’s morals.
In fact, government should include ‘cybernacotic’ in its battle against substance abuse.


iii. WITTY WARFARE #8--->
Using PESSIMISM to be more PRODUCTIVE.

Optimism untempered by some degree of pessimism is not necessarily productive.
“Defensive pessimism” is picturing what could go wrong in any given situation.
It performs just as practically well as “strategic optimism” in a variety of tasks.
It entails wanting to openly list your weaknesses instead of your strengths.
Drinking a glass of anxiety (using it for action) rather than a tot of confidence.
Success is achieved by the right balance between optimism and pessimism.
It is basically choosing thinking strategies that match your situation styles.


iv. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #7--->
DEFEATIST DEPENDENCE: - Absconding responsibility to chart one’s course of LIFE.

Becoming your real individual requires getting in touch with your feelings and desires.
It also implies fighting against those things that prevent you from feeling and wanting.
To be yourself, you have to become free of the domineering powers that imprison you.
Do this even if that requires taking a stand against your parents or other authorities.
Know that infantile dependency on your parents is a condemnation to a stunted LIFE.
But, banking on comrades for your self-esteem, or being lifted if you totter down is worst.
You will remain without sense of worth and can never be a fully realised human being.


v. ADORABLE ANTIDOTE #8--->
BOTCHING BURNOUT: - Feeling fatigued and losing all enthusiasm for one’s work.

‘Burnout’ is a complex pattern of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion.
It results from exposure to high levels of stress for prolonged periods of time.
Stress is physical and emotional response to perceived threats to one’s wellbeing.
When you are tense your energy will be diverted and mobilised for emotional utility.
When you are tranquil, your energy will be mobilised for intellectual pursuits.
This will eventually result in high productivity, creativity and eventual success.
Seek to cultivate the belief that you can personally influence what happens to you.


vi. STOUT SPIRIT #7--->

You must train yourself to judge people by the results of their overt actions.
The deeds that can be seen and measured, the maneuvers they use to succeed.
What people say about themselves does not matter; people will say anything.
Look at what they have done; deeds do not lie. Also apply this logic to yourself.
In looking back at failure, identify the things you could have done differently.
It is your own bad strategies, not others that are to blame for your misfortunes.
You are responsible for the good and bad in your LIFE; to be happy or miserable.

vii. STOUT SPIRIT #8--->

Most people in our society have become perfectly comfortable with misery.
And they essentially perpetuate it, often, unknowingly, as a matter of habit.
Avoid them at all costs and more importantly, avoid being that person yourself.
Never feel like you are the effect of things rather than the cause of things.
This is a mode of thought which is inherently self-defeating and avoidant.
It is a wrong way of thinking which negates the pursuant in improvement.
The supreme law is: a rejection of the truth is the quickest path to weakness.

#V. The 4th SURVIVAL SKILLS:

i. POLISHED PERSUASION #7--->

If you keep on polishing the blade of your PERSUASION skills,
You shall be able to really invest more and more in relationships.
As such, you shall reap more and more from others’ appreciation.
Moreover, you shall be able to keep on transforming yourself.
It is like tapping into the machine that run social interaction.
And can now read and understand the code controlling it.
In this way your existential needs shall find utter fulfillment.

ii. POLISHED PERSUASION #8--->

Persuaders do not improvise; they do not leave this process to chance.
Like any good general, they seriously take time to plan and strategise.
They tactfully focalise and aim at the target’s particular vulnerabilities.
The main obstacle to becoming a persuader is that foolish prejudice.
Of seeing power and seduction as some kind of sacred, magical realm.
Where things just fatefully fall into place, as if they are meant to be so.
This might seem a bit romantic, but it is just a cover for your laziness.

iii. AMICABLE APPROACH #10--->

Everyone has doubts and insecurities— about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality.
If you appeal exclusively to the physical, you will make your target self-conscious.
Lure him or her out of one’s insecurities by making him or her focus on something sublime.
Shift his or her focus on something spiritual: a religious experience, a lofty work of art.
Play up your divine qualities; strive to affect an air of discontent with worldly things.
Speak of the stars, destiny, the hidden threads that deeply unite you and your partner.
Lost in the mist, he or she will feel light and uninhibited; a spiritual union of two souls.

iv. AMICABLE APPROACH #11--->

Religion is the great balm of existence because it connects us to something larger.
As we contemplate the object of worship (God, nature), our burdens are lifted away.
It is wonderful to feel raised up from the earth, to experience that kind of lightness.
No matter how progressive the times, many of us feel uncomfortable with our animal drives.
Invite the other person to worship and revere something beautiful in the immediate world.
It could be nature, or God; people are dying to believe in something (add some rituals).
Seem to resemble the object of worship and his or her worship will be transfered to you.

v. AMICABLE APPROACH #12--->

Religion in itself is full of romantic undertones that can be brought to the surface.
Psychologically, from the spiritual ecstasy to romantic ecstasy is but one small step.
In all manifestations, religion is the most seductive system that mankind has created.
Death is our greatest fear, and religion offers us the conviction that we are immortal.
Try to capture your partner’s soul, to build the foundation of a deep and lasting love.
Lure him or her deep into your web with spirituality, making your intimacy seem sublime.
Spirituality suggests that your relationship is timeless, creating a space for ecstasy.

vi. INDOCTRINATION INNOCULATION #4--->

Be aware of people who try to isolate you or someone you know from outside influences.
Be selective, without being obtuse, reject facts that are vague and can cloud your thinking.
Always be receptive to new information, but make sure the sources are explicitly stated.
Do not absorb like a sponge all that you hear, as most of what you hear are just opinions.
Ask yourself about the motivations of the other(s), and do not blindly follow the crowd.
The general opinion is not a real barometer; many historical stands proved wrong later.
Do not be a trend-junkie, be wary of the “newly reformulated”, “reloaded” or “brand”.

vii. TOXIC TRAIT #4--->
The Bumbler

Bumblers are self-conscious, and their self-consciousness then heightens your own.
At first you may think they are thinking about you, so that it makes them awkward.
In fact they are only really thinking of themselves, and worrying about how they look.
The worry of the Bumblers is contagious: soon you will start worrying too, about yourself.
In actual sense, bumblers have no sense of timing; rarely reach the final stages of a task.
You might find it amusing to educate them, but the case becomes very hard or hopeless.
They are truly incapable of getting outside of themselves, and will leave you frustrated.



#VI. The 4th SELFHOOD SERMON:

This then is the 4th VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualize.--->

This then is the 4th VERITABLE VALUATION of BEYONDISM: Pray, Believe, Interact, Work, Penetrate, Live and Actualize.--->

This SELFHOOD SERMON is premised on the whole-hearted dedication to release from within yourself the vast unexpended store of vital energy; that unrelenting chastity; that deep repressed sensibility. It implies perceiving LIFE as the golden tree that is ever-green, thereby evoking a passion for hunting within you that deeply implanted supernatural thrill, charm and bliss.



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#4.1. PRAY
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHICH must be your PERPETUAL PRAYER?

Verily, verily, your momentous, persuasive, ‘Perpetual Prayer’;
Affluently, is that your fundamental worry and concern,
Laudably, should never be whether God is on your side.
Unlimitedly, your major concern should to be on God’s side,
Audaciously, for God in His Omniscience will always be right.
Tenaciously, and you will be esteemed in the hearts of mortals;
Efficaciously, as your self-esteem shall be on a perpetual rise.

#4.2. BELIEVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHAT ought to be your BASIC BELIEFS?

Verily, verily, your guiding generalisations and ‘Basic Beliefs’;
Affluently, should be knowing that, none can hurt you arbitrary.
Laudably, your spirit will never be destroyed from the outside.
Unlimitedly, if you falter it will be because, you destroy yourself.
Audaciously, obstacles do not have to stop you or dilute your vision.
Tenaciously, if you run into a wall, do not turn around and give up.
Efficaciously, figure out how to climb, crack, or to work around it.

#4.3. INTERACT
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHO should be your CHARMING COMPANIONS?

Verily, verily, your LIFE-advancing ‘Charming Companions’;
Affluently, Should be all the smartest and the brightest.
Laudably, these are the people to rub shoulders with.
Unlimitedly, it is natural and a thing to be unashamed of,
Audaciously, that, you may not be the smartest of fellows.
Tenaciously, but you can peg and bank your real success,
Efficaciously, on picking and working with the smartest.

#4.4. WORK
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
HOW should you go about your DAILY DUTIES?

Verifiably, the modalities of going about your ‘Daily Duties’;
Affluently, is doing thorough preparation in taking all details,
Laudably, before you indulge yourself upon any undertaking.
Unlimitedly, if for instance you are given precisely six hours,
Audaciously, to chop or fell down a tree and cut it into pieces,
Tenaciously, you should spend the first four sharpening the axe,
Efficaciously, for this rescues you from guilt of poor performance.

#4.5. PENETRATE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHERE can you find a PENETRATING PATH?

Verily, verily, you can only find your sure ‘Penetrating Path’;
Affluently, if you appreciate that, character is like a tree,
Laudably, and reputation, like its reflected small shadow.
Unlimitedly, the shadow is what you subjectively conceive it;
Audaciously, the tree is the real fundamental thing or object,
Tenaciously, for to be free is not only to cast off one’s chains,
Efficaciously, but to live by enhancing the freedom of others.

#4.6. LIVE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHY are you in this WONDERFUL WORLD?

Verily, verily, you are rightfully in this ‘Wonderful World’;
Affluently, to consolidate an ‘I-THOU’ dialogue with people.
Laudably, to build up concrete deep spiritual relationships.
Unlimitedly, with comrades, family members and entire mankind.
Audaciously, for spiritual is more precious than just physical.
Tenaciously, bare physical relationship divorced from spiritual,
Efficaciously, is as cold as ice, and it is like body without a soul.

#4.7. ACTUALISE
As a ‘Yearning Youth’ and a ‘Serious Scholar’,
WHEN are you really HOLISTICALLY HUMAN?

Verily, verily, you are at the citadel of ‘Holistic Humanness’;
Affluently, when there is that discernible synchronicity,
Laudably, between your experiential thought patterns,
Unlimitedly, the overt manifestation of your real actions,
Audaciously, and your volitionally expressed utterances.
Tenaciously, for real happiness is when what you think,
Efficaciously, what you verbalise and do, are in harmony.














#VII. The 4th ESTEEMED EXPLORATION:

THE method of role playing--->

can be fruitfully employed as a way of understanding your interpersonal relationships. Ask a close friend to help as you play the role of an important figure in your LIFE. You might wish to play the role of your mother, father, guardian, teacher, or boy or girl friend. Ask your friend to play yourself.

HAVE a problem situation--->


or a potential problem identified. First consider how your parent, or whoever, would handle the situation. Then act it out, with your friend playing yourself.

ESSENTIAL importance is that--->

you try to look at the situation and behave as you believe your mother, or the other figure, would. Afterwards, discuss with your friend what happened and consider alternative ways of handling the scene.

REALISTICALLY, seeing yourself--->

through your friends eyes may help you to a closer understanding of how you come across to other people. Playing the role of other important people in your LIFE can help you construe their interpretation of the way in which you behave. Choose one aspect of your personality that you would like to work on.

ACTUALLY, it is important--->

that you choose only one aspect at a time and one with which you feel you can deal relatively comfortably. If you believe that you are generally too passive, you might try to become more assertive.

PRUDENTLY, ask yourself,--->

“How does an aggressive person think, respond, or behave in certain situations?” then for a period of one day, try to pretend that you are an aggressive person. You might even give yourself a new name. Of course, all your friends will call you by the same old name and assume that you are your same old passive self. However, unknown to them, the passive you is taking a day off and the new you is going to respond to the and other events as aggressive person would.

YOU have spent your day--->

very well in this assumed role. Take time to consider how you performed in your new IMAGE. How did other people react to you? You may find yourself quite surprised by the impact that your new role has had on other people.



THERAPEAUTIC TRANSACTION #4:

“Don’t believe everything you hear: Real eyes, Realize, Real lies.” - American rapper and actor Tupac Amaru Shakur a.k.a. Makaveli (1971 – 1996). Here are SEVEN ways on how to POINTEDLY PROCESS information:--->

“Don’t believe everything you hear: Real eyes, Realize, Real lies.” - American rapper and actor Tupac Amaru Shakur a.k.a. Makaveli (1971 – 1996). Here are SEVEN ways on how to POINTEDLY PROCESS information:--->

SEEING THROUGH PEOPLE’S LIES AND DECEPTIONS:

In your communications, besides talking to others, you will always be listening to them; receiving feedbacks, collaborations, criticisms, compliments, or even instructions and advices. But to be able to shield yourself from being falsely influenced, or being utterly misled by lingual techniques of some people with malicious motives, is a very vital weapon.



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i. Prudently take time to consider what people have to say. If you pay attention to this – listening to words as well as the gaps between the words – you could find a new and simple way to save yourself both time and energy. This is what Abraham Lincoln believed: “When I am getting ready to reason with a man, I spend one-third of my time thinking about myself and what I am going to say – and two-thirds, thinking about him and how he is going to say”. In this regard, in an attempt to get the real motives behind people’s verbiage and their deceptive designs, logicians construe a sound argument as the one in which the two components of a sentence, the premise(s) and the conclusion(s) finds good ground and genuine evidence in support of each other. On the other hand, an unsound argument which commits a ‘fallacy of relevance’ is one in which the premises are logically irrelevant to the conclusion, though psychologically relevant or simply pegged on emotional appeal.

ii. Really, when a claim or argument is rejected on the basis of some irrelevant fact about person presenting the claim or argument, then the fallacy of Attacking the Person is committed. Typically, this fallacy involves two steps. First, an attack against the character of person making the claim, his or her circumstances, or actions is made. Second, this attack is taken to be evidence against the claim or argument the person in question is making (or presenting). Attacking the Motive is a fallacy in which one attempts to attack a claim by asserting that the person making the claim is making it simply out of self interest. In some cases, this fallacy involves substituting an attack on a person’s circumstances (such as the person’s religion, political affiliation, ethnic background, etc.) Look Who’s Talking fallacy is committed when it is concluded that a person’s claim is false because: 1) It is inconsistent with something else a person has said or 2) what a person says is inconsistent with her actions.

iii. On a lingual level, Two Wrongs Make a Right is a fallacy in which a person “justifies” an action against a person by asserting that the person would do the same thing to him or her, when the action is not necessary to prevent B from doing X to A. In the fallacy of Appeal to Force, someone in a position of power threatens to bring down unfortunate consequences upon anyone who dares to disagree with a proffered proposition. An Appeal to Pity is a fallacy in which a person substitutes a claim intended to create pity for evidence in an argument. This fallacy differs from the Appeal to the Consequences of a Belief (ACB), in which a person is using the effects of a belief as a substitute for evidence.

iv. Categorically, the Bandwagon is a fallacy in which a threat of rejection by one’s peers (or peer pressure) is substituted for evidence in an “argument.” The Straw Man fallacy is committed when a person simply ignores a person’s actual position and substitutes a distorted, exaggerated or misrepresented version of that position. A Red Herring is a fallacy in which an irrelevant topic is presented in order to divert attention from the original issue. The basic idea is to “win” an argument by leading attention away from the argument and to another topic.

v. Equivocation as a fallacy, is committed when a key word is used in two or more senses in the same argument, as in “Any law can be repealed by the proper authority. The law of gravity is a law, so it can be repealed by the proper authority.” Begging the Question is a fallacy in which the premises (basic introduction to an argument), include the claim that the conclusion is true or (directly or indirectly) assume that the conclusion is true. The fallacy of Inappropriate Appeal to Authority is committed when the arguer cites a witness or authority who, there is good reason to believe is unreliable, or when an arguer misquotes a reliable (or unreliable) source.

vi. Subversivelly, an arguer who commits the fallacy of Appeal to Ignorance uses lack of evidence to prove something true or false. The False Alternatives fallacy is committed when an arguer poses a false either/or choice. The Questionable Cause fallacy is committed when it is concluded that A is the cause of B simply because they are associated on a regular basis. A Loaded question contains unfair or questionable assumptions. The Slippery Slope is a fallacy in which a person asserts that some event must inevitably follow from another without any argument for the inevitability of the event in question. A Weak Analogy is like “comparing apples and oranges”. This fallacy occurs when the arguer tries to compare two or more things that are not really comparable in relevant respects.

vii. Strategically, in the realm of interpersonal relations, avoiding offending the other person with our arguments is as important as avoiding to take offence when someone disagrees with us. A one powerful move is to learn to demonstrate the correctness of our ideas indirectly, and if it becomes obvious that we will not change the other person’s mind and he or she will not change ours, we should stop. Before we do impeccable harm, we should remember the Russian proverb ‘when a spoken word flies you will not catch it’. When people complain, we should not try to explain away the complaint, or try to give solid reasons. Although explanations may be well intentioned, they are counterproductive in the manner of adding to the complainer’s irritation because they come across as lame excuses. Whether the complainer has a legitimate gripe or not, our logic or belabouring what went wrong can temporarily save our face but not a solution at all; instead, we should agree, apologise and then move on to what can be done! It is also notable that in most cases ‘Quarrelsome’ people are either reflecting a catastrophic event in their past or are trying to cover up their own inadequacy, such that considering their perspectives (putting ourselves in their shoes) makes it easier to put their wierd reactions in their proper context.












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